#and they arent mutually exclusive of each other!!!

[marimeeko]

As a multishipper I'm thinking about something. As a BKDK fan, I am, I guess preparing for a possibility?

I had a thought with this last chapter, and how this battle is literally about to end. That we are indeed at the very end of the line.

And I am thinking of the "Do your best, Izuku" theme and how everyone started chiming in on it, how it has become basically the closing motif to the battle. And how Tenya brought up the OG, ochako, who said the "Deku" seemed to her like "Do your best", and of course, ochako is seen saying the same.

So my thought is, if Hori is going for a Izu Ocha ending, this might be how it comes about.

(I am not saying it's one hundred percent satisfying, bc once again, Izuku has shown virtually no interest in her beyond friendship, and the relationship, to me, is still thematically and developmentally, one sided.)

So I don't know if hori is going to go with the idea that "do your best" bringing the relationship of Izu Ocha to the forefront after kicking it to the side for so long...but I guess I can see the thematic possibility he MAY be going for if that is the case.

Once again, I am hoping it's not a blatant thing, if anything I'd like no pairing to be outright "canon". Realistically I think that may be the case. Simply bc izu ocha just doesn't have enough reciprocity behind it and, bakudeku...well, obviously is highly unlikely due to the nature of Shonen/cultural precedence by very reason of it being Queer.

I am just thinking about the whole thing and it may be where Izu Ocha enters the Chat again.

As always I am letting Hori cook, and tempering expectations. I don't dislike Izu Ocha so I won't be terribly bummed out, I just wish there was a little more developed into it(namely, on izukus side)

As I always disclaim, it's Horis story to tell, and I am here to read it, and I'm not stopping now.

[wheelercore]

"There's nothing deeper to Mike's character, he's just written to have no narrative importance other than to be els boyfriend and the source of wills gay angst" you understand you are talking about One Of The The Main Characters right? From the Aggressively Normal middle class family in the Normalcy Is Fake And A Distraction/ Curtain To Hide The Truth show right? I know many many people don't like Henry and in fact don't listen to a single thing his character is written to say but instead of writing off his monologue as unhinged ramblings maybe understand his purpose in that moment as the writers mouthpiece and how he's basically describing the wheelers + his monologue is a mirror to Jason's monologue about Eddie, which the wheelers were very obviously present for. Like idk maybe everything is intertwined and connected.

Like people really just think that all things are Accidents and a lack of pov isn't intentional and not a metaphor for a curtain hiding someone's true self. Brenner's whole dialogue to El about how one can chose to merge with their 'darkness' (is the aspects of themselves they consider unpalatable) means fuck all I guess.

[mcytegg]

i don't think it's unusual for a person to be cruel in general and kind to a small set of people close to them. i don't usually think the second part is more important.

i agree!!! cruelty and caring very deeply abt a select few people arent traits that are mutually exclusive, and its smt we see in plenty of other ls members but i do not find mapicc to be a particularly cruel person like kab describes him to be.

all of her reasons for believing him to be cruel are ultimately bc her and mapicc dont know or understand each other. her misconception of him isnt her fault in this regard and im not saying it is, im just saying she is wrong abt him. im certain she will eventually come to realize this herself but her way of viewing things is very black and white imo. and she swaps between which she believes at a moments notice— which i know is like an intentional choice from cc kab into her character since she herself says ls kab is easily influenced. and its a trait i find obvious when she makes definite statements like "mapicc is just a cruel person" after he killed her one time bc she literally chose to fight alongside his enemy.

[extendedtimeline]

Jayce and Viktor and "Transcendent Love"

okay so I've been feeling really weird since act three came out about the way people talk about Jayce and Viktors love for each other and I was having a hard time verbalizing it, I apologize if this seems ranty (I mean it is lol). But it's something that has plagued my mind ever since I saw this sentiment.

