#autisticchangeling

[is-the-post-reliable]

@autisticchangeling I totally feel you there! Don't feel bad for seeking a diagnosis, there is no one correct way to be autistic and you should do whatever works for you

@star-cadaver that's totally valid. It's a possible issue for me in the future (I'm in the UK and on a waiting list for trans healthcare), but I personally feel that any difficulties I have in transitioning won't outweigh the ways that my diagnosis has helped me. It's definitely important to be able to make an informed choice.

I just wanted to remind everyone that it's important to acknowledge the positives of a diagnosis, and not just the negatives. With these very personal decisions, there isn't really a 'right' or 'wrong', and I don't want to invalidate anyone's choice either way :)

good evening or whenever this post comes to you :) can you check this post please https://www.tumblr.com/bisexualcha0s/713618568554708992

i see a lot of shit about autism dx’s being dangerous with no sources (and am unable to find further information on them!) and a lot of it just feels like fearmongering

hi there, thank you for sending this in! I'm afraid I am not going to be fact checking this one, as after some searching I don't think there are a lot of sources to either confirm or deny many of the statements given here.

On a personal note, I do want to say that my autism diagnosis (which I got as an adult) has been massively beneficial to me. It's helped inform my therapy, helped with benefits, helped other people understand me, and helped to validate my experiences. Whilst autism is definitely a terf talking point, and people definitely do face discrimination, I do want to encourage people to seek a diagnosis if that's what you want. Everything has it's pros and cons, and you can only do what's right for you.

[allthoseotherworlds]

Hello world!

I used to be @autisticchangeling but I've created a new account because I took a break from Tumblr over the summer for my mental health and wanted to start fresh.

I am glad I took the time away, but it also made me realize the things that I did like about Tumblr and that I missed. I think that a lot of the things I find frustrating are really problems with people and how they interact with each other and form communities, rather than problems with any individual website.

Therefore, I am back, armed with an extensive list of filters and my special interests in Star Trek and Doctor Who!

I'm an adult currently in my early 30s, autistic and adhd, aroace, and nonbinary (they/them pronouns)

I love almost all Star Trek and Doctor Who, and also enjoy knitting and photography. I have one cat, Artron, who you may see from time to time.

Here is my list of tags.

[sineala]

How do you deal with liking Tony but knowing capitalism is bad? Not meant to sound accusatory, just something I feel guilty about and was thinking about again after your political meta

Oof. That’s a big one.

I think, really, the first step is to accept that it’s okay to like things that are problematic. I’m not saying you have to like everything that is problematic; there are definitely things that I used to like that are too problematic for me to like because the problems I see in them now are so vast that it makes the thing not fun anymore. This is why I no longer own any Harry Potter books and I can’t listen to the music of Moxy Früvous, who used to be my favorite band. I just... can’t.

But not everything that is problematic is 100% irredeemably problematic and in need of cancellation. It’s possible to like problematic things, understand why they are problematic, and appreciate the parts of them that are still good. So, like, I can say to myself, “I like the character of Tony Stark. I know he’s a billionaire and that in the real world billionaires are responsible for a lot of human misery. If he were real I would, most likely, hate him. But he is fictional and in the world he lives in, I know he tries as hard as he possibly can to do good and be a good person. It’s comforting to pretend that The One Good Ethical Billionaire exists and that he can do things that are not evil. It’s okay to find that comforting. Yes, it’s a fantasy, but it’s okay to have fantasies. I admire him for his kindness and generosity. I admire his devotion to his friends. It means a lot to me that he deals with mental illness and addiction, and that even though he has these very real problems, he’s still a superhero. As a person with a physical disability, it means a lot to me that for large portions of his history Tony has also had physical disabilities, and, y’know, is still a superhero.”

That’s my list. Your list probably isn’t going to be the same as my list, and that’s fine. And if you make your list and decide that that just isn’t enough to make liking him worth it to you, that’s okay too. You’re not required to like him. But if you want to like him, I think you can still find things worth liking about him.

I mean, what you’re basically asking is “how do you deal with existing in a capitalist society but knowing capitalism is bad?”

And that, I mean... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I don’t have all the answers. But, I mean, even though we’re in the society we’re in, I believe we can still work to make the world better. If you just sit there and feel continually guilty, you’re never going to want to get out of bed in the morning. But you can do something other than just sit with your feelings of guilt. Be nice to people. Join a union if there’s one you can join. Be conscious of your privilege. Be an ally. Vote for candidates who represent your interests and beliefs. Try to get where you live to adopt something like Ranked Choice Voting and THEN vote for candidates who represent your beliefs (assuming you are in the US; other countries have more viable third-party options). Write to your elected officials. Give your money and/or your time to organizations that are working to make the world better in ways you approve of. Join fandom auctions and make other people give money to those organizations on your behalf! Keep being nice to people. That’s all I’ve got so far.

