#aromantic!dan

[aroacearchangel]

i’m going to say something that might be controversial and i’m sorry if this is cringe or whatever but i can’t sleep:

dan and phil are like. the perfect example of my ideal qpr. have they kissed. maybe. irrelevant. did they form an almost instantaneous soul binding connection within days of meeting in person. yes . are they literally soulmates, as proclaimed by mr howell himself. also yes.

did they design a house to live in together and still have separate closets. also yes . when they’re apart for even a few weeks they are soooooooo sad. i’m just. hooollyyy shitt.

in response to the age old question “are they dating or are they friends?”: does it actually change anything? they’re dan and phil :]

[winecovered]

　⟢　Overloving　𓃉

A term for when one's attraction is too much, and extremely overwhelming. This could make one not want to / have an aversion to acting on it.

　— Requested by anonymous .

[yourfavealbumisgender]

The Fool in Her Wedding Gown by The Crane Wives is AroAce!

requested by anon

[danhengsbestie]

this is probably the dumbest thing i’ve ever made 😼

anyway i saw dan heng’s “about blade” voice line and i was like “hmm aroace subext 🤔” (yes i know it’s a reach no need to tell me)

as a result i made this in like 10 minutes

[questionmarklive]

You know what type of relationship I want as an aroace person? I want that mid 2010's closeted Dan and Phil shit

Give me totally platonic besties who've lived together 10+years

[mochilly]

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[starrailprideflags]

aroace flag colorpicked from dan heng il!

requested by: @organized-miscellany

[thephouseplants]

You've heard of the Philesbians, but are you even braced for the Aro/Ace Phannies.

[tommyssupercoolblog]

i love your post about dnp’s relationship!! i feel like people don’t really understand the true level of love people can have for each other outside of just a regular romantic relationship

we live in a society that constantly shoves the concept of romance down our throats, that we are all made to believe that people are either in a romantic relationship, or they’re not. we can all agree that everything is on a spectrum, so why can’t we do the same for relationships?

dan and phil very obviously love and care for each other in a very special and beautiful way. there is no more that needs to be said.

another thing that i find kind of annoying is when people say that “the only reason they call each other ‘best friends’ is cause they haven’t hard launched yet, and they call each other boyfriends/partners/husbands/etc in private”. i say this so many times, and ill keep saying it, everyone has their own definitions of labels. “best friend” can feel so much more intimate, meaningful, and personal to them than any other label, and that is beautiful! of course, like you said, this isn’t to say that they’re “definitely not” saying those things, it’s just something to consider

i could also very much be projecting, as i’ve been slowly figuring out i may not be as alloromantic as i initially thought, but i digress

i could also be totally wrong!! the beauty of having such a caring relationship with another person is knowing that no one can ever truly know the extent of your relationship besides each other. that is a remarkable thing, and should be enough for everyone to understand, and respect everyone’s theories/opinions/experiences without hate ❤️

i’m sorry this is so long, i really hope it made sense, i rambled for quite a while, but oh well, thank you for reading :)) <33

No I get it! That's why I said something haha

Thing is they absolutely could be dating in private and to be completely transparent I do have some suspicions they might be. But it seems to be a very black and white, and very CERTAIN, issue with a lot of people. Some folks said they were worried about Dan and Phil being all "no homo" about the conspiracy theories as if it'd destroy the relationship they have if they did, and it made me think about how...if they don't consider themselves a couple that doesn't mean they don't consider themselves soulmates and very important to each other- they obviously do, they've said it over and over. Nothing can erase that.

I did have someone say they think the idea of a QPR is unlikely because they never expressed interest in one and while I don't think they have actively said that, they also generally have kept things private until necessary, and also....QPRs are not in the public consciousness. Do you have any idea how many people found out about the aromantic and asexual spectrums for the FIRST TIME EVER from Jaiden Animations' coming out video? And that didn't even mention QPRs. Queerplatonic relationships are NOT common and they aren't visible to a lot of people, even other queer people.

Talking about a queerplatonic relationship would require a lot of setting groundwork and sitting down and EXPLAINING, similar to how Jaiden had to explain things in her video. It's not enough to go "this is a queerplatonic relationship" if no one knows what the fuck that is, you have to thoroughly debrief everyone, so if that is what going on I could see why it wouldn't be so casually brought up. Like, they would need to feel comfortable and ready to sit down and explain it to people.

There's also the fact, as they mentioned in the tags as well, that if they were a man and woman people would already assume they were together as fact; but that's just as much amatonormativity as it is homophobia. That assumption, that a man and woman who act like Dan and Phil would be together, shouldn't go unchallenged. The difference in assumptions often comes from homophobia, but the assumption wouldn't exist in the first place without amatonormativity.

(Same person also mentioned they aren't aroace but I'm going to discount that critism entirely as you don't need to be aroace to have a QPR in the first place, they just come up more in those spaces because people are already critiquing the idea of relationships and what they mean.)

