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son1c · 3 days

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In all honesty thank you to responding to that anon like that, I have no idea how to articulate to people that criticism is not negative and it is so necessary to make something better, without people getting defensive and angry.

I will do anything to avoid conflict (due to some personal issues I have to work through) and I feel like I am never allowed to say anything without being put in the firing line of irrationally angry fans.

Anyways, all that to say, thank you for not letting people try to stop you from saying things that are necessary and in all actuality make the content more enjoyable for others

yeah, i feel like "criticism" has gotten a bad rap in recent times.

in reality, taking a "critical look" at things is neither positive nor negative; it, by definition, simply means "to question." why were these decisions made? who benefits from them? what are they trying to accomplish? these questions and more can help you deepen your understanding of a work.

it's unfortunate that so many people are so adverse to criticism. in my opinion, it's fun to think about things on more than just the surface level. to "dig deep" is, to me, what fandom is all about.

but things have changed. people don't want to think too hard about the things they "consume" anymore. "fast fiction" and media that's meant to be binged, not watched slowly and savored, are the norm now. it's created this frantic atmosphere that i don't like. people barely talk about one thing before already moving on to the next. where's the fun in that?

that being said, i don't think a lot of people who are the so-called "critics" do it correctly. i like to be overdramatic as much as the next guy, but spewing endless hate and writing "critical" posts that consist solely of exaggerated statements about things you clearly don't like is not criticism. maybe that's why people conflate criticism with negativity so often now. because those "critics" are really just haters.

it's a fine line. i think being able to tell the difference between good faith, well thought out, well researched criticism and rage-bait hatred is in and of itself, critical thinking. and i think it's a skill people on the internet desperately need to develop or at least improve.

because people getting defensive at the first whiff of anything less than 100% positivity isn't good for them. it makes you complacent. it lowers your standards. don't you want not just good shows, but GREAT shows? don't you want full, rich texts that are meant to be savored, not just consumed in a day and then thrown away?

if the people who make subpar media never get any pushback, then they never have a reason to make anything better, because they know whatever they make, no matter the quality, it will make them money. and i'm just not happy with that. i demand better. don't you?

#anonymous

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whysowhump · 6 months

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that moment in your 20s when you realize you might have chosen the wrong path in life and you might have been manipulating yourself into believing this is what you want to do for the rest of your life?????????????? and the other thing that you think you want to do is so hard and time consuming you don't even know if it's worth it anymore because you're already in the middle of another time consuming path and you might as well get over with it?????

#existential crisis #idk i feel like i have no identity #if you're good at something does it automatically mean you have to like it?#is it family and social pressure or do i really want to risk it all and start from 0 again #being poor af makes this a lot more complicated #i feel like i've been living in one giant panic attack since last year #consuming as much media as i can to stop thinking #like it's gotten so bad people ask me if i'm ok on a daily basis #make it stop #i feel like everyone is moving on and finding their path in life and i'm just here like #hi please put me in a straitjacket so i can't make bad choices in life and regret them #i feel so lost help

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wasyago · 1 year

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the brainrot won

#GUY S i know i haven't posted anything in a while and thats because im working on a big cool project that i really want to finish without-#distractions. but uh. as you can see. ive been distracted 😔. still working on it tho!!!! and im very happy with it turns out its just-#super time and energy consuming so ive tried to limit my intake of other media to not make myself want to draw other stuff #i also haven't read the last two (two already?????) chapters of RnS and im very sad about it and i want to read it but you know that if i-#read it ill want to make fanart and then ill never finish my project :(#SO. sorrey for the lack of art itll be coming when im free to draw!!!!!!!#but also. yes ive watched new life because i dont want to go insane with nothing but this project on my mind and umm. had to take a little-#break to do a couple designs for fun... and to switch it up a bit because for real im going insane i think #ALSO. friend got me into zelda botw and i haven't played a whole lot yet (because project) but ive tried to take some inspiration for-#designs from there. at least for joel and scott. everyone else not so much...#WELL ANYWAYS this is getting long. i should really stop rambling in the tags and just make separate posts for all this but i dont want to #umm. tags.#new life smp #smallishbeans #mythical sausage #geminitay #pearlescentmoon #smajor1995 #inthelittlewood #my art #sketch

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countess-of-edessa · 10 months

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the thing about taking advice from anyone on tiktok or instagram including catholic and christian type influencers, parenting advice, relationship advice, etc, or internalizing any stories of horrible relationships and betrayal people tell on those platforms, or reading about all the ways interpersonal relationships can end horribly and be cycled through extremely quickly on those platforms is that you are necessarily then consuming the thoughts and experiences of someone who is willing to put their face and name on a public social media platform to talk at you. and like 1% of those people have a good reason for doing so and the other 99% are completely unhinged. so everything you’re consuming has first gone through the filter of "is this person weird and insane enough to make Instagram reels of themselves crying?" and if the answer is yes maybe their advice doesn’t apply to your life because you’re a normal person who would not do that.

