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i've been inspired to draw transgender neko antifa kk deltarune with a gun much to everyone's displeasure [april 7th]
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are you new to the joker out fandom and wondering what's up with that group of slovenian men? have you been around for a long time already? either way, this one is for you all
before saying 'goodbye' to 2024 let's say 'welcome' to the joker out iceberg ✨
edit: a huge thank you to everyone who helped me with sending me facts and shoutout to @fifi-goes-to-hollywood for helping me sort out some of this mess 🫶
#is it a huge one? lol yes#is anything missing? most probably (don't @ me i have one braincell and it's barely working)#should you skip it? no!#so idk have fun reading ✌️#if anyone has questions about anything feel free to ask ofc#and this will get updated 100% at some point#using all the tags for more exposure#joker out#bojan cvjetićanin#kris guštin#jan peteh#jure maček#nace jordan#edit: in any case just keep in mind that this isn't a joblr-centered iceberg thus why things happening in other socials are mentioned#BUT if anyone is up for a joblr one... well... hmm......
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FE Secret Santa (10/10)
Robin(male) for @silversongmsp
My final submission of the year for the @feshippingpolls secret santa event
#fanart#myart#fire emblem#okay checking some things off tag wise just in case#tw gore#tw body horror#tw horror#tw mutilation#tw eye imagery#let me know if theres any i missed and i'll try to add them <:>#or in other words#ask to tag#fe robin#ah the final secret santa i have to make for this year#honestly was expecting the whole thing to go longer for me#not that im complaining it gives me time to finish up my assignments#(although i do find it a lil funni that im prob the reason next time is gonna have a limit of five submissions per person)#i think this one im gonna ramble a bit more then the other ones#because awakening was my first fire emblem game and i have a lot of feelings about it#hell got a lot of feelings about robin as a character too#like dude is really fitting for the story of awakening#destined to destroy the world and be the death of all he loves#really one put in the situation and having knowledge of what you're supposed to be-#-how are you supposed to live if you know it won't last?#is it better to become numb to it all so you won't be heartbroken?#or let yourself have a bleeding heart knowing there isn't anything you can do about it?#defying destiny has always been a trope i love especially in the context of un-dooming the narrative#yes the future was saved but so was somebody destined to destroy it#i just think that's really cool#and whether you view the relationship between Chrom and Robin as romantic or platonic or any other option
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❥ ; pete dinunzio ⊹ for anon
src: (x) (x) (x) // (x) (-) (x) // (x) (x) (x)
#the eltingville club#pete dinunzio#grayscale#red#clear#puzzles#calligraphy#mannequins#blood#horror#body horror#smoke#stim#stimmy#our boards#requests#ask to tag#<- just in case i missed anything.#🩸
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11, 33. any characters u like/think fit :-]
(for this ask game)
11. -> Ground Vision by Drive45
no other middle monkeys, but it wouldn't even matter, 'cause shucks, I'm shy! oh what a perfect admission, to prove to you I've been given Ground Vision
hiii helloooo I did both 11 and 33 but I'm gonna put 33 in its own separate post bc it has like. a wildly different vibe lmaooo. anyways Ground Vision is a Centipedetwist (a warrior cat oc) song. I don't really have an explanation for it rn other than It Just Is hdhdjsjshsh
thank you for the ask <33
#cicadas creations#asks#oc: centipede#cw eyestrain#cw bright colors#ask to tag#in case I missed anything#it was supposed to be brighter but alas. tumblr ate the colors
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-`. TAG LIST POST ❦
i cannot recall to save my life if i did this yet but i thought it would be cute (and helpful for my brain sizjzj) to join in with the besties and make a post for y’all if you wish to be tagged in oc content / tag games / quizzes/picrews / edits / etc !!!!!!!
#leg.txt#*personal#please feel free to like or comment if you wish to be added! and please be welcome to ask to be tagged in anything in particular! 🌸💕#i have a few edits and things in mind and thought this would be cute to do!#i have seen a few mutuals and besties do this and thought this would be helpful for my brain in remembering and things 🌸💕🥹#and i miss being here and hope to be more present and post more and create again 🌸💕🥹😭✨✨ i miss creating !!!!!!#i hope y’all are doing well !!!!!!!#i have the memory of a goldfish and can’t recall if i did this yet (i feel it in my soul that i did zizjjxjx) but just in case !!
