#can you tell im aroace

[nerves-nebula]

wait so is dinnie like...into kraang??? romantically or sexually???

Donnie’s sexual orientation is a bunch of question marks for a reason lmao. he just like me fr.

Like is the body sharing romantic? Not traditionally, and though it involves an extreme level of intimacy and trust, I wouldn’t say either of them feels particularly romanced by it. But they feel close and affectionate, and their lives are intertwined.

a lot of the stuff they do and the ways they interact have weird sexual undertones, but like, is the attraction to the person or the novelty of the situation. if they are attracted to each other, neither one feels particularly inspired to call what they're doing dating or anything. and they'd both be fine if the other one never wanted to attempt anything sexual or overtly romantic again. the commitment to each other is the most important part of the relationship.

but they both enjoy the body horror & the novelty of kinky alien sex so like sometimes that just happens too.

[mybrainsrottingwithmcd]

“Aroaces can still date/have sex” do you non-aspecs actually understand and respect that or do you just want an excuse to ship canonically aroace characters?

[faggotzoro]

aroace people can date and fuck and yes this post is directed at the cunt posting in the zolu tag that zolu is “wrong” because luffy is aroace. suck my dick from the back

[crystalpallette]

happy valentine's day! here's the suzuran gang here to tell you sometimes you don't need a romantic partner, being with your friends is just fine :)

[kerorokai]

been silently reblogging trobed on my sideblog but i have art now so i must show my face in public

[wrenwreakinghavoc]

Making Valentines day cards for my friends that say "Happy Valentines Day. I don't wanna date you or anything you're just cool" with the aroace flag pallet

Also making ones that say "I wish you were dead" and "eat shit" for my bullies because rn their bullying tactic is to constantly say "hey you should date me you're hot we should fuck" which disturbs me deeply. Those ones will not be colored and will instead have doodles and the suggestion of "you guys have way more in common and I think you should date eachother in a polycule" because I know that they hate it when I make jokes like that. If I'm uncomfortable then I'm dragging them through the mud with me

I will also be making my best friend a special "card"(were online friends) and eventually giving it to them someday when we meet up

Finally, I will make a few doodles of some comfort characters of mine/ships I like to post here. This includes Alastor x nobody

Happy early Valentines Day guys

[xbittersweet-nostalgiax]

Aphobia in the form of amatonormativity hurts so much more when it comes from someone you actually like & respect....

[variousqueerthings]

also interesting because I just watched a video doing a rundown on the history of queerness in doctor who, which naturally had a lot dedicated to aro and/or ace reads of the doctor, which at one point discussed that ofc reading the alien character specifically as such can be alienating (not... that as an aroace person my own reads would be attempting to alienate... myself... although also here insert other discussion about how the aliens often are just the blank slate upon which non-normative behaviours are placed, so it makes sense to see the neurodivergent/disabled/queer/otherwise othered body reflected from them, while also understanding that this means the world views you as inherently alien, while also being like "sure, yeah, I always have done," while also knowing that's dehumanisation, while also...)

but, when it's consciously done, when does this alien being (whatever narrative we're looking at) resonate through the lens of xyz because we're interested in how social structures built Not on today's earth human constructs could end up in wildly interesting different spaces in which what is non-normative to us is presented as normative to them (thus making an argument of stop being such freaks against trans kids, for example), and also when do we read those characters as incongruent with their own societies (I think also here of star trek's the outcast and rejoined, which blend queerness as we recognise it in our societies with characters who break alien normative structures as expressions of an alien queerness, and then there's ofc left hand of darkness in which gender-and-sexuality is at the centre of the political narrative and it's queer on multiple in-universe and out-of-universe levels)

for example, the doctor isn't really an outsider timelord if we look at them through the lens of genderbending regeneration -- that's normalised in that society in canon, and the interesting thing there is usually how that interacts with human social constructs and politics of gender and as a scifi way of deconstructing and dissembling real life consturcts... but they are clearly an outsider in terms of many other things they do, for example seeming neurodivergent if looked at through a human lens and a timelord lens

so where do aromantic and asexual reads fit in there?

well to start with aro!doctor -- I am into the science-fiction ability to create societies with completely different expressions of "connection" that eschew simple human monogamous ideas and histories, but if we were to take that second lens as well of "what if the doctor is aromantic as an identity and not simply as an alien," the doctor continuously (with the exception of romana and the master) creates deep connections with beings that don't have a particularly long lifespan/aren't timelords, especially considering they're near-immortal. and with romana and the master there seems to be a different set of rules happening there than anything one might describe as uncomplicatedly romantic, bitter exes vibe of the doctor/the master acknowledged

the doctor interests me from the lens of "aromantic as non-normative/queer from the pov from both our and timelord society" because they seem to continuously struggle with people not accepting the connections that they're offering them. the doctor's way of having a relationship is often not "enough", isn't easy to describe/vague, and people get jealous or angry or feel betrayed for reasons that isn't the doctor's fault, because there simply seems to be a lack of language to properly describe it in easy digestible terms

that is... a very aromantic experience

and then sometimes the doctor will just have little non-romantic connections that work, like donna -- and, despite not being my favourite seasons, the bits where the doctor simply lives with/drops in on the ponds is very sweet. and the tardis of course. am a "doctor-and-the-tardis are a matching pair and one without the other is wrong, but it's not romantic" person at heart, beyond anything else

