#don’t get me wrong their bfs are absolutely lovely people and i like them very much

[whitehartlane]

my two mates are bringing their boyfriends to secret santa tmrw -.-

[burntb4bydoll]

It's my first time requesting something on here, I am CRAVING for any Tokio Hotel member with a kind/sweet/obedient reader, I usually can't find stories/headcanons with them where the reader is a sweet and obedient girl, feel free to ignore this request if you want to.

Bae this is so me fr (for the most part😇)

Tokio Hotel with a sweet and obedient gf (slightly NSFW)

Bill Kaulitz

•hes completely infatuated with you. you could do anything you wanted to him and he would let you.

•he thinks that you are an absolute angel. He loves how sweet you are, it makes him so proud to be your bf

•would NEVER let people take advantage of you or your kindness. You don’t like disappointing people by saying ‘no’ but he has absolutely no problem doing it for you

• “sweetheart, you can’t do everything people ask you to. You are too sweet for your own good sometimes I swear.”

•he means that in a endearing way dw! He wouldn’t change a single thing about you

•he tries to test your obedience tbh. He’ll tell you to do something small then slowly start telling you to do more, but you never disobey him. And he makes sure to praise you very well for it

• “oh my, what a good girl. You listen so well, angel. Im so proud of you.”

•definitely is more of a soft dom with you, he can’t imagine being mean to his sweet girl🤭

Tom Kaulitz

•oh boy…

•you two are opposites. He’ll try to get you to do and say bad/mean things just to see if youll actually do it

•your hesitant because you dont wanna be mean, but you obey him and he immediately cant help but smirk to himself

•Bill always scolds him for it tho, you can’t escape mama Bill.

“Tom, Leave her alone! Y/n don’t listen to him, hes an idiot.” 😭

•he thinks its so cute watching you interact with his family. You’re just so sweet and they all love you so much. Hes so happy that they love you just as much as he does

•HIS MOM LOVES YOU. SHE TAKES SO MANY PICTURES OF YOU AND TOM AND SHOWS THEM TO EVERYONE. SHE CALLS YOU HER DAUGHTER TOO😭💗

•not to be a whore….but CORRUPTION KINK?? HELLO???

•LOVES pet names. He calls you princess, sweetheart, my love🤭🤭

Georg Listing

•LORD he is obsessed with you omfg

•you are absolutely everything to him. You’re his precious girl who could never EVER do anything wrong in his eyes

•literally refers to you as his ‘lovely girlfriend’ to people 😭

•his heart almost explodes whenever you do anything for him. Whether that be cooking him food, drawing/coloring a picture for him, or just giving him a small compliment, he’ll always be so so appreciative of it

•HES SO SOFT WITH YOU. He kisses youholds your face so gently while stroking your cheeks with his thumbs:(((

• “You’re such a sweetheart, you know that? I love you so much, my sweet girl.”

Gustav Schäfer

•hes also such a sweetheart, but he likes to pretend like hes all mean and unapproachable😭

•like babe, you are probably the cutest person here you’re not fooling anyone.

•you two are known for being the super lovey couple. He loves to show you off and you’re just happy to be there😇

•although you’re both sweet, you’re the only obedient one in the relationship. He such a brat and LOVES to push peoples buttons just to see how far he can go before someone actually gets mad😭

•BLUSHES SO SO HARD WHEN YOU COMPLIMENT HIM

•you guys are the embodiment of a praise kink. Neither of you can go 5 minutes without being and all nice and lovey dovey to each other

•dare i say….pleasure Dom Gustav…. GUYS IK I SAY IT ALL THE TIME BUT PLS YOU KNOW ITS TRUE

• “such a good girl for me, arent you?”

“Aww, you’re so cute, my baby.” Yes. HIS baby.😇

[queenxxraccoon]

Speaking of female characters in The Outsiders, what do you all think their clothing styles and personality would be like? Characters we’ve read about or watched in the movie, what kind of depth do you think their characters have? I’ll try to give an idea of what I think. I also will say I don’t like a decent percent of the female characters bc of things they’ve been described to have done. Although Angela is the MVP we love her. @nexternalknowsthingz @thatonetotaldramaguy weigh in on this in curious.

Cherry: A girl a really tries to please both sides, can come off as arrogant and selfish but is forced to go along with what she is told (Socs forcing her to treat Greacers like trash). She although has a fiery side to her and has a big belief in her moral values (stuck up for Ponyboy at the drive in) she’s not perfect but I think she definitely tries and has good heart. 6/10 (God I hate her a lot though 😭)

Clothes:

Marcia: A genuine girl, shes very shy and polite. She can be sassy but also classy. Definitely also defends her friends like Cherry and is a real girls girl. Definitely also keeps out of trouble, she doesn’t trash Greasers but can believe some can be erratic or spontaneous into doing bad behavior. Doesn’t condone it but doesn’t make you feel bad for it. 8/10

Clothes:

Beverly: Now, forgive on this, but haven’t seen the musical so I don’t her personality at all. But she seems like she would take no shit. Think of Bubbles from the Powerpuff Girls. Very demure, very mindful, but will bust you right up side the head if she thinks you acting up. I can also see her being a bit of a toxic friend who uses people as stepping stones. 3/10

Clothes:

Evie: Steve’s gf. Not much is told about her in both the in the book and movie but let’s be real, she’s dating Steve. (I personally ship Soda and Steve but if we’re going cannon…) I definitely she a loving girl but someone who can PARTYYYY! A friend who would give the most amazing advice, definitely the girl who like knows what you like before you telling her, example:

Evie: “What you want to eat?”

Friend: “Idk I’ve never ate here before.”

Evie: “I bet you’d like (random food and drink combo)

You order it and you fucking love it. She understands ur taste. 10/10

Clothes:

Sylvia: Oooo hold me back I’m gonna beat this girl up. Similar to Beverly but way more toxic and isn’t afraid to show. Bev would work behind backs and in the shadows, but Sylvia would just be a brat and absolutely bitch to your face. She wants to demolish your self esteem. Katy Perry’s song Hot and Cold (idk I don’t listen to Katy Perry lol could be the wrong song name). Like one minute she could be super sweet but then tear you down the next. Constantly keeps you on your toes and gaslights you till you cook

S/O (Prob past Dallas): “Hey I’m leaving to hang out with my friends.”

Sylvia: “You never talked about them, who are they? Where are you going?”

S/O: “I talked about hanging out with them this morning.”

Sylvia: “No you didn’t, stop lying. Maybe you should get your brain checked because you’ve mentioned them before. Are you gonna go cheat on me with them?” Etc. Not a good time, -10/10

Clothes:

Sandy: Well, she’s not good either. Definitely a little spoiled. Would def manipulate Soda into believing he was a bad bf bc he didn’t do one really small thing for her like pull her chair out in a restaurant for her. 😒 Miss literally cheated, got pregnant and left Soda. (Or Soda got her pregnant? Can’t remember lol) But I feel overall she’s very bratty and not fun to be around. 3/10

Clothes:

Angela: This bitch! WE LOVE HER!!!!!!!! Comes in clutch. Someone talking shit about someone she loves, smack to the face. Don’t like the way ur acting, ear gets pulled. She wouldn’t do this unprovoked either, like she would need good reasons. Def a lover to her friends and a fighter to her enemies. I also believe that she’s into exercise or weight lifting. Honestly in my opinion def the energetic on steroids version of Evie. 1000/10

Clothes:

[emmedoesntdomath]

emme’s 92sies review

@sparkedblaze I stole your idea because I was bored xoxo so here's my 92sies thoughts, with occasional running historical commentary:

okay having max do the intro was genius, he's a perfect introduction

they're on the horace greeley statue that's cool (editor of the tribune) (left, came back, died) (yer a nerd, emme)

kloppmannnnnn my guy

we really ditched the cowboy bit in livesies huh

max: *smack*

mush is RIPPED

god I love skittery and his relationship with race so muchhhh

ooh christian did a little dance- kind of. he twirled once. love you babe.

