#apologizing doesn’t absolve you of everything

[borderlinereminders]

"I know I hurt you but I told you I'm sorry! I can't handle you being upset with me. I'm a terrible person who doesn't deserve your forgiveness but I don't know what I'm going to do if you don't forgive me!"

^

Whether it's intentional or not, this is manipulative. And it's not okay.

It's okay to express feeling badly, but that should be portrayed more like "I feel really bad that I hurt you because you don't deserve that. I am really sorry, and I am here to talk about this when you're ready to discuss this further."

If someone is doing the first example, please know that it's 100% okay to just walk away to deal with your own emotions. You don't owe them anything. Their emotions about you being upset are their own responsibility and it’s okay for you to take the space you need.

And if you’re someone that is unintentionally doing the first example, please know that you aren’t irredeemable or terrible. And you can still learn to do better.

[happypeachsludgeflower]

Ironically, after having obsessively listened to the entire saga on repeat last night, my favorite song was I Can’t Help But Wonder. It was my least favorite on my first listen through, but the more I listened to it and absorbed all the meanings and implications? I just. Loved it so much more 😭

There’s Odysseus finally meeting his son for essentially the first time (yes he held him as an infant, but he doesn’t know him as a person), there’s the fact that he spent twenty years wishing he could know his son. And then there’s Telemachus on the other side of the conversation who’s been dreaming of knowing his dad for twenty years and is worried his dad won’t love him?? Devastating. Imagine desperately loving and wanting to meet your child for twenty years and being told they worry you won’t love them??

AND THE LINE ABOUT ODYSSEUS TELLING HIS INFANT SON HE WOULD CAPTURE THE WIND AND SKY FOR HIM?? Guys. Odysseus literally captured the wind and sky to get home to his son and wife.

And then we have the reunion with Athena 😭😭 They don’t even talk about anything that happened?? I just imagine this scene of Odysseus saying, “Show yourself. I know you’re watching me,” just like he did when they first met, and neither of them say a thing about their argument, nothing about Athena fighting for him and saving him, nothing about everything that happened between the last ten years.

And without saying any of that, Athena goes straight into a roundabout way of saying, “You were right, I was wrong, and I led you astray.” She said, “I’m sorry,” without saying it. And there’s a beat of silence. Odysseus sighs. And essentially tells her, “No, you weren’t wrong. And I wasn’t wrong either. That world could exist somewhere far away, but it doesn’t exist here. I’m too old and tired to ever find it though, so you’ll have to make it exist someday for both of us.”

He forgives her in un-said words. It’s an absolution of the wrong Athena feels she’s committed. A goddess apologized to him, and Odysseus absolved her of her sins. Just. AHHHHHHHHHHH.

And then they part ways 😭😭😭 and there’s a tone in their voices that says it’s really their final goodbye this time. And they didn’t even say goodbye.

[cybershock24601]

Seeing how some people talk about Mythal is insane. Not to say she isn’t super sus and done a whole lot of bad things but the way people try to frame it like everything Solas has done is somehow her fault is insane. He is a grown ass man who can make his own decisions! Pretty sure I saw someone talking about the “I release you from my service” line like Mythal was somehow controlling him the whole time through elfy magic when it’s super clear that’s the shade of someone Solas cared for and feels responsible for getting killed telling him that’s it’s okay and he can stop trying to get revenge in her name. That he can finally let go of everything he has been holding onto.

It seems super obvious especially with how it mirrors the talk with Varric in the regret prison where Varric absolves Rook of the guilt they feel for his death because it was his choice to talk to Solas just as it was Mythal’s choice to talk to the Evanuris. Rook and Solas didn’t cause their deaths but that doesn’t change the fact that grief often manifests as guilt because you’re so often left with so many what ifs, so many things you wish you could have said or done and wondering if you might have been able to stop them from dying if you’d have done something different.

The reason Solas is able to finally make the right choice in the end is because of Mythal telling him that it wasn’t his fault that she died and he doesn't have to keep on his path of destruction to bring about the world he thinks Mythal wanted because he feels like that's the only way to atone for her death. Mythal and Solas made all those bad decisions together and committed some terrible wrongs and as the last man standing Solas is desperate to make it all mean something that he has blinded himself to everything else. Mythal was the only person to truly understand the weight of the guilt they both bear for their actions and so its only her that can offer him absolution for their mistakes because after all these years Solas sees everything as his own fault so Mythal acknowledging the part she played in leading him down the path they went down and telling him its okay to stop, that he doesn't have to continue walking on the path just because he feels it what she would have wanted.

