#infantsleepeducation

[responsiveparenting]

We are pro-bedsharing just giving options for those who make a different choice, which we also support ❤️ 4 options for making responding to baby sleep needs easier, that does not involve sleeping on the same surface 1. Put your child’s crib beside your bed so you can easily respond to their needs, throughout the night. 2. Put a mattress beside your baby’s crib and respond to their needs, throughout the night. Once you feel too tired to continue to go back and forth from your room to theirs, you can camp out in their room for a bit, while you both get a little rest. 3. Use a firm adult mattress with a fitted sheet and nothing else, as your baby’s bed. When they wake up, you can go in, lay with them (nurse, cuddle) and then sneak off again, once they fall asleep. The room must be child proof with a video monitor, because the door usually needs to be closed. This option eliminates the transfer that is a common cause of disruptive sleep. 4. Take shifts with a partner. 2 long shifts are better then just taking turns, especially if breastfeeding back to sleep is not necessary. If you’re child is breastfeeding, the non-breastfeeding partner can just bring the baby to the breastfeeding parent, during their shift. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #newbaby #infantsleepeducation #parentingoptions #parentingchoices https://www.instagram.com/p/CVGBS_eA3Lt/?utm_medium=tumblr

[fisherbodytalk]

Adult's have the prefrontal cortex development to think and rationalize a stressor which can stop the flow of stress signals. AKA- An adult can #selfsoothe . An infant does not have this capacity. The biggest myth in the #sleeptraining industry is that babies left to #settledown themselves are self soothing. Infants under the age of 3 DO NOT have the prefrontal cortex development and biological capacity to stop the stress signals. Infants REQUIRE a caregiver to co-regulate for them. Babies left alone while stressed enter a heightened unregulated state of stress and shut down. This freeze mode looks like falling asleep. Babies are not learning to self soothe as that is biologically impossible. Repeated activation of the stress circuitry = it is those pathways are the ones being wired into the foundation of brain development during this crucial time. This is where we need #informedconsent for #cio #controlledcrying sleep training. Chronic activity of this LHPA axis sets up the system to stay hyperactive leading to anxiety, stress and poor #mentalhealth long-term. Babies need someone to respond to them day and night. But that doesn't mean help isn't available. An #infantsleepeducator Like me can help set realistic expectations, trouble shoot issues and support you to support your baby day and night. #responsiveparenting #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsulting #sleepcoach #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #beyondsleeptraining #neuroscience #infantsleep #selfsoothing #sleepconsultant #stress (at Bedroom) https://www.instagram.com/p/CDc8lKnHXrr/?igshid=a3okfctv2ogm

[responsiveparenting]

Should I start a bedtime routine for my baby? Generally, going with the flow and following your child’s cues is considered optimal for infant development. What you can do is start a “nighttime” routine, instead of a bedtime routine so the expectation of sleep at a certain time is not part of it. You may choose a combination of dimming the lights, giving a bath, massage, PJ’s, books, songs, affirmations, turning on sleep music/sounds, nursing/feeding, cuddling, rocking, whatever works. You could even include a walk, baby carrier time or quiet play time. If both parents want to be involved in the nighttime routine, this is a good time to establish specific roles. This allows for individual bonding time with each parent and a “break” for each parent too. #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #bedtime #sleep #infantsleep #infantsleepeducation #parenthood #parenting #sleeproutine #sleepybabies #cuddleswithbae #cuddles #readtoyourkids #nightimeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CSK6E7YHjC3/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

