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i bought clothes online and they did not make me dysmorphic, hate myself, or any given combination of the above šš
#as a plus size person#i never find clothes that quite fit my body#especially with all the modesty standards and all that#but this dress ticks all of my boxes off#goes past my butt#long sleeves#loose and flowy#and doesn't make me look like a potato sack#anyway i haven't had that feeling from clothes in FOREVER so this is surprising#and i dread buying clothes anywhere#but especially online#zee stop using tumblr as your personal diary challenge
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trans women are everywhere and are so eager to be seen and heard but only if they feel safe around you. if you hardly ever have trans women interacting with you, especially online, then consider there might be a reason for that and you should address it
#the same thing happens with black people#black people are everywhere! especially online! black gay and black trans people!#but when your community is suspiciously devoid of them then theres something wrong and you need to acknowledge it#even if its not intentional you need to think about how theres minority groups who do not feel safe around you at face value#this is why loud and outright support and solidarity is so important#black people and trans people and etc minority groups will assume you are unsafe unless you explicitly state otherwise#you can't just sit there and say 'well they didnt approach us so its not our fault for not including them!'#like did you TRY to get them to approach you??#cy texts
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This might seem like an "old man yells at cloud" situation, but it's just wild growing up and being told how dangerous distracted driving is - how, at highway speeds, you can traverse the length of a football field (100 yards, 91 meters) in a matter of seconds - how one split second sending a text while driving could result in a potential fatal crash, and then getting on the road as a driver and being surrounded by billboards. Their entire purpose is to catch one's attention, so they're lining major roads, which tend to be highways. How is it that you're told how important it is to never be distracted while driving, but still being advertised to?
At best, this type of advertising is an eyesore to pedestrians and motorists and a general waste of electricity to light it, and at worst, it is an active danger considering they are there to advertise and therefore, must catch people's attention.
I'm not even against advertising in theory, but this particular mode bothers me so much and I hate how pervasive it is - especially in large cities or highways.
#politics#i don't know much about sĆ£o paulo banning marketing billboards but on paper i want that here in the USA#as a motorist it at best just makes me more anxious driving in those larger cities because i want to FOCUS ON THE ROAD#and passing 5000 billboards per mile isn't helping actually!#i've gotten good at filtering that out of my FOV but it's still fucking exhausting lol#i especially hate those modern electric billboards. despise them actually#i am aware that advertising is a critical aspect to business management in some cases...#...but it shouldn't risk the safety of the populous for you to advertise to them and i see things like billboards as risking safety...#...i feel similarly about online advertising in that so much of it risks internet user's safety...#...such as flashing ads online which risk triggering epileptic seizures in light/photo-sensitive folks#distracted driving (texting): NO >:( || distracted driving (being advertised to): YAYYYY :D#i've been driving on my own for a few years now and i've been thinking about this for ENTIRELY too long
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ngl one of the most useful things iāve internalized from doing art online is never tell people what to criticize. donāt preemptively apologize for things or point out where you think you fumbled, itās just priming people to notice minor issues that might not actually matter and hit you where youāre sensitive and throw you off your game. donāt tell people your weak points. if itās a genuine problem theyāll point it out
#especially not if theyāre the professor grading your assignment!!!!!!!!!! feel so bad for my friend#i cant tell him it now bc itāll come across as mean but i feel so bad :( he kept apologizing for things he didnāt need to and it made him#seem unprepared. when he actually had 95% of what he needed and apologizing made it LOOK like he didnāt#textāØ#iām making it sound very dramatic here but itās straight up helped me so much with my anxiety#the above doesnāt apply if youāre looking for constructive criticism kr any thing#iām very specifically talking about stuff like posting art online or giving a presentation or whatever
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4 MINUTES (2024) I EP. 6 & EP. 7 "You're still afraid of dogs."
#4 minutes#4 minutes the series#uservix#userfaiza#userrlaura#userrlana#great x tyme#greattyme#do you remember everything about that one kid you met once or are you normal?#what's this behavior tyme huh?#also when they're adults this moment between is so bittersweet bc it's a glimpse into the romance that could have been#my theory is that the flashback was tyme remembering when they met as kids#and realising that he has ruined everything by treating great quite horribly#i mean my guy spent the night with great recorded it and posted it online..... so yeah he fucked up#and he has especially tainted this sweet childhood memory#mywork
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it's kind of baffling to me that entire sub-groups of queer folks endured a decade of being singled out and targeted for being asexual, aromantic, bisexual, pansexual, nonbinary, polyamorous, etc. and i have yet to see any substantial apologies from people who were directly responsible for causing genuine harm. i find it completely bizarre that there are so many people who want to sweep their past contributions to widespread lateral aggression toward specific queer groups under the rug like it didn't happen so they can wash their hands of it... there are people who are irreversibly traumatized because of this. there are people who took their lives because of it.