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Ok I have to ask because you have such based takes on rose as a character,
1) do you read fan fic/ if you don’t what’s your general take on fics interpretation of Rose and other characters in homestuck
2) if you do, please I am begging for any rose character study / rose&kanaya pieces you like, anything will do I just would adore to hear your thoughts. Ao3 is like a drought of mischaracterization of Rose & Kanaya and it hurts my soul.
Oh man, I don't read nearly as much fic as I wish I did not gonna lie, I'm so lazy! (And I suffer from chronic daydreamer disease, where instead of reading fanfic I walk in circles in my room and put Rose Lalonde in Scenarios). I have a few that I've read over the years that I've liked a lot though, so I can try to compile a general list:
the ennui of too late and too little
Starting with this one because it was just posted (and I just read it) and I think it's fantastic! Kanaya POV but Rose-centric, with a particular focus on Rose reflecting back on her childhood with her mom as Kanaya and Rose wander through the wreckage of her childhood home. There's a lot of sweet Rosemary banter in here, and I think the characterization is fantastic. It's a good one if you're like me and want to see Rose actually go through the motions of understanding her mother, balancing her newfound sympathy with her Mom's situation and the things she actually put her through. Her feelings are complicated! And I think the author captured the nuances of how Rose might deal with that very well
And, trying to unfold for you, was brittle
Following the theme of fics about Rose and her mom is the Vampire Slayer Rose AU. This one has slightly less of a Rosemary focus (although it's still there), but explores Rose and her mom's relationship more directly in a way that I think is fantastically developed. It's a very interesting read, albeit a little hard to describe Why it's good unless you read it (read it! It's good!!!). I know you're not asking for Kanaya-centric stuff, but if you like this fic (and are okay with reading or skimming over a tiny bit of smut) I think that this author writes a lot of very solid Kanaya fic. Particularly recommending We Face Back All The Way, a Fallen London AU where Kanaya tries to save Rose's soul from a contract with Dr Scratch, and Where the River Narrows, a fic where post-game Kanaya deals with the precarious future of her race, and wanders the dreambubbles in hopes of solutions (and deals with Some Bullshit along the way. And yes, there's Rosemary. Who do you think I am!!!). From there I also think this is a pretty good author to scroll through in general, lots of bangers in there
Yarn Interpolation
This is a Rose-centric series of two fics that I think is very good. Doomed No Sburb AU where there's no game but Rose's powers develop enough for her to know what she's missing. I don't quite remember the exact specifics of this, but it's a very good beta kids fic with Rose mourning the wife she never met and platonic JadeRose marriage. It's cute and sweet, and I remember it being a fairly cathartic read
Show the Lights
Grimdark Rose comes of age and deals with some internalized homophobia along the way. Fun stuff! This was one of the first Rosemary fics I ever read so I hold it close to me, but I think it's a pretty good fic where Rose reckons with her feelings for Kanaya against the prospect of procreation and the continued survival of her species (in between the desire to feel useful to her group as her friends embark on an Egbert rescue mission). Some smatterings of a very fun pitch Vrisrose dynamic in here as well, as a bit of a bonus
love left her screaming at the screen
Speaking of Rose dealing with internalized homophobia, if you spend enough time shifting through Rosemary AO3 you've probably already read or at least heard of this one but I still think it's good enough that I should include it. Very reminiscent of what it was like to be a lesbian teenager in the 2000's, Rose deals with these preconceptions at the end of the world, through an unrequited crush on Jade and Slightly More Requited feelings for Kanaya. This fic was good for me specifically as someone who was always urked by the fact that Rose's sexuality is never really discussed in depth in Homestuck proper (compared to characters like Dave, Dirk, and Jake), and beyond that I think it's a very interesting exploration of how the bigotry and politics from Earth might stick with the kids, even when everyone who would judge them is long dead. This is another author who's fics I think are fun to sit through as well, lots of good Rose and Rosemary stuff in here (will give a particular shout out to think about staying alive, a Rose Strider AU, which is great for those of us in the Put Rose In A Situation camp who also love good gen fic with Rose and Dave)
Reviews Of Young Adult Novels, Mainly Those Prominently Featuring Vampires, And Containing At Least One Love Triangle
This one is just plain silly, but it's one of my favorites. Rose is an alcoholic who writes young adult novels, and Kanaya is her greatest online critic. Sort of an Urban Fantasy, more of an alternate No Game timeline, with a lot of canon elements sprinkled in (classpect powers are still a thing, Dave's that played the game timeline jump, things like that). This one has a very fun Rosemary dynamic, and in general I think Rose's characterization in this is wonderful. It's unfinished but I think it stands very solidly as is, so if you're looking for something goofy and fun to read this is a great fic to turn to
Vermeil Tarnishing
A shorter one shot AU where Rose is a Derse priestess captured by Prospit. This is a fun one I think, lots of fun dialogue with little glimpses into fictional politics, which ends with a bit of a bang. Not a massive Rosemary focus, but the bit of them that we do see is very fun!
