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Recognizing and Handling Manipulation in Co-Parenting: A Real Conversation Breakdown

Co-parenting can be an emotional rollercoaster, especially when manipulation, control, and emotional abuse seep into the conversations. Recently, I found myself in a dialogue with my co-parent that started as a simple reminder about our child’s baseball practice but quickly evolved into an exchange filled with subtle manipulation and control tactics.

In this blog post, I’ll share a detailed breakdown of our conversation, highlighting the manipulative behaviors at play and explaining how I handled them. By understanding these patterns, you can learn to identify manipulation in your own co-parenting relationship and take steps to protect your emotional well-being while keeping the focus on your child.

The Full Conversation Breakdown

1. His Initial Message: Missing Practice

"We won’t be attending baseball practice today, but we’ll be at the game tomorrow." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 12:16 PM)

This message was neutral, simply informing me that they wouldn’t attend practice. While it seemed harmless, it opened the door for a deeper conversation about the importance of consistency and commitment when it comes to our child’s development.

2. My Response: A Gentle Reminder About Practice

"Thanks for letting me know. Just a quick reminder that practice is key for Kai’s growth and confidence on the field. The games are fun, but practice is where the real progress happens. See you both tomorrow." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 12:21 PM)

What I Did Right:

Kept It Child-Focused: I emphasized the importance of practice for our child’s growth and confidence without making it personal or confrontational.

Neutral and Gentle Tone: My response was simply a reminder, not an attack, designed to keep the conversation respectful and productive.

3. His First Response: Assertion of Expertise and Dismissiveness

"I’ve been in baseball most of my life. I understand that practice is just as important as games. We practice at my house all the time. I also believe letting the coaches coach and the parents stay off the field and out of the dugout is key to a young child’s development as well as his confidence as an athlete. That’s why once we get to the practices or games, I step back. I let Kai know that I am there to support him or take him to the restroom, but other than that, he needs to pay attention and ask questions to his coach. We will be there Tuesday. See you then." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 12:25 PM)

Breakdown:

Assertion of Expertise: By emphasizing his experience in baseball, he attempts to discredit my involvement or input, positioning himself as the authority on the matter.

Dismissal: He deflects from my point about the importance of practice by highlighting what he does at home, implying that my concerns are unnecessary.

Control of the Narrative: His statement about staying off the field and letting the coaches handle things indirectly critiques my participation at practice, trying to control how I should engage.

4. My Response: Clarification and Setting Boundaries

"I understand your perspective, but just to clarify, I’m not the only parent going in and out of the dugout — it’s pretty common with the other parents too, and none of the coaches have ever had an issue with how I support Kai during practice. I communicate directly with them, and they’re fine with how I handle things. That said, we are co-parenting, and I respect that we may have different approaches at times. I don’t interfere or dictate how you parent, so I’d appreciate it if you kept your personal opinions about my approach to yourself as well. Thanks." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 12:34 PM)

What I Did Right:

Clarified the Situation: I provided factual information about how other parents behave and the coaches’ approval of my involvement, which grounded the conversation in reality.

Set Firm Boundaries: I reminded him that we are co-parenting and that I expect mutual respect for our differing approaches without overreach or control.

Respectful and Direct: My response was firm but respectful, ensuring the conversation stayed focused on boundaries and parenting, not personal attacks.

5. His Second Response: Deflection and Emotional Manipulation

*"I have paid pretty close attention. Other parents do not go in and out of the dugout and follow their kid out on the field. There are coaches who have kids on the team, but other than that, unless a child gets injured, the parents tend to stay on the sideline and out of the dugout. This is the sport that I have played my entire life. From the age of 5 all the way to getting a scholarship for baseball. I will not keep my opinions to myself when it comes to my son. As you stated in the prior message, we are co-parents. This means that we both have a say in how our child is raised. You think letting him watch things on YouTube like Skibidi Toilet is okay as well as watching the movie *IT. I can tell you that I don’t think it’s appropriate, but I have no way of enforcing it. So, when Kai is with you, you can watch those types of things. He has expressed to me that he is scared to walk anywhere in my house without me, and he follows me around everywhere. Those are just my thoughts and observations. Do with them what you will." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 12:47 PM)

Breakdown:

Deflection: Instead of addressing my clarification about the dugout, he shifts the conversation to unrelated issues, such as media choices, to deflect attention from my point.