So like. Characters can have a soulmate relationship, a relationship that sort of transcends platonic/romantic but also be gay and in love. Like. these things arent mutually exclusive. They are best friends, and they are in love. That's the point! When people act as if queer love diminishes a bond or makes it less interesting I'm like "Oh you're just homophobic covering your ass by trying to make some astute statement!" Like what exactly about queer love makes it so wrong to you that somehow a relationship being queer "ruins" it for you?!

I saw a couple things on twt speaking on this and I'd like to add onto the discussion already being had but like. Queer love isn't "unclean" it's not something that pollutes a relationship the way that some people view it as doing such. Like people view hetero love as this inherently clean or holy act and so, of course, when a hetero couple has a soulmate relationship it's entirely okay to point out that what they're doing is romantic in nature, but when it's queer it's somehow wrong to point out and explore the inherent romance? It's so odd to me. It boils down to cisheteronormativity, people's unwillingness to unpack their homophobic views. The people who can't accept Jayvik as gay are the same people who claim that what they're doing is somehow allyship, and that for any queer person to view them as gay they're somehow taking away from a well written relationship. But that's not True. Jayce and Viktor ARE gay! Their relationship IS queer (no matter your views on their sexuality, gender, or dynamic in general). The idea of a relationship that transcends typical labels is queer! It's relationship anarchy (to a degree)! It's queer!

they are gay and they are in love and they are LITERALLY joined together in death and they are soulmates and they find each other in every life and they are QUEER! it's QUEER! being gay doesn't take away from their dynamic at all and if you think it does you really need to pick apart your own views on gay relationships. Idk

[curioushabitforarivergod]

💛💚💖 I'm curious 🤭

Ask game: unpopular opinion edition <3

hii tysm for the ask! another chance to spread my hateful words and thoughts! (also a senpai notice me moment ngl 😳🤭)

💛: What is a popular ship you just can't get behind, and why?

in all honesty, i will back most ships but the one i cannot is drarry. like i get it, theres all this fun evidence but who tf cares. its kind of bland, especially after falling down into the depths tomarrymort and i actually despise 8th year fics which seem to make up a huge portion of it. drarry fans can be very very insufferable (speaking as a former drarry shipper) and i could not stand to be in the same room as more than a few at any one time

also wolfstar. i cant believe i nearly forgot how much i despise it. remus and sirius are not good for each other, and everyone seems so obsessed over it. plus anytime i try to read a marauders fic its just there which puts me off a lot of that part of the fandom in general. i cant stand it even if its a side pairing — the mischaracterisation, the blatant suppression of sirius' personality, changing him into the uwu boy and remus into the badass one (atyd, my op). they definitely were not together before harry's 3rd year and even then i dont think they were actually together. i lowkey hate remus too. hes kind of mid

💚: What does everyone else get wrong about your favorite character?

my fave character is harry and the movies did a world of damage to him. they made him boring and flat and so now everyone thinks hes like that. hes not — hes so clever and hes vicious and hes such a complicated person dealing with so much shit. and often ppl make his abuse worse, but thats not the point. neglect and starvation are also abuse, it doesn't have to be overtly physical. it downplays over forms of abuse (i myself have an emotionally abusive relationship w my mother). i hate when people make harry weak in the face of all this — he is so strong and amazing

💖: What is your biggest unpopular opinion about the series?

that wolfstar didnt love each other lmao. i honestly dont know what counts as an unpopular opinion. mainly, i think at kings cross when harry dies, it should have been lily to greet him — dumbledore is obviously death and he was the wrong choice to represent the narrative closure. or if not lily, at least someone like sirius. also the characterisation of death in fics; death should be a woman! or at least not portrayed as a man all the time. im just obsessed with that idea. you get it in art/writing sometimes (e.g. Death by Janis Rozentāls (1897) / "There is something female about being dead," Joyce Carol Oates) and it makes me feral.

more unpopular opinons: i dont think regulus was a good guy, i think peter deserved better from everyone around him and the fandom, voldemort was never exorcised as a child and hes far more interesting than parts of the fandom think, the marauders were really bad bullies and SA'd snape but theyre also allowed to grow up — the two arent mutually exclusive, none of the characters are particularly good and none of them fully evil either (nuance ffs), remus is a coward and i hate him a lot

[conditioned-to-obey]

Life has been heavy lately, do you have any tips on keeping the burdens out of the bedroom? I have been so horny for my husband and missing being domed/degraded by him 🥺 we are always patient with each other when we need a moment which I love but I'm going nuts over here with need and just want to sit at his feet and have my head petted

With the limited information presented, I'll try not to assume anything and just give basic general advice.

