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when an industry causes actual tangible harm it's expliotive. when there's no way to differentiate between whether it's harmful or not, it should be banned.
question, why do you think 18 should be the legal age? why not 17? 19? 20? 25? there's no difference between an 18 and 17 year old, mentally and physically. your morality is that 17 is bad, but 18 is fine, what's the difference?
male pornstars talking about their experiences in the industry and people feeling immediately sorry for them, preaching they won’t watch his work anymore but female pornstars having to live with the fact that they got raped everyday by these crybaby ass male pornstars and people not caring about these women, continuing to violate them and spread their videos around and masturbating to them after their deaths makes me wanna skin every single male alive… they deserve nothing
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I'm going to write a yandere x oc fanfic. So it's a bit of a slowburn where they start off as friends. What i'm focusing on rn is the fact that while they're friends, my oc never 'felt' like she cared for him, or at least formed an emotional connection. She lacks empathy and feels guilty for it, but she does her best to fulfill her role as a proper friend out of obligation. She only starts truly caring for him 2 years into the relationship after he communicated that he did care for her.
Sooo I think that she has an avoidant attachment style? So that's basically what I'm asking about, please. Or any idea what other labels you think might apply to her? (They're gonna be co-defendant asf)
Writing Notes: Avoidant Attachment Style
Some signs of an avoidant attachment style can include:
Avoidance of emotional/physical intimacy
Strong sense of independence
Uncomfortable when expressing feelings
Dismissive of others
Sending mixed signals
Hard time trusting
Commitment issues
Often spends more time alone than with others
An unrealistically positive picture of their attachment figures
A failure to build long-term relationships due to the inability to engage physically and emotionally on a deeper level
In a romantic relationship, avoidant individuals may:
Appear distant or emotionally detached
Often avoid deep emotional connections and intimacy
Emphasize boundaries
Use distancing strategies (emotional or physical)
Prioritize independence and self-reliance above emotional intimacy
Need to get away or "explodes" during a disagreement
Not make his/her intentions clear
Devalue their partner
Struggle to express their feelings or offer support to their significant other during times of distress
Suppress emotions and maintain distance in their relationship to avoid vulnerability and potential harm
This can lead to feelings of neglect or emotional abandonment on either side of the relationship.
While they might do well in maintaining boundaries and independence, their hesitance to engage emotionally can undermine the development of deeper relationships.
If your character finds themselves struggling to express their feelings or show physical affection, they may identify with an avoidant attachment style.
On Deciphering Attachment Style:
Determine whether s/he seeks intimacy and closeness.
Assess how preoccupied s/he is with the relationship and how sensitive s/he is to rejection.
Don’t rely on one “symptom,” look for various signs.
Assess his/her reaction to effective communication.
Listen and look for what he or she is not saying or doing.
Common Avoidant Thoughts, Emotions, and Reactions
THOUGHTS
All-or-nothing thinking: I knew s/he wasn’t right for me, this proves it!
Overgeneralizing: I knew I wasn’t made to be in a close relationship.
Malicious intent: S/he’s really out to annoy me, it’s so obvious…
Fantasizing about having sex with other people.
"S/he’s taking over my life, I can’t take it!"
"Now I have to do everything his/her way; the price is too high."
"I need to get out of here, I feel suffocated."
"If s/he was “the one” this kind of thing wouldn’t happen."
"When I was with (phantom X) this wouldn’t have happened."
"S/he just wants to tie me down, this isn’t true love."
"I’ll be better off on my own."
"Ugh, s/he’s so needy! It’s pathetic."
EMOTIONS
Withdrawn ⚜ Frustrated ⚜ Angry ⚜ Pressured ⚜ Distrustful
Unappreciated ⚜ Misunderstood ⚜ Resentful ⚜ Hostile
Aloof ⚜ Empty ⚜ Deceived ⚜ Tense ⚜ Hate-filled ⚜ Restless
Self-righteous ⚜ Contemptuous ⚜ Despairing ⚜ Scornful
ACTIONS
Act out ⚜ Get up and leave ⚜ Belittle their partner
Act hostile, look disdainful ⚜ Make critical remarks
Withdraw mentally or physically ⚜ Minimize physical contact
Keep emotional sharing to a minimum
Stop listening to partner. Ignoring him/her.
POSSIBLE CAUSES
Primary caregivers were emotionally distant or dismissive of the person's needs in childhood. An avoidant individual often then learns to cope by suppressing their emotions and developing self-sufficiency.
Initially it was assumed that adult attachment styles were primarily a product of our upbringing. Thus, it was hypothesized that our current attachment style is determined by the way in which we were cared for as a baby (e.g., if parents/caregivers were distant, rigid, and unresponsive, the child should develop an avoidant attachment style).
Today, however, we know that attachment styles in adulthood are influenced by a variety of factors, one of which is the way our parents cared for us, but other factors also come into play, including our genes and life experiences.