I actually love the 92sies lyrics and I know that's an unpopular opinion, but they're so funny

christian bale was either high or drunk whilst filming this and that's a fact

morris is older. fight me (not you, @noxexistant, I love you. just blaze.) (IM KIDDING IM KIDDING)

race's jokes are funnier here just because max casella looks like he's having the time of his life saying them

"must be from brooklyn"

no way my guy just counted all those papers that quick

I love how jack just straight up mocks davey,., like bro that's not how you get a bf

PULITZER HAS A MAGNIFYING GLASS HE HAS A MAGNIFYING GLASS (at this point, pulitzer was nearly blind because of health issues. we love to see historically accurate choices)(or I do at least)

that is how headlines worked, actually. stealin from the competition, stealin again

GUESS WE BOTH GOT AN EDUCATION

yessssss 92sies les drink that beer

why does every fight scene look like it's from a cartoon

davey's such an asshole. I adore him.

medda I love you but literally every part of your casting and story in this movie is wrong and makes me mad

davey: -and our friend

jack: fucki- excuse you??? since when

sarah's so prettyyyyyyy and not interested in jack at all

this version of santa fe is like,.., sweeter. I'm pretty sure I've fallen asleep to it before

oop except for the dancing bit. forgot about that.

HELP WHY IS THERE A HORSE AIN'T NO WAY FRANCIS SULLIVAN KNOWS HOW TO RIDE A HORSE

Imao oscar imitating kid blink

are you outta your MIND- racetrack higgins, 1899

look at davey being the voice of reason and then immediately doing a 180 after making eye contact with his crush. proud of you bro

FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT

boot's lil solo is the best and so cute oh my god

dentondentondentondenton

you're just gonna let your little brother walk into the world with a guy you met a week ago????

jackie boyyyyyyyyyy

dominic lucero has my entire heart. he does everything with a grin and enthusiasm I,,, *brb sobbing into my pillow*

..they are throwing hundreds of dollars in papers away like it's confetti

NOO CRUTCHYYYY

iS tHaT dAvE hEyA dAvE

cartoon fight.2

gabriel damon is like a literal child and he is doing the absolute most

THE CEILING FAN TRICK YES BUMLETS (I take it back, dominic is still doing the most) 

every word out of crutchy's mouth makes me want to hit a brick wall (affectionate) 

bro sarah's gay and thinks you're an idiot

ON THE GROUNDS OF BROOKLYN YOUR HONOR (-my favorite part of the entire movie)

I love that gabriel and max seem to be actually friends, despite their age difference. that was definitely the reason people started seeing sprace.

denton seemed to care about davey, at least a little bit, which is interesting to me, because he seems to only care about the other newsies a little bit. I feel like it’s a sees himself in him deal.

don't hide under carriages kids

they would not let him use a very expensive printing press as a bed. I refuse. I’m in denial about it. 

RALLY RALLY RALLY

spot conlon is an icon

do I have problems with medda? yes. do I think the swing is kind of cool? also yes. 

jack, you’re an idiot 

NO DAVEY LOOKS SO HURT STOP IT

the jokes weren’t funny I took the money my friends from home don’t know what to say

there’s no bill and darcyyyyyyyy. sad times. 

this version of once and for all is too slow and boring. sorry not sorry.

90s CGIIIIII FOR THE WIN

I feel like this version of the strike has gone on for like three minutes, not two weeks, but that’s fine

pulitzer and jack are both approximately two years old shouting SHUT UP at each other

look at all those kids (is this reality? meh. hundreds to thousands of kids did show, but that seems like overkill)

the goveaNAH

why are all of the jacobs crying??? they’ve known this guy for a month at most???

oooo carrying the banner’s backkkk (again, these lyrics are better, you shall bury me on this hill)

bro he came back and the first thing out of his mouth was davey come over here. gay.

oh hi denton

YES SPOT BE THE KING THAT YOU ARE RIDE THAT CARRIAGE

and then they got a happy ending. so cute. 

okay, okay, so. cinematically? the movie needs some help. it wasn’t very planned out, and it’s clearly a disney movie at some points. 6.5/10

historically? they did better than I remembered. certainly better than the stage production. my biggest issues lie with medda and probably jack himself. 7.5/10

musically? I like their carrying the banner, king of new york, and santa fe a lot. but most of these kids weren’t professionals, which does give the stage production a better quality. still, they worked with what they had. 7/10

overall? I adore this movie. I really do. I’m going to be honest, though, and say 7.5/10

okay I’m done now because it’s midnight. I’ll post this tomorrow. byeeeeee

[missyqueenofevil]

Very unpopular opinion and probably gonna get shanked for it but I fucking hate Clara Oswald for one. Hell the only Doctor’s companions that I liked were Donna, Bill and Yaz and that’s it. We stan lesbians and sapphics in this house mkay ? And Donna is just incredible on her own. She puts the Doctor back into his place!

Martha, Amy and Rory a lil bit but you know what it is? The constant romance between the Doctor and the companions. It’s booooring… The only Doctor/companion ship I stand by is Yaz/13. Or Doctor/River but this absolute QUEEN isn’t a companion. The other ones just feel wrong for different reasons.

Clara feels so toxic and manipulative I can’t even with her. The constant pushing of Doctor/companion romance by the writers feel wrong because it’s like « hey hey look you want the Doctor to be in love ooooh so bad with almost every companion he has in a row and they love him baaaaack oooh you want it right? Riiiiight?» Like the only ones that I felt were not pushing it in my face were Yaz and River.

Don’t let me started on the Master (I refuse to acknowledge the lore in 13´s era regarding Master and the Time Lords you can’t make me.) Yes the Master is overly manipulative and very VERY flawed (hi they are a villain) BUT the Doctor KNOWS IT. They aren’t oblivious to it. And they know how to navigate that to try and get their friend back. They want to fix them. Both have eons of history and they keep dancing this devilish tango or hatred and deep down bitter love for the other. You don’t hate someone that much to want to see them again and make plans about them and all that if you also don’t love them.

With Clara however, the Doctor loved her as 11 and Clara seems to reciprocate but the MOMENT 12 appeared Clara was like nuh-uh which is why the line « you look at me but you don’t see me. » has such a heartbreaking message from 12 because he thought she loved him for who he was and not his previous face. And then Clara fucking uses his broken love for her by fucking THREATENING TO BURN THE TARDIS KEYS TO GET HER BF BACK.

Anyway this isn’t me being like « ooh you can’t ship this bla bla bla » like those terminally online scumbags. Ship what you want people, idc, have fun. It’s just my personal opinion. If you don’t like it, that’s fine, but don’t come at me for it like I won’t come at your throat for your own views of things mkay? Cool. Have a nice day.