4 options for making responding to baby sleep needs easier, that does not involve sleeping on the same surface 1. Put your child’s crib beside your bed so you can easily respond to their needs, throughout the night. 2. Put a mattress beside your baby’s crib and respond to their needs, throughout the night. Once you feel too tired to continue to go back and forth from your room to theirs, you can camp out in their room for a bit, while you both get a little rest. 3. Use a firm adult mattress with a fitted sheet and nothing else, as your baby’s bed. When they wake up, you can go in, lay with them (nurse, cuddle) and then sneak off again, once they fall asleep. The room must be child proof with a video monitor, because the door usually needs to be closed. This option eliminates the transfer that is a common cause of disruptive sleep. 4. Take shifts with a partner. 2 long shifts are better then just taking turns, especially if breastfeeding back to sleep is not necessary. If you’re child is breastfeeding, the non-breastfeeding partner can just bring the baby to the breastfeeding parent, during their shift. BTW NO PILLOWS IN CRIBS (I didn’t notice that when I made the graphic 🤦‍♀️) J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #newbaby #infantsleepeducation #parentingoptions #parentingchoices https://www.instagram.com/p/CS4pIudHrtl/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Little insiders secret… no judgement on those who have chosen to sleep train… Many parents swear by it…. I just like to be informed consumer so I thought I would pass this info on in case you are falling victim to the fear-based marketing trap. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #insidersecrets #infantsleepeducation #sleepybaby #parentsupport #naturalsleep #attachment #cosleeping #bedsharing #nursetosleep #contactnaps #snugglybaby https://www.instagram.com/p/CRMtJhPndrD/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Should I start a bedtime routine for my baby? Generally, going with the flow and following your child’s cues is considered optimal for infant development. What you can do is start a “nighttime” routine, instead of a bedtime routine so the expectation of sleep at a certain time is not part of it. You may choose a combination of dimming the lights, giving a bath, massage, PJ’s, books, songs, affirmations, turning on sleep music/sounds, nursing/feeding, cuddling, rocking, whatever works. You could even include a walk, baby carrier time or quiet play time. If both parents want to be involved in the nighttime routine, this is a good time to establish specific roles. This allows for individual bonding time with each parent and a “break” for each parent too. #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #bedtime #sleep #infantsleep #infantsleepeducation #parenthood #parenting #sleeproutine #sleepybabies #cuddleswithbae #cuddles #readtoyourkids #nightimeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CPR33osnNCJ/?utm_medium=tumblr

[responsiveparenting]

Should I start a bedtime routine for my baby? Generally, going with the flow and following your child’s cues is considered optimal for infant development. What you can do is start a “nighttime” routine, instead of a bedtime routine so the expectation of sleep at a certain time is not part of it. You may choose a combination of dimming the lights, giving a bath, massage, PJ’s, books, songs, affirmations, turning on sleep music/sounds, nursing/feeding, cuddling, rocking, whatever works. You could even include a walk, baby carrier time or quiet play time. If both parents want to be involved in the nighttime routine, this is a good time to establish specific roles. This allows for individual bonding time with each parent and a “break” for each parent too. #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #bedtime #sleep #infantsleep #infantsleepeducation #parenthood #parenting #sleeproutine #sleepybabies #cuddleswithbae #cuddles #readtoyourkids #nightimeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CMZ21ipnApE/?igshid=1eqoierlpk3g9

[responsiveparenting]

Should I start a bedtime routine for my baby? Generally, going with the flow and following your child’s cues is considered optimal for infant development. What you can do is start a “nighttime” routine, instead of a bedtime routine so the expectation of sleep at a certain time is not part of it. You may choose a combination of dimming the lights, giving a bath, massage, PJ’s, books, songs, affirmations, turning on sleep music/sounds, nursing/feeding, cuddling, rocking, whatever works. You could even include a walk, baby carrier time or quiet play time. If both parents want to be involved in the nighttime routine, this is a good time to establish specific roles. This allows for individual bonding time with each parent and a “break” for each parent too. #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #bedtime #sleep #infantsleep #infantsleepeducation #parenthood #parenting #sleeproutine #sleepybabies #cuddleswithbae #cuddles #readtoyourkids #nightimeparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CIUQqjun__Y/?igshid=zze0v8l9v2nk

[fisherbodytalk]

When a child has a behaviour you don't like the go-to mainstream parenting mindset is to just pull our attention and ignore it or to react and discipline immediately. Most often a time out. To parent consciously is to always pause and look at how your own energy, beliefs and behaviours are influencing the situation. To see that behaviour is communication of a need. If they are acting out to get attention removing attention will only make the root issue worse. Their need for positive connection needs to be filled. Time outs must become a thing of the past! To leave the child to navigate big feelings alone only teaches them to shut down and not feel them because they are too overwhelming. The thing a child needs most is to know they are loved unconditionally and the connection is secure. In Time outs you removing them from your connection and leaving them alone and lost in those big emotions. Lessons cannot be learned when your a drowning in emotions, you first need to be their lifeguard! Navigating emotions is a skill that needs to be learned and is developmental. Until age 3 and there is leaps in development of the prefrontal cortex, babies and children NEED parental co-regulation to turn off stress signals. We connect and then redirect. Age 3 and beyond they are then ready to be taught emotional regulation skills. Children cannot learn when in the right brain and flooded with emotions, teaching appropriate behaviour must but done outside of the emotionally charged situation and both are calm and connected. As @buildgreatminds Rhea always says "footnote" the behaviour to be addressed later when in a teachable space. As an #infantsleepeducator I will tell you this applies to sleep training too. Removing your attention from a signalling baby is not teaching them the skills to regulate their emotions-only shut the off and repress them!! #consciousparenting #postiveparenting #nomoretimeouts #infantsleepeducation #cio #sleepconsulting #sleeptraining #timeout #eq #gentleparenting #gentlesleep #selfsoothing #emotionalintelligencecoach #emotionalintelligence #security #unconditionallove (at Joanne Fisher Family BodyTalk) https://www.instagram.com/p/CDCtf8XH9E4/?igshid=q7nx2ggbvhlj

