#because 'we don't make out in school'

[egophiliac]

still ruminating over Lost In the Book With Spooky Skeletons Part 1, so here's a selection of some of my favorite little bits! (...some more loosely paraphrased than others) (I just feel like Idia has no room to criticize in general, okay)

anyway, I'm sure we're just going to have a fun time celebrating Halloween and nothing bad is going to happen whatsoever! :)

[fruchtzwerg]

My mom is literally the fucking worst she just came in (I'm watching Valorant E-Sport with my dad in the living room rn) and she complained that I won't go to my bf's on the weekend cause I've planned IN ADVANCE that the lower bracket finale is on Friday and the literal word cup finale on Saturday and Valorant E-Sport is like one of the few things I still enjoy, especially when I watch it with my dad

[uncanny-tranny]

I recall saying this before, but it bears repeating:

There could be a billion trans people in the world and it still wouldn't be a bad thing because being trans is not a bad thing. Even if the rate of people discovering they are trans is "disproportionate" to trends from decades ago, that is not a bad thing. In fact, it's a natural consequence for there being more trans people being able to stay alive, and, overall, being able to live in a slightly more tolerant world. You'd only see that as a bad thing if you actively didn't want trans people to either live or live a life that facilitates wellness.

[inkskinned]

one of the things about being an educator is that you hear what parents want their kids to be able to do a lot. they want their kid to be an astronaut or a ballerina or a politician. they want them to get off that damn phone. be better about socializing. stop spending so much time indoors. learn to control their own temper. to just "fucking listen", which means to be obedient.

one of the things i learned in my pedagogy classes is that it's almost always easier to roleplay how you want someone to act. it's almost always easier to explain why a rule exists, rather than simply setting the rule and demanding adherence.

i want my kids to be kind. i want them to ask me what book they should read next, and i want to read that book with them so we can discuss it. i want my kid to be able to tell me hey that hurt my feelings without worrying i'll punish them. i want my kid to be proud of small things and come running up to me to tell me about them. i want them to say "nah, i get why this rule exists, but i get to hate it" and know that i don't need them to be grateful-for-the-roof-overhead while washing the dishes. i want them to teach me things. i want them to say - this isn't safe. i'm calling my mom and getting out of this. i want them to hear me apologize when i do fuck up; and i want them to want to come home.

the other day a parent was telling me she didn't understand why her kid "just got so angry." this woman had flown off the handle at me.

my dad - traditional catholic that he is - resents my sentiment of "gentle parenting". he says they'll grow up spoiled, horrible, pretentious. granola, he spits.

i am going to be kind to them. i am going to set the example, i think. and whatever they choose become in the meantime - i'm going to love them for it.

[lady-harrowhark]

lol not me crying because someone from my program texted me to ask how i was doing and that they hadn't seen me around in a while

[a-god-in-ruins-rises]

actually...

looking at a bunch of my old favorite mutuals blogs that have been inactive for years. i miss them, even if i never really talked to any of them. when you're mutuals with a person for so long they become a comforting presence even without talking. you see them every day and read their posts about their thoughts or feelings or about what's going on in their life and so on. and they just become a part of your daily life in such a subtle way.

and then one day they just never post again. without warning. shit sucks. i actually hate it.

[inseparabiles]

google search history:

how do you tell if it's fibromyalgia again, can you die of muscle pain, ms, als, heart attack in women, trapezius pain, why can't I lift my arms, how long does a fibro flare last, how do I stop hurting everywhere, things that aren't drugs that clear your brain fog, what to do when your hands hurt, joint pain that isn't arthritis, ginger health benefits, ginger inflammation, what to do when painkillers don't work, how to sue god

[monstermoviedean]

coworker was going on and on about the importance of regulating your nervous system today and i'm thinking 1) you don't know what that means and 2) if i were a teenager and someone told me to regulate my nervous system i would start throwing things. frankly it's hard not to throw things when hearing that as an adult.

[girlivealwaysbean]

i think growing up is just life repeatedly sucker punching you and saying bitch you thought things were gonna better lmao no you're so naive and stupid for having hope in 20 years the world will be flaming bag of garbage and no matter how hard you work you'll get eliminated at some point

[disposal-blueeee]

doodlesssss

scriabin belongs to zarla-s

edgar belongs to jhonen vasquez

[nobodysdaydreams]

Giving a complicated tragic childhood backstory to your favorite character is all fun and games, until you realize you need to account for how old all the other adult characters would have been at the time and realize that scenes that would work perfectly if one character was twenty three and the other was fourteen stop working when you need other characters who are played by adult actors clearly younger than they are to be in college at the same time so your story beats line up thematically.

[windandwater]

when I was in high school my parents were the only conservatives I knew in a very liberal town and since this was DC area Maryland you didn't get to like. not have an opinion. even though that's often how I actually felt since I was very torn between the passion my classmates felt for civil rights and justice and the way my parents positioned themselves as practical and realistic.

anyway I ended up listening and not speaking a lot which of course was interpreted as being conservative even though I didn't really think I was. I was still making up my mind.

I had one classmate who would yell at me all the time about how I was being complicit in innocent Iraqi deaths or whatever. I always just kinda ignored him. he really had no chill and did have an agenda. he wanted to fight me. the enemy or whatever. and I didn't see him as an adversary in a grand battle. I didn't want to fight. I just wanted to get through the day.

I had a friend who I would talk to a lot about history since we both liked it. we were in a class together where we learned about the Tuskegee experiments and I remember the visceral rage and horror I felt reading about them. it might have been after this class or might not have been when this story happened but the two things are connected in my mind.

he said to me that if a certain side is always on the wrong side of history it starts to mean something. if the republican party is always backing klansmen and racists and bigots maybe they're always fucking wrong. maybe it's a pattern.

and I remember thinking. fuck. that's a damn good point. I didn't even see it as an over simplification. I was just thinking you're right, who is always standing in the way of change that we celebrate decades later? the same people.

he didn't yell at me to get me there he just kinda said his opinion and pointed to something that I could really empathize with and see clearly over centuries of history.

I didn't decide my political beliefs that day but I never ever forgot that conversation. and it was so so effective. just talking to me and pointing something out.

I'm thinking of this now because it came about slowly but over time I decided. no matter what. I'm going to prevent people who want to hold us back from being in charge. that's my job. and I'm going to be firm about it but winning happens by persuasion, not screaming. and it's slow. but I hope it's possible.

[omarfor-orchestra]

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[ethanscrocs]

i don't know if this is a legitimate fear or just paranoia but i'm kind of scared that one day i'll be like. cancelled? for shipping mikurin. i very much agree with the sentiment that people don't realize that even small age gaps like 2 years can be really weird when you're younger because those are such pivotal years. however i don't think this makes every relationship between a 14 year old and a 16 year old creepy or irredeemable or anything, i think it's just something to be cautious of and it's more about the case by case basis. miku and rin have a similar level of maturity and they are peers, and i don't necessarily think that depicting a relationship like huntlow or mikurin for example has any problematic real world influences (ships with larger age gaps between minors or between a minor and an adult 🤢 DO have real-world consequences because it's normalizing something inherently predatory in the minds of the audience) and i don't necessarily think mikurin is at any risk of doing that to be honest? but i'd definitely understand and respect it if people were uncomfortable with it it's just a pairing i enjoy as long as people are normal about them, and i've liked them together since i was like 11-12 😭

[korrasamibottles]

That different people can engage with the same piece of media and come out of it with wildly different interpretations is a testament to the evolutionary miracle that is the human brain. It is also very annoying.

[icewindandboringhorror]

Lineup of all of the characters that appear long enough to need a visual representation of them in the game lol