#bellareg

[quillkiller]

seven scenes from a marriage

a bellareg marriage au & house of black study

— cw: incest, abuse, unhealthy relationships, 1.2k words.

i.

Sirius leaves, is disowned, and no one knows what to do with you. You hear your mother spouting curses and traitor, traitor, traitor, and she looks at you like you’re dead weight, now. And you understand her, you do. You’ve always pitied your mother, looked down on her for giving birth to three daughters and not a single son.

You’re not a son (that’s your curse), but at least you would’ve always been a Black; and now you’re dead weight.

You hate him, your favorite cousin, the one you taught how to hold his wand right. Your co-conspirator at miserable family functions, your own flesh and blood— a traitor.

ii.

Regulus is made heir, your soft spoken baby cousin. Sirius’ little brother, his constant shadow, always one step behind him unless you could manage to steal your older cousin away for a few hours.

It’s strange seeing Regulus without his brother in front of him, covering him like a shield, and you think it’s the first time you’ve properly seen your baby cousin. He looks wobbly on his knees, like a weak comparison to his older brother. It’s strange following his gaze and not finding Sirius at the end of it.

Your mother doesn’t want you to marry him and your father strikes her with an open fist to remind her of her place. He says, you’re not a Black, and then, you don’t decide who my daughter marries.

Regulus is heir, now, after all, and you’re just a girl despite having eight years on your baby cousin.

He’s malleable, though, like clay, and you’ve got strong hands and sharp teeth.

You give him the Black smirk and a wink. He flushes a pretty pink at that, lips parted and long eyelashes fluttering as he tries to hide behind an imaginary body.

You think, sweet little lamb, as you crowd him like the predatory wolf that always lived inside you.

iii.

He looks at you so sweetly, your baby cousin. As if you’re his guiding star, like he needs you; like he used to need his big brother— and you struggle a little not to see him as a blushing seventeen year old kid instead of the heir of house Black.

Regulus has always watched you, mostly whenever you interacted with Sirius, as if you were standing in his way or, sometimes, as if he wanted what belonged to his brother: you.

You let him touch you and he’s so gentle, like he doesn’t know what to do with his hands or where to put them. So you do it for him, your back against the wall in his childhood bedroom. He calls you pretty, so pretty, and it’s easy to believe him when his lips are trembling, his hands shaking.

You were never pretty, that was always for your younger sisters.

It’s Regulus’ birthday so he goes down on one knee and puts a ring on your finger. His gray eyes never leave your gray eyes. His lips taste like home, like solidity, and you bite down to taste some of your shared blood. Sealing the deal.

You tell Narcissa about it over tea, showing off your ring, and you’re both laughing. You tell her how sweet he was, as if he couldn’t quite believe he was allowed to touch you, stars in his eyes and bending to your every will. Narcissa can’t stop giggling, that’s our baby cousin! And you laugh, too, and say, he’s my fiancé, actually, and you give her a wink.

Regulus writes to you every week while he’s doing his last year at Hogwarts. He finishes the letters off with kisses every time. He complains about Sirius and you roll your eyes.

He writes, I can’t wait to be yours, and you forget, for a moment, that you’re the girl.

You write him back, you wanna be my wife, cousin? because you can’t help yourself. It’s going to your head.

He writes, please.

iv.

You’re a married woman and you can’t help but resent how well it suits you. It was your biggest nightmare growing up, the end of your delusions about autonomy that you never really had in the first place. You’re a girl, something to be handed over and dealt with. First you belong to your father, then you’re supposed to belong to your husband.

All girls grow up just to become their mothers. At the hands of husbands like their fathers.

Regulus isn’t like his father. Or your father. He’s not even like his brother. He’s heir, and you’re his wife— and people respect him more than they respect you. That’s to be expected.

It’s different behind closed doors, though. As if the roles are reversed. Regulus looks to you, as if asking you to take the reins. Like he’s a marionette and you’re holding the strings.

It’s a heady feeling, being man of the house.

v.

Regulus looks to you, so he takes the mark because you ask him to, because it’s what’s best for him. And you want what’s best for him.

He doesn’t ask questions, only gives you that look that goes to your head before he straddles your lap and says, you take such good care of us, and you pull him closer by the waist and say, I’ll always take care of you, darling.

Because you do, you take care of you and yours.

vi.

