#constantly having to go into detail about your orientation but also making sure that people get that you're not “just a cis gay guy”
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aachen404 · 6 months ago
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Am I the only one who isn't understanding this label discourse bullshit?
I keep seeing people trying to justify their hate against [insert label] because [insert more established label] people are uncomfortable and how it invalidates their spaces.
I do mean this in the nicest, politest, with the most worried-looking face I can muster: have you gone outside recently? Have you been to these so called queer spaces outside of online spaces?
I can assure you that besides the very few butthurt idiots, no one in their right mind will give a fuck how you choose to use the labels you happen to find. Most people will just not care that much because their label, as a fully personal thing, will mean different things for different people, and thus a different thing for them, than for you.
And if a label doesn't make sense to you, there's a very simple next step: ask the person about the label, and if you're not an ass about it, there's a good chance that they'll tell you.
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sxorpiomooon · 2 months ago
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How would a tarot reader describe you to them? A pac reading
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Pile 1-
They would describe you as someone who knows when to strike. Someone who's patient and knows when to grab the opportunity, someone who understands the value of the right timing. I had a vision of a cheetah then a cat in their attacking mode waiting to grab their prey. Someone who's hardworking and very detail oriented about their work. Someone who's very traditional too and likes to go by the rules, someone who might also be religious and a good teacher. Someone who teaches very good and will have their juniors looking at them for advices and approval of any sort. Someone who looks for a very equal partnership I'm seeing a lot of this reading revolving around career you'll meet this person when you are working and pretty settled I'm getting 24 or late 20s. This will also be a very true love they might talk about how you will both be equals in relationship and work like a team. I also heard "bosslady"?
Pile 2-
Someone who feels too much guilty about everything, you might be going through a bad phase I think. This pile is most likely to have a very hard terrible time growing up hating themselves and everything and once they grow up they will be all about loving themselves and others, true enlightenment. A lot of rage which is the result of love. Someone who is also probably learning or will learn to see themselves for who they truly are that is, someone who is always in the spotlight and comfortable in it. Someone who always attracts everyone wherever they go I'm seeing sparkly eyeshadow? Golden and blue you might love to dress or style other people up.
Pile 3-
Someone who can give the most heartwarming compliments as well as the most ruthless insults. This reading will be mostly focused on your communication skills. Someone very sure of who they are and their identity. Someone who is capable of making things happen and make sure to do so. Someone who is very blunt and can come across as very blunt sometimes. Someone who goes to the root of the problem to solve it very extraordinary communication skills. Someone who is very insightful and might all of a sudden get inspiration of things I'm seeing a very big map or something. Looking at the other card it makes sense lmao someone who wants to do alot of things just for the sake of doing them. Someone who genuinely lives and experiences.
Pile 4-
Someone very resilient and determined. Someone who just refuses to give up no matter what. Someone who endures very well I had a vision of someone just breathing in a big sun in their chest. Accepting everything like it's your own. Someone who knows how to overcome obstacles. Someone who over analyses and has a very restless mind. I had a vision of someone constantly doing that thing with leg where they are always moving it anxiously. Someone who will achieve alot purely because of their hardwork, determination and resilience. This pile probably needs to hear this, you are going to make it very big pile 4 keep working hard.
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whatudowhennooneseesyou · 1 month ago
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https://www.tumblr.com/whatudowhennooneseesyou/765031256699404289/greeting-ruby-are-u-able-to-do-felix-red-and
No I think it’s me 😭 I think I put that request a while ago I’m not sure but happy to see ur doing it Ruby
Have a great night 🌹
𝐍𝐚𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐀𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐬: 𝐅𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐱 𝐋𝐞𝐞 (𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐅𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝)
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ᴅɪꜱᴄʟᴀɪᴍᴇʀ: Think about it. Write about it. Have hard thoughts. Do not take it seriously. None of this information is confirmed and all theoretical. 18+ and contains smut.
ᴍᴇᴛʜᴏᴅᴏʟᴏɢʏ: Traditional Astrology & Whole Sign
ᴏᴠᴇʀᴠɪᴇᴡ:
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This analysis will be slightly shorter and less detailed due to Felix's Rising Sign being unknown.
Virgo Sun
Aries Moon
Rising Sign Unknown (although if I were to guess, I do strongly believe Felix is a Cancer Rising- his personality traits, appearance and life themes align with being ruled by the Moon)
Libra Mercury
Libra Venus
Leo Mars (again, Mars in 2nd House would explain the deep voice and why he's one of the most popular (if not, the most popular) member of Stray Kids.)
ꜰᴜᴄᴋʙᴏɪ ʀᴀᴛɪɴɢ:
9/10!!!
The fuckboi energy is STRONG with Felix because his Aries Moon and Leo Mars indicates he's not the most romantic person in relationships and he's quite primal/pleasure-focused in his escapades.
He can detach and separate emotional from physical feelings and he has a HIGH drive so he might require constant and copious amounts of sex in order to feel satisfied.
Felix also loves A LOT of attention, praise and reassurance with his Libra and Leo placements and the more, the better.
If a man with a Leo and Libra placements is unhealed (which let's face it- Felix is in his 20s so I doubt he's seeing a therapist) then he might prefer constant attention from groups/hordes of people, rather than a singular person b/c they prefer to be desired by multiple people.
I kid you not, I think Felix is on the same wavelength as Jeongin regarding hidden fuckboi energy.
Before you come for me, just look at the way this man flirts on stage, with Stays, with his members and that iconic Risabae interview. The man has EXPERIENCE.
ʀᴇᴅ & ɢʀᴇᴇɴ ꜰʟᴀɢꜱ:
ʀᴇᴅ:
Commitment phobic (potentially)- see above for my biggest reason why, if he was toxic enough- he could be the type that's for the streets permanently.
Emotionally impulsive and volatile! His Aries Moon indicates he struggles with emotional regulation and is the type to go off the deep end over the smallest of issues because he's the type to bottle things up.
Superficial! His Virgo Sun and Libra Venus can make him superficial and appearance- focused and could be more interested in how well you two LOOK together vs how well you two actually are compatible.
ɢʀᴇᴇɴ:
Loveable! By this I mean he does have an endless amount of love and passion to give to you, you would never feel like he doesn't love you because he'll show it constantly through acts of service and physical touch.
Confidence! Felix's confident nature means he's not afraid to initiate or reveal his feelings, he has enough self-reassurance to take those risks, no matter how anxious he feels internally.
Adventure! His Leo Mars indicates he gets bored easily so he would always find a way to keep the spark alive in the relationship, no matter how long you've been together.
ɪᴅᴇᴀʟ ᴛʏᴘᴇ…ɪꜰ ʜᴇ'ꜱ ɪɴᴛᴏ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ:
ᴘʜʏꜱɪᴄᴀʟ ᴛʀᴀɪᴛꜱ:
Felix's sexual orientation is unknown BUT if he were into women, would be attracted to the 'effortlessly put-together' aesthetic with his Libra Venus, feminine, elegant but simple in their appearance.
His Leo Mars attracts him to confidence and aura so ppl with a big smile, nice teeth, straight posture and shiny hair would also be physical traits he'd find attractive.
Virgo/Aries placements typically are drawn to the 'natural/glowy' look so if you can look hot with no makeup or light makeup and have your hair thrown prettily in a messy bun whilst wearing a baggy T-shirt or workout gear? Then Felix is your man.
ᴘᴇʀꜱᴏɴᴀʟɪᴛʏ ᴛʀᴀɪᴛꜱ:
Extroverted! He does need someone who is extroverted or at least an ambivert that enjoys consistently being social and attending group environments like he does.
Social! He finds charisma incredibly attractive, if you can light up a room and have people gush over you with a simple smile and a twinkle in your eye, he will adore you for life.
Playful! He has to be with a partner who he feels he can release his inner child and be playful and kinda quirky with, that won't make fun of him for his weird noises.
I feel like I'm just describing Bang Chan here.
ᴅᴏᴍ, ꜱᴜʙ ᴏʀ ꜱᴡɪᴛᴄʜ:
Hear me out, hear me out, hear me out!!!
I do think Felix is more dominant than what he lets on because he knows the company and Stays prefer him to have that 'cute fairy boy' persona but his dominant side creeps out on stage, particularly when he performs by himself or when he's on solo press tours or promotion.
I definitely see him as a hard dom and can be quite freaky in the bedroom BUT it would take a long time to coax it out of him, he wouldn't show you that side of him until he's been intimate with you a couple of times.
I think the switch-dom ratio would be 60/40 and I don't think he'd prefer someone who's extremely bratty all the time but definitely a soft brat, someone who's nice and bubbly but has a slight attitude problem you know?
ᴋɪɴᴋꜱ…ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ᴀ ꜰᴇᴡ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇᴍ:
Auralism! It's obvious but it's very true, we see this with Felix's loves of ASMR and how he's quite an auditory person. He would love your voice but also loves the noises your body makes during a tryst of passion, the slap of skin on skin-, the licking of his tongue against your cunt etc.
'can you hear the sound of your cunt taking my fingers in baby? that's the sound of heaven for me'
Camming! This is an intrusive thought but Felix wasn't an idol, he would have made a killing on OnlyFans providing ASMR content with his voice and fem!boy appearance. His Leo Mars indicates he likes to be watched and be appreciated by multiple ppl.
