#around identities and labels and the right words like in the us or other english speaking countries so

[former-leftist-jew]

I appreciate you reblogging my post, but I am perplexed as it says in your description that you are a Zionist, which is pretty ironic considering how I am quite the opposite on this issue.

You then proceed to mention the "Goyische Left"

A. Isn't 'Goyische' (moreso "Goyim") considered a Jewish slur for anyone considered to be a gentile? Isn't it a little bit prejudiced to use that sort of terminology? It would be wrong of a person to use the term "kike" when referring to Jews, so I personally think it goes the other way around too.

B. The "Left" as well as the "Right" aren't really a thing but social and political constructs people use to label a vague group of people and ideals, when it's more complicated than that & it's the reason I reject most politics in general besides Palestinians.

Yes, goyische" and "goyim" is a slur /sarcasm

Just like how "cis" and "cisgender" is a slur against non-trans people used by trans people and allies.

Just like how "gadjo" or "gadji" is a slur against non-Romani people hurled at them by Romani people.

Just like how "qallunaat" is a slur against non-Inuit people used by Inuit people.

Just like how "gringo" or "gringa" is a slur used by Spanish and Portuguese people to describe English-speaking Anglo Americans.

Whenever a small minority group has a word to describe general people outside that group (especially when it's a small, insular, minority group), it's automatically a slur, right?

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The "Left" as well as the "Right" aren't really a thing but social and political constructs people use to label a vague group of people and ideals, when it's more complicated than that & it's the reason I reject most politics in general besides Palestinians.

Hate to break it to you, but "Palestinian" is just as much of a "social and political construct people use to label a vague group of people and ideas" just as much as "Left" and "Right," and you just fell for the party line.

Mosab Hassan Youself, son of one of Hamas' co-founders and a former Hamas operative himself, has talked extensively about the history of the Palestinian region for the last 100 years, and how the Arab Muslims political landscape has changed.

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During the Peel Commission testimony in 1937, Arab leader Auni Bey Abdul-Hadi said, “There is no such country [as Palestine]! Palestine is a term the Zionists invented! There is no Palestine in the Bible. Our country is part of Syria.”

In that same testimony, Auni Bey Abdul-Hadi said, “The Arabs do not admit the existence of the Jews as Zionists at all... we utterly refuse to meet at the same table with any persons who call themselves Zionist Jews.”

What changed?A PR-shift in the 1960's.

Zahir Muhsein, PLO leader at the time, said in an interview with Trouw Magazine, 31. March 1977:

"The Palestinian people do not exist. The creation of a Palestinian state is only a means for continuing our struggle against the state of Israel for our Arab unity. In reality today there is no difference between Jordanians, Palestinians, Syrians and Lebanese. Only for political and tactical reasons do we speak today about the existence of a Palestinian people, since Arab national interests demand that we posit the existence of a distinct "Palestinian people" to oppose Zionism. Yes, the existence of a separate Palestinian identity exists only for tactical reasons!"

There, straight from the horse's mouth.

And what is "Arab unity," you may ask? It's basically Pan-Arab nationalism

And this sentiment was held long before the state of Israel, since Arabs also massacred pious Jews who'd been living in Hebron for centuries in the name of Arab superiority--er, unity.

Honestly, I could go on and on.

That's not getting into how "Palestine" itself is a colonialist term. After the Roman Empire annexed Judea and expelled most Jews, they renamed the region "Syria Palestinia," after the Jews' historic enemies (and largely gone), the Philistines.

And that's before getting into the Arab Muslims' conquest of the Middle East, North Africa, and Central Asia in the 7th and 8th centuries, after Romans and Byzantines battered themselves into a stalemate and

I'll never not be floored by the irony of Arab Colonizers using the term "Palestine"

Granted, it's also really hard to look all this up in good faith, since lots of pro-Palestinians have essentially hijacked the internet and flood it with pro-Palestine propaganda, which has been working tirelessly to infiltrate every aspect of Western life for decades.

[wanderingcritter]

Hey just wanted to come out and say real quick that I think I've confirmed a new kintype. It actually falls under a whole new category of alterhumanity that I've never been in before.

I am Post Apocalyptic Survivor Conceptkin

Trying to figure this out was... certainly a challenge. Quite honestly I'm still not 1000% sure that is exactly what I'm experiencing, but for the time being it feels right.

This is an identity that is very deeply rooted in my sense of self and is a very personal experience. I struggle to even properly explain what this identity feels like, as there aren't really words in the english language (or any other language that I'm aware of) to describe the extremely abstract thoughts and emotions that come with it. The best way I can describe it is it just feels like something that's intertwined with the essence of my being, like I can just sense it all around me in the most subtle ways. I believe it's spiritual in nature, maybe stemming from a past (or future??) life. I think I have some vague memories of it, but it's hard to say because they don't feel like memories from a specific individual, hence why I use the conceptkin label. It's something I've sorta always felt with me, lingering in the background, dropping hints that there's something much bigger than myself out there. But it's grown more and more prevalent in my life as Ive gotten older, usually making itself most apparent in the spring and summer time. It's difficult to define, everytime I try to focus on it and make out any specifics it squirms out of my reach, like trying to remember a hazy dream from the previous night. Sometimes I'll see or hear something that strikes something familiar in me and I'll know Ive found another small piece to the puzzle, but I greatly struggle to make rational sense of it. But there are a few things I think I know for sure about it. Here are some things that remind of and make me feel more connected to it.

☣️🌿• TV Shows/Movies: Kipo and The Age of the Wonderbeasts, Ghostbusters II: Frozen Empire, I Am Legend, Love Death and Robots

☣️🌿• Video Games: The Last of Us

☣️🌿• Books: The 5th Wave

☣️🌿• Music: ACHE by emawk, Tumblr Girls (Christoph Andersson Remix Sped Up) by G-Eazy, Lady Killers II (Slowed Remix) by G-Eazy, Resonance (Sped Up) by Home

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I don't see many other conceptkins around so if you're out there hiiiii :3 I'd love to be friends and hear about your experiences! Maybe it will help me to make sense of my own in some way. Also feel free to ask me any questions about it! ^^ I'd love to answer them and it'd probably be helpful for me to try learning to verbally express some of the things I experience lol, thank uuuu <3

[felixfeliccis]

hiii so english isn't my first language and i'm learning more about gender and trans stuff and if i might be trans or something (i've been told i sound agender?? but that feels wrong), and something that confuses me, so i'm asking around abt it… "woman" used to simply denote afab, right? like a body type of ppl with a biological (not surgical) vagina & estrogen puberty. like a female dog. ppl say that it reduces women to their genitals, but what about with other animals? like female cat, female horse, etc, just bc we say "oh she's a girl" or "oh i have a male dog" doesn't mean we're saying they're only their genitals in that case, right…? a bitch is just a female dog, that's why it's a misogynistic word. misogyny is based on how ppl see someone without a penis as lesser, bc they don't have the power to forcibly penetrate and feel genital pleasure for it, they can't impregnate, they're "just a hole" etc. like so much of misogyny is just body-specific. the misogyny transfems experience seems terrible but also conditional? bc if they're found out to be amab they're treated as creepy men, so they then stop experiencing misogyny, they just face usually homophobia. meanwhile bio women (and transmascs who don't transition) have no exit door to the misogyny unless they transition and pass perfectly as male or something, and historically that wasn't an option. to me man & woman have always been neutral body types until i came across trans stuff, and i think the idea of gendered brains sounds sexist af. like gender seems like bullshit, i see me being a woman as just like being a female cat, i don't have ~womanly~ vibes in my brain, i was just born female and that's the least important thing about me, but male society made it weird. why should gender continue to be a thing? what does gender actually mean, if sexism was to be eradicated? is it bad if i view my womanhood as just a body type? most cis people i've talked to view their "gender" like this, as just a body type, like any other animal. they don't "feel" like one, they just have the body and aren't dysphoric about it. they might not always like it, but they don't have dysphoria about it, so they just… are. is that transphobic? i've heard mixed thoughts about it from trans ppl & activists, i'm just curious. feel free to ignore this lol ;;

first of all you, can define your gender however you want and there's no need to put a label on yourself, you can just be you and thats enough. You can view yourself however you desire, there's no thought police.

second of all, gender identity was made up by humans and I doubt animals give a damn, call them whatever you want for all I care.