I just don't want anyone to lash out if it's a QPR, and I also want people to remember (or learn!) that QPRs are an option, because it's not discussed often and this is a pretty good opportunity to broach the topic. They could be dating, they could be in a QPR, we don't know. And the thing is, we can't know- that's what I'm saying- unless they elaborate we'll never know and that's...okay!! :D

I have no problem with posts calling them a couple or anything, I reblog those a lot, I just felt I should mention this option too.

Regardless they're still our silly gay little YouTube blorbos and that's incredible :3

[fryday]

i would guess that dan is a romantic based on how he kissed phil first and has described them as soulmates and husbands before

compelling evidence

[sunderingstars]

°˖➴ astral express aro/ace headcanons

what the stars reveal: my personal aromantic & asexual spectrum headcanons for the astral express crew! just doing my part to spread the aroace agenda on valentine’s day ☆彡

✩ ‧₊˚ ⌞ MARCH 7TH ⌝

��� panromantic asexual

⟢ sex-repulsed

⟢ she’s extremely sex positive and sees it as a form of deeper romantic connection for other people, but doesn’t like it for herself. i can see her in my mind’s eye going “yuck!” when thinking about dealing with everything involved lmao

⟢ she has lots of celebrity crushes and is very much a romantic at heart, yet the concept of “hotness” confuses her. she mostly uses it as another way to say “pretty” or “beautiful” or “cute” but is shocked to find out that isn’t what other people mean

⟢ appreciates artistic nudity in photography — she doesn’t see anything sexual about it and doesn’t understand how other people can

⟢ in a qpr with dan heng

✩ ‧₊˚ ⌞ DAN HENG ⌝

⟢ demiromantic demisexual

⟢ romance-neutral, sex-neutral

⟢ mostly, he doesn’t bother with romance and sex and they don’t bother with him (unbothered king) — until he gets close to someone and it hits him all at once and he goes “oh. oh i do experience this sometimes”

⟢ when he is not actively experiencing it, he forgets that attraction exists

⟢ this applies to dan feng too, i feel like he only really felt attraction towards yingxing once they had that emotional connection

⟢ in a qpr with march 7th

✩ ‧₊˚ ⌞ WELT YANG ⌝

⟢ aromantic asexual

⟢ romance-favorable, sex-favorable

⟢ generally, i feel like he doesn’t pay these things much mind beyond knowing they exist, but seeing as he has such excitement for new experiences i think he’d be down to try anything new (including romance and sex)

⟢ knows the most about aro/ace identities out of everyone on the crew — despite being out-of-touch with newer definitions, he’s definitely done his research

⟢ him and tesla co-parent joey (platonically)!

✩ ‧₊˚ ⌞ HIMEKO ⌝

⟢ greyromantic bisexual

⟢ romance-neutral

⟢ loves the idea of romance, but very rarely experiences romantic attraction. for her, it needs to be a blend of unique circumstances that makes her interested in someone, including personality, hobbies, experience, etc. and that doesn’t happen often

⟢ she is also particular about who she has sex with — since she views it less as an inherent extension of romance and more as a way to make both parties feel good in their bodies, she wants to make sure potential partners also understand that

⟢ overall, i see her as having very refined tastes and “once in a blue moon” romantic attraction

edit: changed himeko to greyromantic bisexual since i found out she’s canonically bi in hi3 !!

✩ ‧₊˚ ⌞ TRAILBLAZER ⌝

⟢ self-insert slot!

⟢ for me, i see them as oriented aroace (non-specific) and romance-repulsed, sex-neutral

✩ ‧₊˚ ⌞ POM-POM ⌝

⟢ aromantic asexual

⟢ romance-repulsed, sex-repulsed

⟢ honestly, i see them being annoyed with the concepts of romance and sex in general — they see both as distractions, and sex would especially cause a headache trying to clean up

© written by sunderingstars. do not copy, repost, translate, modify, or claim my work as your own.

[winecovered]

　⟢　Lovelacking　𓃉

One who is aromantic due to lacking an understanding of love. This is intended for those with AVPD or other similar disorders, but can be used by anyone it applies to.

　— for @coinfight 2024 . Attack on @rwuffles .　Not a gender, 7 points total .

[Plain text start. Lovelacking. One who is aromantic due to lacking an understanding of love. This is intended for those with avoidant personality disorder or other similar disorders, but can be used by anyone it applies to. For coinfight 2024. Attack on Rwuffles. Not a gender, seven points total .Plain text end]

[8loomy]

"everyone's different when it comes to love"

— i will be your bloom (2022)

[danhengsbestie]

i will die on this hill

these topics trending on the same day? a coincidence? i think NOT

[cringelordandsavior]

Man, why is every single anime about ghosts REALLY uncomfortable to watch? When I say I wanna watch something freaky, that is NOT what I meant

[viewerspookyhappenings]

headcannoning dalien as aromantic btw