Here are a few tips you can incorporate in your character's storyline to potentially change this style of attachment:
They start with communication (open communication is the foundation of a strong relationship)
Establish boundaries with their partner
Write down their own emotions and feelings throughout the day
Approach their relationship as a team and work together
Sources: 1 2 3 4 ⚜ More: On Attachment ⚜ Writing References
From what you described, avoidant attachment sounds about right. But as the writer, you know more about the character, like their backstory. Do you think they fit this attachment style? A good reminder when we use these psychological models: Attachment theorists assume that the relationship between early experiences and subsequent outcomes is probabilistic, NOT deterministic. Use these notes as one reference/guide as you develop your characters. Hope this helps with your writing!
#avoidant attachment#writing reference#attachment#psychology#writeblr#writing notes#studyblr#literature#writers on tumblr#dark academia#spilled ink#writing prompt#light academia#fiction#writing resources
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shitty triggering food/body/ed talk
#i'm trying to eat more#because let me tell you a calorie deficit might make you lose weight#(i'll believe it when I see it)#but it mostly just makes you feel like you have the flu#minus the sinuses and fevers and such#so i've been living on the couch lately#i am trying to get in shape but i collapse to the floor trying to do a set of push ups and just kind of stay there for a while#look I am not 14 anymore I do not want to just hand in my BED for another ED#I only want the extra chest meat and hip meat that makes me look like a girl OFF#QUICKLY#but not in a way that causes physical or mental harm#and yet#I gave myself a goal today to eat at least this much#and I don't know if it's going to work out#I do not want a medical illness!
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RUFIOH PROPAGANDA: Literally everything he has ever done to and about Damara - cheating on her and lying to her for years, seemingly never standing up for her when Meenah was terrorizing her, still chasing her image as a sex object to this day (particularly Aradiabot, who he says acts “just like the real thing”), and calling her his “psycho ex” behind her back constantly while acting nice to her face.
KANKRI PROPAGANDA: Straight up doesn’t think Misogyny is real and denies its existence outright, calling it a meaningless pseudoscience not worth any concern, discussion, or consideration. Slutshames Porrim directly to her face.
#homestuck#homestuck polls#alpha trolls#rufioh nitram#kankri vantas#damara megido#porrim maryam#nekro.txt#my vote is personally on Rufioh since he is more of a danger than Kankri is#both physically and in how his misogyny is expressed#Kankri doesn’t seem like he could survive a physical altercation and his misogyny. while more direct. is also just stupid as fuck#and doesn’t really do much other than annoy Porrim and cause crazy fandom discourse bc the fandom is also full of misogynists#who take him completely at his word for no reason#despite his whole deal being that you shouldn’t listen to him#Rufioh meanwhile is ABSOLUTELY capable of beating my ass in a fight AND he’s exercising his misogyny in very tangible ways#that can will and HAVE caused actual legitimate harm to people in universe#he played a very active role in damaras mental downfall and not only does he still mock and blame her for it#but he has the audacity to be nice to her face shit talk her behind her back and sexually objectify her image#aradiabot is a child and he still targeted her for ‘acting just like the real thing’#way more dangerous than some dumb fucking idiot saying obviously stupid shit imo#like while Kankri’s misogyny is more overt bc he’s practically saying the words ‘I’m a misogynist’ with his whole chest#Rufioh’s misogyny is more *tangible*#you know
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if hyv won't validate xiao's fear of causing harm with his karmic debt, i will. his karmic debt would absolutely harm caiying if she wasn't a vision holder.
#also played around a bit with the idea of how like. bc caiying is definitely weaker than other vision holders. being close#gives her some aches. like a headache or ache in her bones. some minor changes in her heartbeat.#that girl is being kept alive like fucking puppet on some strings that's what her vision and will to live / revenge is doing to her#i have no idea what's going to happen to visions at the end of this game but like.#if they go and there's not a back up plan for her#she will 100% die i'm sorry but i will not give the happy ending#idk idk i'm gonna go on a personal thing in the tags rn#as someone who does have mental health issues i wish the power of friendship could like#heal me fully.#it doesn't but it definitely helps to have friends.#but i think it's important to remember that the karmic debt that xiao has is a 'real' thing in the teyvat world#there hasn't been a method introduced to get rid of it in canon#while i think the 'power of friendship' can help xiao with his karmic debt in some ways#the truth of the matter is that it's always going to be there and affecting him and others#his fear of causing harm is real and backed by previous examples (ie. lore and the other yaksha)#instead of being like 'xiao make some friends' idk why they just don't propose#looking through some fucking lore to find out if there is a way to actually help with the karmic debt#the power of friendship is not going to save xiao (unless hyv decides it does which like .... k )#the fact of the matter is that physical pains he's experiencing aside#i don't know how much longer xiao even has being. like. alive. bc of his karmic debt#he's like. 2 fully traumatizing events away from shit going down.#he's still an individual. there's limits to everyone.
