#bi / lesbian solidarity

[bi-dykes]

They’re dating <3

Lesbian progress flag by @angelsaxis and bisexual progress flag by @bisexual-coala :)

[cchaoticc]

pairing harper and ant up is crazy shes a lesbian

[bosesmikas]

A lesbian and her bi himbo bestie

[cowboyjen68]

I'm not a lesbian (im a bi woman) but I absolutely adore your blog. You are a wonderful lady who clearly has a lot of love to give. I hope all lesbians can find a safe space with you <3

Bi women has always been apart of my circles, wheather at festivals or because they married or dated my lesbian friends OR just because they were as active as I was in some of my early gay rights activism.

We have a cross over that is as important to recognize as our difference.

Thank you for the kind words and I am glad you feel welcome this space I create.

[local-lesbian-lucy]

To whatever Bisexual queen donated all her old romance novels to the library I work at… thank you. Your loss is this lesbian’s gain.

[leotheloaf]

Hi, y’all, in the coming years it is more important than EVER that we have a strong queer community.

What we ARENT gonna be doing, is forming separatist movements, or rekindling old ones, or dogpiling each other over who “gets the right to speak” about their own oppression. We ARENT gonna be throwing the most “unpalatable” queers under the bus to try to appeal to cis/het/allo people. We ARENT gonna be abandoning our trans and nonbinary siblings. We ARENT gonna be abandoning our intersex siblings, and we A R E going to be INCLUDING them in our activism. Respectability politics gets us nowhere. Infighting gets us nowhere. Separatism gets us NOWHERE. Shape tf up y’all

[macbxth-pdf]

“ Are butches butches because they love femmes? Or because there’s something about our gender expression? It would seem to be just sort of a moved point. Like how many angels can dance on the head of a pin, which came first the butchness or the lesbianism. Except, there’s another one of these great misunderstandings. If you simply identify that butch and femme go together like love and marriage, horse and carriage. Soup and sandwich. Then it leaves out butches who are attracted to other butches. It leaves out femmes who wanna be with other femmes. It leaves out bisexual butches. It leaves no area at all to define why some women are so masculine and yet are heterosexual. To me, being butch doesn’t mean what you do in bed. I mean to be butch on a street, that’s what being butch is to me.”

Butch Activist and Author, Leslie Feinberg

Timestamps for quote: 19:39 - 20:37

[forsapphics]

Megan Thee Stallion saying she loves lesbians ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜 (x)

[fixing-bad-posts]

queer inclusion my beloved <3

[taintedcigs]

SO THEY ARE LITERALLY BIOLOGICAL TWINS

[hiriamcdaniels]

Don't make me tap the sign

[gayvampyr]

[rotteneldritchhorror]

Eddie pulls Robin aside after noticing how she's interacting with Nance and how she keeps reassuring that shes Not Dating Steve and asks her if shes "a friend of dorothy"

[lokiiied]

this picture is so powerful

[rjalker]

Dear teenagers on tumblr, and a whole bunch of adults, too:

You can be any identity under the sun, and that does not stop you from being bigoted or hateful towards other people of that identity or any other.

Being gay doesn't magically mean you can't be homomisic or anything else.

Being aspec does not mean you can't be amisic or anything else.

Being trans doesn't mean you can't be transmisic or anything else.

Your identity does not determine how harmful or hateful your actions and words are. There is no identity in the world that gives you a free pass from biotry and cancels out all the harm you do.

"But I can't be an exclusionist, I'm literally aspec!" is a completely meaningless statement. I know not everyone remembers, or was even online during the aspec harassment campaign, but a ton of alloaces and alloaros were onboard with the whole thing and throwing the "non-Queer aces and aros who make us look bad" under the bus.

Their asexuality or aromanticism did not magically make their actions not violently and horrifically amisic.

Being part of an oppressed minority does not make all of your actions harmless and innocent, and it does not mean that anyone who criticizes you for bigotry against other people from that minority group is just "stupid" and needs to "touch grass".

You being [insert identity] does not mean that it's impossible for you to hurt, or be hateful towards other people of that identity.

If someone tells you that something you are saying is harmful and bigoted, and that there are better ways to phrase what you're actually trying to say, you cannot respond with "I'm literally X identity you stupid idiot, do you think I hate myself??" or pretend that the people telling you it's harmful are just "making up problems to get mad about" and "need to touch grass" and "looking for things to be offended by"

You cannot repeat the exact same words any random conservative would be saying and call yourself progressive and say you're acting in good faith and have good intentions.

If you actually want you make yourself and your blog a supportive place for your community, then you need to learn that it is not okay to respond to people telling you something is hurtful by just repeatedly insulting them and saying they're just looking for problems to cause and you've done nothing wrong because "I'm literally X identity I can't spread hate about my own identity".

Because yes you can. And you are.