i'm wording the post like despite the fact that exclusionism targeting these groups (and more) continues to persist partly because it was a really frighteningly common trend to harass people just because they were ace, aro, bi, pan, nonbinary, poly, etc... and it's crazy to me that many of the people who were affected by this massive multi-pronged public online bullying campaign against the 'unacceptable types of queers' are the ones still receiving messages like "my url got put on an aphobe blocklist in 2016 because apparently a post i made making fun of asexuals got some teenage asexuals harassed and i still distrust asexuals to this day because of that" ...are you fucking kidding me?
we will never achieve any kind of unity as a queer community while we are insisting upon ignoring the hurt that lateral aggression has caused, and acting like the burden lies on the shoulders of the people who were harmed to forgive the people who harmed them and 'just move on', many of whom are not sorry for what they did! or they don't consider what they did to be wrong! how is that not deeply disturbing and troubling to more of you?
03/06/2024 edit: iām putting a complete moratorium on this post because i am really sick and tired of having my point not only completely misconstrued and distorted entirely but also weaponized against transfems (particularly in replies i have decided to delete about how āugh yes, exclusionism, and now transfems are bullying transmascsā) i find that really sickening and iām demanding that it stop, and i can make it stop by turning off reblogs. so i have.
my objective in writing this post was never to request an apology from people who have been laterally-aggressive exclusionists in the past. i donāt think weāll ever get more than a handful of apologies from those people, anyway. my point was that it was pretty terrifying to witness and experience a lot of lateral aggression that transferred from the real, in-person world to the deeply online spaces back into the real, in-person world in a really fucked up feedback loop and being a young queer person during this time and having that shape me, snd shape the experiences of my queer friends who have been traumatized by it.
however, it is absolutely unacceptable to me that the issue of transmisogyny is so blatantly overlooked by our entire community. for decades, transfems have experienced oppression and exclusion from transmisogyny-exempt women and queers. their exclusion from political queer liberation movements has caused many of the major schisms within our community we are still having arguments about to this day. if you want collective queer liberation, you must uplift transfems. there is no other option. you donāt get to write off all transfems just because one person who happened to be transfem was mean to you online or something.
i have answered and responded to way too many conspiracy-brained transmisogynist reactionaries to allow this post to keep fucking snowballing with people writing paragraphs in the tags about ātransmisandryā or ātransandrophobia.ā please get your heads out of your asses.
this absolutely is the transmisogyny website, as always, and the place where all basic textual comprehension skills go to die, apparently.
#and we wonder why the fuck this site has such a massive transmisogyny problem#don't think i wasn't there when you were harassing and bullying my pan and aspec transfem friends#the way that trans people with any of these labels were excluded from being 'allowed' to call themselves queer...#literally on that basis. and had their transness ignored completely or invalidated.#i hope we're at a place now in 2024 where we can remember and accept that trauma happening online doesn't make it less traumatic#the damage that it did to so many of my friends and myself to be told over and over again we didn't count as queer#while actively being abused and beaten and harassed by queerphobes in our real day to day lives#extra especially for those of us who had to grow up rurally and/or disabled whose portal/lifeline to queer culture of any kind was online
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Shen Yuan getting transported into pidw isn't "the system punishing him for being a lazy internet hater," but instead representative of "step 1 of the creative process: getting so mad at something you decide to go write your own fucking book" in this essay I will
#svsss#scum villian self saving system#shen qingqiu#shen yuan#the fact that people think scum villain#-a series that examines and criticizes common tropes in fiction-#is somehow against criticism or being a little hater is wild to me#especially since shen qingqiu never gets punished for being a hater#heck- he's still a little hater by the end of the series#he mostly gets punished for treating life like a play and like he and the people around him are characters#(or in other words- he suffers for denying his own wants and emotions and his own sense of empathy)#I think some of y'all underestimate how much writing/art is inspired by creaters being little haters#like example off the top of my head-#the author of Iron Widow has been pretty vocal about the book being inspired by their hatred of Darling in the Franxx#I think my interpretation of Shen Yuan's transmigration is also supported by the fact that this series is an examines writing processes#side note- though i understand why people say Shen Yuan is lazy and think its a valid take it still doesnt sit right with me#i am probably biased because my own experiences with chronic pain and depression and isolation#but ya- i dont think Shen Yuan is lazy so much as he is deeply lonely and feels purposeless after denying parts of himself for 20ish years#like yall remember the online fandom boom from covid right?