#causes of grief

[asthedeathoflight]

I think an underrated angle on 2x05 is something that either Jacob or Assad said in some interview somewhere, which is that in that episode Louis is addicted to heroin. Thats why he has that whole stash of drugs that he gives to Daniel, that's why he gives Daniel the drugs even though he's already got him alone. He didn't just use those 128 boys for sex he was using them to get high. Bring them home, get them to shoot up, and then drain them to get that secondhand high.

It clarifies something that's always confused me about that scene, which is why Armand saves Daniel the first time. He wouldn't save Daniel as a person, he clearly knows Daniel needs to die, but he's not seeing Daniel as a person there. Daniel is just a substance. He rips him away from Louis to stop him from using.

And i think that adds a whole other layer to the fight he and Armand have to think that this is Louis on a bender, with Armand cleaning up after him because he's not stable enough to. Louis in the bed for a week isn't just healing from the burns, he's going through withdrawal. Him at the table with Daniel giving him the "bright young reporter" speech is probably the first time he's been sober in months.

It adds another layer to Armand's desperation, that Louis has been running from both Armand and himself in this way, and of course Armand wants to erase that memory. Of course he wants to pretend that that fight never happened. Not just to protect himself but in a way to protect Louis from having said those things. When he describes the fight to Louis afterwards, he says "you said the worst things you've ever said to me." And he doesn't really know how to forgive Louis for that so he just wants to bury this rock-bottom moment and move on like it never happened. After all, Louis was high, he didn't really mean it, but if he remembers then maybe he might think that he had a point. Better to wipe the whole experience away.

[solhwellness]

Tips to Understand and Navigate Grief | Solh Wellness

Emotional distress brought on by both significant and little losses causes grief, a response to loss. Even though mourning is frequently associated with severe emotional pain, knowing its historical background might be helpful.

Beginning in the 1200s, the word "grief" first entered the English language. It originally stood for experiencing pain, suffering, and adversity. The phrase comes from the noun "griever," which denotes burdens or sorrows, and the word "grief," which indicated misfortune in Old French. The Latin words "gravare" and "gravis," which imply to make heavy or weighty, respectively, ari where this Old French name got its start.

This historical evolution emphasizes the concepts of weight, anguish, and difficulty and draws parallels with how we currently perceive grief as an emotional torment that takes the form of physical symptoms. A common way that people express their sorrow is as a weight on their shoulders, a heavy covering over their hearts, or a deep, all-consuming anguish.

Today's society acknowledges mourning as a typical reaction to loss. The degree of the attachment or relationship that led to the loss is reflected in the depth of the grieving. It can be quite sad and frequently leads to changes that have a big impact on one's life when a loved one or close family member passes away.

Modern perspectives understand that grieving can be triggered by any substantial loss, not just those that culminate in death, despite the fact that historically death has been the primary cause of melancholy.

Grief can have many different causes, such as:

Employment decline

Due to isolation and social interaction

Miscarriage

Divorce

This period of time, known as the "empty nest," comes after a child has grown up and moved out of the house.

Issues with your health that limit your opportunities, mobility, or confidence

A diagnosis that will have an impact on the lives of you or a loved one

The passing of a beloved pet

The passing of a loved one

The process of coping with loss involves a variety of emotional, mental, physical, and behavioral reactions, all of which might differ from person to person and change over time. The terms "grief," "mourning," and "bereavement" all have various meanings in this situation.

Grief: This holds true for our reactions to losing something. It evokes emotions like relief or helplessness, along with shock, grief, denial, despair, and fury. You can experience uncontrollable crying because you may feel nostalgic for happier moments that have passed before the loss.

Mourning: the process of adjusting after a loss. Social standards, cultural customs, and religious convictions all have an impact on it. It necessitates changing daily routines and point of view in addition to adjusting to life without the missing entity.

Bereavement:This expression refers to the duration of sadness. It indicates the period of time when the responses and emotions brought on by loss are most intense.