There are whispers of a cave, the sea, but they get smothered with ink and death. As if they’re whispers from another life, far from here.

Sometimes you wake up in the middle of the night, and it’s cold and dark, and you’ll panic for just a second, like you might never feel happiness again. Then you turn on the lights.

You rise to the top, hand in hand, Mr and Mrs. Black. The Dark Lord speaks directly to you, like you’re a person, like you’re worth listening to. Your husband stands at your back, you cover him like a shield— and he’s always one step behind you.

The Dark Lord takes a liking to you both. He lets you sit the closest to him, your husband to your right. The others give you strange looks whenever they forget themselves.

You don’t let them forget themselves.

vii.

It works— you’re happy and it works.

You’re enough like Sirius that Regulus can fall in love with you, and eventually he stops giving you that searching look of his. He stops trying to find his brother in your eyes— until all he sees is you.

It’s easy to dote on him. He’s soft and pliant, you lead and he follows. It’s almost love, for you. You love him because he’s your cousin and because he let you remain a Black. You love your marriage, the power, being man of the house.

You’re a good match and you remember cursing Sirius for abandoning you, and now you wouldn’t trade this for anything.

You take care of you and yours. He stays faithful and submissive like a wife, and he smiles so sweetly when he smells another woman’s perfume on your robes; like he’s just grateful you came home to him, because that’s what matters.

Your mistresses mean nothing to me, he says, you’re my wife, so you kiss him to let him know who you belong to.

He keeps you out of Azkaban, you make him a believer.

It works— you’re happy and it works.

[sugarsnappeases]

bellareg marriage. thoughts ?

don’t think i don’t see right through you…. but yes i (we) have many thoughts and i would love to talk about them xxxx

bellareg could have such a good marriage!!! like i genuinely believe they could work so smoothly together.... bella and reg who get married bc bella was supposed to marry sirius (the two first-borns of their respective branches... could do amazing things for the bloodline) but then sirius leaves and bella is fuming and reg is miserable and she basically gets foisted off on him instead alongside all the other Heir duties and no one is particularly happy about it but, in the end, both of them end up more or less getting what they want and need out of the marriage.

like bella absolutely refuses to play the role of the good little wife who follows her husband's lead and agrees w everything he says. she's got her own ambitions and plans and she's too much of a force to ever take anything lying down. but luckily reg doesn't want to lead anyone, or be the heir, or be a big strong husband figure and he's super malleable and easy to 'gently' persuade into things and it could all work out very nicely. like bella being the Man Of The House and the Husband behind closed doors while reg is her pampered little wife. also bella gets to be the kinda by-proxy heir/lord which is obvs v important to her. in a way, she's the head of the family ish and that's like. the power she's always wanted and was jealous of when it came to sirius. and now even if she doesn't properly have it (something that could potentially cause a bit of tension??? but also like. reg wants her to have that power too, he absolutely doesn't want it himself so it would be more of a shared woe ig?? like both of them would love it if they could just have a complete role reversal thing), she still has much more power than would have been possible in any other marriage

anyway bella also kinda guides reg (he goes willingly) into being more embroiled in the death eaters, doing what she thinks is best for him and for them (acting as his husband-wife) and making him better and lavishing him w luxury and basically just holding the reins of the marriage. and reg is happy bc he's safe and protected and bella is enough like sirius that he can ultimately fall in love w her and she's happy to dote on him and she does also love him even if she's maybe not in love w him. bc like you said. he's her cousin of course she loves him but also she loves how successful their marriage is. it's harmonious, easy, simple. it just works.

i think the only potential issue in their marriage is the lack of kids. bc bella to me never ever has or wants kids, but she's married to the heir of the black family and reg also defo wants kids. but i agree w you i think that w the level of influence bella has over reg she'd be able to convince him like 'let's wait until after the war' and there'd just be more and more excuses. like the two of them climb the ranks of the death eaters together (mostly bella but she uses reg and also takes him w her) and she couldn't possibly take the time off to be pregnant, reg, don't you believe in our lord's goals?? and reg of course does bc like. w bella acting as the Husband and the Heir/Lord, she would be the one who dealt w the whole kreacher scenario w voldemort and reg would've never found out about the horcrux or had to question his fanaticism, and also bc of bella he's even more fanatical than he normally would be and so this is a very short conversation and reg never brings it up again lol

but anyway yes i just think they could be so content and it's defo a much better marriage than the one that bella would've had if sirius had stayed bc she'd never be able to take on that Husband role w him and they would've probs ended up killing each other but w reg they can kinda complement each other and work well together and be more or less happy :))) yippeeeeee

anyway here are some more screenshots from our texts bc you’re hilarious and a genius and always completely correct and the other half of my soul and i’m obsessed with you <3