Also I don't think im qualified to speak out about misogyny and transphobia tbh. I have experienced both but I doubt it was to the same extent as others. Also I know nothing about the transfem experience as you can guess

[genderqueer-culture-is]

What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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I think you're so obsessed with fitting everything into a strict binary definition that you go around to random accounts to try and pull a bad faith "gotcha" argument on anon. The reality is that no definition of any word in the English language will ever full encapsulate every possible nuance associated with it, and that this focus on the outliers is unhealthy and based in the need for patriarchal order and neat labels. This obsession leads to harm not only to trans perisex individuals (which I bet is your goal), but it also harms cis intersex AND cis perisex people as seen with the current discourse over the Olympics. Using buzz words does not hide the fact that you don't care if something is "sexist", your feminism and allyship is performative at best and simply meant to make you feel better about yourself

And, truthfully, its up to the person to describe what limits to a binary attraction means to them. Most gay men will not encounter a trans man who isn't t4t, this entire question isn't even that important. Gay men are attracted to men. Its up to them to define that, really, and if they decide to be transphobic weirdos then the consequences are no different than a gay man being biphobic or lesbiphobic.

And if we're being honest you look crazy right now, coming from someone diagnosed with osdd and psychosis. You've come to a random blog that hasn't updated in forever to spout fallacies and buzz words hoping to get an answer you can twist to your ends, the only way you could have found this blog is by searching genderqueer and trans tags. This is called "unhealthy", its not healthy to search for something you actively hate. Trans people as a whole do not actually effect your life. You've fallen for a satanic panic level lie meant to pull your attention away from the corruption of our governments and the downfall of society as we know it.

tldr; you're fucking weird in a bad way, go outside

[justalilpearlie]

!! Intro !! (updated)

Hello everyone, my name is PearlescentMoon

Hihi! I'm Pearl! Magic is quite a fine name aswell. Although I'm a man of many names ;)

I am a minor, my gender labels are gendervoid verinix, tho I also ID as bigender and ftm (fem presenting tho! not transmasc, just trans man)! I'm queer, leaning on mlm, tho I also like girls here and there.

I go by He/Xe. I can She/Her myself + close friends/mutuals are allowed, but refrain from doing so without explicit permision please. (I also use neos: Void/Moon/Sweet/It/Fluff/Love/Fizz/Paw)

I'm from Argentina, born and raised, never moved. Speak fluent english and spanish.

I'm autistic and I have ADHD aswell as BPD and a few other things I wont list right now! But yeah I'm psychotic (ooo scary word.. lmao)

Matching with @teapot-of-tyrahn !!

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I'm an IRL of many, mainly c!Pearl (mcyt), c!Magic(outsmp+psmp), Samuel Emily (fnaf [games canon]) and Shin Tsukimi (yttd). If you don't like it you can leave, block me, or whatever, cause you aint gonna change my life or how I am. I'm in therapy, which unlike random hate and harrassment online, does help me :)

I like to stream, roleplay, draw, sometimes make playlists or moodboards.. And my biggest interests right now are the Outsiders SMP, The Hatchetfield Musicals, Life Series and Empires 1.

I use kin tags for reach cause I'd love interaction from any mediamates!! Specially from Outsiders <3

Fictionkins, therians and traumagenic systems all welcome!

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DNI prefferably:

- Basic DNI criteria (proshippers, homophobes, transphobes, racists, TERFs, ableist, etc)

- Endos/non-traumagenic "systems" DNI. block me if u want, i wont argue abt it in the comments/reblogs. or interact if u want but im not gonna follow u back or anythin shrugs.

- reality checkers or anti-IRLs DNI. I aint "romanticizing" shit, I'm existing and living my life, if thats a problem to you too bad cause my psychologist aproves of what I'm doing, since I aint harming anyone and I myself am doing dandy.

- anti-kin also DNI cause most of my friends are fictionkins and if you talk shit abt my fellas idk i wouldnt like having u around much

CCs I'd rather if you didn't interact, but if you shall do so anyways, do so at your own risk, you've been warned. /lh

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"Disclaimer"

- I talk about MajorMoon (Scott x Pearl) a LOT, if u didnt notice by the acc theme. These are my romantic memories, its a gay ship, not woman/gay man, so if it makes u uncomfortable or u hate it or whatever then ur probably not gonna like my content lmao. COUGH, consider joining us if you do like what you see... /nf We're a small comunity of supporters.. just me.. and a few of my peeps... that was a joke, sir. /ref

- This isn't roleplay, its my main acc where im ""unapologetically"" myself, but if u do wanna rp outsiders/life series/empires/fnaf u can always shoot me a dm and maybe I'll give u my discord.

- I talk about myself (c!Pearl) using 3rd person in many posts tagged with main fandom tags. This is to cause less confusion to casual fans slash ""normies"" (lhj) that well.. don't know what IRLs are! Also that way I feel safer and don't have to worry as much abt getting harassed and such for my identity.

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Special People Mentions!! fps = * (1 or more.. wouldnt say in a priority sorta order but. more or less yea)

Family! <3 🌼 @pehpurr* SISTER!! YOU'RE AMAZING, DAISY. SO SO GREAT. YOUR ART IS INCREDIBLE, YOU ARE SO PASSIONATE ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU DO, YOU ARE SO VERY CARING FOR OTHERS, SO KIND AND TALENTED, A GREAT WRITER AND THE BEST BEST SISTER I COULD EVER ASK FOR!! Scar, you changed my life, you were there for me when I needed you the most, I know you ALWAYS have my back. You're kind to me even when the world isn't, and know that even if we fight or if you do things I disagree with (ehem forgiving too much ppl /lht), I will never leave you, and I will never stop coming after you. I love you, Kanna. You're the best Peeps, keep it up, for you're a beacon of hope in everyone's lives. I'm so proud. ♡ ⚙️ @gentlexmadman DAD!! I FREAKING LOVE YOU DAD OMG!! I am SO very happy we got to spend our first fathers day together even if just a little, you made this the first year I was actually happy to celebrate it, looking forward to it and making a gift of my own :) Im so so happy to have you in my life. You are, likewise to Pepper, an AMAZING artist, so much detail, just so awesome in general. I love hearing all your silly stories about work and the people you know, old man. Thank you for being with me, papá, I never thought I'd actually find you again. Thank you so so very much. ♡

🐸 @bigb-enthusiast SIBLING!! MY SIBLING IN ZAYA OH MY GOODNESS IS THAT USER BIGB ENTHUSIAST?? YES IT SURE IS!! Bro I could listen to ur analysis and rambles til the end of the world u got the best ideas ever wtf!!?? Ur very freakin insane but also ur my best buddy, my nosey neighbor for life!! I appreciate u a lot, Bee, my favorite insane asylum escapee ♡

🔪 @skywardspecter OECAAAAA HEY ZACH ILYSM BROTHER!! YOUR ROLEPLAY AND WRITINGS ARE AAAAA-MAZE-ING !! I RLLY WANNA MEET U IRL!! UR SO GOOD AT ROLEPLAY AND ART, YOU'RE SO CREATIVE AND BRIGHT UR LIKE A BALL OF SUNSHINE!! U PUT UP W A LOT RUNNING SM SERVERS BUT U ALWAYS GET BACK UP AND I THINK THATS ADMIRABLE!! AND IDK VIANS TUMBLR BUT SHOT OUT TO VIAN AND ORCA TOO !! VIANS SUCH A GREAT SUPPORTIVE FRIEND FR NO MATTER WHAT AND ORCA IS SUCH A KIND AND FUNNY GUY, VERY UNDERSTANDING <33 I LOVE U GUYS!! U MAKE ME FEEL SAFE, LIVE LAUGH LOVE MAGIC MAZE ♡

🥣 @rennyus SOUP OMGGG HAI SIBLIIIING ILYSM !!! GGHHH YOU. YOU ARE SO GREAT AND PATIENT WITH ME, YOU'RE ALWAYS THERE FOR ME WHEN I NEED YOU AND YOU'VE NEVER EVER JUDGED ME FOR ANYTHING!! I LOOOOVE HEARING ABT UR MEMORIES THEYRE ALWAYS SO SO SWEET <33 I RLLY HOPE U FIND UR WIVES SOMEDAY CAUSE ALL I WANT IS TO SEE U HAPPY SIB ♡

