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Child Free Wedding
I have been binge reading a bunch of AITA posts about child free weddings and other articles about them. It was a concept I never even thought about much...but I am honestly so onboard.
This is just me shooting the breeze since I have never even had a boyfriend before. As a Christian, I know I am supposed to value kids. But I don't. Not really.
Make no mistake! I don't hate kids. I believe children are gifts from God and are precious. Sure, I am annoyed sometimes when I see kids running around in the church lobby or when I hearing a baby screaming like a banshee in a public space but I don't begrudge them for that. Kids should be kids. Kids have a place in society.
I guess part of the reason for my apathy towards kids is that I never interacted with kids much growing up. I had baby nieces in Jamaica but I never met them until they were older kids and I have never had a proper conversation with any of them. The nieces and nephews I spent the most time with were the ones closest to my age since I interacted with those siblings more. I have never even held a baby! My church friends are now having kids but none of them are close friends so I don't really feel any strong emotions towards their babies besides happiness for them. I honestly don't know how I will feel when my loved ones start having babies.
So if I got married today, I would have no reason to invite kids since none of my closest family members or friends have young babies.
Also, I am sensitive to noise. Loud chewing feels like chalkboard scraping to me. I don't want to hear children crying or fussing during my ceremony.
Ultimately, children don't bring me joy. At least not at this stage in my life. I bet my Christian social circle may gently disapprove but the idea of a child-free wedding sounds good to me. If my potential fiancee agrees with me, then even better!
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I just feel like, "kids are people with feelings and should be treated accordingly" and "some parents fail to supervise their children, therefore I get the existence of childfree spaces" are two statements that can coexist.
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I've seen "wanting an open bar" as a reason to have a child-free wedding, and to me that's a non-sequitur, what does the bar has to do with children? No everyone is gonna get passed out drunk, and teenagers are usually not allowed to drink so there's gonna be someone to make sure the children don't die
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Jason: Hey remember when you went by Ric
Dick: Could you NOT
Jason: You were such a-
Dick: Don’t you dare say it
Jason: Dick! *slaps knee* HA!
Dick: *pinching the bridge of his nose* Maybe leave the puns to me, Little Wing
#batman#batman wayne family adventures#jason todd#red hood#batfam#tim drake#dick grayson#jason#red robin#bwfa#free nightwing#nightwing#dick deserves the world#Jason would never let him live this down#it gets brought up at least a few times a year#at the worst of times too#like on patrol when they’re getting their assess handed to them#or at dick’s wedding#Jason purposely picks the worst of times to bring it up#man would bring it up at the birth of dick’s child too#he would sit that kid down and say ‘let your uncle Jason tell you a story about your father chum’#and dick would foam at the mouth#he just wants to forget those days#well at least forget the whole Ric Grayson bit
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Just monster au doodles!
Was listening to monster musicals and decided to make another side au.
So it all begins when our favorite class goes on field trip! They get scammed, hunted down, making monster friends, trying to figure a way out; ya know the drill!
And than their teacher finds out his childhood friend is vampire, romance ensues, and now they getting married?!
AND NO FREE BURBERS?!!!
I’d be pissed too, Oli!
Bonus: Everyone is tired of his emo ass yearning for his childhood sweetheart (and being emo).
(Skipp painted the portrait for him! And the phrase written is the last sentence of “The longer I live” from “Dracula: the musical”!)
Edit: Concept art
#ramshackle#ramshackle au#ramshackle oc#ramshackle monster au#ramshackle sora#ramshackle bailey#ramshackle finn#ramshackle olive#ramshackle zaria#ramshackle stone#ramshackle maple#ramshackle jasper#JUSTICEFOROLI’SBUBGERS!!!#poor child never got his free burbers#I’d be pissed too if my brother was marrying a FUCKIN VAMPIRE whose hunting you down and YOU WERE SCAMMED ON YELP!#yea…Olive says no burbers no wedding 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️#concept art
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My Complicated Feelings on Angels Take Manhattan/How Amy's Story Should Have Ended
You know I think the reason why Angels Take Manhattan has always felt off to me (other than the logical gaps/statue of liberty Weeping angel/why couldn't eleven just fly to New Jersey in the 1940s and then just bus in) is that all of Amy's arc up literally beginning in Eleventh Hour/Amy's Choice going through God Complex and Dinosaurs In A Spaceship and the Power of Three feels like it's building up to Amy finally choosing her domestic life/growing up over travelling with the Doctor. Like, it feels like it's building up to a "Martha leaves the Doctor" type ending where Amy decides to choose her normal life and growing up over the Doctor, the kind of situation where he will always be her friend but that she has decided to make her life in the here and now. Something that might feel bittersweet, but ultimately satisfying.