Mythal and Solas are the only two people who know the true damage their mistakes have caused and while Mythal was able to accept and grow past it and appreciate the world as it is, it was Solas, Pride, who saw his only recourse was to try to make things right even at the expense of everything the world has become. Mythal offers him both apology and absolution in the end and that is what finally gets Solas to stop. Mythal is the only one that can properly understand and acknowledge the depths his grief and offer him the solace he needs to finally let go of it and begin to live not in the past but with his feet firmly planted in the present and his eyes towards the future.

[galaxymagitech]

Bruce is capable of apologizing!

I was disappointed when in Batman #147 he basically blamed his actions entirely on Zur to Tim and didn’t seem to take responsibility for them, but…In Batman #148, he actually said the words “I’m so sorry” and took responsibility for the messed-up, abusive stuff he did when influenced by Zur. He acknowledges that a part of him did it, that “I hurt you.”

Whats most striking to me is that at first, Tim (I love Tim, but he’s consistently far too willing to absolve Bruce) starts to defend Bruce to Jason, saying “None of this is Bruce’s fault.” Bruce could just let Tim defend him, and Jason, who asked Tim for info, probably would have gone along with it. But instead, Bruce interrupts Tim and apologizes, taking responsibility.

He also understands that it doesn’t fix everything, because he doesn’t just drop all guilt after apologizing. Which is a huge improvement.

This is better. So much better. It’s the Bruce I want to see, and since Zur has been growing in power for a while, this is DC’s opportunity to make Bruce a decent parent again, while still acknowledging that his past actions were wrong. I hope they take it.

[robbyykeene]

Man I remember watching that fight between Robby and Johnny at the end of season 3 and thinking what a great parallel it was to the school fight. Like, Robby starting the fight. Johnny finishing it, hurting Robby even if accidentally. Thinking that would translate to the next season, force Johnny to reckon with what happened between Miguel and Robby at the school. Force Robby to reckon with it too. How you can seriously hurt someone and not mean to. How it doesn’t absolve you of responsibility but it does not make you irredeemably evil, either. Thinking that Johnny would ultimately work up the courage to apologize to Robby. That Robby would brush it off, saying he started it anyway. That Johnny would insist it didn’t matter, hurting Robby was still wrong, he should have had more control, and he’s sorry. And Robby would be forced to realize that he, too, needed to take accountability for what he did to Miguel and apologize. That he can do this while still forgiving himself for what happened. And that this wouldn’t fix everything. Johnny and Robby’s relationship would still be complicated. Miguel and Robby’s relationship would still be complicated. Miguel wouldn’t have to forgive Robby, and Robby wouldn’t have to forgive Johnny. But it was a starting point, at least. Crazy to think how in the end this parallel went nowhere at all

[queerfandomtrifecta]

Bottle It Up: the most tangible theme in OFMD s2

So looking at s2 through the (super fucked up) lens that Jim asking Frenchie “How are you handling all of this so well?” And Frenchie responding by saying he puts all the terrible things in a box in his mind and never opens it again was the lesson everyone was supposed to learn this season and like, that’s there in the text more than anything else and I hate that.

Frenchie is handling everything well because he’s putting it in the box and never addressing it again.

Izzy finally says he has love for Ed, everyone is worried about him, the atmosphere is toxic and suggests talking it through and Ed goes on deck and points a gun at everyone as he asks them to talk about it, and when Izzy finally does address the reality of things and speaks Stede’s name aloud he gets shot in the leg.

Lucius isn’t talking about what happened. Avoidant about the Rat Boy name at first, says he fell off the ship, can’t remember when he picked up smoking.

Stede asks Lucius to talk to him about what happened after he was pushed off the ship, and Lucius starts to and almost immediately Stede runs away saying to save the rest for Pete.

Lucius says he talks to Pete and Stede says “please tell me you held back on some of the darker stuff” and Lucius confirms he did because Pete got nauseous and started crying.

Lucius tells Stede he should look past the man he loves and examine all the awful things he did, but Stede brushes it off and doesn’t do that.

No one will tell Stede they killed Ed. (Arguably this is for their own safety as well but it fits the whole “we’re not talking about the hard stuff” theme so I’m including it)

Ed finds out Stede went home to Mary through Anne Bonny. Stede begins to try to explain but instead, Ed smashes his chair against the wall and walks off. They have a very brief conversation without mention that Stede was kidnapped by Chauncey then watched him die.

Ed gives his influencer non-apology that was clearly written by Stede to the crew, and everyone but Lucius and Izzy seem to have forgiven him. During the “apology” Jim talks about how it made them feel and Stede shushes them so Ed can keep not apologizing. Afterward, for some reason, Jim says immediately says “I thought it was pretty solid for him” Archie says that’s how it goes in situations like this, Roach has never heard an apology before so they’re all good apparently now.