🐟 Aussi, MY AMAZING COUSIN OMG?? IDK UR USER HERE BUT!! WE'VE BEEN THRU SOOO SO MUCH TOGETHER, EVEN WITH THE PERIODS WE DONT TALK MUCH IN, I LOOOOVE GETTING INTO THINGS U LIKE OR WHEN U TAKE THE TIME TO GET INTO THE STUFF I ENJOY TOO!!! UR FRIENDS ARE ALSO VERY SILLY N I LOVE PLAYIN PHASMO WITH YALL! I LOOOVE ALL THE MEMORIES WE SHARE TOGETHER AND THESE TWO YEARS OF COUSINSHIP HAVE BEEN AMAZING!! TO MANY MANY MORE YEARS COUSIN!! LOVE YOU TONS ♡

Simply special <3 ☕ @insomniac-coffeehouse** You're all simply so very special to me. I love every second we spend together. I love seeing yall thrive. I love your insane yet endearing behavior. You might be a bit unhinged sometimes, and admittedly not the healthiest person when it comes to your schedules, but I'm just so proud of everything you create and accomplish. I hope you get to accomplish all your dreams, and I hope I can be here to see that happen, if you let me :)! For many years more, cause I'm just oh so glad I met you. You spark joy in my brain and my heart <3 From the bottom of my heart, I'm in love with the hope you bring to this world. 🍊 Jack***, Oh my dearest, where do I even begin with you, sport... you trully are my soulmate, my other half... mi media naranja, if you will, heh.. Every second I get to spend with you is like heaven, no matter whats going on, I know everything will be alright cause I have you. You mean absolutely everything to me, my Hero, I know you'll always be there for me. You are the sweetest man I've ever met, and I'm so proud of the person you've become. If I had to choose between you or the world I'd choose you 10 times over, and I can say surely, that you'd do the same. I love every single detail about you, thank you for being so patient with me, you're wonderful, cielo. I love your voice, I love your eyes, I love your smile, your laughter. I love your use of words, the way you speak, your humor, your seriousness and stupidness. You stiff fuck, you were made for me and I was made for you, and I wouldn't have it any other way. You're my everything, mi vida, mi luz, mi estrella. Mi amor, mi mundo. ♡

Friends! 🏜️ @thecranewivesrpf My right hand man!! OMG we havent talked in a WHILE but ILYSM !!! MY SECOND IN COMMAND IN THE MAJORMOON SERVER FRFR!! WE SHOULD TALK AGAIN, I MISS U POOKIE </3

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That's it for now folks, love yall and see you around!

[valerie-ford]

VALERIE FORD. thirty, BUSINESS OWNER. windsor bay native. THE GOLDEN GIRL. the YOUNGEST of the FORD-LANGHAM family. a LEO through and through; every bit as PASSIONATE and METICULOUS as OVERCRITICAL and MACHIAVELLIAN. margaret qualley fc.

BASICS

full name: valerie judith ford-langham

nickname: val, baby langham (only to those who've known her since childhood)

age/date of birth: 30 / july 30th, 1994

zodiac sign: leo ☼ gemini ☾ virgo ↑

gender identity: cis woman (she/her)

hometown: windsor bay, or

current location: windsor bay, or

housing: coral coast

time in town: 30 years

sexual orientation: bisexual

occupation: owner of interactive museology

PERSONALITY

labels: the bon vivant, the polymath, the atelophobic, the double-edged sword

pos traits: passionate, affable, meticulous, affluent, curious, cultured

neg traits: domineering, overcritical, machiavellian, overwrought,

fears: fear of not being enough, moths

hobbies: reading, crocheting, diy projects, traveling, equestrian sports

languages spoken: english, french, latin, swedish

instruments played: piano & violin

favorite color: emerald green, any variation of pink, sky blue

favorite food: french cuisine

allergies: n/a

APPEARANCE

height: 5'8

distinguished characteristics: n/a

tattoos: none

piercings: ears

right or left-handed?: right-handed

RELATIONSHIPS

parents: amelia ford (nee: langham, retired actress), fredrick ford (businessman, heir)

sibling(s): two older siblings (tbd)

pet(s): a british longhair cat named freyja

other family members: tbd

BIOGRAPHY

tw: illness mention

Not every love story starts with sparks. Amelia Langham (a B+ Hollywood actress at the time) met Frederick Ford (a very well reapected heir and businessman) on a charity auction in Los Angeles organized by one of Amelia's many well-renowned friends on a calm and warm night. Frederick was instantly infatuated by Amelia and was seemed to enjoy getting under her skin by outbetting her in each and every item of the night much to her annoyance, only to send every item to her house the very next week, requesting a date.

For months she denied him, finding his approach distasteful and abrasive and didn’t think much if it. It was only after yet another very public failed relationship with a co-star ending quite badly (nearly career-ending) that Amelia decided that a date couldn't hurt. From then on, the two couldn't stay apart.

From dinner on their very first night together to staying all night in Frederick's hotel to traveling the next day to New York for a week to returning to California for her very first red carpet as the lead in a movie— they spent the next few months glued to the hip, ultimately getting married 6 months after the charity event and welcoming their first child a year later, their second two years after that and even surprising the world with a third, a few years after; the youngest of the Ford-Langham clan to ultimately announcing to the world that they would move to Windsor Bay to raise their now three children away from the media.

Valerie was born on a hot, chaotic August night in Windsor Bay. The hospital was strangely packed; personnel overworked and overtired and there was chaos everywhere due to a strange accident that had happen around the same time two mothers gave birth only a few minutes away so when a nurse dropped the name tags of the two babies, no one batted an eye. It was easily fixed , no repercussions whatsoever and the babies were brought back to their parents to be welcomed into their families. Val had a wonderful childhood surrounded by a loving family who always encouraged her to be the best version of herself and sure enough, she used all her drive to be what she thought she needed to be, perfect in every sense of the word. The school was her kingdom, not only was she an honor roll student but she happened to be liked enough to be considered one of the popular kids, the life every little girl dreams of and every movie teaches to aspire to, reason why her own sense of disconnection from everything and everyone that cemented on the pit of her stomach from a very young age, was always an strange concept to her. 

Although all her life Valerie felt like she didn’t belong anywhere, the young woman played the part she imposed on herself as a Ford member with ease. She continued living the picture-perfect life her parents facilitated her with from birth, living life as she was supposed to: straight A’s , enough extra curriculars to keep her mind occupied, a healthy social life, comunity service and enough time to pass with her family— promising young woman was the first phrase anyone who got to spend some time with Val associated with her . Upon graduation she applied to various universities and ultimately got accepted into almost every choice she made, choosing Stanford as her alma mater and business as her line of studies, per her famiy request. It had never been a subject of interest to her before, but nothing else had either and knowing how much it meant for her father to have someone in the family following his steps, Valerie knew she had nothing to lose and slowly but surely, began falling in love with the career and even began envisioning a life as a high profile businesswoman.

Harvard Business school came soon after graduation and it was during her time in Massachusetts that she met who would ultimately become her partner. She fell quick and hard and following her parents steps, Valerie got engaged in a lavished and grand ceremony not even a year upon meeting.

Once her studies were done, Valerie and her partner decided to settle down in Windsor Bay, Val's hometown as they started to plan a new life together and possibilities of a family. It was around this time where the Ford-Langham family received some shocking news: their family fortune had been wiped clean by their accountant and debt was beginning to pile up from their expending and businesses expenses. The once wealthy and well-regarded family had to sell everything they owned and started anew.

Slowly but surely, Valerie and her partner started to build a life of their own. The youngest of the Ford children worked with a family friend and the couple bought a beautiful home they could call theirs and Val even began helping her family get out of their situation along with taking care of her parents who were now having a hard time getting work on their own due to the Ford-Langham name being publicly stained under the public eye. Finally, she felt like her life was her own and she was doing what she was made to do, take care of the people she loved the most and the second she gathered enough money and courage she opened her own business: an interactive museum in Windsor Bay.

