#but i love being trans I love being trans

[soup-mother]

"I'm AFAB but i really relate to trans women so i call myself a trans woman. yknow ever since i started T i've felt so much like both a man and a woman, which is why i relate to transfeminity. i have so much in common with trans women because i love being a genderfuck man in a dress. it's not like being a cis woman, it's a different more alien and inhuman gender, transfeminity"

[windwardstar]

I swear if I see one more person talk about how theyfab is transphobic and mention transandrophobia and intersexism (which they should, esp given the specific context of the shinigami eyes guidelines) and leave out exorsexism and the nonbinary people the term originally targeted I am going to scream. Like. I know y'all love to forget nonbinary people exist in general but the gall to do it when talking about theyfab is just. Wow. Do you just not see exorsexism as a thing either, or not important enough to mention? Would you care about theyfab if it weren't being used to target binary trans people?

[sh1n0issapphic]

Repent and preach the gospel that’s all you need, everything else is just additional fun. He loves all.

give me your complete and unwavering devotion.

[genderqueerdykes]

howdy, this may be a stupid question but I saw a post of yours talking about how men can be lesbians and I'm just a little confused? can some men be lesbians just because they identify with the label? and If people of any gender can be lesbians what does being a lesbian mean? my understanding may be flawed so I would really appreciate help in understanding :3

hello there! not a stupid question!

yep, men can be lesbians simply by identifying with the label, that's all there really is to it! that's how every queer identity except intersex works, in fact! in recent years, we've begun welcoming non binary people into lesbian and gay spaces- so why can't we open the doors to other people? this can be for a variety of reasons why a man would identify as a lesbian, transmascs and trans men who started in the lesbian community and still feel a connection to that identity, bi/multigender men, genderqueer men, genderfluid men, intersex men, bi and pan men who feel like their attraction is gay and lesbian instead of gay and straight, lesbian trans women who are also men, the sky is really the limit!

it's a bit complicated to define what terms like "gay" and "lesbian" truly mean, because they don't exist in a static vacuum that can encompass everyone in that given community. every lesbian has a different definition of what lesbian means. many lesbians believe that it strictly means cis women being attracted to cis women, which is definitely not how lesbianism works at all. no two queer people will ever define a queer term the same way. a lesbian is anyone who identifies as one. it can be a queer woman, non binary person, or man, or a gender well beyond that. or no gender at all.

for example, there's a loooooonnnngggg history of trans women who are also gay. many trans women still identify as gay and with the gay community even well after transitioning and not identifying as a man anymore. this has been a well documented experience since the dawn of the modern queer community in the United States, so why can't we extend the same to men and lesbianism?

when i say i'm a lesbian, i mean a lot of things. i do experience queer attraction to women ofc, but for me, lesbianism is about community and expression. it's about my love for other lesbians, dykes and sapphics, not just women. i'm a lesbian-oriented person. i resonate with the community, history, and culture. i feel right at home hearing about other lesbians' struggles and experiences with gender, expression, identity and sexuality. i see myself in other lesbians, dykes, and sapphics, and just because i'm (partially) a man doesn't mean i have to give all of that up!

i hope that makes sense! most queer identities don't have a concrete definition when you get down to brass tacks. for example "genderqueer" is not something that's easily defined at all. people love to argue about what it "really" means but there's no one answer to that. the same goes for lesbianism. the experience is too broad to be able to be defined simply by saying a lesbian is is a woman attracted to women. identity and lived experience is too varied and complex for that

feel free to have any more questions you may have! if you'd like, i highly recommend looking into the life and works of Leslie Feinberg, a transmasculine butch lesbian revolutionary and queer activist who had to transition into manhood in order to feel like hirself as a butch lesbian. zie identified as multigender and never gave up hir lesbian identity, even after living as a man for many years. it was vital to hir butch lesbian identity :) thanks for stopping by, i appreciate you asking!

[butchpeace]

I know we aren't supposed to pay attention to celebs but as a detrans lesbian it genuinely hurts seeing these high-profile daughters of celebs (some of whom are lesbians) transition and suddenly gain more fame because of it.