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When you subscribe to a spooky and macabre channel and you go onto the channel page, and the first thing you’re greeted with is a closeup picture of the eyes of someone who is your ONLY fight or flight trigger :P
#Can’t look at him for longer than five seconds without his stupid face being burned into my mind for the rest of the day#and the only way to get rid of it is by “flushing” my brain with a very specific set of music#To be fair… the trauma I suffered in this specific instance was 100% self-inflicted… well… maybe 98% considering the circumstances#Because I was desperate to do something to keep everyone safe and feeling a lot of pressure to not be a bystander#So I came up with a batshit crazy plan — which surprisingly worked… at what cost though? lol#I just barely got over the issues caused by my little scheme after four years of feeling like an irredeemable monster#Like just now… three months ago#And I think because I’ve gotten over it; I cringe more now than I did back then because I’m not so desensitized to it anymore#from ALWAYS having to do that to myself to protect people (now I have better methods that involve no mental harm)#(a little physical strain and tiredness if I decide to go all out; but it’s a much more compatible fit overall)
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Sameeeeeeeee! I rewatched first class not too long ago, I was like hold up why is magneto the villain he right. Back then I was too young to see his vision lol
i've always seen his vision! this movie just made it perfectly clear to the point where i was like...is their intention to make me side with professor x and all his hypocritical kumbaya bullshit? cause they're not doing a good job 🤣 magneto is completely justified, let him cook
#but maybe i'm just a revolutionary at heart haha#cause whatchu mean you think the government is 'working with' you and not flat out USING you??#the government NEVER has your best intentions at heart. that's survival 101 lol#you can tell charles has been privileged and white his whole life smh#just rich and oblivious#and he may be a mutant but his abilities manifested in such a way that he's able to pass as human. not everybody else was so 'lucky'#and his insistence on trying to assimilate and 'work with' the humans without seeing the mental and physical harm he's proposing#on vulnerable people#shows he's very much a privileged white man who's never been through anything and wants to keep the status quo#even when he ended up in that wheelchair and started building a school that recruited so many mutants who have truly suffered#you'd think his world view would change and he'd start to understand. but nope. still pius and a know it all on his high horse SMH#(i'm saying this thinking of the old movies and the cartoon. lemme finish this reboot so i'll stop prematurely shitting on this man 🤣)#asks#not bts
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[Image: Tumblr tags reading: #just the words 'content warning' should let you think long and hard about everything that's wrong about how people approach media nowadays #like it's just feed that's gotta be as sanitized as possible #not inconvenience you in the slightest #my brother in christ art is like an earthquake it must make the ground you stand on shake so violently #and make everything you collected in your safe little room of safety fall down and apart #do you understand me #do you want to be shackled forever in a dark cave or do you want to see a sun so bright your eyes burn and you're forever changed. End description.]
soooo glad we're doing "content warnings bad" in a blue hair and pronouns way now /sarcastic. content warnings aren't "sanitizing" things, they literally exist so the content can exist without triggering people or dropping something on them unprepared. "your safe little room" do you not see how this is the exact same rhetoric conservatives use mocking "safe spaces" and how the dumb liberals don't know anything about the Real World. some people like being warned before they hear about heavy topics. some people want to avoid some topics altogether. that is fine. and it is morally neutral to not want to consume triggering content. hope this helps.
#man these types of people are so annoying. 'art is supposed to cause a mental breakdown' it is not actually#there is a difference between being safely challenged by art (good; can feel bad in the short term but is cathartic in the long term)#and unsafely challenged/triggered by art (bad; potentially dangerous on a psychological or physical level)#yeah I believe creators should be able to opt out of content warnings if they so chose (with the exception of strobing lights etc)#(warnings for strobing lights and other things that can cause serious medical harm should always be mandatory)#and I don't believe every work benefits from content warnings. some are actively diminished by them#but acting like content warnings are a kind of 'self censorship' or that the ppl who need them are wussy little babies#chaining themselves to the wall of plato's allegory of the cave bc they're just too scaaaaaaared#is childish behaviour. grow up. some people need different things than you#content warnings allow people to challenge themselves in ways that are safe and productive rather than unsafe and unhealthy#described
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#ugh#sneekpeek of art I’m doing involvingimpalement#I almost bought an animal to kill it the other day#there’s smthn inside my brain that has been scratching at the surface and it scares me cause I’m like a bubbly nice lady besides when I get#when I get depressed but then there’s this cold unfeeling like fixation I’ve had lately and idk where it comes from#kinda similar to when I was obsessedly thinking abt commiting a mass[rime back in november#things have gotten better than then though#so that’s good but it seems to be getting louder and I’m considering like meticulously covering my leg with scratches that are parallel#different from the usual like physical self harm I do that’s like slashes or whatever#just all the way down#but when I’d pee it would be visible and when I am intimate with my fiance so idk#might involve him just so I don’t completely revolt him#I need it idk how to explain might spam some mental health posts to describe
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The upside of having catholic christian trauma instead of protestant christian trauma is that my trauma is waaay more aesthetic.