> Rose: Reorient
What kind of mutual would I be if I didn't recommend @awellreadmannequin 's Rose fic? Post-game Rose, dealing with her addiction and the mounting threat of a relapse, visits Roxy and Calliope. Very good characterization, Rose's thoughts are rambly and meandering and she is very much Going Through It, but things get better, you know? Good Rose angst, great study of her character with little discussions of philosophy sprinkled in. A look at how Rose's more ironic childhood interests might grow into something more genuine, and take her down a more hopeful path, with some very sweet Rosemary moments near the end of the first chapter and little hints of vrisrosemary in thoughts and dialogue (in Rosemary's hearts). It's still a work in progress, but I think that the first chapter alone is a great read with a very hopeful conclusion, and I look forward to seeing how it pans out, and I think that other people should read it!!! (Best read on a computer or horizontally on a tablet)
#ask tag#homestuck#rose lalonde#kanaya maryam#kanaya#fic recs#hopefully theres something in here you find good!#i definitely need to read more fic. maybe /i/ should be asking for rose and kanaya centric fic recs#(this is me asking for rose and/or kanaya centric fic recs. rosemary or otherwise)#also sorry this took a minute i wanted to read afformentioned Newly Posted Fic before i posted this in case it was good#(and it was)#hoping i didnt miss anything. im sure i did lol
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ok so now that i'm done with the booster gold backlog i was working through i need more stuff to read so. hi dc fans. if any of you have reading lists/recommendations for the following characters:
bea and tora/fire and ice
scott free/mister miracle
ray terrill/the ray
jaime reyes/blue beetle
kyle rayner/green lantern
alan scott/green lantern
please send them to me. thank you.
#dc comics#beatriz da costa#tora olafsdotter#scott free#mister miracle#ray terrill#jaime reyes#kyle rayner#alan scott#green lantern#i do have a reading list for bea and tora in my save tag but i wanted to ask just in case there's stuff that list is missing#i also am currently making my way through jaime's solos and the teen titans vol 3 stuff he features in#but idk if there's anything else i should read for him that i don't know about#everyone else on this list i have NO foundation for though so any help would be very appreciated#OH also i have already read fire and ice: welcome to smallville#as my post about the surprise cannibalism may indicate
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Ink October day twenty-nine: Wilder
To bewilder; to perplex.
Comparative form of wild: more wild.
