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#as an allo-ace myself#lowkey sick of the very little rep we get being almost exclusively aro-ace#like don’t get me wrong aroace people absolutely deserve more rep!!#but when it’s the only rep we get it makes it seem like people who are one or the other HAVE to be both#does that make sense?#idk it’s almost midnight and I’m rambling oldie#shut up Allison#character prompt#character tag#oc inspiration#oc inspo#oc prompt#oc tag#oc questions#orginal character tag#original character
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I wish some aces would stop excluding other aces with complex sexual experiences. like I get why but you have to realize that being ace does not mean they don't enjoy sexual experiences and it's weird when you complain about allo people and boil it down to "people who have sexual experiences" and also shame people for their sex life and kinks as if your own community doesnt INCLUDE those people. because there are other aces out there who still masturbate, who feel sexually attracted to their own body, who barely experiences sexual attraction but still enjoys sex, who like consuming sexual media, who like sfw kink. being ace is so so much more complex than just "disliking sex". and also aromantic exclusionism in the same genre of posts is something i see a lot. especially aro allos. I hate hate hate seeing a community that SHOULD be inclusive boil down sexuality and exclude people.
#okay to reblog#if you reblog this post to argue or whatever though im killing you this is about my personal queer experiences not a discourse post#feel free to add your own experiences if youre aceflux demisexual whatever. i love you guys.#rambling#rant#messy writing sorry#but as an aroace myself i just felt like i had to get it out i guess#i always feel like im not ace enough but im not allo enough to be either#aroace#arospec#aromantic#asexual#acespec#ace#aceflux#aroflux#demiromantic#demisexual#lbgtqia#lbgtq#queer#text post#vent#queer community
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“You shouldn’t sexualize/write smut about asexual characters!!!! That’s disrespectful to ace people”
As an ace person, Please For The Love Of God Write More Smut About Ace Characters
I am asexual, specifically a sex-favorable asexual. Because of this, I’ve struggled for a very long time to realize and accept that I am ace. Do you want to know what helped me rationalize and realize this? Smut about Ace characters.
When people yell at others for writing smut about Ace characters to defend Ace people, they are doing the exact opposite. If others weren’t able to write that content, it would have taken me so so long to realize and accept this about myself
#proshipper#proshipping#proship#anti anti#asexual#sex favorable#I need allos to call the fuck down and stop trying to defend us from smut#because if people hadn’t wrote Ace smut I would still be full of shame and hating myself
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I've seen plenty of autistic Wallace headcanons (DESERVED because that man is Autism Incarnate. He also gives me low empathy energy, which makes me happy because it's so rare to see low empathy heroic characters in media 💖)
and I've yapped a lot about autistic Mr. Tweedy before, so now imma throw to the table the girl with croissant hair
🥕🥕Autistic Lady Tottington 🥕🥕
hyperfixates on vegetables. Girl dresses up as a carrot for the fair and has a whole ass fancy royal greenhouse dedicated for veggies. Queen shit 🎉 Hell, all of her outfits are somehow nature inspired and I hc she sews many of them herself! :> Ask her about growing them, fertilizing and reaping, and she will NOT shut up. (also yes my Willace hc still stands that after some first inital difficulties, she and Mr. Tweedy become besties who infodump to each other about veggies and apples respectively <3)
Just like Wallace with cheese, her safefood and continual samefood is vegetables. She was that rare child who always ate her greens LMAO and preferred them to candy
Animals and caring for them is absolutely another hyperfixation point!! Her mansion after the movie's events becomes a bunny haven and she grows rabbits, both as pets for herself, and to give them away to people that she trusts would be caring owners
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She also has a soft spot for other creatures too that are seen as pests or otherwise disgusting, and will always be open to adopting them instead of letting them get killed. Such as rats, cockroaches, ants, possums, raccoons, you name it.
(in fact Nick and Fetcher have more than often crashed in her place LMAO, pretty much using the mansion as a midway resting location, during their big trips to the mainland from Chicken Island. And I imagine they would at some point tell Ginger about Totty, which makes Ginger and the chickens wonder that maybe not all humans are evil to animals!)