Emotional Manipulation: He uses our child’s fears as a tool to manipulate me, trying to make me feel guilty about my parenting decisions and portray himself as the responsible parent.

Refusal to Respect Boundaries: By stating, “I will not keep my opinions to myself,” he disregards my request for mutual respect in co-parenting, continuing to impose his views on my parenting choices.

6. My Response: Reframing and Redirecting the Conversation

"Just wanted to follow up to clarify that my reminder about practice wasn’t meant as a personal attack, just a reminder. I know you have a lot of experience with baseball and as long as you're practicing with Kai, that definitely makes up for missing team practices. Since I don’t have that same experience, I try not to miss practice so I can keep up. But for you, taking Kai to the park and practicing together is just as valuable, and I know he benefits a lot from that time with you. Thanks for understanding." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 12:53 PM)

What I Did Right:

Clarified My Intentions: I made it clear that my reminder wasn’t an attack but a simple suggestion aimed at supporting our child.

Acknowledged His Expertise: By recognizing his experience, I diffused some of the tension, reframing the conversation to focus on what’s best for our child.

Redirected the Conversation: I shifted the focus back to the shared goal of supporting our child’s development rather than continuing an unnecessary debate.

7. His Third Response: Gaslighting and False Equivalence

"I would like you to know that my opinions are not personal attacks as well. Just my thoughts on our son. I believe it is important to keep open lines of communication so we can raise our son as seamlessly as possible. I hope it is clear to you by now that I have my son's best interest and I am not an absent father. I do have opinions, and I am entitled to express some of them to you when it comes to our son and his development. This app is here to create open lines of communication in a safe space to better help raise our son. An example of this would be the dentist appointment. You stated that giving him donuts could have caused his teeth to be bad. I let you know that I brush his teeth lots after those kinds of foods. After the dentist, I said I would cut back on the donuts, and you said I don’t have to cut back, I just need to keep his teeth brushed. Your opinion was to keep his teeth brushed. Mine was to both brush his teeth and cut back on sweets. Though we have a difference of opinion, I still listen to your opinion. I cut back sweets at my house, and you can do what you choose at yours. No problem with either of those ways of parenting." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 12:55 PM)

Breakdown:

Gaslighting: By reframing his opinions as “not personal attacks,” he tries to make me question my perception of his previous critical comments.

False Equivalence: He creates the illusion of balance, claiming that we’ve both listened to each other equally, even though he has consistently dismissed my feedback and concerns.

Subtle Blame: He frames the issue in a way that implies I have been overreactive or dismissive of his role as a parent, subtly shifting blame onto me.

8. My Response: Direct and Firm Boundary Setting

"I hear you, and I understand that you have a lot of experience with baseball, which I respect. We both want what’s best for Kai, and I’m always open

to hearing your thoughts. That being said, I’ve seen other parents step into the dugout as well, and none of the coaches have ever expressed an issue with me being involved. If they had, I would have adjusted my approach. As for co-parenting, you’re absolutely right — we both have a say in Kai’s upbringing, and I respect your opinions on things like the media he watches. But just as you have concerns, there are a lot of action movies you’ve put on for Kai that I don’t feel are appropriate either, and Kai has mentioned things to me as well. Unfortunately, you haven’t always been open to my feedback on those matters, like when I suggested therapy for him, which you refused. I’ll continue to do my best to raise Kai in a way that builds his confidence and makes him feel supported. Thanks for sharing how he’s been feeling." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 1:00 PM)

What I Did Right:

Acknowledgment: I continued to acknowledge his concerns, which helped avoid escalating the conflict.