'all your comments are making me so hard right now, if I keep receiving them, I might just wear the tiara one of my beautiful subscribers bought me'
Voyeurism! Idk what the kink is called but I do think Felix might get aroused over his own performance and voice so I wouldn't be surprised if he enjoys filming something sexy and then wants to watch you watch the footage and get hard over watching you get yourself worked up and then fuck you after.
'Look how wet you got just from watching me jerk off babe? It's a good thing you've got the real thing right here to make you feel good'
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punksocks · 2 years ago
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Astrology observations No.15
*just my opinions, take them with a grain of salt
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-Neptune hard aspects to Mercury/ Neptune in 3rd/Pisces Mercury- people may constantly underestimate your intelligence and they’re genuinely surprised if you’re observant/smart
-The only Virgo risings I’ve known that are not skinny/petite have mars conjunct asc (even then they had a period of time when they were really skinny and either got out of that on purpose or on accident)
-Did you notice that a lot of Cancer Asc men get cast as like “traditional” manly men. I saw Ben Affleck was a Cancer Asc and Kurt Russel! They’re both known for their action movies (I like Kurt Russel more lol) and I was looking at Jon Hamm’s birth chart and he’s a cancer Asc too. He prefers to be a comedy guy, but looks like he walked out of the 50s so he had his breakthrough in mad men. (There’s also a lot going on there with that whole hazing scandal that I note everytime I see him so that’s a lot)
-Libra mars Asc try not to get frustrated but often their mars energy leaks out in other ways and they end up expressing their anger somehow despite the passive aggressive placement for a mars sign
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-Fire Mercuries (especially Leo and Sagittarius) copy speech patterns/catch phrases a lot imo, almost as much as water Mercuries but less exact mimicry. Earth Mercuries tend to have very specific speech patterns that don’t change too much throughout their life, they can be very direct and to the point but will have a great deal of detail to share depending on the subject. Air Mercuries tend to have very distinct speech patterns and usually are the most likely to talk and write in their own sort of prose, I’ve known a few (specifically Gemini Mercuries) that have overcome speech impediments and become great, captivating speakers.
-Pluto touching Saturn can amplify its lessons and effects to a higher degree. (Trine, Sextile) will make the experiences more intense but conjunction, opposition, and square could make these effects explosive and intense. With both positive and negative aspects the native will be forced to transform and change their ways- with the negative aspects (conjunct, opposition, square) the native will feel the trials they go through in these transformations
-12th house placements can give you psychic dreams, I’ve also frequently dreamed being people other than myself. Mars will have action oriented dreams. Sun may have more dreams about experiences they’ve had echoing in their dreams. Moon will have deep emotional experiences. Venus may dream about love and friendships.
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-Moon opposition sun synastry can create a lot of tension in a romantic relationship. There seems to be some underlying competitiveness going on. Especially if the moon and the sun are Cardinal signs.
-Moon conjunct Sun synastry can be intense. I think it shows how conjunct can be a negative aspect. The energies can understand each other sure, but they can also become an echo chamber of feeding into each other’s egos. I feel similarly about Sun conjunct Asc synastry. (My parents had this and oof, if that relationship isn’t karmic anyway it’s even more so now..)
-The only conjunct synastry I think I had intensely play out was Scorpio moon conjunct my Asc (I didn’t even realize it at the time) it was a lot! Fun and passionate but also he would get so overwhelmed he would be just shaking in normal conversation. Felt like with that and the 8th house synastry and my venus conjunct his pluto there was no was to turn the heat down and be normal with each other. Like we knew it would be short term but he was like talking about the future then I was overthinking the future and then it was over and idk that’s too much imo lol, lil dramatic just to be over in a snap. (Local Capricorn moon doesn’t get what all the fuss is about lol)
-Plus you can have all the positive synastry in the world, it really depends on timing and effort and individual choices and joint communication to work on your relationship, it’s an effort game
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wisteriaiswriting · 2 days ago
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Hello hello!! I'd like to request a matchup pls!
I'm staying anon on this one but i hope u can do it, i'd like it to be a romantic matchup for tf2! Thanks in advance :)
I'm Mina, i'm 21, my pronouns are she/her and i'm bi, I'm 5'2 and i have long black hair with bangs, i wear glasses and i guess my body type is like, mid size? Not sure haha. I have a few tattoos and a bellybutton piercing. I like to experiment with my outfits and gender presentation, one day i can be very femenine and the other i'll just dress like a 2000s nu-metal singer. My favorite era regarding fashion is the 70s!! It's one of my big interests hehe.
I study journalism and have a big sense of social justice. I'm very extroverted and love being around people but i also think of alone time as extremely important. I have autism and it's a bit hard to read social cues directed at me, but i'm really good at reading who people are, not so much their intentions lol. I have two cats! Not sure if that's important but hey. I'm very detail oriented and very specific at the time of doing tasks. I'm a libra :) I'm very straightforward and have a dry sense of humor, but i'm always willing to help anyone who asks. If you p please include at least two results? One is ok though! I'm doing this for fun haha. I love your writing 💛💛
I match you with...
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Medic (Romantic)
Doesn’t mind your fashion sense and how it can change, this only broadens the clothing choice for him. (He definetly steals some from anywhere for you)
While he doesn’t and has never studied journalism, he does appreciate anyone who does. This allows you two to have actual civilised conversations.
He’s more of an ambivert, but he likes the fact that you can keep up with him and his conversation topics,  this also means a lot of the time he lets you talk to the others if he’s busy. He also enjoys some quiet, alone time as well. Opting to spend it with you in the infirmary or in his room for a higher chance of being alone.
Very quick to notice your autism, and honestly, he has no problem working around the way you do things. He also has a hard time reading some social cues, but that's kinda on him due ignoring plenty of them.
Is there to help you figure out people's intention, also gossips with you about said people when you read them.
He adores having some sort of schedule, so you being time specific works really well with him. (Can also can clash depending, but we’re gonna ignore that for now)
With you both being detail oriented it’s very unlikely that anything will get by unchecked, so rarely nothing goes wrong under your watch.
Appreciates the fact that you’re very straightforward, it lets you two have honest and proper conversations.
Would you think this man would have a normal sense of humor? It may not be dry but this means he’s trying to get you to smile.
And
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Sniper (Romantic)
He actually loves your nu metal fashion, after plenty of away missions, he’ll go out of his way to try find some more fashion pieces.
I just feel like he also likes fashion.
If you ever wear some 70’s fashion he silently melts (Just ingonore the fact it's 1968, it's totally in the future or new comic) he loves seeing you wear different types of fashion.
As we know he’s a very introverted man, so he appreciates having you around to talk to others, he’ll hang around still but lets you do everything social.
He also likes having his alone time, but now he has someone else to enjoy it with. Lets you hang out in his van for hours at a time.
I have this massive gut feeling that he’s also autistic, the constantly masking type. But he’s there to help you understand any social cues needed.
The fact you are good at reading people makes you two a mean duo on missions, as he’s there to verify who they are and also to try to figure out their intentions..
Absolute cat man, would rather cats over dogs anyday.
Gets you with being straight forward and your dry sense of humor. (Back to autistic Sniper) He never got the whole ‘sugarcoating’ thing, it’s more practical to not be so nice about it, so he understands you very well. Also your humor, god you two could go at it for hours or even days.
The points were a bit lower this time but they were pretty close at the start!
Medic - 8
Sniper - 8
Scout - 7
Administrator - 7
Miss pauling - 7
Soldier - 6
Demoman - 6
Spy - 6
Engineer - 5
Saxton hale - 4
Pyro - 4
Heavy - 3
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inkwell-intermission · 1 year ago
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Dunno if you're still in school, I just woke up and saw the choose violence post and hell YEAH I'm interested. 1, 8, 22
8: common fandom opinion that everyone is wrong about
Honestly, its obviously subjective, but there are small things? I think people are wrong when they make Droog Russian. I don't know. I think it's just tired. bonus points if they characterize him as like, Russian and a sociopath or whatever. It's just boring. I also don't like when Sleuth is blond. Bottle blond sure, but do you think that man puts enough effort into his appearance to BOTHER? He barely showers every other day let alone gets metrosexual with it. If a version of Sleuth was going to be a bottle blond you KNOW it would be Scofflaw, Sleuth absolutely does not serve daily hygiene in the way some people draw him 😭
22. your favorite part of canon that everyone else ignores
This is a hard one because there's so little intermission to begin with, and not that much problem sleuth. I really enjoy the dipshit fop versions of the sleuth team and i never see anything about them i guess? I want to see more of the gentlemen, I should draw some stuff for them at some point. I'm going to put most of 1 under a cut because I'm gonna get into it.
the character everyone gets wrong
Where to start, I've got thoughts on a bunch of characterizations I think are just wrong, but the top four are Pickle Inspector, Die, Clubs Deuce and Droog.
