#cookie consent examples

[adzapiers]

Busting the Top 5 Cookie Consent Myths 

There can be a lot of confusion surrounding cookie consent and what it entails. That’s because there are so many laws, both new and old that vary by geolocation.  

For instance, there’s the General Data Privacy Act (GDPR), the California Consumer Privacy Act (CCPA), the Virginia Consumer Data Protection Act (VCDPA), and many more.  

What’s even more confusing is that many of these laws are new or changing. Especially as 2023 begins, and even more states and countries are following suit in implementing regulations.  

With so much information flying around, it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing common myths about cookie consent. Don’t worry – we’re here to help! It’s time to roll up our sleeves, pull out our data privacy boxing gloves and bust some myths. Are you ready? 

Myth #1: My business only has to follow cookie consent laws where it’s located.  

Myth busted! If you collect or handle consumer data online, your business must follow laws from where your users are accessing the site.  

For instance, one example of cookie consent is if your business is located in Idaho, but you have customers in the EU, you must follow the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) rules. 

In the age of digital consumerism, it’s not possible to stop users from accessing your site, no matter where they reside. Cookie consent laws in the US may be different than in other regions. That’s why it’s so important to be compliant with local, national and global laws.  

Myth #2: Getting rid of third-party cookies will ruin my marketing strategy.  

Not a chance, buddy. In fact, your marketing strategy can be even stronger when you give your users a choice about whether or not to opt-in or opt-out of third-party cookies. Did you know that third-party cookies can be used, sold, and re-sold without you or your users’ knowledge?  

Once that data has been shared, it can go anywhere – and that’s a very scary thought for your users. When they have more control and information, they’re more likely to share selectively with companies they’re truly passionate about. We want your company to be one of those.  

A marketing strategy built on the idea of first-party or session cookies is a respectful way to approach data privacy and stay compliant without compromising your users’ data. It’ll still give you plenty of insights into what your users want and need, so you can tailor products and services to them individually.  

Myth #3: A cookie banner will ruin the customer experience on my website.  

In the past, cookie consent banners were clunky and blocked a lot of text. Oftentimes, they weren’t optimized for mobile, and their policies were unclear. Even now, some cookie banners that haven’t been updated still have the same propensity for those flaws.  

But, good news! It doesn’t have to be that way. Cookie banners are becoming more intuitive. They no longer have to obstruct your page or shut users out of viewing content. They can be customized to seamlessly blend with the design of your website. Users will have the luxury of choice and your business will be in compliance and stay out of trouble with the law.  

Myth #4: If customers don’t use the cookie banner, my business can collect all of the cookies. 

No! That’s simply not true. You can’t guarantee that a user will interact with your cookie banner, but you can take measures to ensure that your business is still in compliance. That’s where automated cookie blocking comes in.  

Automated cookie blocking means that if a user does not interact with your cookie banner, all but essential cookies will be blocked until the user accepts or declines cookies.  

Some of the reasons why people choose not to interact with a cookie banner might be:  

The Privacy Policy is too long or confusing 

They’re visiting the site quickly and don’t want to set preferences 

The cookie banner isn’t visible enough and/or has confusing CTAs 

Making a cookie banner an integral part of your site experience comes down to good UX, design, and common sense. The more your customers know, and the simpler a cookie banner is to understand, the more likely they are to use it.  

Myth #5: Declining all cookies will block access to my website.   

Just like accepting all cookies doesn’t give users special privileges on your website, declining all cookies shouldn’t block them from browsing. In fact, it’s against the law to block users from accessing your site simply because they declined cookies. Yes, their experience will be less personalized – but that’s their choice!  

Remember, obtaining consent from a clear, easy-to-read cookie banner is a fantastic way to earn customer trust and stay within the law.  

Final take:  

There are a lot of myths surrounding cookie consent, but by educating yourself about them, you can take advantage of the many ways that data privacy laws around the world can benefit your users, and your business.  

At Adzapier, we offer a robust cookie management solution that will give you all the tools you need to stay within compliance, both locally and globally, and respect your end users’ privacy.  

Schedule a free demo with one of our privacy experts today to see just how easy it is! Then, sign up for a 14-day free trial.  

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[all-the-fish]

Oh, you know, just the usual internet browsing experience in the year of 2024

Some links and explanations since I figured it might be useful to some people, and writing down stuff is nice.

First of all, get Firefox. Yes, it has apps for Android/iOS too. It allows more extensions and customization (except the iOS version), it tracks less, the company has a less shitty attitude about things. Currently all the other alternatives are variations of Chromium, which means no matter how degoogled they supposedly are, Google has almost a monopoly on web browsing and that's not great. Basically they can introduce extremely user unfriendly updates and there's nothing forcing them to not do it, and nowhere for people to escape to. Current examples of their suggested updates are disabling/severly limiting adblocks in June 2024, and this great suggestion to force sites to verify "web environment integrity" ("oh you don't run a version of chromium we approve, such as the one that runs working adblocks? no web for you.").

uBlockOrigin - barely needs any explanation but yes, it works. You can whitelist whatever you want to support through displaying ads. You can also easily "adblock" site elements that annoy you. "Please log in" notice that won't go away? Important news tm sidebar that gives you sensory overload? Bye.

Dark Reader - a site you use has no dark mode? Now it has. Fairly customizable, also has some basic options for visually impaired people.

SponsorBlock for YouTube - highlights/skips (you choose) sponsored bits in the videos based on user submissions, and a few other things people often skip ("pls like and subscribe!"). A bit more controversial than normal adblock since the creators get some decent money from this, but also a lot of the big sponsors are kinda scummy and offer inferior product for superior price (or try to sell you a star jpg land ownership in Scotland to become a lord), so hearing an ad for that for the 20th time is kinda annoying. But also some creators make their sponsored segments hilarious.

Privacy Badger (and Ghostery I suppose) - I'm not actually sure how needed these are with uBlock and Firefox set to block any tracking it can, but that's basically what it does. Find someone more educated on this topic than me for more info.

Https Everywhere - I... can't actually find the extension anymore, also Firefox has this as an option in its settings now, so this is probably obsolete, whoops.

Facebook Container - also comes with Firefox by default I think. Keeps FB from snooping around outside of FB. It does that a lot, even if you don't have an account.

WebP / Avif image converter - have you ever saved an image and then discovered you can't view it, because it's WebP/Avif? You can now save it as a jpg.

YouTube Search Fixer - have you noticed that youtube search has been even worse than usual lately, with inserting all those unrelated videos into your search results? This fixes that. Also has an option to force shorts to play in the normal video window.

Consent-O-Matic - automatically rejects cookies/gdpr consent forms. While automated, you might still get a second or two of flashing popups being yeeted.

XKit Rewritten - current most up to date "variation "fork" of XKit I think? Has settings in extension settings instead of an extra tumblr button. As long as you get over the new dash layout current tumblr is kinda fine tbh, so this isn't as important as in the past, but still nice. I mostly use it to hide some visual bloat and mark posts on the dash I've already seen.

YouTube NonStop - do you want to punch youtube every time it pauses a video to check if you're still there? This saves your fists.

uBlacklist - blacklists sites from your search results. Obviously has a lot of different uses, but I use it to hide ai generated stuff from image search results. Here's a site list for that.

Redirect AMP to HTML - redirects links from their amp version to the normal version. Amp link is a version of a site made faster and more accessible for phones by Bing/Google. Good in theory, but lets search engines prefer some pages to others (that don't have an amp version), and afaik takes traffic from the original page too. Here's some more reading about why it's an issue, I don't think I can make a good tl;dr on this.

Also since I used this in the tags, here's some reading about enshittification and why the current mainstream internet/services kinda suck.

[myrtles-and-blood]

hi i'm not really all that new to this sort of thing but i keep seeing people use the term "deity work" and i don't exactly understand what it means? like what is it, what does it entail, how is it different from deity worship? could you explain? thank you so much

Hello! I'll explain it as best as I can, so if anyone sees something out of place go ahead and correct me! Other people have answered this before here, I recommend looking into those posts as well.

What does Deity Work even mean?

Let's say this is a giving-receiving relationship you have with a deity. I'll talk about my case as an example:

I started my worship with Lucifer, right? We talked, I gave him offerings, etc. Before I did a reading with him I noticed the responses were not like he usually responds. You know, the energies were off. The thing is I ended up landing that deity was Beelzebub just checking on what I do. I asked Lucifer and he said "Yeah I told him about you, he's nice and he wants to work with you".