Addressed His Criticism: I pointed out that while he has raised concerns, I have also had issues with his choices, creating a more balanced conversation.

Reinforced My Boundaries: I reaffirmed my role in making decisions for our child, showing that I wouldn’t be swayed or controlled by his critiques.

9. My Final Response: Ending the Conversation

"I understand your perspective, and I appreciate you sharing your experience with sports. However, this conversation has gone far beyond what it originally started as—a simple reminder about practice—and hasn’t felt like shared, positive feedback. I’ve been open to listening to your thoughts, but this back-and-forth isn’t productive anymore. I know what I’m doing when it comes to supporting Kai, and it’s clear you haven’t seen that. I don’t feel the need to justify my actions or explain every decision I make. Justifying myself isn’t the solution here. I’ve heard what you have to say, but it also shows me you haven’t fully seen what I’m doing during practice. So, it’s best to end this conversation now. Let’s move forward with the understanding that we’re both doing what we believe is best for Kai, and we can continue co-parenting in a way that’s focused on him, not on disagreements." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 1:11 PM)

What I Did Right:

Closed the Conversation Firmly: I ended the conversation respectfully but clearly, signaling that I wouldn’t continue the back-and-forth.

Refused to Justify Myself: I made it clear that I don’t need to justify my actions, especially when the conversation isn’t focused on solutions.

Focused on the Child’s Well-Being: I redirected the conversation back to the child, keeping the focus where it belongs—on their growth and well-being.

10. His Escalation: Projection and Legal Threats

"This conversation with you has further shown me that you can shoot out criticism, but you cannot take it. Every time I try to tell you my thoughts, you immediately go into victim mode. You gave me your opinion about practice, and I acknowledged your opinion and gave you one of mine. It is very one-sided when it comes to communicating with you. I will not allow you to try to portray me as a bully for being concerned with my son's upbringing. Fathers have the same amount of rights as mothers, and I will continue to express my opinions on how to raise our son. Take them however you feel, and the court can sort out if you are a victim or not." (Sent: 10/14/2024 at 1:27 PM)

Breakdown:

Projection: He accuses me of the very behavior he is engaging in—claiming that I can’t handle criticism when, in fact, he has been dismissive and controlling throughout the conversation.

Gaslighting and Victim Blaming: He claims that I am playing the victim, trying to make me question whether my boundaries and concerns are justified.

Legal Threats: By mentioning the court, he attempts to intimidate me and assert control, creating fear and positioning himself as the one with more power.

Key Takeaways for Co-Parents

Recognize Manipulation Tactics: Pay attention to signs of gaslighting, projection, and emotional manipulation. These tactics are designed to control the conversation and make you question yourself.

Set Clear Boundaries: Establish and reinforce boundaries when necessary. Don’t allow yourself to be drawn into debates or justifications that aren’t productive.

Use NLP Techniques: Techniques like pacing and leading and reframing can help keep the conversation calm, focused, and child-centered.

Stay Focused on the Child: Keep redirecting the conversation back to your shared goal of supporting your child. Don’t allow unrelated issues to derail the discussion.

Know When to End the Conversation: If the conversation becomes unproductive or toxic, end it respectfully but firmly, as continuing will only create more stress and tension.