[darcyolsson]

hiii i need some advice, i was hoping you could give me your opinion, no pressure, only if you feel like it

sooo it was my bday a couple of days ago. my ex bf would normally always send me a happy birthday text. it’s been 5 years since we broke up and he hadn’t missed one birthday up until now. we’re on friendly terms, but like we only talk twice a year (+bday texts), only over text. this august i thought i saw him on the street but i was in a rush so i couldn’t stop and i know he didn’t see me. i later texted to confirm if it was really him, and he responded with a “i wish you could’ve said hi, would love to talk” so i asked him if he wanted to meet up for coffee sometime and he said he was too busy with a family thing and asked if he could get me back in 2 weeks or so. 2 weeks later he texted saying that it’d be best for us to not meet up atm. i didnt ask why. he said maybe we could arrange to meet when we’re back in our uni city (we share a hometown and go to different unis in the same city) and i was like, “yeah maybe! let’s keep in touch” and we haven’t talked since. is it wrong of me to expect HIM to text first? i feel like if i ask again, i might seem pathetic? but like. i do want to see him. i don’t have any romantic feelings left for him but i care about him regardless. am i supposed to just let him go? but then he’s very friendly and warm whenever we do talk. idk. is him not texting me a ‘polite’ way of saying ‘i don’t wanna talk to you anymore’? am i being ghosted? why say “maybe we can meet later” if you don’t wanna meet at all? anyway all of this is backstory for my main question: his birthday is in a couple of days should i send him a happy birthday message or not?

to answer your final question swiftly, no! he didn't send you a happy birthday and he's been ignoring you for ages, he does not deserve a happy birthday wish from you!!

overall, it does sound like he's trying to subtly distance himself from you, or if he's kind of unsure whether he wants you in his life or not, though the really nice way he talked to you before does make that feel really weird bc why would he do that??

but honestly, even then, i think it's best to just accept the distance he put between you, intentional or unintentional. i get that it's hard to let go of people, especially if someone just sort of ghosts you and you get no real closure, but in my experience there's no real reward in keeping someone in your life who brings you so much confusion and stress and can't even text you back, even if you have fond memories of him in the past. put very simply, you deserve to be around people who appreciate you as much as you appreciate them, and it doesn't feel like he's thinking about you as much as you're thinking about him.

and yeah, it's absolutely his turn to message you after all this! in the case that he really does want to see you and this vague behaviour is genuinely due to outside circumstances, he'll realise he forgot to text you soon enough and make up for it. and yeah, he might realise, and then not make up for it, but honestly if he doesn't that says enough i think!!!

anyway, i get it, and i think i'd have the same exact problems as you!! but from past experience i feel like endlessly trying to get someone to contact you when they won't or can't usually does more harm than good. best of luck with his, i hope he texts you back, but no worries if not.

[anothersebastianblog]

I share opinions of people that completely different to mines id say daily probably (about his rs, his friends etc)./// Okay… Then please explain how you see a loving couple on all of those pap walks. Because I see a man who is so over all this shit that he literally can’t smile with his eyes anymore. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think this is a contract, as in actual papers were involved. But I do believe what DM and Enty said about this being a set up with some pretty strict boundaries and how they don’t even consider themselves GF/BF to other people. I think he enjoyed his time with her to being with but he is Seb and his relationship last maybe about 18 months to 2 years and then he gets bored and moves on. He looks like he getting a little bored. They badly interacted at the wedding, yes he was there, we know, but in multiple videos and pictures from multiple people all throughout the night, they hardly even acknowledge each other. She had his jacket for like 2.5 seconds and then put it on the back of her chair. But other than that they were like a couple who had been in a fight and were putting on a pleasant face for the crowd.

I don’t see lovey couple from them. I see friends who are traveling together and just enjoy not being alone. What goes on behind closed doors… who knows. But he sure as hell doesn’t act like he did with previous GF’s and yes people change but not that much. Your love language doesn’t just change and Seb’s is definitely physical touch (you can tell by how he acts with past GF’s, friends, family, and fans.)

I’m saying all this with the utmost respect for you and your blog and just trying to get someone else spin on this situation. Cause how I see it is not ✨endless love✨ it’s more ✨2 years and onto the next✨

And I’m not a hater btw, I just don’t think they have good chemistry. ✌🏻❤️

Ok so i am trying to reply in the most complete way i can but i am sure other anons will be able to add their interesting thoughts/points to mines.

The most important thing that is important to not forget about is we absolutely don’t know them (vali for both sides) and that we see just 2% of their lives. This is why I can’t understand why you draw so many conclusions in that ask with statements that seem the one and only truth.

On our side we act following the easiest path: two people are seeing together, kissing each others, walking hand in hand, hang out with each other’s families because they are together, as a couple.

Important: none of us ever said they are gonna last or that they have been the most important person for the other in their love life. I feel like some people pretend to think we said that to make us look stupid or something. We very well know seb’s love life history, this doesn’t mean we shouldn’t think these two are dating.

If i was you i would NEVER believe DM and Enty, every time I heard that from someone i go 😳. They have gossip pages just like this one with the difference that at least we concentrate our energy on ONE person and take time to analyse details, while they chose to speak about EVERY celebs, taking infos from non verified sources AND fans. They don’t directly follow the celeb in question they just report the infos sent. Sebastian is not Kim K, if he is getting married you will firstly know about it and DM will know it after you from some fans. Not from a PA or an insider. This is valid for every infos about him. And remember Enty is also 4738292 time worse than DM. (If you believe what they said about seb and annabelle i have to think you also believe the drug addiction rumours….)

He doesn’t smile in “all of those” pap walks (3…)? He is a normal person, i myself don’t smile 24/7. Especially if the pap walk wasn’t planned or if he agreed on it but still didn’t like doing it. You said he doesn’t act like with previous gf… too easy saying it that NOW because the others are GONE. People said that about ale as well (remember the ibiza pap walk?) and yet he seemed VERY happy in her bday video. So we should fall in the conspiracy theories hole and think he was acting in that video? So PR? Just wondering.

About the wedding… this is the part that surprised me the most: with the most respect, i feel like people who genuinely think what you wrote is the truth just can’t accept facts. We saw 3 videos of them, 4 seconds each. That’s not nearly enough to say they didn’t interact! And btw we didn’t even have a situation in which you would expect pda/interactions they way you wanted to see: they didn’t need to acknowledge each others because they already know the other one was there, they know each other and have been in a rs for 1.5 years.. they are 40 not 16.

The jacket thing…. Pls. You saw two pics and still decided to form a complete thought and narrative about it. You don’t know how many seconds she wore it and it is absolutely not an important detail that proves something (for both sides btw) but still funny that is being used as a proof.

Idk what to tell you but some people (Not necessarily you) like to think this way because it’s the easiest option if they want him single (and unhappy apparently).

The easiest option is the correct one most of the times, imo. And if he is that unhappy he should leave her, or else that worst bf ever badge is there ready for him.

Maybe you will find this too harsh (not my intention) but I honestly am a bit tired (not about you specifically, thanks for sending your opinion) when i see that people WANT to believe in something and in order to do that they make up stuff and draw conclusions from absolutely nothing.

[mikuni14]

I just read your post about Unintentional Love story/bed friend. I agree to an extent. I always felt something was wrong and I couldn’t enjoy fully both Bed Friend and ULS even though they are not bad but I couldn’t find the reason until I read your post. I definitely have a harder time with BF because as you said it’s very repetitive, so much that it’s annoying : Uea find himself in danger or is being flirted, King come to save him or is jealous, they have sex. I feel it’s basically only that, NetJames chemistry save the show because if they were awkward, everything would just be painful to watch. I think most Thai BL that are currently airing are good on the papers but the execution is just the worst, which is a shame.

About ULS, I completely join you when you say ULS is a story we already watch a thousand time and there is absolutely no surprise : the character has a mission and have to deceive for that but along the way that character fall in love with the most deceived or the only deceived, give up the plan but each time the confession is interrupted by something and at the end, the truth comes out in the worst possible way with the deceived character being furious. I don’t know if you watched but it’s the exact same plot to a Kdrama called Coffee Prince that was released in 2007. Now I would say something differ in ULS with the original plot we all know is that Taejoon left and was miserable because of society standards and consumerism while he found happiness in something that goes against society standards (a same sex relationship). I think this part is very interesting and add layers to the drama. I find people harsh with Taejoon and Wonyoung, I seen them say they think they are boring, the actors are awkward with each other’s, they are barely interacting intimately. I don’t agree because I, who tend to notice and feel awkward when the actors are uncomfortable don’t feel like it. What I feel is that Gongchan has to play an uncomfortable Wonyoung, now I am not sure why : Is it because he realise for the first time that he is same sex attracted and doesn’t know what to do ? Because he feel guilty about the plan and not telling the man he loves ?