Totty has a very strong extreme moral drive, and stirring away from it upsets her to the point of tears. (protecting innocent animals and getting rid of pests in humane ways, no matter how dangerous the situation gets. It does get irrational sometimes but she just can't bring herself to see any sort of critters in pain 💔💔💔💔THIS LADY HAS A BIG HEART OKAY???) She tries her best to make Lord Victor bend to that and be kinder to animals, even if that asshat is a lost cause.
The videogame adaptation also mentions she is a vegan, so she def gets massive discomfort from eating anything animal related
Her kind and forgiving, sentimental nature sometimes makes her stress herself out and put her energy to people who don't deserve it. It's clear that she is not happy with Victor, but she stays and tries to make it all work with him, because she wants to believe she can change him and bring out a kind man in him. (Girl please, your "I can fix him" game is off the charts) And she only dumps him for good once he crosses a line and tries to kill Wallace. Heck, maybe she does not have many genuine friends, also due to her noblewoman status being intimidating to many :( And that's also why she stayed with Victor, and it wasn't until meeting Wallace and Gromit that she was able to get out of the toxic relationship.
Victor clearly sees her as naive and annoying for her autistic quirks and personality during the movie, and is only after her because of her status, money and looks. Reducing her to a trophy. If that ain't a relatable autistic experience I don't know what is
In my hc universe she does not get romantically involved with Wallace. I know Aardman likes to shiptease them as canon and I don't have a problem with it, it's cute! I just personally prefer them as platonic friends, especially since the Were-Rabbit movie subverted the "love triangle" and "nice guy gets the girl" tropes where the whole punchline was that Totty in fact did NOT marry Wallace after him pining for her the whole movie, and it was so refreshing to see. Especially since Wallace was not upset at all about being rejected!! We stan a king 🫶🫶🫶
The whole scene of Totty going "I have caught feelings for you" was, in my hcs, Totty being comphet :''') 💔💔💔She has grown fond of Wallace because he is the first man in a long time who does not treat her like a pretty prize like Victor. And poor Totty, being the affection starved girlie that she is, who also has grown in a heteronormative British noble society, thinks that it means automatically romantic feelings. PLUS she is very touchy and affectionate when it comes to interacting with people she likes, so it's easy for people to mistake it for romantic interest
Either way she and Wallace are very good friends with autism 2 autism solidarity, and THIS SCENE LEGIT MAKES ME SO HAPPY, Totty showing her appreciation by copying Wallace's stim <3
#also i hc shes an ace lesbian BYYYE and has not realized it cuz its the 1960s and shes grown in a heteronormative noble society </3#cringefail guys like Victor think she is 'asking for it' cuz she is conventionally beautiful and affectionate and dresses up attractively#Wallace being the exact opposite of her. he is Just A Guy but he is allo pan as hell LOL and he keeps getting in danger for being Down Bad#im myself on the ace spec so it was only a matter of time i slam the ACE stamp on one of these characters#wallace and gromit#aardman#curse of the were rabbit#my headcanons#lady tottington#lady campanula tottington
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the dead boy detective agency main four are a polycule on various points of the aromantic/asexual spectrum (in addition to their various sexualities), with the various side characters playing the roles of parental figures or talking stages. thank you for coming to my ted talk
#it’s like scooby doo but they don’t have a dog#this is of course just my opinion#but: gay ace demiaro edwin / bi demiaro charles / pan greyaroace crystal / lesbian aroace niko are v real to me#the older characters work as parental figures ofc#then there’s characters like Monty and Thomas who are chatting up edwin but aren’t officially in the polycule#that being said: achillean greyace monty / pan aroflexible thomas are also real to me#this isn’t even getting into the gender fuckery I am putting these characters in#but I felt like sharing#esp since I keep seeing ppl fight over catwin and palaland or whatever that ship name is#I don’t think catwin works not bc of some perceived age thing but bc the cat king is v sex forward and edwin is Not Into That#doesn’t mean tck is ruled out from a place on the chart it’s just not how he wanted#same for monty who came on v romantically and edwin was not having it#all valid and fair !!!#plus the main four needed to get their shit together but this is my fantasy world so shhh#oh and for crystal x charles I think they’re the most allo of th main four so it tracks they had the closest to a traditional relationship#but then everyone gets their shit together and that doesn’t happen as frequently lol#esp as time goes on#like the polycule is more of a series of qprs with some sugar/spice on occasion#there isn’t really a point to this post but this blog is me talking to myself most of the time anyway#dead boy detectives#dbda#edwin payne#charles rowland#crystal palace#niko sasaki#monty the crow#the cat king
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Allospec Aegosexual
Flag for aegosexuals that don't consider themselves acespec, or feel moreso allospec than acespec. This label is entirely up to self-identification.