Tragedy struck when Val began feeling ill for a couple of weeks before landing in E.R, doctors doing every test possible to find the cause of her lethargy, pallor and overall sickness. After three weeks without answers spent going from the hospital to home the results were in: pure red cell aplasia, a rare bone marrow disorder. The treatment involved getting various blood transfusions but when her family got tested for the transfusions, the results showed they weren’t compatible. The treatment continued with the help of other donors yet the doubt rose within the businesswoman: why wasn’t she compatible with anyone in her family?

Once Val was back on her feet (or at least strong enough to continue with life as she knew it), she decided to take a DNA test; the response arrived two days later leaving her with more questions than answers when it was revealed to her that the Fords weren’t related to her by blood. Knowing everything she ever knew was a lie, Val began to spiral down. Unsure of what to do and how to process the information she continued her life without telling a soul the information she had received. The once secure and responsible woman began to spiral down; missing work to stay at home, avoiding speaking with anyone and isolating herself. This path strained each and every relationship in her life, ultimately pushing her and her fiance to break off the engagement and the relationship altogether.

[razzmothazz]

I can't, I wanted to finish coloring everyone first, but. I just can't NOT yap about at least one of them. So um. Matsu. He's my favorite I think?

(his necklace and nail polish are the colors of the unit members! I haven't come up with a unit name yet tho,,)

On the left there is Toshiro's (they/he) hand (they're the unit's leader) and on the right is Fumi (she/they) (who's kinda Matsu's friend from middle school)

I love him soooooo much, I may have projected onto him a little with the whole sea autism thing but uhm. I'm not going to give any of them canon labels (except for pronouns) (I want it to be kinda like pjsk itself, but I also just want to be able to play around with ships and their identities), but!!! More about Matsu. Despite not REALLY giving him any labels, he's very much intended to be autistic. He's insane abt marine life (the projecting part lmao) and especially sharks and ESPECIALLY thresher sharks (which is the shark I doodled there beside him with uh other stuff!). Currently he's geberally pretty cheerful and excitable, actually never shuts up, he starts talking and then it's just. Forever. (Not neg I love him so so so so much). He used to kinda get bullied in middle school and Fumi was a very timid child back then and was afraid she'd also get bullied, so she just coudknr bring herself to help, and she kinda blames herself for that right now, she grew to be very confrontational and a bit overprotective of Matsu, and I have like a whole part of the story planned about them coming to terms with everything and learning to not treat Matsu almost as a child as they kinda tenda to do, and I just love these two so much. Am I making sense? Idk this is just a stream of whatever I have going on). By the way!!! The fourth character Seina (she/her) who's completely out of frame in this cropped pic usually keeps Fumi's confrontational and slightly aggressive nature in check, she's overall very caring BUT of course I put some sad story there ue ue whatever (not whatever, I'm insane about her, but I'll talk about Seina more when I finish her part of the reference).

I haven't thought THAT much about these guys' relationships with canon characters, but since we're on the topic of Matsu (are we?? idk at this pojnt), I think at some point he met Emu and they got along pretty well! Maybe even became friends!!! I think they match each other's energy pretty well, even if with all his excitableness (is that a word in english idk) Matsu is still calmer than her, they definitely have some autism to autism comunication going on. Oh!!! Also. I started thinking about the characters' habits and quirks, and I think Matsu would make EXCESSIVE eye contact. This is partially from the impact left not only by ppl bullying him, but just yknow ppl around him as he was growing up. He's learning to be comfortable with not restricting himself around his friends, but *because* he learned that it's pretty much one of the only ways to at least somewhat fit in growing up, it's hard for him. But they care about each other so so so much and I love them. I just started talking about everyone somewhere along the uhh this whole ramble, so Toshiro!!! I haven't said much about them yet. They're actually partially inspired by my super cool and awesome aunt in some aspects of appearance and behavior, but I still piled a bunch of my own stuff to not just copy a real person,,,, anyways. He's the group leader, he pretty much brought everyone together? They all kinda had some sort of connection to each other previously to forming the unit, but uh. I haven't come up with exactly *how* they're gonna end up as a. Group? Band? Ehatever they are. I think I focused way more on their personalities so far, woops. But I'll get there eventually. Anyways. Right, Toshiro. I haven't developed them as much YET, but geneeal appearance stuff: they have vitiligo, pink-ish hair? Overall mostly a pink colorscheme (they're all color-coded yay). He's pretty into crystals and spirituality in general, also has some physical stuff going on (but I haven't exactly figured out what yet), he can't do a lot of physical activity, has kinda weak bones (Seina helps him out a lot when he needs it!!!), Toshiro is overall pretty energetic and tries his best in everything, tho tends to overwork himself a lot bc he's dead set on getting better at everything and making people around him proud and just being reliable. I also plan on expanding on this in the later story, I think so far the themes I put in their unit have a lot to do with letting go of the past (they ALL have that in common), not letting others' expectations ruin you, accepting yourself, all that. I was kinda worried they were walking too close to N25 at first, but I think it's all good actually, esp when I later expand on their story,,,, oh right also Seina. I think she's my second favorite, she's. I love her. ik I said I'm bot giving them any canon labels, but Seina and Fumi are so lesbians and so I love to me. And also I get arospec vibes from Seina BUT THAT'S NOT WHAT I SHOUDL BE TALKING ABOUT. She's kinds the mom friend of the group, always taking care of everyone. As i mentioned, she helps Toshiro with physical tasks when he needs it, keeps Funi out of trouble and also helps Matsu in socially overwhelming situations MY CAT JUST FELL OH MY GOD ok ok she's okay, anyways. But Seina had "failed" to helo a friend in the past, so now she's a bit obsessed with being helpful to everyone as much as she possibly could, or else she feels useless and worthless. And guess what I also plan a whole arc expanding on it and eventually the other members comfort her and they all work on it and the others try to also take care of her, and of course it takes a lot of time, but I like the idea of her uhh healing? Development idk, THIS bring shown slowly and over time. Okay. I think I finished yapping *for now*

I haven't come up with their virtual singers, name of the unit, sekai and A LOOOOTT of other stuff yet, but uhm. I have so many ideas oh god

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE RAMBLE OH MY GOD THEY ALL SOUND SO CUTE SJDJHDNDNDNBFN I LOVE THEM!!!!!!!!! this ask feels like were on a voicechat or smthn KSHDNDJD GLAD UR CAT IS OKAY IM

wow thats a lot and you thought abt their stories way more than i did for mine so far like even future developments and stuffs KSHDHDJDKCNFNNF but I LOVE THEIR DYNAMICS!!!!! Matsu has simiar vibes to my 1st pjsk oc Yuno!! theyre both energetic and full of autism so i think they would get along skdjdhbrnf IM ALREADY THINKING ABT MAKING THEM ALL FRIENDS SORRY- SJDNJCNFJD this just makes me so happy i love hearing about others ocs UR MIND!! U MADE THEM ALL SO !!!!

and id LOVE to see all of their designs when youre done with them and THE COLOR CODING!!! I LOVE COLOR CODING SJDHHFJD this is just. awesome i dont even have words just pure excitement at this point

OH ALSO BTW!!! if u wanna do relationships with canon characters i found this chart that might be helpful :3

i have no idea who originally made it cause its been reposted like a shit ton of times but!! its great and helpful in figuring stuff out :3

[straightlightyagami]

hi, do you have any tips/tricks on recognizing terf blogs? or any links to such?

Hey anon! Thanks for the ask. The answer is a bit long. As always, disclaimer that I am not in any way an expert.

First of all, consider this: how does one recognize an adherent of any ideology? It's through a set of signals, like symbols they use, words they use when talking about certain topics, how they identify themselves, or what kinds of frameworks they use when discussing anything in general. These things can be used to signal to anyone, "insider" or "outsider" that the individual is "part of a certain group," or can be used in a way that is meant to signal to those "in the know" but allow them to pass under the radar of the outsiders. None of this is inherently bad, but members of hate groups often use the latter tactic (referred to as "dogwhistles" as dogs can hear a dogwhistle while most humans cannot) to signal that they are part of it, while outsiders are unaware and don't shun them. You've likely seen this terminology applied to the alt-right, but terfs use similar techniques.

So we will look at the sorts of symbolism and terminology terfs tend to use. Note that some of these things in themselves don't necessarily mean someone is a terf.