About the skinship, if you compare to any recent Thai BL or even Our Dating Sim then yes, it’s a little lacking but honestly the hugs that we have between those two characters are enough, they are so heart warming and lovely. For me, the most important is that you can understand that the characters are in love and that’s exactly what I felt with TJ x WY. Personally I am not one who is comfortable with BL skipping kissing or intimacy because I feel it could be due to censorship and I hate that, there are already BL who get an adaptation and remove all BL contents and I think it’s absolutely scandalous but I don’t think the lack of intimacy in ULS is due to censorship. And now about the boring argument, yes they are not the most thrilling couple ever but they are so chill and comfortable. Sorry, it’s a bit longer than what I expected but your post made me have a lot to say.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts 😘 Bed Friend is still a very good show and I like a lot of things about it, for example I liked the fact that Uea just quit because that's rare. However, in the last episode (I don't know if you watched), the series followed the usual pattern, i.e. King saved/helped Uea and all work - related problems were dealt quickly and efficiently, because it's Him, a Strong and Resourceful Seme. On the one hand, I like it because I believe that victims should have support and help from family/friends/other students at school/coworkers at work - and in Bed Friend not only did King come to his aid, his colleagues in his office also rushed to help him. On the other hand, I like stories where the victims get a chance to take action, to scream out their pain and fear, to get bloody revenge. I contradict myself a bit and I bounce between things I like, that are mutually exclusive and I know it. I don't know how to explain it properly, but it's kind of complicated. I firmly believe that Uea has the right to walk away to keep himself safe, for the sake of his mental health, to give up the fight, especially since when he fights, he is accused of probably wanting "it" anyway, or of exaggerating his issues. I just... like to see victims of abuse going berserk, paying their abuses back with interest, like in The Last of Us or The Glory series. I want to give Uea agency, but at the same time I also want his friends to stand by his side and even fight on his behalf, because that's the right thing to do. Heh, contradicting myself again 🙄 Anyway, it seems that the repetition of Uea's torture is over, so I suppose it will be better from now on 😉

Oh, this ULS trope is used all the time, even featured quite recently on my beloved To Sir, With Love (although it didn't bother me then, probably because I'm obsessed with the show and I'm just plain biased). In ULS, it doesn't bother me that much either, but I admit that I wish someone would break this old and overused pattern someday.

For me, ML from ULS are not boring, but looking at their physical contact, I have the impression that they act out scenes from het dramas. Like the way TaeJoon puts his hand on WooYoung's neck is a gesture that I know from het dramas, not from BL series, and it can be noticeable to viewers, even unconsciously and therefore weird. Actually their story IS very much het K-drama, when you think about it 🤔

Regarding skinship, my stance is clear: either the actors are comfortable with each other and that shows through kissing and physical contact, or they're not and then I don't want to see any kissing or touching. The thing that ALWAYS turns me off even from the most lovely couple is the feeling that the actors are forcing themselves into physical contact. I will not comment that in 2023 an actor is unable to perform physical love with an actor of the same sex and why such an actor is hired, it's a separate issue. I focus on whether or not an already casted actor can play being also sexually attracted to a person of the same sex. That's why I want to watch intimacy at the level of KinnPorsche or Ghost Host Ghost House, or the lack of it like in Kabe Koji (which I still enjoyed). Dead-fish kisses, or awkwardness in physical contact is unacceptable unless it's based on the story - for example, fear of intimacy, inexperience, trauma etc. But apart from that, I love watching a romance where you CAN SEE that the lovers want each other, that they can't keep their hands off each other, with scenes like staring at lips when I know the're thinking about kissing, that they want to kiss and touch, that they love everything about the other person including the BODY. Like it was in Secret Crush On You, or in History 2: Crossing the Line. I love these kind of romances 😍 I don't know, maybe for many viewers TaeJoon and WooYoung are boring because they are very vanilla and their characters are rather gentle, withdrawn and introverted. But their relationship is very turbulent, a lot of things are going on with them and the're experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions. For me, neither this series nor the couple are boring 😚

[1d1195]

BESTIE I AM BACK OFFICIALLY!!!! Finally off for break since I just finished finals week😭😭😭 I feel like I’ve been gone forever and i missed you so so much!! I fear this might be a 2 parter since I’ve been gone forever so long and I just have to yap about your stories 😭 (again never feel obligated to read/respond lol )

Now I saw your posts and I’m so sorry that this month has not been looking good at all :( I was really hoping that it would be a bit better and it just sucks that it’s not going that well! But please please take care of yourself. Don’t feel bad for not posting, life gets in the way and you really don’t owe us anything! Just take care and find little moments to yourself whether it be writing, reading or whatever! Idk if you’re on your winter break or not BUT I do hope that maybe that break will allow you to have better moments! I really do hope you’ll be able to have time for yourself and feel a bit better! If you need a break from it all that’s okay too💕💕💕

Oh it’s always sucks when someone recommends a book and speaks so highly for it to just not hit 😭 sadly I’ve experienced this many of times and I always feel so bad lol anyways hope that it ended well at least lol and you could never go wrong with basketball book bf!! And tell me why Hot Frosty is actually so insane it’s so fun!

Aww that’s sweet! And yeah you’re right about the tuba part lol and the holiday season is so exciting sometimes because our symphony puts on these really pretty shows! But girl in this economy… all a girl can do is dream😭

Not the feeling of being timed lol honestly it’s seems like a very you thing to say and I find that very adorable! And oh bestie I GET you about the covering up your body vibe LOL and love this temperature war going on with you and your bf haha

Also have you finished Christmas shopping?! I sadly am just starting…. It’s times like these where I wish I had Traditional Harry because I know I would be stressing about buying stuff😭 but hopefully Christmas will be better than thanksgiving! At least it’s another opportunity to have some yummy food!!

I think it’s fair to be a bit bummed when a student you like gets in trouble! I bet you’re just the sweetest to everyone so it makes since how you just want the absolute best for your students!!-💜

AHHHH! I've missed you! I was so worried about you tbh 😭 I've also been like super worried about your mom so I'm happy to hear she is no longer bed ridden!! (maybe that is part two but I read them both anyway) AND YOU'RE ON BREAK HALLELUJAH!!!! I'm so happy!!!!!

I have one more week basically. I'm hoping break will be restful and allow me some time to take care of myself. I gotta make a list of things I want/need to do. I should have read today but I got a bit of a cold over the week (my 8 month old niece may or may not have stuck her common-cold hand in her mouth but I cannot say no to a baby and she's so stinking cute, it is worth it). However, Man-Flu? Nothing on me. I am a Victorian woman taken with consumption and my poor bf has to listen to me go on like I am Charles Dickens.

Hot Frosty was seriously so lovely. I honestly cannot recommend it enough the plot holes are the things of dreams. It's PERFECT. I love my basketball bf so much it's lowkey unhealthy.

That should be on a pillow: in this economy all a girl can do is dream

The temperature wore is still raging because as I mentioned I'm a bit ill rn and there is nothing I hate MORE than being ill and hot. So I know it's at least a cold (I'm also starving and I love old wise words like "feed a cold starve a fever") so. It's sweltering to say the least.