Lucius pushes Ed off the ship but isn’t okay yet. We’re addressing the trauma here and trying to make it right (even if it’s in a messed up way); we’re finally talking about it directly, but Lucius isn’t okay after this.

Fang tells Ed he’s not mad at him because he got it all out of his system when they beat him to death.

The whole Lucius/Izzy exchange “A shark did this to me. Dangling my legs over the side of the ship, served me right too.” “Okay, that seems healthy. Using a bit of fiction to cover up your trauma.” “Not moving on is worse.” (Another point at which Lucius wants to resolve trauma and he’s told no, don’t talk about it)

Lucius is clearly coping poorly and tries again to talk to Pete about how he almost died and Pete says he should find him when he’s no longer thinking about his trauma (“find me when Blackbeard isn’t living rent free in your head”) and that Lucius should talk about how he lived instead. Lucius then seems to decide that he’s fine, proposes to Pete, and is seemingly okay after that. (5th point in the story when Lucius tries to talk about something to heal and is told no in some way, and here is when he finally seems to moves on and is played as “better” after this)

Izzy’s drinking a lot even after he’s not totally dysfunctional like at the end of ep4.

The only Ed apology to Izzy is “Sorry about your leg.” With no eye contact as he’s walking away. To which Izzy responds “Fuck off.” After Ed’s out of ear shot.

Stede suggests Ed can absolve himself of everything by “turning the poison into positivity” and selling his treasure he got during the time he was abusing the crew to buy party supplies. Stede later says at the party that yes, Ed has achieved turning the poison into positivity, though Ed has done nothing by throw money at the problem.

Stede ignores Ed’s warning about not being able to come back from killing in cold blood and kills Ned Low.

Stede is visibly upset and Ed goes to check on him and begins to start talking, but Stede wordlessly grabs him and slams him up against a wall and then they have sex (which Ed has requested to wait on) instead of talking about it.

Ed decides he’s leaving to become a fisherman because Stede is infamous now and Ed’s been wanting out of that life so there’s a brief disagreement where not much is said and then he leaves.

“I’m sorry I was such a dick.” Is the biggest apology we’ve gotten all season. It’s immediately dismissed as “you’re not a dick. Life’s a dick.”

No one in the crew seems to be mourning Izzy’s death and we as the audience seem expected to move on from it very fast. Avenging his death is proposed by Zheng but then it cuts to nope, we’re done with that and we’re inn keepers now instead. Put the terrible thing you’ve seen in the box and never open it again.

I’m definitely sure I forgot some of these and it felt at first that these were being set up to be played negatively because this is the don’t-bottle-it-up/healing-from-our-traumas show but that just doesn’t play out. Like so much of it’s either dismissed without reason, played as a joke, or framed as acceptable and the fact that I could pull so much more of this stuff out of the text than I could any other potential thematic element does has me just so baffled. I don’t know what to do with it.

[makieos]

on sand in that fight scene

and ramblings about why ray is such a great character

i genuinely feel like we have to be watching different shows and it’s starting to slightly bother me. these are just some thoughts on what ive seen said about sand (and ray) in light of the recent episode, specifically the fight scene.

let me start with the following: sand hasn’t ever thought his love was gonna heal ray. i honest to god don’t see how you could ever reach that conclusion. one of the main things about episode 10 is that he’s pushing him to get professional help - he’s under no impression that he could ‘fix’ ray by himself.

‘he made everything about himself during the fight scene’ doesn’t sit right with me at all. saying that he cares about ray is not making everything about himself. it’s just the truth. you’d EXPECT a person to say this when someone’s berating them for not caring, especially if it’s someone they love. saying ‘you think i have no dignity’ isn’t making everything about himself, it’s a reply to ray accusing him of only caring about money. you’d EXPECT a person to be hurt at that kind of comment - to voice it - especially a person like sand, who’s made his stance on money when it comes to his personal relationships clear.

i’ve said this before, but during the fight scene, the worst thing sand did is not explain clearly - saying he was hired but not explaining the context. surprisingly, just like you can see the reasoning behind ray’s actions, empathize with them, you actually CAN see the reasoning behind sand’s too! might be shocking but he’s actually not an asshole just for fun!

i understand being annoyed at sand for not talking. i even understand thinking that maybe there’s something he has to apologize for. but claiming that in his self-centeredness he - and the show - are always making out ray to be the asshole who needs to apologize is almost uncomfortable for me. not only because sand is just… not self absorbed, but also because - and i know some people might not want to hear this - ray HAS been an asshole, and he SHOULD apologize. not just for last episode.

