#as an allo-ace myself

[oc-factoids]

Tag the OC that’s allo-ace

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[miitopia-cake]

I wish some aces would stop excluding other aces with complex sexual experiences. like I get why but you have to realize that being ace does not mean they don't enjoy sexual experiences and it's weird when you complain about allo people and boil it down to "people who have sexual experiences" and also shame people for their sex life and kinks as if your own community doesnt INCLUDE those people. because there are other aces out there who still masturbate, who feel sexually attracted to their own body, who barely experiences sexual attraction but still enjoys sex, who like consuming sexual media, who like sfw kink. being ace is so so much more complex than just "disliking sex". and also aromantic exclusionism in the same genre of posts is something i see a lot. especially aro allos. I hate hate hate seeing a community that SHOULD be inclusive boil down sexuality and exclude people.

[thatbitch151]

“You shouldn’t sexualize/write smut about asexual characters!!!! That’s disrespectful to ace people”

As an ace person, Please For The Love Of God Write More Smut About Ace Characters

I am asexual, specifically a sex-favorable asexual. Because of this, I’ve struggled for a very long time to realize and accept that I am ace. Do you want to know what helped me rationalize and realize this? Smut about Ace characters.

When people yell at others for writing smut about Ace characters to defend Ace people, they are doing the exact opposite. If others weren’t able to write that content, it would have taken me so so long to realize and accept this about myself

[read-write-thrive]

the dead boy detective agency main four are a polycule on various points of the aromantic/asexual spectrum (in addition to their various sexualities), with the various side characters playing the roles of parental figures or talking stages. thank you for coming to my ted talk

[pant--eater]

I've seen plenty of autistic Wallace headcanons (DESERVED because that man is Autism Incarnate. He also gives me low empathy energy, which makes me happy because it's so rare to see low empathy heroic characters in media 💖)

and I've yapped a lot about autistic Mr. Tweedy before, so now imma throw to the table the girl with croissant hair

🥕🥕Autistic Lady Tottington 🥕🥕

hyperfixates on vegetables. Girl dresses up as a carrot for the fair and has a whole ass fancy royal greenhouse dedicated for veggies. Queen shit 🎉 Hell, all of her outfits are somehow nature inspired and I hc she sews many of them herself! :> Ask her about growing them, fertilizing and reaping, and she will NOT shut up. (also yes my Willace hc still stands that after some first inital difficulties, she and Mr. Tweedy become besties who infodump to each other about veggies and apples respectively <3)

Just like Wallace with cheese, her safefood and continual samefood is vegetables. She was that rare child who always ate her greens LMAO and preferred them to candy

Animals and caring for them is absolutely another hyperfixation point!! Her mansion after the movie's events becomes a bunny haven and she grows rabbits, both as pets for herself, and to give them away to people that she trusts would be caring owners

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She also has a soft spot for other creatures too that are seen as pests or otherwise disgusting, and will always be open to adopting them instead of letting them get killed. Such as rats, cockroaches, ants, possums, raccoons, you name it.

(in fact Nick and Fetcher have more than often crashed in her place LMAO, pretty much using the mansion as a midway resting location, during their big trips to the mainland from Chicken Island. And I imagine they would at some point tell Ginger about Totty, which makes Ginger and the chickens wonder that maybe not all humans are evil to animals!)

Totty has a very strong extreme moral drive, and stirring away from it upsets her to the point of tears. (protecting innocent animals and getting rid of pests in humane ways, no matter how dangerous the situation gets. It does get irrational sometimes but she just can't bring herself to see any sort of critters in pain 💔💔💔💔THIS LADY HAS A BIG HEART OKAY???) She tries her best to make Lord Victor bend to that and be kinder to animals, even if that asshat is a lost cause.

The videogame adaptation also mentions she is a vegan, so she def gets massive discomfort from eating anything animal related

Her kind and forgiving, sentimental nature sometimes makes her stress herself out and put her energy to people who don't deserve it. It's clear that she is not happy with Victor, but she stays and tries to make it all work with him, because she wants to believe she can change him and bring out a kind man in him. (Girl please, your "I can fix him" game is off the charts) And she only dumps him for good once he crosses a line and tries to kill Wallace. Heck, maybe she does not have many genuine friends, also due to her noblewoman status being intimidating to many :( And that's also why she stayed with Victor, and it wasn't until meeting Wallace and Gromit that she was able to get out of the toxic relationship.

Victor clearly sees her as naive and annoying for her autistic quirks and personality during the movie, and is only after her because of her status, money and looks. Reducing her to a trophy. If that ain't a relatable autistic experience I don't know what is

In my hc universe she does not get romantically involved with Wallace. I know Aardman likes to shiptease them as canon and I don't have a problem with it, it's cute! I just personally prefer them as platonic friends, especially since the Were-Rabbit movie subverted the "love triangle" and "nice guy gets the girl" tropes where the whole punchline was that Totty in fact did NOT marry Wallace after him pining for her the whole movie, and it was so refreshing to see. Especially since Wallace was not upset at all about being rejected!! We stan a king 🫶🫶🫶

The whole scene of Totty going "I have caught feelings for you" was, in my hcs, Totty being comphet :''') 💔💔💔She has grown fond of Wallace because he is the first man in a long time who does not treat her like a pretty prize like Victor. And poor Totty, being the affection starved girlie that she is, who also has grown in a heteronormative British noble society, thinks that it means automatically romantic feelings. PLUS she is very touchy and affectionate when it comes to interacting with people she likes, so it's easy for people to mistake it for romantic interest

Either way she and Wallace are very good friends with autism 2 autism solidarity, and THIS SCENE LEGIT MAKES ME SO HAPPY, Totty showing her appreciation by copying Wallace's stim <3

[satyrradio]

Allospec Aegosexual

Flag for aegosexuals that don't consider themselves acespec, or feel moreso allospec than acespec. This label is entirely up to self-identification.

