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postikortti · 1 year ago

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i’m gonna go no contact w my sister. if that’s currently even possible.

#i want to be her friend and i've tried so hard #but y'know. i can't change a person.#and i also can't put up w being told our parents would've been better off w/out me etc #she's been this way my whole life and jesus Fuck it has done me damage #i just shut off my phone completely cause i don't want her to reach me or make someone else message me #i've had enough #this is genuinely so difficult. she's my sister and i love her but i can't let her keep treating me like this.

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king-candybug-backup · 2 months ago

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I'm noticing an uptick in comments complaining that most of the current WIR fandom content is Turbo instead of the other characters and, like... you guys know you can search other characters by their specific tags, right??? Or exclude Turbo from search results by temporarily blacklisting him in your filtered tags?

Idk, it's just weird to me to be discouraging towards people making fandom content just because it's not the specific content you want to see, like, it's ok to want to see other content, but complaining about how other people aren't catering to your tastes enough instead of just making the content you want to see yourself is kinda bad vibes, y'know?? (And that's not to say that I think those comments are intended out of malice of course, I really don't think they are, I just wanted to point out that it can come off as a little entitled, as well as discouraging towards people who just want to draw Turbo, which is something that should be fine if that's what they want to do. Fandom should be fun for everybody, and there's lots of tools available to curate your experience with it!)

#Wreck It Ralph #It also doesn't help that there was a solo Fix-It Felix drawing literally right there only a few posts down from one of these posts and-#-it went ignored?? Like people are going to draw more of the characters you want if you actually show appreciation towards those posts guys #Also this isn't towards any one specific person it's a complaint I've seen like four times in the past few days and I'm like ???guys???#Like heck the entire reason I started writing a Candybug fic was because I couldn't find any SFW fics with him as a Cy-bug #So I was like “Oh ok then I guess I'll just do it myself” lol #And then there's that person who was like “I want more Ralph+Vanny content” and then drew an AWESOME VANELLOPE LIKE??#This is something I also noticed a while back with people making passive-aggressive posts about artists that don't draw Turbo chubby #Like it's ok to not vibe with that but what do you gain from making people feel bad about how they do things y'know?#Be the change you want to see in the world!! Create art for the other characters you like!!!#The one thing we all have in common is our ability to create! So if you can't find the kind of things you want to see from others then-#-try making it yourself! It's lots of fun and then you can also provide more art for other people who might be looking for what you were!#Idk maybe I'm just overthinking things I have no idea lol #I just feel like risking discouraging or making people feel bad about just creating Turbo stuff isn't the way to go about it

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all-that-jazz-93 · 5 months ago

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Okay confession time I guess, but...I like Frank.

I know we're not supposed to like him. I know he represents everything reprehensible about the war and America and blind fervid patriotism. I know at worst we're supposed to hate him, and at best we're supposed to feel sorry for him (and I do), but like...I actually like him?

I can't help it. He's just so deeply vulnerable and broken and lonely and I just...

I want to help him. I want to fix him. I want to take him by the hand and gently show him that he doesn't have to be this way, that his parents are never going to love him no matter how much he tries to parrot the toxic ideals they drilled into him, and he would be so much better off just leaving all of that behind and following his own path.

Frank Burns had so much potential, and I'm sad we never got to see it realized.

#frank burns #mash #m*a*s*h #i can fix him #no really i can #i grew up in a very conservative small town #and although i can't say i ever knew any ONE person as awful as frank #the ideology he espoused was very prevalent in the deep south #and i personally understand isolation and loneliness and parroting your parents views because it's all you have to cling to #i just...i wish frank had been given the chance to grow from that #and change and learn and become a better person #it IS possible...i know it's possible because i've seen it firsthand #and to a degree i've lived it #though as i've said i was never that bad #but i still GET IT y'know?