"Why would a deity want me to work with him? That's weird, I don't think I have anything interesting here" Well I did have something interesting: I was (and still am) extremely disorganised and I cannot concentrate on my studies. He is The Lord of the Flies™, yes, but he also can help people with management in business and working efficiently. So seeing me was like if you saw a stray cat doing the stupidest thing it can do to get food and going "Yeah I want one of those".

After we did a reading clearing up everything and what we'll do in this working relationship, we just started. What I do currently is light his candle every time I have to study and it works wonders because I can actually concentrate. I don't know how he does it, but it's really cool. Studying and anything I find with bugs in it (related to bugs, I'm not giving him a dead bug) I give it to him. In exchange he gives me concentration and some advice to organise my studying sessions while supervising them.

This was not me just telling a story, I want you to see how it can start and how it progresses:

That deity might come on its own or maybe another deity told them about you (Hermes is the god of "I know a guy" so he does that often)

They don't choose you like "You are the chosen favourite of God", it's not that serious. They just like what you're about and probably think they have the solution to that specific problem, just like stray cats lol.

In exchange for prayers and offerings they can give you advice and guidance through a problem. Depends on your dynamic with them, the problem that you have, etc., so it can look very different depending on the person and deity of course.

They can ask you to start this working relationship OR you can approach them! Much like I did with Aphrodite, and it's amazing, so I encourage you to ask instead of waiting for someone to pop up.

Also, the fact that they want to work with you does not mean you want to do so, you know? You can always turn down an offer. With Beelzebub I told him that I did want to work with him, but it wasn't the best moment, so we delayed it! Again, depends on every situation. This means they can turn down your offer if you wanna work with them too! It's just Consent 101.

How is this any different from Deity Worship?

Worshipping a deity is more like "I love what you do please take this cookie and keep up the good work" in my humble opinion.

Maybe you live by the sea and do horse riding, that means you'll probably like Poseidon and worshipping him is a way of thanking him for all those things you like. Maybe you are the absolute worst at studies and owls scare the shit out of you, but Athena is your girl because you like her and that's it. It's like having a friend who you share hobbies with or not, but you love them and give them stuff that you know they like even if you aren't really into it (I'm not telling you to go find owls for Athena, but maybe give them a cute figurine of an owl like "I hate that, that's not my thing, but it's your thing so here you go")

I am NOT good at sports. But Ares and I are close and I like him very much, my good time boy. We still have things in common and sometimes I'll tell him "I will do two push ups for you my guy, just for you" and I instantly fall flat to the ground not even finishing the first one, but the intention is what counts. He's probably not very fond of rocks but if I find some for my collection and start rambling he will probably go "I don't know what the fuck you're on about but looks cool".

THE POINT IS, worship is honouring what that deity does, and working is wanting to collaborate with them to get to a goal that relates to what they do. I personally won't recommend Dionysus if you want to get a raise at your law firm, but who knows, maybe he helps you pick the perfect wine for a work dinner to get your boss to like you as a small treat lol.

Working needs worship, but worship does not need working. Just clarifying.

If you lose your glasses and ask Hermes to help you find them quickly because you're getting dizzy does not mean you're instantly working with him. It's a small favour, that's common in deity worship. But deity work requires a process. I think it's meant for a long term goal. You won't ask Hermes to work with you just to find your glasses, but you probably want to work with him to learn French, you know?

I hope I cleared things up. I did as best as I could, that's how I practice my stuff. Again, if you feel like adding information and/or pointing out something that's not correct, you're free to do so with respect!

Anon, I hope I cleared your confusion even after beating around the bush so much lol. 🫶🏻

[pekoposting]

Sorry same anon as Peko’s upbringing, one more ask! Do you have red flags you don’t like seeing in Peko fanfiction?

That's fine! I was about to go to sleep anyways haha

It's mainly the common misconceptions of her character (here are the first ones that come to mind):

Pekoyama being depicted as not having a personality/interests (she. she has likes and dislikes listed on her e-handbook page)

Pekoyama not being able to have interests that differ from Kuzuryuu (Pekoyama's 'dislike' on her e-handbook page (sweets) goes against Kuzuryuu's 'like' on his! (karintou / fried dough cookies)

Pekoyama readily trying to murder people for little reason, most commonly her suggesting to Kuzuryuu if she should take someone out when they have not done anything extreme enough to warrant it, e.g. trying to take Kuzuryuu's life (she states in her FTEs she has a philosophy of 'no violence unless necessary', and while her perception of 'necessary' is a bit skewed, it's not incredibly skewed)

Pekoyama getting over her tool mindset a little too quickly, usually for the sake of getting Kuzupeko together quick without having to address things like consent issues (yes I know in her Island Mode ending she starts abandoning her tool mindset after making one (1) new friend, but deeper stuff, like most prominently for this example, being reinforced all her life to carry out Kuzuryuu's wishes will take some time to unlearn)

Pekoyama calling Kuzuryuu 'Young Master' while they're dating.

Pekoyama's speech pattern not being in character

Pekoyama being depicted as not feeling guilt over murdering Koizumi

I've only seen this once but Pekoyama being unskilled at fighting?? it wasn't in an AU where she wasn't trained to be a swordfighter from birth but she is literally the Ultimate Swordswoman what the heck

[dawnthefox24]

Alright headcanon time!!! Because I'm bored and my brain is jelly and my damn knees are acting up when it gets cold but anyways my brain is itchin and well it's time for the headcanons!

Trigger warning in advance SENSITIVE TOPICS: CONTAINS ED (You have been warned!)

"Peri" Periwinkle Fairywinkle Cosma

Like I said he has joint pains in his knees it usually gets worse when winter hits causing it to flare/tighten up and ache as well.

Has crooked teeth, just uses magic to make them straight. (Because I have crooked teeth too, never had braces in my life and I like my teeth)

Hates needles and has gotten into a physical altercation with a doctor and won.

Loves his parents truly, but sometimes they get on his nerves, but again he still loves them.

Stutters when he gets excited, he get stuck on the same word without realising it/gets mad when he can't get the word right. (Cosmo and Wand find it adorable)

Easily gets cold when winter hits.

Still cares for Dev and will do anything to become his godparent again, even if it means he has to go against Da rules and Jorgen.

Tends to have small out bursts of anxiety tremors, which annoys the hell out of him. (usually when it comes to drinks because he can't hold them without spilling anything plus using chopsticks so he sticks with a fork)

Had no idea he was autistic.

When he gets mad he cries.

ED (bulimia), it used to be sever but he learn how to maintain it though it'll come and go once in awhile. Though sometimes certain foods can trigger it.

Some certain smells makes him ill/nauseous which can trigger his ED.

Is addict to coffee.

Hates maintaining his hair.

Enjoys writing in his spare time when he has nothing else to do.

Bi-Demi King.(I will die on this hill btw)

Speaks Italian, thanks to his momma and Big Daddy teaching him.

Still has his Timmy doll which he still keeps since he misses Timmy.

Has a major sweet tooth, but has a cookie stash that he keeps.

Can wear almost anything from suits to the prettiest of dresses!

Lives in a consent state of anxiety.

Like's being called Peri-Weri but not the company of others because it's embarrassing.

Book nerd a huge major book nerd. Like's fantasy/Sci-fi and romance.

Still keeps in contact with Goldie and Sammy.

Anime fan/Manga enjoyer.

Plays the violin and flute.

Has social anxiety when people come up to him, he gets awkward as he tries to find an excuse to leave/disengage the conversation.

Has Thalassophobia and Trypanophobia.(that's it cause fuck the ocean and fuck needles if I have it he can have it too...)

His ears turn red when he gets flustered/embarrassed.

Dated Irep. (They have an on and off relationship sue me!)

Will never ever stop being impressed by the fact that Irep plays the piano.

Went through a rebel/goth phase in his teens.

Sleeps like a cat, whenever he finds something comfy he would be out like a light.

Knows how to sew, he learned how to sew when his Timmy doll started to wear and tear.

Wants to learn how to waltz but is a bit to nervous and honestly he can't dance well.

Has dyslexia when it comes to writing.

He's ambidextrous.

His love language is sometimes physical touch,gift giving, and words of affirmation also sweets is his love language as well. (mainly chocolate)

He still hates theatre.

Knows the phonetic alphabet and how to say his name in it because Jorgen taught him.

Easily catches colds/prone to getting sick.

Tends to fidgets things in his hands without realising it, since it keeps him simulated.

Cried to his parents when Timmy had to get his memories wiped when Timmy became of age so he wouldn't remember all the time he had with his brother.

Knows how to knit and crochet, but prefers knitting.