Flag is the aegosexual flag, but the purple has been replaced with the red-pink in the allosexual flag.

[crownedinmarigolds]

This ain't really no thing you do you of course but I definitely can't get on the same mindset as people who ship the other characters together in games where you're the main character who gets to romance everyone. I read the write-ups and see the great fanart and I'm like "oh yeah I get how they would work 100%" but ultimately I guess I'm a terrible and selfish oc x canon person. xDD

[sigmarette]

*likes someone's posts* "Gee I wanna follow this person; I'm gonna check their blo-" "Aro/Allos DNI!"

Nevermind, they're a bigot!

[epicdogymoment]

gender and sexuality labels are so fucking hard how am i supposed to know how what i experience (already hard to pin down) compares to what "normal people" experience (completely unknown to me)

[aeolianblues]

every fucking time I wonder if I might be allosexual me: if a guy looks at me the wrong way I will have a panic attack, throw up and think about it for four business days

[joejoeba]

care to share more on how you understand narancia and mista now? i’ve been here throughout you trying to understand them and i love to hear your thoughts

Not them necessarily but the dynamic that I created in my brain that intrigued me so

So my initial dynamic was; they're close in a diff way than just bros. Narancia is aro-ace and Mista is anything but. Somehow their relationship makes sense even though they're like opposites. But how??.

Me now? Shit dude labels do not fuckin matter. Romantic? Platonic? Family and found family and friends?? None a that shit matters any more than exactly what you want it to.

What I've been into lately is, if you love someone, thassit. No explanation needed because some things aren't for words. I am a believer in Mista and Narancia having a sort of bond that doesnt have a title because its unique; Narancia puts the most emphasis on friendship so Mista is a Best Friend, Mista puts an emphasis on romance and family so Narancia is a Beloved Found Family Member (non-familial, found family ain't the same as biological family). Its wildly different understandings of each other but the thing is they love each other just as much so it doesn't matter. Who give a shit? The Popo? Society? Neither of them adhere to any rules but Brummo's and their own so they just do whatever and get an understanding. And no one needs to know what's up, not even them, because how could you summarise human emotion anyway? Live and vibe and love each other the best you can.

[arseniccattails]

I'm so sorry but if the writers of bes weren't trying to make Mizu trans then they stumbled into a nearly perfect historical trans narrative basically by accident. This really isn't me projecting, Mizu is not Literally Me. I am talking about Mizu having a vision of himself kissing Taigen only when he sees two men kissing. I am talking about gaining the rage fueled strength to demolish Fowler only after being referred to as female by him, when previously he was fading. Like. What.

Edit: Hello discourse blogs who may or may not find this post again, which is not in the main tag and is only tagged for spoilers: first you should leave me alone forever unless you have miraculously gained critical thinking and arguments that go at least a little beyond slinging the genetic fallacy around, and then you should ask yourself why being trans degrades a character in your eyes. And then you should do something better with your time on Earth 👍 I personally like volunteering at the local soup kitchen and invasive removal at my nearby nature conservancy, and also watching shows to enjoy them instead of to get mad at people on my phone.

[lockhartandlych]

i just realized that my aceness is driven by my aroness.

i dont perceive romantic relationships like a lot of allos do. i can perceive close and intimate relationships, i can even perceive lifelong close and intimate relationships. (though like most people, i find it a daunting concept.) but i cant perceive, specifically, exclusive romantic relationships. "till death do us part" is a phrase that does not compute in my brain.

this translates over to sex. if i have a close friend or queerplatonic partner (i don't think im capable of having a true romantic partner) who i'm able to be intimate with, i don't think that intimacy is required. it's nice, but ultimately not needed to fuel the relationship. this is because the relationship isn't romantic in the allonormative sense. a romantic relationship has sex almost as a prerequisite. in an allo society, a romantic relationship and a sexual relationship are one and the same. i've only been in like two romantic relationships and both started entertaining the idea of intimacy right out of the gate.

but because i don't experience romantic relationships, i don't need to really experience sexual relationships. does that make any sense?

[anthenasikes]

for like over a year after i starting thinking about if i was aromantic i was so horrifically upset and sad and blah blah blah ohhh no the horrrors i’m never gonna date anybody ever bro oh mo i’m so depressed about it. i was like . im never gonna date anybody and that is so terrible (i didn’t actually even want to date anybody and somehow that never occurred to me so i continued wallowing in despair or whatever) and now it’s been way way wayyyy more than a year and im like. im so aro im the aro ever thats literally the best thing ever fr. I look at every allo person around me and im like Wow! Thank Fucking God. Holy fuck rhank god i’m aro

[sisyphus-prime]

Also yk sometimes I do wonder how much of my hatred of physical contact blends into my aceness. Would I truly be this without that.

[oflgtfol]

sorry maybe im meanspirited but this aroace person on r/aromantic is like i understand allo aces but i need help understanding allo aros. like what is there to understand. bitch