Flag is the aegosexual flag, but the purple has been replaced with the red-pink in the allosexual flag.
#mostly made for myself#bc while i am aego i don't really consider myself acespec#like i feel like my aegosexuality is more allo than ace#aegosexual#allospec#my flags
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This ain't really no thing you do you of course but I definitely can't get on the same mindset as people who ship the other characters together in games where you're the main character who gets to romance everyone. I read the write-ups and see the great fanart and I'm like "oh yeah I get how they would work 100%" but ultimately I guess I'm a terrible and selfish oc x canon person. xDD
#personal#those companions are minnneeee!#it really is no big deal it's just personal pref for myself...#i do recognize the allo/ace community as well but i don't think a lot of the people making this content are in them?? maybe i'm wrong!
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At this point i have understood that i cant make myself any less asexual but reading smut is an habit now
#it just. does nothing#kinda disapointing to be honest#yea the whole wave of weird ass sad posts was me trying to make myself allo#did not work#but welp#at least im sure im ace now#reading smut like an old guy reading the news
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gender and sexuality labels are so fucking hard how am i supposed to know how what i experience (already hard to pin down) compares to what "normal people" experience (completely unknown to me)
#leologisms#smthn smthn gender and sexuality labels are social constructs that exist within the assumption of a 'normal' experience#and a) i have no idea what EXACTLY that experience is supposed to be like b) im not fully convinced it actually EXISTS#youre telling me 'normal' people all experience attraction/gender in this ONE particular way? for real? youve gotta be lying to me#even ''''''normal'''''' (allo cishet) people talk about how their experiences with romance dont align with how its commonly talked about#how am i (transgay autist) supposed to know exactly what a 'normal' experience is in order to categorise myself in relation to it#more and more i find myself attracted to ambiguous identities because i have no way of defining myself more precisely that feels right#not male or female or even nonbinary but simply transgender. if 'gay' didnt carry the meaning 'homosexual' id probably identify more#strongly with it too (rather than bi)#for a while ive been wondering about ace identities but ive been reluctant to actually explore them too deeply because a) im afraid of#stepping on toes (for some reason. i dont know why.) b) im sure these labels ARE useful for lots of people but man. considering right now i#in a sort of. 'dont look at it too hard' space wrt my identities i dont actually think id even feel very comfortable w any of them anyway#do i experience attraction in a normal way? maybe. define normal.
