#being trans on tumblr is infuriating

[what-do-bunyips-look-like]

This crab day thing has gotten so frustrating so fast. The person who suggested it is an anti-abortion anti-feminist right wing christian transphobe. Many of the people spreading additional posts and info are ALSO anti-abortion right wing christian transphobes. Seriously. Start clicking their blogs when you see these posts. Search "abortion" and "feminism" and "trans" and "gender" and "groomer." This is really easy to confirm. But people don't give a shit because "crabs fun." okay.

And its not like people aren't aware of it at this point. Search "crab day" on tumblr and a good chunk of the results are asks saying "hey btw crab day was started by a transphobe/right wing christian." and most of those people have responded with something along the lines of "Um okay but like its a good idea though??? You guys can't even collaborate with conservatives for like a second to achieve a political goal? UGH this is why nothing ever gets done 🙄." or "Um okay but like that post had nothing to do with their political beliefs. so like its fine lol. Crab fun." Or "oh no omg im so sorry thats so gross i deleted the post but im still gonna keep reblogging all the other posts by the conservative transphobic anti abortion right wing christians whos blogs i wont check because we need to save tumblr!!!!"

Let me make this really fucking clear for those who don't get it: it doesn't matter if the post is not about their political beliefs. You and all your mutuals are reblogging them. You are making it easier for them to network and find each other. You are bringing them new followers, a bigger audience, a bigger platform and a bigger pool of people who will spread their oh so relatable non-political posts. Which will bring in more followers. And some of those new followers are going to be young dumbasses who are going to see all their posts about "groomers" and "mutilation" and the evils of porn and the horrors of abortion and how feminism actually harms women and do i need to tell you how that story ends?

You are showing that "crab fun" is way more important to you than the safety of trans tumblr users. You are giving them a bigger platform and a wider net with which to potentially harm trans people. By saying that you're not going to let their political beliefs ruin your fun, you're making it very clear that trans people are less important than your fun. And you're making it VERY fucking clear that you'd RATHER tumblr become a safe and welcoming place for anti-feminist anti-abortion right wing transphobes than give up fun crab.

You are showing that your need to throw money at a corporation is more important to you than trans tumblr users. I get where you are coming from. I do. You want tumblr to keep existing. I want tumblr to keep existing. I also want the other trans people who use this fucking platform to keep existing because frankly, they are the only reason i'm here. and if they aren't safe here and if you will throw us away just to keep tumblr shambling along a little longer then I have no fucking interest in tumblr.

"Okay but we need to save tumblr uwu!!!!" Look I'm just some dumbass and I don't know shit (and to be PERFECTLY honest, so are you), but I think this is a little more complicated than "if we raise enough money we can save the school/family farm/community centre/(insert cozy heartwarming thing that needs to be saved)!" As other smarter people have said, tumblr is operating at a yearly $30 million deficit. Thats $30 million just to break even. For one year. not become profitable. Its not a bail them out once and its all good forever situation. Tumblr is not a small message board run by volunteers who actually use donations to stay afloat. They are not a non-profit. They are not running a pledge drive. Throwing money at a corporation does not a nonprofit make. It makes you a consumer.

Your response to "tumblr making bad changes" is "give them money for making the bad changes to show that we don't like bad changes!! A reverse boycott'll show 'em!!" You sure about that??? (And some of you are calling this """""unionizing?"""" Put that word back on the shelf.) You don't know what you're doing and you're not listening to the smarter people who have tried to explain it to you. And once again, you're showing that this half baked scheme is more important to you than trans tumblr users. because crab fun.

And @everyone whos clambering over each other to "collaborate with conservatives for a good cause," we already fucking know that you love to do this shit. You are the same people who will say "yeah but theres bad people on both sides!!!" and who wont give up your Harry Potter or your Chick-Fil-A. You will throw us under the bus the SECOND it gets you something you want. Even something as stupid and small as pickle brine or a shitty videogame or fucking "crab day." And guess what. The second all your "shared goals" are accomplished and the conservatives get what they want FROM YOU??? You're going straight under that bus too.

And also, isn't it maybe a little hmmmm. SUSPICIOUS that CONSERVATIVE CHRISTIANS want to throw money at the site that we've been bitching and screaming at for how unfairly it censors any display of queer sexuality????? They don't have the same problems with tumblr that you do. You think that collaborating with THEM is gonna stop that? Gonna get the porn ban reversed? Gonna turn tumblr into a co-op? Gonna "unionize this bitch?" Hello????

If you must. MUST participate in this because crab oh so fun and tumblr is oh so in need of saving then for the LOVE of FUCK make your OWN POST and STOP PLATFORMING THESE PEOPLE. i don't want to hear "Oh but its a good idea it doesn't matter if a bad person came up with it separate art from the artist lol" if you're not MAKING AN ACTUAL EFFORT TO EXCLUDE THEM FROM THIS. BLOCK THEM. CHECK THEIR BLOGS. BLACKLIST THEIR URLS. ITS EASY.

and then maybe go give your $3 to an actual non-profit. or to an actual leftist independent organization. Or wikipedia. Or inaturalist. Or to one of the many hyperspecific message boards out there who are struggling along on donations from like 5 people. Or maybe, maybe, give your fucking $3 to an abortion fund or to a trans person's go fund me so they can buy food. Or to a womens shelter or a fucking homeless person or to any of the other people who anti-abotion anti-feminist right wing christian transphobes want to stop existing.