Like you get all the guilty and the bigotry but you get it at a boring room by a man in a suit and there is no chance of getting playfully bitch slaped by an old man wearing a pointy hat on confirmation.
#also i think personally that the percentage lf guilty and bigotry is different#modern catholicism has less bigotry#they are still bigots but tend to be less#but also modern catholicism has way more guilty#also like catholicism still inspires self harm#i never heard a protestant defend you should physically or mentally harm yourself to save the souls of the sinners#but i heard it a significant amount in my catholic upbringing#like my mom tried to make me join a christian young group that made the teens sleep on the floor in the side of their bed#in the name of saving the souls of dead sinners trapped in purgatory#i said nope and after I told her the truthfull fact they encoraged us to bail school and go to church instead she agreed with me#she wanted me on school more than on church thankfully#christianity cw#catholic guilt#catholicism tw#protestantism cw#oh and yeah i did get playfully bitch slapped my ex ciggregation bishop at 15 during confirmation#it was his last year as bishop as well cause he was hella old and needed to resing for medical reasons
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In a statement that was shared with The Nation, a group of 25 HLR editors expressed their concerns about the decision. “At a time when the Law Review was facing a public intimidation and harassment campaign, the journal’s leadership intervened to stop publication,” they wrote. “The body of editors—none of whom are Palestinian—voted to sustain that decision. We are unaware of any other solicited piece that has been revoked by the Law Review in this way. “ When asked for comment, the leadership of the Harvard Law Review referred The Nation to a message posted on the journal’s website. “Like every academic journal, the Harvard Law Review has rigorous editorial processes governing how it solicits, evaluates, and determines when and whether to publish a piece…” the note began. ”Last week, the full body met and deliberated over whether to publish a particular Blog piece that had been solicited by two editors. A substantial majority voted not to proceed with publication.” Today, The Nation is sharing the piece that the Harvard Law Review refused to run. Some may claim that the invocation of genocide, especially in Gaza, is fraught. But does one have to wait for a genocide to be successfully completed to name it? This logic contributes to the politics of denial. When it comes to Gaza, there is a sense of moral hypocrisy that undergirds Western epistemological approaches, one which mutes the ability to name the violence inflicted upon Palestinians. But naming injustice is crucial to claiming justice. If the international community takes its crimes seriously, then the discussion about the unfolding genocide in Gaza is not a matter of mere semantics. The UN Genocide Convention defines the crime of genocide as certain acts “committed with the intent to destroy, in whole or in part, a national, ethnical, racial or religious group, as such.” These acts include “killing members of a protected group” or “causing serious bodily or mental harm” or “deliberately inflicting on the group conditions of life calculated to bring about its physical destruction in whole or in part.” Numerous statements made by top Israeli politicians affirm their intentions. There is a forming consensus among leading scholars in the field of genocide studies that “these statements could easily be construed as indicating a genocidal intent,” as Omer Bartov, an authority in the field, writes. More importantly, genocide is the material reality of Palestinians in Gaza: an entrapped, displaced, starved, water-deprived population of 2.3 million facing massive bombardments and a carnage in one of the most densely populated areas in the world. Over 11,000 people have already been killed. That is one person out of every 200 people in Gaza. Tens of thousands are injured, and over 45% of homes in Gaza have been destroyed. The United Nations Secretary General said that Gaza is becoming a “graveyard for children,” but a cessation of the carnage—a ceasefire—remains elusive. Israel continues to blatantly violate international law: dropping white phosphorus from the sky, dispersing death in all directions, shedding blood, shelling neighborhoods, striking schools, hospitals, and universities, bombing churches and mosques, wiping out families, and ethnically cleansing an entire region in both callous and systemic manner. What do you call this? The Center for Constitutional Rights issued a thorough, 44-page, factual and legal analysis, asserting that “there is a plausible and credible case that Israel is committing genocide against the Palestinian population in Gaza.” Raz Segal, a historian of the Holocaust and genocide studies, calls the situation in Gaza “a textbook case of Genocide unfolding in front of our eyes.”
#palestine#gaza#free palestine#end the the colonialism#end the occupation#harvard#harvard law review#genocide
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This will be the last update about the accusations against Nyx and me from last year and recent months.
VERSION EN ESPAÑOL:
I cannot force everyone to forgive or believe us, but I would like to provide a closure from our part on the events following Hopeless Peaches' false accusations last year, and a few more that have been reappearing this year, once more.
In recent months, we resumed communication with CrystalFlame, one of the victims of the Glitchtale server. Crystal acknowledged that the accusations against us for allegedly being sexual towards minors and bribing her to remain silent about our "crimes" were entirely fabricated by these people. It was never our intention to hide our past mistakes with money. The separate donations Nyx and I gave to Crystal were solely intended to help her.
