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[currently-not-studying]

for me this answer makes ORV something other than a tragedy even when it comes close to becoming one. Because the story could have concluded with people still doubting the KD that will wake up. It could have made it so much more opened ended. But it didn't. Just like OP said: they love the ship and the ship is theirs and they know it.

Also how can we even judge who someone is? Based on actions? Kim Dokja always acted for his companions, no matter how much or how little of him was left. Based on memories? We will never know the other's life, even they don't remember it perfectly. Even Kim Dokja forgot some parts of himself before deciding if he wants to share them.

The answer can be so convoluted so for ORV to just come and say "it doesn't matter. you love them. that's enough" feels perfect

thinking about the ship of theseus as a concept and how it applies to kdj. how much of yourself can you cut away before you cant be called the same person anymore. how many times can you kill yourself before there stops being enough of you to be killed. how much of yourself can you tear into pieces and throw away before the callousness with which you do it becomes a fixed apathy. how many repairs can be made to the ship of theseus before it stops being his.

honestly feel like it applies to yhk in general really well too. han sooyoung and her avatars in a literal sense since she is quite literally sectioning herself off into pieces whenever she uses the skill; yoo joonghyuk more metaphorically since we see in the 1863rd round whats basically like. the stripped to nothing recognizable ship now returned to theseus (kdj). but i feel like with kdj its just The Worst because we look at the scenarios themselves and like kdjs half performative half genuine flippant reveals of his deepest traumas and at his thinly veiled suicide attempts (sacrifices) are just. hello? i mean each one of those just guts him further and further and we see the literal actual fourth wall continue thickening to the point where (given we observe in kcoms pov) who is kim dokja? whats left after you peel back all the skins hes discarded? what makes the ship of theseus the ship of theseus?

and then you throw in the sucker punch of the 49/51 debacle and the question stops being like a vague overhanging vibe to the story and instead becomes the focal point of it: how much of a person can you strip away before they stop being the person you know? and i really truly think orv answers this. it answers it in the most beautiful way possible and the answer is that if theseus loves the ship. its his ship. the ship of theseus can be 1% original parts, it can be 49%, it can be 99%, it doesnt matter. the ship of theseus is theseus' ship because he loves it and as long as it continues to be loved it will continue to sail under his name.

and idk. i think about that a lot. people love you regardless of how much they know about you and thats the point. being known often precludes being loved but sometimes people know you because they love you. the ship of theseus is his because he loves it. yeah.

[lotus-pear]

my bestie came over for a sleepover so we did some whiteboard skk doodles to compare styles (he's on the left i'm on the right if u guys couldnt tell)

[freckliedan]

if they're both out, then why bother hiding their relationship / stuff like sharing a room and going on couple holidays? surely all of their fans know that they're together so i don't get the point of buying a home with 2 bedrooms and having a fake apartments? sorry very confused very casual fan here

hi!!! i am always so happy to share information, so ty for asking me about it! i'm going to take these questions piece by piece ^_^

if they're out why bother hiding: most of the examples of them taking serious steps to hide their relationship are from before they came out! they have been together since 2009, but dan wasn't even out to his family until 2019, shortly before he came out publicly.

why not come out sooner than that? i'll try to be brief and avoid rehashing dan's entire coming out video (which is worth watching). several reasons: he was severely bullied from early childhood onward for being gay—from before he even had the chance to consider if he was actually gay. his dad was homophobic to the point dan seems to have removed him from his life completely, & he was raised by religious grandparents so unsure of the reception there.

and significantly: he and phil were outed by a youtube glitch that leaked an extremely personal video in 2011 that leaked again on a broader scale about a year later. being outed was a part of the bullying dan had experienced so this was retraumatizing but on a bigger scale.

they had had SOME level of plausable deniability regarding their relationship before the leak, but hadn't been very actively closeting themselves before that point? and then the leak happened around when they were blowing up in popularity/around when youtube was becoming a viable career, so they were already grappling with sudden fame & a lot of other things happening in their lives at the time.

dan was 20 and phil was 24 the first time that video leaked; they were 21 and 25 and living in an apartment they couldn't afford on their own hoping the bbc would hire them (they did) the second time it did. it makes sense that they came down hard & firmly closeted themselves, especially dan, especially with what he's shared of his personal experiences.

2012-13 was the peak closet, but by 2015 they were already being more open—that's the first couple's trip they went on again after active closeting started. they've just become more and more open from there, but the peak closet era was so definitive that the public perception of them as not a couple WILL NOT SHIFT until they directly express that they are a couple.

they ARE out to fans as a couple, and imo have been since before they came out individually. they've said things along the lines of "we know you know" multiple times.

why not be definitive about their relationship status when they came out? it would've overshadowed them coming out as individuals and they didn't want that. it will be MASSIVE news when they hard launch their relationship. they went ambiguous with it on purpose in 2019 and succeeded.

so. to circle back to your questions.