Like, when Cher's daughter came out a lesbian she (Cher) practically kicked her out the house. Now that she's a transgender man she's way more famous and their familial relationship is apparently all hunky-dory now (gee, I wonder why). Sting's (the singer) daughter Eliot came out as a masc/androgynous lesbian in 2015 but is now nonbinary, got top surgery, and is getting more acting roles. Sade released her first song in years about her 'trans son''... like, you couldn't have made a song about loving your daughter until now?

I know the more cynical among us will write these off as just attempts to get more attention from the media and go on about "nepo babies" or whatever but it's still painful yknow? The only thing I'm understanding from this is that being a lesbian woman - especially a non-hyperfeminine one - is never enough no matter how relatively privileged you are.

(Cher's case is especially damaging considering she treated her lesbian daughter like shit until she transitioned and yet she's viewed as a 'gay icon'. Goes to show that people don't care about lesbians I guess?)

100%. I hate seeing this shit, and I think you’re right. Being a more masculine lesbian is never enough. It’s never going to be something that people admire and look up to.

Being trans or nonbinary is partially a way for these women and their families to feel noteworthy and special.

Or it’s a way to feel more accepted and understood within heteronormative society, like it was for me.

It bothers me when I see any parent getting clout for having a trans kid. So much virtue signaling.

[soundwavefucker69]

I don't share this often, but I am a trans man named Minty.

awhile after I got my legal name change, I asked my mom what she would have named me if I was a boy. she said Sebastian, and I groaned and complained that I should have asked before I got the name change, because I really DID like Sebastian now that it was occurring to me as a possible name and had ALWAYS liked Sebastian, even before my MCU days as a teenager. I had even considered it as an option but worried I'd end up looking like a weird fandom kid that had never let go of the MCU. if I had known that was the name my mother had picked for me, I would have had justification to choose it.

she asked me why I picked Minty then. i kinda paused in surprise because I thought it was obvious. and I was like. well. I wanted a name i felt like I could associate with childhood me.

after the first house we lived in was foreclosed on by the bank, we had to rent while my parents fixed their credit and swore never to get a fixer upper again. so we picked a nice house in our small town with only two real neighbors of note: an old lady, whose kids had forgotten about her, that lived way down the alley, around the point it turned from paved to dirt, the only house down there, who had a pomegranate tree in her ill-tended front yard, and a nice old lady next door that for some inexplicable reason had a miniature horse and a beautifully tended flower garden she had foolishly once planted mint in. she also had a very, very old fashioned rotary telephone. I mean the kind hardwired into the wall, of metal, with a speaker with a smooth wooden handle that sat neatly on top. not one of the plastic ones. the ones you see in old movies.

we loved these old ladies very much. the pomegranate lady was too old to keep up on her yard, so my brother and I would go with our dad to help weed whack and scrape up the dead leaves. we didn't offer too much, she was a proud sort, and couldn't pay us, but just enough to help out a little. and the mint in her flower garden lady loved it when we came by to say hi to her horse whose name I forget and loved to teach us how to garden.

she would send us home with mint. obviously. because when you have a mint infestation, well. it's pointless, but you gotta try anyway. and my mom would take that mint and make sun tea, just on the edge of not sweet enough, bc she was a bit of a crunchy mom, but not enough to reprimand me for sneaking a bit of sugar into my cup after to mix it up. (the sugar never dissolved right, especially after it was chilled, and i would always make a racket trying to get it to do so)

I told her I picked Minty because it ties me to my childhood. I didn't want to just cast it away. I wasn't Minty yet, but I also wouldn't be Minty without those days.

mom hasn't fully come around to me being trans. but she was quiet for a long, long time before she kind of whispered. I think I like Minty better than Sebastian. you should keep it.