When he gets scared his fight or flight response kicks in, it always flight.(Sometimes it's usually fight or freeze)

Isn't a fan of horror movies.

Moth squeaks, he squeaks like a moth when mad. (here's the example also Irep made fun of him for that)

Has used Irep's wings to hide his face when scared/embarrassed.

Had his hands/fingers turned blue at one point and he had no idea why they turned blue but it caused everyone to panic because that was the first stage of frostbite/he had no blood flowing through his fingers. Jorgen and Wanda had to warm up his hands to get the blood flowing.(This is a very true story btw since I was like huh thats a problem)

Drinks hot drinks in the winter and drinks cold drinks in the summer.

Doesn't drink alcohol, because the last time he drank it was a nightmare and he's a lightweight he wishes not to talk about it.

Wants to own a pet rat.

Trembles and Shakes when cold/get's random burst of anxiety.

Loves fruits mainly cantaloupe & mangos.

Is a bit chubby.

Hates the smell of fish. Living in a fishbowl for awhile made him hate the smell of fish.

Doesn't like the dark.

Knows how to write and read cursive.

Has gotten nosebleeds randomly from time to time but so far it has died down . (projecting a little bit on to him)

Tends to overthink things, like a lot.

Once laughed so hard he started crying because he heard Irep say the most morbid/dirtiest joke and he wouldn't stop laughing.(it caused a chain reaction because everyone else started laughing as well)

Has Dyshidrotic eczema (blisters)mainly on his hands and fingers which is easily triggered when he gets extremely stressed out.

Always have to prop his legs up whenever his knees ache/flare up if he has to cross his legs from time to time.(Yes I do this irl because of my damn knees)

Will never EVER forget when his knee's cracked when he was in gym class had to sit down for the first time and the teacher yelled out "this is why we stretched before hand". He was about to cry when that happen.(Yes this happen to me as well and I almost did cry)

Enjoys the early 2000's rock songs. (from this post)

Will never admit this but he enjoys being carried around whenever his knees would flare up during the winter.

Is an empath and hates it from time to time as he gets overwhelmed.

Has stretch marks.

He may or may not have a *cough*fangkink*cough* (Who said that!? who said that!?)

Owns a colouring book because he finds it relaxing.

Enjoys eating dino nuggies.

Is a theorist and lore enjoyer, because he finds it fun and also interesting.

[princescribbler]

YOUR DYNAMIC IS YOUR DYNAMIC: IT DOESN'T NEED TO FIT ANYONE ELSE"S IDEAS!

(Pre-emptive content warning: discussions of depression, fetishism, ABDL, D/s, fairly extreme Ageplay and regression dynamics, and broader power exchange dynamics)

It's often hard to explain to people what my kink dynamic looks like with my fiance/ partner/ mommy-domme @giggle-byte. Am I her little? Yes. 24/7 diapers? Absolutely. Do I wear a chastity cage most days, and follow detailed routines and rules? ABSOLUTELY! So do I feel like she's the only one in charge, I'm this completely regressed and controlled 'slave', and we're 24/7 D/s? Absolutely not, and I'll try to explain why a bit further below. But also... kind of yes? But not in the way people seem to think!

See, I've been into forced regression, unpotty training, pretty intense ABDL and MD/lb things for as long as I can recall. Heck, most of my dating history I was the daddy domme like 70% of the time or more, instead of like 10-15% in my current dynamic. So finding a full-time mommy-domme and lifelong kink partner would, in theory, result in extreme lifestyle changes. Sure, some happened...but nothing i didn't ask for, beg for, PLEAD for over years of my life. Nothing was done i didn't consent to, agree with, and even generally DESIRED to have! The point i'm trying to make is this: I expected a specific 'version' of what it meant to have a mommy-domme, and especially a 24/7 dynamic, and i was just...wrong! See, my dynamic is based on MY needs, not the ones my penis thinks of when it's hard, and not the ones i read about online. my needs are mine, and they don't necessarily MATCH the expectation online! So why bother getting my partner to give me detailed rules, give me structure, etc? because it WORKS FOR US, and IS WHAT I WANT! Why do I have a bedtime? Because i struggled with tiredness at work in the morning and thrive on routine. The chastity? Well, i had panic attacks around sex, and momma suggested at first it would take my mind off the idea of having to 'perform'. Soon, i liked the whole idea, the control, the teasing, the build up...but i also didn't like actually feeling denied, and frankly when we first started, i had a pretty low sex-drive....so weirdly, my amazing fiance @giggle-byte actually helped me 'regain' some of that sex drive, enjoy and embrace...via CHASTITY! And now, it's actually her who is the amazing, controlled, thoguhtful one who handles that for me. I can ask to lock, unlock, etc...but the truth is she knows what i can and can't cope with and gives it to me without me needing to ask! But it's NOT about denial...she unlocks me every day, with few exceptions. It's not about control: I have the key, a backup key, a third backup, even in play where i 'lock the key away' in a timer lock i genuinely can't get into...it's never off my keyring as a spare. The idea is the DYNAMIC is there...but the daily rules are more open, flexible, and based on our mutual desires and needs!

Every time we reassess our dynamic we run into this over and over. Too many online stories, too many fantasies, and not enough realistic reality or even modern and flexible dynamics crept into our expectations...and suddenly, we realized that we aren't doing a 24/7 ABDL and MD/lb (and switch DD/lg dynamic, though she's slightly more private about her little side) relationship the way anyone was expecting...but it was WORKING for us very well, DESPITE that?!

The point I'm trying to make is this; Your dynamic, relationship, and needs are YOURS and won't look like a cookie-cutter idea. For some people into MD/lb, they want chastity, denial, cock and ball torture, humiliation, degradation, and the like. For some, it's purely non-sexual, cute, and loving. For us...it's sometimes very flexible, but generally it's more focused on cuteness, structure, routine, and supporting us both in our mutually shared kinky desires!

To wrap this rant up: Let's go through a few quick examples of what the EXPECTATION of a dynamic like ours usually is, and then compare it to what MY relationship looks like. Expectation/archetype against the reality!

Chastity Expectation: to be locked, denied, teased, humiliated, left wanting and desperate or degraded or even cuckolded! My Dynamic/Chastity Reality: momma uses it like a sex toy, it's not required, it's a thing i only wear for a few hours most days, but i CAN feel the desire for more...and one wore it the better part of a month, without prior experience with that, and loved it!

Diapers 24/7 Expectation: Public humiliation against my will to forcibly infantilize, regress, and humiliate or control me! My Dynamic/Diaper Reality: It's my fucking kink, i CLEARLY enjoy it and momma helped me stop feeling ashamed and worried. in fact, it's not a profound comfort and sort of security-blanket.

Switch Relationship Expectation: To constantly swap roles, or to only stay in one role at a time, or to at the very least struggle with who is 'big' and who is 'little' at any given time. My Switch Reality: It's fluid, happens without a ton of effort (admittedly this took time to establish), i can be 'baby prince papi' while she's still my 'princess'...even if it's 'momma princess'. Our roles don't match the traditional expectations.

24/7 ABDL and MD/lb Expectation: A lifestyle of complete submission, regression, denial, control, humiliation, and sexual frustration in order to become more and more needy and desperate...Eventually usually implied to end in either permanent regression, cuckolding, etc. My 24/7 ABDL and MD/lb Reality: Basically just the fun parts of that, without sexual frustration, plus my sex drive went from 'once a week' to '3-5x a day' and has made me happier, healthier, more confident, cute, and self-accepting. Oh and i get all my kinky desires met, fulfill the love of my life's kinky fantasies, al while getting MORE sexy fun, MORE relaxation, and IMPROVED mental as well as physical well-being. You know...NOT what i was told I'd receive!

So fuck the idiots who demand you follow their idea of kink. Well, don't actually fuck them, they don't deserve it, but i mean....ignore and disregard them! You don't have to have a dynamic that fits any traditional guidelines, rules, etc. If you want to have a unique dynamic, CELEBRATE your uniqueness and finding someone who shares it with you! And for god's sake, don't expect each other to fulfil a role neither of you signed up for, ok? It's OK to have a fantasy and yet find the reality unpleasant, preferring to live in a gentler, nicer lifestyle. Give yourself permission to be unique, creative, and DEFINE your needs rather thna having them defined for you! I promise: it pays off in spades!

As always, stay happy, stay healthy, and stay kinky!

-Scribbler

[not-poignant]

Are Sebastian and Alex going to learn about bdsm and safe practices/negotiation? Or do they keep fumbling around and doing what they're doing?

