#disability confessions

[butch--dean]

I was housed by your warmth / thus, transformed

my manifesto on dean's relationship with love and faith and what it means to be saved <3

hozier // shrike - yt

[wings-of-fire-confessions]

I honestly would like to see some artwork of Jerboa III (Boa) wearing padded shoes or have something to wear for her front talons.

Since she’s canonically DECLAWED in her front talons - which is a disability that cats have that causes them to experience chronic pain while walking (which is shown within Boa by her walking in The Flames of Hope) - due to the enchantment that Boa’s mother put on her.

IDK, I just think it would be neat to see WoF mobility aids being created more by the WoF fandom, whether it be for canon characters and/or for OCs.

Huh, I never really thought about that. That's a really cool idea.

[mummer]

i dont mean to be gauche but larys absolutely wants to do fucked up torture porn to aegon but the thing is aegon is just gonna be like okay ❤️ yay ❤️ and then theyre both gonna feel really confused

[taxidermycanine]

DEAR DISABLED THERIANS.

a short positivity post to remind you all that you are loved, important and valued in not only the therian / alterhuman community, but in life. take care of yourselves.

to the therians who use canes and wheelchairs, you are no less of a mobile creature for needing an aid. whether your theriotype is a fish, a domestic cat or a wild canid — mobility aids are found in most, if not all, species out there due to the help from humans. if you had been born in the right body, you would be given the same sort of aid. i promise. it isn't shameful.

you have carpal tunnel and feel left out because you're a wolf who was born to run and hunt elk? that's great!! i bet you'd be great friends with this guy :0}

to the blind and / or deaf therians who are told that their theriotype simply wouldn't survive due to their blindness — this simply isn't true. there have been many cases of blind or deaf animals surviving, look at this wolf as an example! and bare in mind MOST cases of blindness are partial, but this old gal is pretty much FULLY blind, and she's doing fine. why wouldn't you?

to the therians who have some sort of learning disability, it does NOT make you an idiot. i tend to see a lot of critters with stereotypically intelligent animals (think elephants, border collies, etc) as their theriotypes and feel worried due to their disability. you aren't dumb, you aren't "mentally not there", you aren't any of the mean things you've been called throughout your life. there ARE animals with learning disabilities, you would not die in the wild for having one just the same as you would not die in a domestic household for having one (or many)

and to those who have any other disabilities that i didn't mention in this short post, you are enough. you don't have to prove your therianthropy to anyone. if someone ever insists that you can't possibly be your theriotype because you are disabled? ignore them, they're lying and just trying to make you feel terrible about yourself. it's hard being disabled, it's hard waking up in pain and never not being NOT in pain, it's hard knowing that there are folks out there that'd demean you just for being disabled, it's hard needing mobility aids and not being able to afford them, it's hard when people think that you're stupid or less deserving of respect because they don't deem you "all there".

i love you all, those hardships are something that you shouldn't ever have to experience.

take good care of yourself if you can, and if you can't? get yourself that sweet treat you've been wanting, eat your favorite candy before a savory meal, give yourself a well deserved hug and watch your favorite show.

[star-trek-fandom-confessions]

#315

"I'm not normally a supporter of retcon but I really wish SNW would retcon the treatment of Pike. Instead his disability is still being treated like he's going to die in a few years. And maybe update the chair because we have way better tech than that chair now let alone in another 200 years. Pike's ending has always sat wrong with me because to change the concept of a place from a Cage to a Menagerie simply because Pike's disabled now is insane. It's still a cage and he still can't leave but he can walk again so I guess that's not important anymore."

[localratwithcowboyhat]

hi omg!! i love your art style so much, i just discovered your blog!! its so cool to see another trans autistic dyslexic adhd physically disabled artist whos a furry with a tma special interest?!?!/pos and /gen!! if you're ok with a request, can you draw michael (shelley or distortion) from tma?/nf hes my comfort character i love him so much!! thank u for all of your content!! and sorry for any spelling/grammar errors!!(dyslexia :P)

Ayyy thank you so much thats so sweet‼️im glad you enjoye my art :]

So here a michal just for you

[steddieunderdogfics]

For a regular fic rec: skin and scar by ghosttotheparty (https://archiveofourown.org/works/54144838). One of my faves, I think I've read it at least 3 or 4 times.

