#biologicallynormalinfantsleep

[responsiveparenting]

Them: “Your child is using your boob as a pacifier!” Me: “Well actually the boob came before the pacifier so it seems perhaps the pacifier is being used as a boob.” ⚠️ Not a judgement on pacifier use… just a different way to look at that old saying “they’re using your boob as a pacifier.” J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #coregulation #breastfeeding #clusterfeeding #biologicallynormalinfantsleep https://www.instagram.com/p/CUMKGXNsRhs/?utm_medium=tumblr

[fisherbodytalk]

Adult's have the prefrontal cortex development to think and rationalize a stressor which can stop the flow of stress signals. AKA- An adult can #selfsoothe . An infant does not have this capacity. The biggest myth in the #sleeptraining industry is that babies left to #settledown themselves are self soothing. Infants under the age of 3 DO NOT have the prefrontal cortex development and biological capacity to stop the stress signals. Infants REQUIRE a caregiver to co-regulate for them. Babies left alone while stressed enter a heightened unregulated state of stress and shut down. This freeze mode looks like falling asleep. Babies are not learning to self soothe as that is biologically impossible. Repeated activation of the stress circuitry = it is those pathways are the ones being wired into the foundation of brain development during this crucial time. This is where we need #informedconsent for #cio #controlledcrying sleep training. Chronic activity of this LHPA axis sets up the system to stay hyperactive leading to anxiety, stress and poor #mentalhealth long-term. Babies need someone to respond to them day and night. But that doesn't mean help isn't available. An #infantsleepeducator Like me can help set realistic expectations, trouble shoot issues and support you to support your baby day and night. #responsiveparenting #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsulting #sleepcoach #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #beyondsleeptraining #neuroscience #infantsleep #selfsoothing #sleepconsultant #stress (at Bedroom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CDc8lKnHXrr/?igshid=a3okfctv2ogm

[responsiveparenting]

#1 Reason Sleep Training Will Never Be In Line With Responsive Parenting… Regardless of sleep training method… whenever we see the child as the one who needs to change, we are not being child-led. This is at the core of our ethos. If you continue to see your child as the one who needs to change, than you will not have a child-centred view. This parenting approach is not just a list of tips and tricks. It requires a shift in perspective. Without that shift, responsive parenting will always seem like it’s “not working” because our perception of what “working” is may be different. The biggest misconception of sleep training is that it is the ONLY way to get more sleep and that is just simply not true. There are lots of responsive methods. We just don’t hear about them as often. Why? Because sleep training is supported by formula companies. It is known that sleep training works against breastfeeding needs and can negatively impact breastfeeding. Since formula companies are not allowed to market their formula anymore, they pour money into “sleep training research” and use this research to promote sleep training through websites such as Baby Centre. As a result of all this money being poured into the practice because it’s good for business and capitalism, resources supporting sleep training are drastically more accessible because formula companies have a lot more money than someone like me would have for marketing. Because my goal is to support you, not tell you all the things you’re doing wrong, my marketing strategy is less than effective lol. The gold standard for marketing is the fear-based marketing used by the sleep training industry. Continued in comments… #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #antisleeptraining #nosleeptraining #biologicallynormalinfantsleep https://www.instagram.com/p/CUK8QhMrLqu/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Convo with a friend that I wanted to share (yes I have permission) ❤️ #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #sleepybaby #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #sleepymama #parentingishard #allthefeelsareok #validateyourself #giveyourselfgrace https://www.instagram.com/p/CUKecUjLJiA/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

This sounds EXACTLY like my 7 month old!! Posted @withregram • @valerie.groysman ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #firsttimemom #firsttimeparent ⠀#fourmonthsold #fivemonthsold #sixmonthsold #sevenmonthsold⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #babyledsleep #babyfirsts #babysmilesarethebest #imakecutebabies #breastfeedingwithoutfear #postnatalcare #matleavelife #candidmotherhood #newbabyinthefamily #newbabygifts #naturalmama #normaliseinfantsleep #crunchymama #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #sleepbabysleep #nosleeptraining #nocryingitout #mamaneedsacoffee #sittingbaby #teethingbaby #crankybaby #sweetbaby #raisinglittles #responsiveparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CGVOr2mnOUo/?igshid=1xybk5z628jyf

[fisherbodytalk]

Consolidating sleep or "sleeping through the night" is to link sleep cycles together. Babies sleep in shorter cycles and spend much more time in light phases of sleep. This allows them to wake easier and more often. Which is essential for their safety. Using techniques that force them to sleep heavier or deeper is dangerous. Babies routinely wake in between cycles and require adult assistance to soothe them. Babies will naturally be able to link their cycles together and need less assistance as they develop. Sleep development is not linear and will be disrupted by developmental advances. As the brain develops the way baby experiences the world changes and it can be scary! Suddenly aware of distance and separation, person permanence. It's a lot to navigate! These times baby will be more clingy and need more support. Babies DO NOT need to be taught to sleep. They need to be supported until their biology gives them the capability to do it for themselves. #beyondsleeptraining #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsultant #sleepeducation #gentleparenting #transformationalparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CBGNvyxHT87/?igshid=5duqvb64ulzv

