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scretladyspider · 1 year ago
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Asexual and aromantic are not “spicy straight trying to be special LGBT”.
This argument, much like “you’re not really bi/pan if you are with someone of the opposite gender”, asks for visibly performative queerness then ignores the inherent queerness in these experiences.
If being straight is being allosexual, heterosexual, heteroromantic, alloromantic, and cisgender, all at once, then a person only needs to not be one of these to call themselves queer if they want to.
This always ruffles feathers, but..cishet isn’t the inherent opposite of queer.
Allosexual — not ace or under its umbrella
Alloromantic — not aro or under its umbrella
cisgender — aligning with your gender assigned/designated at birth
Heterosexual— sexual attraction to the opposite gender
Heteroromantic — romantic attraction to the opposite gender
If all aces and aros were cishet, which we’re not but just for the sake of this example, how would this detract from the queerness inherent in asexuality and aromanticism? Each are complex spectrums of a fundamentally different experience than the world teaches us we should have.
Aces, aros, and bi/pan people in “straight passing” relationships are often lumped into cishet as a way of delineating “not queer”, regardless of other factors. But this dismisses queerness and asks for specific, unnamed perimeters to be met for it to be recognized.
When presented with ways that experiencing little to no sexual attraction, or little to no romantic attraction, are in fact in opposition with the expectation for everyone to have both (allonormativity and amatanormativity or amanormativity respectively), people don’t accept it. Or rather, they don’t accept it as a thing on its own. Sometimes this means getting treated as if you’re just trying to be edgy, as if proclaiming you’re part of a marginalized group gives social media clout or something. Other times it’s just not treated as enough on its own by other queer people.
This happens in ace and aro spaces too. Cishet is used often as shorthand for “not queer”, directly pushing away aspecs who may be cishet and also ace and/or aro. It doesn’t seem intentionally exclusionary, but unintended exclusion is still exclusion.
This reflects, also, the expectation of performative queerness that is thrown at bi and pan persons both in and out of queer spaces. There are also many aces and aros who are bi and pan, and who may or may not be cisgender.
The reality however is there is no way to “perform” queerness that is satisfactory to all who demand it. The result this odd sort of existence where when one appears queer “enough”, that is used as weaponry against them, but when it isn’t, it’s used to exclude queer people from queerness.
And the real kicker is asexual and aromantic are enough. Bi/pan folks are still their orientation regardless of what their relationship looks like. Gender is it’s own thing, separate from the others, but related because this all ends up being a pile of queer identity spaghetti.
Regardless of how queer a person appears to you, or if you understand their individual experience… Ace is enough. Aro is enough.
The demand for performative queerness is used to try to defend from harm, but it ends up attacking anyone not visibly queer enough to the beholder.
We need to be more explicitly inclusive — especially in our own spaces, but also outside of them when talking about how queerness operates. If someone else’s queerness makes your idea of queerness more complicated, that’s not a bad thing. Learn from that, and let them be.
If you see someone is ace or aro and then see they’re more like you than you thought they could be, or that they don’t engage with it how you expected, that’s not a reason to be exclusionary. It’s a reason to try to expand what you include in your idea of queer.
Once, you needed someone to include you to feel comfortable in your queerness.
Set your ego aside and extend a hand to those you don’t quite understand. Be inclusive. Especially if someone’s relationship to their queerness challenges what you thought was possible.
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kitsu-katsu · 4 months ago
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A group of queers of all types is a pride
A group of aces is a deck
A group of aros is a quiver
A group of trans women is a code-camp
A group of enbies is a byte
A group of bi people is a tandem
A group of pan people is a panic
Thank you for coming to my wilderness documentary
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aroacesafeplaceforall · 6 months ago
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lumatotuwu · 6 months ago
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if you say any queer identity is not part of the lgbtq+ community, including but not limited to people with neopronouns, bi people who just happen to be in a straight relationship, and anyone on the ace or aro spectrum, i curse you with the gayest tapeworm you've ever seen
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justarandombrit · 2 months ago
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A teacher during sex ed in primary: Well, you may not like it now, but someday all the boys in this room will fall in love with a girl, and someday all the girls in this room will fall in love with a boy.