ray’s reaction to finding out sand had ‘duped’ him is so honest that it’s almost devastating in its rawness, in its intensity. his feelings are valid and expected, but your feelings of pain being valid and expected doesn’t ABSOLVE you of being hurtful towards someone else. if you’re an asshole while at an emotional high, you’re not excused for it. you’re not blameless. the right thing to do is apologize.

saying ray’s feelings are being dismissed by the narrative is borderline outrageous to me. in the last scene, his feelings ARE acknowledged, they’re spelled out for the viewer - ‘i was so angry because I care for you’. in the last scene, the viewer is MADE to empathize with ray, to understand him in case they hadn’t just yet. they’re also made to understand that he HAS ultimately made mistakes and most importantly - that he’s sorry for them. that he wants to apologize.

this approach to ray of ‘he’s always made out to be the asshole’ ‘his mistakes are a result of someone else’s goading’ is so reductionist and it bothers me because I feel like it’s a genuine disservice to his character. ray is such compelling character BECAUSE he’s not perfect, not DESPITE it. because he messes up, and he feels things that are painful and reacts to them. because he’s human. his faults are a part of his journey - a part of his recovery. we don’t need to erase them to love him.

[tanjir0se]

Literally never thought I’d be saying this and it absolutely does not make up for the rest of the. Everything. But somehow against all odds MHA has contained the ONLY bad dad redemption arc that has hit the mark for me.

Doesn’t happen in one episode, not expected to sympathize immediately with said bad dad

Also doesn’t pull the ‘being nice in your last five minutes of life absolves you from all sins’ bullshit that drives me crazy

Bad dad receives consequences

The true answer for how to atone for past behavior is apologizing and then fucking off

Bad dad is adequately beat to shit both physically and emotionally 👍🏻

Those who don’t forgive him right away or at all are not portrayed as petty or childish, it’s presented as a viable option

I’m glad I gave it a chance despite being initially suspicious. Endeavor redemption arc now and always amen. How MHA managed to pull that off is entirely beyond me

[anxiousotters]

5 things I like to write about

All my love to @cookiemonsterv3 for the tag!!

1. Redemption - I really like looking at villains or just antagonistic characters and asking “Why did you do it?” and “If things were different, would you have made different choices?”. Obviously I don’t think bad decisions should be excused, but far too often I see villains/ antagonists either A) sacrifice themselves to absolve them of the consequences of their actions or B) apologize for their actions but never do anything further. I love writing villains/ antagonists who make the choice to apologize, take accountability for their actions and own them, and try to reconcile and do better for their communities. I like when characters choose to do the hard work of acknowledging their faults and becoming better people, proving it’s possible to come back (can you tell I really want Pride and Prejudice from Mr. Darcy’s POV?)

2. Religion/ Culture - I love exploring religion or religion-equivalents, how they function, and how characters interact with their religion, or religious around them that they’re not members of. In a similar vein, I love writing about culture and when a fictional culture isn’t completely fleshed out or has room for additions, I love adding little bits of my own culture to it (eg. detailing mandalorian formal tunics with Celtic embroidery). I also love writing cultural clashes, like what happens when two opposing cultures are forced to share space with each other. I just like it when characters learn that the other culture is full of different (but still important) things, and both sides learn to appreciate the other

3. Banter - who doesn’t love a good bit of banter? Honestly I don’t think writing banter is my strongest suit, but I love it anyways, especially sibling banter. As one of four kids with an additional gaggle of 30+ cousins, I really write how I think me and my siblings/ cousins would interact (or have interacted in the past) when I write banter. It always makes me giggle, and I love giving my characters siblings/ friends who are as close as siblings for this reason. I also love the tension and excitement that comes with writing romantic banter, especially if the characters aren’t together yet. Delicious stuff

4. Forged Family - you’ve seen found family, this is the same dish but with a hint of forced proximity and trauma. I like writing about found family where the family bonds form because the characters have suffered so much together and still choose to protect and love each other like family. The sentiment is very “I’m stuck with you, but I’d also choose to love you in every lifetime”

5. Rivals to Lovers - in same vein as banter, but different. I like a good conflict, I like the tension, I like the slow build/ melting of ice that comes with rivals to lovers. Specifically I like it best when the conflict comes from external/ cultural reasons and not miscommunication. I just think it’s juicer when the rivals actually have to learn to get along because they’re different in ways that cause friction, rather than they’re not having an important conversation that could solve everything. Almost all of my favourite ships are rivals to lovers, and I like to put the ones that aren’t into situations where they are (oops)

No pressure tags: @thenookspace, @firefly-fez, @maraliga, @ferretrade and anyone else who wants to play!!