[fisherbodytalk]

By definition cosleeping is having 2 individuals sleeping within sensory range of each other. So essentially every parent will cosleep with their infant in one of it's diverse ways. Be it a bassinet in the parent's room or their bed. The term cosleeping often gets used interchangeably with the idea of sharing the same sleep surface with the child. This creates an issue as cosleeping is labeled as inherently dangerous whereas the reality is separate surface cosleeping is recommended for a minimum of 6 months, ideally the first year of life for safety. Sleeping with an infant on a couch, recliner, air mattress, water bed IS ALWAYS DANGEROUS. Bedsharing CAN be dangerous IF 1. Baby is bottle fed 2. Mattress is too soft, has Bedframes, gaps to walls or furniture where baby can get trapped. Bedding ,pillows in area or other hazards you would keep out of a crib (blind cords etc). 3. Adult is intoxicated or medicated 4. Baby is not full term or healthy. 5. Baby is overdressed/overheated, swaddled or not on their back. Breastsleeping, the beautiful dance of baby sleeping at the breast (not up near face & pillows- where a bottle fed baby wants to be) where the nursing person is attuned to the baby and naturally in a cuddle curl position can be inherently SAFE and within our natural biology. Breastfeeding is the essential key in safe bedsharing. #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #breastsleeping #cosleeping #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsultant #sleepsafe https://www.instagram.com/p/CBB2K3AHecQ/?igshid=q807d5xj03z9

[fisherbodytalk]

The Sleep training industry is based off the idea that there is certain rules to when and how baby naps. As well as how long they can be awake between naps. The problem is 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘳𝘶𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦'𝘴 𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴. ⁣ ⁣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐬 𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐧𝐚𝐩 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬!!⁣ We only have averages. Every baby is different and has different needs. Which is why as an #infantsleepeducator we recommend watching your baby's tired cues and not the clock. Each developmental milestone your baby reaches his/hers sleep needs will change. Research also shows that while naps are vitally important to integrating all the new skills and memories from the day there is no difference in the integration process between a nap that was 30 minutes long or 2 hours long. Some babies need longer naps and some are great with only 30 minutes. Some can manage really long awake stretches while others cannot. There is no one size fits all approach. Most babies will need parental co-regulation to link their sleep cycles together to make the sleep stretch longer. Young babies will often sleep best while in a carrier and that movement and connection 𝐢𝐬 beneficial to them. Solitary crib sleep is a modern ideology that doesn't fit with our mammalian biology.⁣ 𝘉𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘴 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮- 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱. ⁣ ⁣ Image From Sarah Ockwell-Smith's book: Why your baby's sleep matters. #infantsleepeducation #infantsleep #sleepconsultant #biologicallynormalinfantsleep https://www.instagram.com/p/CAadleBHXK-/?igshid=1bnr6kwbat60z

[fisherbodytalk]

FALSE! Waking at night is completely normal. Babies' sleep cycles are much different than adults. They spend much more time in REM and their cycles are shorter which means they're more often in light sleep where it is easy to wake from changes in the environment or dreams. These light cycles help to protect from SIDS. To consolidate sleep or to "sleep through the night" is to link their many short sleep cycles together. Adults will have 4-6 cycles per night whereas babies will have 12-16 cycles per night & 12-16 opportunities to wake up!! Babies often need parental co-regulation to move into the next cycle and remain asleep. The ability to link the cycles together and remain asleep without assistance is a developmental milestone just like crawling, that can't be rushed. Reliably being there to respond helps baby to develop independent sleep as they learn they are safe and sleep is a nice place to be. Studies show that sleep training methods in which parents stop responding to baby at night in order to "teach" them to go back to sleep themselves do not result in baby getting more sleep. Instead they just stop signaling for assistance and may just go into "freeze" state of the stress response. Shutting down which looks like going to sleep but Cortisol levels remain elevated. Babies are biologically unable to self soothe, they lack the development of the prefrontal cortex and hippocampus. The need comfort from an adult to stop the stress responses. Infancy (0-3y) is a time of immense neurological development and stress impedes that development. We can find ways to support both baby and parental sleep that doesn't include sleep training. Help is available! seek out a #infantsleepeducator like me for support. #beyondsleeptraining #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsultant #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #gentleparenting (at Joanne Fisher Family BodyTalk) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAYy0kUnN8A/?igshid=nkcp82houkb2

[fisherbodytalk]

Live Zoom class May 2 10:30a CST. Only $20CDN. Register at Fisherfamilybodytalk.com Learn why babies wake at night and why it's a part of healthy development. The science of sleep, attachment and development. Sleep safety, tools to use and so much more. #infantsleepeducation #prenatalcare #prenataleducation #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #saynotosleeptraining (at Zoom-Online) https://www.instagram.com/p/B_F38lbnzoD/?igshid=1qe3piy1v9p5m