#tears of the kingdom#loz totk#totk#the legend of zelda#legend of zelda#legend of zelda tears of the kingdom#totk link#blue boi draws#ink october 2023#ink October 2023 day 29#I have extremely conflicted feelings about this game that I think boil down to: I don’t dislike it but it did disappoint me#like there are a lot of things about it but the things I dislike are loud in a way that makes them hard to ignore#there are also a lot of tiny nitpicking things I dislike about it that I feel bad about because they are probably insignificant or cases of#people having different taste in things. like the bombs I miss my remote destination bombs :( but also the mechanics that replace them are#really fun. I actually think most of the mechanics and puzzles are really good (I probably have more fun in Zonai shrines then sheikah#on average) I also think expanding to the sky and underground was really smart and good. I think most of my issues are with the story#they did Zelda so dirty. sooooooo dirty. the three good things they did with her are 1 gave her good parental figures 2 cut her hair#3 tURNED HER INTO A FUCKING DRAGON. A WYRM. A CREATURE.#that’s probably my favourite main story thing besides maybe the companions and also Tulin#I love Teba the fact that his son is featured heavily and is done so good in this game is amazing.#also revali being basically never mentioned was really good. fuck you revali#love the Zonai HATE them founding Hyrule (or well rauru)#love the designs dragon goat people love good dad to Zelda the king can go fuck himself#the thing about me is I hate colonial the divine right of kings and monarchies so much. the kingdom of Hyrule stinks of these things#botw to me was in part a story of a monarchy failing. the king and the system failed Zelda failed Link and failed their kingdom.#I knew that more then likely they would be rebuilding the kingdom in the sequel but oh my gods does the addition of the politics of Hyrules#founding make it worse. there are so many people who have explained in detail this but right now my brain is just… GAH#*banging my head against the wall* can we PLEASE acknowledge the flaws of the Hylian royalty I’m not even asking for them to be discrowned#at this point I just want anything that isn’t this glorifying shit. and it sucks because I like Sonia!!! I like Minaru!!!#ran out of tags but I need you to know I am fucking vibrating about this
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Maybe I shouldn’t apologize for getting extremely upset over “little things”
I’ve had to deal with a lot
Having frequent and intense suicidal episodes, delusions and paranoia, abuse and neglect, self harm from a young age, DID, horrible memory issues, chronic illnesses that keeps getting worse and worse, spirals over severe trauma that I don’t even remember, the weekly realization of “that wasn’t fucking normal”, and so, so much more
I deserve to be fucking angry at “little and insignificant” things
-Polkadot (he/they/neos)
#vent#okay to interact#im going to have to put so many tws on this#abuse tw#neglect tw#self harm tw#suicide tw#rant#tw abuse#tw self harm#tw neglect#tw suicide#Ask to tag#<— just in case I missed anything
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the world looks better through your eyes
I’ve started staring out windows more often. Do you notice the casual biker? Do you notice the walker with their earbuds in? Do you notice the couple holding hands and pressing up to each other?
Sometimes I don’t, you can’t see everything. But when I do I am reminded of all the lives we lead Most of us will never interact with each other I will never know their names.
But I will see them. I will think about them. I will wonder what they plan on eating for dinner tonight I will wonder if they go home and call their mom Or maybe they open the door to a lovers arms
I am reminded that we live. I am reminded that we breathe. I am forever reminded that every day- We are surrounded by the mundane beautiful.
The world is beautiful in the smallest ways
I will enjoy myself until the end of time I will smile with my last breath The light in my eyes won’t leave If I have something to say about it
I don’t know what drives me to this passion Maybe it's the way I can see the stars at night Maybe it's the headlights on the freeway Maybe it’s the foliage around me as I walk Maybe it’s just how it’s supposed to be.
I can see that you see it too And when I hold your hand, When I press against your side, When we laugh like no one is watching, I’m aware of the fact that we are living:
In a world of stars, In a world of beauty, In a world of love.
And I’ve found it with you.
-the world looks better through your eyes (By me)
#scamera writes#scamera poems#poets on tumblr#original poem#this one was an older one (not really lol) i wrote but still really nice tbh#kinda? inspired by how de has changed my views on somethings but you didn't hear that from me <3#also like. this is kinda what im Trying to achieve feelings wise for myself rn ngl#sometimes its there but i still struggle with my thoughts tbh lol </3#this is very reflective of my feelings on it tho :)#okay as always feel free to rb and ask to tag in case i missed anything <3#i am going to bed soonn#oh also yeah yall might realize soon or have realized already. i love my all lowercase long titles <3
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Mark confirmed on twt that Will has anxiety, and that he was intentionally written as ignorant/ clueless about all things regarding the Underworld and Tartarus. Which- as someone with multiple anxiety disorders- feels inherently contradictory to me? You're anxious about a new place, so you resolve to learn EVERYTHING about it. You're anxious about being underprepared, so you overprepare. In my experience, at least. You think of every possible scenario and try to plan for it. Will's anxiety shouldn't have made him know nothing at all, he should've done extensive research and had a ridiculously long list of detailed questions for Nico. It's not "Will didn't bring weapons because he trusts Nico and he's not a fighter so he didn't think about it", it's "Will hid a bunch of weapons all over his person and his bag just in case". Or maybe my anxiety's just weird?