#i don’t know if this makes sense but it’s something i was thinking about today #not that i really live my life according to Instagram reel advice but as a human being when i see something stated as fact i naturally seek #out the parts of it I believe or compare it to my current worldview #and when that person seems to have a lot of “clout” for discussing spiritual things….idk sometimes I’m like wait is this true? should i #believe this? and other times I’m like well is this a real pattern of behavior that can be observed in many people from different walks of #life including my own? this thing that all men do or all women do or the way all couples will eventually behave #this makes it sound like i am constantly on social media consuming hours of content which im really not #I’ll be on a train and scroll a little bit and something gets stuck in my craw #but with me I’m always like am i rationalizing this away because i don’t want it to resonate?#and I think in the case of anything on social media the answer can almost always be no #because im like wait. why would i take advice from someone who has a public Instagram account #im not saying a stopped clock isn’t right twice a day but really how much of my perspective and life experiences can they share in #when we have this totally totally mismatched worldview #(i mean this also applies to basically anyone offering any type of life advice who isn’t catholic about that)#(but when they are Catholics doing this that gives me slightly more pause for obvious reasons I’m like we are on the same team though?)#(and we are but only kind of and i do not have to listen to you because being an Instagram influencer is still cringe in 99% of cases.)

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morgan-the-lonely-brick · 1 day

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I wonder what my irl 'friends' would say if they found out about the stuff i write :)

#especially since 70% of my 'friends' are the most vanilla sugar level media consumers #i write 'friends' that way because. well. i don't know.. i don't really feel like i can tell them things. yes we're friends but i won't #spend more time with them than is convenient outside of school or such because i don't really like them enough to do so #and i don't trust them to not make fun of me for the things i say so i don't share many things with them at all.#we don't really text either. there's no opverlap of interest or opinion #we're friends of convenience one could say #um. friends of circumstance #i suppose acquaintances is a better word then #anyway #i think they would stop talking to me if they found out lol #(my bestie doesn't count in any of this she's my special human and i love her i love her so much)

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lilac-vode · 1 year

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i really need to stop headcanoning characters as being like me and then being heartbroken when the opposite is proven true. this is not a sustainable model

#since theres no canon rep i tend to just pretend my fav chars are aroace as long as theres no indication to the contrary #but it makes it feel so much worse when they inevitably get their romance arc because nobody can be complete without one apparently right?#god i just. i know its all on me but it feels personal #am i dramatic? sure. am i overreacting? probably. but boy does it hurt #i think. it is time to stop consuming media #anyway time to go immediately into abject denial which im sure is a totally fine way to handle this #god forbid we have a VIDEO GAME without KISSING!!!!!!!!!!!#jedi survivor spoilers #god im so fucking devastated

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hellneedsaruler · 1 year

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There’s this recording going around of a podcast where the man is saying how you should never be at home and only use it for 7 hrs of sleep AND I CAN’T BE MORE FURIOUS ??? ARE YOU OKAY ??! DO YOU NEED ME TO CALL THE COPS ????

#idk who invited this sick sick notion of 24/7 productivity but it needs to stop #you can lie down for a bit #you can stare at the clouds through your window #you can read and cook and learn and consume so much art and media at home #you can have plants and dance and meditate #why would it even be called home if you couldn’t do all that and more there #we’re humans and we were made exist and enjoy and think #not for any other reason #i think we should take away podcasts from men #they’re too emotional #screaming into the tumblr void #random thoughts #hellsy ready to commit crimes

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neuromantis · 2 years

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what i think all people should learn for their mentally ill loved ones is what counts as a good distraction for them. if what they really need is actually a distraction. different people have different needs in a crisis and i am glad i have a friend who figured me out.