Hi anon,

People who learn about BDSM don't necessarily practice safe practices or negotiation.

And there are elements of negotiation in this story! It's not a black and white 'they're not doing this in a paint-by-numbers sort of way and therefore it doesn't count' situation, y'know?

They are two characters in their mid-20s who live in a tiny town, one of those characters is dyslexic to the point that he can barely read, and the other's method of doing things has worked for him all his life (or so he thinks), they don't have any reason/s to learn about BDSM, and it's not likely that either of them ever will.

That also doesn't mean that they can't enjoy their kinky sex life.

There has been a lot of discussion already, and there will be more and more going forwards. It might not be at the level most people want, but Sebastian has certainly obtained consent (more than once), offered and then insisted on debriefs and post-sex discussion, explained to Alex how to communicate if he hates something, and made it clear that what he likes is unusual and sadistic in nature. It's also clear that Alex likes being pushed, i.e. - not being forced to give consent in every circumstance when someone can take control and give him what he wants anyway. That's actually pretty common in some people with a child abuse background who become people pleasers.

If you want negotiation + safe practices at a certain level, you'd have to completely remake Alex's character into someone who can magically be a functional, communicative, healthy human being, and he's not that. Alex is getting better at communicating (that's how we go this far in the story in the first place), but if you expect this story to end on Alex being a perfect human who can do Instagram-level kink negotiation, then no, this isn't the story you want, anon.

If you look deeper and don't expect cookie cutter kinds of dialogue, there has been ongoing negotiation in the story since the early chapters. When Alex makes it clear through physical response and then verbal that he doesn't like yelling, Sebastian stops yelling. When Sebastian makes it clear that he has complicated feelings about hiring his ex-school bully as a cleaner, Alex makes it clear that he doesn't share those complicated feelings, especially in light of the pay rate. Sebastian consenting to Alex being his cleaner makes it clear that those terms are acceptable to him.

When Alex tries to undervalue himself, Sebastian makes it clear that he's not comfortable paying someone less simply because they value themselves less. When Alex then takes that pay, it's a form of consent to Sebastian's attitudes. Their relationship has been an ongoing negotiation since the beginning, and that's how they've grown closer. If you're used to only looking for very obvious signs of negotiation, it might be easy to miss the non-verbal and subtle forms of negotiation that are happening.

For example, it might not seem like it, but Sebastian - many chapters ago now - talking about how he likes control in the bedroom and that turning Alex on long before they'd ever shared anything sexual together, is a form of communication. Alex learns he likes the idea of it without it ever been forced on him, and Sebastian wouldn't have that conversation with someone he didn't trust (for example, Alex in the beginning of the story). They had to have trust to have that conversation, Alex had to have trust to ask Sebastian questions about it in the oblique way he did, and they had to share a common comfortability have a conversation in that direction in the first place.

In A Stain that Won't Dissolve, these things don't look like a psychologist's version of: 'Okay, what do you want, and this is what I want, and here's where we meet in the middle' - a lot of life doesn't look like this (but if you want that, I've written that in Falling Falling Stars - it still has dubious consent though, lol). Both Alex and Sebastian have poor communication on their side, and it's a growth story for the two of them.

But no, I have no intention of Sebastian ever learning terms like 'subspace' or 'RACK' or anything like that. A lot of people in the world, especially prior to easy access to the internet, figured this stuff out on their own and many of them made it work even without the rigid or codified structures of the world of BDSM (and some of those people went on to invent the world of BDSM that we take for granted today).

It's the kinks that make you kinky, not the knowledge of an acronym or the world it engenders.

There's also no reason to think that Sebastian has access to a healthy education about BDSM there, it's not like Elliott was practicing much healthy BDSM in my other Stardew fic, The Wind that Cuts the Night, :D Elliott knew all about safe practices, negotiation, and BDSM, and chose to ignore a lot of the safe stuff over messing around more dangerously.

The fumbling around is the point, basically. Growing up is messy, and dubious consent is hot (for some of us), and there are many ways we communicate with the people around us, especially when it's two guys in a town the valourises machismo and stoicism over emotional openness, and one of those guys was beaten by his father over not being macho and strong enough which makes him exceptionally resistant to communicating clearly even about basic subjects and needs.

That's the part I actually really love about this story.

[doodlegirl1998]

Oh my god...

I just realized something about how some characters are treated, so I'm gonna quote Joshscorcher from one of his fails videos

"You aren't a person, you ARE a disability! You're not a human, you ARE a skin color! You're not alive, you ARE a checkbox!"

Doesn't that just fit some of the characters in BNHA to a T?

We got the crazy yandere! The hotheaded rival! The hardass teacher with a heart of gold! The black guy!

And of course! The disabled kid who magically gets cured to be like everyone else!

Hori seems to believe that if he just adds pieces of representation or tropes that people like, they will just eat it up without question.

Not even considering or bothering to think about actual backstory, personality, goals, likes or dislikes.

You know, things that make a character an actual character!

Hi @theloganator101 👋,

This fits how MHA treats it's characters to a T or at the very least they develop from Nuanced characters to a stereotype which is never what you want from a series. Also Hori even fails at fitting these characters into the cookie cutter molds he tries to contort them into at times.

Let's give a few examples based on what you have said above:

"Crazy Yandere and Token Bi" = Toga (which the LGBTQ fans of MHA should be offended by, because having a Yandere who is coded very creepily (yet also not condemned for her creepy behavior in general or how she groped Uraraka without consent) as prominent representation is not good...

"Sweet generic shonen love interest" = Uraraka (well this is what Hori intends for her with IzuOcha endgame even with how weakly its built in the series. And Uraraka herself denying her feelings for Izu and freely simping for Toga. I feel so sorry for Ocha fans, how she has been written with Toga is a complete mess.)

"Hardass Teacher with a heart of gold" = Aizawa (or this is what Hori intends for him realistically a lot of his actions under a critical lense read as malice at worse and negligence at best but go off about how he cares about his kids, Hori. Despite dropping a building on them and making them believe their parents are kidnapped by villains. Or the fact that he expelled tonnes of other students prior to 1A without a care - what makes 1A so special?)

"Hot headhead rival" = Bakugou... (Well this is meant to be him, narratively speaking, but rivals are meant to inspire and respect each other. Bakugou doesn't respect Izuku, Bakugou abuses Izuku and acts as his parasite. Bakugou brings Izuku down at every opportunity.)

"The 'token black/ blasian' characters" = Rumi and Rock Lock. (While I'd say Rock Lock is good black representation. Rumi... She's not my favourite. I like strong female characters but the way she's so aggressive and violence hungry as a hero - that rubs me the wrong way. Realistically, I could see her killing a villain by accident through use of excessive force. And I can't ignore that she's used as a stick for Hori's gore porn fetish which isn't a great look as one of Hori's few Blasian characters.)

"The disabled kid who gets magically cured to be like everyone else." - Midoriya Izuku. (You could say this is the case for All Might and Aoyama too but Izuku is the most prominent example as the main protagonist.) Izuku's story and the lack of how his backstory is touched on is one of the one that's the most upsetting parts of MHA to me. Personally, I have a disability and mine can't be fixed, while I accept and embrace it now, I didn't when I was Izuku's age. I would daydream about getting "fixed" and being like everyone else so I could fit in. As an adult, I have now achieved many things that I was told that I could not hope to ever be able to do - and I didn't need to be "fixed/ made normal" to do it. Instead, I worked my ass off to achieve those things.

Izuku's story would have been way more powerful if he trained relentlessly with All Might, stayed quirkless and achieved as much as his quirked peers.

OR, if he had to gain OFA, the cognitive dissonance between how he was treated then in his backstory vs now should heavily influence him. Either way, he should have grown out of "Kacchan" and told Bakugou, his bully and abuser, to fuck right off.

The fact that Izuku isn't allowed to think of his backstory or one negative thought of Kacchan severely limits him. And it's one of the things that has stunted him as a character. All Izuku is now is OFA 'generic shonen protagonist' who will save Shig and destroy All for One. What a waste.

TLDR - developing good characters is like nurturing a particularly fussy plant, you can put down the right soil (backstory) to get readers hooked but if you get lazy and don't water it regularly (develop plot points, think through what is in character rather than what you as the Author want them to do, have them show up regularly) it (the characters) will never grow.

[stupittmoran]

Great example of why pedophilia is and should remain a crime. This child was given a choice between $10,000.00 and two Oreo cookies. Guess what he picked? Children's brains are not developed enough to consent! THE END!