[sixlane]

pregnant regulus….. tell me more about your thoughts…

ok so as those who frequent my blog might be aware of i talk about pregulus often. usually in a fluffy jegulus context where he is healed of his trauma and therefore excited about and ready to be a parent. but i am so intrigued by this fucked up bellareg marriage au thing. where bella can’t/wont get pregnant and therefore the duty falls to regulus. who has decidedly not worked through his trauma at all and is instead still actively stuck in it. in this context i could never see regulus wanting to be pregnant or wanting children at all. and only pursuing it because of his duty as heir. i think he’d do it to spare bella the discomfort. and also in a fucked up way in his brain he gets that that would fall on him as her husband-wife. so he’s young and naive and accepts it as his fate but he hates every second of carrying their child. and probably proceeds to resent the child because of that. and i also think in the deep recesses of his mind he hates himself for bringing a child into this situation because he knows it’s fucked up even if he won’t acknowledge or admit it to himself. but he likes the way bella dotes on him when he’s all swollen and helpless because it’s an exaggeration of their usual dynamic. so there are up sides or things that maybe make it worth it to him. it’s a complicated internal battle for him. and there’s definitely potential for it to get very gross and horrific. still contemplating that. excited for your thoughts on this as well!!

[themostincorrecthouseofblack]

Regulus: You know who's looking fine tonight? Bellatrix.

Sirius: Okay, you did not just say that.

Regulus: What? She's a good kisser.

Sirius: She's our cousin.

Regulus: Yeah, but she's our first cousin.

Sirius: Right.

Regulus: So, you have your cousins, and then you have your first cousins, and then you have your second cousins...

Sirius: No, Reg, uh-uh.

Regulus: That's not right, is it?

Sirius: That is so not right.

[quillkiller]

bellareg marriage au — newly weds 💍

”It’s Regulus’ birthday so he goes down on one knee and puts a ring on your finger. His gray eyes never leaving your gray eyes. His lips taste like home, like solidity, and you bite down to taste some of your shared blood. Sealing the deal.”

— ”seven scenes from a marriage” by hplesbian (me!!)

[quillkiller]

regulus nursing a sick little siriusjr back to health just how he watched walburga take care of a sick sirius sr when he was younger

father-mother regulus black as a mirror version of his mother walburga black & heir sirius jr as a mirror version of his disowned uncle (heir) sirius black, history repeating itself at grimmauld place because of of the arranged marriage between bellatrix & regulus.

[quillkiller]

I need some bellareg nsfw hc

i’ve got you buddy

cw: unhealthy sexual dynamics, d/s undertones & dubious consent. lmao

they have a lot of sex during their courting, pre engagement, during their engagement & as newly weds. it’s a way for bellatrix to manipulate reg and make him dependant on her !! he’s inexperienced and seventeen and horny and grieving his brother and desperate for someone to take care of him. cue bellatrix !!! she’s learned everything she knows from her father, orion, her disowned cousin & being a black

regulus is crazy gone for bellatrix. he’s been perving on her for as long as he’s been perving on his brother. because bellatrix belonged to sirius and he resenter her and wanted her in equal measure. and now she’s his !!!! he’s crazy with it. on cloud nine. his hot older cousin lets him touch her with his shaky nervous fingers and untouched pink lips. he wants her all the time and bella lets him, gives it up to him whenever he needs it, because she needs him to need her. he can barely focus on anything other than his cousins flushed skin under his tongue and fingertips. bella is endlessly smug, bragging to her sister about the heir of house black being wrapped around her finger

bella teaches him everything she knows. how to eat her out right, how to fuck her, how to kiss her slow, how to touch her and hold her and he’s so eager and impatient and desperate for it when bella gives her the black smirk and takes her dress of infront of him