"TERF": Most obviously, the way you can know someone is a terf for certain is if they identify themself as such ("TERF (trans-exclusionary radical feminist)" or any variation thereof. the subcategory of terfs that are gay men refer to themselves as TEHMs (trans-exclusionary homosexual males)).

Radical feminism: Radical feminism is, in short, a school of feminism that emphasizes the patriarchy as sex-based oppression, and women as an oppressed class in relation to men. Radical feminists, radfems for short, are not all transphobes, but most people on this website who call themselves radfems are also terfs. The term "libfem," or liberal feminist, is used by radfems to describe other types of feminists. Radical feminists were an important part of feminist history and some goals radfems campaign for are very good, such as ending FGM (female genital mutilation) and sexual assault. Some other goals are either harmful to people (transphobia) or harmful in theory but in practice unlikely and a waste of time (such as female separatism, the idea that women should build their own society away from men). The issue is, there cannot be "class solidarity" for all women because rich women and poor women clearly have conflicting interests.

Gender critical: Radfems believe gender must be abolished. People who describe themselves as "gender critical" are usually terfs. (yes, gender should be abolished in the sense that the idea that someone's reproductive biology should determine how they live their life in any way should be abolished, and people should be free to express themself outside the labels of their "gender." but trans people are pretty clearly. you know. helping that goal.)

Misandry: Many terfs self-identify as misandrist or hating men. While this doesn't always make someone a terf, someone repeatedly making proclamations of hating men as a political statement while refusing to entertain any nuance probably is. A (somewhat common?) radfem talking point is about how boys are inherently violent from a young age. Terfs also generally do not believe that men can be feminists.

Preoccupation with reproductive biology: Someone almost exclusively using the words "male" and "female" for people's gender is always a red flag, basically they are either a misogynist incel or a terf. so is someone basing their entire identity around their reproductive organs.

Spelling of "woman": ex. womyn, womban, womon, wombyn, wimmin. Some terfs think "woman" having "man" in it is in some way patriarchial (in fact, in Old English, "mann" meant person, while "wer" and "wīf" meant male and female respectively).

Disliking the term "queer": anyone is entitled to ask not to be called any term, but terfs claim "queer" is a slur and should not be used.

Calling trans people "gendies," "begendered," etc. etc. as an insult.

"Gyns" as alternative to "guys," etc.

They really like appending the "-fem" suffix to words.

They use TRA(=trans rights activist as a parallel to men’s rights activist) to refer to people who support trans rights.

Other tips and tricks:

Shinigami eyes. Keep in mind that this is not always accurate, some people are flagged incorrectly. Most terf blogs and sites are also not flagged as it requires a certain number of submissions. However, if the similar blogs are all highlighted in red, that's probably a terf blog.

Actually read through some terf blogs and tags to get a sense of how they generally talk. Perhaps not advised if you're sensitive or in a bad emotional state.

I may have forgotten some. Feel free to add your own points and sources.

[arhaawarren]

#ARHAAWARREN: i've reached a rarer height now that i can confirm all our weight is just a burden offered to us by the world.

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BASICS

full name: jordan arhaa warren

nickname: just arhaa

age/date of birth: 36 / may 8th, 1988

zodiac sign: taurus ☼ libra ☾ cancer ↑

gender identity: cis man (he/him)

hometown: hermosa beach, california

current location: kismet harbor, or

neighborhood: cresthill meadows

time in town: since february, 1994 till 2006, then back on april 2018

sexual orientation: demisexual

occupation: owner of lillypad theatre, former fbi agent

PERSONALITY

labels: the phoenix, the benefactor, the mediator

positive traits: gentle , reliable , caring , trustworthy , allocentric , dutiful

negative traits: obstinate , reticent , stubborn , secretive , deceitful

hobbies: cooking, reading, musical theatre, camping, sports, volunteering

languages spoken: english, malay, french, italian, russian

instruments played: guitar, piano

favorite color: blue, red, green

favorite food: anything, but specially pies (he has memories attached to pies)

allergies: n/a

APPEARANCE

height: 6'1

distinguished characteristics: multiple scars throughout his body; a blink and you'll miss it type of situation. some are from childhood and barely noticeable if you look closely whilst the most prominent ones are around 4 years old, situated in his ribs. there is no itemized list yet, but it is something he is acutely aware of.

tattoos: a phoenix on his back, a minimalist tattoo from the song ‘from eden’ by hozier where the word idealism sits in a small prison and it’s located on his left ribcage, the date of his mom’s passing and his sibling’s disappearance on his chest, the phrase ‘when i was drowning, that’s where i could finally breathe’ on his right forearm. ( ref )

piercings: n/a

right or left-handed?: right-handed

RELATIONSHIPS

parents: robert warren (whereabouts unknown), lili warren (nee: ong, deceased)

sibling(s): none that he is aware of (there may be half siblings, who knows?)

children: two foster children, a five year old called mia and a a thirteen year old called jack

pet(s): a four year old labradoodle named pollux

other family members: tbd

BIOGRAPHY

biography can be found here.

PERSONALITY

For the most part, arhaa is a very loving and caring person. He genuinely cares about making those around him happy, he is very protective of those he loves, sometimes to a fault. But he always has good intentions, unless you hurt someone he loves, then he can be hell on earth

He can get VERY hot-heated, he is a very passionate guy when something really interests him.

He’s basically tired ???? all the time??? he doesn’t sleep that much but he’s getting better at it now that he doesn’t sleep alone) but yeah, big part of his personality, either tired or drinking coffee.

Kind of a mess, he tries to hides it because he knows people around him need him and he wants to be there for them plus he is like, someone in the literature world now so, he has to appear to have it all together but... yeah

Honestly, just a very tired old golden retriever with an awful past he is still trying to deal with.

[oxboykev]

"What kind of Asian are you?"

"What kind of Asian are you?" 

This impolite query flashed from the muzzle of a young woman's mouth who sallied up to the little group of self-confined strangers in which I found myself and who were shyly mingling amongst each other in relative peace before her arrival. The circumstances and the purpose of me attending this social event elude me, but I clearly remember it was for people of Asian descent. (This incident might even have taken place at the party in the Westin hotel in downtown Seattle hours before Barack Obama was projected to win the presidency in 2008.) Anyway, given that I enjoy my anonymity and am normally an awkward conversationalist in public settings, the curious stares that were suddenly leveled at me probably made me blush and force my hand to grip my glass of wine a little tighter.

The question was undeniably directed at me because this woman turned her head and looked at me while posing it. What didn’t immediately register in my brain at the time was that this young woman was of mixed race, and she likely recognized my mixed-race countenance and believed, for whatever reason, that engaging me in an impromptu conversation due to our similar outward phenotypical traits would be a revelatory bonding experience. However, no conversation was to be had since I was not inclined to entertain such an abrupt interrogation seemingly at my expense. My interrogator, as it were, was acting like someone who is clearly trying to conceal their social anxiety by appearing jovial in a cocky manner and daring the rest of us to all play along. This woman's bleating question to me admittedly startled me at first and I felt compelled to eke out some kind of lame answer in order to cover for my and everyone else's embarrassment. My response might’ve been, “The good kind, I guess.” 

However impertinent that question was, it still has stayed with me for all these years. It pushed all my contrarian buttons and heightened my general unease at society’s insistence that I settle on an identity that will satisfy its criteria of what a model citizen is supposed to be. The pressure to be a kind of “minority” so that certain groups can claim me as a member, with or without my consent, tests my exercise of freewill and persistently confuses my perception of neither fitting in with a “majority”, nor a “minority” as conceived of by the socio-political authorities of the day. 

The question - “What kind of Asian are you?” - ironically wasn’t the inquisitive kind, but was in actuality the demanding kind (“Papers, please!”). The question was made to provoke a socially acceptable response, rather than invoke a thoughtful conversation. (But that only serves me right for thinking parties are for allowing enlightening introspection to flourish.) For me, the question also served as one more corrosive crack in the facade of upholding solidarity in the name of some race or ethnicity, or any other marginalized identity, in order to confront and hopefully eliminate the hegemony of White supremacy. Another pet peeve of mine is the overuse of the word “community”. I’ve come to view it as a gratuitous misnomer meant to paper over someone else’s hidden agenda which hoodwinked members are meant to carry out. Call me a nut, but I’m not in favor of carrying around some kind of collective responsibility that corners me into compliance.