TO START: PICKLE INSPECTOR
Whenever I see PI characterized as a tea drinker I think its very funny but also incorrect. I am fairly certain we never see PI drink tea, outside of possibly some provided by Death. When left to his own devices PI brews his own moonshine and gets absolutely plastered locked in his own office. He keeps his own waste in a glass vase in his office! I don't believe he has long hair as a person either, because he would NOT take care of it. He showers less frequently than Ace or Sleuth. I think if he had long hair that would get so tangled and he would be so stressed and fried about detangling it would never happen and he'd have to cut it all off. I think he cleans up his act a little when Broad comes into his life because he doesn't want to scare her off by being such a disaster, but he's low functioning, very neurotic, and constantly dissociating. Even if he's smart and detail-oriented, I don't believe he channels that into cleaning his own space, maintaining his personal hygiene, or literally just going grocery shopping. He isn't fussy and neat and a tea drinker, he's fussy and snippy and a bit peevish, he's sometimes delusional and dissociative and sitting in his own sweat for days. He needs to be hosed down like a dog at the groomers!!! DIE
This man is also not long haired because he is disgusting and i cannot imagine him taking care of it. he's similar to PI but doesn't dissociate in the same way and expresses his anxieties a lot more externally. I personally headcanon him as having trichotillomania and having very thin hair and eyebrows, and stubby if any eyelashes. He's not in an environment conducive to like. Reducing anxiety. So it's not getting better really. He wears gloves to make it more difficult to pull out individual hairs. If he's a leprechaun with no hair, he probably picks at his skin, and I headcanon leprechauns as having something akin to vellus hairs all over their body giving them a very soft feeling skin, and he would also tear those out. I think he's marginally more fixated on contamination anxiety than PI is, but overall he doesn't have the motivation to take care of himself! He lives a very stressful existence and is like the most frightened and aggressive donskoy cat you've ever seen. I do want to also note that I think him just being a wimp is wrong, i think he is a wimp but responds to threats not by cowering exclusively, but also by brandishing a gun and getting very agitated and i think he bites. TLDR he is not a cute schmoopy to me he is a possum who needs to get its shots (not for rabies. tetanus and the like)
CLUBS DEUCE
I don't have exactly as much to say on deuce that i didn't cover in another post i made about him, but it seems like he gets infantilized a lot sometimes. He's a grown ass adult man, he's just full of whimsy and love and enjoys being alive and setting fires and building things. He's not a toddlerrrrr. I'm not saying everyone treats him like one but he's got like. a full inner life. He's just has some of the best mental health in midnight city
DIAMONDS DROOG
I can go into his character in detail another time, but I'll say a little about how i think he's fanonized so deeply. He is not cool. He just looks cool. He's not verbose, he cultivates a very particular look and sticks to it, but that's not because he's some kind of casanova, or suave. His flat affect is unintentional. His unflappable reputation is nonexistent- he is incredibly violent and prone to temper flare-ups, the only difference is how much he screams or swears compared to Slick, he's almost as violent as him, just not as off-the-handle. He's very specific and detail oriented, but is also INCREDIBLY boring! Not in a bad way, he's just. Normal. I think he has absolutely no imagination skills. his imagination stat is like a paradox. He simply doesn't imagine anything new! When the Draconian Dignitary puts the ring on in Homestuck that one time, and he doesn't get a whole big transformation? HE COULDN'T IMAGINE HIMSELF AS ANYTHING COOLER! And, i also think he's autistic (like me), and that ties into how i think he's so uncomfortable with change or going outside of his specific ass comfort zone. He's not cool, or even sexy, its all a facade. He calls the number on clothes catalogues to interrogate underpaid employees about the kinds of seams on their trousers and the fabric treatments they use on their products for hours. He eats one of three things when he goes out if he goes out at all. He has a hundred opinions on alcohol and cigars and he doesn't even like smoking cigars firsthand because the flavors too strong. He lives a highly internal life. If he wore a collarless overshirt he would die. He wouldn't even wear a funny tie of his own volition! He's kind of a killjoy dipshit! AND I LIKE HIM FOR IT! Thank you for listening to my thoughts.
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hadoriel · 2 years ago
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Hi hello my friends and super nerds
I would like to write or do something with a Spy x Family + His Dark Materials crossover... aka ‘what if the Forgers had daemons’ scenario. I’m not great at form finding, especially on fictional characters, so I really hope some daemians can help me out .w.
I’m gonna preface this with two things: - I personally believe daemons would react to trauma and stress in bizarre ways. Most of the cast of SxF is severely traumatized so uh there’s some fun I want to do, like Twilight having never settled, Anya’s never taking a ‘real’ animal form etc - I’d ideally like a mix of symbolic and realistic form stuff. I haven’t been in the HDM/daemonism community too much for a good decade now, but I’ve seen some people say they’re different things so uh... I’d like to just blend it
Twilight (Loid + [REDACTED]): Due to the massive trauma early in life, his daemon has never settled. It basically gives him the master of disguise superpower easily, as it’s extremely rare (and bad!) when that happens. Even so, not many people know of it, just some WISE higher-ups like Sylvia, maybe Franky As Twilight, he’s very independent, detached, meticulous, solitary, detail-oriented, with a brain moving a mile a minute. His ‘default’ form would reflect this. As Loid, however, he’d need something more gentle and approachable, that cares deeply for family, but still very intelligent The fun part would be that he doesn’t realize he’s settling slowly by acting as Loid. I’m not sure if he’d really fit exactly what Loid’s persona daemon is, but we know ‘on the inside’ he’s very loyal, manipulative, crazy smart, anxious
Yor: We don’t know exactly what happened to Yor’s parents, but I think it was likely around settling years (onset of puberty). Having to take over an adult role for Yuri, I’d think she settled early and suddenly. She’s also fiercely loyal (even more than Twilight), cares deeply for family, worried about not being normal enough or not being good enough constantly, act first think later, scary when threatened When we first meet her, Yor’s daemon would be sickly, skinny, mottled. But through the story, they’d get healthier
Anya: Since Anya’s a child, she doesn’t have a defined form yet. I do want to note that, since she’s a human experiment, something is still very wrong with her daemon, though. I’m mostly going with that her forms are always mythical animals and chimeras, never a ‘real’ animal, but open to feedback if anyone thinks something different?
Yuri: His is ‘normal’... relatively. He probably also settled early but not weirdly or suddenly. He’s obsessive, overly protective, uses intelligence as power, aggressive, absolutely dedicated, only vulnerable to their loved ones
Franky: Probably the most normal daemon situation in the whole cast tbh. He’s a jokester but very smart and weirdly wise. He’s like the most typical ENTP ever, if you know your MBTI. Social and savvy, but not very charming
Sylvia (Handler): Her daemon would be quiet and stoic with an aggressive side. She’s a mentor and a leader, who deals with the unfortunate ugly situations, so she’s very dedicated and hard working. There’s a softer side to her, but rarely seen. Not as tunnel-vision as Yuri at all, but probably a form in the same vein
Nightfall (Fiona): Super quiet, super dedicated, super antisocial and unemotional. Except that she’s obsessed with Twilight, of course, just that she never shows it ever. I have an idea that her daemon likes to make ‘weirdly aggressive’ moves at Twilight’s, like laying on them, which Twilight is always slightly alarmed by but it’s just Fiona’s very miscommunicated adoration lmao
Donovan: He’s severed. Nobody knows this. They just think his daemon hides in his suit all the time
Damian: Wants to settle asap and tries to take ‘noble’ forms like lions and wolves and eagles, due to pressure
Becky: Is weird and tries to put accessories on her daemon. The forms are always extra pretty animals
Okay so now that I kinda wrote down the jist of the cast... Anyone wanna help me with form finding for them? .w.;;;;;;;;;;
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[ leo woodall, cis man, he/him ] — whoa! LEO DARBY just stole my cab! not cool, but maybe they needed it more. they have lived in the city for 8 YEARS, working as the OWNER OF KITTY AND BREW. that can’t be easy, especially at only 30 YEARS OLD. some people say they can be a little bit ABSENT-MINDED and IMPULSIVE, but i know them to be COMPASSIONATE and HONEST whatever. i guess i’ll catch the next cab. hope they like the ride back to BROOKLYN! 
IN A NUTSHELL; yes that is cat hair on your sleeve, a strong cup of tea constantly in hand, scuffed-up timberland boots, the battle scars of a life lived with love, bedhead at any time of the day, a far-off look in your eyes, the worn pages of an old bible.
tw: bullying
Name: Leo Darby Nicknames: None Age: Thirty Date of birth: 1st January 1994 Birth place: London, UK Occupation: Owner of Kitty and Brew Romantic/sexual orientation: Heteroromantic/bisexual
ABOUT.
Leo never knew his parents, not really. His father walked out the moment that he found out Leo’s mother was pregnant and she — well, she was deemed an unfit parent shortly before his second birthday. He has never been told the full details and still isn’t entirely sure he even wants to know.
Placed into the fostering system, he moved back and forth between families for the next seven years. It was always said that they’d find him a ‘forever home’ but for some reason it took time. It took so much time that it reached a point where he found himself convinced that nobody wanted him —- that he’d be bounced back and forth until he turned eighteen, when he was forced to go out into the world alone. For a child, it wasn’t the greatest start in life to have.
But he was resilient, and at nine, he was adopted by a young couple, who also happened to live in the town he had been born in. From that moment on, his life changed considerably. Finding himself in an extremely religious family, Michael following a calling to ministry, Leo found it almost impossible to stay bitter. From the moment the Darbys adopted him, he was loved unconditionally and always free to make his own decisions in life.
As the days went by, he chose to attend church services with his newly found parents, celebrating along with the rest of the family when his father was appointed as vicar at their local church.
A year or so after his adoption, they also adopted another child and for the first time in his life, he found himself with a sibling.
Before long the family moved from the small flat they had been living in and into a four-bed house, one that was much closer to the church. Leo was fourteen at the time and, unfortunately, his pride in his father wasn’t seen as cool in high school. Seen as only the vicar’s son, he was often thought of as somebody to corrupt, to drag down as far as possible. His teen years were the worst of his life, finding himself bullied daily, the other children in town intent on ruining the perfect life he’d built up over the last four years.