[psychic-refugee]

“I’d rather support a potential liar than a potential rapist.”

My question is, why does your support include being an asshole?

@hibernatingwithgrizzlies has a great post on this and I’d like to add to why it’s a logical fallacy and problematic.

People who say this or variations thereof, are, in legal terms, insufferable twats.

It goes the same for anyone who posted “I’m not writing/creating content for Xavier anymore because PHW…it ‘goes against my morals.’”

I can’t imagine having to deal with these pontificating asshats in real life.

I do understand pausing creating content because you feel some sort of way, it’s adding “morals” to it and making sure EVERYONE KNOWS that you have “morals” is what gets me.

The logical fallacy is the presumption that regardless of the evidence or outcome, your personal bias and horrible behavior were always justified.

They’re justifying and trying to make being gullible and jumping to conclusions a virtue.

“I’m absolved from critical thinking or apologizing for my vile behavior because I was pretending and grandstanding about supporting women and feminism. That makes everything ok.”

Last I checked, being pathologically gullible is not a tenet of feminism.

When it’s spelled out like that, it sounds batshit insane, right? It is insane.

This line of thinking is problematic because you’re basically saying you’re biased and proud. It doesn’t matter what actually happened, you’re not going to give the accused a chance to defend themselves because you’ve already decided they were guilty. Not only that they were guilty, but it’s your moral obligation to be as vile and obnoxious about condemning them as possible.

If it turns out you were wrong, then you don’t have to admit that because you were on the “right” side of the argument.

I just have to hope these 15-year-olds grow out of this immature and brainless mindset before they’re old enough to be on a jury.

[leounderthemoon]

Follow-up

This is in answer to some anons I got and some of the comments.

I do not blame Jared. I don’t think he did anything wrong. 

I do not “absolve” Jensen. I don’t think he did anything wrong either.

I believe Jared was upset. He wanted to be a part of the prequel. He was upset that Robbie changed the premise to not include Sam. He was probably upset that Jensen decided to go ahead with it after the leak, instead of waiting until Jared could be a part of it. He may have understood why the timing had to shift, but that doesn’t mean that he wouldn’t be upset. 

As far as apologizing, if Jared said they talked it out, and everything is ok, then yes, I am “assuming” Jensen apologized, because I believe Jared. 

The following paragraph from my last post mentions how they all had to make up a story, (meaning lying) about the hows and whys. The bold parts are the “make up a story.”

“Once this narrative that Jared was not ever involved and would not appear in it was latched on to, all of them had to run with it. Jensen apologized for not telling Jared. He said he was superstitious. He wanted to tell Jared, but he didn’t have his phone. That he was on set. That Jared couldn’t participate because he was busy. Etc. etc.”

For those of you saying “Well Kripke was there on set with a phone!”  Does anyone really know if Kripke was on set or if he was LA? I don’t know, it doesn’t really matter.

Full disclosure, I don’t know how Hollywood, or network TV, or anything works.  I’m not in that field. If you are, great. But, I do know that everything depends on the pertinent contract. Jared’s contract with CBS may (or may not) allow cameos on any other show, on any network. His contract may (or may not) allow him to be involved in the development of another show on any network. I don’t know.

About the re-watch show with Daneel, wasn't that just something to pass the time during lock down? It was also before they officially formed Chaos Machine? Also, which Zoom call, and when?

As for “implying” an “assuming,” aren’t all of us doing that? Unless someone has spoken with Jared and/or Jensen, and they have actually said something, no one knows anything.  My theory is full of just as many holes as anyone else’s.

[maespri]

im sorry if i implied that it was you who stated that it was ryuji's fault, i meant in the story. ryuji was the one who was compelled to apologize to morgana for the whole debacle.

iirc here is what happened. thieves are doubting, discuss okumura, back to doubting, ryuji questions their hesitance, ryuji backs down, morgana scoffs at the team AND THEN insults ryuji.

morgana insults ryuji after he was outnumbered and outvoted and leaves. how was i supposed to interpret that scene other than morgana lashing out at specifically ryuji?

and then it was framed as ryuji's fault?

if we're going to go back to the flashback scene, that was just ryuji's foot in his mouth, he didn't mean anything by it.

another point is that when morgana was the navigator, most of his lines for ryuji are either condescending or insulting.

we could have had another chie-yosuke or junpei-yukari dynamic for ryuji and morgana, as that was what their roles seemingly were subverting the male-female dynamic the previous persona games had were both characters are equal in insulting each other as some sort of banter (chie-yosuke) or taking things in stride and if it was serious would stop (junpei-yukari) but no morgana just can't help but add a snide remark every chance he gets at ryuji.