YES. Finished the other day fortunately. It looks like Capitalism threw up under my tree. I think I mentioned I love gift-giving. I probably overspent but oh well. I love the people in my life a little too much. I have to do a good bit of baking this week for my coworkers and I'm waiting for one of my mom's gifts to arrive after a two week delay. It makes sense you haven't shopped much yet! You've had quite a month!!!! Regardless of the fact I'm finished with my shopping doesn't make me want Traditional Harry any less. He would def be like "jus' take the card? Don't buy anything on sale either." I'm looking forward to all the yummy food. I swear I need to start fasting now in preparation lol

My student is back in action. He was in rough shape when he returned, but I'm happy to report that he (we) dug himself out of the trenches. It was a REALLY rough week coming back from Thanksgiving and my bf thinks I'm going to adopt a high schooler now 😅

More in part two but I am SO happy to hear from you!!! 💕

xoxo

[essiekuko]

doll parts

and now i repel guys as easy as breathing. it naturally gets frustrating for a teenage girl, but u learn to appreciate it. i used to get along so well with boys in year 6 and year 7. i think that’s because those were my last years before being a teenager, the rawest and most unfiltered version of me before my life obviously went downhill. since then i started to lose connections with my guy friends and soon i found myself having absolutely none, and surrounding myself with a pure girl posse, until all i have is just one friend and, yes, she’s a girl. i think it started out like that, guys hating me/thinking i’m weird, when i developed an attitude of toxic femininity to mask my inner turmoils. the hoity toity diva who lives for drama. and that repelled the guys, cause that’s not what they want in a girl. SOME not ALL of them still feed into their natural instincts of wanting a kind, smart girl, who’s not mental. but now that i get it off my chest, i’ve completely let the persona take over my life and now it’s just me as a person, so i’ve learned that it never was a persona in the first place. it was who i’ve grown up into. i’ve become miss world, and the guys didn’t like that. i met this one guy who played into my miss world era back in year 9, he said it was admirable. had to tell him the hard truth. that fortunately made our friendship stronger and while i choose not to interact with him out of internalised guilt and regret over exposing myself and letting myself be so vulnerable, i know he understands. i’ve made peace with being miss world, just like how i’ll make my bed, and lie in it. i know there’s girls out there who’ve gone thru the same, and i love them for that. my love for fellow girls only grows since becoming miss world, since growing up. though there’s still that part of me that thinks that losing my connection to having guy friends hindered my growth overall, cause i didn’t get to see life from a male perspective. but come on, i have enough brothers as it is. so call me courtney love, i’m your extra dose of drama. your friends call you mother, but my friends call me mama. my last experience in the dabbles of romance was year 10, when one of my best friends’ boyfriends accused me of having a crush on him (spoiler alert: i did). we were in the same class, and i acted nice to him only because i loved my friend and appreciated that he made her happy. people don’t seem to love and appreciate the beauty of friendship like i do, a lot of people think it’s so one sided. i didn’t know that being nice to your friend’s bf (out of appreciation for the happiness they bring ur friend, mind u) was wrong. because it’s inherently right to mistreat and talk bad about ur friend’s bfs. they’ll always be better off without them, and the friend will always and can always do better. but female friendships are such a fickle thing. if ur bf is ugly, ur friends will demean u for it and always remind u just how atrocious they find him. but if he’s good looking, well, opposite story, and u best believe you’ll have to apply penitentiary lock downs to ur bf and friends because they WILL come after him. orrrrr they’d envy u and play the fake nice card. i have a heart too big for my own good, so obviously if u remember correctly, being miss world protects me from that. that friend and her bf broke up, apparently were very toxic to each other, but who am i to judge. and she never talked to me the same again after his accusation. he didn’t even say it to my face, our friend group had to weasel the truth out of her when she confessed to me the beliefs he told her. i was so shaken up bc that was the truth, but it’s not like i was actively pursuing him. and he knew, the damned boy knew. that’s not why i was nice to him at all. oh i love my friend so, and she has such good taste in guys, i can’t help but agree

[bakugoushotwife]

Hellou! Saw that you where gonna do mash ups, so if it’s not much trouble I would like to request one. <3

I have a Sun in Cancer, moon in Leo and my rising is Taurus. My MBTI is ENFP-T (campaigner). I’m a very artsy person. My hobbies for the moment is photography and dance. I always try to help others the best that I can. Whenever my friends do something that I know it’s wrong I always give them a constructive opinion about it because I always feel like mostly what people do is bash others for they’re mistakes and I don’t go well with that. Because in the end, why keep bringing someone down when you can do good and help then get up and beat they’re mistakes by being a better/bigger person?I’m very social but at the end of the night I do have my limits. Im always speaking my mind and standing up for my feelings and what’s right. (Basically I’m the designated friend that has to always ask for food bc my besties are shy) Music is my safe space! That being said on my repeat list is : Let me-Hojean Neon-DPRLIVE (two completely different moods )

I really don’t know what else to say. 😭

Sorry for any mistakes my main language is Spanish.🦐

Anywho, love your writings they are amazing!

oh this one was so easy i hope u love it

i ship you with...

shikigami bf x artsy gf, yes please!!

he's so shy it takes him a while to even approach you, but after that you take the lead and he's relieved of it

he appreciates your blunt honesty and how you always make sure to give helpful advice to him and his friends

sometimes he's a little envious that you're such a social butterfly, but he keeps the dogs with you so no other guys get too comfy with his lil dancer

i'm a strong believer that megumi is possessive af

loves spending literally all of his time with you.

literally is content to just lay around with you and watch you practice dances you've been learning or pose for pictures---even if he pretends to be annoyed with you

absolutely whipped king

would love to teach you japanese in exchange for spanish

cutie patooties

[thegreatimpersonator]

I’m 22 and I never dated, I had my first kiss at 16 and then I met a guy that was very abusive and thank God! it ended fast, then i fell for a classmate and we used to kiss at parties 🫠 but he didn’t wanted me as something more, it was hard, but I moved on.

Then reconnect with a nice guy at 17 who was kind and gentle and fell for him. But despite being single and saying he found me attractive, he didn’t want anything with me, bc the love of his life was his ex girlfriend (that had a new bf), so we ended up as friends for yeeears (talking every day), but I was in love with him, so every time he followed a new pretty girl back, my insecure self used to get really hurt thinking oh it’s not only his ex, it’s just that I’m not enough for him. After 5 years knowing each other, 3 in love with him I said that it was for the best for we to not be friends anymore and he easily accepted, unfollowed me everywhere and we never talked again.

For context, my parents are splitting up now after 32 yo together and they had a very unhappy and unhealthy marriage :/ When I’m on the internet I see so many abusive stories, cheating, bad relationships, chaos etc. It got too much.

I assimilated so hard that relationships are bad that I closed myself down completely.

So I haven’t kissed anybody in 5 years, going on 6. I actually forgot that relationships are a thing. I genuinely lost track of time completely. But now I’m not 16 anymore, I’m 22 going 23. I’m an adult who was never in a romantic relationship, despite having kissed people I know I never even had my feelings reciprocated. And I got used to it tbh, I don’t miss something I never had or that may not even exist.

But my best friend it’s now in an exchange program and she tells me how her bf spends every night with her on face time so she doesn’t sleep alone. He worked all summer to buy a ticket to see her. I’m genuinely happy for her, she deserves it, she’s absolutely amazing!!! But I cannot lie that this opened an old wound, am I really that unloveable?

Tbh I can’t imagine having a guy reciprocating my romantic feelings, caring for me and genuinely liking me for me.

you're not unlovable at all simply because one person didn't act accordingly with your feelings. if he knew you liked him and he did not want to pursue something, he should have cut ties and respected you enough to not lead you on like that. them not acting accordingly should not reflect back on you in any way. them not liking you back does not make you unlovable either- we can't force feelings with people. if someone asked you out and you didnt want to date them, you wouldn't describe that person as unlovable. i'm sure there are so many people who will love you if you actually allow them to. if you dont want to date then don't, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if you want to be loved you have to start opening up and allowing it to happen.