My partner is afraid to leave the house alone because people with these exact same political beliefs are in power. People are getting their HRT ripped away from them because people with these exact same political beliefs are in power. People are being forced to give birth because people with these exact same political beliefs are in power. Every day I'm ready to get the news that the state my partner is in is no longer safe and we have to figure out an escape plan. These people do REAL HARM in the REAL WORLD and their beliefs are, tbh, way more fucking insidious and mainstream and tolerated than those of TERFs.

But fun crabs are more important. okay.

[femboy-c-cups]

being on here as a trans sex worker and seeing the smug jokes and brand loyalty over the past two years with regards to twitters decline has been infuriating because despite the fact that it's an algorithmic nightmare owned by a right wing transphobe driving into the ground, it is by a fucking mile, a better place to be a trans woman online. My trans femme friends can't post pictures and videos properly marked as adult, all within the terms of allowed adult content without getting their blogs blurred. My trans femme friends can't post sfw pictures and videos of themselves without it being marked as fucking sexual!!! This is a website that allows nudity and adult content while systematically erasing trans women as "inappropriate content"

To this day if i see someone with the double blueticks i lowkey think you're a cunt. Tumblr destroyed our livelihoods in 2018, they drove sex workers from their site. Now those of us who have been forced back here have to navigate their completely archiac policies of adult content, unfairly moderated by a team that either holds active malice for us, or just doesn't fucking care.

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 queerest place on the internet!!!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

[busket]

gravity falls rant, cw sexual assault and harassment

seeing the gf fandom do a full 180 on billford is so odd to see and kind of infuriating because I had so many nasty rumors and lies spread about me in 2015-2018 because I liked them as bitter exes. a callout google doc was made and I never read it, but I know it framed me as a creep and an abuser. all because I thought a cartoon nerd and a triangle had a fascinating dynamic that was dark and compelling

in 2017 or 2018 someone sent like 70 messages to my curiouscat just repeating RAPIST RAPIST RAPIST RAPIST over and over again. I'd never even had sex at that point, and I had just cut my dad out of my life for actually being a pedophile and a rapist. so that was traumatizing! that really hurt me!

I also know it was because I had a NSFW account where i drew porn (i was an adult, i was clear i only wanted adults following me. and I still do draw nsfw, I'm not ashamed of that now but these folks made me ashamed of it for years) that included some porn of trans men, like Stanley or Stanford as trans men (NEVER together bc I've always been staunchly against incest or pedophilia ships) and these people framed me as a transphobe and a transmasc fetishist

well obviously I'm a trans man now and I didn't know it at the time but those drawings were a way to explore my own relationship with gender. I even look like Stan and Ford now, obviously i latched on to them as trans men because I wanted to BE them. but I believed it when people called me a piece of shit, I assumed all trans people would despise me too and I'd committed a horrible sin and it forced me back in the closet for another 5 years.

the people doing this were teenagers at the time, a few I thought were my friends/mutuals, and they made that part of my life kinda miserable. I was already miserable with other shit going on in my life. I ignored most of the harassment to make myself uninteresting and to avoid the possibility of becoming a lolcow but it involved anonymous messages both on tumblr and curiouscat, I even got a few emails just mocking me. even in 2019 when some people were like "oh yeah she's moved on to moomin, this is what her art looks like now, I can't look at it without thinking about how much she loves rape :/" which was NEVER true!!! I liked Ford and Bill as bitter exes but it was always consensual in my mind.

Anyway I don't ever expect or even want an apology. I'm sure they don't realize what an effect that harassment had on me during literally the darkest years of my life. to them they were just teasing a weird girl on the internet for fun, or very seriously warning their friends against whom they'd been lied to about being an abuser, but I was a closeted trans man trying to finish college, my home life was abysmal and abusive, I hated myself, i hated my body, my only friends were online, and when I'd log on for some escapism I was met with another message like "hey, you should block this person. they're saying some really cruel things about you on their account. I know it's not true but it looks like some people are believing it."

gravity falls was so important to me as a show since oregon is my home and it felt so authentic to my own childhood being interested in cryptids and going camping and visiting shit like the Oregon vortex as a child. but the fandom was the worst I've ever been in. it ruined my enjoyment of media online for years. so idk. I guess I feel somewhat vindicated but it would also be nice to get those years back and not be harassed and bullied online about something so stupid and unimportant

[mxrobinhearts]

One thing that jumped out at me about the situation with @photomatt (huh, did they disable tagging him?) is this post. I think this, more than anything, hints at why this particular episode has upset Matt so much.

There's a type of person who considers themselves very liberal, very progressive, open-minded, and left-leaning. Who donates to LGBT+ causes, who flies progress flags during Pride month, who respect pronouns and will happily declare that "love is love".

These are all obviously good things, but the thing that will really infuriate a certain subset of this type of person, more than bigotry, is the accusation of bigotry.