skin and scar by ghosttotheparty

@ghosttotheparty

Rating: Mature

14,042 words, 1/1 chapters

Archive Warning: No Warnings

Tags: Childhood Sweethearts, Angst, Boys In Love, First Kiss, Pre-Canon, Alternate Universe - Everyone Lives/Nobody Dies, Love Confessions, Reunions, First Time, Emotional Sex, Found Family, how is found family not a tag option, Good Uncle Wayne Munson, Love in all its forms, Permanent Injury, Disabled Eddie Munson, Gay Steve Harrington, POV Multiple, idk how to tag this, pure unbridled pain, thabbie thinks im a sadist, &lt;3

Summary:

“I’m hiding.” Steve’s voice breaks, and he gestures to his chest. “I’m hiding. That’s all I fucking do, Eddie, it— it’s all I’m ever going to do.” And they’re quiet. They both realize at the same time that this is it. That they don’t get anything else after this, that they don’t get each other. ——— or; Steve and Eddie fell in love young.

Thanks for the rec!

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[dungeonmeshi-confessions]

hehe I think its my ask youre excited about and now Im excited too. 💜

I like what you had to say so far, and I agree with you!!! Like I said, I understand completely that depending on a person's relationship with their disability, they may feel completely differently!!!

I think part of it for me is that. kabru is also disabled, his is just invisible- his ptsd. and this causes him to kind of do some self abandonment, hes not good at eating, he has insomnia, he struggles with several things mithrun does too.

I like to see mithrun pick up on this and do what he can to help with that. not bc he has to in order to deserve kabru, but bc he wants to see kabru well. like mithrun noticing that kabru will ask if he's eaten but barely feed himself and being 🤨 about it. or how kabru will help him get to sleep on time just to then stay up late with work. so mithrun intervenes and stubbornly forces kabru to take care of himself sometimes.

I like to see variance in how much help mithrun needs. I think as he improves, people may accidentally forget how reliant he is. He may end up having a rough time from it, causing him to need even more help again for a while. I think he will definitely hit rough patches in his recovery, where supports that worked before suddenly dont help him much, or he feels really discouraged and hopeless again. I really like fics where his recovery isnt linear and he has significant struggles or even fully falls back into his catatonic state.

and I like to see kabru care for him. I esp like it when its part of a routine together, like meals and sleep. I do also like mithrun being helped with care tasks, but its really about the tone its written in.

I dont really like when kabru is very officially in charge of mithruns care, more as a nurse than a friend, and then a bathing scene turns into porn. that makes me uncomfortable.

but if kabru is his very close friend or his lover, bathing him or bathing together feels like an act of intimacy and closeness instead.

but also, its this- I like mithrun's care to be someone elses job bc it means every ounce of care kabru gives to him is bc he wants to, bc he cares about him, and not bc he has an external commitment. I think kabru is very willing to give mithrun what he can, even as busy as he is. I just cant see it being his job on top of the 10 jobs in one trench coat being the kings advisor is.

I think if they are together and/or live together, kabru does much more than if they arent.

I think it is important that mithrun is loved and worthy of love even when he is at his worst and needs lots of help. he deserves to have people be patient and sweet with him. and Kabru is such an acts of service guy, he really is a great person to help mithrun with that. to me it really just comes down to how it is written and presented.

does it feel genuinely intimate and loving, or does it feel weird and fetishy? and also is mithrun having trouble in a way that makes sense for his disability, or is he being reduced to being generally disabled? Is this moment an empowering one of being worthy of love at your lowest, or is he being infantilized and stripped of autonomy?

so maybe its more accurate to say "I enjoy some of the caretaking elements commonly portayed with kabumisu, BUT-"

(I'll leave you alone about this topic now until you are able to properly post these asks lmao. remain strong. I will try to keep thinking up fun and positive asks for you for the future 💜)

replying to this ask instead of queueing it as it's a direct response to my post—

I actually completely agree with every point you made!! I don't read fanfic often and I've never read kbms before, but I do totally understand and agree with you here lol. I think I actually like the idea of Mithrun having multiple caretakers, and I'm not big on any of it feeling clinical because... they're friends and lovers and family!! Whoever I see taking care of him has some sort of close relation to him of some sort, so the idea of it being clinical does ick me (especially because the idea of having a caretaker I don't know very well and am not already close with makes me personally gery uncomfortable and unsafe). I think if I read a kbms fic, I'd want them to sort of care for each other in equal amounts (whether that care is primarily physical or primarily emotional).

