#because yk comphet

[todayisafridaynight]

Ok wild thought but i just listened to the song Fooled Around And Fell in Love (by Elvin Bishop) and it’s giving me Mine “I didn't care how much they cried, no sir. Their tears left me cold as a stone. But then I fooled around and fell in love”

So he cast aside many women cause his interests never lasted and then he fell in love huh 🤔MHHHHM 🤔 i’ve connected the dots (i haven’t connected shit)

- yakozy from main

no you're absolutely cooking here you're onto something brother im nodding along and taking notes

[feral-radfem]

Yeah, a LOT of bi women claimed to be a lesbian while she is dating a woman, dating a man identifying as a woman, or is single nowadays. I'm tired of having to sit here and bear it under the guise of allowing others to explore their sexuality. I really wish people would understand that heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality are all innate. No one has to try the other side to see if they like it and most people who experiment with their sexuality were bi the first place. That's where the desire to see what it's like usually comes from.

Between the redefining of lesbian, the 'sexuality is fluid' bullshit, and the fake ass lesbian Master docs I'm surprised anytime I find an actual lesbian wandering about. They want to be a lesbian (usually in name alone {fetishization}) so bad it makes them sick.

I can't believe I've been using this website so long that I got to experience tumblr's entire "LUG" arc in real time. There is currently a post going around with thousands of notes and most of the replies/tags are comprised of women talking about how they thought they were lesbian until they met the right man (even if dressed up in gender/"queer" lingo that's what most of them boil down to). One that stood out to me was a girl saying she "was a lesbian four 4-5 years" and, assuming she's not five years old, I wonder what she was before that? More people really need to read up on the concept of a bi-cycle and stop claiming they're "ex gay" at age twenty-one. You were always just bi.

[fanny-rollingstone]

WHAT IF platonic calicheer

it has the energy of little birds who are friends with crocodiles

they’re the opposite of steve and robin: while their friendship is just straight up bullying each other and people around them, calicheer are supportive and kind to each other

chrissy being so patient and sweet to billy it makes him want to open up for her and tell her some of his crazy ass lore

chrissy being the comphet patriarchy victim that she is, which makes her unable to talk back and stand up for herself, and billy being the comphet toxic masculinity monstrosity that he is, which lets him stand up for her and protect her from other toxic masculinity monstrosities

billy complaining to her about his dad and chrissy complaining to him about her mom

billy slowly coming to the realization that he’s gay as FUCK and freaking out, and chrissy being so patient and accepting and supportive to him it makes him feel better for a minute

ALSO while i’m at it how about platonic chrissybillyeddie???? idk what to call them uhh mungrovegham? cungroveson?????? you get me yk

chrissy having the scary dog privilege with billy and eddie by her sides

eddie being openly gay while billy suffocating in the closet

chrissy being too kind and soft to cuss her mom out and then eddie and billy roasting the fuck out of mrs cunningham and promising chrissy to arrange a murder

NO ONE even THINKING of being creepy and weird with chrissy because eddie’s a rumoured criminal and billy seems capable of things for an nc-21 darknet selling dvd horror documentary

chrissy being slow and patient with billy’s sexuality crisis and eddie being like "jesus fucking christ dude you’re a HOMOSEXUAL you’re a GAY man, DENIAL IS A RIVER IN EGYPT STOP FUCKING AROUND"

people wondering whether they’re a couple + a guy in a friend zone? a love triangle? two guys fighting over a girl? a polyamorous trio? while them being just three homosexuals hanging out together

i love this tbh

[lover-of-mine]

Well, if we're talking controversial takes, may I share mine? If only one of them was going to come out, I think it should have been Eddie. They both have been queer coded, but imo Eddie is more queer coded. His is also a lot more plot focused, like the panic attacks and Ana storyline. Feeling like he has to perform on dates. I could go on.

I enjoy Bi Buck but, storytelling wise, it adds essentially nothing to the narrative without Buddie. Eddie’s sexuality would have changed and added depth to his character arc.