Regarding the conversations on Skype in 2017, neither Nyx nor I ever forced the minors present to engage in sexual behavior for our entertainment, nor did we sexualize them in any way. There were inappropriate conversations between adults, in which they should not have been involved, and we recognize our mistake in being negligent and not caring enough about them. I must admit that Veir also disgusted me, and I reacted foolishly by not confronting him or by saying things he liked just to make him leave me alone. I deeply regret this. Although we have apologized to Crystal for this, I also want to apologize to the minors who were there, even if they don't want to know about this anymore, and to the entire community for this huge mistake. Since Nyx and I stopped using that chat short after our irl meeting that same year, plus our detachment to the members of GT, we have changed our views significantly both in public and in private, creating a healthy community for everyone. I will add more details later regarding my experiences with NSFW material, for which I have also been accused of being a depraved person.
I disagree with how Nyx tried to explain how these behaviors were so normalized, but he never intended to endorse the toxicity and unpunished crimes occurring in Latin culture. Nyx acknowledges this, and we discussed it again privately with Crystal. We apologize once more to our Latin members who might have been offended by this take, which could have been better explained. Nyx and I said a lot of things out of fear and frustration, which caused more harm and distress rather than solutions due to the explosive harassment we faced because of the false accusations by Hopeless Peaches and their group. I won't go into too many details because I have chosen to keep my mental health private, but this wave of harassment severely impacted my mental and physical health, and I am currently undergoing treatment to manage the aftermath.
However, I want to take full responsibility for causing Nyx to act out of emotion rather than with a clear mind in a desperate attempt to protect me, as Crystal ended up in a very complicated situation during the harassment wave created by Peaches, making her believe that our lives were in her hands and dependent on her choices. This was not only inappropriate but also unfair, considering Crystal was going through a lot at that time. Nyx and I poorly worded many things both publicly and privately. We should never have let our emotions take over while trying to defend ourselves. We could have handled the situation more maturely. None of these mistakes will be repeated ever again. Crystal has also admitted her mistakes. Many things would have taken a different path if dialogue had been the first option instead of public statements, but both sides have learned a lot.
With all this, I don't want to hear anything about Glitchtale, its creator, or its still-active members. Nor do I want to hear about Hopeless Peaches or their community, or what's left of it. My purpose on the internet is to entertain people with my art, and on the rare occasions I interact publicly, to maintain a calm and healthy environment, as I have been doing for years. My boundaries with fans are very strict and defined. It may sound ambitious or silly to many, but for a long time, I have wanted to make a difference and show that not all artists with a large audience are people who hide dark secrets and seek to harm others. I just want to tell stories and brighten people's days.
People have become used to seeing random individuals or public figures being exposed daily for horrible acts and behavior, which is very depressing. However, when those accusations are false, it is sometimes too late to undo the damage. No one likes to be pointed at and accused of something they didn't commit, especially when those accusations are serious, like harming another human being.
Some people today are confused and believe that I am actually Camila, and that Nyx is Veir, that my husband has been dating minors despite us being married, and that I defended my "pedophile" partner and protected other groomers. People are not only mistaking us for other individuals, but we also don't have anything to do with that other than the 2017 Skype chats. We have been put in some sort of black list from parts of the fandom due to misinformation or because some people seek an excuse to justify their dislike for us by wishing we had harmed real children. This is sickening, sickeing and frustrating if you actually think about the victims not only in fandoms but everywhere. So, please, I beg you to distinguish between names and what has actually happened. Even if you don't like us, don't seek or wish for us to be monsters just to feel proud of yourselves.
I feel I could regain some peace in my heart by having the opportunity to talk to Crystal about all what happened and ending in good terms. This should be the end of the whole controversy regarding the Skype Chat and the GT Server.
Now I would also like to take the opportunity to talk about other accusations still aimed at me to this day, which I once explained on a Twitter thread that was eventually deleted due to unnecesary arguments between fans. I'm being accused of being a horrible and irredeemable person for drawing a comic in my early years in the fandom that insinuated a non-consensual act between Cross and Dream.
Before any explanation, I want to emphasize that I still feel immense regret and shame for creating that nsfw comic, even if I didn't feel comfortable doing so, I still made the decision as an adult and shouldn't have done it in a space where there were minors and people who might find that material triggering. Even though it happened many years ago, it was not right, and I will apologize as many times as necessary.
I haven't had any contact with the creator of Dreamtale since 2017, so I'm unaware of her current viewpoint about this topic in general, but one thing is certain: both of us don't want to be associated with that ship between our characters and want to move on. We want it as far away from us as possible. I don't want anybody to harass her over this situation.