First, recognize what the exact need you are feeling is. Are you just horny? Can you supplement your momentary lapse in sexual compatibility with self pleasure? Or are you craving to ignite that feeling of comfort and security that comes from your established power exchange?

In nature submissive rabbits will grow restless if not reminded of their place. They seek out that feeling that they are taken care of, that there is a stronger stable presence above them. Usually by the dominant rabbit laying their body weight atop the more submissive rabbits and squishing them lovingly. Which sounds kind of silly, of course but bear with me.

Second, it's always constructive to detach kink from the bedroom/sex itself. We can have both at the same time, but they arent mutually exclusive. Kink goes much deeper than just sexual needs. Enjoying kink activities and d/s dynamics outside of the bedroom can definitely help relieve tension and anxiety. Just like the regulatory behavior in rabbits I mentioned above.

Perhaps establishing a small routine that is simple enough that it can be done when either of you is running low on energy, but regulatory enough to release some tension gained from the struggle of day to day life.

While still recognizing we are only human, if sitting at his feet while he pets your head is a release for the both of you, try approaching it non sexually. It can be just for pure enjoyment of relishing in your respective power exchange. The enjoyment of finding rhythm and structure in roles you both feel comfortable in. Sex can and may come after if it excites both of you, but it doesn't have to be led and steered by that direction. This can take a lot of pressure off kink activity. Nothing has to lead anywhere. You are simply enjoying the softness of letting go. Finding time to leave those heavy, overworked socially compliant parts of yourselves at the door. Creating a bubble of safety just for each other. Open communication is key. Maybe you two decide that it's harshness and degradation that will provide the same effect as mentioned above. You'd have to discuss to figure that part out. I'm sure you'll do just fine.

Chin up, doll. Best of luck to you.

[citrinitxs]

KNOWING YOUR PARTNER WELL CAN POTENTIALLY MAKE WRITING TOGETHER A LOT EASIER. REPOST, DO NOT REBLOG!

NAME: Navina! However, people call me by different nicknames and alias/es, such as Navi, Nav, menace (/aff), and even by my anon alias, ✨!

PRONOUNS: they/them!

PREFERENCE OF COMMUNICATION: tumblr asks & dms, but if we're friends/mutuals and we can vibe, then discord <3

NAME OF MUSE(s): main muses are albedo, kaedehara kazuha, alice! The rest that arent my mains are on my carrd, which you can check because Im too lazy to list them all out

BEST EXPERIENCE: personally, I think my best has been w/ meeting new people and discovering what they like from our muse dynamics. I absolutely love talking abt how they may act and how, in certain verse/s and plot points, their relationship develops. I have a particular fondness for those who are doomed by narratives to only say "fuck you" and REWRITE the damn thing themselves... or just be tragic for the sake of the majority <3

RP PET PEEVES / DEALBREAKERS:

- no communication. I refuse to tolerate people who can't communicate how they feel with me, especially if I did something they don't like. got an issue? talk to me! I promise you, I will be more supportive and willing than me finding out you talked shit about my style, muses, or me in general.

- acting/proclaiming we're exclusives WITHOUT my prior knowledge NOR consent. I personally am not interested in being exclusive with people unless we're genuinely close friends (and there's chemistry for our muses to the point I can see it), and even then, I would prefer if we talked about it and we're both FINE with the idea. However, if you say that I'm ONLY allowed to speak/interact with your muse and NO ONE ELSE'S? That's a hard block. This is an auto block if we are not mutuals and you proclaim I am exclusive with your muse.

