#dating and being polyamorous

[bandtrees]

they would get divorced in one universe just to find eachother in another one

alternatively titled: sometimes you're the level-headed token flesh-head impulse-control-and-polycule-member of a stubborn, eccentric, and hearty telephone-headed drug addict, and there's cruelty in the world you deem fit to suicidally fight, and that either goes about as well as you'd expect it to, or you learn about love and the value of your life and junk along the way

[isogenderskitty]

people who’ve only seen hatchetfield: starkid has like practically no gay characters :/

the avp trilogy which has been sitting right there for probably most of their lives and is the foundation of everything:

plus these less explicit more headcanony (but like, BARELY) examples that i really think are worth mentioning as well, i have receipts don’t tempt me i will literally make an entire video about this stuff (and i might actually):

[rustchild]

not to do discourse or anything. but one of the things that is very funny to me about the whole "soft fantasy escapism world with no homophobia" trend is that they all wind up looking the same, while books that genuinely seriously engage with the ways in which queer people respond to repression are more likely to go in wildly divergent specific directions. The response to stories that uncritically replicated modern models of homophobia in settings where they made no sense was to uncritically replicate models of queer 'normalcy' in settings where they make no sense. whereas actually engaging with the nuances of living in those systems gives you access to the wide variety of specific experience that exists in real life. something here also about how writers in the imperial core attempt to imagine a world without the colonial spread of homophobia as a tool of empire but don't actually know anything about the diversity of sexual and gender structures that exists in pre-, post-, and noncolonial communities. and so have a thing that their settings Aren't, but not a thing that they Are

[kedicatt-cotl]

Did lamb become monogamous after marrying Narinder

I don't think that one can just "become monogamous", can they..?

Anyway, the facts are, Lamb is in a monogamous relationship with Narinder and he doesn't plan to change that. He is content with his current relationship and he doesn't need anyone else to date.

[doubledyke]

i know it's probably a bad idea to date someone based on a shared hyperfixation but i really wanna date someone based on a shared hyperfixation

[transrevolutions]

left: alec seward (gay) - right: selene valent (bisexual) - centre: creed seward (a little confused but he got the spirit)

(redraw of this from 2022)

@lorata

[massiveladycat]

me asf with nick davis

[bugbrews-creations]

Covel Hardy! 3/4, my favorite moron.

Having went from dreaming of being a professional fighter to working in mechanics, Covel's doing her absolute best with what she's been given.

She's Pursival's best friend, and they've been by eachother's sides for literal years. They are in fact extremely queerplatonic, thank you LMAO

She essentially dragged herself along on the adventure to be sure Pursival is alright, and she doesn't get why he seems so antsy about Varna being involved. Though that might just be her being a bit of a fan.

She's a bit impulsive and wreckless, but she's probably the most loyal and diehard friend you'll ever have.

(I was a bit lazy with her cane, so rest assured, her cane will get a proper reference image when I do Varna's arm!)

[timaeusterrored]

Great now my polyamorous V brain is on fire.

[orange-dreamzer]

Yeah no sorry everyone actually the MLP Mane 6 are dating. And twilight is also dating each princess too. And rarity yes she's also dating spike. Yes sunset, Starlight and Trixie are also in this poly. Sorry I had to tell you like this but it's true.

[gestippeldedieseltreinworm]

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[aro-ortega]

i think it would be funny if in the future daniel + julia try to convince sasja to give polyamory/them as a throuple a shot

[dangerousbithespian]

guys sometimes I don’t realize how complicated queer inter friend group relationships can be actually 😭😭

[valentines-for-a-dyke]

Censoring Your Own Identity

I had the realization that even on this website, a much more open place when it comes to queer identity compared to say, instagram or tiktok, I still censor and water down my own identity to be palatable to not cishets, but to other queer people.

There's an underlying thought constantly, when I talk about myself, that I will be taken less seriously if I am open about my real sexuality and gender identity experiences. That if my identity is "wrong" in some way, then my opinion will be disregarded as wrong regardless of any validity it might hold.

I've always been outside the "norm" for lgbt+ identity, a little too queer to be okay with the people around me, even though the groups around me have changed too. Being nondysphoric when I identified solely as a trans man, using too many niche labels or strange pronouns, and now, for my sexuality being too complex, too strange, "harmful", as a bisexual lesbian. I've always been the out group, the one that someone can point to and go "well look at this one, i'm not this kind of queer so I'm valid!"

Validity as a way to justify queer existence has always rubbed me the wrong way. We shouldn't have to be a "valid" type of queer for our opinions and identities to be taken seriously. I've seen the word weaponized to exclude people from our community far too often.

Anyways. To make what would probably end up as a far longer ramble way shorter. I think it should not have to be a fear, that being a "strange" member of the community will make you less accepted by the rest of it. And also that someone's opinions on things shouldn't be disregarded because of them having an identity you disagree with.

[ghostlystrangers]

i really thought my ex was like the one so i was willing to put up with anything if it meant i could be with them

[streetsandsodiumlights]

(tags from @no-1-rosalind-lang-apologist)

By the way "some aroace people still date and have sex" and "it's weird how internet spaces makes every single aroace character romance and sex favourable" can and should co-exist. Sincerely, an aroace person