#community child rearing!

[punmster]

being ace means i don't get giggly or horny about omegaverse aka abo but instead become painfully obsessed with details in anatomy and world building

[curtailedwhale]

Asked a neighbor if she had any standing baby swaps and she had no idea what I was talking about. The general idea is that you take turns watching the other party's children while they go out so everyone gets free childcare and a chance to go out. Now I'm curious...

(It's okay if you have a different term for it, answer yes if you had/have standing free babysitting appointments)

[izziegs]

I think some of y'all are watching an entirely different show than the one I saw tbh

[violetsandshrikes]

I met a girl when I was fresh out of high school in undergrad who frankly, annoyed me quite a bit, but I also had an inkling to continue to be compassionate to her given a few things about her life/background/family

I ran into her two years ago. Last week, her daughter turned 1. This girl, let’s called her “P”, is a really good example of why I never feel comfortable mocking trad wives

Her perfect trad husband, who was a shining young figure in the local religious community, volunteered in all sorts of groups, well loved in his workplace and everything else, beat her up at 1 month post-partum. I reached out to her after seeing her desperately asking for a stroller on a page, confused and slightly concerned knowing both of them came from wealthy backgrounds.

The reality for lots of tradwives living “perfect lives” is this: P was immediately ostracised. All the wealth of her husband and her family meant absolutely nothing if she wasn’t in favour and doing what she was told. Her child and her well-being didn’t matter. P, at 25 years old, was basically deemed an oopsie, and left on her own to figure out how to pay for herself, a baby, find housing, and every other task you can think of.

Having known many of these women (and supported many of these women), another factor most people don’t consider is this: they are intentionally raised to be helpless. When I immediately offered my support to P, she really needed it. This young woman needed to be guided through how to apply for government assistance, how to weigh up rentals and apply for them, how to apply for jobs, how to sign up for childcare. How to sign up for your own power and internet, and how to connect them.

It wasn’t that she was “stupid”, or incapable, or spoiled. While it looks like they’re being sheltered, in reality, these women are practically being held hostage. Sure, they might be allowed to learn things that are expected of them (see: basic cooking, baking, cleaning, child rearing, women’s bible studies, hosting, and so forth) but they are heavily controlled from family life into marriage life, and they are never given the opportunity or the reality of what many of us would consider basic adult tasks.

She’s doing okay now. Her daughter turned 1, is happy and healthy. They live frugally, but they have a roof over their heads and the essentials. I often babysit for her so she can attend counselling, or go to a woman’s support group. She is painfully aware that she has so much to learn about how to live as an adult.

I don’t envy tradwives, but I don’t find any joy in mocking them either. Even when they live the most picturesque lives, they’re also practically living a real life Jenga game. If (and often, when) it comes tumbling down, they’re screwed too, and they often have 0 skills to help themselves or find community (that again, isn’t carefully curated).

[esperanzapretila]

Spotlyts Snippets: Extended Families and Nurturing Children

What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children's lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in.

Extended family members can play a vital role in a child’s life, offering love, support, and unique perspectives. What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children’s lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in. Expert Insights Involving extended family members in a child’s life can offer numerous benefits, though it can be a nuanced topic depending…

[samwaverley]

Spotlyts Snippets: Extended Families and Nurturing Children

What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children's lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in.

Extended family members can play a vital role in a child’s life, offering love, support, and unique perspectives. What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children’s lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in. Expert Insights Involving extended family members in a child’s life can offer numerous benefits, though it can be a nuanced topic depending…

[sallymajors]

Spotlyts Snippets: Extended Families and Nurturing Children

What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children's lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in.

Extended family members can play a vital role in a child’s life, offering love, support, and unique perspectives. What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children’s lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in. Expert Insights Involving extended family members in a child’s life can offer numerous benefits, though it can be a nuanced topic depending…

[rachellepryce]

Spotlyts Snippets: Extended Families and Nurturing Children

What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children's lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in.

Extended family members can play a vital role in a child’s life, offering love, support, and unique perspectives. What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children’s lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in. Expert Insights Involving extended family members in a child’s life can offer numerous benefits, though it can be a nuanced topic depending…

[spotlyts]

Spotlyts Snippets: Extended Families and Nurturing Children

What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children's lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in.

Extended family members can play a vital role in a child’s life, offering love, support, and unique perspectives. What are the benefits of involving extended family members in children’s lives, and how can these relationships be nurtured? Experts weigh in. Expert Insights Involving extended family members in a child’s life can offer numerous benefits, though it can be a nuanced topic depending…

[successfulblackparenting]

Buy Black Everything: A Movement for Now and Beyond

As we step into the new year, let’s take a moment to reflect on the power we hold as parents. What if your everyday choices could help build a stronger future for your children and community? Prioritizing Black-owned businesses can do just that. “Buy Black everything!” This isn’t just a catchy hashtag or a temporary trend. It’s about making deliberate decisions to support the companies that…

[gaywineauntsstuff]

Broke: everyone fights over whose Batman’s favorite

Woke: everyone fights over whose Dicks favorite bc Dick isn’t an emotionally stunted loser (I shit talk Bruce so much but I love him, he’s just also a loser) and trying to get in the bats favor is like trying to catch sand in a sieve

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Damian: obviously I’m Graysons favorite I was his Robin

Tim: dude I was the first Robin he trained and we still talk every day I am 100% the favorite

Steph: fuck you! You disappeared off the the face of the earth when he was Batman I was actually here I’m 100% the favorite everyone knows Wing loves me.

Jason: Dick willingly went to Gotham to spend time with me even when he was mad at Bruce. Has Dick ever been in Gotham when he was mad at Bruce for you guys? No? Didn’t think so?