I doubt that Matt has ever been as incensed at actual transphobia as he has been at the suggestion that he is transphobic. All of his responses during this episode have been laced with this outrage - how could anyone call him transphobic? How dare you call me transphobic when I've done x, y, z for you people?

And I get it. It sucks. If you consider yourself an ally and suddenly people are labelling you a phobe, it does suck. I wouldn't want to be labelled a bigot either. But here's the thing: well-meaning people, who do not consider themselves bigoted, fuck up all the time. Hell, queer people fuck up all the time.

However, if your reaction to many, many people calling out your behaviour is to be enraged at those accusations instead of doing anything to make up for those mistakes, then doesn't that say something about your priorities? People have pointed out how trans women are constantly being left hanging by the moderation team, about abuse against them being rampant, how Tumblr still labels non-sexual content as mature if it contains transfemme people.

Hell, you even admitted yourself that you had an openly transphobic moderator doing that recently! Did you chase that person across social media in a rage too? Because if not, then I think it's clear what bothers you more.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for laughing at my conservative uncle?

This is an incident that made half of my family go no/low contact with each other, and some still think I was an asshole for it (I think I wasn't), but I wanna get tumblr's perspective. I was 24(F) when this happened, my uncle was 58.

Thanksgiving 2021 my family wanted a big weekend long get together after not being able to do Thanksgiving in 2020 due to lockdowns. Family members took time off work and drove in from out of state so we could all hang out from Thursday to Sunday.

We all have that one uncle who spends every family event saying the most out there racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic/whatever shit, and mine I feel is worse than most. He has some truly shitty takes like "It should be legal to hunt the homeless for sport", and "If a woman doesn't wanna get raped she should get married at like 16 and never go anywhere without her husband," and "If I ever saw a man pretending to be a woman I would kill him with my bare hands, and most of this nation would agree with me". Truly a piece of shit. Meanwhile my family knows I am extremely progressive, so they do their best to keep me and my uncle separate during family events or else it could (and has in the past) lead to shouting matches.

But here's the thing: I would happily avoid him and not talk to him during get togethers, but he loves arguing. He seeks me out. He'll follow me to the bathroom and bring up transphobic things happening in the news. He'll get up from the dinner table to walk over to me and shove an news article about Trump in my face. If he sees me enter the room he'll start talking LOUDLY about his political opinions. He WANTS to argue with me, and the family considers it my duty to ignore him and calls me an asshole when I engage, because that's just giving him what he wants. But he somehow never gets called out for hounding me, because "that's just how he is".

So it's Thanksgiving 2021. And maybe it's because of the therapy, or maybe it's just because I'm getting tired of avoiding him, or maybe it's the lockdowns that eroded my social graces, but I see him spot me from across the room and get that "ohhh I'm gonna make her sooooo mad" little glint in his eye and start to make his way over, and I don't find it infuriating anymore. I find it deeply funny that this divorced, no job, no bitches, deadbeat dad, that everyone secretly hates, has decided the only way he can get a drop of serotonin in his sad miserable life that HE ruined all by himself, is to turn to reactionary politics in a desperate attempt to get a rise out of his niece.

He starts in on the regular vile transphobic shit (I don't need to repeat it we've heard it all before, imagine the worst anti-trans rhetoric you've ever heard and yup. That's what he was saying) and I don't try to counter his points like I usually do. I just laugh. He keeps going, looking more and more puzzled, and I keep laughing.

He thinks I didn't hear him right. No no, I heard it all, and it was funny. He decides I must be too triggered to speak. No I promise, I'm having the time of my life. He guesses I'm not as smart as I think I am then, if I can't come up with a good counterpoint. Oh I'm plenty smart, and you're plenty hilarious.

Long story short he gets madder and madder that I won't engage until he's red faced and yelling. Family members are trying to calm him down and telling me to stop. I don't. I'm not mad that they're again blaming me for the interaction when I was just standing there and HE came up to ME, it's just really funny at that point. Really funny that the entire family walks on eggshells to protect his precious feelings when they could just laugh in his face like I am. My uncle punches a hole in my grandmother's wall and storms off cussing. The mood of the entire Thanksgiving weekend is ruined, and even my most left leaning family members think I'm an asshole because I KNOW how he is and I should have just walked away.

Should I have just walked away to save everyone's Thanksgiving weekend?

What are these acronyms?

[problematic-faves-appreciation]

Sorry to bring up "Uglies" again, but this discourse has been so infuriating, and I promise it is relevant to the theme of your blog:

Not sure what it is about the movie, but it showed previously unknown lows of media literacy (which is impressive), and one that is particularly... interesting to me is how people have reacted to Laverne Cox, who for those not knowing her, is a black trans woman who is not just a quite famous actress, but also an outspoken advocate for queer people, playing the villain Dr. Cable.

Dr. Cable is the de-facto leader of the city the movie takes place in, and a cyborg super soldier. This dystopian regime, and that is where the issue lies, mostly relies on beauty culture to keep people under control, though that is far from the only thing. Specifically, people get plastic surgery at sixteen to eradicate discrimination based on looks - and the scary part is, they succeeded at least at the surface, making this world indeed almost feeling like an utopia. Almost.