By breaking down this interaction and analyzing the manipulation tactics at play, I hope other co-parents can see how to handle similar situations with clarity, confidence, and focus on wha

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小児および若年成人における突然死 病気・事故・虐待の適切な鑑別のために SUDDEN DEATH IN THE YOUNG Third edition ロジャー・W・バイアード(著), 溝口 史剛(監訳 | 監訳) 発行：明石書店 B5判 　 912頁　 上製 価格　45,000円+税 ISBN　978-4-7503-4254-2   C0047 在庫あり(出版社情報) 奥付の初版発行年月　2015年11月 書店発売日　2015年11月30日 登録日　2015年11月16日 紹介 小児期と思春期における乳児突然死症候群をはじめ、事故・虐待・感染症など、突然死の原因となる病態や疾病・外傷に焦点をあて包括的に解説。800点以上の剖検時所見・病理組織所見のカラー写真とあわせ巻末には司法解剖ガイドライン等を付した小児死亡の百科事典。 目次 　『小児および若年成人における突然死』の刊行にあたって 　原著（第3版）日本語版刊行によせて 　原著第3版序文 　第1版、第2版への書評抜粋 　謝辞 第1部　序論 第1章　小児における突然死：概説、ならびに問題点の整理 　はじめに 　突然とは、どのくらい「突然」であるのか？ 　予期せぬとは、どのぐらい「予期しえない」ものであったか？ 　死亡前に全く健康状態に問題はなかった、とした場合の「全く問題ない」とは何を指すのか？ 　突然死をきたす病態のうち、主に報告が成人例のみに限られているものや、小児では理論的に起こりうるとしてのみ報告されている病態というものは存在するのか？ 　概説 　頻度 　突然死の原因 　乳幼児ならびに小児の突然死症例の調査に関する問題点 第2部　非意図的損傷 第2章　事故 　はじめに 　損傷のタイプ 　多発外傷 　大動脈損傷 　心臓震盪 　腹部外傷 　頭部外傷 　溺死 　窒息 　塞栓症 　熱傷 　���電 　中毒 　異食症 　違法ドラッグと薬物乱用 　農場での死亡 　穿通性損傷 　銃火器損傷による死亡 　動物との接触による死亡 　高体温症 　脱水症 　低体温症 　スポーツ関連死 　医原性損傷 　その他 　事故と災害で死亡した事例の身元特定 第3部　意図的損傷 第3章　虐待死、ならびに自殺 　はじめに 　死亡現場調査 　鈍的外力による頭部外傷 　皮膚軟部組織損傷 　骨折 　胸腹部損傷 　熱傷 　銃火器損傷（射創） 　鋭器損傷 　所見に乏しい虐待死、稀な虐待死、およびその他の虐待死 　性虐待／性暴力被害 　医原性殺人 　代理によるミュンヒハウゼン症候群 　心肺蘇生にともなう損傷 　宗教に関連する虐待（ritual abuse） 　自傷 　「虐待と酷似する病態」 　心中（Murder-suicide） 　自殺 　専門家証言 第4部　自然死���内因死） 第4章　感染症 　はじめに 　心血管系疾患 　呼吸器疾患 　中枢神経系感染症 　血液感染症 　消化管感染症 　泌尿生殖器感染症 　全身性感染症 第5章　心臓疾患 　はじめに 　感染症および関連疾患 　先天性心疾患 　先天性心疾患と遺伝子 　心筋症 　筋ジストロフィー 　弁膜異常症 　腫瘍 　刺激伝導障害 　剖検時に所見が認められない病態（negative autopsy） 　その他の病態 第6章　脈管疾患 　はじめに 　大動脈の異常 　冠動脈異常 　静脈の異常 　先天性血管異常 　肺血管異常 　その他の血管障害 第7章　呼吸器疾患 　はじめに 　気管支喘息 　上気道閉塞 　気管支肺異形成症 　急性肺炎 　急性間質性肺炎 　嚢胞性線維症 　広範性肺出血 　特発性肺ヘモジデローシス 　緊張性気胸 　