Damian: ….

Steph:…

Tim: that’s because you sucked so much he thought you’d get blown up trying to have to bludhaven.

Jason: oi! Low blow, you can’t use a man’s death against him

Damian: shut up we’ve all died before

Steph: you literally said you were allowed to break Tim’s laptop bc you died b4

Jason: yeah it’s MY DEATH I can use it how I want

Tim: we really gonna call your 14yr old 4’7 self a man?

Cass: he helped me train when B rejected me I’m the favorite

Tim: you can’t be Dicks favorite you’re already Bab’s favorite those are the only 2 likable older members of the family. (They’ve decided Alfred doesn’t count since he’s legally not allowed to have favorites)

Dick: Duke is my favorite

Damian: what?

Tim: how?

Jason: this shit is rigged

Steph: What?? You barely spend time with him?

Duke who has been eating popcorn quietly this whole time:???

Dick: he doesnt steal my suit and murder people

Jason: …

Dick: or tell his friends I threatened to send him to Arkham when I told him to get therapy

Tim:…

Dick: or break into my apartment at 3am because he can’t communicate with his father

Damian:…

Dick: or make me believe he flatlined on the operating table

Steph: …

Dick: or tell me he can’t meet up for a bust because he’s too busy fighting Wonder Woman a hero we work with over text with no context and then go AWOL for 5 days

Cass:…

Dick: or overload his plate with 50 million things I will have to come in and help with

Everyone:

Steph: he started a cult tho??

Dick: was it before or after he was fostered bc if it was before it’s. Not. My. Problem.

Duke: I’m the favorite???

Dick: also I feel like if I died you’re the most likely to take over my duties and not go on a quest for vengeance or try to clone me or put me in the Lazarus pit.

Jason: ID NEVER PUT you in the Lazarus pit…. No comment on the rest tho.

Tim: ditto

Damian: meh you are superior to Todd and he’s relatively functional post the pit I don’t see the issue here.

Steph raising hand: I wouldn’t-

Dick: or help TIM do it

Steph lowering hand:

Dick: plus you have a parent so I don’t have to do 80% of the child rearing while giving Bruce credit

Duke still a little star stuck bc that’s nightwing: IM THE FAVORITE.

[bellamontwasright]

Chigura was gifted with the ability to speak and understand the Topsiders' common language but knowledge of the spoken word did not give him the cultural context behind certain words. Someone's going to have to explain what words like "fiancee" and "gray skin" mean.

[ourladyoftheflytrap]

I'm a stupid b average student but if I was a man I would have a superiority complex about it

[dc-probate-attorney]

Nurturing the Future - Parenting in a Marriage

Parenting is a journey filled with wonder, challenges, and boundless love. When a couple embarks on this adventure together within the framework of a marriage, they are tasked with the incredible responsibility of shaping the future. In this article, we explore the intricacies of parenting within a marriage, highlighting the joys, the hurdles, and the strategies that can help couples thrive as…

[bunnis-monsters]

Do the bee hybrid fathers know which baby bees are theirs and do they spend time with them? Or is all the child rearing the duty of the queen?

Everyone takes care of the children communally! All of the male bee hybrids see the baby bees as theirs, no matter what.

They do care for the little ones, but their loyalties lie with you, the queen. You’re the one they’d save if given an ultimatum. They can always create more little ones, but there’s only one of you.

The baby bees have the same mindset. They would be distraught if someone saved them and not their mama!

This upsets you a lot, actually. You love your children, and have been trying your best to make sure they know how much you care for them. They’re not just a number to you, they’re your babies.

Queens are usually self centered, so it’s shocking when you nearly cry at the thought of your attendants saving you and not your little ones.

If something did happen where some of your babies were left behind, hurt, or killed, you’d be left in a depressive state, unable to incubate eggs for a long time. Feeling your pain and suffering through your pheromones, your hive would grieve with you… and maybe some changes would be made.

[crvvys]

I don’t believe in the concept of fatherhood. I don’t think it’s natural. it’s artificial but that doesn’t mean I think all men can’t perform the artificial role that they created either. I do believe gay men that adopt kids are better suited to raise them. I think gay men are best suited for a “father” type role generally and straight men are better suited as marginally involved (this is not a pro-argument for surrogacy though)

but I just think fatherhood is overstated and makes men believe they’re more important than they are. I think the idea that men are “needed” for child rearing is also not true.

and with so many of them being terrible, I don’t think I’m far off either. I think back and forth about what it means to children to have fathers bc i think the absence of one creates a curiosity or a possible void for the kid and I also think society shames children for being “fatherless” which makes no sense bc that’s on the man for leaving. not the kid. my older brothers didn’t have my dad and they’re pretty stable men. my dad had my grandpa and he turned out to be very unstable and solipsistic so.

bc I share so much of my personality with my dad, I think having him wasn’t all bad but his absence and many shortcomings have definitely made things harder for me bc I was able to experience having a father and then not having one. not bc he died but bc he simply chose to stop acting like one once my mom left him. and at that point it’s like…what purpose do you serve as a father if you’re incentivised by very little lol.

I think on this bc I wonder what my future kids would think. would they feel empty without a father or would they be just fine? bc my brothers did struggle without my dad but they ended up okay. and I struggle without him bc I experienced him. he reigns over my life like this shadow figure. it’s harder to miss something or someone when you didn’t really experience them. and it’s harder not to miss them when you’ve experienced them.

I don’t plan on having a “father” majorly involved if I do have kids. but I wouldn’t mind doing some type of co-parenting with a gay man or gay couple either. I go back and forth on that though. bc the safer option is to just have my own kids and rely on my mom and sister the most.