they have separate bedrooms at grimmauld and mostly sleep apart !! and their sex life dies down a bit once they’re married, but not completely. bella still needs him to need her, so she sort of uses sex against him knowing he wouldn’t dare go looking for it somewhere else and sully the black name. besides, he’s still as gone for her as he’s always been. his world revolves around his wife-husband and a simple smile or a frown from her dictates his entire state of mind. kid is working overtime to make sure she’s happy with him and that he’s being a good husband-wife. it’s christmas and his birthday and every holiday combined when she lets him fuck her <- maybe like once a month once they’re married

their sex life has always been a bit one-sided, with bella being the instigator but it’s never been for her, atleast not the pleasure aspect of it. it’s been a means to an end for her most of the time, a game. again, my girl is a lesbian, and while she perversly does enjoy her good little husband-wife letting her do whatever she wants, reg is still not an actual woman. it’s complicated !! it makes her equally hot as much as it disgusts her <- reg is unaware of this, blind by how much he needs her lmao

so!! later marriage !! that’s when she’s slowly extracting herself from their sex life completely. she gets him off, tells him what to do, touching herself because it does get her off too, that he’ll do anything, being man of the house taking care of her wife. but she doesn’t really let him touch her anymore. not like she used to anyway !! she’ll let him watch her, or she’ll watch him, telling him what to do and how to do it, and he’s always so good for her :~)

last, but not least, bella has a bunch of mistresses! regulus is aware of this and while he does hate thinking about it, he doesn’t mind it. it’s expected from the man of the house to have mistresses. it’s just part of the pureblood culture. bella belongs to him, she’s his wife. no one can take that from him, no matter the mistress. they’re bonded, a team, an alliance. she comes home to him every time and that’s what matters. she wouldn’t leave him even if she wanted to and that reassures regulus like nothing else !!!!

[quillkiller]

I feel like Regulus would melt every time Bellatrix called him sweat heart

he’s my insane corrupted obsessive perverted little baby boy who just wants his cousin-wife-husband to dote on him always and forever and every day. or he dies probably

[quillkiller]

been thinking about husband-wife regulus…does he cook for Bella and Junior? does he know how? or do they rely on house elves for everything. I feel like he’d go absolutely crazy for opportunities to play housewife but I also worry he could somehow fuck up, like, pasta. bro can probably barely make toast :/

omg.. this is so funny to think about.. and i do tend that disowned regulus is a GREAT cook..

however, honestly, i don’t think he cooks at all as bellas husband-wife. but it’s so funny to think of him deciding to try. he wants to be so good and sweet for bellatrix, so he decides he’s gonna start cooking for her. she’ll come home to a home cooked meal and he’ll present it to her all seductively. he fantasises about it a LOT. so he decides he’s gonna learn to cook. tells kreacher to teach him because kreacher is the only one he trusts. but he has NO patience. and he’s not interested in the instructions !!! and he wants to use magic for everything to make it easier. h hates being sticky and gross and he’s complaining and being a whiny bitch about it. all he wants is to be bellas perfect domestic housewife!!!!! and for bella to kiss him with tongue and tell him what a good boy he is..

i think this all ends in him taking the credit for all the the food that the house elves cook. and bella knows for Sure that he’s lying, but she plays along with him and dotes on him and praises him until his ears are red… he’s fully wearing an apron when she gets home, huffing and telling her about how the food is JUST about ready, darling, why don’t you take a seat and i’ll get you a drink. and bella just smirks and watches him fuss and pretend, untying the knot holding his apron together with slow and sure hands and feeling him up like a husband would… she’s SO unbelievably content with how she ended up.. 🤍

[quillkiller]

does reg think bella is genuinely attracted to him?

yeah, and she is in a way !!

here’s a snippet from my bellareg microfic:

It’s easy to dote on him. He’s soft and pliant, you lead and he follows. It’s almost love, for you. You love him because he’s your cousin and because he let you remain a Black. You love your marriage, the power, being man of the house.

like i’ve mentioned before, bella will always be a lesbian to me, but she’s also been ruined and shaped by the men she grew up idolizing envying and hating all in the same breath. it skews and corrupts her gender views and her desire for women turning into something ugly and perverse, almost adopting the pureblood female gaze while considering herself other. <- even though she’s victim to that very same female gaze, and would’ve ended up just like walburga if sirius was never disowned and they got married instead like intended.