why bother hiding their relationship? they haven't really since coming out. they've been living freely and being open about that in whatever ways are comfortable to them. they took some time out of the public eye for a while and i'm glad they got to have that so they could explore what happiness looks like without feeling the need to perform. but it was also something that was intentionally temporary!

at this point in time when they call each other friends or roommates etc they're fully doing a bit. like. it's funny! and it's funny at our expense which makes it even funnier—it's their turn to put us through some shit, you know? & the joke is more on people who AREN'T familiar with them than anyone else at this point. it's nice being in on things with them.

why hide sharing a bedroom? they haven't really since moving into their forever home! they have a bedroom and a guest room and there's a murphy bed in phil's filming space/personal office.

phil at some point made a comment that the murphy bed is for if they have two guests over at the same time—something that will only really read as "they share a bedroom" to people keeping track of rooms in their house.

i don't think that they share a bed they sleep in 100% of the time. which is like, normal and healthy? being able to sleep in a different bed when you want/need is NICE i've known so many people who keep seperate rooms in committed relationships and if i was rich enough i'd love having two bedrooms with beds in them in my relationship. even if we'd mostly sleep in the same place.

i also think having multiple beds means dan and phil can have freak sex in one and be lazy about clean up bc they have other beds so that's. a plus for them too.

but like. yeah. i think it's less that they're hiding that they share a bedroom and more that they share a bedroom but have better boundaries with their audience at this point—there stopped being video liveshows after they came out and they'd stopped doing liveshows from their actual bedroom when they moved in to the separate apartment situation.

+ the separate apartment situation was ONLY ever meant to be short term, & was a solution to the situation before that, when every room was in videos and it permanently felt like they were living in sets.

why hide couple holidays? they haven't since before coming out! they also go on a lot of double dates.

no sorries on the confusion and thank you for the chance to infodump!

[trippinsorrows]

Can you name some of your favorite blogs (roman and wwe related), i want to follow some.

hi! please keep in mind this is not an exhaustive list, and i know i'm gonna miss some people! 😭😭😭

@callmekayd

@usoholic

@rantfandombloggg

@cyberdejos2

@whatdoeseverybodywant

@sayyestoheav3nn

@dejameflorecer

@fearlesschimera

@harmshake

@southerngirl41

@overrboarrd

@msbigredmachine

@lov3rla03

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@romanreignsbae

[writterings]

the thing they don't tell you about most mlm romance books is that they fucking suck ass

[twentyfivemiceinatrenchcoat]

people will ask for morally corrupt female characters and then spit them right out without even chewing first………… shameful tbh

[queerliblib]

Stand up. Queer up!

[lost-in-lamentation]

sighs and taps the sign

[artemismoorea03]

The amount of hateful comments I have gotten on my DP x DC fanfics is fuckin' ridiculous. So for those who don't understand A03 etiquette, please allow me to explain something.

If the author doesn't act for criticism - don't give it.

If you don't want to read a specific thing there's these nifty things called TAGS that you can mark as NOT WANTING TO SEE. So if you're going to be absolutely traumatized that a character is Trangender or Gay? Use the fuckin' tags. It's on the right side and very obvious.

Authors tend to have different writing styles - deal with it. Some are still learning and others like how their writing style looks and sounds.

Authors are human there will be mistakes so deal with it. Some authors - like myself - also have a fancy thing called dyslexia that can make some things hard to check. Thankfully I have friends and a wonderful spouse who can help me go through and look for mistakes but they're human too and will sometimes miss things. Which is fine.

Authors/creators also have different AU's and Headcannons that they will add into their story for spice or plot. Again, if you see something you don't like move on.

Danny is trans and you have issues with it? - Move on.

Danny doesn't age and you have issues with it? - Deal with it.

Don't like a story - Move on! Or write your own!

We write, create, and publish for free. Because we want to do something we enjoy and share it because we think other people will also enjoy it. We don't need people in the comments acting like they've been personally attacked by stories that are just fine.

Here are just some of the comments I've gotten. Most I just ignore or mark as spam but like - seriously guys? The biggest thing is if you don't like something - don't read it. And especially don't ask for more after you leave a negative comment because that's just stupid.

That being said though, out of pure spite for comments like these I've decided to continue writing what I want to write because clearly I just ruined your whole day and I take joy out of discovering just how many people I can piss off with my writing.

[nanoa1foryou]

Translation for Kuumaa's interview with Etelä-Suomen sanomat, 27.7.2024

Kuumaa in a backstage interview: "Whichever show can be the best show"

The band has played in Lahti for the first time back in 2017. The memory from years back still awakens warm thoughts.

The halfway point of the toursummer has been passed. For some it might mean a sigh of relief, but not for the band Kuumaa.

– It was a wonderful realization to think that we have half of it still ahead. The summer is absolutely not over, Johannes Brotherus opens the band's feelings.

Brotherus is the singer of the band, founded in 2016. Jonttu Luhtavaara is responsible for the drums, Aarni Soivio plays the bass guitar. The songs the trio write together.

Joy to the toursummer is brought by "the bubble of positivity", that the band describes passing their summer tour in.