Pickwic症候群／肥満 第8章　神経疾患 　はじめに 　脳卒中 　腫瘍 　てんかん 　代謝疾患 　感染症 　中枢神経系の構造異常、発達異常 　Rett症候群 　Lafora病 　Friedreich失調症 　結節性硬化症（Bourneville-Pringle病） 　神経線維腫症 　透明中隔－視神経異形成症 　多発性硬化症 　急性出血性白質脳炎（Hurst病） 　Guillain Barr 　Djrine Sottas病 　Joubert症候群 　筋ジストロフィー 　白質ジストロフィー 　家族性自律神経失調症 　先天性中枢性低換気症候群 　嚥下性失神 　新生児驚愕症 　低酸素性虚血性脳症 　乳児突然死症候群（SIDS） 第9章　血液疾患 　はじめに 　異常ヘモグロビン症 　悪性血液腫瘍 　凝固異常症 　血小板疾患 　貧血 　溶血性尿毒症症候群 　多血症 　脾臓疾患 第10章　消化器疾患、および泌尿生殖器疾患 　消化器疾患 　泌尿生殖器疾患 第11章　代謝疾患、および内分泌疾患 　代謝疾患 　脂肪酸酸化異常症 　炭水��物代謝異常症 　アミノ酸代謝異常症 　尿素サイクル異常症 　有機酸代謝異常症 　その他の代謝異常症 　高脂血症 　Menkes症候群 　Reye症候群 　出血性ショック脳症症候群 　その他の疾患 　内分泌疾患 第12章　その他の自然死 　はじめに 　結合織疾患 　骨系統疾患 　皮膚疾患 　筋疾患 　染色体異常／発達遅滞 　免疫系疾患 第5部　母体疾患、胎児期疾患、および新生児疾患 第13章　母体疾患、胎児期疾患、および新生児疾患 　はじめに 　妊娠合併症：母体死亡 　妊娠合併症：胎児死亡 　新生児殺 　水中出産による死亡 　死後分娩（棺内分娩） 第6部　乳児突然死症候群 第14章　乳児突然死症候群 　はじめに（歴史的背景を含めて） 　疫学 　診断 　剖検実施前の諸段階 　病理学的特徴 　SIDSを引き起こしうる各種病態 　虐待／殺人による死亡 　結語 補足 　補足Ⅰ　剖検に関しての情報を記載したパンフレット 　補足Ⅱ　突然の予期せぬ（説明困難な）乳児死亡調査――報告用紙 　補足Ⅲ　小児の司法解剖ガイドライン 　補足Ⅳ　剖検に関する国際標準プロトコル 　補足Ⅴ-1　CDC作成の成長曲線 　補足Ⅴ-2　日本の成長曲線 　補足Ⅵ　乳児期の組織重量一覧 　補足Ⅶ　20歳未満の体重別標準心臓重量 　補足Ⅷ　虐待の可能性がある場合の剖検時チェックリスト 　補足Ⅸ　代謝性疾患の可能性がある場合の剖検時チェックリスト 　監訳者あとがき 　索引 　症候群索引 　微生物索引 前書きなど 『小児および若年成人における突然死』の刊行にあたって 　死亡――これは、医学・医療がもっとも避けたい事象の1つであるが、ヒトは必ず死亡し、死亡には必ずその原因が存在する。多くの場合、年齢が高い人から順に死亡していくが、若年者が先に死亡することもある。これは逆縁といわれ、その悲しみは消えることなく、逆に強まるともいわれている。 　小児や若い人を対象とする医療では、その保護者に対応する場合が多い。突然死亡した場合の経緯はいつも同じである。死亡した小児の保護者は、必ず「何故、子どもは死ななければならなかったのか？」と詰問する。そして、「二度と同じことが起こらないようにして欲しい」と切望する。時には、「あの時、公園に行っていいと言わなければ、あの子は遊具から転落死しなかったかもしれない」と自分自身を問い詰めることもある。 　突然死に関わった医師は、「できうる限りの検査をしても何もわからない。どうしたらいいのか？　医師にできることは何なのか？」と無力感に苛まれる。しかし、すぐに次の患者が目の前に現れ、その治療に追われることになる。 　こうした状況が毎日起こり続けているが、多くの場合、問題が解決することはなく、漫然と日々が過ぎていく。 　最近、死亡した乳幼児の診療録を調査する機会があったが、突然死の事例では、なぜ死亡したのかまったくわからない事例がかなりの数みられた。中には、診療録はなく、救急搬送の記録であるA4の用紙1枚に、住所、氏名、生年月日が記載され、記録部分は「心肺停止」とだけ書かれたものもあった。