#i don't know whether he did this intentionally or accidentally #but this really helps #a lot #i am even fine not drinking because i look forward to our calls and get to feel relatively normal #this shit is a lot like figuring out someone's love language #sorry if i made you feel weird by posting this shit - love ya <3 #like it is genuinely almost unbearable for me to consume media by myself anymore #i think too much and i obsess and i say horrible useless shit and dig myself in deeper #but when someone's with me i can stop thinking about what it means to me as hard as i do and start thinking of another person

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toonfinatic · 2 years

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The amount of money i have spent on finnish kh manga is insane and i am blaming it on my autism

#its so funny in finnish. i know finnish people fucking hate everything thats translated to finnish but #i think people are just being too negative. theres so much shit thats SO FUNNY when translated to finnish #any finnish kh fans not reading the manga in finnish are missing out.#any finnish fans of anything not consuming finnish translations of said thing are MISSING OUT!!!#STOP being so negative and whiny !!! open your third eye consume finnish translated media #im not saying nearly any finnish translation or dub or whatever is good. because it at times isnt #im just saying that its so funny seeing media you normally consume in english translated to finnish #even if its bad you have something to laugh about.#also ok for real i feel like some finns hate finnish translations just because they dont WANT to like them #sometimes i feel like im insane bc i dont mind most quote unquote horrible finnish dubs of movies etc #but im countering it with Everyone else is too negative and im correct #senjaposting #senja autismposting #things i can rant about for 2 hours straight while shivering like a chihuahua in a freezer

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foryoureyes-o-n-l-y · 3 months

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#I usually never read WIPs #I have a difficult time paying attention as is #and I do not deal well with suspense #how did I end up here in this place where I'm on the edge of my seat waiting for updates on all the last 3 fics I read and loved #ALL OF THEM WIPs #not even WIPs at the last few chapters stage #WIPs that are in their MOST interesting stages #I cannot stop thinking about them 😭 I cannot read anything else lest these universes are compromised in my head #which is the most ridiculous fear I have with consuming media anyway #FIC WRITERS YOU ARE MAGICAL #let me just say that #I'm obsessed #I know many others are obsessed #you've caught us hook line and sinker #I just think it's pure magic how fanfiction can just invade your life in all it's aspects because ao3 user 123angels writing is addictive #anyway remind me to never start wips again #there's always a chance I will like it too much and not be able to think about much else until it's over😭 because the author is just that #good #this reminder is for future me 🙏

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girlapologist · 1 year

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one of the biggest issues with internet consumption and comprehension is the belief that everyone is serious all the time

#im on my hands and knees #begging people to remember that ragebate and internet grifters exist #*someone makes a weird video on tiktok* *comment section freaks out #they want attention and you are giving it to them congradulations #this goes for any internet personel ever #do not trust anyone who makes money through creating content or services on social media #they’re bottom goal is and always will be money #this also goes for true crime and paranormal/supernatural enthusiasts #so much can be debunked if you just stop and think for a second #i could write two dozen essays on this and it still wouldn’t be enough #not to be all boomer because this applys to them as well #but social media has rotted people’s brains and there ability to critical analyze the content the consume #we always talk about media literacy and tiktok and what not but never actually about what it means and how it affects us #lena talks

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malusokay · 6 months

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Learning to love yourself 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Celebrate yourself. Every accomplishment deserves to be acknowledged, no matter how big or small. Stop putting yourself down by thinking that you don't deserve to celebrate your achievements just because others have accomplished "greater things." Also, there is so much fun in hyping small wins; call your girlfriend, bake a cake, and enjoy yourself!!

Invest time in things that you love. Doing what makes you happy is essential for your mental health. It's so important to pursue one's small and simple pleasures without the intention of turning them into profit!!

Boundaries and relationships. Learn to say no, define and set boundaries, question your current relationships and friendships, and distance yourself from people who make you feel unloved or worthless.

Allow yourself to grow. Let go of the notion that you are undeserving of growth. Acknowledge the past for what it is, learn from it, and grow from it.

Refelct. Getting to know yourself deeply is key to self-love; journaling is a great way to reflect. Ask yourself questions, question your habits, observe how you respond in certain situations, etc...

Trust yourself and your intuition. Listen to yourself, and don't dismiss the small cues that your inner voice gives you!!

Care for yourself. It is not selfish to look after yourself. Start exercising, eat balanced and healthy, stay hydrated, educate yourself, read complex literature, consume media mindfully, prioritise your sleep and routines, care for your skin and hair...