He'll, I'll say it with my full chest; if we could only have one of them come out, I wanted it to be Eddie. Eddie deserves to.

Also, as a fellow bi, I don't think you have said anything even remotely offensive, lol.

Darling, why would you say something so controversial yet so brave?

I'm 100% with you on this one. I think that if we were going to have someone else on the main cast being queer just for the sake of having someone else on the cast be representation, I would 100% prefer a plot where Eddie reckons with his sexuality and everything around his life, than Buck dating a random dude after almost breaking Eddie's leg because he doesn't understand his feelings and now we are trapped with that, yk? I think that Eddie having a queer arc detached from Buck would be very interesting, but especially if Buddy isn't a possibility. Now we know that if Eddie gets a queer arc, buddie is going to happen so Eddie's queer arc is going to be attached to Buck somehow, especially because Buck is a possibility and Eddie is self aware enough to know that if he is attracted to men, Buck is right there, he will make that connection to Buck instantly. Eddie coming to terms with his sexuality, and comphet and the panic attacks about Ana and the way that dating feels performative, even the way that getting with Shannon as young as he did affected that the way that he viewed his own sexuality, and the way that he doesn't do with the things that he wants, that would have been a way more interesting story to watch, yk? In a universe we can't have both. But, like, narratively it is very hard to make something satisfying for either one of them because you would have to delete buddie and they are not doing that, and if Buck's bi then no one is blocking them being queer anymore, so if we can go there why not go there, you know what I mean? But yeah, if we were only going to get one of them I would much rather for him to be Eddie than Buck, and I say that as a bisexual who craves more bi rep. A sole Eddie queer arc would be more compelling.

[yourlocalsaiko]

would love to know more of your thoughts of victoria and sameer. i always saw him as significantly older than her by a few years, so to see you say that seduced him has definitely gotten me to think on it more (not that her seduction isn’t impossible but yk)

It just makes sense to me. The way he carries himself also on the wiki he’s stated to be late 30’s mid 40’s so there isnt much of an age difference, and with the way Victoria carried herself sitting with him and inquiring about his work and just giving him time of day might’ve done it. But yea over all I’ve heard people say Samir was CompHet and maybe that was it but for me i can definitely see her as bisexual.

From what little i saw samir is still in love with her to some extent. So it was obviously Victoria who broke it off so maybe it was in fact comphet. Maybe they broke up because she found out she was gay. I don’t know its up to interpretation.

[allisluv]

im so happy to find someone who sees everlark as a platonic ship!! i honestly LOVE their relationship but i dont rlly see them together yk?

and katniss is so lesbian that its actually crazy its not canon 🫠 like her and johanna would be such a cute(not sure if its the right word but anyway) couple!

yes! i love everlark but it personally doesn't work as a ship in my eyes because im a firm believer that katniss is a lesbian with comphet! the age difference between katniss and johanna would make me feel a lil bit icky, just because katniss is still a minor and i see them as more of sisters but im so happy to find my people!

[crypticmillipede]

[percy jackson spoilers here up through Trials of Apollo and TSaTS]

listen i LOVEE the percy jackson series and its extended universe . BIG FAVORITE so trust me when i say i mean this with the UPMOST love:

gawd damn rick riordan keeps making these little choices in his writing that have me tweaking. like the way this man forgets his own lore. EGREGIOUS. pulls me out of the story. it’ll be the tiniest, most innocuous thing but it gets me everyyy time. happens more especially as you get into the later series, probably bc there’s just more stuff to keep track of. i loved TSaTS but it was especially bad there😭😭 wdym nico started playing Mythomagic in the 1940s ?? why is bianca here ?? and nico, who spends most of his time in the underworld, doesn’t know what the phlegethon is??

it’s other stuff too, i love the series but there so much missing potential for these characters that was just never fully explored.