And so Leo became withdrawn, he began to only spend time with children much younger than him, knowing that they didn’t care where he came from. But, despite the aversion to how he was being brought up by other parties, he knew that he wanted to follow in a similar path to his father once he left school. Perhaps not ministry, nothing quite so serious, but just some way of helping out in the world. He would spend night after night in front of the computer researching, clicking through website after website until he found the answer. Missionary work seemed like the perfect solution and so, after finishing high school, he found himself a placement and travelled to Zambia.
Living and working in Africa certainly wasn’t something he’d thought he would do when he was a child, heart set on being a firefighter when he was five, but he couldn’t have asked for anything more rewarding than being able to help the children out there. Perhaps the job he had out there wasn’t as impressive as some might have thought, but for him, however, the fact he was doing anything to help was enough. He couldn’t have waited another three years to pick up a degree before travelling out there; he only knew he needed to help as soon as he possibly could.
Following two placements, both around two years long, it was time to finally come home again. A decision partly spurred on by a breakup with someone he had met while out there. He hated that it was something so fickle that caused him to leave, but the pair couldn’t have gone on as they were. Living out of one another’s pockets when things were so awkward wasn’t something he could have lived with for more than a couple of months. He left abruptly, choosing to take six months out to travel around Africa, taking in the sights for the first time and even going on safari for a while.
After almost five years away, he knew that moving back home again would be difficult. He didn’t have many friends there anymore, nor a career to speak of, and aside from his parents and his siblings, it was going to be a little like starting over. So in the end, he chose not to go back, he'd caught the travel bug and that was how he ended up in New York City.
Starting over was something he was familiar with, but that didn't mean the move was easy. To begin with, in fact, he was bouncing back and forth between different apartments, working three jobs at a time, anything to keep himself afloat.
The combination of cats and coffee came around four years into his move, a labour of love brought about after spending countless hours at the local adoption centre. He knows Kitty and Brew isn't exactly known for its coffee, but he hopes the tea is at least up to scratch, as well as the opportunity to meet a new feline friend to take home one day. Rehoming has always been at the heart of the business.
In recent years he's been looking into his biological parents and made the discovery that his father had another family when he was born. He was never really destined to be in Leo's life. Along with the discovery was the realisation he had other siblings, something he's been wrestling with ever since, trying to decide how to move forward.
HEADCANONS.
One of Leo's proudest moments was when he swam with sharks while out travelling around South Africa.
He owns four cats, all adopted from the local shelter, named Athos, Porthos, Aramis and D'Artagnan.
He loves to read and even has a used bookshelf at the back of the coffee shop for people to borrow books and donate books.
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thelonecalzone · 2 years ago
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weird questions for writers: 3, 10, 17?
Hi, tysm for asking!
3. What is your writing ritual and why is it cursed?
The process might not be cursed, but the space is SO cursed. That quote about the two wolves? That’s my home office. One side is very work-oriented and reserved for my day job: clean desk, desktop computer with only a few tabs open, minimal additional adornment, a single precious potted plant. The other side? A horrible, uneven surface made of warped spare lumber and various boxes that act as table legs. Laptop from the dawn of time with 3500 tabs open. Cork board. Second Cork board. White board. Skeins of red yarn. Thumbtacks, sticky notes, it’s a real murder-she-wrote. Every day I perch my coffee mug precariously on a stack of books covered in those sticky tabs that mark out all the quotes I want to burden other people with, and get to work. I cross bits off my printed outline as I go, throwing everything into a single Google Doc where I use highlighted paragraphs to mark out the beginning and end of each chapter I’m currently working on. Yellow for the start of the chapter, green for the end. I can’t, for the life of me, figure out how to create a linked index. (Experts, feel free to weigh in if you find this too disgusting to bear). The Cmnd+find function no longer works once I’ve reached a certain character limit, so I make sticky notes for myself (like a little Rennaisance-era scribe) of anything I want to call back to or bring up later in the story. Do I know that I can search straight in AO3 for terms/phrases/quotes? Yes. Do I do this? Of course not. I have one brain cell, and I use it to imagine gay things. This also means that I need absolute silence to write, not even a lo-fi study playlist in the background. I’m a cave-dwelling beasty and I require dim lighting, silence, and 3-5 cups of coffee to most deliciously enjoy my writing, which I spend around four hours a day doing, in hour-long chunks. I am a blight :)
10. Has a piece of writing ever “haunted” you? Has your own writing haunted you? What does that mean to you?
Yes! I am constantly haunted by writing, and in particular the writing of Shirley Jackson, Denusha Laméris, and Mary Oliver, to name a few. It’s usually poetry that sticks in my brain and follows me around, rather than bits from novels (though this has exceptions). Philip’s Birthday by Mary Oliver is one that I’ve currently been microwaving in my brain, and a poem by Kait Rokowski, (which I’m not sure has a name, so I’ll type it out below, it's short)—
I do not keep meat in my home
Because cooking soft flesh feels like
I am betraying my girlhood
I do not want to watch something so pink
Become appetizing
-Kait Rokowski
I think of haunting like “being followed”, or reminded of something at inappropriate times (while in a meeting, during a conversation about literally anything else, etc.), so writing that haunts me is often stuff that ends up walking around with me for years and years, even after I think I’ve forgotten about it. My own writing though? Nah, not really. I don’t think about my writing usually, unless I’m actively doing it, or trying to solve a problem in a story. 
(Also, I’ve gotten another request for this answer, so I’ll save a few haunts for that reply too).
17. Talk to me about the minutiae of your current WIP. Tell me about the lore, the history, the detail, the things that won’t make it in the text.
Hi, I’m here with the spicy, spicy cuts of TBSCM :) I’ve already spilled so much tea in the comments of the fic re: the various lit inspirations, so instead I will leave you a chunk of writing that will never make it into the fic because it was cut for time. It was one of the little pseudo-dates that would have happened when Patty came to visit Allison in Gorham. To set the stage: Allison convinces Patty that it's a good idea to go fishing at dusk in Moose Brook Park (with some equipment she’s borrowed from Irene’s late husband’s collection)—
Flickering blips of yellow light glint off the calm surface of the water as fireflies wander lazily over the lake. Allison sits next to Patty on the bank, growing more and more dismayed as she flips through the pages of The Complete Book of Fishing Knots, Leaders, and Lines by Lindsey Philpott. She’s searching for something that will hold a worm in place without her having to press the hook through its soft, red flesh. She looks down at the unhelpful index and sighs.
“What’s wrong?” Patty asks, taking a sip of wine from the flask Allison had stuffed into her purse before they left the apartment on this ridiculous fool's errand.
“I don’t…” She doesn’t have to finish the sentence for Patty to know what the problem is.
Patty dead-eyes her, groaning. “Seriously?”
“What!”
“This is so stupid,” Patty says, snatching the worm from her and stabbing the sharp end of the hook into it. The outer layer of skin breaks the way a grapeskin might—popping, oozing with its guts, a red smear dripping down Patty’s thumb as she rolls the worm up the shank as easily as she might do with a lifeless macaroni noodle. 
Allison grimaces… but she doesn’t look away. Something about watching Patty’s fingers deftly thread the worm’s body along the glinting metal transfixes her. 
Patty catches her watching, and she isn’t sure why it makes her own face burn with embarrassment. 
“Why do you know how to do that?” Allison asks, her eyes still glued to the wriggling worm, its blood oozing out onto Patty’s fingers.
Patty just shrugs, letting go of the hook abruptly so that it dangles there on the line between them, the worm wriggling helplessly, struggling. Patty wipes her fingers on the grass, then on her pants, gesturing for Allison to cast the line into the water. 
Allison looks away, but does as she’s told.
“What are you gonna do when there’s a fish on there?” Patty asks her.
Allison swallows hard. “I’m…”
Patty isn’t sure if it happens on purpose, but she feels the gentle pressure of Allison’s shoulder leaning against hers as they listen to the distant croak of the summer frogs bellyaching for each other in the weeds. Without another word, Allison reels in the line. She pries the worm from the end of the hook and lets Patty toss it away into the grass. She doesn't know what she would do if she actually caught something... but she's afraid she might discover that some twisted, buried part of her likes it too much. Better not to know, Allison thinks to herself. Better not to find out.
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tea-academy · 1 year ago
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I'm working right now and i stg the new guy we've hired a few months back is so annoying. I'm usually not bothered by most people even if they're abrasive or make mistakes or whatever but for some reason he drives me up the fucking wall. The things that mark him as so unlikable to me, in no particular order:
He just talks. Chatter. Asinine observations that don't go anywhere. Luckily he's done this less as nearly none of us working up here ever respond lol
Impressions. Constant impressions. Like you can tell he's made this his "thing" like he's the cool fun guy who can do all the impressions of pop culture male characters. Impressions are a party trick, or something you do with people know you well; even a well done impression grates if it's non-stop. Luckily one of my coworkers made fun of him a bit for doing it constantly and he's mostly stopped, but god when he breaks one out I have to roll my eyes.