my mom has always beat herself up over our childhood. she lacked a lot of stability in her upbringing and thought church was the way to go with my brother and I. unfortunately, she picked the wrong church. it was intensely traumatizing for us. we've had a lot of tough conversations about it. but I was able to tell her that day, you know Mom, I know you think you didn't do enough, but just know I'm not trans because you put me in a place where womanhood was miserable and I'm running from it. I don't remember much of the church, even though it consumed my life. what I do remember is my mother, the woman I may have complicated feelings towards, but have always admired and was always my standard for womanhood, being criticized by the other women for allowing me to read this book or that book and not bending or breaking under their rebukes for twenty years. I remember finding out as a twenty year old that I was the only "girl" in church that got the HPV vaccine, because you wanted to protect me, and not rely on chastity alone, like some sort of egotistical maniac who believed I'd always be your daughter, not a living breathing person that would make choices you didn't approve of as an adult, that shouldn't have to suffer for no reason from those choices. I remember you reading to my brother and I well into our teen years, using your acting talents that didn't blossom into the career you wanted to bring the characters in Peter and the Starcatchers to life. I remember listening to Lord of the Rings on cassette tape in the mini van, even though they said it was demonic when they found out. I remember the mom that let me be a tomboy. I remember the mom that would put on the Wind and the Willows on cassette from the library on rainy summer days and we'd listen to it and eat meatballs and spaghetti in the kitchen.

I told her, you're not a failure as a mother, and I didn't hate womanhood because of your example. it just didn't fit me. you made mistakes because you're human. I never thought of you as less than because you're a woman, and I didn't want to escape the cage you're thinking i wanted to escape.

my mom cried. I think that was the first time i made her cry and didn't feel bad about it.

anyways. not a soft memory, but it feels soft to me.

Tell me a soft memory

[olderthannetfic]

Being called a crypto-TERF with internalized transmisandry because I said "transman" and not "trans man" is one of those moments where I want to grab English native speakers by the shoulders, look into their eyes and yell, "THIS IS THE WORD IN MY LANGUAGE! Sometimes people speak non-English languages! Not every trans man who fails to hit the space button is evil!"

Then I remember this is the internet, where nuance goes to die. Where we are all 'Muricans who eat burgers and read Harry Potter and watched Nickelodeon growing up and love PB&J. And where I regularly have to explain Nickelodeon isn't universal. So I'm sure I would have to sit people down and write lots of paragraphs to get them to understand that in some languages transman isn't a word used by self-hating men who are secretly TERFs. And I don't know how many paragraphs it would take. I do know it would be more paragraphs than I can deal with mentally.

I'm so tired. I understand your country is in crisis but do you people have to come for everyone's throats all the time?

--

When I was going through my gender questioning period, it was quite common for activisty types in the know to use 'transsexual', which is still the self-identification of some older people.

Terminally online and emotionally forever 12 people aren't actually the norm here in an offline queer spaces post college.

[lexithwrites]

t4t wolfstar lives in my head rent free, discovering who they are and what their gender identity means to them, how they express themselves, finally being with a partner that’s GETS it, helping each other with binding and taping, taking testosterone together or one helping the other with it, figuring out sex together with straps or whatever they’re comfortable with, attending pride as openly trans men in a loving relationship, god I love it so much

[efangamez]

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[do-you-have-a-flag]

as someone who 1. had the books read to her as a child 2. loved them 3.went to the book release parties 4. went to the movies release day 5. cosplayed ficced and fanarted 6. made friends through the fandom I get it.

I get that it's a fun world to play in and you have an attachment to the characters and the flaws of the writing were about on par for a lot of kids fiction at the time even with much better stuff out there it was a unique major pop cultural moment and the fandom did change lives and create friendships. I would never argue that it always being bad means anyone should feel guilty for enjoying it cause that's not how art works. things with bad qualities by bad people can still be influential and their popularity can sill come from a sincere place.

and even with all that, I accepted that I have spent a lot of time and money on the franchise in the past but she soured the idea of continuing to engage with it. I can hold my nostalgia and experiences close to my heart and still chose to disengage from fandom and new content.

I'm just SAYING that this author has done and continues to do real harm in the mainstreaming of her transphobia, and even if you don't conceded that fandom that doesn't line her pockets still keeps HP in a place of pop cultural relevance that supports her financially, I am begging you not to even hate watch this now you know she is involved. do not discuss it unless you are telling uninformed general fans about why she is harmful. let it flop.