I can see how this can be misinterpreted in a transphobic way if you really want to and disregard most of the canon and message, which is that forcing people into uniformity based on arbitrary standards is bad, which very much is a statement against cisheteronormativity. The series doesn't have any canon queerness because it was published in 2005, and for the movie presumably from a mix of wanting to stay true to the source material and desperately trying to make it more mainstream appealing, but it feels quite queer subtextual.

Now comes the really infuriating part: The people I saw being the most worried and the most aggressive about Laverne Cox playing Dr. Cable were not TERFs and other fascists. Now, I haven't combed through the entire twitter tag because I value my sanity, so there probably are some who indeed realized that they could misinterpret that for their advantage, but the transphobes I saw didn't got into the plastic surgery ankle. They just spewed the usual uncreative bullshit they always say ("thats a man" etc).

But left-leaning people in the tumblr tag... "Forced into plastic surgery by a trans woman for the woke agenda" - You wanted to miss the point so badly, buddy... "Hmm, a trans woman forcing children into plastic surgery and brainwashing them, is it just me or was that written as a piece of fascist propaganda" - It is just you, not just was it written in 2005, Scott Westerfeld (author) also is an outspoken queer ally since at least 2003, where he featured a sapphic couple in his space opera "The Risen Empire" and since then he has tried to use his platform to help queer people, including going on several fights with fucking J. K. Rowling over trans advocacy.

It just is this age old problem of "if you write a minority as anything than a perfect hero, you are a bigot or at least help bigots". Which feels so condescending.

Now, I know that actors are obliged to market their movies, but again, Laverne Cox is a very famous actress, and also she does queer advocacy since what, at least ten years? I don't even know her, but it feels so condescending and insulting to her insisting that she must be too dumb or brainwashed or something to notice that a role could harm her community. She doesn't need the money, and she would have had the power to just step out. On her instagram, she is quite enthusiastic about the role, even saying that she looked forward playing such a character for once.

Another layer of this is that most of the people complaining about her playing Dr. Cable aren't even trans. A small number are, but the majority are just cis people.

It just feels so icky.

Now, I know most marginalized people don't feel this way, but when I personally see a villain with my identities (who isn't a caricature of said identities, but just happens to share them) I feel empowered, not insulted. Being a horrible person, making bad choices and going on power trips is part of humanity too, and by insisting that all minorities are only ever allowed to be perfect, you do not just infantalize them, you strip them of their humanity, counter-intuitive as that sounds.

Dr. Cable is not a trans caricature. In the book we don't even know if she is cis or trans (and also not what her ethnicity is). Her main arc is that she thinks she needs to protect this utopia with all means necessary, stripping away parts of her humanity in the process and getting more and more brutal and paranoid until her hubris brings her downfall. That is not a trans-only story.

It is not even a woman-only story. In fact, this is a kind of villain arc women are hardly ever allowed to have. Yes, I am aware how this brutality can intersect with harmful trans and black stereotypes, but also she is such an interesting character, and it just doesn't feel right to say that black people or trans people should not allowed to have interesting villain characters.

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[oddlyhale]

So curiousity got the best of me and decide to check out psyga315 link about celebrating Aliciaxdeath video deletion and my God wish I haven't seen that.

All those people who liked or reblog are so butt hurt over a ship that was being critique. These people were like "omg new Rwby fan! ❤️❤️❤️ Welcome to the fandom" then as soon as Alicia made her comment then went "booo I'm no blocking you because you don't like this ship."

If you want to see a prime example of a company that is pinkwashing. RT IS A BIG EXAMPLE!!

Look how they treated their lgbtqia and trans workers.

I also saw one comment saying that anti rwby/rwde is the only anti show that exists on tumblr.

My friend. There are so many fandom that have "critical" or "anti" in their name that liked how their media was but overtime didn't like it because of portrayals or their creators being underfire.

Anti-helluva boss

Anti-Hazbin

Vivziepop critical

Anti lore olympus

Unpopular lore olympus

Anti catra

Anti euphoria

Euphoria critical

You can find these on tumblr tags. Also last time I check none spaces don't have an space to that criticized an anti space that is always dumb down to "anti being mad" or "they are toxic because this wasn't how they envisioned the show"

Absolutely, and it's sad that this has to be stated like it's a new thing. Media like this has been criticized for so long. Wayyy longer than RWBY's conception. It's not a special RWBY case, it's just that RWBY is a bad show that's getting flack because it has shitty creators behind it.

What infuriates me the most is that Aliciaxdeath is queer, and she's criticizing queer media. Absolutely nothing wrong with that whatsoever. There are plenty of queer viewers who critique other queer media, and I'm sure there is much more when it comes to Hazbin Hotel/Helluva Boss, Korra, The Owl House, etc.

Alicia wasn't coming from a place of hate. She's a smart woman who knows how to read scenes and has film school experience under her belt, so she has a critical mind, which is not a bad thing. But because RWBY is so sPeCiAl, she's not allowed to critique RWBY or the Bees whatsoever, and if she does, she's way too negative and way too mean. What makes me angry is that Alicia said in her reaction (before it was pulled) was that she felt pressured to like BMBLB because she has dated women in the past, so the shippers were really expecting too much out of her already.

It went from not liking a ship to wishing the shippers would leave Alicia alone. She really was having a great time watching RWBY with her friend, but now the mood's been ruined by shipping discourse.

