#bullying tw //

[adorawasright]

ppl tend to act like you're exaggerating for disliking spop, since they love arguing "but it's a show about (romantic) love and redemption! you're just mad to see lesbians winning <3"

but the thing is, c//a ISN'T the only issue with spop.

it's all the "friendships" where the characters don't like each other OR WORSE, the "cool and popular" characters bully the ones that are "weird", "annoying" or "different" overall (read: entrapta and kyle).

most romantic relationships weren't written well or were downright forced, such as g/limbow, s/corfuma, and especially r/epkylonnie (rooted in bullying of all things!). even the healthier ships like s/pinnetossa or bow's dads were sidelined. they only gave spinnerella and netossa screentime in s5 bc they wanted to parallel them with adora and catra.

the diversity isn't even that good, honestly. the characters of color receive little to no love from the show and from the fandom. BOW, my god, he's not only the black best friend character, he also has no meaningful character arc. he's just there for the plot, he changes his personality and morals when the plot wants him to (especially to make catra look better). although glimmer was probably one of, if not THE best character in the show (saying this with s4 in mind), sadly s5 only shoved her with bow romantically since they were reduced to wingmen and not adora's actual best friends. and if i talk about the other characters of color, such as micah and castaspella, we'll be here all day, and i've written about it in other posts.

other than that, disabled characters (hordak and shadow weaver) are the villains, the canonical trans/non-binary character was deceiving the good guys by pretending to be a little girl, the themes of war were never taken srsly, only when it was convenient, and in the end the creator dared to sum everything up by "it's catra's and adora's show!!!".

yes, there were elements in spop that i loved, like the original best friends squad and entrapdak, and i liked the narrative of abuse when it DIDN'T spit on adora's face. i loved seeing her standing up to shadow weaver and catra for what she believed was right. like it was so inspiring! i would've loved this as a kid!

this show had so much potential but they teach the worst messages to kids, especially "they hit you because they secretly like you". that fucking sucks. i don't hate lgbtqiapn+ rep - the rep here is BAD. and again, the grievances ppl have with spop are BEYOND the romance!!!

[one-time-i-dreamt]

I was bullied horrendously for not knowing the correct way to address the Pope.

[sailor-brunette]

I am sick and tired of seeing shit takes from people about how characters like Sawako (Kimi ni Todoke) and Miyo (My Happy Marriage) are "unfeminist" because they're shy and soft-spoken. When Miyo is literally that way as a SURVIVAL TACTIC because SHE WAS FUCKING ABUSED And Sawako is showed to have social anxiety and the other kids are shown to kind of bully her. But both girls gain confidence and strength as both series progress. NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE TO BE STONE COLD BADASSES TO BE STRONG!!! Geez…

[anti-ao3]

I just hate the way people undermine the long term effects that bullying can have on someone. Abuse overall is never taken seriously, but I feel like bullying is a special case, especially if it happens in school, because everyone expects you to get over it since it's just "kids being kids" (or "boys being boys" more specifically).

Society acts like bullying won't affect adults. But adults can be bullied, whether in college, work, anywhere really. And teens who were bullied will likely struggle with a lot of traumatic responses when they grow up, such as hypervigilance, social anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts etc.

I'm just so tired of my trauma from bullying being neglected to this day. So many therapists tell me I'm just "brooding" - or that it isn't even bullying since it never got physical or too "obvious" - and that I should move on, except I never had any support when I was in school, and I still rarely get support as an adult.

Bullying should not be normalized. It should never be okay.

[uspa-chan]

[spop-romanticizes-abuse]

i'll say it. spop's whole running gag of bullies/abusers being all tsundere was not cute.

i'm talking about catra "affectionately" calling adora an idiot or saying “this is not because i like you”, as if she gave adora any reason to think that she actually likes her.

i'm talking about mermista "affectionately" calling entrapta a weirdo minutes after she treated entrapta like shit, and only accepts entrapta after she proves to be useful.

i'm talking about lonnie "affectionately" saying something along the lines of “we knew you'd go and mess it up like always” to kyle after all the times she bullied him.

it's not cute when an abuser/bully tries to act coy after mistreating someone, and insult them even more "as a form of affection".

playful insults and teasing can be endearing if it's a healthy relationship and the other person understands that it's just a joke. i'm not saying that calling someone an idiot or a weirdo is automatically an abusive thing.

but when you've always treated them like trash and your only way of showing affection is by demeaning them even more, you're just adding insult to the injury. it's not cute, it's just manipulative.