#being stuck completely alone in bed while feeling like shit for 20 days straight does shit to your brain#the fact that no one came to check on him + he wasn't exactly upset about leaving anyone behind supports the isolation interpretation too#+in the skinner demon arc he describes his life of being a faker/inability to stop being a faker now that he's Shen Qingqiu#as āso bland he's tempted to throw salt on himselfā and āall he could do is lay around and wait for deathā (<-paraphrasing)#bro wants to be doing stuff but is stuck in paralysis from repeatedly following scrips made by other people#another point on āShen Yuan isnāt lazyā is just the sheer amount of studying that man does#also he did graduate college- how lazy can he really be#he doesnt know what hes doing but he at least tries to actively train his students#and he actually works on improving his own cultivation + spends quite a bit of time preping the mushroom body thing#+he's experiencing bouts of debilitating chronic pain throughout all this#but ya tldr: Shen Yuan's transmigration is an encouragement to write and not a punishment and also i dont think its fair to call him lazy
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#angry feminist#feminicide#especially tough week#Iām French tho Iām following the trial of the husband & 51 (they could identified on the videos theyāre much more)#and what theyāre saying to justify themselves (like Ā«Ā the husband gave consent or I thought she was just asleep) make me SICK and what men#are commenting online about this case like they donāt buy it and the classic Not All Men šš¤¬š¤¢#the husband said that only 3 out of 10 men refused (and none reported it) to come r*pe his unconscious wife..#men from all ages professions one was a neighbour one had HIV and went back multiple times š¤¬š¤¢ lots have wives & kids some had previous#r*pe convictions (one against in own daughter) and lots were caught with possession of child p*#your boyfriend your friend your ex your husband your relative your neighbor your doctor your teacherā¦#weāre never safe#Iām so tired but still ENRAGED#feminism#femicide#misogyny#crimes against women#violence against women
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ultimately i think my insistence on aro positivity honestly is as much a political stance as a personal one.
when i say aro positivity is crucial and that i dislike doomer-ist posts that express sentiments like 'I hate being aro so much I wish I was dead insteadā it's not because I donāt think there can and should be a space for negativity and acknowledging self-hate, or the many ways being aromantic can really suck sometimes. i find that to be very important!
that being said. there is smth here about how self-hate posts are sometimes just arophobia that we inflict on ourselves. and when we put that out into the ether it (intentionally or not) can become arophobia that we inflict on other members of the community. i think there absolutely needs to be a place for negativity and the expression of anger and frustration and self loathing even - these are all good things to talk about because these are things that we experience. that being said, it can also be genuinely upsetting and triggering to people to have what is essentially arophobia shown to them and then have that be validated by other aspec people. your personal thoughts can affect your wider community on a level you may not anticipate. and i understand it i truly do! it took me so long to be able to recover from accepting being aroace - it threw my entire world off kilter and made me question everything about my place in the world.
but my insistence on aro joy and positivity is because ultimately i do believe that building is at the core essence of it all. that ultimately discussions and the purpose of community should be about construction, not destruction. and this is both a personal and a political stance. talking about how much you hate yourself and cultivating online discussions/spaces where negativity about aspec identity is the main and only theme is destructive - if thatās where we let the conversation end. these thoughts can and should be used as a vehicle to look for a path forward!
joy and positivity create a space where the focus can become on forging a path forward, on construction, on community building instead of tearing ourselves and others down with negative thoughts. itās not productive or healthy when it stops at a place of negativity - it becomes actively destructive to the essence of community.
and i do think that this is especially poignant considering the fact that being any kind of queer, but especially aromantic (and/or asexual) means forging a path for yourself and making your own happiness where there is no obvious way forward. our communities exist mostly online (right now, anyway), there is little recognition of our existence in the real world, the effects of amatonormativity are both pervasive and actively dehumanising, and there are legal, economic and social structures in place actively making our lives more difficult. yes that all sucks! itās good to acknowledge that. we need to in order to change it. but more importantly, thatās not the end. we are still here and our happiness, our future is for us to determine. even if we canāt change the laws or society, loving yourself and understanding aromanticism as a political identity (as well as personal), as a radical worldview, and as a protest against amatonormativity is essential for both community and personal well being. the personal is political.
tldr. i guess my point is that as a community, we should focus on building, improving, and nurturing ourselves and each other (construction) as opposed to destruction. we should recognise aromanticism and asexuality as political identities as well as personal ones and rely on community and self-love in the absence of anything else as a form of protest and political power. destruction (the recognition of everything that is wrong) is essential as a starting point - but where do we go from there? we rebuild.