Me:
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theprideful · 2 years ago
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wiggly static pride wallpapers
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lesbian | gay
bi | trans
rainbow | pan
ace | aro
nonbinary | queer
please reblog if you save any! <3
more here (scroll)
some palettes used from these flag edits (thanks julien ☆)
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artsymeeshee · 1 month ago
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Been thinking about Lithro Stan recently
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bananapudding752 · 7 months ago
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reblog if you’re one of them queers 💪💪💪
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theartisticcrow · 6 months ago
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On this fine day, at 8:37 AM, I walked outside to the front of my school and saw that they replaced the Canadian flag, the flag of our country, with a Pride flag. I have never felt happier. I have never laughed so hard in my life. This is in not a complaint, I just think it's very funny that they replaced the Canadian flag with a Pride flag for no apparent reason. They have their priorities figured out.
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evils-corner · 6 months ago
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PRIDE KITTY PINS WAVE 2 IS UP FOR PRE-ORDER!!!!
Hello everyone!! Wave 1 of my pride kitties has been a huge success, and I'm happy to announce that wave 2 is in the works now!!
COMING TO THE SHOP LATE JUNE/EARLY JULY IS THE NONBINARY, PANSEXUAL, AROMANTIC, AROACE, MLM, AND RESTOCK OF BISEXUAL PINS!!!
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These pins are available for preorder now!! Production takes about 20~ days (give or take) and shipping takes about a week, so the hope is that they'll get here before the end of pride month!!
In the meantime I still have these pins below available now!! Gay, Lesbian, Asexual, and Trans!!
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FIND EM ALL IN MY SHOP BELOW!!!!
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vampyreblogger · 7 months ago
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this is about when you specificially recognised yourself as being queer, not the crush you had on elizabeth swan as a kid and didn't understand. been thinking abt this a lot recently and wanted to ask tumblr. i can predict the results but i'm still interested. please tell me the specific age in tags!
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jan-pi-suli-ala · 5 months ago
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remembering one time when i introduced someone i knew to tumblr not knowing he was homophobic. he’s still here and probably confused about why it’s so gay. daily reminder to make a homophobe angry by putting them on tumblr
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pansyboybloom · 10 months ago
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there's nothing wrong with being a man and wanting to sleep with men and not date them. it doesn't make you proof queer men are sex-crazed. there's nothing wrong with being a woman and wanting to sleep with women and not date them. it doesn't make you proof queer women are predatory. being alloaro doesn't make you a derogatory stereotype. you deserve respect, no matter what
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anarcho-catboyism · 2 months ago
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A lot of discourse could stop if y'all stopped approaching every situation with this idea that your experience is the default one
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isabellascarlett1 · 1 year ago
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Asexual folks are no “less Queer”.
Aromantic folks are no “less Queer”.
Bi/Mspec folks are no “less Queer”.
We’re all just as Queer as any other Queer person.
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cryaboutitpal · 5 months ago
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Lemme remind you all that the definition of 'queer' is literally 'odd'. Queer was and still sometimes is used as a synonym for 'odd'.
Gays are queer.
Lesbians are queer.
Bisexuals are queer.
Pansexuals are queer.
Nonbinary, genderfluid, agender and other genderqueer people are queer.
Intersex people are queer.
People who use neopronouns of any kind are queer
Transgender people, transfem or transmasc, are queer.
Asexuals are queer.
Aromantics are queer.
Aroaces are queer.
It doesn't matter what a person's sexuality, romantic interests or gender is. If it's not 'the norm', they are queer. It's the definition of the word for God's sake!
Be who you are, that's cool as shit.
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