#as an oldest daughter + middle child

[bamsara]

I don't need to have kids when I'm an elder sibling with a 14+ year age gap between us and absent/busy parents. When was the last time you got a fresh toothbrush. What happened to your knee. The fuck you mean you don't have a swim suit. Get in the car.

[traumaismypersonality]

It's always the eldest child this, middle child that, youngest child this. It's never the only child.

Yes the oldest have the most trauma. Yes the middle is always ignore. Yes the youngest is always treated like a kid. But the only child is always divided.

The oldest complains, our parents became parents to our siblings not to us, because they were unprepared. But the only child, never had parents, their parents never grow up. They didn't had anyone to experiment other way so they stay the immatured parents.

The middle cries, our parents never saw us, because they were busy with others. The only child, was always seen, so much that they could not escape their eyes and have themselves to themselves only.

The youngest yells, our parents never took us seriously, because they never thought we can grown up. Yet the only child, remained a kid who had to act like a grown-up since the beginning because ‘You are the only one we have. ’

You can't say being only child is a luxury. Not when I'm always flaunted as a trophy but ignored as a child. Not when I'm treated like a male but expected to be kind like a female. Not when I see my parent's being better parents to other children which are not even their own. Not when I'm always divided between my parents. Not when I'm their hope but disappointment too. Not when they remind me, oh how they wish they had another.

I am the oldest daughter who parents their own parents. I am the middle child who decided for my own future because the adults ‘never understood’ me. I am the youngest son who cries alone silently swallowing their anger but cracking jokes to make my parents smile.

I am the only child. I will always be the one to enjoys loneliness.

[demikempton]

Headcanons for Scar/Vio cast and siblings

Phen: An only child. Sees Arven as a brother and Lacey as her sister.

Nemona: It's canon she has an older sister, but makes no mention of other siblings so I imagine it's just the two of them. (Because of their dad's job I imagine Nemona sometimes feels like the "spare" but she gets on well with her sister)

Arven: Only child but sees Phen as his sister.

Penny: Implied/confirmed? that Peony is her dad so Peonia is her sister. Penny is the older one. They get on well enough, usually bonding over how cringe their dad is.

Giacomo: Has a little sister he dotes on, there's a fair age gap (7 years) but he loves her.

Mela: Oldest of 3, has two younger brothers, so she experienced a bit of parentification.

Ortega: He's the middle child of 3 boys. Middle child syndrome.

Atticus: An only child, he was an IVF baby.

Eri: Has a little sister who has aspirations to be an engineer, they get on really well.

Carmine: 👇 Also experienced parentification after they lost their parents.

Kieran: 👆

Drayton: An only child. One is enough.

Lacey: An only child, spoiled but not bratty, princess of Driftveil. She does see Phen as a sister.

Crispin: Has an older brother who isn't interested in taking over the family business, but works the bar for extra money while he studies at university.

Amarys: Oldest of three, has a little brother and sister. She and Carmine bond over being oldest siblings.

[crispypotatooo]

I feel so bad being the eldest sister. I tried so hard but I was always so angry, they'll never know it was all love.

[sasukesofficiallawyer]

I hate when someone posts about the struggles of being the youngest child and all the oldest and middle children are in the comments saying “Actually I had a harder time” “you all are just spoiled” “actually this is an older sibling thing” “you have no idea how hard it is to be the middle child” “you don’t know anything about real problems” SHUT THE FUCK UP. THIS ISN’T ABOUT YOU.

[herdreamywasteland]

answer please, this is an experiment

I would hands down kill someone for my little sister. Like, the police wouldn't ever stop finding body parts.

and that bastard would be alive for at least half that time-

[doylldonmagar]

I sincerely believe that middle and youngest sibling stereotypes are generally/often accurate, while oldest sibling stereotypes are inaccurate in the majority of situations, and in this essay I will

[moonshynecybin]

dyou think vale is tired of following these races every (other) week for his children and seeing his ex whatever on the podium next to his first born every damn time

i’m sorry im not (personally ! live your weirdo truth. freak your bean. go for itttt) a fan of when people nuclearize the rpf family (let them be weird and gay and want to fuck each other at least a little bit… please) and then when people DO they don’t even DO IT RIGHT !! like if we’re doin this then FRANKY is his first born. CLEARLY. to the point where franky had gone ON RECORD talking about how vale and co stepped into that role for him as a teen. like CMANNNNNN

[lolo-gay]

Nobody talks about how as a middle child you have to choose between leaving your toxic house like your older sibling did in order to survive, but that would mean abandoning your little sibling to be alone with your parents and feeling exactly how you felt when your older sibling abandoned you or staying in order to protect your little sibling but that would mean letting yourself die a bit more every day and abandoning the hope of getting better one day.

[roseworth]

seeing polls on here about sibling ages has revealed to me that some of you who talk about "eldest daughter syndrome" only have one sibling thats less than 5 years younger than you

[dragon-flies-72]

Just a reminder to go thank youre older sister's today cause I've just learnt they do not get enough credit despite practically raising you and they definitely didn't deserve to be treated like adults when they were just kids too. This is comming from a middle child who watched her sister suffer for not being academically gifted despite raising me and my younger sister, when our parents were busy working.

Seriously because they really do not get enough credit in society and no matter how mad and stubborn they are it's what they needed to survive and it took me a while to understand that (ofc if theyre assholes then dont thank them but being the eldest daughter is hard work)

[evaaraaa]

Brianna pastor, good grief.

[loeysthings]

As the only daughter but not the oldest child what does this classify me as

[haunted-phantom-student]

LPT: if you have enough older brothers, you can be the middle child *and* the oldest daughter and get two complexes for the price of one.

[darthtaoshay]

I wanted to rearrange my living room… So I did 😌 all by myself!!