– We are incredibly happy for our touring group. We have on the road an exhilarating dynamic. Everyone is a bit different as people, but we still get along with everyone really well.

A part of the joy is of course brought by the performances and encounters with the audience.

– It's difficult to say what that perfection is exactly built from, since you can't break the show down onto an atomical level. Sometimes you just feel it, and often that feeling is mutual.

One of the warmest show memories of the band has to do with performing in Lahti. The year was 2017 and the release day of the debut single. Kuumaa performed in Lahti's Torvi as the warm up for Elias Gould and Kauriinmetsästäjät. The memory resurfacing gets the trio to smile a bit.

– You could be quite excited about small things then, about the feeling of going to a show and the opportunity to play elsewhere than our training room.

Later touring and being on the road has become a part of daily life for the band. The excitement to do has however remained.

"It is really inspiring and fun to mess together tour life and the songwriting world." Johannes Brotherus

– Whichever show can be the best show, the trio describes the attitude with which the conquer one stage after another.

The secret is in being present and being appropriately relaxed. The members of the band enjoy performing and when the being is genuine, the feeling is easy to convey to the audience. In the best case the presence of the band and the audience is mutual

– Some artists say that it doesn't matter what happens in the audience, but in our experience it matters a lot. Audiences are different so I think that adapting to the energy of the crowd is also really important.

Kuumaa's skill of being present isn't left unclear at Lahti's Headland-festival. The band smiles and takes contact with the audience. The speeches between songs seem spontaneous and without dragging on nor rushing. The set moves at the right pace.

Memorable encounters, those Kuumaa have had numerous over the tours. Whenever possible the band goes to see the people also on the other side of the festival fence, who may be too young to come to the festival.

– Those people might write us letters, which is incredibly heartwarming.

Another significant encounter had to do with a fan who travelled all the way from Poland. The fan had made the band a stuffed rabbit dressed in a Kuumaa skirt as a gift for the band, that can nowadays be found from Brotherus' home. Apparently they've yet to come up with a name, but it is being worked on.

At the Lahti show an encounter happens that stands out from the normal concert joy. In the audience a sign sways, wishing a happy name day to Aarni, the band's guitarist. Brotherus is not quite sure if the day of the performance really is his bandmate's name day, but concedes that everyone's name day comes eventually. Along with the well wishes the guitarist gets from the sign bearer a shirt decorated with pictures of different kinds of pickles, as he apparently likes them.

The vigorous tour summer means for the band thousands if not over 10 000 kilometers spent on the tour bus. The bus has become like a second home for the trio.

– Sitting on the bus doesn't have to be conscious sitting in a car. It's more like our livingroom.

People outside of the ten member core team rarely have any business getting on the tour home. The band did however recently invite for one stop photographer and video director Ari Virem. Brotherus remembers how Virem was at first totally quiet and looked around for a long while. Eventually he noted: "I find it incredibly moving how you are here, in the bus. Some staring out of the window, one reading a book and another biting their nails."

The description was fitting according to Brotherus. Everyone has an opportunity to do their own thing or to not do quite anything at all. You can be social, but you can also draw away and everyone respects it. The space is tight, so you have very little of your won space. Despite that being there is natural, even to the point that sometimes you lose track of time completely.

– Travelling on the tour bus is a kind of formless time. We're kind of travelling somewhere, but at the same time it feels that we're still.

The summer and the tour don't stop the making of new music, quite the opposite. The need to create new things remains, even if a busy festival summer is ongoing.

– It's really inspiring and fun to mess together tour life and the songwriting world. We try to dodge a too rigid being because both being on the road and writing new music are terribly natural ways for us to spend time.

Pieces for songs arise alone and separately. Studiodays are often marked on the calendar, but ideas are generated whenever feels good. Everyone collects ideas into their own baskets from what's around them and when the time is right the trio pours them out to their table ideas for everyone to inspect.

In the spring Kuumaa have planned a longer, spring long break from touring as a counter weight for two years of active touring. Though it's unlikely the trio can give up music.

– It's rare we've managed to spend months without making new music. It's in a way needed.

However they respond in a roundabout way when asked about releasing new music.

[silvergyus]

vampire fic is complete!

should I post today (before Halloween) or tomorrow (on Halloween)?

[paracosmoon]

if you write a fic about one character and put all the others in the tags then you can actually just fuck off and go to hell

[aricoatl]

Mmm sandwich

[meadow-roses]

Just a bunch of Shifters art of various characters from the wip lol

[igarbagecannoteven]

hi!! just read your cake at the craft store fic and thought I'd introduce myself on here :) you're a talented writer and seem like a lovely person!

oh my gosh thank you so much! that's so sweet of you 🥰i'm so glad you enjoyed my work! (and thank you so much for the lovely comment on ao3!) also love your handles on both ao3 and here, i'm a big fan of herons myself 😊

[silverskye13]

at last! I've caught up on RnS and can follow without fear of spoilers! :D

Heyyyy look at you go!! Gosh that's so many words to get through :O

Thanks for sticking through the story as long as you have! And for the follow as well :D