[velvetvexations]

it's so annoying it took this long like clearly I need to be way louder and more persistent

Please feel free to ask anything you'd like~!

I was on Tumblr for most of the 2010s but bounced shortly after the porn ban. I came back early this year after Reddit takes on FHJY infuriated me and I moved back over here.

The idea is that supposedly AFAB non-binary people are constantly rubbing their unique gender complexity in the face of "binary trans women." This is complete fucking nonsense and not remotely a thing that actually happens. Some people just be really fucking insecure and project that insecurity onto others to give them an excuse to be defensive about being binary.

This reaches to the point of claiming that no trans woman is "binary" in "a way that counts," and like...

Do you remember when TRFs had a meltdown about other people liking a shark plushie?

Or the time TRFs targeted a trans man for "erasing transfeminity" by drawing himself into a meme that was originally depicting a trans girl?

Or what about "gentrification of a fetish"?

Because, boy wow, you wanna talk about appropriation, am I right? Fucking "no trans woman is binary" get the fuck out of here Programmersocks.

Fascinating. Thank you, anon!

it's always funny in a cosmic sort of way when a TRF starts yelling about how you can only be a tryns wymyn if your birth certificate says "M" like okay miss Vogel

this is tangential but I had to google remind myself of Lisa Vogel's name and getta load'a this take lmao

Well~!

We have each other, anon. <3

misgendering is bad on principle but some people only care when it affects them in a way they don't like

lmao that sounds like a children's book that gets adapted into a Disney Channel movie

[lesb0]

I used to only see nazi typed do the ‘black women are masculine’ thing but now a LOT of white queers are too on here and other platforms and it’s aggravating. Why do you need me to be masculine to uplift ur own womanhood? What the fuck lol. They say full on lies and ahistorical shit as if our female ancestors weren’t degraded specifically for being female. As of the entirety of modern American gynaecology wasn’t violently created because of black women. Like black women weren’t forcibly made nurse maids. Like darkskin black women aren’t punished both scholastically and professionally because of race and sex. It goes hand in hand with thinking our skin/bones are ‘tougher’ like what! That race science shit is so infuriating and what’s annoying is the BW who co-sign. Like have some self respect and leave the rest of us out of it!

well I'll give you a hint: there's a group of neonazi porn addict white internet trans that migrated to tumblr a few years ago after getting banned for posting things too disgusting for reddit and 4chan 💁🏾‍♀️ (and sneaking into normal good trans circles since 2018)

they are saying it to absolutely hate on black women and use us as a scapegoat, as if to say "if you hate on us for valid reasons that's the same as hating black women" (putting nonsense words in our mouths while also giving themselves a pass to be misogynoirists) but then they provide absolutely no evidence as to how we could ever be compared to them

[pleasantspark]

My partner literally defends this show a lot and in VC he tries to "dispute it" so here's the full list of issues wrong with this show, you ALL have the fucking excuse as "no creative control", "endgame and slowburn", "You watch spliced up clips.", "It's Hell!"

No Creative Control: ViziePops characters would have IMMEDIATELY been changed COMPLETELY if that were the case.

Endgame and Slowburn: A ship being fucking depicted as going through a crisis every fucking minute and taking over an episode that was meant for two other characters? While also ruining a Parent Child bond? "Endgame" my ass, also lets not forget a character sexually harassed another character and was not depicted as calling that character out, "Couple Goals" my ass too. Slowburn is non-existent in this world.

You watched spliced up clips: HONEY the only clips I watch are those that ACTUALLY are relevant to my fucking point, Are we even watching the same damn thing? Also edits are beyond that.

It's Hell: Ah yes, so it's hell, no it's fucking downtown Los Angelos thats DISGUISED as Hell, Hell would be more "chaotic" and more "consequencal" most of the demons there are LIVING IT UP, and continiuing their lives much as they were alive. There's nothing different from when they are alive. It seems like Hell is LITERALLY Heaven. The only consequence is that demons seemed to get harassed or at the minimal killed, so next time I stab someone in Jail, I can go and say "IT'S JAIL!"

I feel as though people who compare ViziePops Harassment to Rebecca Sugar's harassment is completely stupid af.

Rebecca was harassed because someone decided to make a 1 hour long video trashing her show and indirectly called her a neo-nazi which caused other people to parrot the accusations as well, Rebecca was harassed by her fans just for standing up for a fan who was getting sent death threats over a FUCKING art style.

Afaik, Viv's harassments is just criticism of how she handled the pilot actors (And apparently Cherri Bomb's pilot VA had lost her Husband due to a medical ailment and she was trying to raise money to help fund the expenses that were left behind and fucking Viv said, Nuh uh, and shut that shit down. KNOWING PEOPLE PAID FOR THAT SHIT, I mean can Viv LEGALLY take down VA who impersonate her characters? Sure it's her IP but it doesn't mean that the VA for the original CB is her.), how she drew something I am not about to get into because quite frankly it's not my business (And I mean MOST of the creators, Rebecca included, had drawn some fucked up shit in the past.). She also apparently mistreats her workers. And afaik Sugar never did any of that.