His desire to be seen as someone who can contribute despite the fact he can't. This is probably my biggest pet peeve. My issue with this is he hasn't been here long enough to have a meaningful opinion on anything workplace related long term. I was having a conversation about possibly expanding to a new location and I swear this guy STROKED HIS CHIN thoughtfully and went "hmmm...that is a good point to consider" like THREE TIMES. Motherfucker you don't know, you just got here! stop pretending to look like you do. Like if you DO have any insight based on pervious knowledge the way to introduce that is "Well I don't know if this applies, but...[observation]," not humming and hawing and inserting yourself into our conversation to make yourself look knowledgable. I hate that shit
oh he hums. constantly too. in an open office. it's infuriating
I largely don't care how something gets done, unless it needs to be done in a certain way. So if I ask him to do something he's never done before, I show him, and I only make sure to tell him to do it the way I told him if it HAS to be done that way. No matter what way it has to be done, as soon as I tell him to do something, no matter if it's something i've trained him on or something that is a simple task that he 100% can figure out on his own (like put this thing here), he has to sit. And look like he's thinking about how to do it. Right there as I've asked him to do it. He doesn't move to do it, doesn't ask me how to do it if he's confused, he just stands or sits there, contemplating, as if I've just asked him to do the world's most intricate task and he only has one shot to do it. I 100% guarantee it's because he needs to feel important or something, he never does this when my male boss tells him to do something. He asks right away if he needs a tip. It's just for me that he drags his ass and sits there, probably in the hopes I show him how to do it so I do most of it for him. oh and his position is MY ASSISTANT on paper but it would be so much work training him to be actually useful to me that I might as well do everything myself.
He overvalues his opinion. Can't go into too much detail about what we do but it involves putting aside your subjective taste and considering objective points about certain aspects of our job, and I finally snapped and told him to let that go as it was getting in the way after the 4th or 5th time he said "I don't like this" as the criteria as to why he was dismissing something that was actually totally fine for the task. (And frankly, his taste is limited and very male oriented.)
He's anti-union. He told a story in the office about how a friend of his was urging artists in entertainment to go on strike next because it's been a terrible year for artists with the abuse of AI and everything else, and he scoffed at him. He would 100% be a scab if given the chance in the career field he wants (he's also not very good in that field, and is clearly just working here until he can make that career move, so I dread being stuck with him here a long time). He was surprised when none of us agreed with him.
He has the energy of a kiss up. Big unnecessary laughs every time my boss makes a joke.
TBH part of the reason he was hired is we are a mostly female office (which I love, and why I was so dreading hiring a man) and he wants someone around who can lift heavier things than we can. And he basically refuses. I don't know if I'm being fair because it's totally possible he has a bad back, but whenever something heavy has to be moved he does the bare minimum or avoids eye contact until someone else does it. If he doesn't have anything preventing him from lifting more than 30 lbs then honestly he's a wimp and I bet my boss is disappointed -- I have a bad back, so I often need help getting heavy things down or up from high or low places, so I know I can't count on this guy.
My office mate that I like to talk with has started working downstairs in a different space since he arrived, and that's partly because she enjoys working out of sight from our boss, but I honestly think it's mostly because of him because she was up here for months before he arrived and she could have worked down there that whole time. My other work friends have all agreed with me that they find him annoying
He criticizes things in a wishy-washy way (oh gee, maybe this isn't working so well...) without any prior understanding of why things are the way they are, and WITHOUT any suggestions on how to improve them. We tell him why things are like this, he goes, ah that's a shame, and usually it's things that have to do with a task I've given him. I wonder if he just does it so that he can stop because he thinks I'll drop everything and fix it for him.
Basically he's such a subpar worker and an annoying man and I hate how as a mediocre male he's never once considered the fact he doesn't know everything and is not secretly right until proven otherwise. And he's just affable and competent enough that while I can't rely on him for much he's still getting the job done.
I'm not going to do anything past what I need to do to help him, he can sort shit out on his own. If my boss wants to invest the time and energy to him let him, but for me he's basically the least appealing thing about my job and I can't wait until he's out of here....I'm never allowing my boss to hire a dude again if I can help it. There was a way more competent woman out there we could have hired that would have been a joy and a delight, I'm sure
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Hello, hello. I'm writing you this message 'cause I think there's this page on IG 'f1gossipofficial' that is creating a story about Carlos and Rebecca that doesn't exist, or better, if it is, it's probably a pr relationship and nothing more. Beside that, as you can see, Rebecca posted this pictures today and Alvaro, Carlos' close friend posted the same. They assuming Carlos is with them but apparently all you can see is Alvaro and Rebecca on that yacht (IF is the same, we can't be 100% sure about it). The luxury yacht isn't Carlos' but it could be rent by anyone with money (Carlos and Alvaro used to rent it and there are pictures from last year about them on board of that same yacht)
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The point is: in a comment this IG Gossip Page would't reveal Alvaro's ig page to whom was asking about his name because, according to them, 'he is a discreet person' but this is TOTALLY bullshit, 'cause the whole world knows his name and knows he's one of Carlos' closest friend.
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Plus, 15 days ago when Carlos was in Portugal with him and apparently Rebecca and her friend were with them, they posted Avaro's story where him and Carlos were playing golf. The video was also posted on Twitter by all the people who are a Carlos' supporter. So it went viral showing us his name and Alvaro's Ig account. But people already knew who Alvaro was, again, he's Carlos' best friend from ages. So, what's the point today to avoid his identity?
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In conclusion, they want us to believe in all that Carlos-Rebecca shitty story on purpose, claiming events as they really happens when there's no evedince at all, not a single one. Why are they doing it? Are they paid by pr agencies to spread rumors about them? What do you think about. (Sorry, I wrote the longest post ever but I really think it's a very ridiculous situation.)
I love how you went into detail with this.. Like deeply love how detailed this is.
Ironically, this is the IG Gossip page I constantly shit on... I feel like I should feel slightly bad about it, but I kinda don't anyways.
I have seen this post this morning and found it so fucking strange cause like I always thought everyone knows who is a part of Carlos' friend group outside of the grid... So like i thought it was strange they tried to hide Alvaro's story and hide his name when if you are a Carlos fan you are gonna know who he hangs out with...
But let's say it is true right; why wouldn't Carlos go straight after the race, to see his family, like that's the first strange thing about this post cause the Sainz's clan are extremely family orientated, so why is he with some random girl he's been hooking up with and not his family... That's was the first red flag for me right, cause in my head, I guess right, Carlos was going to spend 1-2 weeks with his family and then go hang out with his friends before he has to go to Ferrari's factory to figure shit out there for the upcoming races.
But also regarding the boat, i always thought Carlos Senior is the one with a boat, but it stays strictly close to Madrid... Am I wrong on that?
I mean i feel like every driver at the moment is with Family and or girlfriends (the ones that are married are now family too) instead of their friends cause of how little they actually see their families.. So I don't think it's true, maybe Alvaro and Rebecca are together getting down and Nasty... Just kidding, he probably got a girlfriend so...
Also, I've said this before.. I think they get paid to spread shit about most of these drivers... but they are getting paid by people who do not know how much this affects the driver's reputation, cause Carlos now seems like a fuckboy who could have cared less about his 7 year relationship ending, and as far as i'm aware of, when you are doing pr sit for someone you are trying to make them looking like a decent human instead of a dickhead.
At the end of the day, though. I feel bad for Isa, i can't imagine giving someone 7 years of your life just for them to not appreciate it, cause if this whole story with Rebecca and Carlos is true, he just shown how little he loved and cared about Isa, which to me i don't know about you guys but i would feel disgusted with not only myself but with the man involved cause of how easy he moved after being together for so long.
Also, this whole situation kinda gives me... Hailey and Justin Bieber's relationship in a whole... cause Hailey and Justin started their relationship after Justin was with Selena Gomez on and off for many fucking years.. But he never truly gained anything out of it other than some Pussy from Hailey but he had gotten a bad reputation and she gained a lot more attention to her name and she gained her shit skincare brand.
So kept in mind pr relationships they aren't always for both people to gain something out of it, but as long as it benefits one of the two people then, it was deemed as a success.
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[ thomas brodie sangster, cis man, he/him ] — spotted in the streets of brooklyn, it’s LEO DARBY. they have lived in the city for 8 YEARS, working as the OWNER OF PAWS & POUR. the 30 year old will probably be seen around CARROLL GARDENS a lot, seeing as that’s where they live. people say they can be a bit ABSENT-MINDED and IMPULSIVE, but friends know them to be COMPASSIONATE and HONEST. you know for sure you’ve found them when you’ve come across CAT HAIR ON HIS SLEEVES, SCUFFED UP TIMBERLAND BOOTS, A STRONG CUP OF TEA CONSTANTLY IN HAND. welcome to brooklyn, it’s been waiting for you!
IN A NUTSHELL; yes that is cat hair on your sleeve, a strong cup of tea constantly in hand, scuffed-up timberland boots, the battle scars of a life lived with love, bedhead at any time of the day, a far-off look in your eyes, the worn pages of an old bible.
tw: child abandonment, bullying
Name: Leo Darby Nicknames: None Age: Thirty Date of birth: 1st January 1994 Birth place: London, UK Occupation: Owner of Paws & Pour Romantic/sexual orientation: Heteroromantic/bisexual
ABOUT.
Leo never knew his parents, not really. His father walked out the moment that he found out Leo’s mother was pregnant and she — well, she was deemed an unfit parent shortly before his second birthday. He has never been told the full details and still isn’t entirely sure he even wants to know.
Placed into the fostering system, he moved back and forth between families for the next seven years. It was always said that they’d find him a ‘forever home’ but for some reason it took time. It took so much time that it reached a point where he found himself convinced that nobody wanted him —- that he’d be bounced back and forth until he turned eighteen, when he was forced to go out into the world alone. For a child, it wasn’t the greatest start in life to have.