#aromantic#aro positivity#aspec#aroace#aro#aromantic joy#arospec#when i saw its important to 'love' yourself - pls understand i am in no way trying to exclude loveless aros from this#that was just the easiest way to express what i meant! when i say 'love' i mean positivity/respect/happiness. etc. i just used that word bc#it works for ME which is why i said it. but feel free to replace it with whatever works for you! <2#also sorry if not everything im saying makes total sense i tried my best#this is something ive been thinking about for a while and have been struggling to articulate#i maybe should have read some theory for this abt community building but im too tired + overwhelmed w school reading right now so sorry.#if anyone has additions on that front though please do add them#also ngl im kinda scared to post this. i hope i explained what i mean well enough. like i get wanting to vent and express self hate BUT.#there is nuance to this and it is not unilaterally healthy i think. also i dont see any other online community fostering the normalisation#of selfhate the way the aspec one does! which makes me feel weird abt it especially.#anyway. this is basically my personal philosophy towards aromanticism#mossy posts#āļø
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Something I miss from earlier eras of the creative side of the internet was things just being unabashedly low-budget. Just all unashamedly amateur, unprofessional, āI donāt own a good camera but I have a story to tell youā, āI canāt afford a good mic but I have a song to sing for you,ā āI donāt have any kind of background in editing or lighting and I only just picked up this guitar last Tuesday but hereās an entire musical me and my friends wrote about our favourite book, we filmed it on a potato and put it up on YouTube in ten minute segments because we thought it was pretty funny.ā
#everything felt so much less like Content then#and as someone who wants to share creative stuff online#itās now incredibly daunting thinking about doing that bc#especially as a disabled person who canāt work full time#it feels almost impossible to extricate art from being Content#like thereās this immense pressure to produce things that could pass as professionally produced by a team of educated people#and to make smart decisions so that somehow eventually you can profit off your art#and instead of it being a āhey look at my silly little songā it becomes#competing in an over saturated market already dominated by the nepotism afforded by wealth and connections#and it feels like it would very difficult not to measure my personal satisfaction with how a certain piece of art turned out#by how much attention it got online#even though I genuinely have zero desire to be famous and it sounds like a complete nightmare#anyway Iām gonna have ice cream for dinner how about you guys#hmp42
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i don't like it when someone is easy to reach. when someone is open to everyone, when literally anyone can get their attention. it is a question of values āāand principles not to be open to everyone and not to have the need for everyone's attention. people who are easily available won't value soulful connections.
#that's something i think about a lot#the same goes for social media#can't take people serious who seek online validation#especially some men are easily to find behind the posts and likes of women#this makes someone clearly unattractive in my eyes#does someone understand what i am trying to say?#how less do you have to think of yourself to fill the void with VARIOUS people?#i like people who stand out#my writing#soul#letters
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It is so funny when people talk about how its embarrassing being in your late 20s/30s and still be on here blogging about stuff you like cuz I'm like just wait you're gonna get older and you're not gonna magically stop caring about the stuff you like or wanting to have fun online it literally is just the same but your back hurts more and you're more chill and like that's literally it . But you don't just magically at age like 26 say okay im done having hobbies that involve me being online. Unless maybe some people do I guess but that did not happen to me. I'm gonna be online til the day I die I think
#like i got online at 15 and im never leaving unfortunately#but especially like . im not having kids i dont gaf about my job why would i like grow Up and stop having fun online . having fun online is#as far as im concerned the meaning of life
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ģ“ģ ė“ź² źø°ė ķøķ ģ¬ģ“ė ė¼ // Now you can lean on me and rest in peace ģģ¤ķ ė ė“ ķģģ ź¼ ģģź² // I will hold you dear in my arms
#moonbin#moon bin#astro#*ambiv.art#here is my gift to you dear moonbin... to celebrate the joy you brought to your fans both on and off stage#and the millions of hearts that you have touched including mine. thank you .. i hope you sleep well šāļø#tonight is especially dark because there's a new moon in the sky....i knew this in my bones without even looking outside or checking online#(but i did anyways. and then i looked up that other date and it was the same...š)#to everyone who sees this... i'm hugging you firmly š please take care. it's lame but drink lots of water it really does help š„ŗ#caption is lyrics from sanha's solo Wish ā¹ļøš«¶#*1k#*2k#*3k
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actually blows my mind that at one point you could walk into a business with nothing but a resume in your hand, do a single interview and walk out with a job that pays you enough to be able to live a full life. what a world
#now its 3 online tests 4 interviews one trial run three work example 3 references all for min wage in hyper#inflation hell. theres no hope especially not for complete losers like me LOL and not in a self pitying way it is just a fact there isno#future
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So lately Iāve been seeing a lot of posts asking people to stop trying to make Odysseus look nice in their works cuz heās a āmessed-up person in the mythologyā. Your opinion is valid however I have but one thing to point out:
You want to know who started all this? Who started to āmake Odysseus look niceā in the first place?