[wanderingblindly]

hi! I’m sorry to bring up a heavier topic of conversation but I know (at least I think I know. if not I’ll be very very embarrassed) that you’re US based and I was wondering what your thoughts on the ao3 privacy stuff were? and also maybe if you could explain it?

Hey there! Let's preface this with the fact that I'm not like, a specialist in these sorts of things -- I'm just some bitch on the internet. But I do appreciate your trust in asking me, so let's get into it!

Major takeaway: there were no actual material changes to the privacy policy.

I've read through the current privacy policy and the update guide (which are written in plain english and are super accessible), and it seems like all the recent changes were

Clarification of existing TOS

Reorganization of TOS to improve readability

Provides transparency around existing data collection and processing

I'm assuming your ask is in regards to their current privacy policy, so I'll do my best to summarize them below. Again, I'm just some bitch online, and all my references are from Ao3 themselves.

Data Collection citation: III.B. Scope of Personal Information

Ao3 defines Personal Information as emails, IP addresses, logs, cookies, posted content, interactions with the site (kudos, bookmarks, pages visited, etc.), referral information (how you got to Ao3), and error messages displayed.

Note that this is not a change.

This is all information that Ao3 has always collected. IP address collection, for example, is why you cannot visit a work 15 times in 3 hours and count for 15 hits -- visits from the same IP in close succession only count once.

For clarity on the other ways that they use the relatively minimal information they collect, please see here.

On a personal note, I think that Ao3 collects far less data than most sites we use on a regular basis. I'm not bothered by it -- especially considering my email address is associated with the name Liquid and not my irl name.

Data Processing citation: III.A. Applicability

Ao3 is hosted in the US, therefore the majority of their servers are based in the US, too. This means that people accessing Ao3 from a non-US location will have their data cross jurisdictions and be processed under applicable US data laws. They point this out because you may have different legal rights in these jurisdictions.

Note that this is not a change.

If you want to see more about Ao3's subprocessors, aka who might be accessing your data, you can click here.

Ao3 also notes that they aggregate data for analysis on Ao3's users. Because aggregated data is no longer personally identifiable (ie, your individual email is no longer in the data set, just the number 1 representing that your email exists), there are no restrictions on how they may use this data. That means they could publish how many users they have without your explicit consent, because it does not identify you.

Note that this is not a change.

Third Party Data Sharing citation: III.F Information Shared with Third Parties

Ao3 states that it does not sell or trade data to third parties. There are limited exceptions where your data will be transferred to other parties.

The specific use cases are listed in my citation, but they generally fall under data processing (as stated above), if you choose to give information by joining an exchange, and if they must cooperate with a legal investigation.

Again, not that this is not a change.

Edit: Here's a cool reddit post providing insight about Ao3's administrative back end, if you're interested!

[kndrules]

hi! i loved your future au comic and the way you've caracterized maurice talking about how nice/weird it is being a teacher of knd operatives. do you have any headcanons about how maurice or other members of the sector v think themselves as adult and their relationship to adulthood and childhood? how to contribute to kids liberation as adults

Hello!! I think about this a lot, and yet also not enough.

The comic you're referring to brought up another example. Rachel becomes a defense lawyer who specializes in taking KND related cases, basically acting as the legal protector of KND operatives. Fanny meanwhile is a prosecutor who targets evil adults. Because we love defense lawyer/prosecutor relationships.

In general, I think it's common for adult operatives to align their careers with kid liberation. Like, it's not required and it's not the only way adult operatives can aid with kid liberation but it happens a lot.

Abby is another example of this. She's a social worker who advocates for kids in difficult situations.

Even Wally has a kid-aligned career as a pediatrician. He can use his platform to advocate for kids as well, in various ways. One of those ways is just using his leverage as a doctor against the parents of his patients. He's not allowed to have the final say in what the parents decide, but he does what he can. A real life problem with children's healthcare is that parents consent stands in for the child's consent. So the kid doesn't get a say in their own healthcare, only their parents do.

Kuki can also do kid liberation work as the Rainbow Monkey CEO. Sometimes careers that don't obviously overlap with kid liberation absolutely do.

Having people who are willing to fight for youth autonomy in any industry is a huge deal. Education, healthcare and law are probably the big ones that come to mind, but there are very few jobs that can't involve it.

What adult operatives do for the cause is really just the exact same stuff that we can all do in real life. Speak up when you see injustice and try to fight for something better.

But like I said, it's not all tied into careers. For example, Nigel never has a job. He's pretty much unemployable due to his inability to separate his politics from his professionalism, and also because of his debilitating paranoia and OCD. But even if those weren't factors, he was in prison for a huge chunk of his young adult life, and if you have a criminal record it's near impossible to get work (a very real and very evil problem). Hes released from prison as a disabled 30-something year old former convict with no professional experience at all. He's pretty much inevitably going to become a stay at home Dad.

But he can still do a A LOT advocating in his local community and for the children in his life. not only is a menace in PTA meetings, but he's got a lot of free time on his hands to get out and make a fuss. Also, and this is very specific to Nigel, his family still lives in the same house, which is conveniently attached to the treehouse. So he DIRECTLY works with the active KND operatives who use that treehouse. He can help them in varying ways, from making them cookies to keep their energy up, to feigning ignorance when evil adults show up at his front door and shooing them away.

I haven't mentioned Hoagie yet, and that's because she's the most likely to get absorbed into the things that immediately interest her and not think about much outside of that. It's the autism. Their career is like this. Hoagie works a LOT, just because she loves what she does. But she still advocates for kids when the opportunity presents itself, particularly her own kids.

In the comic I drew, Angeline mentions that the KND doesn't need adult programmers, because there are already plenty of very talented KND operatives that are programmers. However, people like Angeline can work to make space for those KND programmers and watch their backs. Hoagie can do this too in the world of academia and hard research. While there arent any kids in university, they can still help KND nerds get access to resources and stuff like that. Lots of scientific papers are behind paywalls. Hoagie can help kids get around those paywalls.

I remember talking to Mottle about Hoagie running workshops for kids, and Abby shifting to a more chill career that's somewhat similar. Just teaching kids cool stuff.

I sort of breezed past Kukis involvement so I'm gonna go back to that- As the Rainbow Monkeys CEO, she pushes for inclusivity in product design. The RM corporation now has better sizing for their children's clothing line, they have pride merch, gender affirming products, and children's books with positive messages. Evil adults complain about the company being "woke" now. She also makes huge donations to children's charities and fundraises even more money through her products.

I have a specific headcanon about Kuki and Wally doing a collaboration where the Rainbow Monkey corp has a partnership with local children's hospitals. There's a line of RM scrubs and stuff too. But that probably already existed.

And to elaborate on Abby's role, while I think it's mostly obvious, I did want to restate my headcanon that she takes over the DCFDTL 's case. I headcanon that those kids can't age, so when Abby is an adult, they're still 10, and they're stuck in the foster care system with a very high-profile, legally complicated case.

I think...that's plenty of info for now. Thanks for the question!

[shrimpmandan]

Deadass the majority of “think of the children!!!” rhetoric operates under the blatantly incorrect assumption that kids are just. Devoid of sexuality in any form. The idea that kids don’t have basic bodily functions, or curiosities, or even just the fact that sexual development (on a mental level) begins VERY early. This includes the concept of gender. Conservatives and other sex negative groups heavily rely on the assumption that children are pure beings devoid of sin that are then “corrupted” by the outside world (loss of innocence), as opposed to gender and sexuality being innate concepts present in all children, which is partially influenced by society, and partially influenced by biology.

Most people will tell you that they first started having sexual or kinky fantasies-- as well as masturbating-- either at a toddler or elementary age. Children will start asserting their gender at around 2-3, and is consequently when a lot of (though not all) trans people first realize and voice what is later identified as gender dysphoria. Children can start asking about the birds and the bees at almost any age; I started asking when I was 2. Hell, I was always very curious about human and animal sexuality! While parents in US schools are outraged and clutching their pearls about the fact that elementary aged children are learning about the reproductive habits of seahorses (yes, they’re mad that the males get pregnant, why wouldn’t they be), I was fucking researching that shit on my own volition while I was being homeschooled! I infodumped to my own fucking mother about seahorse sex! Only a few years later I was researching how clams had sex, and slugs/snails, and worms. Cut to present day and my primary special interest is sexology and I want to become a sexologist. It’s almost like I was naturally curious and exploring an undeniable facet of the world that is stigmatized for no reason.

