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[currently-not-studying]

for me this answer makes ORV something other than a tragedy even when it comes close to becoming one. Because the story could have concluded with people still doubting the KD that will wake up. It could have made it so much more opened ended. But it didn't. Just like OP said: they love the ship and the ship is theirs and they know it.

Also how can we even judge who someone is? Based on actions? Kim Dokja always acted for his companions, no matter how much or how little of him was left. Based on memories? We will never know the other's life, even they don't remember it perfectly. Even Kim Dokja forgot some parts of himself before deciding if he wants to share them.

The answer can be so convoluted so for ORV to just come and say "it doesn't matter. you love them. that's enough" feels perfect

thinking about the ship of theseus as a concept and how it applies to kdj. how much of yourself can you cut away before you cant be called the same person anymore. how many times can you kill yourself before there stops being enough of you to be killed. how much of yourself can you tear into pieces and throw away before the callousness with which you do it becomes a fixed apathy. how many repairs can be made to the ship of theseus before it stops being his.

honestly feel like it applies to yhk in general really well too. han sooyoung and her avatars in a literal sense since she is quite literally sectioning herself off into pieces whenever she uses the skill; yoo joonghyuk more metaphorically since we see in the 1863rd round whats basically like. the stripped to nothing recognizable ship now returned to theseus (kdj). but i feel like with kdj its just The Worst because we look at the scenarios themselves and like kdjs half performative half genuine flippant reveals of his deepest traumas and at his thinly veiled suicide attempts (sacrifices) are just. hello? i mean each one of those just guts him further and further and we see the literal actual fourth wall continue thickening to the point where (given we observe in kcoms pov) who is kim dokja? whats left after you peel back all the skins hes discarded? what makes the ship of theseus the ship of theseus?

and then you throw in the sucker punch of the 49/51 debacle and the question stops being like a vague overhanging vibe to the story and instead becomes the focal point of it: how much of a person can you strip away before they stop being the person you know? and i really truly think orv answers this. it answers it in the most beautiful way possible and the answer is that if theseus loves the ship. its his ship. the ship of theseus can be 1% original parts, it can be 49%, it can be 99%, it doesnt matter. the ship of theseus is theseus' ship because he loves it and as long as it continues to be loved it will continue to sail under his name.

and idk. i think about that a lot. people love you regardless of how much they know about you and thats the point. being known often precludes being loved but sometimes people know you because they love you. the ship of theseus is his because he loves it. yeah.

[lotus-pear]

my bestie came over for a sleepover so we did some whiteboard skk doodles to compare styles (he's on the left i'm on the right if u guys couldnt tell)

[freckliedan]

if they're both out, then why bother hiding their relationship / stuff like sharing a room and going on couple holidays? surely all of their fans know that they're together so i don't get the point of buying a home with 2 bedrooms and having a fake apartments? sorry very confused very casual fan here

hi!!! i am always so happy to share information, so ty for asking me about it! i'm going to take these questions piece by piece ^_^

if they're out why bother hiding: most of the examples of them taking serious steps to hide their relationship are from before they came out! they have been together since 2009, but dan wasn't even out to his family until 2019, shortly before he came out publicly.

why not come out sooner than that? i'll try to be brief and avoid rehashing dan's entire coming out video (which is worth watching). several reasons: he was severely bullied from early childhood onward for being gay—from before he even had the chance to consider if he was actually gay. his dad was homophobic to the point dan seems to have removed him from his life completely, & he was raised by religious grandparents so unsure of the reception there.

and significantly: he and phil were outed by a youtube glitch that leaked an extremely personal video in 2011 that leaked again on a broader scale about a year later. being outed was a part of the bullying dan had experienced so this was retraumatizing but on a bigger scale.

they had had SOME level of plausable deniability regarding their relationship before the leak, but hadn't been very actively closeting themselves before that point? and then the leak happened around when they were blowing up in popularity/around when youtube was becoming a viable career, so they were already grappling with sudden fame & a lot of other things happening in their lives at the time.

dan was 20 and phil was 24 the first time that video leaked; they were 21 and 25 and living in an apartment they couldn't afford on their own hoping the bbc would hire them (they did) the second time it did. it makes sense that they came down hard & firmly closeted themselves, especially dan, especially with what he's shared of his personal experiences.

2012-13 was the peak closet, but by 2015 they were already being more open—that's the first couple's trip they went on again after active closeting started. they've just become more and more open from there, but the peak closet era was so definitive that the public perception of them as not a couple WILL NOT SHIFT until they directly express that they are a couple.

they ARE out to fans as a couple, and imo have been since before they came out individually. they've said things along the lines of "we know you know" multiple times.

why not be definitive about their relationship status when they came out? it would've overshadowed them coming out as individuals and they didn't want that. it will be MASSIVE news when they hard launch their relationship. they went ambiguous with it on purpose in 2019 and succeeded.

so. to circle back to your questions.

why bother hiding their relationship? they haven't really since coming out. they've been living freely and being open about that in whatever ways are comfortable to them. they took some time out of the public eye for a while and i'm glad they got to have that so they could explore what happiness looks like without feeling the need to perform. but it was also something that was intentionally temporary!

at this point in time when they call each other friends or roommates etc they're fully doing a bit. like. it's funny! and it's funny at our expense which makes it even funnier—it's their turn to put us through some shit, you know? & the joke is more on people who AREN'T familiar with them than anyone else at this point. it's nice being in on things with them.

