#cw: terfs

[sephiramy]

I have noticed a few followers drop off after my last couple reblogs, and I assume it is porn bots being cleared out, but on the slim chance these are TERFs seeing the rb's and vacating, I have the same message as always that can maybe help clear out the rest of you shitheads:

TERFs can fully fuck off

all my love to my trans friends & followers

[broodsys]

been on the fence about saying this. don't really want to become a politicized blog, but still, i think it's worth mentioning

but over the last few years, i've been noticing a trend - just personally noticing, i'm not saying it's exclusive to the last few years bc i doubt it is - about leftist people becoming radicalized in ways rooted in exclusivity

and the thing is, this happens. propaganda works. exposure to ideas works. and then, once the beliefs begin to take root, there's a reactiveness there, a defensiveness, that becomes harder and harder to get around. i say this as someone who's been there, and is really determined to never return. but it takes intention

so, one thing i've been seeing a lot of since the election is a wave of hating all men. i get it. really, i do. but i am here to gently, compassionately remind ppl that this is the exact opening te/rfs look for. this is their in. they'll like your posts about hating men. they'll establish a connection, a rapport

some other points about the All Men Are Awful Monsters discourse:

harms trans men, like myself. contributes to us feeling like accepting the gender we are is harmful, damaging, etc. makes us more likely to stay in the closet. also works to exclude trans men - especially those who pass - from queer spaces

speaking personally, when ppl seem to accept the fact that i'm a man but turn around and disparage all men, i feel like they view me as a woman-turned-man, or a Man Lite, or something else along those lines. i'm not! i'm just a guy.

harms trans women. whether through arguments of "male socialization," or considering the penis to be a tool of violence rather than just genitalia, or through only accepting them provisionally, if they're feminine enough, if they pass enough, etc

harms all trans people, including nonbinary people, because it demonizes the role of masculinity; whether that's a past role for them, or a present role, or a partial/sometimes role, or something else entirely

harms disabled men, neurodivergent men, queer men, POC men, etc.

specifically works to support some really heinous stereotypes about certain groups of men, like Black men

and also

makes men - including cishet, white, able-bodied men, privileged men - less likely to escape their own radicalization. i don't expect this point to matter to everyone, but if any of your personal activism work revolves around deradicalization, i think this has to be one of your tenets

and none of this is to say:

that you have to admire or forgive men who do bad things

that you have to forgive men who have abused you or others

that you have to accept patriarchy

that you cannot speak of your own abuse or struggles

that you must, personally, guide every man to what is "right"

that you cannot point out things like how western men have voted in the recent election

it's really just about questioning the "all men" phrasing. i understand where it's coming from. i get the pushback against the "not all men" argument, i really do. i sympathize with the frustrations. but anytime you take a whole entire demographic and label them in one way, you are limiting your own perspective, whether that's your intent or not

the language we use matters. that includes the language we use in our own thoughts. repetition creates pathways, pathways become familiar routes, familiar routes become ingrained, and ingrained routes become very, very difficult to question. yes, you know that your "all men" is really just saying "all men who do bad things," but brains are silly. all men can eventually come to mean all men. all of them. forever. and even if that wasn't true, your "all men" might mean "all men who do bad things," but you'll draw in people who think you literally mean every single man

i'm not trying to shame anyone. i'm not trying to start an argument. i'm just saying, from experience, that this is something to be aware of. and even if the potential harm to men and trans people doesn't really matter to you, i'd hope that most of the people following me don't want to be sought after for recruitment by te/rfs, so that's something to keep in mind

[mxamalgam]

I hope JK Rowling writes some more Harry Potter stuff. Not because I want to read it, but because I know it'll be some shit like Hermione finds out about trans women and uses a time turner to go back in time to prevent women from gaining the right to vote so they think twice about legally changing their gender and I want to see potterheads panic as they try to reconcile their decency with this.

[andyinmiddleearth]

Oh no it’s the end of the entire world . You called me a man. Yawn? You forget normal people don’t give a fuck what you call them? She knows my views and loves me for it. You people are the reason gay acceptance has gone down. Also, my fiancé would never date a transbian, ya know, bc she’s a L E S B I A N.

Ah yes, we are the reason gay people aren’t accepted instead of actual violent homophobes and conservative lawmakers /s. You do know Black and brown trans women (Marsha and Sylvia) gave you your rights right? Oh wait, you don’t, because you’re a filthy TERF that all she knows how to do is talk about how much she loves pussy because she’s a cissexist misogynist that reduces women to their body parts. Fuck you and fuck your fiancé, and take the names of my lesbian trans sisters and siblings out of your mouth. Trans lesbians are lesbians and many cis lesbians date them. You’re not a real lesbian because lesbians are attracted to women and non-men or at least support transfemmes if they aren’t attracted to them. You’re just attracted to genitalia because you view women as walking vaginas.