(I am interested in how this will play once my rewatch gets me back to 13 and I can watch until the end, because I know yaz confesses that she's in love with the doctor near the end, and the doctor has an interesting reaction from what I understand)

(I guess at this point asexuality is another post)

but yeah. I think I'm not saying anything new with regards to the writing of aliens (and android and otherwise non-human characters), in that obviously one would like to imagine some interest in exploring these forms of non-normativity outside of "well that's an alien" (she's an alien and he's gay) but also there's reasons we're all so into aliens

genderbending genderfluid regenerating aliens is all well and good, but it only becomes really interesting in this case when we see trans/non-binary/genderfluid/genderbending humans (as is coming up soon! and I hope we see many more actors of the trans and gender non-conforming persuasion on this show!) similarly -- while I do think we have had more than a taste (donna my heart and soul honestly) of that non-alloromantic queerplatonic vibes doctor-companion dynamic -- I'd be fascinated in what a consciously aro (and maybe ace also) companion opposite the doctor would be like, how that would restructure their relationship with the doctor, compared to others who had expectations that the doctor couldn't ever hope to fulfill, like rose, martha (although they did let down martha in many ways that had nothing to do with romance), amy, possibly yaz, (here the confession that I never did get much of what was going on with clara but maybe this watch will clarify for me), possibly sarah-jane, possibly river song although she seems to have just kind of gone with it I guess, possibly romana... heck, possibly the master (I guess possibly that american woman from the movie, I forget her name... I cannot remember rn if other companions ever expressed an interest like that in them, but if so, then them too)

also I just want to rub moffat's face in it if I'm being honest. writing snide commentary about what was described as "asexual" doctor pre-nu!who, in a way that very much encompassed aroness (because romance-and-sex has so often been and still is put under one header), and totally misunderstanding why fans were into it or why it's interesting, and then being obsessed ever since with his weird little crusade of making doctor who "sexier" and alloromantic and imo utterly failing, despite it all

[the-gayest-sky-kid]

aroace joy vs aroace loneliness fight

[smallearthboundfindings]

(Headcanon post)

By the way, I'm a day late because tired, but this International Ace Day, we stan our aroace prince ignoring every single girl.

How he's so popular and seems to mind none of them.

Inspirational.

[phiatheox]

okay so I understand that "if wishes were horses" could be a difficult episode for #bashirnation because if you take fake! Jadzia at face value then he becomes insufferable. but as someone who is unable to take off my queer-tinted glasses at any time I would like to put forward the interpretation that it serves as a strong case study for Julian suffering from comphet.

now, it's been a while since I've watched the episode so I cannot provide an extremely detailed analysis, but I remember that in the scene where fake! Jadzia is first introduced Julian's initial reaction was to reject her (yes this can be seen as just responding to context clues and being polite but we're having a gay time here), and it's only after she asks him why he's fighting this that he thinks *you're right, society says I SHOULD want this*, and starts kissing her back.

afterwards, when he learns that she's just a manifestation of his thoughts, he responds to her propositions with embarrassment at best and outright repulsion at worst, as if the idea of a version of Jadzia that reciprocates his feelings fills Julian with discomfort. at one point, the alien even says something along the lines of "why would mine create a woman to reject her?" and that's the thing, because to me this episode confirms that Julian doesn't actually like Jadzia: he's just chosen her as the one to safely project his desire to fit into cishetero patriarchal norms onto because she's never actually going to like him back, which is why when faced with a version of her that does, he completely loses interest.

[pumpkinwastaken]

Happy ace week everyone

wasnt sure what to do for it but i think drawing Charlie being smug about being aroace is prolly very fitting for me.

[twicethetrouble]

Mass effect 1 is giving me trouble, but not in the way you'd expect.

[raeofgayshine]

I wish I could go back and tell younger me that I would in fact find that place one day full of people that I adore deeply and who I know love me in return. Who make me feel wanted and cared for and appreciated in a way I never thought would be possible. And none of it required hiding, or forcing myself to be a person I’m not. And I still have that space even though I’m aroace.

For the first time ever, I see a future where I’m not alone. And I wish I could go back and tell my younger self it would happen. It’s possible to not be constantly lonely.

[pixel-axel]

can tumblr stop showing me gay porn and near naked men please

thank you

[the-yearning-astronaut]

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