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marshmellowtea · 6 days ago

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celia hates basically all of chris's friends by virtue of them Being Chris's Friends (it personally offends her that there are people who love him better than she ever could in his life), but she has a special distaste for sandra, who she not only dislikes for being a dirty whore promiscuous, but she's also openly accused her of trying to steal chris from her, an accusation that held no weight when it was first leveled at her cuz sandra hadn't thought she cared about chris like that but it slowly became a self fulfilling prophecy as she spent more time with him and his parents and decided "yeah, actually, i am going to steal your son from you and your creep husband you piece of shit, fuck you celia fuck you fuck youfuck you"

#sandra starts noticing the way chris wilts with embarrassment and shame when celia insults either of them #or the way he flinches when raymond gets too close to him #and promptly chooses to take her accusation as a challenge because haha wow this is not a safe household for him is it celia!#for the record i think celia also detests that raymond clearly likes sandra but she's more concerned about her taking chris away from her #it's normal for husbands to get a wandering eye after all. it doesn't necessarily mean anything. not if she ignores it hard enough.#chris however...........that's her loyal little lapdog whom she hates but can't stand to not be around her #and sons *are* meant to leave eventually as much as celia dislikes the idea of him being free to make his own choices and embarrass her #she just needs to make sure that he goes to someone who'll help her keep that tight leash she has on him. someone who'll let her intervene #in his life if he veers off the path she wants him on. a path that constantly changes with her whims because it's more about being able to #control him than having any coherent end result #and she knows for a fact that sandra will help chris loosen that leash if she gets too close so she's immediately on the defensive the #second she meets her. she knows she'll be an Issue #the thing is though is it's partly her own fault because sandra might not have have gotten so invested if celia hadn't egged her on lol #i like her being a spite motivated person under the right circumstances. hehe #the goes wrong show #chris bean #sandra wilkinson #celia bean #chrissandra #chris&celia #abuse tw #misogyny tw #? idk if that's the best tag to use here just lmk i guess #marshy speaks #gotta say btw writing celia's fucked up patriarchy ridden inner monologue is so fun she has so many issues and problems #horrible woman. i hate her <3 #i'm such a yapper i did not mean for these tags to get so long ghldkjsafkadsf #could've been their own post. but also. no they couldn't have. y'know #anyway this post has been in my drafts for too long. be released my child

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god-of-knk · 4 months ago

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I'm going to draw Taffy ship art tomorrow solely out of spite.

And perhaps post it in the server.

If I'm feeling extra petty.

#you cannot demean the one being I actually feel comfortable like. being this way with. and just think I'm going to be okay with that.#like him being fictional doesn't take away how much I care about him. you even acknowledged that before. why does it change now?#I actually feel comfortable caring about him BECAUSE I know he can't and WOULDN'T do anything to hurt me #not just can't. I know he WOULDN'T. he wouldn't WANT to hurt me. fuck you for so clearly wanting to.#just because I don't care about you.#I'm going to care about that man so hard it'll make him real and then it'll fucking kill him #just to spite you #you know what?#Nicky isn't the only person I'll say I love anymore #I'll say I love Taffy too fuck you #I love Taffy more than I ever loved you and you can suck it #I'll probably change my mind on that by tomorrow but for now I fucking LOVE Taffy #and y'know what I'm going to draw the most sickeningly sweet ship art of us tomorrow even if it kills me

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tashas-cauldron-of-magic-soup · 7 days ago

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Y'all why does thinking about changing your name sound so fun in theory and then you sit and think real hard about it and makes you wanna throw up

#for reference I don't like the name Christina and never really have #it's family name though so if I change it my family will be inevitably pissed #not to mention the person I share it will was a really neat person and also a very talented teacher #so I hear all the time how I was named after the right person and she'd be so proud of me #because I'm an academic too #but it's so aggressively feminine and I'm decidedly nonbinary transmasc #I can't shorten to Chris because that's my sister's bio-dad and he's a dick #I'm just stuck y'know???#probably delete later #tasha talks

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kingdom-falls · 14 days ago

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Officially came out to my father *dabs*

He said it 'goes against his religion' and I 'can't expect everyone (him and his side of my family) to change just for one person'

So I told him I'll be grabbing the rest of my stuff and ending our relationship *dabs again*

#I knew this is what was going to happen #Sucks that this is how it's going down but y'know it's a huge weight off my shoulders #He's getting married next year and I told him I would not be attending as his daughter since I'm not a woman #And he took that (and my identity) personally #He can't be reasoned with and I don't expect him to change #So I'm not going to wait around and beg for scraps #Sucky part is going back to grab the rest of my belongings but I'll have my mom come with me so it's less awkward #ramblings about nothing/everything