[uncanny-tranny]

I truly hope that the younger generation isn't being told that when they are being teased or bullied it's because their tormenter secretly likes them.

Somebody liking you doesn't mean they should smack you, pull your hair, tease you, berate you, call you names, make fun of your appearance, make fun of your cultural background or immigration status, or anything else. When you talk about these things, you deserve to be taken seriously. Being written off is a dangerous thing, especially if you are being bullied.

Bullying is not love or admiration.

[irondad-defensesquad]

in which the bullying particularly stings when peter messes up at the school lab, and flash mocks, "and you call yourself tony stark's intern".

in which peter genuinely believes he's not good enough to be in tony's lab - or hell, in tony's life at all.

[handjawab]

bullying tw

Note: This is heavily inspired by that scene with Flash Thompson and Peter Parker in the Amazing Spider Man movie.

bully!Bakugou who is self-aware...

He says the worst possible things to you regularly and is an expert at making you feel like shit. He prides himself in knowing what buttons to push and exactly when to push them to make you feel like you don't deserve to take up space. As a result, he's attentive so when you're hurting and it's not because of him, he's the first to notice. And he's... weird about it.

You've been moping around all day and Bakugou's just decided he's going to get to the bottom of it, "Oi. What the hell's wrong with you?"

You ignore him.

"Don't fucking ignore me. You know that just makes it worse."

"I'm just not in the mood today, Katsuki. Please."

"When are you ever in the mood, huh?"

'okay that's it," you get up and leave the room. He follows you. Because of course he does.

When you get to your class, he sits down right next to you and watches intently as you get your books out of your bag.

As the minutes pass, his presence starts to weigh on you. It was already difficult to breathe today, but he makes it worse. But you knew that; He never makes anything easier.

Before you fully realise what you're doing, you turn around, slap him across the face, and ask, "What the hell do you want from me?"

For a fraction of a second, a flash of murderous intent crosses his features but then his mouth opens slightly in what you assume is surprise and he puts a palm to his cheek, where you slapped him.

A couple seconds later, he relaxes his face, the corners of his mouth raising up slightly, "There we go... There she is," he coos, never taking his eyes off you.

You're stressed out and overwhelmed and you're tired of his shit (what's new). And the tears start streaming down your face. Because of course they do.

You're so fucking predictable and now you've slapped him.

Sure, he deserved it. But not today. You can't deal with another thing today.

You wipe at the tears violently, like you're trying to push them back into your eyes, anticipating what usually comes next: some wise-crack about you crying.

But he doesn't say anything. He just pulls your hands away from your face gently, like he's afraid he might break you.

He holds them away from your face and watches you struggle against yourself to collect your bearings. The tears don't fucking stop.

The scrutiny burns. He just stares at you. Expressionless. You should feel vulnerable but it feels like he's the vulnerable one in this situation — letting you see a version of him that's neither angry nor pissing you off.

He drops your hands and wipes the tears off your face with the sleeves of his t-shirt (futile action because they keep coming afterwards) and says, "do you want to skip class?"

You take a deep, ragged breath to avoid sounding shaky when you say, "yeah, that'd be nice"

He holds your hand like he's afraid to lose you in the crowd when he walks you through the corridors to an empty classroom.

"Sit down"

You don't react so he sighs and sits you down on a chair himself.

"and- stop crying for fuck's sake," he almost looks sheepish.

For some reason, you cry harder. You can't help it. You're hurting. He's being... strange and it's perplexing.

He rakes a frustrated hand through his hair leans back in his chair, and says, "okay. You have the floor. Cry. However long you need to."

[shamebats]

I recently remembered an incident when I decided to wear a basketball hat to school "as a joke" (I think I got it as some sort of merch & told my friend wouldn't it be funny if I wore it haha) to test the waters with how boyish I could dress I guess & got to many backhanded compliments & cruel remarks from the girls at school that I took it off and never wore it again bc I feared I would be completely socially ostracized & everyone would be talking about me behind my back even more than they already did. And somehow I still wonder why it took me until my late 20s to accept my transness...

[hmshermitcraft]

Zed used to be bullied when he was little - a lot.