If multiple people are telling you you're acting like an exclusionist, that is your cue to stop, take time to calm down your immediate negative reaction, and listen properly.

Do not just immediately leap to repeating exact conservative talking points by accusing people of "looking for things to get offended by".

Do not immediately leap to insulting people's intelligence and other ableist things.

If you are actually acting in good faith, and you are actually trying to be a supportive member of your community, then you have a personal responsability to listen to other people in your community when you are told that something you've done or said is hurtful and is perpetuating harmful, exclusionary beliefs.

You are not immune to being a bigot just because you're also a minority.

You have a personal responsibility to listen to people when they tell you you are doing something harmful.

You have a personal responsibility to unlearn bigoted thought patterns and behaviors like immediately dismissing any criticism as "special snowflakes getting offended by everything".

You have a personal responsibility not to harm your own community.

Everyone needs to learn this lesson at some point. You will either learn it now, when you're young, or you'll learn it when you're older and you've already driven people away from you.

Either way, you gotta learn it.

You cannot repeat conservative bigoted talking points and keep insisting your intentions are good.

If you actually want to be a good person who supports other minorities, you have to learn to act like it. You have to learn to listen when people tell you you've done something harmful. You have to learn to listen when it is explained that you are repeating exclusionary talking points that harm the community.

[ID: A screenshot of a post by dulce de calabaza / zapatistarising, that reads, "There's actually no political label or identity that absolves you of doing harm". End ID.]

I suggest you try learning it now while you're still young, before you've driven your community away from you with your hateful behavior. No one likes a bigot.

And no one wants to hang out with someone who immediately starts insulting people and all but calling them special snowflakes when they're told they've said something bigoted.

[punkeropercyjackson]

you don't have to answer but I was reading through some of your recent posts on transandrophobia and was wondering what about transandrophobia makes it different from transmascphobia? I've asked a few other people what it was and they just stated the definition of transmascphobia (a term I was already familiar with) but after finding your blog and reading through some of the posts I'm not sure how much I believe ppl who told me it's the same thing

also in some of your posts you mentioned how trans mascs should be trying harder to protect trans women and I was wondering what are the best ways to go about that? as a femme trans guy I try to defend my trans fem friends from getting harassed whenever I can but is there more I can do?

So to summarize,transandrophobia is just transmascphobia but with added bigotry.Transmascphobia simply means 'transphobia but the specific kind trans men and other tmascs face that other kinds of trans people don't' and was coined with none of the weird shit and misogynistic background to transandrophobia.It was just that tmascs wanted a word that distincted from regular transphobia because we do face a special unique type not applied to transfems and nonbinary people by transphobes and there's nothing with with wanting a word to describe that.That'd be like getting mad at bi women for using 'bimisogyny' to describe the kind of biphobia they face bi men and nonbinary bis don't(and i'm sure it does but ykwim).Transandrophobia,however,adds bad things to it that don't belong in transmasc rights activism and ironically hurts 'unconventional' transmascs,including femmes ones like me and you!Transandrophobia believers say a lot of shitty things to and about fem tboys and victim blame us for the femmephobia we face as they think we 'ask for it' by not being masc as (trans) men 'should' be

A very important note we cannot skip over or leave out in the convo of wether transandrophobia is a good term or not is the coiner had a corrective rape kink against lesbians.Similar to allegedly feminist posts changing context when we find out the ops are t.erfs,this changes the meaning behind his intent with his words on transmasculinity.Transadrophobia believers commonly supporting 'bi/mspec lesbians' is not a coincidence and neither is how often they'll turn anti-transfem and anti-transfeminist ideology at the drop of a hat,the hat drop being trans women and lesbian and most of all transbians not taking their shit.Transandrophobia is transmasc incel culture.This includes the racism,overlap with poser punks and even the abuser pipeline.My little sister figure who is a bi twoc has multiple abusive transandrodork exes and my (nonblack,whitepassing)ex-boyfriend started becoming toxic as he fell down the transandrodork route and i've heard both these cases from trans women and tme queer women i don't personally know disgustingly often too.Transmascphobia means 'i believe transmasculine people face discrimination and deserve to be heard,loved,believed and cherished and know they're not any less valid for being transmasc rather than any other trans gender' and none of poser freak normieboy bullshit transandrophobia carries

And for your question on how to protect your transfem friends as a tboy(as you should!!),i would say do your best for them on all other areas too.Don't just protect them but let them know you love them every chance you get and show it in your actions and stand up for them and don't let them settle for things they don't want and spend time with them when you don't have to or 'need' to.Encourage them to be unashamed of their interests and transition goals and let them know they're not alone and don't let them fend for themselves and give them a shoulder to cry on and someone to depend on.Be the best friend you can be to them,because you love them and they deserve nothing but the best and you deserve to be the best version of yourself as much as they do