Be patient. Self-love takes time; you must slowly unpack and unlearn past habits, confront uncomfortable thoughts and memories, and gain a deep understanding of yourself. Give yourself time and approach this as a journey to enjoy. <3

You guys ALWAYS ask about self-love and confidence, sooo I hope this can be a little helpful to some of you and as always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! ♡

love ya ･:*₊‧౨ৎ

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norrisainz33 · 1 month

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field hockey || GR63

☆ summary: george russell’s girlfriend, y/n, is an olympic (field) hockey player and he’s obsessed with her

☆ pairing: george russell x olympic!reader

☆ fc & warning: lily owsley and slightly suggestive. you are responsible for the content you consume

☆ requested: yes!! apologies for the delay - thank you sm for taking the time to request 🤍

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alex_albon: when is y/n/n’s next match?

georgerussell63: 2 days! same day as race day🥹

alex_albon: 💔 man i wanted to watch

georgerussell63: you still can! briefly! i will have it on in my garage

ynuser: georgie 😫 i miss you more!!!! also why don’t YOU hurry up and finish racing so you can come to paris????

georgerussell63: i’m working on it baby girl

ynuser: well work harder 😉

georgerussell63: yes ma’am 😍

lilymhe: you can’t rush greatness

georgerussell63: i know you’re right but im going to try anyway

lewishamilton: don’t stress her out mate 😂😂

georgerussell63: oops

yourbff: that’s my girl actually ☝🏻

georgerussell63: not this again 🫠

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georgerussell63: everyone stop what you’re doing - y/n is playing in the olympics today

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user1: george’s account is becoming a fan account for y/n

user2: george aren’t you racing today ??

mercedesamgf1: let’s go y/n! (george please pay attention in the drivers meeting)

georgerussell63: i am paying attention

alex_albon: y/n y/n y/n!!! let’s go!!!

lilymhe: lets gooooooo that’s my best friend!!

ynuser: i 🫶🏻 you both

user3: i thought this was y/n’s post but it’s just george reminding us how much he loves his girl

landonorris: 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧

ynuser: 🤍🇬🇧🤍🇬🇧🤍

user4: rooting for you both today!!!

user5: y/ngeorge for the win!!

mercedesamgf1: it’s race day here in SPA! Join George as he talks race day updates and aspirations and y/n’s olympic campaign.

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user4: george not talking abt y/n challenge failed

user5: i love how much he loves her

georgerussell63: my girl’s about to win!! you all should tune in!!

user16: shouldn’t you be in the car rn george

user63: he’s live tweeting from the garage apparently

mercedesamgf1: george give me your phone now - toto

user7: loving that all this mercedes and george promo is bringing the love the field hockey world deserves

yourbff: yesss georgie educate the masses on the olympic schedule!!!!

georgerussell63: watch 🗣️ gb field hockey 🗣️ now 🗣️

user9: get you a man like george who cares more about talking about your success than his own

user10: i want them to be my mom and dad

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user6: girl did you even step off the field yet ?

georgerussell63: my woman my woman my woman. i fcking love you

ynuser: i love you more my race winner

georgerussell63: simply not possible my olympic field hockey game winner

ynuser: i can’t wait to kiss your cute face

georgerussell63: sprinting away from media duties and to the jet to get to paris rn

ynuser: literally counting down the minutes

user56: a winning day for y/n/n and georgie

yourbff: a couple who wins together stays together

ynuser: 😭😭 winning on the same day hit like nothing else

yourbff: so proud of you both bb 🤍

mercedesamgf1: absolutely amazing result for you both. so so so happy for you y/n ❤️

ynuser: thank you admin ily

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landonorris: gross

georgerussell63: if you think this is gross you should’ve seen what we did after

landonorris: i hate you

alex_albon: now you can finally stop crying about missing her!

georgerussell63: yes! until the next time we are apart that is

llyzneimer: my baby girl, give her back to me

georgerussell63: never! she is mine!

lilyzneimer: didn’t anyone ever teach you to share?

georgerussell63: nope!

ynuser: hot

georgerussell63: oh yea 😏

lewishamilton: send her my best

georgerussell63: she sends it right back and she says she wants to see roscoe asap

lewishamilton: roscoe would love a play date 🤍

yourbff: stop distracting her from playing hockey

georgerussell63: i am NOT distracting her ☝🏻

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ynuser: not the way i would have hoped our time at the olympics would have ended. we gave it everything we had and for that i am so incredibly proud. there’s always next time!! thank you to everyone for the outpouring of support and love - i hope you’ve been inspired to keep watching field hockey!! thank you to my friends, my coaches, my teammates, my family and most of all george for enabling this dream to come true. see you next time paris 🤍🇬🇧