Anyways, just know they won’t stop at trans and non-binary people. Once they have completed the last stage of trans genocide, they’re coming for you too, and you’re digging your own tomb by aligning yourself with the alt-right simply because you don’t want people like me to exist. It’s your funeral, so go right ahead, but don’t you turn crying to the trans community when your rights are stripped away, (spoiler alert: they already have been). There is no LGB without the TQIA+. Without the T your mere existence would still be illegal today, so sit the fuck down and put some respect into the names of the women that fought for your gay liberation so you can pull a JK Rowling and cry with your white woman tears (I’m assuming you’re white because most TERFs are, because they are both racist and transphobic, because the gender binary and transphobia are intrinsically link with colonization, racism, and anti-Blackness).

[thumperdaetime]

ive been doing alot of blocking of terfs recently (i took a break for a bit but recently i noticed a few popping up in my feed). i don't often have deep thoughts about their content, i read enough posts to mark with the sashimi* eyes web addon as anti-trans and then i move on.

but as someone who has said the words 'picking people by gender is like trying to pick a partner by hair color" to describe why i identify as pan. its buck wild how much they care about gender. they're out there right now making post like: "Men just looove to eat cake 😡😡😡" and its so hard not to be like "yeah... everyone loves to eat cake. except for the people who don't. why'd you say men? you'd have a better time dividing people into gluten tolerant/intolerant if you want to find a biological group that has a preference one way or the other."

from my perspective it feels alot like when someone learned a new way to label things recently and now wants to shoehorn the concept into everything. Like if your little cousin came home from school saying "ummm so is dinner going to be Qualitative or Quantitative tonight?" and now you have to figure out an answer.

*its not called that. but the post will disappear if i google it. i think its a monster from deathnote?? like the juggalo demon who comes with the titular book?? but i haven't watched the series and only found the application from trans circles, and my brain is not built for spelling in any-language im sorry.

[agendercryptidlev]

We need to talk more about the transmasculine suicide rate.

There's a common saying that every transgender suicide is a murder, because it is the lack of acceptance in society that leads transgender individuals to commit suicide at such a high rate, this is true of trans men who have the highest suicide rate across all gender identities:

[image ID: a stylized graph depicting the percentages of considering & attempted suicide for different gender experiences.

Cisgender boy/man: 28% considered suicide, 8% attempted suicide

Cisgender girl/woman: 37% considered suicide, 10% attempted suicide

Transgender boy/man: 59% considered suicide, 22% attempted suicide

Transgender girl/woman: 48% considered suicide, 12% attempted suicide

Nonbinary/genderqueer: 53% considered suicide, 19% attempted suicide

Questioning: 48% considered suicide, 14% attempted suicide

end ID] ID by @tstomboy

Trans men are not receiving the support they need, and many of them are not surviving because of this. We need to make sure that mental health support and suicide for transgender individuals is as inclusive as possible for these transgender men who are at the highest risk.

We need to ensure trans men feel safe and welcome within the queer community as isolation is one of the more exacerbating factors on one's mental health. We need to make sure resources for victims of sexual violence are inclusive of transmasculine individuals, who face the highest rate of sexual abuse and yet often have to recloset themselves to find support. We have to love trans men because society shows them nothing but hate.

Check in with the trans men in your community, you may just save a life.

[iwantthatdickgrayson]

Always find it funny how terfs on here refer to trans-supportive people as “gendies” because no matter how seriously they try to write everything else it always sounds like theyre getting mad over a plate of chicken tenders

[random-thought-depository]

Not up for responding to this whole thing right now, but:

"Just as a person cannot change their ethnicity, skin color, they cannot change their sex. One consequence of implying that they can is that you are arguing that they are actively choosing their oppression, because why? Because they love conforming to gender stereotypes?"

As a trans-accepting person, I'd say ethnicity and race are really obviously even faker than gender!

Like, quick, do white Hispanics have "PoC" status or not? Are people from Liberia, Kenya, and Zimbabwe the same race? Is a person with a white British mother and a Kenyan father "black" or "mixed-race" or "half Kenyan, which is a totally different thing from most American blacks"? Is a person with one black grandparent and three white grandparents "black" or "white" or "mixed race," and does the answer change depending on their physical appearance? Is a person with Jewish matrilineal ancestry who was adopted by a Christian family as an infant and raised Christian meaningfully Jewish or not? There's no one right answer to these questions, because this stuff is socially constructed; all these questions only kinda-sorta have right answers in the context of culture-specific systems of race and ethnicity.

When I was in college my professor had us read two novellas (one of them was Nella Larsen's Passing, I forget the title of the other one) about people in the early twentieth century who looked white but had some black ancestry. By the "one drop rule" racial standards prevailing at the time these people were considered black and they had a consciousness of themselves as that, but because they looked white they were able to "pass" for white, to mostly exist socially as white when that was useful to them, and through that they had the option of escaping a lot of the racism directed at "obviously black" people. They had considerable personal angst about this. These were fictional characters, but the fiction was gesturing at a real social phenomenon.

All the "biological sex not real" arguments apply much harder to race.

And relatedly, religious minorities "actively choose their own oppression" all the time, in the sense that they might be treated better if they converted to the majority religion of their society but they choose to not do that because they, y'know, actually believe in their own religion.