But instead Angels Take Manhattan is about the Doctor and Amy/Rory getting ripped apart ala Ten/Rose or Ten&Donna and it just doesn't quite fit right? Like, Amy gets to choose to stay with Rory but it's framed as more of a tragedy from the Doctor's end? And it's still a repeat of the whole "Rory died so I won't live a life without him" dilemma in Amy's Choice rather than "I choose to grow up on my own terms of my own free will." Like, they were attempting the "choosing to grow up" bit with the final afterword by Amelia Williams part of the story but Rory doesn't get to make a choice over anything. He gets no agency. Hell, Amy doesn't get to choose the life she and Rory were building for themselves so carefully in the Power of Three- that gets ripped away from her, too.
I honestly love the storyline that Amy and Rory and Eleven had, buried between all of the Silence plots and the weird way it ended. I liked the idea of growing up and choosing to settle down while still keeping friends with the stars. And I feel like the need to make their ending tragic kind of undercut some of the impact that Amy getting to make her choice to build something of her own and choose that could have had.
#amy pond#rory williams#amy x rory#doctor who#eleventh doctor#amy deserved a martha ending#pls tell me this makes sense#meta#angels take manhattan#my feelings on this episode/her arc have changed over time#i like this episode more than i like the wedding of river song or the time of the doctor to be SURE#but there's just something that could have been executed a little better#amy pond growing up#i also wanted her to keep her name#i get what they were trying to do i just feel like it undercut her arc#power of three#Amy's choice wasn't about rory/the Doctor it was about staying that child in the garden or growing up#and the story decided her tragedy was still being the girl in the garden ripped away from the Doctor#angels take manhattan is still “rory died so I won't live this life” rather than “i picked this for myself of my own free will”#tagging this moffat critical feels strange#Amy's choice
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It quite annoys me when people frame the issue of adults getting more and more hostile to children in public space as a "those annoying child free people!!!" as if a group of annoying weirdos on reddit had *alone* the power to oppress and exclude kids they don't even go around much. Like being extremely hostile and abusive to kids are often people with family themselves, people who have work involving children, people who'd think you're selfish for not having kids. They'll often say "the issue is not kids its kids that don't behave and their parents let them do whatever!" and are also extremely hostile to pregnant people for needing accommodations. Its just as much your random dad with a kid "who can behave unlike the other ones" as your annoying 20yo in their "i need to be vocal about hating kids" phase. As long as we keep seeing kids as objects who are allowed to be seen if they’re not heard and pressure people especially women to see any sense of protection or likeability in a kid as them finally admitting they’ll marry and have kids themselves I think we’ll keep having that issue.