But he was resilient, and at nine, he was adopted by a young couple, who also happened to live in the town he had been born in. From that moment on, his life changed considerably. Finding himself in an extremely religious family, Michael following a calling to ministry, Leo found it almost impossible to stay bitter. From the moment the Darbys adopted him, he was loved unconditionally and always free to make his own decisions in life.
As the days went by, he chose to attend church services with his newly found parents, celebrating along with the rest of the family when his father was appointed as vicar at their local church.
A year or so after his adoption, they also adopted another child and for the first time in his life, he found himself with a sibling.
Before long the family moved from the small flat they had been living in and into a four-bed house, one that was much closer to the church. Leo was fourteen at the time and, unfortunately, his pride in his father wasn’t seen as cool in high school. Seen as only the vicar’s son, he was often thought of as somebody to corrupt, to drag down as far as possible. His teen years were the worst of his life, finding himself bullied daily, the other children in town intent on ruining the perfect life he’d built up over the last four years.
And so Leo became withdrawn, he began to only spend time with children much younger than him, knowing that they didn’t care where he came from. But, despite the aversion to how he was being brought up by other parties, he knew that he wanted to follow in a similar path to his father once he left school. Perhaps not ministry, nothing quite so serious, but just some way of helping out in the world. He would spend night after night in front of the computer researching, clicking through website after website until he found the answer. Missionary work seemed like the perfect solution and so, after finishing high school, he found himself a placement and travelled to Zambia.
Living and working in Africa certainly wasn’t something he’d thought he would do when he was a child, heart set on being a firefighter when he was five, but he couldn’t have asked for anything more rewarding than being able to help the children out there. Perhaps the job he had out there wasn’t as impressive as some might have thought, but for him, however, the fact he was doing anything to help was enough. He couldn’t have waited another three years to pick up a degree before travelling out there; he only knew he needed to help as soon as possible.
Following two placements, both around two years long, it was time to finally come home again. A decision partly spurred on by a breakup with someone he had met while out there. He hated that it was something so fickle that caused him to leave, but the pair couldn’t have gone on as they were. Living out of one another’s pockets when things were so awkward wasn’t something he could have lived with for more than a couple of months. He left abruptly, choosing to take six months out to travel around Africa, taking in the sights for the first time and even going on safari for a while.
After almost five years away, he knew that moving back home again would be difficult. He didn’t have many friends there anymore, nor a career to speak of, and aside from his parents and his siblings, it was going to be a little like starting over. So in the end, he chose not to go back, he'd caught the travel bug and that was how he ended up in New York City.
Starting over was something he was familiar with, but that didn't mean the move was easy. To begin with, in fact, he was bouncing back and forth between different apartments, working three jobs at a time, anything to keep himself afloat.
The combination of cats and coffee came around four years into his move, a labour of love brought about after spending countless hours at the local adoption centre. He knows Paws & Pour isn't exactly known for its coffee ( or wasn't in the early days, at least ), but he hopes the tea is at least up to scratch, as well as the opportunity to meet a new feline friend to take home one day. Rehoming has always been at the heart of the business.
In recent years he's been looking into his biological parents and made the discovery that his father had another family when he was born. He was never really destined to be in Leo's life. Along with the discovery was the realisation he had other siblings, something he's been wrestling with ever since, trying to decide how to move forward and whether to reach out or not.
HEADCANONS.
One of Leo's proudest moments was when he swam with sharks while out travelling around South Africa.
He owns four cats, all adopted from the local shelter, named Athos, Porthos, Aramis and D'Artagnan.
He loves to read and even has a used bookshelf at the back of the coffee shop for people to borrow and donate books.
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anchordentalak · 1 year ago
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3. Veneers are detail oriented cosmetic uplifting solution. each detail in the veneer matters and must be consulted when planning the solution. The veneers are customized to meet the unique needs of your mouth. That’s why it is crucial you pay attention to the veneer details when selecting the man behind the craft. If you see beauty in the details, they are perfect for the concerns you have posed
4. When you are looking for veneer dentists for your needs, look for someone who understands communication. They should be prompt and seamless when it comes to communication. Whether they want to talk about the assessment results or the treatment plan, they should know how to mention it in the best way possible. moreover, they should be able to mention things clearly and plan the entire process while keeping expectations real
5. The best veneer dentist is committed to learning and growing. They would constantly learn from new people or articles. They are constantly evolving and embracing new knowledge. Moreover, they would be abreast with latest technologies and current techniques. This makes them different from the others. It is their ability to understand the patient’s needs and relate them to their new learning that helps them picture the perfect treatment plan
6. The best dentists would ensure they have the most advanced technology and automation solutions supporting their needs. they would invest in the best tools and techniques so that they can enhance the outcome
7. It should be important to find someone who is transparent during the consultations. They would mention the exact benefits of going with veneers. They would also showcase the process, the treatment plans and the risks for you. It would be a clear and transparent consultation
8. The best dentist would always take a patient-centric approach. They would consult the patients whether it is for the botox cost Anchorage or other parts of the treatment.
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wrotelovelytears · 3 years ago
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But but this is how I am-
A south node tale
I will be using SN to signify South Node and NN to signify the North Node.
🌬I feel like the importance of the South Node isn't talked about enough. Like we all acknowledge it there but the details in how it personally impact us, then the great impacts of it are not spoken on enough.
🌬People with their SN in the bottom hemisphere might find it even more difficult to embody their NN than others. That's because they feel more at home with their SN as the most basic parts of them are often tied to it.
🌬As an Aquarius SN i find myself being more comfortable having a vast amount of friends groups rather than just one group. Each one plays a different role and knows different things about me.
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🌬12th house SN can definitely find themselves more "gifted" (in terms of spiritual gifts) than the rest of their family. Its because they are more connected to their ancestors and other realms, therefore more likely to actively seek them out.
🌬Its the way your early friend groups represent more of your SN behavior and your older ones your NN for me.
🌬If you ever meet someone that changes (for the better) after every relationship they have, I can almost bet they a 7th house NN. Relationships spark a drastic change in these folks and they live for it.
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🌬Now on the flip side if you meet someone who kinda hits the reset button every time they get into a relationship that's for sure a 7th house SN. They meant to be more independent and self assured in life not relationship and back burn oriented.
🌬In my humble, honest opinion, you not meant to embody your NN. Your North Node is simply a pointer for how your life plays out on easy mode WITH a big hint in what areas you'll experience the most growth in (also maybe career type ish). Meanwhile your South Node is how your life typically goes and how you should generally act.
🧼In other words your NN is only for growth in wherever it lies and your SN is for your day to day life and interactions.
🌬People with their SN in the top hemisphere can definitely struggle with how the general public perceives them. They are either having their past actions brought up a lot or not seen for their growth/achievements outside the public eye.
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🌬Somebody pray for the 8th house SN. I just know they have strong abilities meaning everyone and everything is attracted to them.
🌬Having your Venus, Chart Ruler or Juno conjunct your SN can mean your love life seems to go by slower than others. Also your partners might sometimes show the shadow aspects of the sign it's in.
🌬People who have the sign of your SN may or may not tick you off. That's because there's a shared base behavior, and when met shadow parts of the house one has, SN wise (and house of sign for other person), show up until energies worked with.
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🌬When you meet people who have your SN sign in their 10th house, you might initially get along with them (they are seen as embodying how you are naturally by the public) until matters around home are brought up.
🧼To clarify that, the 10th house is public and respect from said public, so in the beginning you are happy to meet someone who is publicly recognized for how you also act. The issues start to show up when their private face is almost the complete opposite of that behavior. The 4th house represents comfort in a lot of ways and due to the private you wanting to shine more it disrupts the relationship.
🌬If you embody your NN too much you feel as if you lost yourself and are just acting out things because you "supposed to". On the flip side embodying your SN too much makes you feel as if you have no purpose and are confused about what to do next.
🌬Treat your SN as if its your Sun, a part of you that will never go away or be dimmed. Treat your NN as if its Pluto, it will constantly test you and only reward you once you past said test (you'll get tested again tho).
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🌬Whatever degree your SN is in is when you first realize how you act. It brings a level of self awareness not had before the age was met. You also might embody that sign heavily the exact year. The second time you embody it a lot is the second part of the degree.
🌬Your SN might be linked to your parents big three. Either the natural house of your SN sign or the sign itself can be found there.
🧼Further note their chart ruler or sun sign (house too) might be linked to your NN as well. (The house might show where your NN is located and the Sun/chart ruler could show the sign its in)
🌬This might just be a reach but I think your SN can hint to what life long health problems you'd have. Both the house and the sign its found in (personally I'd check both your Sidereal and Tropical chart as it might change houses).
🧼Like I said before I am an Aquarius SN, however its found in two different houses (which is why I say check both charts). In my Tropical Chart, it hints at having issues with self assurance, head (I have migraines and lesions in my brain) and jaw (I don't wanna talk about it lmao). In my Sidereal chart it hints at me having issues with my mental health (let's just say I've been in therapy since I was a single digit), hidden health issues (I get sick out of the blue... Then be hospital listed because of it), and generational health ones (its crazy how my grandparents health problems are mine too but no one else 😖).
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🌬Please check your Solar Return chart in terms of your South Node (also North), you'd be surprised how you start acting more like the house (sometimes sign as well) its currently stationed in rather than your natal one.