This has been my experience as well as someone with anxiety, alongside everybody I know with anxiety. In all my experience, particularly with anxiety combined with other things (including ADHD & related, which as far as we know Will has), Will's portrayal of anxiety in TSATS did not feel anywhere close to any of that. I honestly didn't even pick up on anything reading as him having anxiety at all - besides maybe the overpacking? But in the context of the scene and Will's experience that didn't feel like an anxiety disorder thing, that just felt more like a comedy thing playing off of Will being nervous for his first quest. His nightmares also don't quite work for this because we're explicitly told from the beginning all their dreams are being warped by Nyx and Epiales, specifically trying to tear the two of them apart (particularly targeting Will), so that doesn't read like Will's personal anxieties either, just as Nyx trying to make him doubt Nico. There's basically nothing indicating that Will has an anxiety disorder other than Word Of God confirmation, which in basic literary analysis, with Death of the Author, means absolutely nothing.
Usually with my own anxiety, some of the common stuff includes things like me being possessive of objects (if I lose track of something or an unable to actively be the one carrying it, I may panic or break down), be very particular about how things are gone about (directing/managing things or being in charge of planning), excessively checking things repeatedly (and very frequently), etc etc. All of which could have been easily applied to Will and his position in the narrative to indicate he has an anxiety disorder and those are ways in which he is able to control his situation to feel safe - show him always holding his sun lamp and refusing to let others touch it (or being extremely nervous when others are holding on to it). Have Will going over their plan in detail with Nico beforehand and being very insistent on sticking to it, getting upset if they aren't on schedule. Show him constantly fiddling with his bag (which in TSATS honestly it feels like they forget and remember he's carrying a bag half the time), pausing every once in awhile to rummage through it and check that everything is still there.
And you're absolutely right - if the intention was to depict Will as having anxiety, I definitely don't think he would go onto his first quest unarmed, no matter how much he trusts Nico, because the entire thing of anxiety is that it's illogical. Logically, he trusts Nico, logically he knows Nico will keep him safe. That doesn't matter! Give him a weapon of some kind, or since we gave Will like 3 whole new powers anyways, show him being aware he has a reliable power of being able to summon or create a weapon of some kind. At the very least like, a shield! Back in the day the popular fandom was he could make a whip/lasso out of light! Yknow, whatever! Just give him something!
Also it doesn't make sense for Will to have specific anxiety about the Underworld in particular because a.) If he has anxiety related to Underworld stuff specifically, why would he date Nico of all people? He knew what he was getting into. And b.) Apollo has chthonic aspects! Particularly the Roman Apollo Soranus. Soranus as an individual god was identified with both Apollo and Dis Pater (Often equated to Pluto) - so Will should not only not have anxiety about the Underworld, he should actually be perfectly fine down there (Imagine how cool it would have been for Will to spend the entire book wondering why he's fine, only to finally learn about that and more of his similarities to Nico?). And it's not like we haven't seen Greek or Roman demigods have powers more associated with their Roman/Greek counterparts, so that can't even be used as an excuse. (This also doesn't get into how Nyx is literally the mother of light [Aether], day [Hemera - who is constantly leaving/entering the Underworld in cycle with Nyx, so further reasoning why Will should be fine], the nymphs of the sunset [the Hesperides], and LITERAL FRIENDSHIP [Philotes], so it doesn't make any sense for her to even be an antagonist/dislike Will but WHATEVER.) And again, because Will is dating Nico, there's no reason for him to be ignorant of the Underworld. You're telling me they've been dating for a whole year and Will hasn't learned anything about the Underworld from Nico? Even if he had fears that for some reason Nico would be lying to him, that again leads to like you said, him going even further into double-checking things and seeking out more sources of information. Nico's not the only chthonic demigod in camp, and Will seemed to be friends with Lou Ellen in HoO, so there's at least one option. Heck, Dionysus has plenty enough connections to Hades that Will could probably just go directly to him. Will not knowing anything just doesn't make sense?