[yoongifis]

💌 myg drabble 06

where you jokingly don’t say ‘i love you’ back to him (based off a tiktok prank).

; pairing: idol!bf!yoongi x gf!reader

; warnings: none!! it’s just yoongi being cute heheh

; rating: fluff

; a/n: wrote this on a whim! saw this trend and decided to write up what yoongi would be like if you were to not say ‘ily’ back to him before he leaves hehe. :p

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You’re mindlessly scrolling on your phone, looking through Tiktoks as you wait for the boys to start. It’s one of those days where they wanted you to come watch them be on set, which you never minded doing. You believe that they’re filming for an ad today, specifically for some sort of food item.

“They’re not done getting ready yet?! I’m surprised I’m here first!” You look up to see Jimin with a cheeky smile as he begins to scan the room to see what’s going on.

“More like sixth. Everyone else is somewhere around here, it’s just Yoongi they’re waiting on,” you hummed, turning your phone off and stuffing it into the back pocket of your jeans.

“Shit—,” is all the boy mumbles under his breath, “they’re right over there—. He quickly scurries past you and makes his way to the members who were all standing around the kitchen set, where they’ll be advertising behind a fake kitchen counter.

You giggle at the way Jimin made his way there, until you’re interrupted by an arm wrapping around your waist and the feeling of someone’s presence on your left side.

“Who we looking at?”

You turn to face him, a lazy smirk slowly appearing on his face.

“There you are,” you hummed. He’s bringing his other arm around you to have you completely in his hold as you turned your whole body to face him.

“Here I am,” he chuckles, “waiting for me?”

“Was wondering why you were last this time,” you put a hand onto the side of his face, patting it gently, “I can see why. You look very handsome.”

He’s smiling stupidly at your comment, cheeks tinted a reddish-pinky color.

You weren’t lying when you said that. This man is insanely handsome. Dirty blonde-ish hair styled very simple—fluffy, almost mushroom-like—yet sexy at the same time. A white button up with his sleeves pulled up, exposing his veiny forearms. And this was all just for an ad! What a sight.

“Alright, alright,” he clears his throat out of shyness, tightening his hold around you so that your bodies are even closer, “I’m gonna get going.”

He’s leaning his head into you, capturing your lips for a slow kiss. You place a hand gently against his chest, a reminder for him to not go too far since the two of you were literally on-set with so many people around. He’s pulling away, forcing himself to hold back as he’s chuckling at your action.

“Sorry, I forgot that I’m here at work.”

He’s loosening his hold around your waist, gently caressing your sides with his large hands. His face softens, a fond smile on his face as he looks at you with loving eyes.

“I’ll be back then,” he mumbles, “I love you.”

You smile at him big, getting ready to tease him just a little bit—just like how that couple did on a Tiktok you saw earlier.

“Mmhm, I’ll see you later,” you take your hand and place it on his cheek, gently caressing it with your thumb.

He’s leaning into your touch but instantly frowns—obviously not from your touch, though, (he absolutely loves it when you do that) but from something else, which is what you already expected.

“Aren’t you forgetting something?”

You pretend to look confused at him, tilting your head to the side a little.

“Oh! Sorry—good luck and break a leg out there, Yoongi! I know you’ll do great.”

He’s pouting now—you can tell he’s really bothered by you not saying what he wants to hear.

“What I do wrong, baby? Do you not love me anymore?”

You scoff with a smile on your face.

“What kind of question is that? Of course I do.”

“Then why can’t you properly say it back to me?”

You giggle a bit, enjoying the way he’s sulking—it was really cute. You place your other hand on the other side of his cheek and pull him into another kiss. He complies, but is still confused over this situation. You pull away, just to see a pouty Yoongi again.

“I love you, Yoongi. I love you a lot,” you finally say. His eyes widen, imaginary tail finally wagging at your words. Hearing those words was music to his ears.

“I still don’t understand why you didn’t say that before—was it one of your little Tiktok pranks again?”

“Yeah—just wanted to tease you,” you’re giggling as he’s rolling his eyes with a smile on his face.

“We’ll see if you like it when I tease you after we get home.”

“No threatening—get going to work now.”

You gently push him away by the chest, causing him to release his hold around your waist. You turn him around and nudge him forward to get him to start walking to the boys, giving a gentle pat on his butt for fun.

“One more kiss,” he mumbles, turning his body around to face you, stopping you from trying to push him forward.

“Later, Yoongi,” you’re looking up at him, lifting a hand onto his chest again to start gently pushing him to keep walking.

“Babyy..,” he huffs, annoyed with the answer you gave him. He stands there, not budging despite the fact that the director is calling everyone to get ready on set. You already knew how he is, will do nothing until he gets what he wants.

You roll your eyes with a smile on your face, cupping his face with your hands and bringing it to yours. However, he’s immediately turning his face away from yours, preventing you from kissing him. You’re quite taken aback from his action, simply because he would never turn down your lips.

Furrowing your eyebrows, you bring his head from the side and make him face you again. You press your hands against his cheeks, squishing his face a bit, which causes his lips to pucker out. You lean in to give him a quick peck on the lips, but when you pull away you could still see that he’s still sulking

“You’re such a baby,” you giggle, “I’ll kiss you more later, dummy. I’m not going anywhere.”

“I know,” he’s mumbling again, “just can’t help it.”

You let go of his face, the both of you still maintaining eye contact.

“Yoongi, they’re calling for you.”

He sighs dramatically, “fine, I’ll get going.” His hands are automatically wrapping around your waist again, trapping you in his hold. He’s puckering his lips again, wanting another kiss from you.

“Yoongi~,” you whined with a little giggle at the end. It’s not that you didn’t want to kiss him, it’s really because of the fact that everyone’s sort of watching the two of you and are also waiting for Yoongi so that they could start filming. Just like how he was earlier, he doesn’t budge. You give in, placing a quick peck on his lips that has him smiling at you again. Something about your kisses always gets to him. He’s become always hungry for them as they seem to always get him weak in the knees or make him melt into a puddle.

“God, I’m in love with you,” he mumbles under his breath.

“We’ve already went through this, Yoongi,” you chuckled, “they’re calling for you again—c’mon, let’s get going.”

He’s rolling his eyes, releasing his hold from you before he’s turning around to start walking away.

“You better still be here when we’re done filming. I’ve still got some things to straighten out with you,” he slightly yells out, stopping in his tracks to turn around and glance over at you to listen to your response.

You shoo him away with a hand, “whatever, Min!”

He lifts an eyebrow at you, surprised at you calling him by his last name.

“You’ll regret that.”

You stuck your tongue out at him teasingly, “go already!”

“That too,” he’s chuckling, turning around to slightly jog his way over to the boys.