And another thing, of course: accepting that children are sexual also requires accepting the fact that children can commit sexual assault, particularly against other children. COCSA is shockingly common and how traumatizing it is for the kids involved is highly variable. Some people regard their own experiences as simply innocent exploration, while others feel deeply taken advantage of and dirty, or somewhere in-between the two.

Also: “children can’t consent” is honestly kind of a weird/misleading phrase, and honestly kind of depends on ages. Teenagers can absolutely consent to having sex with their peers, for example. A minority amount of under-13 children may also engage in peer-to-peer sexual contact that may not necessarily be classified as COCSA by those involved. However, it is important to note that (for both kids and teens), they may not fully grasp the full ramifications and implications of consent and sexuality (hell, many adults don’t), and under no circumstances can they consent to a much older adult. The reason larger age gaps are less of an issue with adult relationships is because, even if there’s a noticeable gap in maturity, I much more trust the judgment of a 25 year old to gauge the risks of dating a 40 year old, compared to a 17 or even 18 year old. Minors can and often do engage in consensual sex, and a lot of the issues that arise from that come from a lack of comprehensive sex education and heavy stigmatization surrounding sexuality. The amount of teens who genuinely fear being kicked out of the house for getting pregnant is frankly appalling.

That’s another thing. The idea that sex education is sexualizing kids, when sex ed protects kids from potentially being taken advantage of, or at LEAST gives them the tools to tell an adult if they’ve been molested. Don’t tell them their genitals are a “cookie” or a “thing”. Say vulva/vagina. Say penis/balls. Tell them what their body is and does. Don’t tell them that it’s always okay if mommy or daddy touches them there, or if their doctor does. Most sexual abuse happens within families, and I’ve heard PLENTY of tales from doctors offices. If anyone touches them in a way they don’t like and they don’t listen when they’re told to stop, that’s when you start biting and kicking. I don’t care who it is. Most sexual assault is instigated by someone the victim thought they could trust. Instill that survival instinct early. I shouldn’t have to tell you how fucking terrifying it is to have kids be disregarded when trying to warn about dangerous adults, because their parents refused to teach them basic anatomical terms.

I also shouldn’t have to tell you how terrifying it is that school-aged children in Texas can’t ask for period products or learn about periods in some schools because it’s considered to be a sexual topic, or just flatly not mandated for them to accommodate. The only people sexualizing children’s bodies are the ones screaming about how children are pure, innocent beings devoid of any sexuality. Sexuality blossoms around puberty, which can begin as young as 9 years old. Most people recount that their sexual interests and behaviors took root during childhood. Most teenagers are horny fuckers who need to be told how to have SAFE sex, not to avoid sex.

Stop desexualizing the human experience. Stop treating sexuality like a sin or a corrupting force that warps the minds of children, and not an innate facet of most humans that is constantly developing throughout childhood, and even into adulthood. Your child could be LGBT, they could be kinky, they could flatly have an interest in sexuality. It doesn’t just pop up out of nowhere during puberty; it comes to a head during puberty. There’s a difference.

Further reading:

https://www.hopkinsallchildrens.org/Patients-Families/Health-Library/HealthDocNew/Understanding-Early-Sexual-Development

https://www.ncsby.org/content/childhood-sexual-development

Planned Parenthood PDF Link

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/preschool/Pages/Sexual-Behaviors-Young-Children.aspx

[kaiasky]

hey do you know anything about web development? what are your thoughts about "necessary cookies?" whenever im on any website i make a habit of turning off every cookie that i can, but there's usually a statement along the lines of some cookies are necessary for the site to function properly

Good question! I'm not the most experienced webdev, and especially not super experienced about policy. I'll try to answer, but people can tell me what parts I left out.

An early way to do web stuff, HTML forms, looks a lot like this:

If you want to send some data to the server, you'd have to enter your username and password with every request. That's a pain, so instead, we send the user a login cookie, which is just some randomly generated unique data that the user can send back to the server to prove that they're the same computer.

So that's an example of a necessary cookie, and it really is pretty dang necessary. The site wouldn't be able to keep you logged in without it. (There's some alternatives, but they basically do the same things as cookies.)

You can check what cookies a site has set in your browser, eg on firefox it's open devtools (f12 or right-click-inspect-element) and then look in storage:

You can see here that tumblr stores the user's activity graph and light/darkmode preferences in the cookies. Under GDPR, something like this is likely considered a "functional" cookie, meaning it's not strictly necessary, because it enhances my experience but I could use the site without storing my activity graph preference. (I'm not entirely sure why activity graph settings are stored on the browser and not as part of a user's account data. That's just the way somebody decided to code it I guess.)

i generally don't see cookies popups, and i think it's broadly fine to just add "annoyances" filter to ublock (blocks the cookie consent popups) and run firefox in strict mode, which blocks and containerizes cross-site cookies.

i welcome corrections from people who know more though

[silverstuff50]

SilverStuff50's Fic Masterlist

Started: 24/10/23

Last Updated: 26/10/2024

One Direction - Larry & Zourry: Sorted by Published Date (newest to oldest)

🍑 Soft Hands Organic - Adore Sensitive Skin 🍑 Out Now!

aka: the ass worship fic.

I really loved writing this fic very much! I hope it brings some joy.

8K || Fluffy Smut || Completed || Rated: Explicit

My second fic for the @bottomlouisficfest

⚽️Mis-Match - OUT NOW!⚽️

A little fun story for you, born out of some roleplay writing with the inimitable @holdingontochaos, who deserves half of any love this lil snack gets.

Enjoy!

Blue Nights - OUT NOW!

aka: the stripper fic.

56K || Stripper AU || Completed || Rated: Explicit

Written for the @bottomlouisficfest

So excited to share this one with you!

✝️ Forgive Us Our Trespasses ✝️

16K || Dark Fic || Completed || Written for the @larryafterdarkfest

READ THE TAGS: BDSM, Abuse of Authority, Age Gap, Religious themes and imagery, Dark Fic, Dubious Consent

🍪Smooth Like Chocolate🍪

16k | a/b/o | completed

Written for @1domegaverseficfest

Prompt: Omega Louis babysits Alpha Harry’s little siblings. Harry comes home from uni break to see a pretty omega baking cookies in his family home.

OUT NOW!

The Checkout

Harry is always having to buy embarrassing things at his local mini supermarket. Which would be fine if the guy who worked there wasn't the most beautiful alpha he's ever seen.

Written for the @1domegaverseficfest

“I said, I hope your husband has a nice birthday,” the alpha says, still smiling. It's polite, and Harry can’t work out why there’s an edge to the man’s voice, but there definitely is. Maybe he’s pissed off with Harry for not listening the first time. Wouldn’t be a surprise; Harry is so shit at talking to people.  

And, oh. The alpha thinks he’s married. Because of course he fucking does, Harry’s buying a card that says husband on it and a bottle of prosecco. He really wants to set the record straight, even though there is zero chance it matters anyway.

“Oh! Oh, right, yeah. No,” he says, and the alpha looks confused and amused. Harry feels his face redden more than it was before. “I mean, the card is for Niall.” The alpha nods, still looking slightly confused, and Harry realises that really doesn’t explain anything.

The Bear Necessities

Written as part of the @comfortficfest

Prompt: Louis wins Harry a bear AU

Read the tags, you're in for a ride, and not just the fairground type... 😏

Half a World Away

By SilverStuff50 as part of the @omegaharryfest

Bothy: A bothy is a basic shelter, usually left unlocked and available for anyone to use free of charge. Bothies are found in remote mountainous areas of Scotland, Northern England, Ulster and Wales. They are particularly common in the Scottish Highlands, but related buildings can be found around the world (for example, in the Nordic countries, there are wilderness huts).

A hiking holiday in the Scottish Highlands goes wrong for Omega Harry. Will Louis come to his rescue, or will their years of bickering stand in the way?

I Dig Your Cinema

As part of the @secondtimesacharmfest

It wasn’t that Louis didn’t want to see Harry’s latest film; it was a tragically pathetic fact that Louis had watched every single show and film, every interview, every red carpet that Harry had done since his ex-boyfriend had decided to leave Uni in the second year and pursue an acting career.

It's just that he wanted to watch it on his own, in his flat, with a soft blanket, beer, ice cream, and a large box of tissues.

Famous/Non-Famous AU, fluff and smut!

Welcome to Oceania: Ever get the feeling you are being watched? - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. Exes to lovers, forced proximity, second chances, light angst, smut, miscommunication, idiot boys.

Please note, this is a WIP.

They wrapped up the interview, and Louis stood to shake hands with James, smiling politely. “Well dodged on the Harry question, mate,” James said jovially, “s’gonna be an interesting series, this.” 