why hide sharing a bedroom? they haven't really since moving into their forever home! they have a bedroom and a guest room and there's a murphy bed in phil's filming space/personal office.

phil at some point made a comment that the murphy bed is for if they have two guests over at the same time—something that will only really read as "they share a bedroom" to people keeping track of rooms in their house.

i don't think that they share a bed they sleep in 100% of the time. which is like, normal and healthy? being able to sleep in a different bed when you want/need is NICE i've known so many people who keep seperate rooms in committed relationships and if i was rich enough i'd love having two bedrooms with beds in them in my relationship. even if we'd mostly sleep in the same place.

i also think having multiple beds means dan and phil can have freak sex in one and be lazy about clean up bc they have other beds so that's. a plus for them too.

but like. yeah. i think it's less that they're hiding that they share a bedroom and more that they share a bedroom but have better boundaries with their audience at this point—there stopped being video liveshows after they came out and they'd stopped doing liveshows from their actual bedroom when they moved in to the separate apartment situation.

+ the separate apartment situation was ONLY ever meant to be short term, & was a solution to the situation before that, when every room was in videos and it permanently felt like they were living in sets.

why hide couple holidays? they haven't since before coming out! they also go on a lot of double dates.

no sorries on the confusion and thank you for the chance to infodump!

[writterings]

the thing they don't tell you about most mlm romance books is that they fucking suck ass

[twentyfivemiceinatrenchcoat]

people will ask for morally corrupt female characters and then spit them right out without even chewing first………… shameful tbh

[queerliblib]

Stand up. Queer up!

[lost-in-lamentation]

sighs and taps the sign

[artemismoorea03]

The amount of hateful comments I have gotten on my DP x DC fanfics is fuckin' ridiculous. So for those who don't understand A03 etiquette, please allow me to explain something.

If the author doesn't act for criticism - don't give it.

If you don't want to read a specific thing there's these nifty things called TAGS that you can mark as NOT WANTING TO SEE. So if you're going to be absolutely traumatized that a character is Trangender or Gay? Use the fuckin' tags. It's on the right side and very obvious.

Authors tend to have different writing styles - deal with it. Some are still learning and others like how their writing style looks and sounds.

Authors are human there will be mistakes so deal with it. Some authors - like myself - also have a fancy thing called dyslexia that can make some things hard to check. Thankfully I have friends and a wonderful spouse who can help me go through and look for mistakes but they're human too and will sometimes miss things. Which is fine.

Authors/creators also have different AU's and Headcannons that they will add into their story for spice or plot. Again, if you see something you don't like move on.

Danny is trans and you have issues with it? - Move on.

Danny doesn't age and you have issues with it? - Deal with it.

Don't like a story - Move on! Or write your own!

We write, create, and publish for free. Because we want to do something we enjoy and share it because we think other people will also enjoy it. We don't need people in the comments acting like they've been personally attacked by stories that are just fine.

Here are just some of the comments I've gotten. Most I just ignore or mark as spam but like - seriously guys? The biggest thing is if you don't like something - don't read it. And especially don't ask for more after you leave a negative comment because that's just stupid.

That being said though, out of pure spite for comments like these I've decided to continue writing what I want to write because clearly I just ruined your whole day and I take joy out of discovering just how many people I can piss off with my writing.

[silvergyus]

vampire fic is complete!

should I post today (before Halloween) or tomorrow (on Halloween)?

[paracosmoon]

if you write a fic about one character and put all the others in the tags then you can actually just fuck off and go to hell

[aricoatl]

Mmm sandwich

[igarbagecannoteven]

hi!! just read your cake at the craft store fic and thought I'd introduce myself on here :) you're a talented writer and seem like a lovely person!

oh my gosh thank you so much! that's so sweet of you 🥰i'm so glad you enjoyed my work! (and thank you so much for the lovely comment on ao3!) also love your handles on both ao3 and here, i'm a big fan of herons myself 😊

[meadow-roses]

Just a bunch of Shifters art of various characters from the wip lol

[silverskye13]

at last! I've caught up on RnS and can follow without fear of spoilers! :D

Heyyyy look at you go!! Gosh that's so many words to get through :O

Thanks for sticking through the story as long as you have! And for the follow as well :D

[pouroverpaloma]

Per that post about how fics say a lot about the author, I am horrible at putting things like this to words (which is funny because I’m also a writer 💀). But I get such specific vibes from your fics. I vaguely know who you are and who you aren’t. Like I’m aware of the negative space but not where it starts and ends? If I can ever get more specific I’ll let you know?? I’m better at reading astrology charts than I am psycho-analyzing people through their writing 💀

Okay but listen to me, I take that as high praise! I totally get what you mean and I’m super amped that you’d think so. I’m a nonfiction writer by training and I’m really confident in my voice there, so if that has carried over into my wizard smut— incredible news. Fucking killing it.

This also reminds me that I got dinged on my thesis for using too many em dashes, lol. Good thing my committee will never see the way I lovingly describe a blowjob

[twentyfivemiceinatrenchcoat]

i’m gonna be really busy this week (and honestly probably like ….. all throughout july . and a little bit of august . ) so it might take me some time to catch up on asks, comments/rbs, and art/fics, but pls just know i’m working on them and thinking abt them!!! 🥺 hopefully i’ll be able to post the gojo fic this weekend and then keep posting stuff here and there…. ily dash!!!!