If you look at the history of antisemitism it's pretty common to hear anecdotes about Jews being forced to choose between conversion to Christianity and death. I hope you agree that it would be ghoulish to react to that by saying "well, those Jews were choosing their own oppression, they could have escaped it by just converting to Christianity, so really it was no big deal."

I think my perspective on transness is influenced by noticing that gender and race are fake in the same kind of way; they're caste systems, and caste systems are mostly bad. Insofar as trans identities uphold gender, they seem to me like a very gender as aesthetic phenomenon, and gender as aesthetic is much less bad than gender as caste. Actually, I'd say trans identities disrupt the Western gender caste system, because the Western gender caste system (like the US white/black racial caste system) is built on keeping the castes socially and phenotypically distinct and has bio-essentialism as a major component of its legitimizing ideology; a caste system like that is threatened by anything that blurs the boundaries between the castes (which is why patriarchal traditionalists are the biggest haters and most enthusiastic persecutors of gender-variant people).

I mean, the real reason trans people should be allowed to transition is that they want to, it makes them happier, and it does little harm. My support for trans people isn't contingent on an idea that they're doing anti-patriarchal praxis; I oppose coercive gendering for the same reason I oppose compulsory monogamy, homophobia, persecution of religious minorities, and forcing left-handed children to write with their right hands; because these are sources of unnecessary suffering. "Let trans people transition" is to "make the world a better place" as "stop hitting yourself" is to "make your life better." But I get that a trans-exclusionary radfem doesn't see it that way, so maybe the gender as aesthetic vs. gender as caste concept and the observation that modern Western transgenderism seems mostly firmly on the "gender as aesthetic" side of that will be more persuasive to you.

Weird question of the day: so what is terfs’ actual endgame?

Like I know the middle game is “everyone identifies with their assigned sex and no one modifies their body in ways that alter secondary sex characteristics.” But then what?

They say they’re feminists, so that would imply the actual endgame isn’t just “the destruction of the transcult” but the end of patriarchy.

But how is everyone identifying with their asab and not modifying their body supposed to do that?

It’s very Underpants Gnomes.

Recruit trans people who doubt.

Destroy the transcult!

…..

End patriarchy!

?????

[cishetlessfashion]

Everyone on twitter is arguing against the terfs demonizing phalloplasty and top surgery by saying the scars fade and the flesh regrows over time, but has anyone considered that scars are cool and having huge, discolored, incredibly noticeable scars is based

[battlecrazed-axe-mage]

I bought the wizard game because all the troons were making a big fuss about it. jk rowling did nothing wrong.

Okay look, I need you to take a step back from yourself and your in-group and really see that message, because to a normal person it's nonsensical. I acknowledge that you are trying to insult me, but it's not hitting the mark because "troon" just sounds like something a scifi character would use as currency. This is like when incels were calling women "femoids" like that's supposed to mean something. Get better writers.

[txttletale]

terfs are so funny imagine thinking this reads like an epic fucking righteous screed and not like something someone would murmur to themselves while curled up on the floor in the fetal position crying

[unbonmot]

I love TERFs engaging with mpreg. Like gurl, you do not know what you are getting into.

[andyinmiddleearth]

I don’t need people in my dms bc I’m engaged to the woman of my dreams. I also don’t call women bitches, bc that’s misogynistic. I’m also a lesbian, so you can fuck off. I live in a reality that doesn’t care about your goddamn pronouns

Okay sir. Since you don’t care about pronouns then it’s okay for me to call you a man, right, sir? Manly he/him mister? You have such masculine energy, what a lad. You’re more of a man than cis men. You’re such a manly man wow. You are just one of the political lesbians that hates trans women and trans people overall, and you probably hate butches and women like Caster Semenya because y’all are racist AF. Also I hope your wife never comes out as trans or gender expansive, I feel bad for her and hopefully she dumps your toxic transmisogynistic ass and dates a transbian instead.

[shapelytimber]

Hello stranger and welcome, to my lesbian art master post

Tumblr gifted me a blaze, and I had no idea what to do with it for the longest time. But then it hit me... I could just repost every sapphic art I did in 2023. So enjoy !

Sith Milfs

Ikkons magazine cover illustration

My 50yo comic teacher doesn't know what lesbians are

Y2K Star wars with mean lesbian Maul

A taste of faith

Pussy adventure

A visit from the moth lady

Third animation of the vampire ladies

Girls night out !!

Wine wives

Bull cowgirl and magical cowboy

Butch Colombo having a divorce with a typewriter

Stand high lesbians

[PRINTS] - [COMMISSIONS]

Hey thank you for taking the time to scroll to the end ! It means a lot to me <3

[queerautism]

I saw this really fucking funny terf tumblr post being talked about on twitter and it's just so good. Just making a huge list of women you fucking hate but in a feminist way :)

[findingoblivion]

This reblog chain is full of terfs and idiots and perfectly illustrates why you don’t have to waste your time and respond to them. They aren’t going to change their mind and get better just because you respond to them with a solid argument. Not only do they not want to but they’ll always find something else to say. So if you don’t have the energy for a 3 hour long argument? That’s okay. It’s a good thing to educate but it’s up to them to educate as well and seek that out.

Can a professional do my makeup please. I want to feel beautiful Just once