[jvlianbashir]

autisticchangeling replied to your post “sorry about to make a slightly niche personal post but as someone who...”

I love videos like that, but I thought AMV is only for anime? I mean it seems like the same concept just in a different fandom, but I always thought the a stood for anime. Either way it sucks if people are hating on them. I love those videos

yeah! “AMV” at least originally meant just “anime music video” (or “animated music video” if it was american cartoons) and some people are still strict about its usage, but honestly in the past few years, i’ve seen it applied much more widely to mean any video edit, regardless of whether the footage used is anime or not

[trickstertime]

Hell yes!! Loving it!!! Especially how not everyone has it, staying true to the tumblr ways. Thank you @autisticchangeling

Alright gamers, I haven't been on tumblr for a week before today, what important stuff did I miss?

[wreckitremy]

Somehow I have convinced someone to rejoin our chaotic fey site, so here are some of my suggested favorite popular ND blogs that are still active.

Biggest-gaudiest-patronuses

An-autistic-with-personhood

Candidlyautistic

Autisticchangeling

Myautisticpov

Autisticeducator

Thatautisticadhdfeel

Thatadhdfeel

Thatadhdmood

Ndcultureis

Adhdanalogbrain

Livingthatadhdlife

What are some of your favorite active ND blogs?

[autisticchangeling]

Just an update

I thought maybe I should give a heads up - I’m taking a break from Tumblr for my mental health. I’m fine, and there was no drama or anything that precipitated this, it’s just that Tumblr’s been kinda hit or miss for my mental health for a while now.

If you want to find my elsewhere, I’m sometimes (no promises) on Pillowfort as AutisticChangeling and on Reddit as Aut_Changeling

I just thought maybe I should post or something in case a sudden absence was going to worry anyone. I’m fine! Just trying to trigger my anxiety less often, and Pillowfort and Reddit have better controls for that than Tumblr does.

[ihamtmus]

tagged by @f-ireflowers, thanks!! :D

fave colours: that shade of blue that seems almost gray. also yellow

top 3 ships: i’m not really a shipper (give me that platonic content) but i really love eowyn x faramir!! i’ve also been thinking about lily evans x james potter recently. and maybe ummm gamora x peter quill

lipstick or chapstick: neither really

last song: it’s ok by tom rosenthal, i love him and his songs so much and i’m going to his concert next month i’m!!!!

last movie: I WATCHED AVENGERS ENDGAME TODAY AND I’M!!! SCREAMING

currently reading: so i’ve never really finished the raven cycle (i know, it’s crazy, those books are amazing and i love them so so much) so i’m still reading it technically and i am DEFINITELY going to finish it soon it’s just that i had so little time to read and then all this Need To Read went away which is sad but it’s going to come back i know it. in the meantime i’ve been reading a marauders fanfic because my love for the marauders is back and killing me

i tag: @hufflepuff-jedi, @autisticchangeling ​ and @ultrawhalnar ​

[thebluemeany]

In Times of War - New Chapter 

*waves* so What Religion Or Reason aka chapter eight of In Times of War is up on AO3. Took me a bit longer than I thought it would because I couldn’t figure out a plausible reason why Bashir and Garak’s relationship wouldn’t move on in twenty years.... 

In the end I just figured, to hell with it, and made it as close to the real thing as it could be whilst still being in universe and a fiction. 

It’s not the subtlest thing I’ve ever written :-) 

Thanks to @cyrelia-j and @wdarling for talking through some thoughts with me on Bashir’s mindset. And to everyone who replied to my post asking for what limits people thought the Federation would put on augments, particularly @silverelfmage and @autisticchangeling. All super helpful.

[elizakursky]

@romulan-commander @thefingerfuckingfemalefury @autisticchangeling @michaelburnhamfanclub @startrekislgbt

[outoforderaro]

autisticchangeling replied to your post: has tumblr made links completely invisible to...

On my dash I see the underline. Is it your theme maybe?

it’s not my theme, im on my dash. tumblr has in the past done updates that roll out to portions of the users at a time so its still a possibility.