this is the last i want to touch on this topic, because seriously. i’m not here for discourse on a video game cat.

while i do appreciate your apology, the reason ryuji is the one who apologizes to mona is because he’s the one who keeps pushing mona away every time the phantom thieves get closer to getting him back home. mona literally would not have wanted to come back if ryuji didn’t apologize, sooo.

once again, you’re needlessly separating ryuji from the group. morgana snapped at all of them.

as i just said, it’s framed as “ryuji’s fault” because when they have the chance to get mona back in their group, ryuji pushes him away again instead of trying to fix things. and that’s not me trying to push blame onto ryuji for everything that morgana does- like i’ve been saying for the past two posts, it’s a two-way street- but in this scenario, it quite literally was his fault that he had too much pride to apologize and instead continued to fan the flames.

also, excuse me? saying that flashback was just ryuji’s foot in his mouth is crazy. like… did ryuji tell you that? that’s a completely opinionated statement. i could say everything mona says was just because he had his foot in his mouth. doesn’t hold up at all.

most of mona’s navigation lines for ryuji are backhanded, yes. but once again, i fail to understand why you’re continuing to use mona’s insulting ryuji as an argument when ryuji repeatedly insults mona as well. like i keep saying over and over: it is a two way street.

the chie-yosuke and junpei-yukari argument isn’t really applicable here in my opinion. both of the mentioned are close friends and were friends prior to the start of the game. they clearly don’t have any ill-intent behind any of their actions. the same isn’t true for mona and ryuji; sure, the writers could’ve followed the same dynamic previous games had, but they didn’t. because they weren’t trying to at all.

allow me to say this one more time: it is not just mona who can’t help being snide to ryuji. it’s ryuji who can’t help being snide toward mona as well. your complete absolving of any fault toward ryuji is hurting your argument. im not trying to make ryuji out to be some sort of monster and mona to be completely innocent; both are wildly untrue. but you have to realize that both characters are flawed and both characters are worsening their relationship.

i’m done having this argument. like i said at the beginning, i am not trying to be a beacon for video game cat discourse. you’re entitled to your opinion; i’m not required to repeatedly defend my ideas against it. have a great day.

[aclaywrites]

Maybe stop harassing an lgbt person for not knowing american politics from decades ago💀 YOU need to do better bc you attacked them for romanticism some dude (op just confused the characters) and fetishizing lgbt people (op is lgbt) so YOU messed up and refused to apologize

No, I commented that people need to not make Joseph McCarthy their special cinnamon roll because he’s an actual monster. It was a mistake she acknowledged and I acknowledged. I’m not going to apologize for being disgusted that people watch porn, or that they make gay and lesbian sex into their own personal masturbation fodder even to the extent of pretending it exists in places where it doesn’t (aka Supernatural). She even confirmed that it was the case— she watched the show because of the hot sex and doesn’t care about the parts of the story that talk about LGBT history. I’m not ‘attacking’ them for not knowing about US politics from the last century, I was surprised and then grossed out that they had so little interest in the show that they themselves chose to watch (except for the sexy bits). She didn’t tell me she was ‘LGBT’ (all of them?) until the very last conversation (as her justification for fetishizing gay sex) but it doesn’t make the objectification any more valid. I’m a lesbian— does that absolve me of everything? No it doesn’t, and it’s not an out for her either.

[theminiartblog]

I'll return to asking about the leading ladies next ask but I have to ask about my favorite antagonist since I was, like, 10! What happened to Clive after unwound future in your continuity? Was the attack a show like in miracle mask or was he stopped before he could attack London? How did he and Flora become friends and then closer?

Hear me out! I have OPINIONs! About the ending of Unwound Future past the forever bleeding wound in my heart that is Layclaire.

Sticking with the cutscenes, Clive very much did cause some serious damage to London, and he was lucky enough to get away with no casualties. I will give him that as my blessing, as it’s hard for me to downplay what he did--not that I'm saying you are either, but it definitely was not a hoax ala Miracle Mask or the “so-called murders” of Eternal Diva. There were many injuries, and much to rebuild.

At the same time, something that Chelmey says near the end always gets me going. “People can often be so blinded by their motivations they lose sight of the damage they do. But criminals aren’t the only blind ones.” This was in reference to Prime Minister Bill Hawks. I hate him so much, I’m sure we all do, he gets my blood boiling; We don’t let him get away with his misdeeds here. Some investigation is properly done, and Bill Hawks also gets sent away to jail, for having a hand in the time machine explosion that happened years prior. Now, I’m not a big student of law, so I’m sure the statute of limitations may have already run out, but there’s always exceptions to be had somewhere. I’d like to think they cracked that case right back open, hearing the connection. After all, at least three people had suddenly appeared with witness accounts, and plenty of evidence.