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xiindomitable · 28 days ago

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One of Katsuki's love languages happens to be using someone as his own personal human Barbie, send tweet-

#hc; bakugou #//His parents being in fashion/design gives SO much opportunity #//I love the idea of him in second year starting to like #//Buy clothes he thinks his friends would look good in and demand they model for him #//Kirishima and Kaminari are prolly his first targets lmao #//One who will happily go along with his shit (& knows Kat's parents so he prolly knows) and the other who can't complain jhffgdg #//Gets em all dapper and nice #//Y'know that one meme where it's the kid leaving & the parent is like 'Not like that you don't'/Better? Yass queen slayy #//That's him and his friends lmao #//Bro WILL pick apart your outfit and make you change #//Or if you stand your ground & get him to see you're not changing; he will work to salvage the fit with what he's got to work with #//Or at the very least give them lil tips by which they could use to improve upon their look #//He just rlly wants them to look their best; but the way he goes about it may not go over too well sometimes lol (nothing new tho)#//When dating; he is like girlfriends who insist they and their partner where matching outfits jhbkdrgrd #//His hidden toxic trait jkdbdkg #//He really DOES like having matching outfits #//Low key thinks it's cute #//And WILL always work to find a balance that goes between his personal style and his partner's #//Be it making the fits a blend of them; or choosing certain days where they match one aesthetic more than the other

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tsuncda · 8 months ago

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so am i right or am i right in my assertion that bridgerton doesn't actually do character work, it just rebrands it's main characters before their season begins and tries to recontextualize them as poor little meow meows.

#olive rambles #watched the first half of season 3 #was thinking to myself: huh. pen isn't that bad.#and then decided to rewatch some season 2 scenes to recontextualize who the characters are. y'know. so i can be an intelligent viewer #and all that jazz.#and damn you bridgerton i fell for your trap for a second there.#SHE'S NOT !!!!!!! THE SAME !!!!!!!! CHARACTER !!!!!!!!!#this isn't just about framing a narrative differently season 2 pen and season 3 pen are different girlies entirely #WHERE IS THE WRATH #i *want* a vengeful penelope featherington damnit #even if i don't like her as a person i could respect her as a character #and yet #they just make her a soft sadgirl #which also feels very cheap because women can be angry and messy and vengeful and still find love #honestly get polin out of here and get penelope angry again #i want to see BLOOD or season 2 is cheapened in retrospect #look me in the eye and tell me i'm wrong #you can't #i am the god of this chilis and i have spoken #i think over the summer i'm going to watch all of bridgerton over again so i can make a corkboard of theories #and be intelligent in my hate #PENELOPE WAS ANGRY AND LOUD ABOUT IT IN SEASON 2 AND SOMEHOW SHE IS NOW JUST SAD AND RUMINATING IN SEASON 3 #BITCH WHEN AND WHERE DID THIS CHANGE TAKE PLACE AND WHY #AND ALSO FOR WHAT ANGRY ACTIONABLE CHARACTERS ARE DYNAMIC AND HARD TO PREDICT AND MAKE FOR GOOD CINEMA #SAD CHARACTERS THAT SIT AND THINK ABOUT THINGS ARE OKAY TOO BUT THEY ARE NOT !!!!! THE SAME !!!!! AS THE FORMER ARCHETYPE #AND THEY SHOULDN'T BE!!!!!!!!

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skrunksthatwunk · 2 months ago

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really fun letting all of my favorite shows take turns being the "i can't think about it i can't think about it i can't think about it!!" bingewatch during finals season/associated crunch times. they're being inducted into a society