臨床医からすれば、あとは警察や法医学の仕事で、自分たちの関わる領域ではないと考えたものと思われるが、これが現実なのである。すなわち、医学の領域の中では、「突然死」はそれぞれの病態の最終結果としてのみ認識され、「突然死」の原因を究明し、次の診療に役立てるという考えはほとんどみられない。 　この本は、「突然死」を医学の一つの領域として明示しており、小児の突然死のすべてが網羅されている。今回は第3版で、前の版に比べ突然死の年齢層が幅広くとられている。事故によって死亡した���例では、みる機会がない写真がたくさん収載されている。各章末尾に示された文献の引用件数は膨大である。乳児突然死症候群（SIDS）にも1章が割かれ、1000編を超える文献が示されている。まさに小児の突然死の成書となっている。突然死を経験して困ったら、まずはこの本を開いてみるのがよい。 　（…後略…） 著者プロフィール ロジャー・W・バイアード（ロジャー ダブリュー バイアード） オーストラリアの南オーストラリア州の州都アデレードにあるアデレート大学のジョージ・リチャード・マークス病理診断部部長、および南オーストラリア州の法科学部門の上級法医科学専門アドバイザーを務める。専門は小児期突然死であり、これまでに同領域の専門誌に600編に及ぶ論文を発表している。2008年から『法医学と病理学（Forensic Science Medicine and Pathology）』（Springer Publishers, New York）の編集長／編集主幹を務めている。 オーストラリア国家勲章（AO：Order of Australia）受章、オーストラリア国家公務員章（PSM：Public Service Medal）受章。 ［主な著書］ 共編書に、『乳児突然死症候群――これまでの進展と現在の問題点、および将来的な可能性（Sudden Infant Death Syndrome Problems, Progress and Possibilities）』（Arnold, 2001）、『乳幼児期・小児期の病理／法医学（Forensic Pathology of Infancy and Childhood）』（Springer, 2014）、『法医学事典【第2版】（Encyclopedia of Forensic and Legal Medicine 2nd ed.）』（Elsevier/Academic Press, 2015）、単著に『小児および若年成人における突然死【第3版】（Sudden Death in the Young 3rd ed.）』（Cambridge University Press, 2010）、共著に『病理／法医学アトラ���（Atlas of Forensic Pathology）』（Springer, 2012）などがある。 溝口　史剛（ミゾグチ フミタケ） 群馬県前橋赤十字病院　小児科副部長。 1999年群馬大学医学部卒、2008年群馬大学大学院卒、医学博士。 群馬大学附属病院ならびに群馬大学小児科関連病院をローテート勤務し、2015年より現職。2012年より群馬県児童虐待防止医療アドバイザー。 日本小児科学会認定小児科専門医、日本内分泌学会認定内分泌代謝科（小児科）専門医、日本小児科医会認定子どもの心相談医、日本小児科学会小児死亡登録・検証委員会委員長、日本子ども虐待医学会評議員、日本子ども虐待防止学会代議員。 NCPTC（米国子ども保護トレーニングセンター）認定ChildFirstプロトコル司法面接研修講師。 RIFCR(TM)通告義務者向け性虐待被害児面接研修講師。 認定NPO法人チャイルドファーストジャパン理事、一般社団法人ヤングアシスト理事。 ［主な翻訳書］ 『プラクティカルガイド　子どもの性虐待に関する医学的評価』（監訳、診断と治療社、2013年）、『子ども虐待の身体所見』（明石書店、2013年）、『子ども虐待医学　診断と連携対応のために』（明石書店、2013年）などがある。

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