Jason’s character had SO much potential. hello ???? child soldier trained by wolves since age 2, pressured with unwanted responsibility, forced to suppress emotions, remain stoic, be a leader. Rick could’ve done sooo much with that material. jason should get to break down, as a treat !! instead he comes off as a bit undeveloped, sort of hollow, not nearly as fleshed out as some of the other characters. he’s probably the least-liked main character in HoO, but i firmly believe that’s because Rick didn’t do his character idea justice, not because his concept was ACTUALLY boring. Not even going to go INTO what happened to him in ToA, bc i’ve GOT opinions about that but it’s too much rn.

and don’t get me started on Piper, man. the reveal in Trials of Apollo that [SPOILER SPOILER SPOILER] Piper was queer? GENIUS. SOOO much potential there. but now i’m going back and rereading HoO and it’s making me mad bc we GET Piper’s pov and it’s not foreshadowed or hinted at at all. and it could’ve been SO GOOD you guys😭😭 imagine a version of HoO where Piper’s struggling with Hera-induced comphet, warring with the false memories implanted in her brain vs the way she’s expected to act as a daughter of aphrodite vs the way she actually feels ??? UGH it could’ve been so good. but instead, it’s so obvious that this was not Rick’s original plan for Piper’s character, and it was something he threw in later on. missed opportunity for sure.

in general, a lot of missed opportunities in HoO. So many missed character interaction opportunities, so much that could’ve been delved into but wasn’t! Like I wish we could’ve gotten more about Percy and Annabeth post-Tartarus, see how they’re holding up after that dumper fire.

and i LOVE HoO, it’s my favorite out of the bunch! but i think i love it for what it could be, yk?? anyways yes thanks for coming to my rant, feel free to disagree with me that’s totally fine!! this is so unserious anyways lol just me sharing some thoughts about a series i love

[lcvalia]

just a heads up this is totally personal, and it is totally chill if you don't feel comfortable responding to this i was just curious about something while i was searching your page (it's so cute btw)!

i saw your post about #ilovemygf & #ilovemybf trend with harry and went to look at your hogwarts dr (because same!!!) and saw that on your like... overview page? (i think that's what it's called) you mentioned you're a lesbian (also twin!!) i was just curious how you decided you wanted to date harry in your hogwarts dr and it seems anakin as well, in your starwars/actor au dr.

as a lesbian, i've always been quite... protective over my sexuality? like, when i see edits of harry or even daniel larusso i get giddy but then like insecure that i feel that way. here they are fictional characters, sure, but in my drs they're real.

again, totally okay if you don't feel comfortable answering this i've just never seen this situation before!!

hai lovely :3!! ive had my hogwarts dr for about id sayyy 4-5 years now? it all started mid shifttok hp era. anyways, harry has always been my s/o ( same w/ anakin ) ^_^! i can totally see where youre coming from and i get the same way with being protective of my sexuality also. i can also relate to the feeling insecure thing because i get like that aloottt... i always feel like im being fake and not true to who i really am ykwim? i know personally it doesnt diminishes my sexuality here but then again im shifting for three men from my drs 😭🙏. i think its rare for these types of situations to happen which is why im always secretive about talking about my drs & s/os openly sigh because yk how people are they DRAG you without any shame gulps. back to the topic, i truly think its normal to feel giddy when you see edits of them but then feel bad after because comphet exists i fear 😓 if you ever wanna talk to me about this or our drs feel free to send me a dm idm at all!

though i have a bffie that comforts me about this stuff but at the end of the day im still gonna feel horrible about it at times 🥹

(btw tysm for saying my page is cutie ilysm)

[our-arospec-experience]