[shades-of-grayro]

Lots of thoughts in the comments/tags! Various replies:

@greyspec​ said:

#‘sam’ is confusing#petition  to stop using ‘sam’ to refer to variorientation or multiple attractions  or multiple labels which are all different things

Yeah exactly. It’s used to mean (at least) three different things which you summed up nicely here. And it’s used as though all three are the same thing when they’re Not.

@aroacepagans​ said:

#my understanding is that this term actually originates from exclusionists making fun of the idea?#don't quote me on that#but if it's true then even more reason to find another term

Yes, based on when the term popped up - 2015 - and the fact that the earliest posts you can find using the term today are aphobes criticizing it, that’s the most likely scenario. Here’s a link to more info on that.

It makes a lot of sense that this term that is a mess when it was not created from within the community, because ideally if it did we wouldn’t have used one phrase to refer to three separate concepts as if they were all the same thing.

@acornwizard-follows​ said:

#differentiated orientation?#DO for short?#in practice it would probably look like#'Non-DO Aro'#'do you use DOs?'#or something

That’s actually the exact replacement language that @nextstepcake​ suggested in this post. Except they also suggested using both differentiated attraction and differentiated orientation so we can talk about both concepts, but separately.

@punk-hellhound​​ said:

#i'm a lesbian ace and i don't see my attractions as split#or distinguish between them#just because sex is repulsive to me doesn't mean i only experience like one half of lesbian attraction#find the implication that i do kind of offensive tbh

Nothing to add, just sharing as another great example of how this term is messy.

@imsureitsaltru​ said:

Some aros and aces prefer verioriented and perioriented (possibly misspelled)

Varioriented is spelled with an A I think but otherwise you got it. And yeah, those words work for one of the meanings that SAM is used for (whether or not your romantic/sexual orientations “match”), but not necessarily the other meanings.

@autisticchangeling​​ said:

I can tell that people use it to mean something  else, but I've always sort of assumed the split attraction model was  just the concept that there can be different types of attractions, and  the fact that it doesn't actually mean that makes me resent it on  principal because my initial reaction is still to read it as the concept  of different types of attraction, which makes reading discourse about  it very stressful and confusing even though I know that's not what it  means

Yeah, I mean I think people use it to mean that too, as if differentiating orientations and differentiating attraction are always the same thing. But I totally get having the “what are people even using this term to talk about” response.

It's kind of messed up that we use the phrase "split attraction model" to talk about people using (or not using) both sexual and romantic orientations.

Like, the fact that it's called the split ATTRACTION model implies that orientation is only ever about attraction, which is untrue. Some aros are aro because they're romance repulsed or just don't want romantic relationships, and whether or not they experience romantic attraction doesn't matter. Same goes for asexuality and other orientations.

It also implies that if you use both romantic and sexual orientations, that you distinguish between those kinds of attraction. Like that's not true for a lot of aroaces, yet they still use both romantic and sexual orientations.

It ALSO implies that if you differentiate between types of attraction, then you automatically label your orientation that way. But like... there are aros who don't identify with a sexual orientation who still differentiate between types of attraction. Same goes for aces without romantic orientations.

Why do we use this word for this? I didn't use the word SAM at all in this post to refer to how we use sexual/romantic orientation and it was fine.

[thesevenumbrellas]

OH MY GOD @autisticchangeling found it!!! You're amazing

https://archiveofourown.org/works/18490522/chapters/43814698

Hello hello! I was wondering what your favorite Klaus fics are? I need some more things to read 😂 Bonus points if it’s Klaus with his powers from the comics ;) Have a good day my friend!

Okay there was one where Diego picks Klaus up from getting arrested every day and it's from Eudoras pov wondering what the hell their relationship is... AnD I CANNOT find it! But if someone else knows what i am talking about please tell me!!

And there's this one which I have been trying to find for FOREVER to share and I finally found it

https://archiveofourown.org/works/18102182

[autisticchangeling]

I have a Pillowfort now! Autisticchangeling, same as here. If I’m following you and you have one, feel free to let me know!

[autisticburnham]

For half a second my brain read these replies from @mylittleredgirl and @autisticchangeling on a different post as meaning Colm Meany was saying Miles was nonbinary

What the hell is even the original image for the Miles meme that's been going around?

[autisticchangeling]

frontier001 mentioned you in a photoset

@autisticchangeling they’re, right now, only on the Enterprise. We haven’t seen them on Discovery crew.

I think if they make the two ships have drastically different uniform styles like that they’d better explain it though?

Like, at least they’re not retconning all the uniforms to be the Disco style