#so i watched s1 of the funny ballet show. AGAIN like i think this has literally happened in this context before #'oh man i have so much to do for today and i can't skip woahh' (watches 4.3 hours of ducky content)#not the only unproductive thing i did this weekend. there were several #anyway gonna keep this brief for obvious reasons but gahhh i love the funny ballet show #idk how i keep forgetting how cute ahiru is. like her slapstick in the first few eps is way more prominent #and i just like it!!!! shes a silly goose!!!!!!!(duck) and i like her very much she's great #rue's stepping into kraehe's shoes (literally) For Real On Purpose stemming from wanting things to stay the same forever. aughh #like mytho's her one escape from it all he's the one thing/person she feels safe with #and to stick to something stagnant and loveless just so she can have someone to project those feelings onto who won't leave is. gahhhh #i also always forget how much i love rue like. YOU'RE GONNA BE OKAY #i wish mytho changed more with each shard but it's always fun to see how the prev episode's shard affects the next when it happens #which is decently often #early fakir's comedically evil toxic bf thing is still shocking to me. they turn him around so fast and it starts when mytho regains fear #imo. once mytho can Undeniably Suffer the negative effects of fakir's treatment he can't quite bring himself to do it #fakir resorting to these awful authoritarian abusive ways of keeping mytho under his control bc he's desperate and scared and overwhelmed #is like. augh hes so interesting to me. night and day swap though it's crazy how much work those like 4 episodes before akt 12 do for him #anyway. i love it it's great it's always great. comfort show indeed + i gotta get back to work now + bye #no but fakir doubles and quadruples down on never budging on his treatment of mytho bc again hes scared but also i think it's a little like #he suppresses all his feelings so he doesn't lose control over mytho and justifies it with mytho's lack of feeling #when he tells mytho to forget about it and that emotions are useless and stupid he's talking to himself too y'know #i think there's a squishy sentimental part of him he tried very hard to crush out of himself to better protect mytho (from himself + tutu #+ the raven etc) and once it's clear (though not immediately) that mytho has feeling and a will to regain his heart he starts helping him #he embodies warped devotion and loyalty as much as rue and similarly to tutu. fakir and rue devalue their own and mytho's feelings #while ahiru only devalues her own. her brand of self sacrifice is something to be challenged and overcome in the same way #but shes able to start all this because she cares about what mytho's feelings Would/Could be > what they currently are (nothing)#ANYWAY. good show. i forgot about the greenscreened in/obvious live action effect fire/fog in a couple episodes that was funny

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shrews-things · 8 months ago

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Re. last reblog, this whole issue pisses me off so much and like, if people were more normal about intersex bodies, I think *everyone* would be less ashamed of their bodies

#of course intersex people take the brunt of this damage #just #as a trans person I can't begin to tell you how scared I was of starting hrt bc of the genital changes it brings #bc then people would find me disgusting and nobody would want me #and I've seen several young transmascs deciding against hrt because they heard people thing bottom growth is ugly #and really all that does also burn down to people just really being unable to be normal about intersex bodies #y'know kinda like how transphobia hurts cis people too because no gender or sex is a monolith and we're all different really #anyway making this a separate post bc I didn't want to derail the og one hdksfhkshdj #but had to get it off my chest because it's still so easy to feel ashamed #because of what people think of not clearly fitting into the physical characteristics of one sex

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fstbmp-a · 2 years ago

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Cheers I'll drink to that.

#My Kingdom ;; OOC #Can You Feel the Sunset ;; Dash Comm #that's a whole-ass mood #i haven't liked a single piece of writing i've done in. eons. off the top of my head #i'll at best be like “yeah this is good” and then never look at it again because i know my opinion will change the second time #but i do adore writing even if. i hate my writing. which yeah no that Is a really weird vibe to have but. c'est la vie #i personally need to get better at just. brute forcing when i'm staring at a blank reply because ough Starting is always where i can't #i'm getting a Bit better at it lately but i still fumble...#i love that to most of my followers this is a one-sided conversation but y'know?#idgaf ny'all can imagine i'm talking to whomever and replying to whatever-

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future-circuit · 2 years ago

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got a new phone which means i had the opportunity to reevaluate my background and pick a new one. but i have held strong. i will never change.

#personal #i've had it since 2018 i'd feel bad if i changed it #it's good memories y'know? makes me feel like my writing's worth it.#me when i'm feeling bad about my writing: it can't be that bad if tiny read it... and thought 'oh this conjures an image in my mind'...#and then i feel better :)

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saucerfulofsins · 21 days ago

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#love having a sibling who y'know #inspires feelings of great envy and personal failure in me #aka who has the pretty gf and well paying fulltime job and stable mental health and - as of today - owns a home #:)#i'm done #i'm fucking done with life #i just don't think i can keep doing this and i don't really WANT to keep doing this #i'm so tired of fighting and just being leveled with the ground whenever i think i've found some sort of stable footing #and then seeing the people around me march ahead while i'm stuck and drowning in fucking shit #i don't have the energy anymore #i don't have the hope #i just want it to end tbh #that's what i keep circling back to again and again #i'm over it #it's not gonna change for me it's not gonna get better and i can't fight anymore #personal tw #mental health tw #suicidal ideation tw