Grief appears in a variety of ways:

Emotions:From astonishment, numbness, sadness, and rage to anxiety and melancholy, emotions can run the gamut. You could feel helpless, guilty, or relieved. It's possible to cry unintentionally out of nostalgia or longing for the past.

Thoughts:  Disbelief, fuzziness, and difficulty concentrating are all symptoms of grief. The loss of the deceased person may come up in conversation. People occasionally go through hallucinations or see things that others cannot.

Physical Sensations: Physical symptoms can include a tightness or heaviness in the chest or throat, as well as severe fatigue, nauseousness, headaches, and muscle tension. Your grief can be making you feel sick.

Behaviors: Grief can modify a person's behavior, causing them to become irritable or snappy, have irregular sleeping patterns, or lose interest in their interests. Changes in energy levels may cause anxiety or unusually high levels of activity. It might also affect a person's spiritual or religious experiences, leading them to reevaluate their convictions or gain a deeper comprehension of what matters most in life.

Self-care tips to navigate grief:

Acknowledge Emotions: You must recognize and categorize your feelings in order to heal. This clarity also enables you to share your experience with others and makes it easier to identify the appropriate rituals or practices to address the situation.

Prioritize Self-Care: After recognizing your emotions, schedule time for the required self-care. Reflection is the process of building relationships with oneself. Stay off of other people's paths and concentrate on what you need right now.

Embrace Change: Recognize how your needs and identity change as a result of a loss. Put away previous expectations, societal standards, and other people's opinions, and think about your current priorities. Pay attention to the issues that are currently most important to you.

Support Physical Well-being: Your mind concentrates power to aid in emotional recovery. Your grieving process will go more smoothly if you stay physically well. You should take pauses as needed, look for company when you're alone, refrain from using drugs and alcohol, and partake in happy activities.

Communicate Needs: Many people may find it challenging to support mourning family members. By outlining your demands, empower them. Be specific when requesting assistance. The phrase "I appreciate your offer to join, but I'll listen to music alone" will make it clear that you need some alone time. Instead, say, "Can we go for a walk together this afternoon?" to solicit participation. It promotes your rehabilitation and makes it possible for family members to travel with you.

Conclusion

Even among family members who are experiencing the same loss, grief is a very personal emotion. It frequently occurs in waves or cycles, with periods of time where things are more or less normal coming after periods of intense feelings that persist for several hours or days. As you get used to the loss, these cycles could get easier over time. Adjusting only means that, with time, you get used to grieving; it doesn't mean that you don't care about the loss. Dates like holidays or anniversaries could evoke sentiments of sadness, but by making an adjustment, you can view these events through fresh eyes.

Since we think that mental health is important, Solh Wellness has selected a variety of effective self-help techniques to improve your mental wellbeing. We provide a variety of services, including goal-setting, mood analysis, self-assessment tests, journaling, and access to a sizable collection of educational materials. Utilize our wide range of self-help resources to take control of your path to improved mental health and personal growth.

[lotus-pear]

mourning black and the death of ideals

[tagerrkix]

rage.

[handonmystupidheart]

andrew garfield for gq, 2022

[wuntrum]

more orvilles :)

[borgialucrezia]

"Grief? Then why do you force this false joy upon us? We are dancing on your brother's grave."

[hey-hey-j]

lore dropping

(★ my Kofi)

[shadelorde]

The idea of dark magic creating a void, a darkness inside your soul, paralleled with Aaravos’s star over his heart going hollow after Leola was killed

[zephyrartz-owo]

Mental Health Tip! Don't skip meals lest you be fighting demons

[honeyandsalted]

I was looking at bts from Emma D’Arcy + Olivia Cooke photoshoot and realized we’ve never seen adult Alicent truly smile or laugh in the show and possibly never will. There’s been a few instances of a sarcastic/sardonic smile, but the closest I can think of is a brief moment when she is first holding baby joff, or minuscule moments during the 1x08 dinner. But like, we’ve yet to have a true smile of joy from adult Alicent the entire show, which is just really sad.