This is not to say that I’m completely unaware of the terms “Asian American” and “Asian American Pacific Islander” which do indeed exist in our unique American English lexicon. The concepts, theories, and history behind these labels have developed a long-held and wide-ranging consensus among generations of people. There’s no getting around that fact. I would be a total hypocrite if I didn’t concede that I once proudly took my place under the umbrella of Asian America or was attracted to the origins of Asian-American activism and social movements. Regardless of those past inclinations, as lived experiences like the one above have accumulated, I’ve begun removing any lingering emotional attachments I had with the so-called communities I used to feel the need to be attached to in order to feel real. I’ve gathered enough self-confidence to conclude that I’m not any kind of “Asian”. Perhaps because of my innate bull-headedness, I am choosing not to be a part of a community nor a group, especially when those entities only count me as a number so that they can include me in their tallies on their spreadsheets. When the cost of belonging gradually shaves off layer after layer of your self-worth, the absence of any integrity will only throw you off balance and into a gaggle of strangers who are all waiting for your answer.

[rosiewitchescottage]

It's true that words can make things happen or not happen, stop and start.

We use them as one of our modes of communication.

But words also describe the reality around us. They do NOT create it.

The creature that in English we call 'bird', in French 'oiseau' and in Italian 'uccello' did not spring into being, just because we had a word for it.

We came up with a word to describe these feathered friends that we saw around us.

In her excellent book 'The Genesis of Gender'. Dr Abigail Favale, looks at The Genesis Creation narrative, as part of our Human Cosmology.

How de we fit into The Scheme of Things?

How are we meant to relate to God, each other and The World of which we are a part?

After Creating The Earth, Plants and Our Fellow Creatures.

God makes 'A Human' out of clay, and breathes life into it.

We are both Physical Matter (body) and Spirit.

God asks The Human to name and help to care for the other animals.

We gives labels to name the reality around us. Language may set something in motion or stop something happening. We may attract things to us with language.

But we name reality with our words. We don't create it.)

The Human is looking for a companion. But whilst the animals are all 'Good'. It doesn't feel the spark of connection.

So God puts The Human into suspended animation. (A State of Non Being as Dr Favale describes it.)

He takes a rib from it's side and splits Human into two. Male and Female.

'At Last!' The joyful connection is finally made. The Man and The Woman see a creature both Like Myself and also Different. 'Flesh of My Flesh and Bone of My Bone'.

The 'Fruitful Tension' between the sexes.

We're meant to be in harmony with each other.

Dr Favale looks at an illustration of Religious Based Marriage made here. Man and Woman joined together, make a whole. We make a team. (A team that can come together to procreate new life.)

(Now I'm not suggesting that two men or two women can't equally make a team, in this same way. But here in Genesis we have the balancing of opposites.)

Man, who is who he his, simply because of his male body.

Woman, who is who she is, simply because of her female body.

Which means that a male can express Manhood and a female can express Womanhood in whatever way suits us.

We need nothing more than our male or female bodies to be men or women.

If a male is going to live as a woman, not merely as a feminine man, or as neither man or woman, not merely as an androgynous man.

If a female is going to live as a man, not merely as a masculine woman, or as neither woman or man, not merely as an androgynous woman.

Then it needs to be for as equally objective a reason as biological sex.

Gender Dysphoria is an objective reason.

And it is firmly rooted in biology.

A Trans Woman lives as she does, because Manhood supposes the Maleness that her mind has such acute discomfort with.

She lives as a Woman, surely because that distances her from the Maleness of her body?

A Trans Man lives as he does, because Womanhood supposes the Femaleness that his mind has such acute discomfort with.

He lives as a man, surely because that distances him from the Femaleness of his body?

Same Sex Rights. Man (m) + Man (m) relationships (Gay). Woman (f) + Woman (f) relationships (Lesbian)

were born of the fact that two people of the same sex wanted the same protected right to be together as two people of opposite sexes.

Replace biological sex with gender identity, and you either get same sex relationships anyway.

TW(m) + TW(m)/TM(f) + TM(f)

TW(m) + M(m)/TM(f) + W(f)

Or you get the same old opposite sex relationships as most of the population.

TW(m) + W(f)/TM(f) + M(m)

TW(m) + TM(f)

And that can get damn confusing, if you start changing words from their original purpose.

Lesbian is the word that was coined to describe a W(f) + W(f) relationship, specifically.

Gay is the word coined to describe a M(m)+M(m) relationship, specifically.

So why not coin new words to describe the relationship between two males who don't live as men, a male who doesn't live as a man and a male man, a male who doesn't live as a man and a female woman, a male who doesn't live as a man and a female who doesn't live as a woman.

Two females who don't live as women, a female who doesn't live as a woman and a female woman, a female who doesn't live as woman and a male man.

Surely, with the richness of languages at our disposal, we can find a way to equally accommodate trans rights and gay and lesbian rights, without treading of the toes of either?

Labels are made up so it doesn't matter how many times you shit yourself over people you don't like identifying as lesbians it's not going to do anything. Labels and definitions and fucking words are made up and change everyday, linguistics is fake, seethe and mald and piss your pants more about it

[flying-elliska]

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[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

The thread got locked before I was able to post my reply to this but I actually think this reminder is important enough that I'm going to post about it here too. My response:

"This feels like a fitting time to remind people that the split between words like gay/lesbian and bisexual/pansexual/etc is actually fairly recent history still. Lesbian used to mean "any woman who has an interest in women" regardless of any additional interest in men or other genders, and it was, in fact, due to prominent political lesbians (a precurser to modern day radfems which is what the term TERF references) that the term was narrowed to exclude "women who also like other genders besides women" from the lesbian community.

Your sister called you a TERF because the reasoning and definitions you are using come DIRECTLY AND EXPLICITLY from the political community that term references. Your sister continues to identify as a lesbian sometimes because it is fully her right to do so, and ABSOLUTELY NOT YOURS to deny her language that reflects her experiences. Your response is to continue denying her the right to her language. You should probably read up on some community history before you decide to make another "joke" about this fight you keep starting with your sister.

Maybe you could start here with Stonewall UK's resources on the history of bisexuality: https://www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/short-history-word-bisexuality#:~:text=In%201859%2C%20anatomist%20Robert%20Bentley,understand%20this%20as%20being%20intersex.

From the text:

"But if people in the past didn't use the term 'bi', how did people attracted to more than one gender describe themselves?

There is no simple answer to this question. Some didn’t use an identity label at all, preferring not to categorise their relationships. Some understood themselves as heterosexual, while others identified as gay or lesbian. Others described themselves using percentages or ratios, such as ‘60:40 gay:heterosexual’. When the term ‘gay’ was first popularised by gay liberationists in the 1970s, it often linked radical politics and same-gender attraction, but didn’t necessarily exclude people who were attracted to, or had relationships with, multiple genders.

One interviewee I spoke to during my PhD recalled: “There was a general understanding that sexuality was some sort of spectrum, and that people would move along it from time to time”. It’s also important to note that this terminology is particular to English-speakers in the West, and that elsewhere in the world there has been a diverse range of approaches to sexuality and gender that often reject binary categorisations. In many cases, these approaches have been restricted or prohibited as a legacy of colonialism.

It wasn’t until the late 1970s that the current understanding of bisexuality, as an orientation or capacity for attraction, became widely accepted in the UK as "the more common usage". Around this point, we started to see bi groups and events being established. The UK’s first bi group, London Bisexual Group, was formed in 1981, followed by other groups in Edinburgh (1984), Brighton (1985), Manchester (1986) and Glasgow (1988), as well as a London-based Bisexual Women’s Group. A magazine, Bi-Monthly, was founded, as well as two bi helplines in London and Edinburgh, and the UK’s longest continually-running LGBTQ+ community event, the annual BiCon."