- romanticizing dark themes and/or glorifying it. Enough said. I have some issues that I refuse to talk about and I am also sensitive with certain topics, and I refuse to glorify anything that can be considered dark. I may tackle on it sometimes (be it by muses, myself, etc.), but if you romanticize or glorify themes like sexual assault/harassment, incest, and the sort? Instant deal breaker. "Don't speak to me again" type of deal breaker. Don't test my patience. (bonus is if you try to defend it. You will be blocked the moment you try, so don't bother.)

MUSE PREFERENCES: characters that have genuine potential and dynamic where you can just see how fucked they can be, how you can make each other worse, how they can be each others' star-crossed lovers and forever in tragedy. They can literally be the most normal couple to exist or something, just so as long there's chemistry & where we can channel our inner conflict together for them to conquer! (Bonus points if they're ALSO a doomed by the narrative character. dw bestie, we'll redeem them ourselves...... after they go through hell and back ofc LMAO)

PLOTS OR MEMES:  BOTH AND I'LL DIE ON THIS HILL. Listen, plots fit a LOT for me because then, we can plan out how our characters may act + make it easier. It's also long-term for me, esp for ships and muses I'm interested depending on the fandom. Memes, however, are good pick me ups because I will send them en masse. Woe, meme be upon ye, y'know?

LONG OR SHORT REPLIES: Ok, both (for my rp partners), BUT not 1 sentence short. Please add depth. If you need the minimum, 3 to 5 sentences is good! Just go wild! I personally write a lot because ranting abt things have me hyped, so expect like. maybe? 3 paras? probably 4 or 5? Just medium length rlly, but if I am EXTREMELY hyperfixated on a verse/muse/plot/dynamic...... yeah gl LMAOOOOO

BEST TIME TO WRITE: goddamn, it's when my brain can focus. it can be late as fuck and I would be too into writing to sleep, and sometimes, its IN THE MORNING. LIKE. HELLO? so yeah what's time actually. (/silly)

ARE YOU LIKE YOUR MUSE(S): In my personal opinion? Not really (esp not Albedo lmao??) but. apparently my friends think. that I do?? honestly ask thea and a few of my mutuals, they'll answer this better than I can tbh

TAGGED BY STOLEN FROM: @glacialswordsman & @poswiecenia (lmao hi I live in ur notif walls <3) TAGGING: @vagrantshiraeth ; @amemoire ; @constarellations @lorendiel ; @livingakasha ; @bloodied-bets ; @ anyone else (hi I will live in ur walls soon, move over /j)

[ciaran]

there's a kind of trans person (even nb ones fall into this trap) who is obsessed with recreating mutually exclusive binaries. they grasp that you can step from one side of the male/female binary to another but they fail to understand that nonbinary people have like, materially nonbinary experiences that aren't just a reflection of one kind of binary-gendered experience. they fail to understand that trans men and trans women (or transmascs and transfems) arent opposite to each other or that those categories can overlap. they fail to understand how a body can be cis and trans at the same time, and they are really uncomfortable with the fact that transness is itself a fundamental resistance to the application of any binary category.

[lesbianwyllravengard]

thank you for defending mia! its so exhausting being a fan of her in this fandom. so many people completely disregard her three years of trauma because ethan's one night is more important (and it is! its still trauma! but its totally reasonable for mia not to wanna talk about it imo?) and ignoring that she was being controlled (or that ethan killed her with an axe and then shot her, even if it was self defence). ive seen people say she deserves what happened because she made evie when...evie was made years before mia even joined the company and is a special agent not a researcher/scientist, or that she abuses ethan when the arguments are actually miranda and the flashback seems to imply her frustration is with ethans refusal to move on and let the two of them move forward with their lives or family. and of course ignoring mia sacrificed herself on the ship for ethan! they both need therapy but they love each other, the two arent mutually exclusive. any excuse to hate a woman i guess!