Louis shrugged, careful to keep his expression neutral. “I’d hope so,” he said lightly. “If it's boring, no one will watch, right?”  

James scoffed out a laugh. “Oh, people will watch, believe me.” He waggled his eyebrows. “Do you know there’s a whole corner of the internet entirely devoted to shipping you and Harry?” he asked, chuckling, and Louis did roll his eyes this time.

“I’m aware,” he said curtly, turning to leave, keen to get away from this pushy interviewer. As he left the room with Matt and Jess in tow, James called out to him.

“Interviewing Harry later today,” he said, “I’ll let him know you’re looking forward to getting acquainted with him again.”

Louis’ jaw tensed as he ground his teeth, and Matt laid a firm, comforting hand on his lower back, murmuring “leave it, Lou,” and ushering him out of the room before he could flip the man off.

While You’re Figuring it Out - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. BDSM used for good, established relationship, gentle dom Louis, consent king, healing play.

Harry let his head fall back against Louis’ shoulder, turning his head and closing his eyes, silently asking for his boyfriend's lips. They kissed gently, completely still other than the soft movements of their mouths, tongues gently sliding against each other’s. Louis didn’t rush the kiss, understanding that Harry needed it, needed it like he needed air to breathe and water to drink. 

Eventually, when they stopped for breath, Harry sighed again.  “You know what I need Lou,” he murmured, and Louis tutted gently, shaking his head and patiently turning Harry to face him, pressing their bodies together and trapping Harry between himself and the counter.

“You need to tell me Harry, you know how this works,” he pressed gently, lifting his boyfriend’s face and making him meet his gaze. Harry reluctantly did so, swallowing slowly and placing shaking hands on Louis’ biceps. “Need to go down Lou.” It was no more than a whisper.  

Baby It's Cold Outside - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. Smut and fluff, praise kink, cute, hot smushiness.

Louis is delivering pizza to Harry, his favourite customer, when he realises the man needs more than comfort food.

He clears his throat and shrugs one shoulder.  “If you- um, I was just thinking if you wanted someone to talk to about it- about whatever’s wrong, you know, then I could do that.  Listen, I mean.” 

Harry has a curious look on his face, and Louis’ not sure what to make of it.  He backtracks, horribly embarrassed.  “Yeah I mean that’s stupid isn’t it? You don’t want to pour your heart out to the delivery guy on your doorstep in the freezing cold, so, yeah. Just- just enjoy the ice cream Harry, OK?”

Harry’s expression hasn’t changed, and Louis’ about to turn and speed walk back to his moped to go and drive it off a cliff when the man finally speaks.

“Do you want to come in?” he asks tentatively, and Louis’ stomach swoops again, his face warming despite the frigid air. 

Written for the Santa Fic Exchange on Twitter.

The Box - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. Smut and Fluff, very light Dom/Sub, tiny bit of Zouis thrown in.

When the signal comes, Harry dips and slides into the box, settling himself on his back with his knees bent.  Louis lifts the side of the box to close it, and as he does so Harry goes to pull his jacket from behind his back a little.

The last sight that Louis is presented with before Harry is gone from view is the most gorgeous man he’s ever seen arching his back, with his head thrown upwards, mouth slightly open.

And fuck. 

A Very Louis Christmas - Basic Beautiful Chaos - by SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit, Smut, Daddy Kink, Dom/Sub, Exhibitionism, Louis is a menace.

Its Christmas Party time, and the pub's management team are out to let their hair down. Louis, the Bar Manager, has big plans, that involve a game that he can't lose, and a Head Chef that he's going to absolutely wreck.

Its Christmas after all!

Just Hold On - by SilverStuff50

Rating: Mature, Referenced Smut but not described, Flirting, Louis worship, Fluff.

The barricade fic where Harry is a tall and handsome security guard trying his best to look after Louis, who refuses to stop launching himself into the crowd.

And when Louis accidentally slides down Harry's body whilst trying to extricate himself from his fans, Harry can't be blamed for his reactions.

Simmer Down and Pucker Up - by SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit, Fluff and Smut, Forced Proximity, Exes to Lovers

When Louis' sister invites his ex to her wedding Louis is not a happy bunny. But his friends are wankers and their meddling causes the sort of drama that Louis would usually beat the crap out of them for.

Usually...

Naughty Little Elf - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. Magical/Witch AU, Witch Harry, Elf Louis. A bit of fun, Porn with a tiny bit of plot. Louis is a little minx. Prompt from a conversation on Twitter!

Harry is busy and Louis is supposed to be helping him. He's not.

So Let's Start Right Now - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. Series: Perfect. A/B/O AU, OT5, Omega Louis, Alpha Harry, Alpha Liam, Alpha Zayn, Beta Niall. Fluff and Smut.

The One Direction tour is about to start, and as a newly formed pack, the boys have a lot to work out, particularly as Management are NOT happy about their recent bonding.

Follow up to Baby I'm Perfect.

I Told You I Was Right - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. Series: Everyone loves a Brat. BDSM, Dom Louis, Sub/Brat Harry, Porn with humour, fluff, smut. OT5

One-shot follow up to Why we can't have nice things, were Harry gets himself into hot water by trying to help a friend. Smut ensues.

"What's wrong Harry?" Louis asked, and Harry cursed him for always being able to tell. "Has something happened baby?"  

Now he was being kind, and that was no good at all.

"M'fine," Harry mumbled.  "Just missing you.  And I'm horny."  

Hold You Down - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. BDSM, Porn with Plot. Don't be put off by DubCon tag - all smut is fully consensual!

Harry Styles wants more excitement in his life and applies for the role of Junior Assistant to Louis Tomlinson, international rock star, and finds that the duties of the role are not what he expected. Louis is bored and looking for a challenge in the form of creating his own personal submissive.

“Yes Harry, I would like you to sort the laundry, and for your cheekiness I think you should stay in the dress while you do so.” The glint in Louis’ eyes was definitely not of cheekiness, and Harry flushed again, his breath hitching slightly at the heated look Louis was giving him.  But his mischievousness hadn’t quite gone, and with a dimpled smile and an arch look he turned to walk to the door. 

As he reached it he turned around quickly and said “Yes sir, anything you say sir,” and before Louis could respond he threw him a little wink and then, grabbing the hem of the dress, he dipped into a little curtsey before leaving the room. 

Why we can't have nice things - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. Series: Everyone loves a Brat. BDSM, Dom Louis, Sub/Brat Harry. Porn with a bit of humour. OT5

Harry is being a brat. He knows it, his friends know it, and most of all, Louis Tomlinson knows it.

"Lou has gone home," he muttered. "I tried to persuade him to come back but he's fed up of being constantly whined at."  He looked pointedly at Harry, who huffed and shrugged.

"Excuse me Liam, I wasn't whining," Harry whined.  "He had a dig at me remember."  Liam shook his head tiredly, and guided a now slightly limp Zayn over to the sofa.

"It wasn't a dig Harry," he said quietly as Zayn snuggled into him and glared at Harry again, before nuzzling into his boyfriend's chest.  "You were complaining about your ex and all Louis said was that he Dommed you badly.  You were literally saying the same yourself a second before.  He was agreeing with you."

"He said I was brat!" Harry shouted, standing up now, indignant.

"You are a fucking brat!" Zayn's voice was a bit muffled into Liam's chest but Harry could hear the anger in his voice.

Baby I'm Perfect - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. Series: Perfect. A/B/O AU, OT5, Omega Louis, Alpha Harry, Alpha Liam, Alpha Zayn, Beta Niall. Fluff and Smut.

One Direction is made up of 3 Alphas and 1 Beta. The more time they spend together, the more in sync the Alpha's cycles become, and the "outside the band sex" ban the management have enforced means the Beta is getting to the point where he can't cope with the Alphas' ruts on his own. They need an Omega, and one with stamina...

After dinner they settled to watch TV, Louis in the middle of the gaggle of boys as usual.  It seemed that his day with Liam had opened some sort of flood gate, and he noticed that the boys were all much more sensual in their touches now. 

What was previously gently playing with his hair became little tugs that made him gasp, strokes of his shoulder became pinching and squeezing of his nipples, and chaste kisses became unabashed explorations of his skin with various mouths, nipping and biting and sucking.  He was in heaven, arousal shrouded him like a blanket, and he surrendered to the feeling of it, the TV show long forgotten.  He wondered if they would make him cum, but he almost didn't care if they didn't.  He half wanted this amazing sensation to carry on all night, even if it meant he had to get himself off in his own bed later.