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user23: 4th is still impressive you gorgeous hockey queen

user44: thanks for introducing us to the incredible game of field hockey y/n

user54: no like fr i had no idea how fun the sport was!!! everyone say thank you y/n!

user64: thank you y/n

user74: thanks y/n/n

ynuser: you are so welcome 🫶🏻

georgerussell63: you’re an olympian y/n/n and no one can take that away from you, medal or not. you have inspired me and so many others. i love you y/n ❤️

ynuser: i love you mr russell 🥹

user45: we are proud of you mother

landonorris: great effort y/n! proud that you’re out there representing team 🇬🇧

ynuser: thank you lan

user33: still my favorite olympian

roscoelovescoco: prouds of yous my friends 😘

ynuser: i needed this thank you 😭

user35: can’t wait for the next olympics for you to eat it up and win gold

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user46: hoping you both enjoy your break!!

user87: are you guys just gonna get married yet or what

yourbff: enjoy italy!! love you both 🤍

ynuser: 🤍🤍pasta🤍🤍

mercedesamgf1: much needed rest and recovery time 🫶🏻

teamgb: until next time 🏑🇬🇧

georgerussell63: blue is your color

ynuser: so is gold 😏

georgerussell63: oh i know 💍

user78: that dress is to die for tf

roscoelovescoco: stops by and sees me pls

ynuser: will do ❤️

lilyzneimer: enjoy pretty girl

ynuser: can’t wait to see you and osc 🤍

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a/n: thanks for reading!! likes and reblogs appreciated!! this concludes my olympic reader series. appreciate all of you reading 🥹

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disclaimer: pictures are not mine and everything i write is fiction

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tardis--dreams · 2 years

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I'm so glad i watched flower of evil, so that i now have a 3rd drama to add to my endless rewatch cycle of beyond evil and the devil judge

#arguably also bad and crazy #but i can see myself watching foe at least as often as BE #rewatching it now #then resume my tdj rewatch #then wanna rewatch b&c (which i stopped 2 months ago because the streaming site sucked)#and since i have so little time in january this'll probably take till February #and you know what that means right?#BE rewatch nr 5!#(or FoE rewatch nr 2 because i wanna rewatch BE around my birthday in March)#anyway #i'm procrastinating #I'm sorry #i wanna make a post about all the beautiful shows i discovered this year #because i honestly think i haven't consumed that much media in 6 years or so #until this year i really couldn't find any interest in anything anymore #but the dramas paired with my desire to improve my korean really helped me getting out of this apathy #or whatever you wanna call it #so yay for passion #ok i'll shut up now #i need to work #for real #shut up amy #flower of evil #the devil judge #beyond evil

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inkyself · 1 year

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During yesterday SAG-AFTRA press conference a journalist asked:

“What do you say to the fans and consumers that aren’t interested in the strike and just want to see their favourite tv show?” (or something along these lines I don’t recall the precise words)

And Fran Drescher responded with:

“Well, what makes you think they are not interested in what’s happening here? I think that they have an allegiance to all of us because we bring joy and entertainment to their lives […] so I don’t think that your assumption that they don’t really care about anything but being entertained over the summer is the bottom line” and proceded to say how this corporate greed can extend to all fields of works and how we understand that

AND WE DO UNDERSTAND AND WE DO CARE!

I love her so much for this! It makes me sooo mad when the assumption is that, as a consumer, I don’t care about people who make something that I love, because I do, we do! I know for a fact that people in fandoms care so much about the people involved in the creation of every aspect of their favourite piece of media.

Stop infantilising the audience! We are not whiny children and we understand the complexities of this moment. I am sooo happy that she recognised that.