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Anygays this has been nice to write as I've been thinking about the South Node for months. Its just been scratching at my brain so I decided to talk about it. I might add more to this post at a later date, but for now ta-ta
(If you learned something new or would just like to support me you can leave a wittle tip via the tip button 🧸)
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blacksunscorpio · 3 years ago
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Astro Musings No. 11
Venus/Jupiter aspects in the natal chart...
Will make someone generally likable, charming, generous, and agreeable- especially if it's a conjunction, trine, or sextile you're working with. They'll be the person who might be incredibly popular or someone whose creativity [Venus] is magnified [Jupiter]. They might be very beautiful or well known for their good looks. However, throw a square to Chiron in the mix and this individual might have a hard time believing it. Since Chiron is the place in our chart where we wear our inner wound and a square indicates conflict, the pain to either of these planets has to do with beliefs, how we're educated, and the overall philosophy of life. One could perhaps have a lot of doubt as to whether they are truly attractive.  They could be bullied or hated for their attractiveness or popularity. On the other hand, Jupiter Squaring Chiron can make someone have severe wounds concerning their spiritual beliefs. It's common to see this aspect in charts of people who were forced into a particular belief system or religion. In addition, it's also an indicator of those who were abused by organized religion. Often the case/in charts of those in the LGBTQ community who were perhaps shunned by conventional western religious constructs.
12th House Synastry is a bit like Russian Roulette...
Not to scare any of you with significant placements within this house synastrically or in composite, but remember what I said in Astro Musings 1 about Neptune? Wherever he is, there's going to be a feeling that something is hidden. Deception will be a big factor or just naivete or idealism. More so if the aspects in this house are squares/oppositions. With the Trines and Conjunctions, the energy here can feel incredibly spiritual and binding. [Don't bust out the champagne yet, I said FEEL binding- it doesn't mean it necessarily will be]. Sorry. North Node/Neptune might make you two dream of each other or have this strange 6th sense concerning them and their energy. Moon and Neptune will make two people have an uncanny knack for knowing what the other is thinking. It will feel downright Soul-Mate-esque. The same if Mercury and Neptune are joined.
Now, if the aforementioned aspect is afflicted, two people will Pinocchio the fuck out of each other.
The lies will be endless. Now this might not even be malicious, it's more so two people don't want to disappoint each other, so they put on an act they think the other will appreciate/wants to see. There's a lot of pressure to live up to the other person's expectations. Most of the time, the mask will inevitably fall off and bitter feelings may ensue. Choose honesty first.
Aspects to the ruler of the first house will have a similar vibe to aspects on the ascendant.
That’s because your chart ruler and it’s planet are leading your entire chart in energetic expression. By proxy, whatever happens to it [ruler of the 1st], wherever it is in your chart, will be magnified and displayed. For example, if you’re a Scorpio rising but Pluto is in your 3rd house, it might be very apparent to others that you speak and think deeply. Your communication can feel very “psychiatric" and probing. It might be the first thing people notice about you. If you’re a Sag rising and your Jupiter is in your 10th House, you could make a career out of travel or be famous. Everyone will notice your larger than life persona.
Aquarius Moon in the 5th just like these other aspects, can be an indicator of one who might have a fear of motherhood or pregnancy in general. In addition, One with a Cancer Lilith in the 6th might choose career over motherhood. In a woman’s chart, it can also be an indicator of someone who has reproductive [4th house/moon] issues [especially if there are afflictions].
Lilith in the 6th house may feel that they give more than they get. They might also reject the idea of daily work and routine or general discipline. There can be scandal’s at work as well. Wherever Lilith is, you can guarantee that there’s going to be some ‘taboo’ energy involved. Since 6th house is one of the money/career houses, it can indicate that this taboo will be related to whatever you do for a living.
Placements for those who love animals
Will be Neptunian placements ftw. Neptunians/Piscean placements tend to have a monopoly on the “beast whisperer” thing. That’s because Animals sit between the physical and the spiritual world. They see shit we can’t. So they’ll often take to those with strong “veil” energy. 
Cancerian’s come in at a cool 2nd. This is because their heightened sensitivity make animals feel them quite strongly. They also have strong nurturing energy which will draw pets to them.
Leos at No. 3- Leonine placements have an uncanny love for animals due to their playful and warm energy. Being ruled by the sun, they’ll be literally “beacons of light” for furry friends.
Virgo is ruler of the 6th house of work and routine. Because of their natural capability towards order and discipline, I often see this sign as pet owners. Often these natives have more than one. They’ll be the sign that has Fido trained and operating like clockwork. 
Speaking of animals, the signs I’ve seen to take to cats more than canines are Scorpio and Capricorn. Because of these two sign’s affinity towards introversion, it’s no surprise that one of the most introverted breed of animal feels right at home among them. On the flipside, I’ve seen on numerous occasions where dogs become quite obsessed [Pluto] with Scorpios, on the occasion where they’re not scared of them. 
In a female’s chart, Having asteroid Aphrodite squaring her Lilith
will mean her beauty will have a forbidden fruit vibe to it. Her charm will be directly tied to her wild femininity. However, there may be struggles in how she expresses it. Typical placement for someone whose kindness or mild flirtation will be received as overtly sexual. Her charm and grace might have a playboy or pornstar vibe or she may get her value from expressing herself sexually. It can also indicate one who is just oversexed in general. Be sure to keep those Trojans on hand and get those yearly check ups. Nothing wrong with expressing yourself in such a way but Lilith can also indicate diseases of the venereal nature, especially if in the sign of Scorpio or afflicted in the 8th House
Talent in Fashion Design in the Natal Chart will be
Sun in Libra [Andre Leon Talley]
Venus in the 10th
Taurus 10th House
Libra 10th House
Venus in Virgo
Venus in the 6th
Moon conjunct Venus
Venus in the 2nd House
Mercury in harmonious aspect to Venus
Neptune in Libra
Venus in Sagittarius [Expansive/creative mindset/abundance]
Neptune in harmonious aspect to Venus [Anna Wintour]
Talent in Libra
Scorpio Stelliums [Pluto rules the underworld where jewels and finery reside- Gianni Versace and Anna Wintour have this in their charts- So does Grace Kelly]
Having Nessus in Capricorn can indicate that the father figure in your life might have been a bit abusive or a source of pain.
Having Asteroid Talent in the sign of Gemini might make one very well adept at wordplay. They could have a talent for writing or have hardcore skill at wit. In the 12th house might make them very skilled at writing fantasy or even writing for film/fiction.
Uranus in the 1st can make someone unusual looking, they may look androgynous or dress in a ‘rebellious’ or ‘avant-garde’ way. I’ve also seen 1st house Uranians have flat affects. They can have a demeanor that comes off as detached or in general RBF.
Speaking of Uranus, if you had an absentee father figure...
check to see if your 4th house has Aquarian or Uranian influence. In addition, see if your Sun is inconjunct to your Uranus or squaring it. 9 times out of 10 when I’m analyzing a birth chart, I have a native tell me their father skipped out or split from life very early. There’s always a story there.
Asteroid Psyche touching your 10th house/MC might make you a very skilled Psychologist. Asteroid Psyche [16] is about the mind/soul. If it’s in the house of work/reputation/prestige, you might apply this asteroid's energy to your career
Multi-planet oppositions in the natal chart
Will indicate a push-pull in your natal energy. You’ll be the person who struggles between two mindsets constantly.
If it’s between Gemini and Sagittarius you’ll struggle with the logical and philosophical. You may have constant existential crises. On a positive note, if you’re able to balance it, you’ll be able to see multiple sides of an argument. This is an ideal aspect for someone who debates, is in law, or journalism. If it’s between
Cancer or Capricorn you will deal with wanting to be self-sufficient but also have a deep need to nurture or be nurtured.
The Sign your Sun/Rising is in in your Solar Return Chart
Will usually indicate the energy you’ll take on for the year. In Aquarius your might be tech minded and quite detached. In Virgo, you may be especially detail oriented and cerebral. In Scorpio you may find yourself more emotionally sensitive, probing, or ruthless that year. In Leo, you may be more outgoing- self-centered, or unusually popular.
A Taurus Venus will like to feed you to show you they love you. Being Wined and Dined is how this Venus placement likes to demonstrate they care. They may also like to give you gifts to show you their admiration.
Sorry to break it to you, mutable gang...
But Sagittarius, Gemini, Virgo, and Pisces are among the top signs found in Serial Killers. I.E
Ted Bundy- Sagittarius
Jeffrey Dahmer- Gemini
John Wayne Gacy- Pisces
Mary Bell- Gemini
George Chapman- Sagittarius
Charles Cullen- Pisces
Danny Rolling- Gemini
Marybeth Tinning- Virgo
Alton Coleman- Sagittarius
Kenneth Bianchi- Gemini
Andras Pandy- Gemini
Dean Carter- Virgo
Andrew Cunanan- Virgo
Richard Ramirez- Pisces
Randy Steven Kraft- Pisces
Terry Blair- Virgo
Timothy Krajcir- Sagittarius
Yikes....
Taurus Suns, 11th House Virgos, Cancer/Capricorn 5th Houses, and Libra 7th Housers are typically the “Parent/Mom/Dad” of their friend groups.
Believe it or not, when it comes to “jealousy” over material things, it’s not Scorpio. Taurean/Leo placements [typically risings and Suns and moons] and especially underdeveloped will be the types to hate on you for having something [Usually clothing, car, house, etc] they want. Scorpios, though famous infamous for the jealousy stereotype, will usually show this trait only in romantic entanglements. This is because Scorpio is a water sign. Their primary mode of operation has to do with the emotional realm.