#like i literally saw moms being pro child free weddings#when people focus on 'oh its the child free people' it brings a weird#'its the weirdos who don't want to settle marry and have kids themselves' sentiment idk#which literally make those ppl more annoying because they feel like they have to be harshly anti kids#which doesn't excuse their behavior#nana is posting#cupbreak
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i was literally crying more than my auntie at her only child’s wedding like ‘i never thought id live to see the day’ as if im fucking 75
#stream#she picked so well#we love steveeveeeee & i told them that 😭😭😭😭#weddings always due me in 😭😭😭😭😭😭#i will BAWL like a MESS omg#the CHILD even was fine but here i am just 😭😭😭😭😭#they’re sooo cute together i’m just so happy to see my cousin happy & he fits just RIGHT IN TO THR FAMILY#HES PERFECT#DOES HE UNDERSTAND WHAT PEOPLE SAY NO BUT HE TRIES & THATS THE POINT LIKE MY BROTHER CANT EVEN UNDERSTAND OUR UNCLE THAT HES KNOWN SINCE#BIRTH BUT THRYRR ECUT OF THR SANE CLOTH#good LORD i doubt my brother could understand chris#i missed the family so much i love us#ugh trinis 😭😭😭🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹#literally it was a clear divide between the islanders & steve’s family/friends 😭😭😭😭#literally cocoa pod bracelet vs none & that was it u could TELL#& steve’s friends fucking hated me but also i was drinking on an empty somtach & everybody fucking smoke golds like ridiculous#when can americans smoke REDS LIKE TRUE AMERICSND#FUCKING THEYRE 18$ W CONVERSION A P A C K#OBVS IM GETTING THEM IN DUTY FREE 😭😭😭😭😭😭
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the line about logan roy not being able to fit a whole woman in his head being said from his own daughter is so. something about daughters and their fathers something about daughters who are their father’s child something about daughters who are daddy’s little favorite daddy’s little girl but the second they start having opinions and the second they start talking back, the father holds their daughter out with open hostility and suspicion, something about how only years later will the father occasionally go, do you remember? do you remember when we used to have good days, when you used to come to me with all your wonders and your worries, do you remember when we were stuck together like glue, what happened to that and the daughter just has to give her father a rueful smile as though she hasn’t been wondering why her father built up that wall in the first place as though she hadn’t been wondering since when did her father only ever said good morning to her brothers as though she hadn’t been wondering since when did her father only ever ask her brothers to accompany him to work and something about shiv roy saying my father couldn’t fit a whole woman in his head and something about shiv roy still crying the most when she learned that her father was dead something about how shiv roy called her father the world and yet something about how shiv roy still asks her father’s closest male confidants if he was really that bad, was my father still an okay guy when they all know the truth, they all know he wasn’t a good person, but shiv roy still remembers playing outside her father’s office just to get him to come out and shiv roy still remembers her father telling her to remember, slant of light and ugh ugh ugh ugh ugh fathers and their daughters daughters and their fathers or whatever
#caroline watches tv#succession#can't believe this show is ending next week. maybe i'll be free#truly i think whatever tf is going on between shiv and logan's relationship#is the only other father-child relationship in tv that has made me want to eat cement in the same way#that joo won and han ki hwan's relationship in beyond evil makes me want to eat cement#except at least with shiv and logan. you SAW the tenderness between them sometimes#logan has a nickname for shiv. logan is the one to tell shiv to come into the company#logan is the one to tell shiv 'my daughter. my only daughter' in a way that makes me cry#logan is the one to tell shiv she is marrying a man beneath her in one breath but then he holds her hand#and says 'he's a good man.'#logan is the one to show up at shiv's wedding but he doesn't care to show up to connor's#something about mothers who tell their daughters 'you may hate your dad but you are going to cry the hardest when he dies'#something about shiv's mother being so annoyed with shiv at all hours#something about mothers who hate their daughters because they know that their daughters are 'stealing' their husbands away#which is such. a sickening sickening concept but the fact that this is genuinely how some women feel#anyways. ughughghghghh whatever. whatever.#something about how shiv is the one who i think has been hurt the most from her father#(i still haven't forgotten about that one scene in season one. that still haunts me jfc)#but at the same time. she's the one who's sobbing on the floor#and she's the one who literally schedules her grief#she's the one who just keeps going 'my dad is DEAD he is DEAD'#just like. every time i see shiv roy contemplating her father's death i hear kill bill alarm sirens in my head#just. FUCK OFF FUCK OFF FUCK OFFFFFFFFF!!!
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" So, how did you manage to stay off the marriage radar? " ( via asking for no particular reason - none at all )
"The short and simple answer would be your mother, especially after my own...previous engagement failed.
The longer answer would be that Stella had more opportunities to marry up in the eyes of our parents, so my marriage prospects were neglected in favour of hers. That, and my previous engagement did not go as planned."
He paused for a moment. "Through your parent's arranged marriage, my family got what it wanted thanks to your mother, so I was left to my own devices." Andrealphus failed to mention that he went from the favourite to the disappointment as a result of Stella's marriage to Stolas, for it was still a sore spot for him.
#starsaught#Muse: Andrealphus#((Fandom: Andre was definitely the favourite child.#Me: Okay but what if he was replaced as the favourite by Stella as soon as she was arranged to be wed to Stolas?#Only for both siblings to become disappointments and failures to their family :) ))#Also: The engagement thing is canon only to my Andre ;u;#and involves one of my oc's!#also feel free to turn this into a thread!
