#bad messages

[destinygoldenstar]

I Despise How Dhar Mann Treats Autism

This is coming from an autistic individual. And this is not really targeted towards one video but nearly ALL autistic videos Dhar Mann has produced.

They’re all the exact same message.

This tells me that the guy has not learned a thing, does no research, rejects any and all feedback, and refuses to change at all, AND does not care about the health and safety of his audience. And his workers in case anyone forgot THAT controversy.

I’ve put off talking about his videos often because I learned this man was just flat out a bad person who didn’t deserve support. But this is something I need to get off my chest.

I am on the autism spectrum. I’ve been a victim of bullying for my autism. I’ve struggled significantly with my autism and it’s gotten me in trouble. And I’ve been a witness to intense bullying on autistic people. So yes, I KNOW what I’m talking about.

And yes, while this isn’t targeted specifically at the new Jayden episode, this is what sparked me to make this.

You’d think I’d talk about the Mikey videos due to my track record, but really my only response to those is: “What more do you want me to say?”

The mom genuinely thinks Dhar Mann is more important than her own son. Sounds about right honestly.

I didn’t associate Jayden as autistic in the past, because any episode that uses the actor (who IS autistic btw) is playing a different character.

But this is the episode that confirms that Jayden is on the spectrum. And he acts like this was obvious and always there.

And I will say, if I, an autistic person, saw NO indications of such beforehand, then that probably means the average viewer who knows nothing on the subject probably can’t either.

It’s almost like Dhar Manns autistic characters have NO autistic traits whatsoever.

Special interest on a certain subject. The lack of ability to process things outside of that subject. Sensory overload on stuff that doesn’t bother the average person. The poor social skill and communication. Stimming, like fiddling or pacing. Easily being emotionally overwhelmed.

These are just a few of the many obstacles autistic people go through on a daily basis. It’s why we are very easy bully targets. These are detriments to functioning right in the world.

Yeah no, all autistic people are perfectly fine and capable and don’t need to stim or sit back to clear their minds from sensory overload whatsoever. They also don’t struggle with anything ever aside from jerks.

Implication that you’re perfect the way you are and it’s the rest of the world that needs to change.

Great message. Let’s apply it to our real lives!

…doesn’t work out, does it?

By portraying it like this, the message doesn’t become ‘you are good enough even with your autism’, it’s ‘just be born perfect’

Which, I don’t think I need to tell you that this message, no matter the situation, is harmful to people.

I’m certainly not perfect. I’m a good writer, sure, but that’s because it’s my special interest. If you put me behind an electrical panel, I won’t know Jack s**t.

The only time I’ve ever seen Dhar Mann portray a character as imperfect is in this recent video, where they DO address Jayden struggling in certain classes. (Which is bulls**t if you’ve seen any other video with Jayden in it. But whatever.)

Here’s the problem: We never SEE that. We are TOLD that. What we are SHOWN is Jayden succeeding at everything, and the thing that gets him expelled isn’t through any fault of his own, it’s the sabotage of the bully character. Yes they say he’s bad at writing, but he’s perfectly capable of programming, which is a lot of writing, so… yeah. That’s not a defense. I need to SEE the struggle for this point to matter. Cause otherwise I’ll be convinced you’re lying.

The claim in these videos is that ‘Autism is not a disability, it’s a different ability’ is insulting for all these reasons.

Yes, this is a REAL line he uses over and over again.

It’s insulting, as it tells us that our setbacks are purely our fault, and they do not matter or need to be taken care of at all. ‘Your autism isn’t the setback. YOU are the setback. Get better.’

You need to address the faults in order to teach how to help autistic people succeed. Which, THATS the message I THINK they’re trying to portray. ‘You can be capable despite your autism’

Saying autism is a genius superpower is like saying a deaf person is a master listener.

I wouldn’t mind this if ALL of his autistic characters weren’t geniuses. Smarter than everyone else, can understand things that even professionals can’t levels of smart.

One or two of them, sure, people are unique, but ALL OF THEM?

That’s stereotyping. Dhar Mann is stereotyping autism to the public.