Mars in the 10th House is usually seen in those who make athletics part of their career. 
Mars in Gemini have the most savage comebacks. They will make you feel so stupid if you argue with them. Mars is war and Gemini is wit. You’ll be hard pressed to win a battle of words with them.
I find those with Mars in Aquarius or aspecting Uranus will swing both ways sexually, regardless of how they identify.
Venus in Aquarius don’t really like to be touched/hugged. Picture Voldemort hugging Draco. Ironically, they will usually be the type of people to take up professions where they have to touch others. I've seen copious nurses with their Venuses touching Aquarius. Massage therapists as well. Might have something to do with the love [Venus] of helping others [Aquarius].
Those with multiple planets in the 12th House can make excellent actors. This is because their personality is in a mutable house. They can morph and chameleonize themselves very easily. Superb for taking on multiple personalities for their craft.
Men with Mercury in Leo, Capricorn, or harmonious aspect to Pluto tend to have very deep voices. There’s also a soothing vibe to them as well. James Earl Jones, Liam Neeson, and Anthony Hopkins all have these placements. 
Contrary to popular opinion, Gemini isn’t the only sign that can be a “jack of all trades”. In fact, Libra Suns often fit in in various roles/professions. This has a lot to do with their diplomatic nature. Because they are often the peacemaker and a bit passive than their cousins, they are often welcomed in many different circles. This allows them to excel with networking/social climbing.
Jupiter conjunct/Square Saturn and Capricorn 9th Housers
are the placement[s] I see the most in those who have a deep skepticism of Astrology. Their belief system can be rather rigid [Saturn] which makes it harder/ for them to be open minded [Jupiter] to other schools of thought.
Each Planet/Sign rules a day of the week. Whichever day you were born can inadvertently make you take on some of the traits of that sign, regardless of what your “big 3″ are. 
For example: If you were born on a Wednesday, ruled by Mercury, you can be especially cerebral or witty. Tuesday, ruled by Mars can make you fiesty, athletic and perhaps a bit impatient like Arians. Friday, ruled by Venus can make you extremely charming and friendly. Saturday, ruled by Saturn can make you extremely entrepreneurial-minded whereas being Born on a Monday [Moon] can make you security and family oriented.
Venus in Sagittarius, Sagittarius 5th House, 2nd House in Sag or Venus Aspecting Neptune in the sign of Sag might make one have an affinity for entertainment from foreign countries. I see these placements in the charts of those who enjoy anime, foreign film, or those who have a knack for languages [lot of trines to Jupiter is also an indicator of the latter.]
Asteroid Priapus... will make you want to uncontrollably merge with someone.
 [I’m not even kidding. I had this aspect with someone and my Priapus touched their Jupiter and I wanted to tear the kid’s clothes off. All my friends had no idea what I saw in him. To them, he was not my “type”- whatever that means.] The sign Priapus is in will give you a hint as to what turns you on. In Virgo, someone clean cut, organized or well-groomed might tickle your fancy. In Libra, someone fashionable and sweet-natured. In Aries, someone outgoing or athletic, Capricorn, there can be an affinity for someone older, someone accomplished, or a general “daddy” fetish. 
Sun conjunct Pluto or Sun Square Pluto...
will have gnarly authority issues. Same with Mars in the 1st or Mars in any of the career houses. They do not like being told what to do whatsoever. If you try to boss them around, they will do the opposite just to spite you.
In synastry, a Double Whammy of Sun/Pluto
energy will make two people addicted to each other. All their forbidden fantasies [Pluto] will be exemplified by the other person’s presence [Sun]. The sex will be on the rougher side and can make two people obsessed. However, if a break up were to occur, this placement will make it damn near impossible for two people to be friends again. There’s just too much passion involved.
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adhd-asd · 3 years ago
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Anonymous asked: "i have ADHD and ASD, I don’t know if they really play a role in my difficulty to write scripts or outlines, but it seems like whenever i want to start a story project and visualise it into writing and art, it just…..doesn’t work? Like, i have story ideas, but the way they come out never meet my satisfaction or, at least, the way i write them, feels too restricting and….i don’t know?
writing scripts, the dialogue feels very bland and tedious - writing outlines is fine for me but i put too much thought into them to the point they are restricting. but, also, when i try to make up a story as i go with a basic plot in mind, i lose a massive sense of direction if i don’t have an outline or script. and i just feel very, very stuck."
If you're just looking for a short-form list of tips and tricks that might help make creating easier, I have a post here that offers advice on writing with ADHD that you may find helpful.
However, I found this question really interesting and wanted to do a more in-depth exploration of the topic of creating with ADHD/ASD and the difficulties that can come with that, as well. I have a lot of thoughts on the topic as an ADHD/ASD creator myself, so it got quite long, but I hope you might find some of them interesting or useful.
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Do ADHD/ASD Play a Role?
Firstly, I believe that my ADHD and ASD affect just about every part of my life, including my creative process, and I imagine the same is likely true for you. It's entirely plausible (and I would even say likely) that they're playing a part in the conflict you feel when trying to create.
That being said, I also believe that there are ways we can accommodate or work around our unique challenges rather than putting effort into trying to overcome them or letting them get us down. I also don't think your difficulties are exclusively a result of ADHD/ASD, either, and I'll be discussing both points in more detail below.
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On Meeting Your Own Expectations
I think, at least to some extent, your first paragraph could apply to most creators, regardless of ADHD/ASD.
Very rarely do I find that my works end up matching what I visualise in my mind, and it can often be frustrating and demotivating when what I produce seems inferior to the hypothetical version I had planned or envisioned. And I've seen this same sentiment expressed by a lot of artists and writers.
When those feelings crop up, I try to remind myself that it's okay, nobody else has seen the hypothetical 'perfect version' of what I was trying to create that's in my mind, and they'll be judging the work on its own merits instead. I think an important part of being a creator is consciously working on accepting that things will almost never go exactly as envisioned, and that's okay. It's not a reason to abandon the work, and the more you keep creating, the more practice you'll have getting your ideas down.
It's definitely easier said than done, but as with all creative pursuits, feeling beholden to perfection will ultimately prevent you from getting anything done or growing as a creator, and sometimes you have to just let things go and keep moving forward. A work doesn't have to be perfect to have value and be worthy of praise.
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On Perfectionism
All that being said, I wouldn't be at all surprised if your ADHD and ASD were compounding on this common experience to a degree. It's very common for people with ASD to be inflexible and extremely detail-oriented, and many an ADHDer can struggle with perfectionism (which I've briefly discussed in the second half of this post). Falling into the trap of obsessively tweaking things until they're just right is pretty easy.
The good news is that I think when you're aware that these are pitfalls you're likely to experience, you can better notice them and implement measures to help you work around them. Better understanding your symptoms and being kind to yourself when you experience them can make the situation less hostile, and researching how to cope with/compensate for them could help not only with your creative process, but other areas of life as well.
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On Finding Your Creative Process
A big part of creating is finding a process that works for you.
Some people plan in meticulous detail while others fly by the seat of their pants; some prepare outlines and tough drafts and follow the steps in order and others bounce around and make it up as they go.
From the way you're describing things, it sounds like your current process isn't working for you, and you may benefit from changing your approach to creating entirely. You already seem to be consciously aware of the parts that are causing the most difficulty and frustration for you, so the next step is to brainstorm how to modify them to make your creativity more accessible to you.
I, for example, write scenes out of order and constantly go back and add to them as I get new ideas. I also draw my lineart in random sections, moving on to a new one anytime I get bored (even if the current section isn't finished) until it eventually comes together like a patchwork quilt. These are some ways I've found to keep things interesting and keep me engaged in the work, and they may seem weird, but they sure do work!
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So Let's Do Some Brainstorming
If you overthink your outlines and then feel stifled by them, try deliberately limiting how much detail you allow yourself to include. It's not an 'all or nothing' situation, and you can practise and experiment with varying document layouts and amounts of detail until you've found something that feels more approachable.
If you're currently writing paragraphs, try bullet points, or a flow chart, or sticky notes that you can rearrange. If you plot out every detail, try starting with only the most major events so you always have some direction for where the story is going but still allow for more freedom and creativity. If you spend hours on an outline, try setting a timer so you only have a set amount of time for each point.
And remember that you can change your outline as you go! If you're so caught up in following your outline that it's stifling your creativity, maybe it's an issue of perspective rather than process. Remind yourself that your outline is a tool to help you and that you're free to adjust it whenever it's not serving its purpose.
I don't know what your current process looks like so maybe these specific examples aren't helpful to you, but hopefully they can illustrate how to look at the areas where you're getting stuck and find a way to change them so that they suit your needs. Even if it seems unconventional or doesn't align with the process other people use or have told you to use, it's important to do what works for you.
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In Summary / TL;DR
Creativity in general often comes down to experimenting until you find a method/process/style that works for you, and that's true for anyone. It's also true that art rarely goes exactly as planned, and sometimes you just have to accept that you've done well enough and move on.
But when you're a creator with ADHD/ASD, it can be extra difficult to do so because of our unique challenges related to internal motivation, perfectionism, and staying focused and flexible. Being aware of your symptoms and the challenges that they might present, and specifically tailoring your workspace and process to account for them while being kind to yourself when you find yourself struggling, can allow you to create with a lot less frustration.
None of these changes will happen instantaneously, but hopefully being aware of them and making the effort over time will help you to start seeing a difference in your work. Good luck!
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