"read another book" glosses over the actual phenomenon of how this fandom was experienced. It was so pervasive in a way that has not been replicated. but I am asking you to think about if you want to continue to tie your positive experiences to the words and actions of a bigot who campaigns and donates towards harm and amplifies the voices of extremists. I am asking you to accept that it was something you enjoyed but that you can't recapture that feeling by sitting on this rotting corpse of a fandom. I encourage you to take your friends with you and make whatever you get into contain that same spark of creativity and collaboration the HP fandom gave you be creating it yourselves.

Even Daniel Radcliffe has made clear his support for trans people and said of Rowling "-nothing in my life would have probably happened the way it is without that person. But that doesn’t mean that you owe the things you truly believe to someone else for your entire life.”

you don't have to throw out your merch and denounce HP in the public square, you just have to stop spending money and attention. it's the lack of action that is the bare minimum. it's so easy.

since much of her political news rantings are based in the UK i will just link a relevant charity and encourage anyone inclined to donate

https://mermaidsuk.org.uk/

Welp, if JK Rowling being executive producer and therefore being fully involved in the show wasn't enough for people to boycott, then here's HBO basically saying they don't care JK Rowling is a bigot from hell who literally helped lead a harassment campaign of lies against Imane Khalif in her transphobia and obsession with women being terf's standards of women alongside posting harassment against trans people on twitter at times, they gonna stand by her, while using the excuse, "personal views". Hmm, yes, personal views- that's one way to uh, call what the fuck JK Rowling comes out with a-lot- last I checked personal views do come with consquiences if said out loud....a thousand times in JK's case and still counting....especially if they hurt people, but hey, if it means making another Harry Potter project to milk, just let it fucking be I guess.

[atruemoomoon]

Misfits and Magic is so special to me. Like, being so for real, I named myself after a fuckin HP character, it was a HUGE influence in my life. I actually named myself Remus before it was really well known that JKR is a terf, and have gone through learning all that while being a walking representation of the parts of her books that fans interpreted in ways she hated. I am a trans dude named Remus, who is flaming gay, and frankly fit most of the characterizations of fanon!Lupin.

Getting to see people take the basis of the world I spent so much time engrossed in as a child, and call out the problems with it and actually talk about what it would look like to make it better? Heals wounds I didn’t really know were there.

Not to mention that being a kid who grew up undiagnosed autistic, and was so often the weird kid who got judged, seeing a character like Evan Kelmp have friends who truly love him with all his eccentricities included makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. The Pilot Program are so human to me, but all Try. They fuck up but still love each other.

TBH its also just so happened that both seasons have come out at important parts of my life. First season came out right before I started my freshman year of college, 500 miles away from home and everyone I knew. Second season is coming out as I am almost done with college but am grappling with Actual Adult Life and Problems.

[x-mental-idiots]

So…I may have been working on something for the last month and I’m gauging interest now but…

Cherik Nation, how do we feel about a multi chapter, multi part fanfic set right before X-Men: The Animated Series featuring:

• Teenage X-Men finding out their father has been gay married to a terrorist for almost 50 years and somehow it has just Never Come Up

• Charles and Erik being married since 1953

• Time Travel

• Trans Magneto

• In-Depth Character Studies about Charles and Erik at different stages in their relationship

• Domestic Intimacy

• Erik and Charles both being loving, supportive partners to each other- particularly in regards to Charles’ paralysis and Erik’s PTSD

• Two Gay Idiots In Love

• Magneto’s complicated relationship with parenthood

• Realistic portrayals of Anxiety and PTSD

• Mr Sinister living up to his name

• Dramatic Tension

• German

• Everyone is Queer

• And Much Much More!

If any of this interests you, let me know! I have like the first 6 chapters written but not posted. I’m pretty new to the X-Men fandom but I am going insane over here about these two. I was trying to wait to post until I had at least the first part complete (I’m almost there) but I don’t know if I can keep being patient.

[darklydeliciousdesires]

Honestly, the attitude of the OP... girl, you are not helping yourself. When a huge population of men and TERFS already need little excuse to act in disgusting, discriminatory ways against trans women, don't add fuel to the fire by coming for your cis women sisters. Don't do that.