Reminds me of some other harmful movies and websites with autism as it’s main focus.

Also, ‘Your son is mentally deficient.’

Just, that one ticks me off and speaks for itself.

I understand it’s written by an antagonist, it’s still insulting.

This is more than just saying ‘you’ll go nowhere in life’ being so triggering to any person who’s felt that way and developed self loathing problems. (Example: me)

This is more than the unrealism of a child taking over the job of an electrical professional.

This is the very thing and one of the many reasons why Dhar Manns messages are harmful.

He uses a real person as a reference at the end. As though that excuses anything. ‘This one person has this experience. ALL people like them must have this experience too.’

No. No we don’t. I didn’t get expelled for autism discrimination.

And then there’s the mom. In case you needed any more reason to prove my point she’s an awful parent.

They say early in the video that the mom told Jayden he was smart despite his struggles, and the bully claims the mom lies.

This is the bully, the antagonist, we’re not supposed to like him or agree with him.

So why then, is he proven RIGHT?

The mom LIES to her son just to make him feel better.

Jayden is upset, wants to know the truth on what the principal thinks of him, and what does the mom do? LIE ABOUT WHAT HE SAID.

Because it’s not like we want to teach our kids that some people suck and don’t understand you, but you don’t need their support to see the value in yourself! (I love Ninjago Dragons Rising for this)

NOPE. LIE TO YOUR CHILDREN.

You will face no consequences at all.

10/10 parent, this woman is.

For any autistic person that reads this, don’t listen to Dhar Mann. You don’t need to be a genius to be worth it. You don’t need to be talented at anything to be worth it. There’s people who love you, and people willing to help you find your place in the world.

[clairedelune-13]

One of the most insulting things about this show is their treatment of Eskel.

Eskel is a great example of a man with disfigured face (allegory for disability) who’s an honest-to-god good person. Actually, aside from Geralt, one of the few level-headed, peaceful Witchers. Proof that just cuz you’re disabled/disfigure, doesn’t mean you’re a monster.

And the show made him into an asshole. Then later, a mutated leshen. A monster.

Sidenote: I’ve been disabled since I was 6 months old, and people who don’t know me treat me different except when they get to know me.

Ciri, upon first meeting Eskel is scared cuz of his face scars but then he speaks and her fear is gone.

Netflix basically teaches that: disabled = monster.

And that’s seriously fucked up.

[beebfreeb]

Messaging people for the first time is so hard. What am I supposed to say? Like, "You seem really odd and your blog intrigues me. Do you want to have philosophical conversations or perhaps talk about fictional characters?" What! Whatever. I will just follow you back and stare at your blog with my big beautiful brown eyes.

[gibbearish]

love when ppl defend the aggressive monetization of the internet with "what, do you just expect it to be free and them not make a profit???" like. yeah that would be really nice actually i would love that:)! thanks for asking

[teathattast]

[fixing-bad-posts]

cry for the world / go on living this will end / it must be a fire / have hope

[frillsand]

[blushedfemmes]

slut autism is a curse because i was designed in a lab to reach pure sensory ecstasy during sex but actually having sex in these wacky modern times requires constantly responding to messages on a piece of metal that doesn’t feel real to me and i suck at it so bad so idk. if you want this pussy write me a letter

[morethansky]

ARC TROOPER ECHO | The right thing to do “No matter what, we are united. Rule one: We fight together.”

Bonus:

[idolomantises]

Just a random question to my artist followers: does anyone enjoy posting their stuff on tiktok? I can't tell if its just a me thing or if that app and its userbase are the most obnoxious compared to other social media

[destinygoldenstar]

This is something I have to get off my chest:

It makes me sick to my stomach that Dhar Mann is still collabing with SSSniperWolf.

I, along with many people, KNOW that she is a flat out BAD person. And I don't even touch her videos.

She has criminal records on armed robbery, she's a compulsive liar about most of, of not ALL her content that belongs to other people, copies people's content and then paints a narrative that they copy her. (AzzyLand is an example of this happening) She's a huge narrssasist who puts other people down for the sake of her own image and makes them feel the need to change their identities when they shouldn't have to, especially when SSSniperWolf STOLE THEIRS.