so in a way she is attracted to regulus because he takes on the role as woman, shaping himself into becoming everything bella has ever desired. allowing her to be man of the house with an obedient pliant wife. it’s about her unofficial role as man of the house, which is what she’s always wanted. and her sweet wife bending to her every will. bella grew up looking towards the men in her life rather than the women, identifying with and longing for their positions during her formative years, for power and success and beautiful girls who’ll let her do whatever she wants with them, lining up to be good for her, because of her name and reputation alone.

and she gets that with regulus, in a very unhealthy and deeply complicated way. she’s attracted to the implications of their marriage, which extends to her being attracted to him being her good little wife, just like she dreamed of when she was a doomed little girl. + she has a bunch of mistresses lmao

hope any of this made sense 🤍🤍

[quillkiller]

not exactly a family potrait but sirius jr and his father when they were the same age😭😭

my live reaction……….

THIS IS SOOO FUCKING COOL

god im so so so obsessed with this. it’s so beautiful, my favorite miserable son and his fail father-mother. oh this is making insane. seeing them next to each other around the same age. GENERATIONAL TRAUMA CAUGHT IN ONE SINGLE DRAWING….

god you’re so talented, thank you so much genuinely for sharing these with me and im so happy you like sirius jr 😭😭😭 you’re like his third parent at this point… i grant you: custody…

[quillkiller]

do u think bellareg would have kids (im assuming yes, they Have to) and if so who would be more loving/affectionate with them

me and kara talked about this!!

because we agree that, yes, they would have to. it’s bella’s duty to produce an heir. so, atleast initially, pre first war, there would be a pressure on them to have children. + regulus wants children, bellatrix very decidedly does not. bella would work very hard to push it off. at first because regulus is so young when they get married, telling him they have time, there’s no rush, etc. + there’s the whole ordeal of their roles being reversed in their marriage where bella becomes man of the house behind closed doors, and regulus becomes the wife, so he listens to her and trusts that she knows what’s best for him and them. so he doesn’t push it, because it’s not his place.

then the first war happens, and they don’t have kids. bella is working the death eater ladder and making regulus a believer, and slowly but surely they become high ranking death eaters / bella becomes voldys right hand man. <- that also means she gains a lot of respect, and slowly it becomes known that bella is basically man of the house and reg is her husband-wife. it’s not like anyone’s going to question is when she’s voldy right hand man….

then the first war is over, and regulus keeps bella out of azkaban, and the primary focus is getting voldy back. which is obviously a lot more important than producing an heir. he’s the Dark Lord…. so like, it just keeps getting pushed off. there are more important things to deal with, and bellatrix makes the decisions, and regulus listens. and then !! voldy comes back, and the second war is upon us, so like obviously there’s no time now either !!! lots of other things to do !!!! so it just never happens…….

however… i think bella would think it’s very important to have an heir so that the black family name lives on. her and reg are the only ones representing the black name and if they don’t have an heir, the name dies with them. andy and sirius are disowned and narcissa is a malfoy. but i truly do believe that bella would refuse to be pregnant. it’s her worst nightmare and like, i can see so clearly how she would panic and feel all wrong being pregnant, useless and weak and submissive and gross, and start clawing at her belly to desperately make it go away, to claw it out. a whole horror scene type thing. which means that reg would have to be pregnant….. and surely there HAS to be a magical way to do it….. bella doting on her pathetic and sweet pregnant husband-wife… i am NOT immune to the idea……

however. bella would be a horrible mother-father lmao ahdjfjsj. regulus might be a little more loving and/or affectionate, especially since he would take on the role of housewife and stay-at-home-mom… but i don’t necessarily think he’d be a very good father-mother just because he’s more affectionate. it’s not like he’s ever had a healthy idea of love, or ever even had a healthy experience when it comes to love. his upbringing, his brother, his wife, etc. i think he’d take after his mother a lot, maybe less angry, but instead a lot of emotional manipulation, praising when their children succeed, punishing when not. bella would be the stereotypical deadbeat father-wife, man of the house, in her study, provider. and regulus would worship the grounds she walks on, oh she takes such good care of us, of me…

[quillkiller]

“she’s enough like sirius that he could fall in love with her” regulus’ unrequited love for his brother will always be famous. in every relationship he has, he can’t help but compare everyone to sirius and ultimately chose the ones more similar (barty. bella. walburga..!!) and it ends up in all these pseudo incestuos relationships. Imagine bellareg eventually sleeping together and regulus can’t help but say sirius’ name accidentally, im torn between bellatrix indulging his little fantasies or feelings utterly betrayed that someone is once again preferring sieius over her

