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HEY GUYS!!

GUYS!!!

FRANCE HAS REACHED THE REQUIRED NUMBER OF SIGNATURES ON THE CITIZEN'S INITIATIVE AGAINST CONVERSION THERAPY IN THE EU!!

ONE COUNTRY DOWN, SIX TO GO!!

We also need still quite a few signatures in order to reach the one million required.

As to date, the six other countries with the most signatures are:

Spain - 38.72%

Finland - 30.31%

Ireland - 24.86%

Netherlands - 24.15%

Germany - 23.54%

Belgium - 23.09%

So yeah, still a long way to go, but we ARE slowly getting closer. Don't stop now! Don't let this stay within the community, either, if you have any friends or family who are open to queer rights, get them to sign, too!

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SOBBING WHAY IS THIS

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what if their filming buddie's first kiss right now?

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Straight ppl be saying "Why cant they just be friends?" To the most homoerotic, queer coded, gay friendship and expect people to listen to them

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Me: well I don't feel miserable all the time so im not dressed, i just feel empty and incapable of enjoyment and hopeless about the future

My therapist: well that is called anhedonia and is one of the major markers of clinical depression

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at some point i do think fandom needs to have a discussion about stereotypes and anger. i don’t think we realize how much we are villainizing the entire emotion when we talk about it.

while yes, there are hurtful and offensive stereotypes about anger and certain groups/identities, i’d argue the instinctive jump to defend with “but X character isn’t an angry person!” actually does more harm than good.

anger is a normal human emotion. it’s not a moral flaw. so what if the character is an angry person?! because there’s a vast array of places anger can come from. it’s not just entitlement (though it can be) and it’s not only systemic injustice (which it often is). all anger is not created equal and to act like all anger is either abusive or righteous isn’t doing anyone any good.

i’m also reminded of Ta-Nehisi Coates’ point from the introduction to We Were Eight Years in Power, where he says that “Good Negro Government—personal and political—often augments the very white supremacy it seeks to combat.”

i do think this idea is applicable to anyone whose anger is seen as a problem — that the idea of fitting into a “good, non-stereotypical” and thus implicitly non-angry (unless you have a good reason for it!) existence upholds the power structures that we are trying to combat in denouncing these stereotypes.

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i should wake up and automatically be restored to full health, that's how sleeping should work, what is this horseshit

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yeah to all of this, actually.

it’s also that it’s consistently anger being brought up, rarely another emotion – and that as a concept it’s both ill defined and a stereotype unto itself.

what i mean by that is that i never really know what someone means by “anger” in these discussions, yet it is the word i always see thrown around with the assumption everyone agrees with whatever feeling and/or outward and/or inward expression they intend to convey.

what i glean from discussions here as well as real life experience is that “anger” is this pervasive awful thing; if someone is angry once, they must be angry always; they must be unpredictable; they become scary and unsafe.

“anger” is a nebulous monster society demands us to lock up; we may let it devour ourselves but unlock its box and act outward, all hell breaks loose. the focus shifts here; anger becomes displaced; it stops being about the person being angry, and starts to exists entirely outside of them.

emma mentions society’s refusal to exame anger in her tags and i think that’s definitely happening here. the moment anger is mentioned, it is placed inside a box of its own – the box that ought to be inescapable – and becomes something that cannot be discussed, whether it is our own’s or someone else’s. society demands anger remains private and hidden and society demands anger to be vilified, to remain unacceptable.

this pretty consistently plays out in people being negatively categorized if they express anger “improperly” (which, mind you, is itself generally a consequence of bottling up these feelings/not knowing how to express them/neurodivergence/mental illness). hell, most therapists struggle with this – expressing anger too explosively means you stop being a patient and start being a nuisance.

so i don’t blame people whose gut response to a character being typified as angry is to reject that notion. i don’t blame people discussing racial biases/stereotypes either since they are very real – although i suspect this is a consequence of anger being considered base, uneducated, beastly and evil.

at the same time, like emma, i wish there was space to explore what it means for a character or person to be angry, without “anger” immediately being boxed up and presented alongside its preconceived notions and society’s negative stigmas, without taking the time for definition – and why we are so uncomfortable with ideas of angers to begin with.

at some point i do think fandom needs to have a discussion about stereotypes and anger. i don’t think we realize how much we are villainizing the entire emotion when we talk about it.

while yes, there are hurtful and offensive stereotypes about anger and certain groups/identities, i’d argue the instinctive jump to defend with “but X character isn’t an angry person!” actually does more harm than good.

anger is a normal human emotion. it’s not a moral flaw. so what if the character is an angry person?! because there’s a vast array of places anger can come from. it’s not just entitlement (though it can be) and it’s not only systemic injustice (which it often is). all anger is not created equal and to act like all anger is either abusive or righteous isn’t doing anyone any good.

i’m also reminded of Ta-Nehisi Coates’ point from the introduction to We Were Eight Years in Power, where he says that “Good Negro Government—personal and political—often augments the very white supremacy it seeks to combat.”

i do think this idea is applicable to anyone whose anger is seen as a problem — that the idea of fitting into a “good, non-stereotypical” and thus implicitly non-angry (unless you have a good reason for it!) existence upholds the power structures that we are trying to combat in denouncing these stereotypes.

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yeah so i'm reading tumblr discourse into this LMAO

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I thought doctor odyssey polyamory was a tumblr joke but they literally have a three-way oh my fucking god

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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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hmmm. ok poll time just because i'm always curious what people's relationships to this topic are:

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Yep

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someday i will write an essay on the way fandom likes to recreate the exact same flavor of aggressively heteronormative relationship dynamics in every popular slash ship ever invented regardless of how the characters behave or interact with each other in canon.

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mercy seems like a long shot here, so my prayer for inauguration day 2025: may they be incompetent. may they just be really bad at implementation. may their egos choke their effectiveness. may they drown themselves week by week with infighting and selfish posturing. may they be easily distracted. may the very governors and senators and agencies and religious leaders that the new administration expects to be friendly force endless stalemates to preserve their own power. may every delay turn into a three ring blame circus so chaotic that no one remembers what they were doing. may the good and necessary parts of government be too boring to draw attention and keep running quietly in the background. may the next four years be full of sound and fury and signify nothing.

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Can’t reblog the post going round containing these two screenshots:

So I’ll put my addition here:

This also applies to women who complain about feminism requiring them to work, rather than being ‘ladies of leisure’. Women equivalent to them in the past always worked - who do they think were the maids, housekeepers, cooks, nannies, wet nurses, governesses, washerwomen, spinners, weavers, seamstresses, nurses, midwives, etc - and today’s equivalent of the past’s ladies of leisure can afford to be ladies of leisure now. Feminism fought for women’s work to be acknowledged, valued, and fairly paid, and that fight is still ongoing.