Now, mini, you may be asking? What does this long rant have to do with Clive? Well, this also managed to shorten Clive’s sentence as well! He got himself some well deserved therapy, while he was at it. During this time, and some time after, one of Clive's main confidants was the Professor. Flora is still staying with Layton, at this time, so she gets to speak with him as well. She wants to be mad at him, she is mad at him, he snatched her away with no regard for her own safety, used her as a pawn, locked her away as a prize to a puzzle for all she knows! For no other reason but because he could...

But also he was hurting, he was hurt. He’d lost his parents, and she knew that pain. That didn’t mean he was absolved of his wrongdoings, that doesn’t justify the means and make everything better, but she could at least hear him out. She could at least show him some kindness. He needed a little more of that in his life. He apologized to her, not expecting forgiveness, and she wasn’t ready to give it yet, but she could at least listen. They became friends eventually, and then-

Well, I’ll have to get back to you on the rest ♥️

[sapphiresaphics]

Woof, what a dog shit hot take. Alright let’s do this:

1. It’s not just that hextech doesnr exist, it’s the fact that you have an alternate universe Heimerdinger guiding Piltover towards the right side AND the fact that Vi died. A child of the undercity died because of the negligence of Jayce (who wasn’t suppose to have those volatile crystals in the first place) and by extension the negligence of the upper city. They change course because they have been shown very clearly that they were responsible.

2. When Jayce asks for the undercity’s help… they LEAVE. Sevika AND the firelights abandon Piltover. A handful of them change their minds and come to Piltover’s aid, but that’s it. It’s not like everyone gathered together to defend the city. We are shown that Piltover was left mostly on their own, a consequence of their terrible actions.

3. Actually, we need everyone to save us. Enforcers, Piltover, and Zaunites. The day is not saved by the police, they famously FAIL. The one who saves the day is Ekko. A boy from the undercity.

4. I do not know why you’re so drawn to the police force because uh.. who else is going to defend the city under siege? They don’t have an army. They don’t have anyone else who can help. And enforcer uniforms are head to toe armor. Why wouldn’t you have the enforcer uniforms (which they likely have in abundance) be the uniforms they use to protect their bodies??? Like no matter what your grudge is against Piltover, if I’m fighting in a war I wanna be protected and wear gear. It’s practical.

5. Yeah this sucks and scenes with her were cut down. But she’s still THERE. She still acts in the scenes. Animation isn’t just about how many voice lines characters have. It’s a visual medium. So while she doesn’t say anything cuz it was cut for time, she still acts in the battle. She comes back to fight because of Jinx and she gets promoted to a counselor.

6. That’s just a sweeping generalization. I do not see how watching the enforcers try to protect Piltover is somehow an apology for everything that they did the rest of the season. They’re literally under siege. What are you expecting them to do? Just give up? Does them winning the battle absolve them of their crimes? The ending of the show sure doesn’t seem to think so. There’s still tension between everyone. Caitlyn gives up her seat on the council too.

7. A queer woman wrote that. About a queer couple. It is not literal. Vi is not calling herself dirt or saying she’s below Caitlyn. She’s saying she’s going to stay to keep Caitlyn GROUNDED. She is Caitlyn’s reminder to be empathetic and respectful and to not let her position of power get abused again. It’s a turn of phrase, not literal. If “the cats out of the bag,” you aren’t LITERALLY letting a cat get out of a bag. Jesus Christ how can you not see that???!

Piltover is not absolved of their crimes just because they won a war. Zaunites helping them and wearing armor in a war doesn’t make them forgive the enforcers for what they did, it’s just practical. You’re literally grasping at straws here and intentionally misreading what happens to be angry.

Hot take, season 2 feels like piltover apologist propaganda

Piltover has been oppressing and exploiting zaun for who know how long, but the timeline where everything is good, all that had to be different was for hextech to not exist

at several points in the story, including Cait's poison gas mission, enforcers go down there to brutalise people in pursuit of jinx, but all of that unnecessary violence is brushed aside because there is a new Big Bad that we all must unite against. How convenient!

the Big Bad (Viktor) was from Zaun, and we need Piltover's police force to save us from this zaunite. Actually, the previous season's big bad was also from the undercity

zaunites come to help the people who treated them like animals their entire lives AND THEY PUT ON THE UNIFORMS OF PEOPLE WHO OPPRESSED THEM? I'M SORRY WHAT

Sevika who conveniently hasn't spoken a line since what, episode 4? her opinion isn't important, just be happy that she's on the council now.

entirety of act 3 actually

the "dirt under your nails" line. ????? Who wrote this? I want to talk.