During that time, I was in an unstable relationship with the creator of Dreamtale, with whom I used to roleplay privately. This, along with being pressured to make the ship "canon", led me to create the comics for that ship. Among them was the infamous scene for which I'm accused of supporting rape. This content and private interactions reached a point where the entire situation made me uncomfortable, along with the toxic attitudes in our relationship, I ended up closing the blog, though not before writing a summary of what would happen next in the story -that didn't have any other sexual moments, to clarify-, simply a closure for those who enjoyed the comic. Not long after, we broke up.
After this experience, I began to realize that any NSFW content, both fictional and real, made me very uncomfortable. This is connected to future members of the fandom, like Veir, who tried to sexualize me, and later, ex-friends whom I wanted to please for their support during my growth as a content creator by drawing them private NSFW commissions. I ignored my discomfort, believing I was doing the right thing and that I could trust them, but what happened later finally made me understand that I personally cannot tolerate any of this content.
This group of people shared these private commissions among themselves. One of these people was someone I considered a close friend and was even my Discord moderator but began abusing their power towards other members, trying to escape the consequences just because of our friendship. They even tried to offer me money to remove a character from another artist who would appear in my animation as a cameo, just because they both had personal issues. I decided to end our friendship because I saw no changes or improvements on their part and I felt i was being used as a power tool for them.
It wasn't long after this that I found an alt account of them, posting these private NSFW drawings, tagging me to attract attention as a form of revenge for cutting ties with them (They also got Nyx's phone number to trying to get in contact with me despite what they were doing). These images spread last year among a few people who, unaware of the background, used them as a reason to question me as an artist. However I explained the rest of the story before it became more public, and I appreciate that they listened to me first, however, the damage was already done.
In March of this year, I made a thread on Twitter explaining this and my reason for not supporting or consuming NSFW content. I want to stay away from this whole debate. I don't want my words to be used to attack others. My reasons for not enjoying this are because I had people around me who caused me a lot of harm with this matter, it triggers me, and I don't like any sexual topics around me, even as an adult reaching my 30s. I simply don't like it, I'm not interested, and I want my feelings to be respected. I'm very aware that more than half of my audience are minors, and I know how to behave and what to show in my art, but there are still others looking for any excuse to call me or my husband horrible things. It has happened before with accusations of transphobia for making Frisk and Chara from Xtale male instead of non-binary as they are in the canon version. I have been called a pedophile for portraying Frisk and Muffet from XTale in an innocent romantic context, even though there is no age difference, just because is not following, again, the canon (which with all honesty, I'm not aware if it has been confirmed she is a child or not). I have been accused of racism because of the characters' skin color, and so on.
Being hated in a fandom as an artist with a big following is supposed to be normal, but, to what extent?
I know I should ignore those comments and move on, but I still don't understand why it hurts so much that people want to discredit my efforts as an artist and as a person by believing they have found some dark secret in me… I really can't understand, I just want to live in peace.
My art is my only escape from negative thoughts. Nyx is my only support in real life. I have been working on how to deal with online criticism and harassment, but it is really hard when people tell lies in order to ruin a life, especially when those lies try to make us look like disgusting human beings. This puts me in a lot of distress, mostly because I hate conflict and prefer to be left alone. I want to be a role model in this community by not getting involved with problematic people and toxic environments. Even if there are people who don't like my work, I want to show that there is still a bit of decency and common sense in the art community.
For this reason, this will be the last time I talk about this because I want to focus on what makes me, my husband, and my audience happy. I want to set an example, and I want people to read this, try to understand our position, and give us a chance.
Once again, we deeply regret the mistakes we made in the past.