You can scream "Oh but Viv has a LOT of struggles and [Rebecca Sugar] is just like her!!" all you want, but THERE'S nothing similar to her and Rebecca and the only thing similar is they make tv shows with diversity and are both females.

Don't get me wrong, I love HelluvaHazbin but people needlessly finding excuses for poorly written shows and bad pacing/decisions while also holding Viv on a pedestal infuriates me, and the worse part is, allegedly she never received criticism in her college years.

I ain't gonna sugar coat it, the LGBTQ+ Rep in this show is completely for the fujoshi and as a Trans Male whose Gay, I am HIGHLY disturbed about how most of the Gay characters are depicted as "Uwu Soft boys who could do no wrong"

Like for FUCKS sake, we're NORMAL PEOPLE, we don't get treated any differently by a standard hetrosexual, the only time we get treated differently is by angry Facebook Prudes and edgy fuckers who think being scared of homes is the new norm.

I am surprised most of the fandom (On tumblr) don't call out the problematic shit, when THE LGBTQ+ is prominent here! The more you continue to agree and like these "rep ships" the more you're giving these people the okay to continue to drive the show WHICH WAS BASED OFF OF "Assassinations" now turned into "Arguements between a same sex couple that has one victim and one gaslighter"

A little tidbit for those who stand with Stolas.

An Abuse Victim can be a Abuser.

It's not that difficult. Jfc. Anyways, this is my reason why I made Biblically Inaccurate to begin with.

[morroodle]

Tumblr fuckin ate this post the first time so let's try it again

Finally had time to watch the new season! Opinions and spoilers under the cut

Ok so overall I liked the season. Nothing really special or that stood out to me but it's still a very enjoyable experience, and I'm very excited for part 2. Now for some more specific thoughts in a non specific order

Lloyd being super tired at the beginning is so funny. He's such an eepy little man please let him sleep (preferably not on the floor)

Fugidove in a tree

Big Riyu! He's such a cutie pie <3 he's got big ol toe beans!

I wanted to punch Egalt. I really wanted to punch Egalt. I'm sorry but his attitude is so infuriating I do not like it. I do however love how Wyldfyre annoys him into liking her. 10/10 exactly how I made friends.

Don't care much for the other teacher dragon and I already forgot her name but I hate how small her wings are. Several of the new dragons have problems like this but hers are extra bad. You cannot convince me she can fly with those

Overall I don't know how I feel about the new dragon lore. These random ass not even source dragons just being able to talk is so weird, and it's weird that dragons can do spinjitzu. The more we get into DR the more it feels like they're just ignoring all the previous dragon lore and doing their own thing (ok I know they are but consistency would have been nice)

Geo, Cole and the kids are so cute <3 the dads and their childeren <3 this silly little found family (heheh pun) means so much to me. Absolutely love seeing more of Bonzle and her character, she's very fun

There should have been more Euphrasia content

The sorceress! I forgot her name sorry but I love her. She's so silly and perfect and such a good supportive mom to her magic skeleton trans daughter. Wonderful character fuck Janet

The administration is wonderful and I hope they continue to be a minor nuisance that can be thwarted by their own rules

When Kai, Wyldfyre and Sora put on the wolf masks I got so nervous/excited and I was honestly pretty dissapointed it didn't go anywhere interesting

Is it just me or do the forbidden five have Kung-fu Panda vibes

Really don't care for the villain situation or the overarching plot. Not to say i don't like it but it's kinda just there to me. Cinder is silly but I don't care about him nearly as much as everyone else. Like I said, I just don't care about it.

Jordana's probably fine don't worry about it

And finally:

PUPPY COLE PUPPY COLE PUPPY COLE PUPPY COLE!!! 5,000,000/10 BEST PART OF THE ENTIRE SEASON. I only wish we got to see more of him because oh my god he is so cute and perfect.

[pedros-husband]

Rows and rings

agent whiskey x male reader (SFW)

a/n: just wanted to say that i appreciate all of the reblogs and love i've received, also i am new to tumblr so I haven't quite figured out all the different things and ways to interact, so please be patient with me, thank you <3.

Summary: you had supposed to been on a date, this was the third time he didn’t show, and your pissed, rightly so, but for reasons a little deeper than face-value. Or at least the ring in your pocket says so.

prompt: 'do you ever mean the things you say?'

This fic is ftm trans inclusive (no Amab language used)

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it had started out as a small argument. you had been mad because jack forgot another date you'd planned. third time this week, actually.

His excuse was that he'd been busy with a mission, not having enough time to be worrying over 'stupid things', in his own words. but you weren't mad he'd forgotten, you were long past the point of being mad over things like that, no. you were mad because he had promised you not to forget or cancel. and you were a man of your word, whiskey knew that. he also knew how much you valued honesty and not doubling back on plans once they've been made.

when you first started dating you made it clear to whiskey that if he promised something he had to stick to his word, mostly because you had trust issues from past relationships but you'd never indulged in telling jack the details-it was never necessary, he always stuck to his word.

And to a degree you understood that jack's job was demanding and took priority over lots of things, and sometimes things happened out of the blue, but this wasn't like that. You had made sure to inform ginger and Tequila that Whiskey would be off duty for this night, just a few hours, it was no big deal. at least it was supposed to be no big deal.