Related, I really like the idea of Mithrun and Obrin (Mithrun's brother, if you didn't knkw his name) gaining a relationship where they can have equal respect for the first time, and maybe relate to each other for the first time. I think this would offer them both alot of closure.

[sdv-confessions]

I wish we could have a choice of making the farmer disabled (or even having more disabled characters than just George - don’t get me wrong I love George but… it would be nice to have more) I’ve got incredibly loose joints and am now walking with a cane just to get anywhere. I know it wouldn’t be feasible (the coding for wheelchairs, canes, if a limb or two were missing, etc) would be hard and probably not worth it for the few people who have disabilities but idk. I’m just tired of everything being for able bodied people I guess.

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[danmei-confessions]

The fish mpreg danmei is currently one of my favorites from all i’ve read so far. I do enjoy works that tackle some heavier subjects or are more angsty but I feel like in the danmei space most works get a little too sad and serious for my tastes. Idk if I just struggle to find them but i wish there was more ridiculous fluff like dtbppf :(.

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[smosh-fessions]

something i dislike about this fandom is how fans view the cast members as caricatures instead of full fledged human beings. For example Angela is viewed as a feral guinea pig too dumb to preform simple task, Courtney is seen as a sex object, damien is either the devil incarnate or a lil baby, Amanda is a chronically offline Queen etc.. Like they are actual people not characters in a tv show!

100%. It's one thing to joke about every now and then, especially if the cast are also doing it, but when it's all they're reduced to it's disrespectful.

I see people actually amazed Angela can do certain things in games and it pisses me off something awful. She's been very open about having a learning disability and unfortunately a lot of people have taken that as free license to just call her stupid across the board. It's probably the one I see the most in any comment section at this point.

Chanse has even done it once and I was happy to hear her snap back "I can read."

[artaintfartwarriors]

[wings-of-fire-confessions]

actually find it so fucking infuriating how they changed the way Starflight is blinded in the graphic novel. It's supposed to be violent. He is supposed to be left with several scars - not just losing his sight - several burn scars all over his body. Going from "he loses his sight because volcanic ash flew right at his face, got in his eyes and burned a large amount of his body" to "he lost his sight because the explosion was too bright" is actually wild to me

I do understand the graphic novels are aimed at kids, and there is a point where you start to question if some of the stuff in the books is too graphic to be putting in a kids comic book. I can see how showing a dragon being so severely burned like that could cause issues for kids who only picked up the book because there a dragon on the cover and didn't know what they were getting into. However, I do think there's ways the scene could've been drawn where it wouldn't appear as gorey. Morrowseer's death doesn't really show him being burned, just being taken over by the flames. It would've been so easy to have something similar happen to Starflight, have Clay grab him in a way where you can only see his back, and then cut to those last few panels of Starflight's internal monologue. They didn't need to water it down so much to the point that Starflight can't even have his scars

I agree. They could have just put blobs of orange going at his face if they were concerned about violence, and cut off the panel before too much damage was shown. The "explosion was too bright" excuse is a bit silly.

[oscconfessions]

,,cAbBy iS pHiSYcAlLy DiSAbLeD!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺"

WDYM???? THE WHEELS ARE LITERALLY A PART OF HER BODY WTF???? HUH???

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[daylillie]

If anyone is tired of hearing me bitch about OCD yet, I don't care because I'm forever wanting to mentally slap the "I'm so OCD" people in the face. Along with anyone who thinks it's fun or trendy to fake a mental illness for views or knowingly spread misinformation. It keeps the real sufferers from seeking help and they truly don't understand what severe OCD looks like.

Example:

I hit my breaking point today. I really don't know how I'll move past this. I have a Body Focused Repetitive Behavior (think hair pulling and skin picking) where I run my tongue on my gums. I guess it softened my gum in that spot. Before anyone thinks "just stop doing it", BFRBs usually don't go away easily.

So, I was eating chips and I thought a chip got lodged into my gum. Not a big deal, but OCD makes it one. Again, "just stop" doesn't work. No matter what I do, I will keep thinking there's a chip in my gum. I flossed the same tooth over and over. I kept going back to brush my teeth. I wasn't terrified yet, mostly extremely annoyed. My gums were irritated by now.