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abt 🤨 > i support gay ppl causing drama to get what they want sometimes and I think there are pure ways to do that, or it doesn't have to be pure because what is truly pure to begin with, but also it doesn't necessarily mean it's bad cause writers often selectively choose what good selfishness and bad selfishness is
it's usually easy to recognise but smth feels kinda... arbitrary? like, well, X did the big sacrifice so Y must be wrong for trying to get in the way of that for the sake of another and or their romantic feelings
it's also kinda like....idk as someone who's gotten way more into the 'let ppl b happy' thing but also loves a bunch of tragic series it feels distinctly optional I guess??? like , you can have it one way or the other and neither way is necessarily wrong? idk where I'm going w this I'm just kinda rambling
#plus writing au fic ideas really got me thinkjng about it more#and im the type of person to compare and contrast lots of the shows im into#i guess its cause irl itd be a bit more complicated but in fiction the concept of the greater good and sacrifice is so ....complicated#but also like#madoka less so altho definitely in the first half of rebellion but#in holic theres a MASSIVE RUNNING THEME about self sacrifice as equivocated to a sort of hero's self harm#its a lot more muddy and selfishness is painted as more ambiguous if its used to save and help others and your own mental and physical#but yeah its really got something interesting to say on that and thats why i love it so much honestly#but it does feel kinda funny that for all the characters arcs they draw the line at their growth and learning in one moment of trauma#like it WORKS but it DOESNT#it works in the sense that everyones brains go haywire in a case of trauma#but it doesnt work in terms of really hammering that meaning of the story in some senses#i guess partly its HOW they tell that ending that makes it feel a bit more hurtful#the tragedy gives way to a sort of status quo#idk its probably an achievement that theyre so like polarising about it but#it doesnt feel entirely polarised on purpose#and the egg ended up feeling kinda like a stab in the gut but not a perfectly executed one?#idk its hard to articulate even tho i LOVE articulating and talking about stuff over and over#but yeah i guess what im saying is it feels a lil bit weird that they mandatory assign shizuka as having some messy shit to get rid of when#at this point it doesjt matter how messy it is or if it even if its pretty damn legitimate#let him at least take a stab at fate yaknow
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Mars Signs Observations (Apocalypse Edition)🗡💥
⚡Aries Mars: Yeah they energy is all there physically and mentally these ppl are cool and aggressive the type I would bring to a bear fight or zombie apocalypse they probably the one who got the biggest killed they always prepare to fight but yeah they need to chill once in a while 😂 overall 9/10
⚡Taurus Mars: they're okay its just they always get lazy sometimes it kinda pissed me off? but yeah when they actually do something they give they all the type to have all the food stocks ready but I can always count them in on zombie apocalypse just please don't be slow or you'll get us killed 👀 overall 6/10
⚡Gemini Mars: nah yeah they got all the brain and multiple of tabs in their head so far this is the strategy planner the type who got all the maps memorize and ready the type to find a way out I would probably want them as a driver they probably uses knifes non firearm weapons in a fight yeah they proabably can slice things up 🔪 overall 7/10
⚡Cancer Mars: the caring and most loving these people are the ones who will protect their loved ones in an apocalapse and the one who will include everyone that is left out the type to save someone even if that person has been biten by zombies yeah bad idea bro yall care too much which will ruin us 😭 overall 5/10
⚡Leo Mars: they okay just don't get too much pride in the way the type to find a zombies just cause they bored lol probably the fun one in a group and a LOUD one that talked too much yeah yall get us killed just in days the apocalypse just started but yeah they can fight a good fight 🔥 overall 8/10
⚡Virgo Mars: yeah the freaks probably the one who got all the med kits and food supplies ready everything ready the types to treat someone that been injured or in critical condition they make sure no one is infected but yeah they can't fight for sure but in groups they probably can last long 😂 overall 7/10
⚡Libra Mars: probably the good looking ones out of the survivors but yeah its the apocalypse no one cares the type to still take good care of themselves and bring peace to the group and make sure they look good while they fight yeah no we aint got no time for that and probably can't fight 💋 overall 5/10
⚡Scorpio Mars: the OG the one and only most combative and strategic stealth stalker my fellow scorpio mars all in one yeah we probably can fight till the end badass type of fighter probably has all types of weapon in possession the type to solo survive the apocalypse their survival skills are top tier 🔥 overall 10/10
⚡Sagittarius Mars: yeah this mf can fight they actually have a lot of energy and stamina the one who can keep up and put up a good fight probably the cool looking one while they fight the one who keeps a zombie as a pet or probably torture them for fun 😂 overall 7/10
⚡Capricorn Mars: yeah the group leader the one to lead the group and survives till the end probably will keep you safe and have everything planned out every place secure and safe from any harm probably have the hero mindset in them the one who sacrifices for the sake of the group 👑 overall 10/10
⚡Aquarius Mars: yeah nah not the survival type probably will survives after the apocalapse end lol just kidding they probably the type to keep all the electronic working and the computer working or radio but yeah they can't fight probably become an archer if they are given the options of weapon 🎯 overall 6/10
⚡Pisces Mars: yeah no just no 3 days into the apocalypse yall probably already dead the first one to be infected 😂 overall 4/10
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something I don’t get about the disability metaphor is that for eureka monsters obviously it harms another person to eat them. the help a disabled person needs doesn’t actively harm or kill another person. Maybe it’s a difference in perspectives that cannot be resolved
(What I’m about to write could potentially sound very fucked up at first so I’m going to need to trust everyone to read the whole thing before forming an opinion.)
Also this message and response references these two posts.
Eureka’s stance on disabled people is that they (including myself writing this) are, or at least can often be, burdens.
Disabled people often require more resources to live than they are able to “give back,” which, in our capitalist and artificial-scarcity-based economy, is just about the worst thing a person can do.
Anti-ableism sentiment often focuses on the idea that “disabled people aren’t burdens, that they’re just as good and capable as everyone else,” but if they were, they wouldn’t be “disabled” would they? When you say stuff like that, you’re conceding that a person’s worth is determined by how capable they are at doing work, and then having to bend over backwards to justify thinking that a person without arms is just as valuable as a person with arms. Eureka is asking you to decouple a person’s value from how much net resources they can produce.