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[yaomomvs]

# another guy giving u flowers

how the haikyuu guys react to seeing you getting a bouquet of flowers from another man

→ ft. osamu miya, oikawa tooru

a/n: so a random friend confessed to me today and gave me a whole bouquet of flowers wtf?? i rejected him politely but anyways i thought this was a very funny prompt so here we go!

oikawa tooru !

the day was pretty normal, you were just arriving to the lunch area in school to meet up with ur bf and eat like you usually do

oikawa was specially exited to meet up with you today since he had big news about the team and his daily life honestly

but all of the sudden he just feels like everyone is watching him expectantly, like he is used to this but this time there were definitely a lot of eyes on him

he is confused so he looks around and realize that in fact everyone was looking at him like expecting him to realize something

so when he finally spotted you across the room, your boyfriend’s stomach literally drops

so there you were, eyes wide open when this other guy he recognized as one of ur friends/classmates was bowing to you and handing you out a pretty bouquet of red roses

tooru genuinely did not know what to do, like poor boy was panicking he absolutely had never experienced this weird feeling in his stomach, his blood boiling like all at the same time, he stands up and literally looks everywhere panicking

it’s pretty funny seeing someone as confident suddenly becoming an adorable moron that genuinely doesn’t know what to do

he is like: 👁-👁

he would never doubt you, but that doesn’t mean he was thrilled seeing his s/o receiving a whole ass bouquet in the middle of a crowd

on the other hand you also were naturally shocked, you could be oblivious but you were definitely not expecting this

“i’m flattered but you know i’m with someone right?” you asked in the most polite way you could not wanting to hurt this guys feelings.

“absolutely! d-don’t misunderstand this, i know you are with oikawa-san, and would never try to get between you two! i just- uh, for some people is better to confront the problem to solve it y’know? so i figured out that would help me, i hope you don’t mind” he explains while lowering his head and your heart crashed.

usually, men felt like they had the right to have their confession accepted by you, but meeting this guy absolutely squashed your chicken heart and felt so grateful

you gave him the warmest of smiles “thank you for being so respectful, i appreciate your flowers there’s definitely a pal it there for someone so pretty like you!” and istg his face blushed at a 200% seeing you so happy that he immediately forgot he was trying to move on

yep that was it, tooru perceived this spellbound guy and i’m sorry he couldn’t stop his jealousy this time.

he calls your name and you couldn’t even respond bc he now has you in his shoulder glaring at the guy who lowkey felt intimidated but relieved as you waved goodbye

“is the great king jealous?” he has the most adorable pout

“fir simiine is pritty liki yiu” he mocks “DAMMIT OF COURSE I AM LOVE”

the volleyball team swears they heard your laugh all across the cafeteria lol

osamu miya !

you were chillin’ w the vb team in the lunch area

honestly you thought osamu was going to be a laid back boyfriend, no, so wrong, he is so clingy that it was almost as seeing a puppy w separation anxiety

so u got used to being around him, his brother, suna, etc.

“so what if we don’t call them UFOS, but...” “atsumu, shut up” suna said making u laugh. osamu looked at you with heart eyes, he really enjoyed watching u get along with what he considered to be his family.

in between jokes you asked your boyfriend if he could get you something to drink, knowing he would never let you do thing like this, osamu was a gentleman and you loved him for that.

while he was away you stayed chatting with suna, as the twins were buying your stuff, when you felt a little tap on your shoulder.

there was this adorable guy with a bouquet of flowers and cheeks blushing. your first impression was that he looked just so cute, like a a cute little kitten asking to be carried. 

“hi, y/n. god i’m so sorry about this, i feel stupid, sorry, i am really...” he was just stuttering and you smiled to reassure him. not to be a narcissist but you had received. couple of confession before, however not so many since you started a relationship with osamu so you were knew to handle this situation.

with your smile and little scoff, and while stopping suna to get in between the confession, you asked him to proceed.

this was huge thing for the guy so he continued more confident “you are so beautiful, and i just wanted to make sure you know that, i see you in classes and just so you know you are really something, like you light up the room.” those words were so nice that you almost felt the necessity to thank him, however you did want to put a limit but before you could say you were not available, two things happened, first you spotted a gray haired guy at the entrance looking at you, he raised his brow and just sighed as he gave you a smile.  

that’s what you loved about him, you felt curiosity to know if osamu was jealous, however, he is just caring like that. he would never do something to make you insecure about his love and the nod he just gave you proved you that.

and the second thing: “i know you are with someone, he really is lucky and i would never disrespect you like that. just wanted to let you know how i feel, i guess an act of kindness is important to everyone, so please accept the flowers. and have a good day” 

the girls in the lunch area went crazy and you knew that when he left he would have tons of admirers, you two kept on chatting for a bit until...

“well yeah that enough, let’s go my love” you huge boyfriend came to your side as he pushed the flower guy in a ‘friendly’ manner.

you laughed and just asked with you eyes.

“what it’s not like i’m mad or jealous” “so should i go have lunch with him?” “absolutely not”

[blacklezrage]

How do I get my friend to read rad leaning material without scaring her away? I’m 18, a lesbian, and she’s my only lesbian friend. I love her very much and want her to be happy with herself as a lesbian and young woman. Radfem content helped me when I was sexually assaulted and realize that being a woman isn’t a horrible curse. She feels estranged from womanhood and has grown to resent other women because of her experience with being bullied by them. In high school, she would be pushed out of the locker room by the straight girls bc they thought she would “perv out” on them. She’s lost friends when she came out, her mother is also very homophobic and has called her a dyke more than once and makes fun of her for not being as girly. She’s also very hateful towards her body because she thinks having a bigger chest makes her look sloppy, slutty, and saggy and has hinted at “chopping them off”. I remember feeling hateful towards by downstairs area because porn made me feel like my vagina was ugly because my labia wasn’t bleached pink and tiny. So I think rad leaning content would help, but she’s been reading more trans content which I think would harm her if she ever decided to chop her boobs off instead of learning that they don’t make her sloppy and that there’s nothing wrong with having breast that aren’t perky like in porn.

i was putting off answering this because to be honest, i'm still struggling to get my best friend to see the value of being a womon (and breaking up with her shitty bf), and i didn't want to give you bad advice, but i guess something is better than nothing

i'm not going to lie. my work with my friend has been less "here's this book to read" and more "why do you think you're feeling that way?" and "is this something you believe or is it something you feel people want you to believe?" the thing i think helped her the most was me creating a space where she can be away from men and can speak her mind without being afraid of being judged. also incredibly important was helping her start the healing process between her and her mom, but that isn't feasible with every womon obviously

she had absolutely no idea of any feminist history (and she and i are both usamericans), so before i recommended any books to her, i recommended her "Mrs. America," which is a single season show following the fight to ratify the ERA in the 70s. it features fictionalized versions of womyn like Betty Friedan, Shirley Chisolm, Gloria Steinem, and Phyllis Schlafly (renowned anti-feminist, but whoever wrote the show at least understood the gist of Right Wing Women). this helped her (a) realize how important the rights of womyn are and how easily they're taken away and (b) that (second-wave/radical) feminists weren't just a group a man-hating racist white ladies like everyone online claims

it wasn't until after all that that i recommended her the book Dietland by Sarai Walker. it's fictional, but in my opinion, it offers a great beginning into radfem ideology. it follows a fat womon who's waiting to live her life until she's skinny as a sort of coming-into-her-own story, but then it takes a turn into some wild (but very much connected) areas including:

womyn's separatism

exploring same-sex attraction

anti-porn activism

an anti-beauty book called "Fuckability Theory"

and a feminist terrorist group

she actually just borrowed my copy of Anita Diamant's The Red Tent (also fiction), which is a feminist retelling of Dinah, a character from biblical canon. i actually don't remember the book that well (only read it once) but i really enjoyed it, and i actually think that book made me want to go to womyn's land badly enough to actually go

one of the biggest books that helped me personally was Soraya Chemaly's Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger (i read that alongside Brittany Cooper's Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower which is more of a memoir, so i'd recommend Rage Becomes Her first). these were basically the first two rad-leaning (although Eloquent Rage isn't necessarily radical feminist) books i read and they lit a fire under me. they both helped me realize how much negative energy i was directing toward myself and helped me gain back my ability to speak up and be unafraid

Audre Lorde, imo, is essential lesbian reading, so i'd recommend Sister Outsider, as well. it's a collection of essays, so it's a great start into her works and worldview

i think Chimimanda Ngozi Adichie is also a good starting point (if she hasn't been indoctrinated to be afraid of her), but i've only read We Should All Be Feminists and Dear Ijeawele (A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions)

i had a moment of courage and sent my friend a request on goodreads, and now whenever i'm reading a radfem text, she usually asks me about it and will sometimes add it to her reading list

i've definitely been where your friend has been, and i'm sorry to hear she's dealing with so much pressure... i think even more important than the books is for you to continue to support her and be there for her and listen to her, everything she says. help her stop apologizing, help her take up space, help her find her voice. make sure she knows that her unique experience/perspective matters. but also, don't be afraid to disagree with her. it may take being challenged for her to realize what she really believes

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Izzy Hands & Dean Winchester- The Only Retirement We Get Is Death

Yeah that’s right, I’m finally doing it. First of all, I do want to make it clear that this is heavily reliant on @autisticandroids SPN meta, as I point blank refuse to subject myself to rewatching Supernatural for what is honestly MOSTLY an OFMD post.