I understand this was likely done in a tongue-in-cheek way, but really, it's thoughtless. To call us nepo ladies when we've been the underdogs of society and lived under patriarchal oppression for thousands of years is just ridiculous. Do you understand how much pulling up of our boobstraps we've had to do? How much work we've had to put in to be seen in any way, shape or form equal to men, and yet we still aren't? Do you? Nope, I don't think you do. And that's sad, especially when you look at the rates both cis and trans women are murdered by men for simply being who they are. Really fucking sad.

We should stand united, not divided.

All you're doing is alienating every single cis woman out there who wants to welcome you with open arms, who will defend you in a public bathroom if some TERF bitch decides to tell you that you don't belong, who will step in and stop you from being bullied (or a lot bloody worse!!) on the street, who will put her arms around you and tell you she loves you and considers you every inch as much of a woman as she is.

And yes, I have been that cis woman to aggressively defend trans women in the past and let them know I'm looking out for them. I have and I will again.

Being a woman, whether trans or cis, is not a fucking competition over who's had a rougher or easier deal, or who is the realest. It isn't. Leave that braindead thinking to all the arsehole men and TERFS out there who seek to divide us.

Think before you make stupid jokes, because there's enough harmful narrative out there aimed at women - whether trans or cis - already.

[plaidos]

Hi! I’m not a follower but I came across your post while browsing the arcane tag and I was curious bc I’d only heard positive things about the show re: representation so far. I went ahead and rewatched the scene you shared the image of and here’s what I’d say—

i don’t remember much about the character on the left, I think they’re only in there for that brief scene where we see them react as some rando gets thrown out of the brothel theyre standing in front of. They’re not treated like a joke, they just exist.

the one on the right is a yordle which is a race from LoL/arcane, which is why she looks “funko pop” esque. side note, she’s not the only yordle in the show and not all yordles are in the undercity. she’s only in one scene but has a somewhat important role. She’s not treated as a joke at all. When she seductively curls a finger at one of the side characters and he shies away and grimaces, I took that more as a kid (like a 13 year old) being creeped out that a lady old enough to be his grandma is trying to pull him into the brothel.

the whole scene this is a part of is just us being introduced to the city (“the undercity”) the main characters live in, it’s dark, it’s grimy, it’s the underbelly. We see shots of a lot of different types of creatures, different types of people, different races. The primary thing being portrayed here is how dangerous and non kid friendly the place is, as we see lots of criminals, shady characters, and ofc the aforementioned brothel.

all that being said, I’m not trans so I could be missing something here, but I feel like the screenshot is somewhat taken out of context. I myself had to go back and watch the scene to remember what happened.

Also, I really love the show and I think it’s a shame people are shying away from it because it’s based off league. Ofc you don’t have to watch anything you don’t want to, but it’s a great standalone story and I have a lot of friends who watched it despite hating league (and league players) and still enjoyed it!

Anyways sorry this was kind of long and I hope you don’t mind that I dropped into ur inbox despite not following u.

what you’re missing is that it is a joke. like, you’re telling me how you “took the scene” but you’re just wrong, sorry. like you don’t need to explain the scene to me! i went and watched it. and it’s transmisogynistic for all of the reasons i’ve described. just because there isn’t a massive punchline about her being a man in a dress doesn’t mean it isn’t transmisogynistic. like the audience is supposed to think that this huge muscular trans woman and her gremlin friend are disgusting and scary. it’s awesome that you didn’t and you thought this was just, oh cool, nice body types moment! but why were these specific women chosen for a joke about the seedy underbelly of this city? why these specific women for a joke about how scary this place is?

you have to stop closing your eyes when trans women point out the obvious. it is a transphobic joke. anybody trying to argue with me on that in my inbox will be blocked.

[pucciverse]

i love you t shot and t gel i love you estradiol i love you gender affirming surgery i love you trans people who don’t medically transition i love you trans people who don’t conform to gender norms i love you trans people who find comfort in them i love you transmascs i love you transfems i love you non-binary folks i love you radical acts of self love i love being trans i love being trans I LOVE BEING TRANS

[mackerelllll]

from @/vero_muerte on tiktok, PLEASE look up the original video!!!

found this video at <2000 likes and i NEED more people to see this because. yeah.