[fisherbodytalk]

How does this apply to conscious parenting? My practice is a combination of energy medicine and parental support/Education. In the #lawofattraction and #consciousnessbasedmedicine we work from the philosophy that every is energy and everything has a vibratory frequency and #quantummechanics in which something only exists if it is consciously observed. So this concept works for some areas but not always in parenting... So when our child has a behaviour you don't like the go to mainstream parenting mindset is to just pull our attention and ignore it or to react and discipline immediately. To parent consciously is to always pause and look at how your own energy, beliefs and behaviours are influencing the situation. To see that behaviour is communication of a need. If they are acting out to get attention removing attention will only make the root issue worse. Their need for positive connection needs to be filled. Time outs must become a thing of the past! To leave the child to navigate big feelings alone as that only teaches them to shut down and not feel them because they are too overwhelming. Navigating emotions is a skill that needs to be learned and is developmental. Until age 3 and there is leaps in development of the prefrontal cortex, babies and children NEED parental co-regulation to turn off stress signals. We connect and then redirect. Age 3 and beyond they are then ready to be taught emotional regulation skills. Children cannot learn when in the right brain and flooded with emotions, teaching appropriate behaviour must but done outside of the emotionally charged situation and both are calm and connected. As @buildgreatminds Rhea always says "footnote" the behaviour to be addressed later when in a teachable space. As an #infantsleepeducator I will tell you this applies to sleep training too. Removing your attention from a signalling baby is not teaching them the skills to regulate their emotions-only shut the off and repress them!! #consciousparenting #postiveparenting #nomoretimeouts #infantsleepeducation https://www.instagram.com/p/CCRIijmH_bR/?igshid=110poiy8fqrv0

[fisherbodytalk]

A 2013 study by Douglas & Hill from the Journal of Developmental and Behavioral pediatrics shows the high risks to using sleep training strategies in babies under 6 months. Research DOES support responsive parenting day and night while keeping baby in parent's room for ideally 12 months, minimally 6 months. Baby waking at night is not a problem to be fixed, it is normal developmental biology. Sleep training practices are outdated and go against modern science of infant development. #beyondsleeptraining #infantsleepeducation #infantsleep #sleepconsultant #sleepsafe #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting (at Joanne Fisher Family BodyTalk) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBMPjT_HLz8/?igshid=1qb1dbo3cpoly

[fisherbodytalk]

Consolidating sleep or "sleeping through the night" is to link sleep cycles together. Babies sleep in shorter cycles and spend much more time in light phases of sleep. This allows them to wake easier and more often. Which is essential for their safety. Using techniques that force them to sleep heavier or deeper is dangerous. Babies routinely wake in between cycles and require adult assistance to soothe them. Babies will naturally be able to link their cycles together and need less assistance as they develop. Sleep development is not linear and will be disrupted by developmental advances. As the brain develops the way baby experiences the world changes and it can be scary! Suddenly aware of distance and separation, person permanence. It's a lot to navigate! These times baby will be more clingy and need more support. Babies DO NOT need to be taught to sleep. They need to be supported until their biology gives them the capability to do it for themselves. #beyondsleeptraining #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsultant #sleepeducation #gentleparenting #transformationalparenting https://www.instagram.com/p/CBGNvyxHT87/?igshid=5duqvb64ulzv

[fisherbodytalk]

By definition cosleeping is having 2 individuals sleeping within sensory range of each other. So essentially every parent will cosleep with their infant in one of it's diverse ways. Be it a bassinet in the parent's room or their bed. The term cosleeping often gets used interchangeably with the idea of sharing the same sleep surface with the child. This creates an issue as cosleeping is labeled as inherently dangerous whereas the reality is separate surface cosleeping is recommended for a minimum of 6 months, ideally the first year of life for safety. Sleeping with an infant on a couch, recliner, air mattress, water bed IS ALWAYS DANGEROUS. Bedsharing CAN be dangerous IF 1. Baby is bottle fed 2. Mattress is too soft, has Bedframes, gaps to walls or furniture where baby can get trapped. Bedding ,pillows in area or other hazards you would keep out of a crib (blind cords etc). 3. Adult is intoxicated or medicated 4. Baby is not full term or healthy. 5. Baby is overdressed/overheated, swaddled or not on their back. Breastsleeping, the beautiful dance of baby sleeping at the breast (not up near face & pillows- where a bottle fed baby wants to be) where the nursing person is attuned to the baby and naturally in a cuddle curl position can be inherently SAFE and within our natural biology. Breastfeeding is the essential key in safe bedsharing. #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #breastsleeping #cosleeping #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsultant #sleepsafe https://www.instagram.com/p/CBB2K3AHecQ/?igshid=q807d5xj03z9