Sometimes I feel weird about calling myself aro spec because I’m not fully aro(hence the spec) but sometimes it just feels like maybe I’m just really picky yk. And I haven’t lived that much life, so I haven’t met any people I’d like. Plus, genuinely, I do not want to date until I’m an adult, because I want that freedom before I explore romantic relationships, especially because sometimes I know about myself(I think) is that I need to go into a relationship with the mindset that I am looking for something romantic, otherwise I simply wouldn’t want to ruin a good friendship and just. Choose not to develop any sort of romantic feelings there, even if I think I could if I tried? No point to consider it if I don’t want it, so I gotta get that romantic grindset in. But then again idk if that’ll work. I don’t know if I’ve ever had a real crush in my life(I don’t think I have, it was the comphet and compallo)(I think it’s allo. I’m referring to compnotaro)

And then I talked to one of my non-Aro spec friends and realized. Hmmmm. No yeah I’m definitely aro-spec. What the fuck are they talking about here. It was also kinda a them specifically thing, but sometimes of it was non-aro stuff and damn. Idk how I would live like that

yeah

[lesbiansdv]

my favorite sdv ships (w/o the farmer) (not just w bachelor(ette)s)

under the cut to be nice <3 part 1 because apparently i had a lot more to say about some couples than i thought 😨 and now im worn out lmfao ill write about more when i wanna. i hope you enjoyyyy and id love to know if i inspire any fics too btw 👀👀

Seb/Sam (+potentially Abigail in a way?)

OBVIOUS choice. great ship—childhood friends, opposite aesthetics, in the same band, introvert/extrovert, i love them. abby could join poly potentially ofc, but i feel like she would have a more relationship anarchy approach to it, ykwim? sam and seb would definitely date though!

Haley/Leah

nooo clue why this one isnt super popular omg. literally butch/femme, AND theyre both artsy (leah as a painter/sculptor, haley as a photographer. think of the romance possibilities… capturing each other in their chosen mediums, trying to teach each other their styles and talents, etc omg omg). haley could go through a similar character arc w leah as she would if the farmer pursued her as well, so that could be fun to explore from this perspective instead. also imagine internalized homophobia/comphet haley going thru a sexuality crisis and then theres leah, the one confirmed character to have a past gay relationship (depending on the farmer but yk) in the valley. imagine the conversations. imagine haley desperately wanting to hear about her experiences but being super terrified at the same time. i love lesbians guys COME on is the sdv community not majorly sapphic? lets get on ittttt

Emily/Sandy

BASICALLY canon lets be real. theyre so gay for each other and they dont really hide it. i feel like at first theyd have a long fulfilling friendship while simultaneously both having other strong feelings for each other but not realizing its romantic, but like they both know they’re super special to each other though it really is no secret. then eventually they have the revelation that “wait, i feel GAY for you, like really really gay, like actually romantic and stuff for real, THATS what that is, and its less of a panicky thing and more just like “ohhhh,” pieces falling into place. and they have a bit of a conversation and then start dating without much of an awkward period because their friendship had already been closer than the average couple anyways lmfao. it was mainly just choosing to label their relationship as something that fit their feelings better, and ofc that allows them to navigate society easier with more terms and stuff they can do. btw they had probably even made out and stuff often before they dated just because they wanted to and didn’t see why not, seriously not much ACTUALLY changed when they started dating. theyre just really chill and happy together <3

Rasmodius (the wizard)/Caroline

teehee we all know

…also, yk what?

Rasmodius/Mr Qi

theyre exes tho. the wizard is the most divorced man ever like he has so many failed past relationships and atp it might ACTUALLY be a curse because hes really truly just an awesome guy! shitty things just keep happening that split up every relationship that he ends up in tho </3 like i think with these two, qi has a huge god complex and a lot of power that it got out of hand and ras… he couldn’t FIX HIM 💔💔 they got so toxic. i dont have a solid backstory for qi in my head yet so i cant detail much rn but i love this idea now that ive been presented it. also i think it was linus that helped ras thru that breakup, i think he was the main guy who had to be like “hey this relationship is actually not good for you and i know you know it too, itd be best to stop holding onto it and break it off. im ur friend and im here for you, and all your other friends are too <3” and shit like that. patting his shoulder while ras cries into his knees. i like imagining qi as like a sort of villain/antagonist/conflict for the whole old adventurers group, and this would be suuuuch a fun added detail 👀