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every fucking time I wonder if I might be allosexual me: if a guy looks at me the wrong way I will have a panic attack, throw up and think about it for four business days
#Asexual#im so sorry if anyone has seen me post on a similar theme before#Asexuality#sometimes I think I must be faking being ace surely? My friends I don’t think your blood is supposed to run cold if someone flirts with you#I don’t appreciate it at all— just another reminder I guess that I’m extremely ace#Ace#Aspec#acespec#I spoke to my bestie about it this afternoon and like. I love her n everything but my reaction left me feeling a bit sheepish#A bit childish#And I have to sort of hold myself in place; stand my ground etc. and remind myself that#My reaction and how I deal with notions of sexuality ARE expressions of MY sexuality. They don’t have to mimic allosexual people#They don’t have to conform to heterosexuality. They don’t have to even be compatible with allosexuality#Other sexualities arent told* to go against their own sexuality. I shouldn’t have to change mine to accommodate anyone else’s#This is who I am right? If I’ve literally been out there saying with my whole chest ‘I am asexual’#We can’t just get upset when the asexual person reacts in an asexual way#Like to be fair no one is saying ‘oh hey you should just cave in and be hetero’#But also I will have reactions to allosexuality that don’t conform to allo-ness. We can’t just fucking forget that#Anyway.#Midnight rants#I forgot to say * = obv; caveat saying homophobes exist but people who aren't homophobes and are actually supportive will often#forget themselves when amatonormativity kicks in
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care to share more on how you understand narancia and mista now? i’ve been here throughout you trying to understand them and i love to hear your thoughts
Not them necessarily but the dynamic that I created in my brain that intrigued me so
So my initial dynamic was; they're close in a diff way than just bros. Narancia is aro-ace and Mista is anything but. Somehow their relationship makes sense even though they're like opposites. But how??.
Me now? Shit dude labels do not fuckin matter. Romantic? Platonic? Family and found family and friends?? None a that shit matters any more than exactly what you want it to.
What I've been into lately is, if you love someone, thassit. No explanation needed because some things aren't for words. I am a believer in Mista and Narancia having a sort of bond that doesnt have a title because its unique; Narancia puts the most emphasis on friendship so Mista is a Best Friend, Mista puts an emphasis on romance and family so Narancia is a Beloved Found Family Member (non-familial, found family ain't the same as biological family). Its wildly different understandings of each other but the thing is they love each other just as much so it doesn't matter. Who give a shit? The Popo? Society? Neither of them adhere to any rules but Brummo's and their own so they just do whatever and get an understanding. And no one needs to know what's up, not even them, because how could you summarise human emotion anyway? Live and vibe and love each other the best you can.
#What is up it's me and my nonsensical words time#I love Young Justice the Comics and their dynamics. The quote 'let us love you the best that we can't really changed me#I believe that Mista and Narancia are two jokesters in a sea of grave and serious people and they just try to be there for the other I-#-that way. ALSO! I've decided I'm not into labels at all so the aro or allo thing is slightly less relevant#Yes aro-ace nara but Narancia loves so much regardless just not in a certain way#And mists is very allo both but he is all around a lover so he can adapt#I dont know if this change reads to anyone else but I been finding myself I guess and to me it makes sense#Love is like a whole thing why would you even try to put it in a box#Joejoeba not art#Not sorry that this makes like no sense lol
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I'm so sorry but if the writers of bes weren't trying to make Mizu trans then they stumbled into a nearly perfect historical trans narrative basically by accident. This really isn't me projecting, Mizu is not Literally Me. I am talking about Mizu having a vision of himself kissing Taigen only when he sees two men kissing. I am talking about gaining the rage fueled strength to demolish Fowler only after being referred to as female by him, when previously he was fading. Like. What.
Edit: Hello discourse blogs who may or may not find this post again, which is not in the main tag and is only tagged for spoilers: first you should leave me alone forever unless you have miraculously gained critical thinking and arguments that go at least a little beyond slinging the genetic fallacy around, and then you should ask yourself why being trans degrades a character in your eyes. And then you should do something better with your time on Earth 👍 I personally like volunteering at the local soup kitchen and invasive removal at my nearby nature conservancy, and also watching shows to enjoy them instead of to get mad at people on my phone.
#blue eye samurai spoilers#seriously. how do you do that by accident#ac speaks#hello writing team what were you doing#I do extremely mean that this isn't just Well I Relate To Mizu because the examples I used I don't actually relate to.#I am not stealth or out in every situation so angry reaction to misgendering isn't really. doable.#I'm not allo so. I don't think about myself when I see guys or ladies kissing. not a consideration.