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Dear Brynlee,
With great detachment and shame I have just realized a moment ago that beside Dainsleif, I know not of any others that you may favour from the Genshin Universe. Lord Ayato, perhaps? I wouldn't be so sure about him; regardless I hope you would answer my question and forgive my impudence for having delayed this for so long.
With Love,
Chryseis Valois. [ik. this is only needed for anons. i just wanted a cool name😂]
Dearest Chryseis,
Please don't ask for forgiveness nor should you feel shame, especially since you do have it right. The only man I care most deeply in that universe was the boughkeeper.
He reminds me of His Majesty, King Dimitri. I've always entertained the notion that if the latter and I were born in a more equal societal footing, we might end up as partners in knighthood. I think somewhere out in that alternate realm, "Dainsleif" and my counterpart had committed to achieving that dream. In addition, he and I are currently working together on a project— and I believe Dainsleif does find my face familiar prior to our meeting.
Lord Kamisato? Well... He... literally sounds a lot like Dimitri. I've heard his voice. I had the privilege to talk to one of his versions several times when the soul was misplaced. I quite like him. As for finding a semblance of romantic attraction towards him, that's another complicated matter. I don't believe I am as fond of him as Dainsleif. But I can't be too sure...
I suppose if we're talking about admiration, "Duke" Wriothesley and architect Kaveh have their charms. The duke is quite the smooth talker and has the suaveness to pull it off. Meanwhile Kaveh has a certain "relatability" factor fellow artists would nod at. Do I find myself sparking a romantic attraction for either men? Unlikely.
This is likely such a disappointing answer. As much as I liked traversing Teyvat, I doubt I'd find my soulmate there. It's similar to looking at a restaurant's menu, appreciating its variety, but has no intent in placing an order. That... Probably sounds ridiculous.
All my love,
- Brynlee <3
#I keep making English voice actor references im sorry that's how i mostly judge who to pull HAHAHHA#Ayato and wrio gets privileges for sharing the same voice as dimitri and claude i do not make the rules-#Heizou and I would be like pancakes and waffles- too much for one breakfast and will probably spark a deranged debate between friends in#A fun way /silly#$ support conversations#$ a support = cherry#Looking back... Huh... Yeah... Why don't I have actual genshin crushes HAHAHAH#I played that game like an adoption simulator. Childe turned from husband to my sweet boyfailure son#I was just going around adopting grown men and women HAHAHAHA#Also feel free to have dope names that last name is cool as heck#I can list my genshin besties (literally all white haired red eyed characters are my family such as kazu razor ning itto cyno qiqi-)#and my enemies (ayat-) *cough* alhaitham and.... Uh Alhaitham^2 /j. But crushes... I have zero clue#My absolute girl bestie would be faruzan kokomi and dehya too tho like wed be unstoppable HAHAHAH
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I actually don't think child-free weddings are a symptom of late-stage capitalism. Even if you have a small wedding, it's fair to not want it ruined because some folks enter public spaces and think their obligation to parent and supervise their children ends which creates problems (those videos of kids interrupting first dances or sticking their hands in the wedding cake aren't cute, but I blame their parents). I think most people don't hate kids, but lazy parents enable chaos by allowing their children to use the world as a playground which is unfair and unsafe for kids as well as others (zoom in on servers who've been tripped by kids running around thanks to the parents who didn't care or weren't watching them).
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speaking of weddings i can’t wait to not allow a single child to attend mine
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GLADLY!! Some of the issues are like wayyyyy too deep for me to even begin with and are years old but we can just talk about the wedding.
1- my cousins step sister showed up in a wedding dress to the ceremony but was kicked out by security before she could enter.
2- And the vows were just… not it. The premise of both of their vows were “I made such a good choice by choosing you and you’re so grateful that I settled for you.”
3- OHOHOH WAIT the best man was the brides ex, she was cheating on him with the groom!!!
4- The bride and groom kept dancing with other people all night, but not even in like the normal way but like in a wayyyyyyyy too touchy way. The big no-no toughest if you will.