Marlon/Gil (and some discussion of marnie and lewis) (i hate lewis) (sorry girl you deserve sm better… she should marry her microwave ngl like THAT thing would treat her better than lewis bruh)

these two are an elderly gay couple. this is an undeniable fact. theyve been together for years, nobody knows that they’re together except for the wizard + the rest of their old adventuring group (so like, linus, mona, and i hc gunther was an eventual addition to that also), lewis & marnie (ill explain just a sec), and probably evelyn somehow just because she’s chill. overall, so few people know because, yk, gotta be careful w homophobia back then! they couldn’t be having big town weddings like they can now, they weren’t able to ever be public (even in the game now there are some instances of homophobia, like with what george admits if you marry alex as a guy. small rural towns also tend to be more “traditional” too, its a real fear.) even though things have improved, they still had a rough past with it and have fallen into a routine where they don’t feel like they could ever take that step. maybe, if the farmer (or others) have a gay wedding, eventually they might come out publicly and get married, or at the very least secretly get married. now that theyre getting older, its becoming a topic of conversation among them. theyd consider marriage for all the legal benefits such as wills and inheritance instead of romance at this point, since they know their love is just as strong married or not, and they don’t have the energy or ability for all the celebration of a wedding anymore.

now, what about marlon admiring marnie at the dance and such in recent years still? i think marnie used to be like his beard! and he still occasionally says stuff like that to help hide that hes gay! they probably used to date a bit and marlon used that as cover for how he’s totally entirely straight and he and gil have nothing going on at all, definitely, no no. marnie knew, she agreed to do this for him for a while to help him out. something probably went down where like, lewis found out, was def homophobic back then but didnt want to be TOO public about his stance because hes a political figure yk, so they worked out a deal that lewis would keep his mouth shut if he would “break up” with marnie, so then lewis would have no competition with her. marlon told marnie, they decided that SHE would “break up” with HIM to dull any doubts the public wouldve had about his sexuality still, and he can still pretend to love her all this time even though they’re no longer dating. and why does lewis still never publicly date marnie, even after all that? well, 1. hes an asshole and i hate him, and 2. pierre would accuse him of favoritism among the business orders, claiming she was getting taxed less or something like that, that its unfair and he deserves to be financially compensated, etc etc, and lewis doesn’t wanna deal with all that bullshit and how it could all pile up and be used to topple his position as mayor. sure, everyone kinda knows theyre “secretly” together anyways, but thats why he wanted marlon and marnie to break up and also why he cant publicly admit that hes with marnie. boom. i made that all up on the spot wtf

[philomenacunt]

ask game... quartertech, lexgrace, and zailey?

AH SCREAMS.....can i just say i love that quartertech is like their official name now. i just put that in the tags of karen's post once. quartertech......

quartertech

i love them. ruth can fix him. she would fight back like she does with steph ("don't bully me!") if max wasn't physically a threat. she Should put him in his place. he's the king of hatchetfield and (apparently) really hot and ruth deserves a bf like that. also i think he'd support her love for theater and encourage her to yk just audition.

he makes it sound real easy but he's got that big goofy smile on his face when he says it so ruth doesn't have time to explain to him why it's not easy for her because she's already kissing him

also. ruth likes star wars and max also obviously likes star wars. ALSO. bit crude but we can assume he's good at fucking right. ruth deserves that. okay

lexgrace

I'm!!!!!! AHH okay. okayyyy. good girl x bad girl. except the bad girl's actually a softie, and the good girl's actually insane. at first lex wants to get a kick out of corrupting grace. and while grace is still dealing with self hatred, comphet, all the other christian issues, she's not gonna be corrupted. my little sadist. i'm soooo tired i'm sorry this is all i can offer rn

zailey

ZAILEY.....ZAILEY. they're such a cliché /pos. popular hot confident girl & her lackey loser lesbian who's desperately in love with her. and the popular hot girl has comphet and a soft spot for her lackey and it kills her so hard. did you see that one video i posted about their interactions in workin' boys?