[animezin-ph]

A Silent Voice: A World Suic*de Prevention Day Post

TRIGGER WARNING

This post may contain triggering words. Please read with caution. If you are feeling uneasy, you may choose to stop reading this post.

SPOILER ALERT

This post may include some spoilers from "A Silent Voice" (anime film)

"Why'd you want to kill yourself?" The mother of Shoya asked him.

A Silent Voice

During sixth grade, Shoya bullied Shoko because she was deaf.

It wasn’t a pleasant experience for Shoko, but soon after, the sins of Shoya came and bit him back, and then it wasn’t a pleasant experience for Shoya either.

Shoya was bullied because he was a bully. He became an outcast, and everyone left him alone.

After maturing, Shoya couldn’t get Shoko out of his head. His guilt tore himself apart and the ostracism haunted him.

Trauma

As a result of all the negative experiences that happened to Shoya, he closed himself off to everyone. He also became very afraid.

He started to become hyper vigilant about others around him. This led him to be careful and cautious with his actions.

He felt like he was always on guard even if good things were happening to him.

It's as if he couldn't allow good things to happen to him.

The Unthinkable

All these emotions: guilt, regret, sadness, hurt, and trauma, made Shoya want to die.

He hated everything he has done at this point.

He hated himself. 

The Start of Empathy

Shoya felt guilty and regret as soon as he experienced similar things that he did to Shoko.

Being pushed around, being left out, being hurt, being traumatized.

Maybe he thought deep inside, “This must’ve been what Shoko felt.”

And this has been buried deep down in him.

As soon as Shoya saw Shoko again years later, he wanted to reach out. Not just to meet her, but to let voices be heard. He now wanted to form a new connection with her. A connection filled with love and empathy.

The Guilt

However, it wasn’t only Shoya who felt guilty.

Shoko felt guilty as well.

She felt like if Shoya stayed with her, it would only make his life worse.

Shoya became a very important person to Shoko at this point because of how he now treated her (with love and understanding.)

And when she thought and felt she may have been the reason why Shoya experienced being left out, she tried taking her life.

This was because she hated herself. She always apologized. This shows she felt like a burden to everyone. 

“Help me live”

Both Shoko and Shoya apologized to each other. 

Shoya told Shoko “I want you to help me live.”

All the burden that Shoko felt reached Shoya, and all the burden Shoya felt reached Shoko.

Both of their voices were finally heard.

Conclusion

First, I realized that sometimes, we have difficulty in understanding what another person is going through, not unless we go through something similar. But this doesn’t absolve us of our responsibility to try to understand what another person is going through.

Second, nobody deserves to be bullied.

Third, nobody deserves to feel like a burden.

Fourth, everyone deserves a second chance at life. Nobody deserves a painful life that they try to take their own lives.

Last, we should always strive to become better people.

We should strive to help each other heal.

We should love one another and care for one another.

Let’s form empathy and understanding and learn and raise awareness.

Let’s make the world a better place.

Final Thought

Did you relate to any part of the post? Or did you have any realizations about the movie?  If so, don’t be afraid to reblog or leave a comment below so we can discuss! I’m open to asks as well if you want to ask anything about anime or mental health!

If you are having suicidal thoughts or you know anyone who is having suicidal thoughts, please don’t be afraid to reach out to a friend, a family member, or a professional. (Below also is a list of phone numbers that you can call) 

Remember, you are loved, you are not a burden, and you are not alone!

World Suic*de Prevention Day

Today, September 10, is World Suic*de Prevention Day. It’s an awareness day for us to remember how important a life is. 

But, even if today passes, let’s always remember to reach out to other people for help, or to reach out to people who are in distress.

Let’s raise awareness to prevent suic*des and prioritize mental health.

Let’s heal together. You are not alone.

If you need someone to talk to, you can also send me a private message here on tumblr, or call the following phone/landline numbers to reach out to professionals who can provide a listening ear:

In Touch: Crisis Line

(02) 893-7603 (Landline) 0919-056-0709 (Smart) 0917-800-1123 (Globe) 0922-893-8944 (Smart)

In Touch: Crisis Line is a 24/7 free confidential support over the phone. It’s open to everyone in the Philippines who are in need of a listening ear for issues related to anxiety, depression, relationships, self-harm, or suicide.

Hopeline

(02) 804-4673 (Landline) 0917-558-4673 (Globe) 0918-873-4673 (Smart)

Hopeline is a 24/7 suicide prevention and crisis support helpline by the Philippine Red Cross, which is among the first to launch in the country.

Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 988