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trans-leek-cookie · 2 months ago

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the substance and I saw the TV glow take place in the same universe. This is nothing

#Okay legit I think it might be an interesting way to look at the parallels between a cis woman feeling dysphoric/dysmorphic due to aging #And seemingly lacking any real personal relationships (maybe at least partially because she's just not a great person in general)#And the fear of time and the attempt at escapism #VERSUS a trans girl/woman feeling dysphoric and seeing herself in fiction but being unable to imagine herself as that level of like #Beauty and competence and having a singular relationship defined by that fiction that uh. Explodes a little and in general trying to deny #The way time passes because it feels suffocating and it feels like if she acknowledges how much time has passed then it means she missed he #Chance (even though there's still time she can't keep living the way she is) and how much of her is desperately trying not to change #While Elizabeth is desperately trying to change- but also what she wants is to UNDO changes like the passing of time. But those are themati #I just want there to be a weird moon demon and ALSO people manufacturing Impact Text Minimalist Cloning Drugs for unclear motives y'know

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cursed-spirit-manipulation · 3 months ago

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thinking Abt Suguru autism and struggling bc I have forgotten 1. Everything Suguru has ever done 2. Every symptom of autism ever and then I remembered Suguru fucking. Knows every curse he's swallowed. And it's like y'know what maybe I don't have to make an airtight case for this

#JJK #look at this now.#Genuinely I hc that while he hates curses he's also fascinated by them bc I feel like it'd be hard not to be when u eat em #Anyways the main thing that makes me go "🫵 autistic'' is his like. Moral compass stuff #Bc it's very relatable in black/white thinking and potentially issues with empathy (low and high). Which isn't to say the reason he's a #Horrible person w horrible worldviews is bc he's autistic but rather that bc he's in an environment that 1. Is very socially isolating #2. Supports very black/white worldviews and 3. Is obsessed with strength. I'm just saying he probably latched onto those ideas #Very strongly (esp bc this environment he feels Understood- grew up the only sorcerer in his family and prob like. Whole environment)#And in a lot of ways it feels like his morality is formed by ''going through the motions'' like how he keeps saying ''the strong should #Protect the weak'' and also being shitty to Utahime for being ''weak'' and also like. Y'know becomes a weird abusive cult leader #Who views the weak as subhuman. Like it feels like he was taught that and didn't have the context to fully critically analyze #Those ideas and form his own sense of morality and instead he just kept repeating it hoping it would stick or smthn #Also let me be honest. He gives off the vibes of an autistic person Overcompensating for flat affect sometimes. Idk how to describe it #Anyway knowing all ur 4k+ cursed spirits is. Nuts. Is he okay (no)#Also something Abt how. Even though he hates it. He still does his routine of exorcise/absorb even after his whole shit #Something something strong sense of morality + inability to change routine. Idk. And when I say the morality thing I don't mean #That he has a good moral code just that he has a very Intense moral code #Geto has ''girl'' autism #As in he learned to mask and internalize his symptoms #And Gojo has ''boy'' autism #As in he never really had to learn to mask (and likely wouldn't be able to)#Note girl and boy r in quotes bc. Gendered autism is bullshit but I'm specifically thinking Abt Geto being very internal #In a way Gojo isn't. And potentially some like... Resentment/judgement/jealousy bc of it #(like ''why can't you mask better you look like a freak'' internalized Ableism and ''i wish i could b weird the way ur #Allowed to be (bc of powerful family and position in jujutsu)'' beggining recognition of external Ableism #Anyway I could yap Abt Geto and Gojo and how I think they're both mentally and physically disabled #And how while Gojo's privileges (rich + powerful) let him mitigate some effects of Ableism (at the same time his position as a famous #Sorcerer connected to a family with a Reputation definitely is restrictive in its own ways) Geto probably internalized a lot of general #Societal Ableism prior to getting involved in jujutsu and has Not unlearned that shit and ends up externalizing Ableism (lateral violence #Is a term I've been thinking of w him). Anyway Shoko is also autistic and physically disabled and I hc that she isolates herself because of

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