Often times also, the resources that real disabled people consume are human resources, and those human resources are very much capable of suffering for it. Nurses are overworked, around-the-clock care is absolutely physically and mentally exhausting, people who have to care for their elderly or otherwise disabled relatives on top of their regular jobs don’t get to have social lives or hobbies, etc.
To this end, we wrote the monsters in Eureka to be unquestionably people who “cause damage” to society by literally eating up human resources, because they have to to live, they have no other choice unless they want to just die. Your friend is gone from your life because he has to spend all his free time caring for his comatose wife after a freak car accident. Your friend is gone from your life because a vampire randomly ate him. Providing a metaphor isn't all the monsters are doing, they just work well through that lens.
And then Eureka forces you to look at these people as people, and make up your mind as to whether they have value and a right to prologue their own existence. We can’t force you to agree that they do, but if you think they don’t, then you’ll have to make that argument looking at an intelligent person with a life rather than a pure hypothetical or statistics on a chart.
There are some monsters in Eureka where, if the economy or societal structures were changed, they would stop being such severe drains on resources and could exist harmlessly within society, and there are some monsters where no imaginable amount of societal change would solve the problems they cause. This is true of disabled people IRL as well. Some of them would require no further assistance with living if certain things about society changed, and others would still require a massive amount of human resources.
And even when it’s not necessarily human resources, the extra resources that disabled people need also cause huge energy expenditure and create huge amounts of plastic waste, which are things that contribute to global warming and pollution, which do have significant harmful effects on everyone’s lives. Despite this, they are still “worth it” to keep around.
As for actively causing harm, that happens too. I randomly scrolled past this post after we got this message and saved it so I could link it here.
This person and their family had to cause a big stink in a restaurant just to get an accommodation that they needed, and to us reading it from their perspective, we’re obviously on their side, but I can assure you that the overworked staff at that restaurant didn’t see it that way. They saw the disabled person as an aggressive Karen whom they would never in a million years want to have to provide customer service to. The disabled person & family had to get aggressive, and ruin the staff’s day, to get what they needed. That’s actively causing harm - harm we all agreed was justified to cause - but harm nonetheless.
Plastic straws aren’t that big of a deal for global pollution, but even if they were, the point is that this person still would have needed a straw. It doesn’t line up one-to-one, because metaphors rarely do, but a vampire asking if they can drink someone’s blood, and being told No, may find themselves in much the same position. (And if you bring up that some people find vampires really sexy, you’re missing the point. “I would give them a straw if they had sex with me.” is not actually a great thing to announce about yourself.)
I can also come up with an example from my own life. I personally am very sensitive to noise and noise pollution. If there’s music playing at a public space, I usually can’t handle it. (Earplugs don’t work for other reasons I won’t get into - plus, if I just deafen myself to all sound, how can I socialize with anyone in this public space?)
If I want to exist in this space, I will have to actively cause harm to everyone there, or else stop existing in that space. I will have to go up to whoever is responsible and ask them to turn off the music, actively taking it away from everyone else who was enjoying it. I have to take action to ruin their good time if I want to exist in that space at all, and they might, very understandably, be pissed off at me for doing that. Because, like I said in this other post, the people that monsters eat do have a right to prevent themselves from being eaten by monsters. We aren't proposing that the solution is everyone has to line up to be mauled to death by monsters or else they're a bad person.
Who has a greater right to enjoy themselves in that space? That’s the kind of question that Eureka poses, and makes you consider both sides as human being rather than denoting one as just an ontologically evil villain to be destroyed.
We actually don't know of perfect solutions to all the problems presented by the existance of monsters in Eureka, we just know that "exterminate all people who are parasites and burdens to society" ain't it.
#indie ttrpgs#disability#ttrpgs#ableism#ttrpg#ttrpg tumblr#indie ttrpg#ttrpg community#vampire#werewolf#gorgon#rpg#tabletop#monster#monster girl#vampirism#roleplaying#medusa#mythical creatures#monsters#eureka#eureka: investigative urban fantasy
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does anyone else ever feel like their interests are shoving them into two different spheres on the internet, perhaps because of the traditional ways those communities in general have interacted and so you being engaged in both of them feels like almost a betrayal??? perhaps it is because i am closeted and so i feel weird engaging in things that are stereotyped in ways that are opposite to the ways the queer community is stereotyped because i want to be as close to queerness as i can without having to give a PowerPoint Presentation on my identity.
yes this post is about sports, pop culture, and video games :)
#lgbtqia#queer#perhaps this is another case of#imposter syndrome strikes again!!!#anyways like i hope you all know this is like completely absurd#you dont owe anyone your interests. given theyre not harmful#and by that i mean your interests arent like actively causing physical/mental harm to someone#not something thats just traditionally not queer friendly#ie video games fine. making fun of the way people look not fine#you see???#also this post started off way more general and then it got super specific so i am sorry lol
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