Here's what a lot of people don't understand either. OCD can slowly build. It's not always immediately horrific. It can start off as a normal "a chip stabbed my gum" (most everyone's been stabbed by a chip or had a popcorn kernel in-between their teeth) thought. This was over the course of three days. Sometimes, the person experiencing it won't realize what's happening until they're knee deep (in my case neck deep).

So, two days of this before I had an intrusive thought "If you don't get the chip out it will move further into your gum and you'll get a tooth infection."

I started picking at it. I flossed more aggressively. At this point it's overly obsessive. It's urgent. It's all-consuming. It's the only thing I can think about.

I googled tooth infection and what can happen. Not super distressing until I'm in the rabbit hole of research.

Intrusive thought "What if the chip is already lodged too deep? What if it erodes your tooth?"

There was no stopping it. I cut my gum. I dug inside it with a tool. I stopped the bleeding. It was late. Eventually, I fell asleep from sheer exhaustion and woke up this morning in (shocking) severe pain.

Argued with myself about going to work but I can't take off anymore time for OCD, I've taken too much. Yeah, I know ADA is a thing, but I don't want a lawsuit situation.

We also won't get into how hard it is to make an emergency dentist appointment where I live and not wanting to be at the ER for twelve plus hours. Also, OCD comes with a lot of shame so "I mutilated my mouth because I think a chip is in my gum" is not ER worthy to me. Plus, insurance. No insurance. Money etc.

The pain got worse at work. It spread to my neck. My lymph nodes were swollen. I had a massive headache. I was still doing my BFRB which gets worse with stress. It didn't help that I visited relatives who tested positive for covid. Then I felt like I couldn't breath (cue somatic OCD). I could barely open my mouth or move my tongue without wanting to cry.

I googled tooth abscess from injury.

Intrusive thought "What if you already have an infection? Can it spread to your brain in days? Hours? Is it covid or a tooth infection? You should probably go to the doctor."

Google. Google. Google. Google.

Somehow made it to near the end of my shift. Google again.

Intrusive thought "What if it's really bad? What if you become septic? WHAT IF YOU DIE IN YOUR SLEEP TONIGHT?! GO TO THE DOCTOR."

Made it within ten minutes of closing. Covid negative. Extreme guilt for making the doctors stay late. The damage I did to my gum was bad. I broke down about my OCD. They prescribed me medicine which I hate (iykyk), but I'll take it if it means I get any sort of relief.

Long story short, I was also given antibiotics...to prevent developing a tooth infection...which would have never happened if I didn't obsess over the fear of developing a tooth infection.

Remind me again why anyone wants this? I'm drinking smoothies and soup from a straw until it heals. And when it does heal, I have a fear of anything solid getting into my gum now. I don't want to eat. How is this quirky???

I'm pissed. I'm angry. I want to die (lucky for me I won't because my fear of dying). But you can research the suicide rates. Fuck OCD.

Also, if you do have a certain view, it's not too late to educate yourself about any mental illness, neurodevelopmental disorders, personality disorders. Even if you're already on the band wagon. It's okay to say I was wrong (I've done it before).

[star-trek-fandom-confessions]

#1027

Personally I believe that a future as depicted in star trek where equal rights are guaranteed (utopian that is) will come about due to technological advances. Currently an individual who has a disability and/or disorder is usually dependent on other people who have to accommodate, support, care etc. Even the systems that we have like disability benefits, social services etc are still dependent on people. This is where most discrimination comes from because it gives other people the power to dictate our lives. Even well meaning people get compassion fatigue, caregivers burn out, not to mention the truly ill willed jerks who love to abuse the disable purely because they can. I envision technology to replace all that. Like Geordi in TNG has to depend on no one! He is completely independent because of the technology they have in future. And this is not just for physical disabilities but neurodivergent ones too. We will have adhd friendly personal androids who will help us with stuff we struggle with. Dyslexia won’t be an issue because information will be available to in different formats and if one has difficulty reading then they simply won’t have to. And no one else needs to know! Maybe we can have smart-glasses that will scan the environment and read body language and give a discrete signal to an autistic person who then has all the knowledge needed to react in a social situation. Doesn’t mean we have to behave like neurotypical but rather we will have a choice!! This choice is important. Autism won’t be a challenge if there was no more trying to fit a ‘square peg in a circle’ issue. All the positive things that neurodivergent and disabled folks brings will be truly seen and celebrated.