[fisherbodytalk]

Baby had been held and rocked to sleep everytime in the womb and is accustomed to that care.⁣ ⁣ Does that mean it's a habit we need to break? As an infant sleep educator we say No! That's False! Pacifiers, Holding, nursing, rocking baby down to sleep are 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘱𝘴 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐬. Babies needs external comfort!! ⁣ Babies do but have the developmental capabilities to turn off their stress responses. They need co-regulation from an attuned, regulated caregiver. Without assistance baby will stay flooded in stress hormones. As an #infantsleepeducator we understand that each time a neural pathways is activated it wires it in stronger. 𝐁𝐲 𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐞. ⁣ Creating a foundation for heathy mental and emotional health for a lifetime. We recommend having multiple ways of soothing baby to sleep. It is when a baby will only go down one way (nursing for example) that the caregiver will experience burnout. As baby's sleep cycles, circadian rhythms and brain mature they will naturally need less assistance. I like the saying "𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶" and give them what the need now without worrying about the future. They won't need this support for long, so cuddle them, hold them and assist them to go to sleep. Their long term development thrives on this connection and comfort. ⁣ ⁣ #infantsleepeducation #beyondsleeptraining #gentleparenting #sleepconsultant #babyneeds #babyledsleepandwellbeingspecialist #saynotosleeptraining https://www.instagram.com/p/CAgbUMTnfRd/?igshid=ktjw0fw6ss0p

[fisherbodytalk]

The Sleep training industry is based off the idea that there is certain rules to when and how baby naps. As well as how long they can be awake between naps. The problem is 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘳𝘶𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦'𝘴 𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴. ⁣ ⁣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐬 𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐧𝐚𝐩 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬!!⁣ We only have averages. Every baby is different and has different needs. Which is why as an #infantsleepeducator we recommend watching your baby's tired cues and not the clock. Each developmental milestone your baby reaches his/hers sleep needs will change. Research also shows that while naps are vitally important to integrating all the new skills and memories from the day there is no difference in the integration process between a nap that was 30 minutes long or 2 hours long. Some babies need longer naps and some are great with only 30 minutes. Some can manage really long awake stretches while others cannot. There is no one size fits all approach. Most babies will need parental co-regulation to link their sleep cycles together to make the sleep stretch longer. Young babies will often sleep best while in a carrier and that movement and connection 𝐢𝐬 beneficial to them. Solitary crib sleep is a modern ideology that doesn't fit with our mammalian biology.⁣ 𝘉𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘴 𝘤𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮- 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘭𝘦𝘦𝘱. ⁣ ⁣ Image From Sarah Ockwell-Smith's book: Why your baby's sleep matters. #infantsleepeducation #infantsleep #sleepconsultant #biologicallynormalinfantsleep https://www.instagram.com/p/CAadleBHXK-/?igshid=1bnr6kwbat60z

[fisherbodytalk]

FALSE! Waking at night is completely normal. Babies' sleep cycles are much different than adults. They spend much more time in REM and their cycles are shorter which means they're more often in light sleep where it is easy to wake from changes in the environment or dreams. These light cycles help to protect from SIDS. To consolidate sleep or to "sleep through the night" is to link their many short sleep cycles together. Adults will have 4-6 cycles per night whereas babies will have 12-16 cycles per night & 12-16 opportunities to wake up!! Babies often need parental co-regulation to move into the next cycle and remain asleep. The ability to link the cycles together and remain asleep without assistance is a developmental milestone just like crawling, that can't be rushed. Reliably being there to respond helps baby to develop independent sleep as they learn they are safe and sleep is a nice place to be. Studies show that sleep training methods in which parents stop responding to baby at night in order to "teach" them to go back to sleep themselves do not result in baby getting more sleep. Instead they just stop signaling for assistance and may just go into "freeze" state of the stress response. Shutting down which looks like going to sleep but Cortisol levels remain elevated. Babies are biologically unable to self soothe, they lack the development of the prefrontal cortex and hippocampus. The need comfort from an adult to stop the stress responses. Infancy (0-3y) is a time of immense neurological development and stress impedes that development. We can find ways to support both baby and parental sleep that doesn't include sleep training. Help is available! seek out a #infantsleepeducator like me for support. #beyondsleeptraining #infantsleepeducation #sleepconsultant #biologicallynormalinfantsleep #gentleparenting (at Joanne Fisher Family BodyTalk) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAYy0kUnN8A/?igshid=nkcp82houkb2