Bisexual inclusion under the language of lesbian or historically equivalent terms was the norm until nearly the 80s, when political lesbian/radical feminist ideaology began to argue that their inclusion diluted or endangered the community. A good place to read up on how this process occurred is Out History: https://outhistory.org/exhibits/show/lesbians-20th-century/lesbian-feminism

From the text:

"In essence, lesbian feminists tried to untie lesbianism from sex so heterosexual feminists were more comfortable. But they still had to find an effective way to address the accusation that their masculinity was somehow complicit with men and patriarchy. Lesbian feminists responded by distancing themselves from stereotypes of “masculine roles,” maleness, and patriarchy. One way they were able to do so was by disentangling lesbian sexuality from heterosexuality and re-conceptualizing heterosexual sex as consorting with “the enemy”. They capitalized on dominant assumptions regarding female sexuality, including ideas of women’s romantic and nurturing sexuality versus men’s aggressive sexuality. They were then able to draw a distinction between lesbian sex and heterosexual sex, claiming that lesbian sex was “pure as snow” since it did not involve men. For example, “…the male seeks to conquer through sex while the female seeks to communicate” and “…lesbians are obsessed with love and fidelity” (Echols, 218).

Using this ideology, lesbians successfully billed lesbianism as an ultimate form of feminism--a practice that did not involve men on any emotional level. In this way, heterosexual feminists were seen as inferior because of their continued association with men. Lesbians took on a “vanguard” quality as the “true” bearers of feminism."

Another great paper on this history and the way its impacts continue to present within the community is L v. B and Feminist Identity: Examining Lesbians’ Bi-Negativity and Bisexuals’ Lesbian Negativity Using Norm-Centered Stigma Theory: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/359801347_L_v_B_and_Feminist_Identity_Examining_Lesbians'_Bi-Negativity_and_Bisexuals'_Lesbian_Negativity_Using_Norm-Centered_Stigma_Theory

This is a research case study of how one lesbian magazine participated in the construction of an "us vs them" barrier within the lesbian community in order to recast the historic presence of bisexual women as an urgent and unwelcome invasion. While DIVA was surely not the only lesbian publication to participate in this work, it provides an excellent example to understand how that work was done: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/17405904.2014.974634

From the text:

"In the 1970s and 1980s, lesbian feminists quarrelled over definitions of lesbianism that appeared at times to include bisexuals (see Rich's, 1980, lesbian continuum, which ultimately elided any perceived distinction between exclusively lesbian sexual activity and ‘woman-identification’) and by turn to cast bisexual existence as unwelcome ‘infiltration and exploitation of the lesbian community’ (Zita, 1982, p. 164). The ‘issue’ of bisexual inclusion became increasingly visible as the gay liberation movement abandoned a constructionist critique of sexuality and gender categories and opted instead for an essentialist, quasi-ethnic homosexual identity. The idea of being ‘born gay’ produced campaign gains by problematising homophobic arguments revolving around choice, but simultaneously reinforced the homo–hetero binary (Barker & Langdridge, 2008; Epstein, 1987; Evans, 1993; Udis-Kessler, 1990). In this way, an ethnic gayness rendered bisexuality indefinitely liminal, outside of both heterosexuality and homosexuality, and claimed by neither. Mainstream media, too, depicted sexuality as dichotomous (Barker et al., 2008).

It is precisely the imagining of bisexuality as something (constantly flitting) between these two supposedly immutable realms that appears to be at the root of any ‘trouble’. Bisexuality has been conceived of by members of the gay community2 as a ‘stage’ between rejecting a heterosexual identity and ‘coming out’ as homosexual (and as Chirrey, 2012, shows, is constructed as such in coming out literature); those claiming it on a permanent basis have been derided as cowards who are ‘really’ gay, but wish to retain heterosexual privileges (Esterberg, 1997; Evans, 1993). Bisexuality in these terms is thus derogated as an illegitimate sexuality (McLean, 2008) and is imagined as an alternation between two separate worlds, for which promiscuity is a necessary condition (even in positive appraisals of bisexuality, Welzer-Lang's, 2008, participants largely describe a sexual identity premised on multiple relationships; see also Klesse, 2005). Both like and unlike ‘us’, the bisexual woman is able to move in either realm, an ‘amphibian’ (Babcock-Abrahams, 1975) whose transgression between categories threatens boundaries and the identities constructed and maintained within – an ‘awkward reminder’ (Baker, 2008, p. 145) of internal difference and potential inter-group similarities where (the illusion of) the opposite offers comfort and validation (Taylor, 1998). The links they forge between the constructed lesbian and heterosexual worlds allow bisexuals to ‘infiltrate the lesbian and gay community, use its facilities for their own gratification, and then retreat into the sanctuary of heterosexual normalcy’ (Humphrey, 1999, p. 233). It is in this light that we can understand McLean's (2008) participants' decision to preserve the assumption of homosexuality in ostensibly queer spaces. Bisexuals have been denigrated as neither committed to gay politics nor oppressed enough to be ‘our’ concern (Evans, 1993; Ochs, 1988). Further, by linking the lesbian and heterosexual worlds, bisexuals form what feminist lesbians consider(ed) a conduit through which ‘our world’ is contaminated by contact with men (see Wolf, 1979). Bisexuals are thus dangerous pollutants, in Douglas's (1966) terms."

You don't need to agree with your sister's decisions around her identity in order to respect them as well as the history she is tying herself too by making those decisions. You DO need to understand that our language as a community is in a constant state of evolution, and many people will have very personal reasons for maintaining older/more historically associated useages of our language/terminology.

[justalilpearlie]

Introduction/Fun Pearlie Facts

Was abt time I did one of these.

Hello everyone, my name is Pearl, Pearlie or Sam/Sammy if you're feeling like it. Friends also call me Martini sometimes.

I am a minor, my labels... we dont talk about them (fem presenting ftm gay/mlm + trying out gendervoid and verinix + bigender??) uhmm and I go by He/She, tho mostly He/Him by strangers- I can She/Her myself and close friends/mutuals are allowed! (I also go by neos: Void/Moon/Sweet/It/Fluff/Love/Fizz/Paw)

I'm from Argentina, born and raised, never moved. Speak fluent english and spanish.

I got the 'tism and the adhd, aswell as BPD and a few other things I wont list right now! But yeah I'm psychotic (ooo scary word.. lmao)

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I'm an IRL of many, mainly c!Pearl (mcyt), Samuel Emily (fnaf [games canon]) and Shin Tsukimi (yttd). If you don't like it you can leave, block me, or whatever, cause you aint gonna change my life or how I am. I'm in therapy, which unlike random hate and harrassment online, does help me :)

I like to roleplay, draw, sometimes make playlists or moodboards.. And my biggest interests right now are Life Series (+ evo + new life), Empires1(+ a bit of e2) and FNaF! (i dont rlly like the books tho lol..)

I use kin tags for reach cause I'd love interaction from any fellow lifers or empires ppl, hermits aswell!! Tho I havent finished s8 or s9 yet...

Fictionkins, therians and traumagenic systems all welcome!

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DNI prefferably:

- Basic DNI criteria (proshippers, homophobes, transphobes, racists, TERFs, ableist, etc)

- Endos/non-traumagenic "systems" DNI. block me if u want, i wont argue abt it in the comments/reblogs. or interact if u want but im not gonna follow u back or anythin shrugs.

- reality checkers or anti-IRLs DNI. I aint "romanticizing" shit, I'm existing and living my life, if thats a problem to you too bad cause my psychologist aproves of what I'm doing, since I aint harming anyone and I myself am doing dandy.

- anti-kin also DNI cause most of my friends are fictionkins and if you talk shit abt my fellas idk i wouldnt like having u around much

CCs interact at your own risk. This is my domain, cyan man & moon lady. /hj

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"Disclaimer"

- I talk about MajorMoon (Scott x Pearl) a LOT, if u didnt notice by the acc theme. These are my romantic memories, its a gay ship, not woman/gay man, so if it makes u uncomfortable or u hate it or whatever then ur probably not gonna like my content lmao. COUGH, consider joining us if you do like what you see... /nf We're a small comunity of supporters.. just me.. and a few of my peeps... that was a joke, sir. /ref

- This isn't roleplay, its my main acc where im ""unapologetically"" myself, but if u do wanna rp life series/empires u can always shoot me a dm and maybe I'll give u my discord.