look at that. it probably wasn't intentional but it captures their dynamic so well to me

[cenfitto]

actually while we're on the topic i think you can tell when people hc talis as bi strictly because theyre Chained To Canon and like can i just say as a bi person this feels. Really Bad. that bisexuality is just the Obligatory Sexuality to many people for characters that have canon m/f connections but they want to do a gay ship for. and i'm just speaking for myself and the bi bestie i was chatting about this with but like it gets to the point that i'd rather you just call them gay with comphet or questioning or whatever and say it with sincerity instead of treating being bi like some Necessary Evil yk. a bi headcanon should come from your Heart. you need to feel it in your Heart

[inkameswetrust]

hi benji! what are two songs that remind you of kames and why? :)

IM ACTUALLY SO GLAD YOU ASKED OMG I LITERALLY HAVE A WHOLE PLAYLIST OF SONGS THAT REMIND ME OF KAMES HEHEHEHEHE

but lemme break it down to probably the two most integral songs that i associate with kames!

the first song is definitely parallel by heffron drive. i feel that's a song that could be sung from either james' or kendall's pov and it holds a lot of sentimental value for me being that it's the name of my first ever kames fanfic! there's a specific line that makes me think about the relationships they've pursued in the big time rush series and how bizarre and nonsensical they've been. it seems their relationships with other girls have caused more harm than good but yk plot armor and poor writing paired them with lucy and jo indefinitely. it's the line "do we light up our hearts just to watch them burn?" that line really speaks to me and makes me think that maybe they're not giving up on these girls because they don't want to come to terms with the fact that their feelings are changing. they don't want to be alone, little did they know the person for them was a lot closer than they thought. i don't think any other characters in the show know each other better or care for each other more than kendall and james, so parallel is easily my #1!

the second song is pink by waterparks. i remember when my friend @powerfule got me to listen to it for the first time and i instantly felt a connection. it was giving a "pining for a comphet guy" kinda scenario cuz from a surface level pov i think anyone would assume james was straight due to how effortlessly he charms the pants off of most girls he meets. kendall would especially believe that his feelings are exclusively one-sided based on the line "it's not fun when i find out you're playing for the other team". this song in particular solidifies (at least in my mind) that james is "one of his favorite few" and as such is looked upon in a certain light. this song is a little more angsty in comparison parallel, but i think that's why i like comparing waterparks songs to the kames dynamic. their relationship is not all sunshine and rainbows. there is a stark contrast between how kendall and james express their love. despite his avoidant attachment style, kendall wears his heart on his sleeve. i'm certain he craves commitment and stability despite being afraid of it. james however goes from one fling to the next and doesn't feel the need to plant any roots. he doesn't need constant reassurance or stability except for when it comes to kendall. his direct wants and desires are usually targeted or communicated to kendall as seen in episodes like big time audition or big time tests.

tysm for asking this btw! i really enjoyed breaking this down and it kinda inspired me to write a blog abt my kames playlist so hopefully that's smth i do in the future :)

[arco-pluris]