Impossible to Resist - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. BDSM heavy, Porn with Plot & Feelings, Happy Ending. Read the tags.

Mafia AU - Harry Styles is a mob boss who runs the town (among many others). His sexual needs are great, and as love is not on his agenda, he satisfies them by keeping a harem of "playthings", which is refreshed every year or so as he becomes bored or the playthings move on. Harry doesn't ask too much of the female playthings, but the males find themselves subject to his specific, and somewhat sadistic, tastes.

His small, trembling body was silky soft but firm, the corset cinching his waist and his chest so much that his breathing was shallow and fast, just how Harry wanted it.  Liam may be a soft touch but there was no one else Harry would trust to prepare his playthings, his friend knew exactly what would make Harry horniest and delivered, every time. 

With Louis, he had excelled himself.  The boy looked and smelt delicious. 

As Harry circled him, close enough to feel his body heat and see the goosebumps all over his tanned skin, he breathed in the scent of soap with a hint of vanilla. 

Look What You've Done to Me - SilverStuff50

Rating: Explicit. BDSM, Painplay, Porn with Plot, DubCon, Zourry - Doms Harry & Zayn, Sub Louis.

Louis can’t quite work out how he ended up this way, and he sometimes hates the pain, but Harry and Zayn always know best, and will always take care of him.

Turns out there were two hottest men in the world, and they appeared to be a couple.  Louis couldn’t quite believe it when he walked into Zayn’s flat and another god of a man greeted them.  His name was Harry, and where Zayn was dark and brooding and beautiful, Harry was light and curls and smiles and gorgeousness, dimples and the loveliest green eyes.  

The two men kissed in front of Louis, unabashedly feeling each other up right there in the kitchen, Zayn’s hand dipping into Harry’s jogging bottoms and quite obviously grabbing his dick, making the curly haired man moan gently.  Pulling back from the kiss Harry looked over at Louis and smiled warmly, gasping a little as Zayn’s hand continued its motion.

One Direction - Zarry

Let Me Own You - SilverStuff50

Harry Styles wants more excitement in his life and applies for the role of Junior Assistant to Zayn Malik, international rock star, and finds that the duties of the role are not what he expected. Zayn is bored and looking for a challenge in the form of creating his own personal submissive.

Rating: Explicit. BDSM, Porn with Plot. Don't be put off by DubCon tag - all smut is fully consensual!

“I’d normally guess you fucked him but I can’t see any bruises or rope burn, so I assume not.” Lucy mused sarcastically, feet up on Zayn’s desk, much to his annoyance.  She’d arrived early and Harry had been preparing breakfast in his dressing gown, looking refreshed and happy, making silly jokes and threatening to hit her with a spatula when she’d tried to steal a rasher of bacon from the pan.  “What exactly did you do?” she asked curiously and Zayn just smirked smugly.  “Wait and see, he’ll be here any minute.” She huffed irritably, groaning as she realised she’d finished her coffee.  As she got up to go and make another, complaining about having to do so, Harry came into the study with a tray behind her. 

“Don’t worry Luce I’ve got fresh coffee here, there’s plenty for you and Mr Malik.” She turned, and the sight before her made her choke on her own breath.  Harry was wearing a black silk dress, revealing enough that it was more of a negligée, with stockings, suspenders and no shoes.  He looked so feminine that a brief, and very confusing, attraction passed through Lucy’s head before she dismissed it in horror.  She was staring open mouthed.  Harry giggled.  “You’d better get used to this,” he said shyly, “Mr Malik likes me dressed like this, it helps relieve his stress, so I’ll be wearing stuff like this all the time when we’re at home.”

Seeing the Pain, Seeing the Pleasure - SilverStuff50

Harry has been annoyingly nice over the last three weeks, and Zayn has to force the situation in order to carry out his carefully constructed plan.

Or: Zayn forces Harry to be naughty just so he can punish him. Smut ensues.

Rating: Explicit. BDSM, Dom Zayn, Sub Harry. Porn with a little plot. Filth and Fluff.

“Are you telling me,” Zayn grated, “that despite me specifically asking you not to flirt with Taylor, and even messaging to say don’t let her touch you, that you disobeyed me just because I was a little late?” His eyes flashed dangerously and Harry quailed a little at his look, beginning to wonder if he’d made a mistake.

“S’not like that Zee,” he whispered, licking his lips nervously, “I was just, you know, waiting for you and she was there and you know what she’s like, she was all over me and there was nothing I could do really…” he trailed off, whimpering slightly at his boyfriend’s glare.  Zayn shook his head, and released Harry’s neck while he searched in his jacket pocket, keeping his thigh pressed firmly against his hard cock.  Once he’d found what he was looking for he put his arm across Harry’s chest, holding him against the wall while using his other hand to undo his belt and flies, pulling out his cock. Harry gasped and started to ask what Zayn was doing, but his boyfriend cut him off.

[kuragariidk]

Name: Azel

Age: 🔐

Bday: 4/27/??

Country: Philippines

Favorite color: any kinds of Blue

Dream Job: Doctor/Researcher

Countries that I wanna travel: Russia, Switzerland, Norway, and Japan

Hobbies: stalking my friends 💀, drawing some random things, talking/chatting with friends, roleplaying and eating

Likes: chocolate, tea, cookies, desserts, food, money, adventuring, cakes, roleplay, and my friends (the only one that I trust)

Dislikes: worms, disgusting things, loud people, annoying people, NSFW drawings (only 17-0 and even though I make NSFW, I only draw adults, not minors and I ask for the creator's consent if I can make NSFW To their oc)

Fun facts about me:

1- I'm a semi roleplayer

>Semi roleplayer is a type if role play that you make an entire essay

>the designs are optional

Example:

[ × Azel × ]

[π]>She was trying to find Jelo for hours already but he was nowhere to be found, Azel wanted to test something to Jelo and not knowing that the test was very harmful for him, She didn't knew that the Test will be very harmful for Jelo and she thinks that it's a harmless test, she looked around for a while but she still couldn't find him and was suspicious that maybe Khloe hid him somewhere

And idk what to write anymore-

2- I live adventuring to some new places

3- I make my oc's kinda like me but their personality isn't like me

4- I love doing doodles but I'm too lazy to do it

[somany-fandoms-solittle-time]

Canonical Mac Facts: Friendly Flirting!

Mac, my twisted Wonderland oc, is largely based on myself so I thought it'd be fun to share some info both on their character sheet AND things we have in common~

And of course I had to start with ✨ jokingly flirting with friends (until it's not a joke anymore) ✨

Mac (and myself) are chronic flirts... Sometimes without realizing it. Xey will often make innuendos to themselves with a shit eating grin before focusing on the issue at hand. Truly, the sense of humor of a 12-year-old boy. This also appears when they start making friends (and frenemies) with the TWST cast. But since he's 19, he'll keep the 'flirting' to mostly innocent or stupidly over the top for the majority of the characters under 18.

(..... And while a number of the 2nd years are fine as fuck, they'd never cross that age boundary, even though 2 years isn't anything significant, without an explicit talk about trauma and consent.)

Their flirting tends to get more salacious or dirty the closure friends they are. It's a trust that he knows they won't be uncomfortable while he's doing a bit. However, the more intimate the flirting can get might confuse the other party(ies) involved whether or not they actually have feelings for each other or are actually dating. Spoiler: sometimes Mac doesn't know either.

*IF* Mac realizes they have feelings that go beyond platonic or aesthetic attraction, their flirting gets significantly more awkward. Stumbling on "jokes", back pedaling, stuttering, and sometimes a full factory reset lol. Xey'll try to deny it as long as possible... But it's painfully obvious for anyone that's spent more than a day around them...

Teasing and silly pickup lines are used to fluster anyone available. It's free entertainment, really. Because it's Mac's turn to cause some Chaos, Dammit!

Example: Teasing Trey for free sweets

Mac: Hey Trey, are you the eye drops at the optometrist?

Trey, taking cookies out of the oven: hm?

Mac, leaning in while Trey sets the cookies down: Because you make my eyes shine whenever you're in them~

Cater, recording: *cringes so hard he wheezes*

Trey, flustered and confused: "I'm not sure if I should be flattered or slightly offended..."

Mac, stealing a cooling chocolate chip cookie: "Either way, I gotta dinner and a show~ "

But please don't be fooled by their flirting and slightly mischievous nature! He respects everyone's autonomy and consent above all. It's just easier to lighten the load with some fun or distract people's troubles with jokes. And many of the NRC boys have learned that whether they're being sarcastic to an asshole or silly with a friend, Xey genuinely do care about all of them.