- I talk about myself (c!Pearl) using 3rd person in many posts tagged with main fandom tags. This is to cause less confusion to casual fans slash ""normies"" (lhj) that well.. don't know what IRLs are! Also that way I feel safer and don't have to worry as much abt getting harassed and such for my identity.

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Special People Mentions!! fps = * (1 or more.. wouldnt say in a priority sorta order but. more or less yea)

Family! <3 🌼@pehpurr* SISTER!! super duper cool, her art is great and you should check it out!! YOU. You're the brightest little girl (i say like ur not older than me) I'VE EVER MET ACTUALLY! You're so passionate and loving I freaking adore you!! I love you so much Scar, you're one of the best things to ever happen to me, Kanny &lt;3 ⚙️@gentlexmadman DAD!! you are my daaaad, you're my dad! woogie woogie woogie! ANOTHER amazing artist! mr "I know that guy-", very funny, Henry "Autism" Emily... the copper king, my father. Speaking to you is always comforting. Love you so much papa, you're amazing :)

Simply special <3 ☕@insomniac-coffeehouse** You're all simply so very special to me. I love spending time with you guys and playing stuff together, you mean a lot to me and I'm so glad I met you. I hope we're still close for this year and many more! You're incredibly talented, not only at art, at everything you do. You spark joy in my brain and my heart <3 From the bottom of my heart, I'm in love with the hope you bring to this world. 🍊Jack***, oh my dear Jacky, where do I even begin, sport... you really are my other half. Mi media naranja if you will. haha.. I love every second we spend together, I love your voice, I love your eyes, I love your smile, your laughter. I love your use of words, the way you speak, your humor, your seriousness and goofiness. You stiff fuck, you were made for me and I was made for you, and I wouldn't have it any other way. You're my everything, mi vida, mi luz, mi estrella. Mi amor, mi mundo. <3

New friends! 🍓@strawberrystarfield I know we met fairly recently but you're all incredibly fun to talk to, your art is also amazing, your accent is real pretty (cough for a bri-💥), you're real sweet and I love reading all your thoughts and critiques about things :} (love ya Aspen /gen) 🏜️@fagdykegtws My right hand man! I know we just met through the rarepair server but oh my god we're in the same brainwave!!! You're so fun to vc and chat with and you got the best ideas ever fr fr, love ya Chewy, you're real sweet even w how lil i know you ;)

That's it folks, love yall and see you around!

[askanonbinary]

So i am currently really struggling with my identify as of right now, like really really struggling. I am AFAB and came out as transmale around 2016-2017 (i was about 13) I used he/him, considered binding, wanted surgery, wanted my hair short, so basically the whole package. But then around 2018-2019, i kinda gave that all up, because i didnt really think it fit me anymore. I went by she/her again, and basically went back to square one, even growing my hair out really long. But then not too long after that i went by she/they, then later went by all pronouns even though i still identified as a cis female. But now, 2021 (im 17), i dont know what i am. Ive done so much research and i just dont know what gender identity i can label myself as (i know i dont NEED a label but it would really help me if i did). So basically my problem right now is that im AFAB, but in my head, i mentally see myself as a male that has short hair, a flat chest, a feminine curvy body, feminine features and dresses feminine too, but is biologically male (and as an artist, i even draw myself as all that) But physically in the real world, i am okay and comfortable with my completely female body; my sex, chest, long hair.... everything. I dont think i would even want to change my body to look masc at all, yet i still "feel" male and SOMEWHAT feel weird when im refered to as a girl. I just dont personally feel as if transmale, Bigender, genderfluid, demigirl/demiboy/demigender, agender and a lot of other identifies fit me. Im not even sure if identifying as just nonbinary fits me either because i feel like a binary gender and dont want to identify as nonbinary if thats not want nonbinary is :( its just all so confusing.

So you've tried a lot of the more... defined... gender words.... So let's look for less defined words. They might actually feel better because they're more flexible and have more room.

genderfuck

wtfgender

quoigender/genderquoi (and the english whatgender/genderwhat)

genderquestion

who cares-gender

genderqueer

woman/girl-queer

woman/girl-ish

andrgonye

Also note that non-binary is anything that isn't COMPLETELY binary which means you can feel a binary gender in a non-binary way. Non-binary girl is a perfectly acceptable label too.

- Mod Zoe Leo

[livebloggingmydescentintomadness]

Hi, sorry to bother you, but you seem very kind and maybe you have some resources for me. I honestly don’t get the concept of gender identity. I have trouble understanding what people mean when they say for example that they are non-binary. Is it that they don’t feel that the typical gender roles in their culture fits them? I’m sorry, I hope it doesn’t sound too stupid. For myself, there is my biological sex, which has impact on my life. Then there is the treatment and the expectations I get 1/?

from society because of my sex (I’m female, so expectations like be pretty so you’ll get a man, be good at communication, be good at emotions, shave your legs, have kids, put your family above your career, etc). A lot of these expectations and roles exist to keep women from gaining equity and power. So I think not liking a lot of them has less to do with innate feelings of identity but more with how society works and my position within society. So, where does gender identity fit in? 2/?

What is it? How would I know if I was non-binary? I’m sorry, this is very confusing for me and I feel like I’m missing something big here. Thanks for your time and have a lovely day! (sorry for the maybe less than great English, I’m from Germany) 3/3

hello, dear! these aren't stupid questions at all, and your english is perfect.

you're completely right that these are difficult, complicated issues, and they can be hard to understand. a lot of people have spent a lot of time writing a lot of words on this subject.

first of all, what you're describing are what we refer to in english as "gender norms" (as in, what's considered normal for that gender), or sometimes "gender presentation". a woman is expected to conform to the gender norms of getting married, having children, being submissive to men, etc. a woman who dresses up in pink skirts and high heels and makeup and jewelry is presenting with a feminine gender.

however, gender identity is something different, and it has to do with what's in your heart, not what society puts on you or what you present to society.

imagine if you were on a desert island, with no job, no social pressures, no razors to shave your legs, no makeup to put on, no high heels to wear, no men to impress or women to be judged by. if you were all alone, with no one to see you or tell you what to do, would you still know that you're a woman?

most people have an internal sense of what gender they are, and sure, it can be influenced and affected by the way society treats them, but it's still something innate to who and what you are inside your body. your soul, if you will, has a gender. it's a fundamental part of your identity.

this is why the issue is so important to trans people, because this vital piece of who they are is buried or pushed aside or steamrolled. if you want to understand how trans people feel, don't try to imagine that you want to be a man - imagine that when you wake up tomorrow, everyone around you treats you like you're a man. imagine being forced to behave like a man, to dress like a man, to feel like a man, and imagine how that would suffocate an important part of your soul.

now, on the other hand, when i asked "would you still know that you're a woman?" you might have thought, "wait... would i?"

my gender identity is complicated and difficult to explain, but the short version is that i feel like my soul doesn't actually have a gender. i was socialized as a girl and that has had an effect on me, i have higher than average testosterone levels and that has had an effect on me, but underneath the physical and the social... i'm not a woman or a man, i'm just a person.

if you don't have an intrinsic sense of being masculine or feminine, or if you feel like some cross between or combination of the two, then congrats! you're nonbinary.

"nonbinary" is an umbrella term used to describe anyone and everyone who isn't 100% male or 100% female. some of us just go by that label, while others choose labels like genderfluid, genderqueer, agender, bigender, and many others.

as i said in the beginning, these are difficult and complicated subjects, and not everyone "just knows" or "has always known"; sometimes it takes people years to realize they're trans or nonbinary. it can absolutely be really difficult to peel back the layers of social conditioning and figure out who you really are. sometimes people need to try on multiple labels until they find the one that fits. that's totally fine. experimenting with gender and labels is totally fine.

if you're really not sure, here's a question to ask yourself: if the world was free from all sexism, would you want to be a woman? if you woke up tomorrow in a male body and you were treated like a man, do you think that you would still feel like a woman, or that it wouldn't really change much of who you are? if there was a third neutral option, would you rather be neither a man or a woman, just a person?

think about those questions for a while, and if you want to read more, check out my gender tag and nonbinary tag. you don't have to have anything figured out right now, just let yourself mull over the questions and see what happens. if you think you might be nonbinary... that's really all it takes! welcome to the club. :)

i know it's all very confusing, but i hope this explains your questions. take care.