HBO LET MY GIRL SMILE IM BEGGING YOU

[clocks-divorcing-ticks]

Whatever you think of the timing of this little sidebar story, Aabria as a DM has done so much work in so comparatively little time to really establish the panic and the fear of the gods in response to Predathos. To put in front of the viewer with clarity exactly what they are prepared to do and who they are willing to align themselves with to save their own skin.

Aabria gets people and motive and societies and what makes them tick in a way that is so uniquely poignant. And hers is such an immeasurably valuable contribution to this story.

[little-pondhead]

Classic "promised-at-birth-to-the-Ghost-King" story, except the contract never states how, exactly, the King is to use the offered soul. Usually, one would be offered as a bride or sacrifice. But with Pariah Dark sealed away, his retainers got a little lazy in the last few millennia. They just made some generic contracts and practically handed them out like candy.

When Danny took over as king via conquest, that included all the weird and messed up soul contracts the previous retainers had signed. And since ghost magic was a thing and seemed to have it out for Danny personally, many of these contracts updated their terms and conditions as soon as that crown hit Danny's head, reflecting the new King's subconscious desires and personality.

This caused many issues with those still around to profit from these contracts. Some people lost their power, some gained more, and some were unbound and kicked to the curb. A few special people found themselves dropping dead after their less-than-ethical abilities disappeared.

Danny was unaware of the chaos he had unintentionally caused for quite a while. It was only brought to his attention when a letter arrived on his desk one day with a copy of someone's valid contract enclosed. The new changes have been highlighted, and a separate note is attached.

It seems that in exchange for blessings of near-immortality for her infant son, a mother had offered Pariah Dark both their souls in order to ensure her child's survival during harsh times. (The souls were to be collected upon death and were to be used as soldiers in the King's Army.) The mother's soul had returned to the Keep decades ago and was recently assigned to tend to the gardens, while her son seemed to have grown into a fine gentleman and was still alive. He used his mother's gifts to serve his country and loved ones well, it seemed.

At first, Danny didn't see what any of this had to do with him. If the mother was already a part of his kingdom, and the son would be eventually, why was a letter about the whole thing showing up before him?

Then he read the revised contract, which bore his magical signature. A signature that overruled the power of Pariah and binding it to him.

'...and as such, in return for the abilities stated above, [Mary Pennyworth] and [Alfred Pennyworth] will fulfill the conditions detailed below, upon pain of Ending.

[Mary Pennyworth], when returned to the Kingdom of Dark Kingdom of Stars, will work as a lieutenant in the Skeleton Army caretaker in the Gardens of Pluto.

STATUS: COMPLETED

[Alfred Pennyworth], when returned to the Kingdom of Dark Kingdom of Stars, will work as a general in the Skeleton Army caretaker of the King and his Court.

STATUS: PENDING'

Danny had to re-read the contract several times to understand what it was saying. He now had a caretaker? What did a caretaker do? Was it like a ghost parent? Could this guy ghost-ground him??

He sighed and pressed the speed dial on his phone for Tucker. Time to find out who the hell this Alfred Pennyworth guy was, and how to break a magic contract when it wasn't even fulfilled yet.

Meanwhile, Alfred had just found the original copy of the contract amongst his mother's belongings after it glowed and drew him in. The paperwork cleared up a lot of mysteries he'd always wondered about himself, even if he disapproved of his mother's methods. Nonetheless, he smoothed out the aged paper with dark green ink, noted the fresh (sloppy, a teenager?) signature, and began preparing to meet this supposed new King and his Court.

It wouldn't hurt to make introductions before he died, after all.

[hextechmaturgy]

a message from the other side: " no use runnin', kiddo "

[eldritch-ace]

Ideal hannigram dynamic

[writeouswriter]

Why are college websites sooo stingy with their details, I just want to know what the course actually entails, like what are the concepts they're actually teaching, and they're like oh we're too cool and aloof and mysterious, we can't let you know that, teehee, now sign up for my email list that just redirects you to the home page, boy.