Hello If you see this I would appreciate the Help. I am a guy and I have always been very very attracted to men they are physically hot, and i am also sexually attracted to them. When I think of guys I always think of having a future together and I look forward to relationships with them, I always get butterflies as well Ik that’s very gay. But when it comes to women I feel bad cause the only time I ever liked one was one girl from my old school, and i didn’t see the fact that she was a girl I just liked her for her, I thought of dating her and had sexual feelings towards her as well ( I said she was my one exception some other gay friends said it’s not common but there are some whom are rare but do experience this ) I never went with her but I did think of it. But fast forward to today when I think of women their chest just doesn’t attract me in any way, when some dress in front of me cause I’m gay and they think I wouldn’t like them which I just don’t feel any any attraction to women when they dress in front of me, or any butterflies in my stomach when looking at them and I don’t even plan our future. I do get sad tho because I want to like women but I just don’t and don’t get me wrong they are extremely gorgeous but I just don’t really feel anything. But when I’m looking at a video of them in a tight fitted dress sometimes I accidentally look at their outfit at their chest area ofc I don’t stare cause I don’t want to make them uncomfortable but I think omg their outfits are such a slay but sometimes in the very rare occasions I always ask myself am I attracted to this or do I find this hot. And sometimes I’d search up women on those yk “sites” to see do I like this and most times I see and then I’m like well I don’t feel anything, but I’m the very slight chance I sometimes find the situation hot and that makes me think the woman is hot. And Ik you can find ppl attractive without being attracted to them but sometimes I’m sexually attracted to them but only if I come across them on a site. Cause I’m the occasion that a woman irl comes into me I don’t feel anything and I feel nothing. No sexual interest when they actually do something or romantic. But if it’s online from a site cause I was looking at men and came across them I end up finding it hot and am attracted to them but only in the moment. Cause day to day life I’d see how gorgeous women can be and I just don’t feel anything. When it’s a man tho I don’t have to ask if I like this, and when I see them I feel butterflies as well as the tension. But women in person I don’t even feel sexual tension I’m a confusing person..

Please help idk what’s wrong with my feelings and I’m wondering if I’m still valid as gay ? Or is there a term or sexuality or whatever to describe how I am or something ? Honestly any input would help ofc only if you can, cause I’m so confused right now.

(anon sent october 27)

nothing wrong. bold of you to think I would be the one to say something is wrong. but at least I feel these feelings are very common. the thing is: would you still be curious about it? because I consider being curious a defining identity for some, including myself.

another thing to look at is: borea-, gynecurious (or heterocurious), androflexible, minflex, maflex, try-, pre-, cupiogex, and merascic.

you could be a merasscic gynecurious/homoflexible (aniso-).

if you find these forms of attraction get blurry or mixed together, try aestheti-, apres-, or quoi-.

you could also question yourself if that's really attraction or it's desire (libido/stimulus) or corporeal response. idk if you'd be worried with comphet or not. cogitari- or poeti- could be used together with a femaric/fin- identity.

[everything-is-crab]

Straight/bi women literally don't see lesbians as women due to their lack of attraction to men.

Sex is the division of reproductive labor that men choose to exploit. Gender is the social construct to support and facilitate the exploitation and homophobia is literally a product of that system. Don't wanna use the word "comphet" because the word is quite debated, but people are expected to choose a partner of the opposite sex. It's not like lesbians are just liberated. If you don't wanna admit lesbians are also exploited on the basis of their reproductive ability means that you don't think they're women.

Idk why some people like to argue that just because *some* lesbians in more liberal countries are able to live a life without pregnancy that means lesbians as a class are unempathetic to women of other sexualities in matters of reproductive exploitation. I live in India and I cannot imagine making that statement as a bisexual woman. The way lesbians here are forced into marriage and to give kids to their family. Corrective rape is a thing here. If you're going to use your race as an argument against lesbians then also have the guts to think from the pov of lesbians from your race (she is mixed white-Indian). This is the lived reality of most lesbians in the world. They're not less impacted by any form of misogyny. This is why radfems must introspect and criticize their own work first before blindly worshipping authors like Simone de Beauvoir, whose ideas you have internalized. Just like lesbophobes today, she was bitter against lesbians, thought they hindered feminist movement cause she thought they were some class of "liberated" women. The sentiment is still very alive today.

I highly doubt that she (if yk who I am talking about then yk) and other women who agreed with her have given birth themselves, or plan to anytime soon. In my opinion, a country that's less homophobic is also relatively less misogynistic. So lesbians there aren't more liberated anymore than het or bi women. Just like them, you have as much choice to remain childfree and never be pregnant. The social pressure, retaliation etc is something lesbians do share with us.