And she also DOXED Jacksfilms, posting his house and address online as payback for him calling her out on her plagerism, and made him and his housemates feel unsafe in their own home.

That is ILLEGAL.

And YouTube REFUSES to punish her for her ILLEGAL actions.

That makes me sick.

This is NOT a 'both sides' issue. He critiqued her content. She broke federal laws, stole, and lied. There is a HUGE difference on the level of 'wrongdoing' here.

I critique people's content, I critiqued Dhar Mann's content, but you DO NOT see me threatening him or anyone, let alone going out of my way to destroy their real life.

Criticism does not equal 'restraining order'

Doxing DOES.

And what does Dhar Mann do after all this very blatant wrongdoing the woman has done?

He gives her a position as a character in his videos. MORE THAN ONCE.

There's no way he doesn't know what's going on. 1) It's everywhere on the Internet. 2) He has to know her personally to even cast her. 3) They are both children of YouTube, basically. 4) If he casted her once without knowing, there's a good chance his comments told him.

And I think THAT is the reason why Dhar Mann is promoting her as an actress in his videos. YouTube loves her. Loves her enough to excuse her behavior. And if YouTube loves her and she's in his video, the algorithm is on his side. That, and she reacts to his videos, so if her viewers see her watching his videos, then they'll watch his video for themselves, thus rewards.

However, MORALLY, this is GROSS.

Especially since Dhar Mann is supposed to be 'the ultimate moral good' of YouTube content. (It's false, as I've said many times)

If he truly cared about the morality, he would NOT be casting her in ANYTHING. He wouldn't even be associated with her.

But NO. Not only is he casting her, he's casting her as THE GOOD GUY. THE VOICE OF REASON in the stories. Like she knows all the moral high grounds of the situation.

It makes me think, and it's painting a narrative that Dhar Mann SUPPORTS SSSniperWolf's lying, identity theft, and CRIMES. Just like how YouTube supports it.

I haven't seen anything where he's outright said that he thinks she did nothing wrong. So take my assumption as exactly that, an assumption.

But I will give a warning: If he DOES say he supports her, he's getting cancelled. And I won't be telling people to do it, he'll have done it himself.

Either he's oblivious to the situation at hand, or he's with it.

And again, this is all because YouTube refuses to punish SSSniperWolf despite SO MANY PEOPLE'S DEMANDS. WARRANTED DEMANDS.

She needs to be BANNED from social media. She needs a punishment that is PERMANENT.

What she has done is NOT OKAY, and NOBODY should be supporting her. She's an awful person, and doesn't deserve any promotion whatsoever.

Stop including her in videos. The only way to get her banned is if YouTube doesn't see her as a cash cow anymore. Stop watching her content. I didn't even watch her content to begin with, but now I guarantee it that I never will.

[uncanny-tranny]

I recently had to do a project in one of my psych classes, and man, I knew that CBT was used for every little thing, but seeing over and over, "do CBT! CBT is the best for every mental illness!" was so jarring. I'm absolutely biased because of my own experiences, but I just don't think it's as universal a treatment model as it's touted.

If you didn't benefit from CBT, it's not because you're lazy or didn't try hard enough or lacked intelligence or foresight into your own needs. Frankly, it's a therapy model that (I think) shouldn't be the only readily-accessible model and among the only therapy models covered by insurance. Some of us should not be treated in a CBT model and that's okay. It's not a sign of poor character or unreasonable demands, and if you don't think it's a model that works for you, then it's your right to express that!

[skipitty-bop]

remembered this old comic i made of gideon and torbek back in july, i never posted it bc i didnt like it but honestly its not even that bad so here u go

gideon and torbek parallels 😕

[eelclaw]

skimmed the star spoilers thread. these books fucking suck lol

[wolfchans]

WHAT IS HIS PROBLEM

[fixing-bad-posts]

how life feels when i realise men can be beautiful & kind