Even though you were pissed that he technically lied that actually surprisingly wasn't your main source of anger. you'd been planning to propose to jack for a while, knowing he's too busy to even think about doing it after 4 years of patiently waiting you'd taken the matter into your own hands. both of you knew you were made for each other. jack reminded you constantly that you were the only man for him and he’d never even look at another man or woman the way he looks at you, and you believed him. which was why it was so infuriating that his behaviour was causing this tension in your relationship over the past week.

with the gradual build up of anger after each forgotten date your anger finally boiled over tonight. he was sat in the living room spread out on the couch, 6 hours late. you burst into the room and slammed the door shut, teeth gritted and eyes narrowed.

'jack daniels, you give me one good reason not to leave your ass right this damn second.'

he looked up from his position on the couch, groaning and rolling his eyes. 'look sugar, I'm sorry i really am but can we not argue right now, it's pretty damn late and this cowboy needs his beauty sleep' his accent is thicker from exhaustion as he stands up and moves to push past you, but you hold your ground and put a hand on his shoulder.

'no way jack, you promised me. you said that this time you were going to make time for me, it was planned out!' there were tears pricking in your eyes- this week had been so stressful with the build up of anxiety over the proposal and the repeated dissapointment of him forgetting each time.

'darlin', i said, not.tonight. and besides, it's a one time thing, i haven't lied to ya before, no biggie.'

'jack, it's not a one time thing, this is the third time this week! i understand work is important but i'm your boyfriend and i deserve your attention too sometimes! i mean: do you ever mean the things you say? c'mon, we're not kids jack.'

'your being a jerk. i am a man of my words, don't you ever, even insinuate that i'm not. i am loyal to my country and to my work, i can't help that you aren't always first.' jack practically spits in your face, gruffly shoving you backwards so he can move past you, but instead of heading to the bedroom he heads to the door. in a dazed panic you yell, tears starting to roll down your cheeks, ' i was going to propose!'

silence.

'you... you what?' he turns to face you, eyebrows furrowed in confusion and disbelief, hand paused on the doorknob.

you take a deep breath, wipe your tears away and continue 'i was going to propose to you. originally on Monday, then Wednesday, then Friday, then...tonight... look jack... i know your busy and i know i may be being a little overbearing right now, iIve just been so stressed this past week and you know i haven't been getting as much sleep an-' as you talk he strides over to you, and cuts you off by pulling you into a deep kiss, hands gripping your waist tightly.

the kiss isn't slow and passionate, it rarely ever is with jack. but it isn't filled with lust like usual, it's more, tender and, apologetic. he glides his hand up your back and lets it rest on the nape of your neck. you kiss back eagerly, hands finding their way into his shortt brown hair, before one falls back down to the pocket of your jeans and you break away.

'i-i'm sorry sugar... i ain't good with apologies an all that, but i really am. i shoulda' gone on the date the first time, shoulda given you more attention. i want you and only you, but i haven't been acting like i do, so im sorry.' jack whisper averting his gaze, as he drops his hands and puts them in his pockets sheepishly.

you sigh and pull out a small box, getting down on one kneee. 'i know this isn't as romantic as the fancy date i planned, and its abit more tear-filled and chaotic, but i love you no matter how stupid you are, no matter how many dates you miss. Jack Daniels i knew from the moment i met you that you were the man for me, and i would be so happy if you would marry me. so, will you?' you look up at him with hopeful eyes, opening the little black box to reveal a small golden band.

jack smiles and pulls you up nodding his head and kissing you on the lips over and over, in between each one whispering, 'yes, yes a hundred times yes'

after he finally calms down and you put the ring on his finger, you lead him to your room and slowly change into your pj's, a comfortable silence hangs in the air, but your both smiling like idiots the whole time.

you get into bed and he immediately pulls you into his chest, holding you tight and burying his face into your hair, fiddling with the new ring on his finger.

'i love you, sugar... and i cant wait to be your husband.' he whispers into your hair, closing his eyes as he inhales the scent of your sweet smelling shampoo.

'i love you too jack, and i can't wait to be your husband too.' you mumble, eyes heavy as you slowly drift off to sleep in the comforting embrace of your fiance.

[lily-on-the-fence]

uh-oh my dad did another infuriating thing so now you all get to hear about it!!

I'm job searching right now and my dad send me a link to the MI5 recruitment page saying "maybe this will give some ideas!" and then went on to say how marvelously progressive the British civil service is for wanting "diversity" and how the UK is much better than its made out to be by Reddit or Tumblr.

So there I go again, writing a fucking paragraph about how puberty blockers have been banned and they shared suicide prevention services on the announcement page, so actually yes, they know they're causing a lot of distress in doing this, and about how Kier Starmer himself has said a lot of unsupportive things and how that's bad because it legitimises anti-trans views and it's just like-

I thought we were over this?? I've talked about all the shit the UK is doing wrong for like 2 years now. How can you still imply that it's just Reddit and Tumblr being delusional?? Like I've no doubt the general population is actually fine with trans people, but that means nothing when they still vote for transphobes and do honestly very little to keep anti-trans legislation from being passed.