Straight women think and say the worst things about each other. Give each other advice on how to lose weight after pregnancy and to look attractive again to their husbands again. Give advice to stitch to be "tight" again. Disapprove certain style of dressing while on or after pregnancy.

However, all such behaviors these women inflict on each other is called internalized misogyny. In case of lesbians tho, they're accused of "behaving like men" when lesbians have no power, no social institution to force straight women into pregnancy or any of the things related to it. When lesbians are themselves forced in het marriages and childbirth. You cannot claim they're like "men". This is such an insult to the lesbian and bi women activists in my country who have made female only orgs within LGBT cause neither male members of LGBT nor het women understand the unique position of wlw community in society.

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PAC : How to come out the closet.

i’m aware of how society is still very backwards and extremely homophobic. it’s an unfortunate world we have to live in; and still deal with homophobia, internalized homophobia and homophobic comments in passing. i’m not sure how many of you guys on this app are still in the closet but this is for you!

Pile 1 : 5oP rx, The Fool rx, KNoP, The Lovers, 7oS

Okay… so Pile 1! It seems like you could be really insecure or having doubts about coming out to those around you. If you having doubts, I heavily suggest that you actually take the time to heal the wounds/overthinking to actually be ready to show the world who you truly love.

Once you have gained your courage, and you’re 1000% sure about your attraction towards whoever you like, then you’ll be able to come out.

I’m getting a feeling that you should also be very discerning about who you come out to because, some people could oddly clown and laugh at your decision.

+ another thing is, when you venture to this side of sexuality, I hope you do know that not everything is hunky dory over here! So… please choose your lovers well, because they could view you as a target, solely because of you being a Baby-Gay.

Pile 2 : 6oP rx, 2oP rx, The Hanged Man, QoS

Seems like you could be really surrounded by a few homophobes but I hope you won’t let them stop you from being comfortable in your own skin.

It seems like you yourself also had to release old beliefs you learnt from those around you about the lgbtq community, or just society in general and I think it worked! So applause for you!!

I see that you’re a really straight-forward communicator, and you won’t hold back from telling the truth whenever you ready!

For you in the Pile, there aren’t as many tips I could give you but you’ll have to prep for being treated differently because of your sexuality A LOT, so I hope you have mentally and emotionally prepared yourself for what’s to come.

Pile 3 : WoF, KNoC, Temperance rx, 9oS rx, High Priestess rx, Tower rx, 5oC

Pile 3?? I hope you know that if and when you make this decision, please remember that luck will be beside you and you will be getting a lot of offers from female love interests!

When coming out the closet for your loved ones, I see this disrupting the whole session and I see some arguments happening… like this is not good energy at all if you ask me!

After the whole situation, I see you merely regretting the decision you made, and you’ll just want to hide away in a corner… yk. I can imagine you just telling yourself

“I should’ve kept it a secret!”

“Why couldn’t I hide it a bit longer?”

And so on! Oh and I also believe this situation is all based of beliefs and religion.

Despite you regretting your actions, you’re going to stand your ground and be yourself. I see you walking away from a religion… or even perhaps those around you who are against your sexuality.

You will be quite disheartened by this step you’re taking but it’s truly worth it!❤️‍🩹

Pile 4 : 8oS, PoW, Judgement rx, The World hriz

Pile 4… I hope you all won’t be a victim of Comphet… :(

I see you being very secretive about your attraction to women, and I know deep down, where ever you hiding these feelings you truly love them down and put many of them on a high pedestal!

I can see you also actually considering coming out the closet, you won’t be getting the response you want from those around you. Now you’ll be judging yourself for your decisions and question why you could feel the way you do for women.

When you come out, and get into a relationship, you will be proud of yourself but I see you being self destructive and delaying marriages or calling quits in many connections because of your indecisive attraction towards women.