#pjo#riordanverse#tsats#the sun and the star spoilers#the sun and the star#tsats spoilers#analysis#will solace#Anonymous#ask#anxiety#< ??? feels weird tagging this that but i suppose that is the topic at hand#if anybody wants i'd be totally willing to go into more depth about writing anxiety comorbidity with other things#cause i feel like it is something overlooked with writing pjo stuff#long post //#ask to tag#< in case i missed anything. i thought i heard there's some new tsats discussion tags but idk what they are
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I was looking thru your blog recently and I just wanna let you know every time you’ve tagged something with “no one’s gonna understand this but connor by systemic dreams” or like “the urge to tag gennadiy petrov” just know I am there in spirit also having Feelings about it lol. Ty for encouraging to read the story, it was a treat to learn abt characters like sergeant matthews and petrov and just experience the wild ride :D
THIS ASK BRINGS ME SUCH JOY THANK YOU HOLY SHIT YES 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I AM SOOO SO SO GLAD AWLAIGHDFH i'm so glad yet another has enjoyed the story THANKS to ME??? and that someone likes my barely restrained connor(by systemic dreams) posting it infected my brain so strongly how can i ever interact with dbh again without thinking of that masterpiece.
anyway words i'm very good at them just know this ask overjoys me thank you thAnk you, matthews and petrov someone talked about them i will scream and throw up out of joy. YOU DONT EVEN GET ITTTTT us 🤝 insane about one specific fanfic ppl don't even know about please why can't we all be talking about this forever oh my god
#thiriumhowls#in case i have missed anything in my notifs (doubtful but just in case) i have still not opened the 99+. prob will not happen for a while#as i have fallen into an even WORSE media LOLLL so we'll see when i get back to dbh#but even with that distance i still feel the spark of joy that people are into connor by systemic dreams BECAUSE OF ME MY GRAND PLAN#all i want is for connor by systemic dreams to be a fandom classic on the level of that one convin fic starting w an r i forget is that so#much to ask smh (i would say /j but i do seriously want that. it's just so good. i want it to be an irl book i can share to non fans i)#(though i do know the good ol story that things getting too popular might ruin em LOL regardless it just needs the recognition it deserves)#anyway what was i saying do i have other tags??#connor by systemic dreams#thank you anon thank you <33333
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#cascoon#it's like silcoon‚ but purple and pointy! desperately trying to remember how this one comes about. i'm gonna seem like a fake pokémon fan#i know silcoon and cascoon are both evolutions of wurmple. but i don't remember what the criteria are. is it a gender thing? hold on google#oh. it's just. some hidden personality value. so it's effectively random#y'know what. i think that's better than it being a gender thing. shoutout. but it could be considerably more interesting#maybe i'm just conditioned by the hitmonline to think that every evolution criteria has to be stupid and obscure and insane#or finizen At All#or all the stupid-ass trade evos. do not like trade evos. i do Not like trade evos! i have said this before but i will keep saying it#i just realized i called cascoon purple and pointy as though silcoon was not pointy. i'm not with it at all this morning#i just woke up‚ y'all. can you tell. can you tell i'm not sentient yet. i have to go to work in like an hour and a half and i am Not ready#anyway. i'm gonna get this guy up in the queue and dustox and then take my meds. see you guys in the dustox post#this must look so weird to y'all. since dustox is gonna be either multiple hours or a whole Day after cascoon#but i queue up two to three pokémon at once every morning to keep a good backlog in the queue in case one morning i miss it#which has happened before. it's saved my ass before. and i'm gonna need to use it at the beginning of july#sneak peek for you guys. i'll be heading out of town on june 30th to go to the other side of the country for work. so i won't be around#any posts you see from june 30th to july 4th are gonna be like super duper queued in advance. and i probably won't be able to answer asks#or anything like that. i dunno if i'll do a formal announcement bc no one will even notice but for you dear reader#who read this deep into my mile-long cascoon tags. you now know that i will be out of town from june 30th to july 4th#use this power wisely….