[tinystepsforward]

hey I wanted to say in the midst of all this that I was like "oh cool a former Tumblr staff member with all the goss", but then I clicked through to check out your profile and. fellow goathead. mountain goats for life

and also you're from new zealand which is awesome, I'm aussie so it's always cool to find people in the region y'know. apologies for your asshole PM right now fwiw, heard he "fled" a festival called Big Gay Out because he got confronted by protesters so lol

sorry if things get out of hand with the Matt meltdown stuff, like people trying to Take You To Task despite no longer being staff or something. In the midst of all this, I wanted to send something nice.

yeah my wife was working the BGO and he did in fact make a cheeky escape! the infuriating thing is that he's not just a bigoted cunt but a cowardly bigoted cunt who's letting his further-right coalition partners drag him around into increasingly extreme anti-māori and anti-trans stances. everyone here is bracing for an increasingly miserable few years, especially those of us who are disabled or otherwise on benefits. there's fuckall jobs and they're slashing funding for everything that people who are barely treading water need to survive. it'll be a grim few years.

but you know, jacinda ardern apparently listened to this year last campaign season she won, which makes me kind of mad bc in no way is that song about getting reelected! it's about those of us who are impacted by said reelection and cowardly choices, you feel? but yeah, mountain goats for life. i listened to bleed out today and spent a blissful two hours not looking at my tumblr notifications and working on a solidarity banner for pride this weekend.

mostly people have been very considerate to me, which i appreciate! some level of no-reading-comprehension or aggression from people who are afraid or don't understand tech or can't read my huge paragraphs (sorry, i really was just venting and didn't mean it to get big) is just par for the course, and i'm not worried about it. back in the day i got in poorly advised online fights all the time and these days i'm just vibing. this won't change that too much, hopefully.

[jellybeanium124]

tumblr doesn't really have this problem but while smug single issue nonvoters of a Certain Type who say Both Parties Are The Same (ykwim) are super annoying, there's something even more infuriating about the more common type of american nonvoter, who just isn't usually a tumblr user. the cishet able-bodied white man who doesn't care. I have two of these for coworkers and I don't like thinking about it.

I hate thinking about how many people actually don't care. the people who actually have no investment in politics and don't care to vote because they're a cishet able-bodied white man, so, for them, it's probably fine either way. of course, chabwm probably have people in their lives who aren't chabwm's, such as a girlfriend or wife, mother, aging grandparents, friends, who knows! but they don't care. they'll never need an abortion. they're not disabled at the moment, so they don't really care about disabled people. they're not gay, they can marry their girlfriends. they're not trans and they probably barely understand being trans. the chabwm in question is usually middle-class. they don't need welfare or rent assistance or food stamps. they're also usually young, they don't need to worry about social security or medicare. if they are on medicaid their lack of caring is baffling, but these chabwm have usually just been taken care of in general and are coasting through life. they haven't noticed any real changes between the administrations. nobody has come for them. so who cares? why bother voting?

it genuinely sickens me to know there are some people who don't care about politics at all. who are so selfish they don't care about people who aren't themself in any real way. it's a very mundane, passive evil that exists in so many chabwm americans. they mention their nonvoter status only casually if voting is brought up. they don't care. and that's the end of the conversation. because if you bring up how that's terrible and they should care, you're the bad one. because chabwm's are always correct.

[ohnoitstbskyen]

I see you being a bit more active on Tumblr, and idk if you'll read this but when you came out as aromantic - publicly, on YouTube, talking about your experiences? It made me jump on my seat. I remember I was at my friend's house when you uploaded the video and I was just staring at the screen, hearing you speak and there was something within me that felt so much happiness and relief.

You made me feel happy and safe enough - seen enough? To admit to myself that I'm in the aromantic spectrum. I've always been on the fence about it due to inner arophobia, and seeing you, someone I (parasocially) admire being what I was afraid of? It made me realize that the world is okay with aromantic people in it. With me in it.

I still think back on that video so fondly. I listen to it sometimes before going to bed, it brings me so much joy. Even as I type this there are still leftover tears of relief in my eyes. I don't know if this means anything to you from a stranger, but I needed you to know that it meant everything to me, especially as a trans man. Thank you, Skyen.

Well, I'm glad the video was helpful. I know for me it was extremely important just to hear an experience like mine articulated, to learn that I don't sit alone with myself at the tip of history, and that I don't have to invent the category of "me" all by myself.

So if it could do that for you, then I am very happy.

Truth be told I still struggle with doubt and uncertainty about that part of my identity; it's that infuriating problem of proving a negative, finding evidence of absence. "What if I just haven't met the right person yet? What if my sexuality isn't what I thought it was? What if, what if, what if..."

But the fact that other people share that experience, that they share the doubt especially... that helps. If to be "aromantic" meant to be absolutely certain of exactly what being "aromantic" is, what it feels like, and how to articulate it to other people, then I don't know that I would ever have been able to see myself in it.

My experience of it has been a long walk of doubts and second guesses, and a lot of the time I am not so much certain that I am aromantic, as I am certain that I am not any of what "romantic" is supposed to be.

If you're out there and some of those aspec labels are resonating with you, but you're full of doubt about them... hey, just know, feeling that doubt is normal. If it calls to you enough that you have to wrestle with doubt about it, that means it's worth exploring.