He became more angry and spiteful in highschool. If you have no one close, no one will betray you, after all.

Somehow, the ITS managed to weasel their way into his heart.

They managed to make him smile again, eventually.

Zed stopped throwing punches against every threat. Started giggling and laughing with them.

It takes him a lot to eventually realize he's in love with them, and then tell them. Especially since they're laughing and- what. What do you mean you guys already knew?! Why didn't you guys tell me I was in love with you?! Skizz stop laughing I'm not cute-

The problem is that Zed is adorable. He can throw one hell of a punch (as each of them know) but he's so cute.

Him not realising he had a massive crush? Sorry, even cuter! They don't make the rules.

[adorawasright]

genuinely don't understand how media, especially kids media, tackles bullying. bc at first it clearly hurts the victim and destroys their self-esteem. but then for some fucking reason the media will be like "oh no but they bullied you bc they like you!" or "bc they are abused at home!" or "they're bullied too!". and like. the entire bullying ceases to exist later on when the bully is friends with the victim or worse, when they start dating. "you just have to know them better!" "they care deep down!"

THESE ARE RED FLAGS, STOP TEACHING THEM TO KIDS.

[one-time-i-dreamt]

My high school bully tried to kill me but my Digimon partner (I think it was either a Rust Tyranomon or a Dorbickmon) came in and bit her vagina.

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

tw bullying

suspected npd + ptsd + low self esteem culture is getting just a little bit more confident in yourself and then being a little more comfortable with asking people to do or not do xyz because you have a good reason. then being told "you just have to be the center of attention" and having flashbacks to grade school where your "friends" beat you black and blue for that reason.

but uh oh, my other biggest narc trait is that i self sacrifice for attention. you're watching tv really loud? no, it's fine, i have a migraine but wtv. oh, you wanted to talk about this subject? it's extremely triggering for me, but go on ahead! ...why the fuck aren't you asking if im okay. do i actually have to let myself have a breakdown over this fucking shit? im not that weak. im not that pathetic. why wont you notice me.

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[homunculusalphonse]

EDIT: i was informed raven molisee uses he/him pronouns! i'm sorry about that, please reblog this version instead.

so thanks to raven molisee (a previous storyboarder for steven universe) showing his concept art for horror club, we (aka me) can confirm that:

lars was thought to have borderline personality disorder (at least that's something raven particularly liked)

lars was bullied as a kid and he internalized it to the point where he can't take compliments srsly

and he's queer! (not a surprise to me though) and he dealt with internalized homophobia due to his bullies

apparently little ronaldo might have crushed on lars too

gosh that's so much lore and while i'm sad we didn't see more of it in the show, i just love how deep of a character lars is, as well as his friendship with ronaldo. i am being fed lmao.

[sweetdevilfangs]

i think i might have experienced bullying for being a therian for the first time today?? i wore my fingerless gloves with a paw pad design on the palms out to a fast food place, i know public gearing can be risky but i thought they were relatively stealth cuz they aren't big or furry or made of explicitly animal print fabric.

anyways, i walked into the restaurant and almost immediately i noticed these two 14-year-ish looking kids looking at me with these sort of Smirks on their faces, and i kind of hid my palms but they must have registered my gloves paws somehow anyways because a minute later they were standing near my table and one of them sang a lyric from "mr lonely" and the other meowed??? i heard one of them laughing when i took off my gloves to eat, and i also heard one of them howling from their table.

i didn't react much cuz i didn't wanna risk getting made fun of even more or even being recorded, but bullying makes me so angry and it kinda Soured The Vibes for the evening

didn't make me embarrassed exactly cuz i'm 25 and idc if 9th graders think i'm cringe but people giving me negative attention makes me feel so physically tired tbh and it made me like... conscious that even some "stealth" gear registers as being For Furries and i guess my stealth gear has to be even stealthier and more symbolic

it's less mean kids i'm worried about and more bigoted adults who will see animalistic traits as a proxy for being queer or neurodivergent or having specific spiritual beliefs (which like, i'm a queer trans autistic who does witchy stuff soooo)

love doing a harmless thing that makes me feel connected to my body and helps combat my depression and anxiety via species euphoria and then being given the feeling that at best i'll have draining negative social interactions for it and at worst i'll be genuinely unsafe.