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i just realized that my aceness is driven by my aroness.
i dont perceive romantic relationships like a lot of allos do. i can perceive close and intimate relationships, i can even perceive lifelong close and intimate relationships. (though like most people, i find it a daunting concept.) but i cant perceive, specifically, exclusive romantic relationships. "till death do us part" is a phrase that does not compute in my brain.
this translates over to sex. if i have a close friend or queerplatonic partner (i don't think im capable of having a true romantic partner) who i'm able to be intimate with, i don't think that intimacy is required. it's nice, but ultimately not needed to fuel the relationship. this is because the relationship isn't romantic in the allonormative sense. a romantic relationship has sex almost as a prerequisite. in an allo society, a romantic relationship and a sexual relationship are one and the same. i've only been in like two romantic relationships and both started entertaining the idea of intimacy right out of the gate.
but because i don't experience romantic relationships, i don't need to really experience sexual relationships. does that make any sense?
#i can see why a lot of allos think aces/aros are childish#it can be very easy to equate not having a normalized urge with not understanding it#but honestly i think i understand allo sexuality more than i do my own sexuality#i grew up with it. watched it on tv. read about it in books. was told i'd experience it eventually#i can and have given allos relationship advice that has worked#i've been told im good at it#i just find it interesting that i can understand something so well and not experience it at all#and meanwhile struggle so much with understanding myself#musings#asexual#aromantic#ace/aro
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for like over a year after i starting thinking about if i was aromantic i was so horrifically upset and sad and blah blah blah ohhh no the horrrors i’m never gonna date anybody ever bro oh mo i’m so depressed about it. i was like . im never gonna date anybody and that is so terrible (i didn’t actually even want to date anybody and somehow that never occurred to me so i continued wallowing in despair or whatever) and now it’s been way way wayyyy more than a year and im like. im so aro im the aro ever thats literally the best thing ever fr. I look at every allo person around me and im like Wow! Thank Fucking God. Holy fuck rhank god i’m aro
#ok got out of bed to post this now going back to bed#all this allo shenanigans around me . literally could not be me#also this made me realize like two years or so ago that majority of my ocs were aro (and or ace)#like accepting it for myself made me realize it was in all my characters too#i think realizing shansong was aro was like a turning point#SONG IS SOOOO ARO. like i totally had her in romantic relationships but then like nah man. thinking back on it? holy shit that was not#romantic in her brain at all#lmfaooooooooOOOOOO#i do still have allo ocs#it’s just like. a lot of them .. i cant even say got hit with the aro beam— they just were already aro and i didn’t notice#ok rant over going back to bed i literally got out of bed to rant#hi mutuals
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Also yk sometimes I do wonder how much of my hatred of physical contact blends into my aceness. Would I truly be this without that.
#im aro. full stip there#the concept of romantic feelings makes me want to kill myself 8 different ways to the point its barely a haha#but i am comfortable with the ideas of Sexuality and what i WOULD be into and possible whos and i certainly know certain uh#i would rather be in control let's put it like that#but touch is so BAD and fluids are gross and like#if i ever got past that would i be some sort of allo like i suspect? or would i be just as ace. just as sitting here alone#sighs.
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https://www.tiktok.com/@ceragibson/video/7213811648920964395
for the biomechanics!!(congrats on the defense)
so agree w the tiktok, i want to put it out there that most ppl writing about these huge schlongs have zero experience and have never forced the thought to its logical end
me and friend at the local sex shop for notes: where is it all going? are you using your eyes only?
(thank you 🙏)
#inquiry#Anonymous#biomechanics working group#one of my pet peeves is when (as a sex-neutral/repulsed ace person myself) other aces act like they are obviously better at writing sex#bc of being ace = decoupling the weird assumptions/conventions that allos have#which is fair bc some of the greatest and most interesting scenes i've read are from that approach!#but law of large numbers and i also see some of the...#1) blandest slot A tab B fare even when they're trying to be exciting (which is honestly so tragic)#2) some sort of interpersonal interaction that is beyond reasonable human convention. like i doubt this author holds real conversations-typ#3) outrageous ????? physically what the fuck is going on. are we kirby???? where does it all go??#like you cannot better demonstrate that you are unwilling to dig deep and find an analogy that fits what you're trying to convey#or do a small thought exercise and walk things through#AGAIN the pet peeve only qualifies if: the author brags about it and falls on their face
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