5- The bride apparently smashed a slice of cake on the grooms cheek so he literally chased her and pinned her on the ground and smashed way more slices on her face/ upper dress and called her a b-word a few times too. I say apparently because I wasn’t in the room. And they were VERY strict about no phones out.
6- Going off of no phones I think saw the groom on tinder while everyone was getting their makeup done before the wedding!!
7- Isnt fully related but like 6 people got into a fight. Idk what that was about. I think of those people was the grooms mom though!!
8- The bride and groom kept being narcissistic the whole time which was fun. I think?
Those are all the main events I can remember at the moment, so sorry if it seems kinda short but it was…something. That’s a word to use.
-🌺
...holy fuck. hang on, the tea is HOTTER THAN THE SUN let me just. Tell you my reactions to each one but overall, my jaw dropped and kept DROPPING with each entry
One, SHE SHOWED UP IN A FUCKING WEDDING DRESS ??? AN ENTIRE WEDDING DRESS ???? WHAT. WHAT. THE LEVEL OF INSANITY SHE HAS, I'M SORRY. Two, i. If there is anything i have learned, NEVER. SETTLE. stay single before you settle fuck no what kinda bullshit vows were those omfg. Three, DOES THE GROOM HAVE A BRAINCELL ??? I. DOES HE KNOW SHE WAS CHEATING WITH HIM ??? that is so messy omg I've seen wattpad aus less messy than that
Four, yikes. Five, WHAT THE FUCK. THAT'S YOUR WIFE AND YOU'RE CALLING HER THAT AND DOING THAT TO HER ??? annulment !! Immediately !!! Six, I'm sorry but if he was on tinder before the wedding, that marriage is not lasting, i gotta say it. Seven, i honestly think this was the sanest entry, POSSIBLY bc i am so used to fights at big events (staring at my graduation). Eight, if there is one thing my mom taught me, it's that you cannot be narcissistic at an event YOU planned bc if you really wanted it to be abt you, you wouldn't have invited other people (this happened after my aunt said smth at my cousin's quince that did not sit right with me)
Lowkey. That sounds extremely draining but the car ride back must've either been quiet or gone "OKAY BUT DID YOU SEE--"
#💜.answers#🌺.anon!!!#anon you brought me piping hot tea and did not disappoint#call me a chismosa all you like but jfc#im surprised one of the major events didnt involve a child#bc from what I've seen in weddings one of the more negative events usually has smth to do with a child#NOT SAYING ANYTHING BAD ABT THEM but like. its a common statistic#unless this was a child free wedding in which case good for you#but was the food good at least ???
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i just think that if you care about reducing human suffering your #1 task is to investigate sources of human suffering, historical ways by which human suffering has been successfully reduced, historical pitfalls and ways that efforts to reduce human suffering can backfire, most effective current opportunities to reduce human suffering,
being ineffective and completely failing to do any research is also not a crime but im starting to suspect some of you are primarily motivated by dunking on neoliberalism and cringe uncool loser tech guys, and not by the reduction of human suffering, even though human suffering is the main way in which you excuse your dunking
#the trashcan speaks#yes im motivated by dunking on stupid articles on the internet i am not free of sin#dunking is fun. i get it#it IS super cringe to damage redwood forests in big sur for a lotr themed wedding#HOWEVER. lets first ensure that whatever force(s) are causing the child mortality rate to decrease worldwide KEEP HAPPENING
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Request idea - Sebastian and f!mc (any house) spend year 7 Christmas break together at her house where he plans to ask her overprotective father for permission to propose. He knows he needs to be the perfect gentleman the entire time in order to gain her father’s trust but it’s to the point she’s confused and worries something’s wrong because he won’t risk kissing or touching her
Maybe could be a part two to the potioneer’s apprentice or rumor has it?
yes, absolutely yes. i do feel like i need to say though that while i will totally do this, i will probably also shoehorn in about 17 reminders that it's the late victorian era. because of all the things to feel weird about writing, i feel weird writing 18-year-olds getting married.
(explicit consensual sexual content? no worries. marriage? WHOA)
#my wips#am writing#maybe it's the chaos of my own imminent wedding making me feel like everyone should just... maybe not do this#everyone promise me you'll just elope if you find the one!!!#i'm 27 and i feel like a child bride#also if anyone has any strong headcanons about MC's parents feel free to drop them here
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