#sag aftra #sag strike #wga strike #and I say that as an iwtv fan #that just shut down production #and cancelled their sdcc panel #so I know how sad it is #but I also know how devastating is for actors and writers involved with the strike and how that was a last resort against #frankly horrific and unbelievable corporate greed

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notherpuppet · 2 months

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Do you think there's a right and/or wrong way to handle QPR? I know it's a tricky relationship, but it feels like most/some people kind of just slap the label onto a ship while depicting the ship as just romantic/having no difference with a romantic relationship. (this is why I was a little surprised when you said you do radioapple qpr when it reads a lot more like normal romance). Not meant as an attack or anything on anyone, just genuinely curious more than anything. Again, tricky relationship

So Imma put this link to info at the top of this post: https://taaap.org/2022/07/16/qprs-part-one/

Alright, so please take what I say with a grain of salt, because that's exactly what it is. One small bit of perspective in a mass of many people who experience QPRs in their life and/or are on an aro/ace spectrum. I also have NO QUALIFICATIONS on gender/sexuality theory, so my opinions are shaped by what I've learned and experienced personally. While people may identify with the same term, we are all still individuals with our own experiences. Words can help describe a phenomenon, but it doesn't make everyone who identifies with the word into a monolith.

So I've stated a few times that I navigate shipping Alastor similar to my own experiences as an aroace person. (I guess I'm sharing about myself with this post, but I think that can be helpful to just spreading awareness of an "alternative lifestyle"). So I'm romance-repulsed and sex-repulsed LOL but I'm also "positive" about those things. Like I view romance and sex as lovely, fun experiences people can have, but I've never been into it personally. It's fun for me to consume media about romance/sex, but yknow, it's also fun for me to consume media about violence or isolation. Doesn't mean I want to experience or engage in any of those things lol.

Anyway, I'm a huge people person and I love to party and yknow it seems most people are really wanting to fall in love or fuck or whatever pretty much all the time, but especially at parties hahaha. Normally, I'm pretty touch-averse, but I love dancing so much and it's a blast to dance with a partner (salsa especially!! i don't care for grinding for probably obvious reasons). And to connect the two previous sentences, people (whatever gender they are) would be very kissy-touchy on the dancefloor. Which i honestly dont really give a fuck about hahaha. I don't really get anything out of kissing but I also don't mind it. I just like to dance. It's all a pretty superficial--but still genuinely fun--experience for me.

When it comes to my deeper or more intimate connections, I have had friendships that have felt SO on the line of what was viewed as a romantic relationship. They were exceptional friends and we connected on a level that was deep and true, but it wasn't romantic. Sometimes we'd slow dance, sometimes we kissed, and it rocked. But it wasn't more than that, it was all that it needed to be. I didn't want more and neither did they (except one situation and so we had to stop being friends lol whoops). From the outside, people would even refer to us as partners in a half joking way, but we really were just friends. And I love those friends!! And a huge part of what made those relationships (which at the time were described as 'situationships' because we didn't know any of these terms haha) was their convenience. We either lived in the same building, worked together, or were neighbors LOL. I'm still friends with those absolutely lovely folks, but we don't live around each other, so our QPR just appears a lot more like any ole regular friendship. But it's not like there was a feeling that we transitioned into something different than before. It twas what it twas! (Had to take a pause while I was typing to reminisce fondly for a second, okay back to hazbin hahaha)

SO, whenever someone asks or it comes up, MOST OF THE TIME I do ship alastor through an aroace lens and experience with QPRs (specifically, MINEE because they were fun and I've never felt like doing this before I met a character like Al). And my XP is: "this isn't gonna be a partnership and we ain't fucking" LMFAO. so yeah!

When it comes to using a queer term like QPR, I just hope folks are considerate in their writing, but I also am inclined to just believe them if they say that's their intention because QPRs can look very different. Again, aroace and ace folks are not a monolith. The terms help to describe a human's experience. I'm inclined to think people are writing in good faith.

And all this being said, I want to just emphasize that I really don't think it's necessary to consider any of this shit if you want to ship a fictional character. I understand wanting to be protective of a character who shares an identifier with you (I personally don't wanna see romance/sex with Al in canon). But shipping is a fun thing a fandom does that often does ignore canon. Tale as old as time. I don't think anyone needs to be beholden to canon when they're writing fanfiction or having fun. If we did, I would have like--5 artworks on this blog hahaha. These characters are like dollies, do whatever you want. It's cool if people don't like it and I think it's cool if people do. It's just not that serious. There are ships I'm not particularly into or dynamics that I am not enchanted by, but whatever. I can just scroll or close my eyes.

TLDR; shipping in fandom doesn't need to be taken seriously at ALL. It can just be fun way for someone to play with fictional characters they like. That being said, I think it's good practice to use queer terms thoughtfully.

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