Itās Homer. Itās nobody else but Homer himself.
A non-Homeric Odysseus would try to murder people out of his own interests. Heād murder Palamedes without remorse (and weād be cheering over this but itās a murder after all), heād attempt to murder Diomedes just to get the Palladium himself, heād volunteer to kill Astyanaxā¦meanwhile you wouldnāt find any mention of either Palamedes or Nauplius in Homerās poems, neither did he mention anything abt the Palladium heist (and Diomedes necessity did not happen until Cononās version), the death of Astyanax, the distribution of war prizes, etc. And all the details in the Odyssey seemed to deny the existence of Naupliusās vengeance at all, so Odysseus would not take any of the blame.
A non-Homeric Odysseus would be depicted as ācruel, treacherousā, meanwhile in book 10 of the Iliad Odysseus was not mentioned to have killed anyone during the marauding, neither did he promise Dolan anything at all. The negative interpretations are denied by these details subtly put by Homer.
A non-Homeric Odysseus would be widely known as a ācowardā for only shooting arrows from afar. But Homer gave him a spear and had him absolutely slaying in both the Iliad and the Odyssey. That part of Ajaxās speech was invalid already.
Most importantlyāa non-Homeric Odysseus would be having kids everywhere else, and the loyalty to his own wife as seen in the Odyssey is no where to be found. Meanwhile his lineage was a single-son line made by Zeus in the Odyssey, and his love for Penelope was one of his main drives, especially seen in book 5 of the Odyssey. He loved his family as a loving parentāsomething you donāt get to see in most of the non-Homeric writingsāfor most of the time they followed a different tradition indeed, in which Odysseus wasnāt half as nice as in the Odyssey.
TL;DR: in case you havenāt noticed, the characterization of the Homeric Odysseus was quite different from a non-Homeric version of Odysseus. Itās not that Homer didnāt know of the existence of other versionsāhe knew them too well, which is why in his version of the story, you donāt get to see any mention of them.
#and now hot take: your opinion is invalid cuz there isnāt supposed to be such a term as āniceā when describing a person#he did not join the war willingly and the war crimes he did were out of necessity#no god has judged him on these āwar crimesā so neither should you#not especially when youāre basing it on your modernized view of this matter while the ideology of heroes is so different in ancient times#there isnāt such a term as āniceā or ānot niceā when it comes to an Ancient Greek hero#theyāre complicated persons with feats on their shoulders and family of their own#tagamemnon#the iliad#the odyssey#homerās iliad#homerās odyssey#the epic cycle#homer#odysseus#epic the musical#tagging epic cuz Iāve seen such opinions directing at Epic!Odysseusābut how on earth was he a āniceā person#he did much horrible things in act 2 and isnāt that what you would like to see or did I smell double standards?#*shrugs* I do not direct this at anyoneājust at some specific opinions Iāve read online#anyways thereāll always be arguments but letās just agree on the fact that heās a grey character and he did stay grey in these adaptations#so fricking tired of these negative commentaries which are not constructive at all#LyculÄ« sermÅnÄs
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Joe's talking about streaming, profit, and scheduling right now.
They're talking about how they're a bit concerned about how undisciplined Hermitcraft is about scheduling group events and how that affects someone when they don't have the freedom to free up their schedule every time the event date changes, specifically talking about how how they're worried about creating a welcoming environment for Skizz who isn't in a place to leave his day job right now, therefore he can't just adjust everything for Hermitcraft.
They're also talking about how streaming makes their videos possible because YouTube videos don't pay much, but the tips on stream do. "[They've] been streaming since 2008 and [they're] not going to stop anytime soon." and how it's fine if you can't donate because those who can have been and are keeping it free for everyone else.
Gods, I love Joe's vibe.
#hermitblr#hermitcraft#joe hills#joehillssays#joehills#streaming#its a mix of chill fun and casual serious talk#its very human as ive mentioned before#people acknowledging flaws feel great especially in an online media like hermitcraft
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