YOU GET IT !!!!!

me and kara were just talking about how bella would probably have affairs in their marriage and reg would be completely fine with it. like, to me, wives to pureblood husbands are expected to live with their husbands affairs / and husbands are expected to have affairs. the marriage is arranged and therefor goes so much deeper than the superficiality of lust and/or feelings. like.. ’why would an affair matter to me? she’s my wife(-husband)’. that allyship and loyalty goes so much deeper than some floozy bella spends her time with. and reg would bat his pretty little eyelashes at the fact that bella always comes back to him because she will Never leave. their marriage and house is what matters. she will never leave me. and yeah, since their gender roles are reversed behind closed doors it would be bella who has affairs 🤍

and. that’s why i think there wouldn’t be a lot of jealousy between them. BUT i can see how bella would be fuming about the fact that someone she’s with would prefer for it to be sirius. but in this au, i think she would be up for letting regulus work through his sirius-issues with her. maybe she’d even encourage it. it’s not like she didn’t know… she’s not blind. but! she’s also not blind to how regulus would also watch her growing up. watch her and sirius interact, their rivalry and so on and so forth. regulus grew up perving on her too, even if his major issues were always his feelings for sirius. and i think eventually they find peace in their marriage… sort of growing out of the Sirius of It All. being able to give each other what they always sort of needed… <3

[quillkiller]

I think they’d use honey. especially reg

RIGHT…. im feeling weak in the knees,,,

[quillkiller]

I need more domestic bellareg why is them playing chess together so sweet

RIGHT !!! FINALLY SOMEONE GETS IT !!!

like i genuinely think they’re very content… bella was so disappointed that she wouldn’t marry sirius and that she was passed onto regulus, but now she thanks her lucky stars every day. it’s quite genuinely the perfect match for both of them… & regulus falls in love with bella because she’s enough like sirius, until he stops searching for his brother in her eyes and it’s just her. her taking care of him & them.. god they make me weak..

i think they’re very domestic tbh.. like they just love playing house…. they love playing chess, and other complicated board games, they read together, host dinner parties possibly, regulus loves taking care of grimmauld & being a housewife, bella loves being the man of the house and providing her family, foot massages, wine & cheese, judging people together, reg being bellas ken-doll, having dinner together, etc.. they make me WEAK !!!!

[quillkiller]

what do people around them think about their marriage? do they judge reg? bella? and does it transfer to siriusjr?

their roles are only ever reversed behind closed doors in the beginning of their marriage, where reg acts the part of heir publicly, though never doing it as well as sirius would’ve done and he’s constantly being criticized in the papers / compared to his brother. it’s like putting on a custom that doesn’t quite fit him, but bella coaches him because she cares about their reputation. behind closed doors though he’s her sweet and loving husband-wife, letting bella pull all the strings behind the scenes.

the pregnancy is a little trickier since regulus gets pregnant almost immediately after their wedding and it’s obviously something he cant hide. i (me and kara) haven’t decided yet whether he’s just out of the public eye for the better part of a year, claiming to be busy with other things <- which would leave bella to represent house black in his place almost like a queen regent. or! if it’s simply not unheard of that the men carry the children sometimes in pureblood marriages if the wives for some reason can’t. seeing as blood and name are the most important things, and mpreg is an easy solution if the wife can’t carry the pregnancy. bella can get pregnant though, but she simply wont.

then there’s tom!!! and the first war!! that’s when they start coming out of their shell more and more. bella quickly becoming one of tom’s most trusted followers, publicly making her actually powerful and dangerous. bella’s seat is right next to tom riddle, to his right, and next to bella is her devoted husband. it’s a bit controversial, but who’s going to question the dark lord ??

here’s another snippet from the bellareg fic:

You rise to the top, hand in hand, Mr and Mrs. Black. The Dark Lord speaks directly to you, like you’re a person, like you’re worth listening to. Your husband stands at your back, you cover him like a shield— and he’s always one step behind you.

The Dark Lord takes a liking to you both. He lets you sit the closest to him, your husband to your right. The others give you strange looks whenever they forget themselves.

You don’t let them forget themselves.

so after that it’s pretty much established that bella truly is the man of the house, and she’s never questioned or challenged in this because that would mean questioning and challenging lord voldemort!