Secondly, the customary disclosing of personal biases. I fucking hate Izzy Hands. He is an extremely effective rom-com villain and a fantastic example of character writing/top-notch acting, but as a character I despise him. As far as I’m concerned that ‘x’ tattoo is a target for my fist. I also Do Not Like canon Dean (fanon Dean is a different guy at this point & we will not be discussing him in this post). I was a Sam Girl back in the day, and although I am no longer a) a girl or b) attracted to men, my allegiance remains.

Now, to the meat of the issue.

I’ll start with the point that initially struck me with these two characters, which is specifically Izzy’s line in episode 4 “the only retirement we get is… death.” Now I can’t recall if it’s word-for-word (as I said, I’m not rewatching SPN for this) but this is absolutely a sentiment that Dean has expressed at least once with regards to being a hunter, and I’d go as far as to say it’s almost a thesis statement for the show overall. Like the writers do seem to enjoy repeatedly driving it home for the characters and audience that there is no escape from the lifestyle. Mary tries to leave & dies. Sam tries to leave, dead girlfriend. Dean tries to leave, SUCKS at it & Lisa&Ben lose their memories of him and are never mentioned again.

Now, this is handled very differently in OFMD. There are a few reasons for this (it’s a romcom, not a very gory genre soap to begin with) but I think the core of it is that the shows have almost diametrically opposed views of traditional masculinity. Supernatural is ultimately very fatalistic, and is also presenting its take on masculinity as represented by the hunter lifestyle as something aspirational. “This is who you are.” It says. “This is how things will go for you, you don’t have a choice in the matter.” OFMD is saying “That’s dumb actually. People should get to choose how they live, how they love & how they express themselves.” (it’s very queer philosophically & I love it). So when Izzy says ‘The only retirement we get is death’ he is presented pretty explicitly as being wrong. Ed can totally retire if he wants to. He should get to take his soft frilly BF to a secluded tropical island and live out the rest of their days in adorable romantic bliss. Izzy is being a dickhead by attempting to deny him that.

This brings us to my second point, which is that structurally, within the context of their shows, both Izzy and Dean are, at least partially, actively preventing another character from escaping a life in which they feel trapped. For both of them, this takes the form of a lot of policing that character’s expression of their masculinity. Like this sort of goes away to an extent in later seasons of SPN, but early show Sam was uh. Pretty fucking femme for 2005, let’s put it that way. A lot of the humour/interpersonal bitching in early seasons is based on Sam wanting to have nicer things, or eat healthier food (burger/salad dichotomy) or just generally act in a way that Dean very obviously is trying not to call him slurs about. It’s easy to miss because the shows are framed differently, but this is the exact dynamic Izzy has with Ed. Ed is not that femme tbh but the way Izzy reacts to him wanting to wear nicer clothes/go to flash parties/make out with a fancy man is very similar to like S1 Dean getting this close to calling Sam a f*g.

(join me in a moment of silence to mourn the loss of AU supernatural where Sam is explicitly queer in the show)

The thing is, again, Izzy is explicitly shown to be in the wrong for acting like this. He’s literally the romcom villain. Ed is right for wanting to escape the toxically masculine world of traditional piracy. Whereas in SPN, because the show frames the hunter lifestyle as aspirational (it’s the american dream! Road trips! Credit card fraud!) we’re… kind of set up to agree with Dean? Like it is portrayed as a tragedy when Sam’s girlfriend of the week gets fridged, but ultimately, the narrative supports Dean’s position that it’s ‘once a hunter, always a hunter’. There is literally no escape, and you should stop trying before you get more people hurt or killed. 

Also on the topic of characters reading pretty damn queer. Both of these sad fictional men are deeply, deeply repressed about their sexualities. Like they’re so far in the closet they’re having adventures together in Narnia. This is explicit and canonical with Izzy- he’s in love with Ed. A good portion of his hatred for Stede is actually jealousy (whether or not he can admit that to himself). He fully cried a bit when he thought they were fucking in episode 6. I don’t think this is news to anyone in the fandom.

Dean is… a little more complicated, let’s say. I don’t think it’s controversial to say he’s canonically straight, at least in terms of what the writers actually seemed to intend regarding his character. However um. Look. I don’t ship wincest. I never shipped wincest. Honestly the whole concept squicks me the hell out. But I think we have to accept that the ship was huge for a reason, and only part of that was people having incest fetishes. There’s also the matter of that siren turning into a ‘replacement little brother’ that one time, and of course I would be remiss to ignore the issue of Destiel. (eleven fucking seasons of queerbaiting holy shit how did we live like that?)

Izzy and Dean also both respond to their own queerness in very similar ways- namely by retreating into very strictly defined, pre-existing roles so that they don’t have to think about all the ways in which they don’t fit in. For Izzy, this takes the form of his slavish devotion to the concept of being a ‘real pirate’ (read: real man). ‘Real pirates’ in his book, take pleasure only in violence and conquest, they might fuck but they never love, and they certainly don’t talk about their feelings. This then spills over into his dynamic with Ed- the ‘devoted first mate/captain’ thing they have going on is as close as he can allow himself to get to an actual relationship, so when Ed starts flirting like a normal person with someone else, it turns his whole world on its head.

Similarly, Dean has devoted himself to doing the ‘red-blooded american man’ thing, almost to his own detriment. He’s convinced himself that he just isn’t meant for any kind of stability or long-term happiness and self-sabotages every time he feels like he might be getting close. By the time the show ended, he was, God, I think in his fifties? And still pretty much only had drunken one-night stands with disposable extras. Like, even ignoring his whole thing with Castiel, he’d entirely given up on the idea of a long-term relationship with a woman (the only kind he’d be ‘allowed’ under the white-picket-fence, nuclear family ideal he freaking lionizes), if he ever seriously entertained it at all.

So, I think the main reason this comparison stands up is that Supernatural and OFMD are both, textually, using a particular fictionalized lifestyle as a metaphor for a particular style of masculinity. In SPN, hunting is representative of a very, uh, stylized form of american manhood, one centred around the concepts of personal freedom and extreme self-reliance. Violence is also absolutely central to this style of masculinity.

In OFMD, piracy actually represents a lot of things. For Stede, it’s freedom from heteronormativity. For Ed, it’s a chain tying him to a version of himself he’s desperate to escape. For Izzy, saliently to my point here, piracy is representative of the particular form of masculinity by which he judges himself and others. It’s about the intersection of violence and freedom, and being strong enough to never really need another person. The tragedy of which is, of course, that you can then never really want another person.

I think, to bring this home, that Izzy would thrive in the violent, emotionally constipated world of Supernatural. I think, conversely that Dean would absolutely fucking hate it in queer pirate rom-com land.

If anyone writes a crossover fic I will read the hell out of it.