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"they're just doing it for attention"
so! this phrase has been on our mind a Lot recently. decided to make a Post about it. (note: if this post gets popular please be reasonable we're literally Just Some Guys on the internet ;-;)
trigger warnings for: self harm mentions, suicide/suicidal ideation, neglect, trauma
firstly: attention is as human need. that's a fact. it's a need. we are social animals. loneliness genuinely hurts and there is a reason solitary confinement can be like. a form of torture. neglect is a form of trauma. we need attention.
that being established: if a kid is "just doing it for attention"? chances are, they need attention. note the difference between doing something for attention and doing something because they want something. kid crying in the store over a chocolate bar? that's not for attention, that's for the chocolate bar. they're not In Need. kid throwing a fit over "nothing" and just trying to get someone to Notice Them? probably "just" doing it for attention. the response should not be "so ignore them until they stop", it should be Fucking Talk To Them and Make Sure They're Okay. i don't CARE how annoying the kid is being if they are desperately seeking attention HELP THEM. if the kid was begging for water you'd help them right?
on that note: the mindset "they're (just) doing it for attention, so ignore them until they stop" is legitimately dangerous. if you have a need that is not being fulfilled and method one doesn't work, you don't just go "oh well guess i don't actually need this thing". you try again. and again. and get more severe. and get more "annoying". and get more traumatized. i'm not being dramatic when i say this mindset can lead to neglect and trauma. honestly it probably only started because of neglect, and the kid is trying to communicate that without knowing how. because kids are still learning how to exist and how to communicate and most likely can't even find the cause of why they feel like shit.
also: neglect isn't always purposeful. if you think you're doing everything right and the kid still is overdramatic "for attention": talk to them. help them figure out what's wrong. help them figure out what need isn't being met and work with them to fulfill it. it's not your fault for not immediately knowing everything your kids' needs. it becomes your fault when they become desperate for it and you ignore it. kids are people too.
this desperation can show itself in a Ton of ways. excessive people pleasing, being loud and annoying, being overly clingy, being overdramatic. the correct response is not "ignore them until they stop". chances are they will stop that one method. but they will try another. and most likely escalate. even if it doesn't make sense to you what they're doing or why, talk to them. i cannot stress this enough. kids are smarter than you think. work with each other to figure out what's wrong and find a solution. because the longer you deprive them of a need the worse it will get. including to the point of self-harm and suicidal ideation, and even going through with it. even if it seems low-level, it's still taking a mental toll, and there comes a breaking point.
i focused mostly on childhood neglect, but this also is true for adults. if someone is faking a disorder "for attention": something is wrong and they still need help, even if it isn't for the disorder they claim it's for.
i can't think of many more examples on the spot but hopefully at this point you get the message.
tldr: people do things for attention because they need attention. the answer isn't "ignore them until they stop", it's to talk to them and find a solution.
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ATTEMPTING TO GET BACK IN THE PATTERN OF WRITING POETRY.
ENJOY...
[ REGARDS, HABIT ]
HUNGER // SIN
THERE IS NOTHING LESS THAN NEED,
OF FLESH UPON THE TEETH.
I WATCHED HER BLEED,
TORE HER THROUGH, AND SAW BONE UNDERNEATH.
ISN'T SHE BEAUTIFUL?
WASN'T SHE GRAND?
HE CALLED IT UNSUITABLE,
HE WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND.
IT MADE HIM SICK.
BUT IN TRUTH,
IT MADE ME TICK;
HOW BLOOD RAN DOWN, LIKE SMOOTH VERMOUTH
AS HE THINKS OF HER,
HUNGER RISES AGAIN.
AND THERE LIES NO WAY TO DETER,
FROM THE TRUE FOLLIES OF MEN.
LEFT DRUNK ON THE HIGH,
WITH THE FADED MEMORY OF TASTE.
AS IT LEAVES WITH A DESPERATE CRY,
I AM YET DRAWN TO YOUR DISGRACE.
INVITE ME IN,
PRAY I AM NOT STARVED.
MY TONGUE IS SWEET AS BITTER SIN,
AND ALL OF HUMANITY HAS MY REGARDS.
#HABIT speaks 🐇 ☠️#habit emh ask blog#habit rp blog#not asks#HABIT's poetry#( ooc > )#cw caps#trying to do poetry... so... um... yeah#cw cannibalism#cw gore mention#cw implied death#cw blood#cw alcohol mention#god... i haven't written poetry in forever.#this was nice though.#cathartic. i guess.#it turned out good#mostly... i guess.#i apologize if i missed any CW tags.#freestyle poem#poetry#poems on tumblr#this is about Stephanie... by the way. in case you can't tell.#HABIT kin#emh kin#but jesus fuck it's been way too long since I've tried anything like poetry.#ugh im so rusty...#>:[ but fuck you i had motivation and was actually able to words.#hahahahaha!!! take that executive dysfunction!!!
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