SO SO REAL anon I am kissing your forehead, YES. Also like in the flashback when we see Mia actually trying to talk about it by expressing her care for Ethan and how their and Rose's health matters and when she finally starts to say what she means,,,, Ethan gets a phone call and chooses to take the phone call over listening to Mia :/// "I wish Mia would talk about what happened with me" *ignores her when she does* Like I'm sorry I love Ethan too but c'mon😭😭Fr they both need hella therapy but people forget that Mia's brain was fucked with for an entire three years. That's a shit load worse than anything I could ever imagine, and while Ethan experienced the Bakers for a night, at least he was never mind controlled. Like Mia went through hell and back to keep him safe and people still hate her. It's heartbreaking. And it IS exhausting having to constantly repeat myself in defending her but it's worth it, she's a great character

[belfrygargoyles]

and another! this isnt even any one specific case but one ive seen repeat itself several times over the past years!

anyone making a post about sex positive/sexually active aces OR any post, lighthearted or serious, calling for people to get more comfortable with the existence and expression of sexuality

responding posts: about people who are sex repulsed and allonormativity calling out that society already expects everyone to have sex and be okay with it and the movement is specifically for positivity and safety for people who dont, never will, and never want to have expectations of sex on their head

ik its nothing like new or revolutionary to say or posit or point out or whatever but half the time i see the situation where it’s like. post 1 making a statement about something/a stance goes around; shortly afterwards post/s very clearly criticizing post 1 specifically start going around too. its just like straight up a case of ‘your point isnt wrong and you’re also not in the wrong for responding this way but also i straight up think post 1 was not made about you/the situation/the people you think it was’

[tixdixl]

Tagged by @blithesharem to answer 15 questions about me!! Thanks buddy!!

01 - Are you named after anyone?

I named myself and Seris is a combo of an ancient Mediterrenian Deity and Seras Victoria from Hellsing.

02 - When was the last time you cried?

This past Saturday when two long time friends of mine who mean the world to me got married to each other. They looked so so happy and gorgeous and Im crying now thinking about it.

03 - Do you have kids?

AHAHAHAHA No. No i should not be a parent no. Don't get me wrong. Kids are brillaint. Kids are incredible gremlins. I shouldn't be a parent. Not with this mental health cocktail. No way.

04 - What sports do you play/have you played?

I'm a long time dancer. Been dancing since I was 6 and unironically had ballet this evening.

05 - Do you use sarcasm?

No, never lol (yes)

06 - What is the first thing you notice about people?

Vibe check. Literally. How do people hold themselves? What air do they have about them? Are they neurodivergent and if so I will usually clock what genre within minutes. Are they queer? Are they kind or are they nice? What kinds of immediate warning flags are there?

Im aware its the hypervigilence but I cant help it lol.

07 - What's your eye color?

Bright blue!

08 - Scary movies or happy endings?

¿Por qué no las dos? And why are they considered mutually exclusive? They deffo arent and some of my favorite horror films have happy endings.

09 - Any talents?

I dont believe in talents. All skills are earned even if we have predispositions to certain types.

Philosophy aside, eh? I guess???? Language learning probably. I can pick up on the phonotactics of a language really quickly even if I don't actually know the language itself.

10 - Where were you born?

Ye Olde Midwestern Liminal Space - Ohio

11 - What are your hobbies?

Cosplay, Drag, Dungeons and Dragons, Video Games, Reading, Writing, Painting/Drawing, Dancing, Learning, Language Learning, Alt Fashion/Sub Cultures, Enamel pin collecting...

12 - Do you have any pets?

Dex and Lani are my tabbies, and Ryven is my Bordercollie/Husky mix!

13 - How tall are you?

5'10" without heels.

14 - Favourite subject in school?

*slams my Master's degree on the table* Sociolinguistics

15 - Dream job?

University Professor or Fashion Designer... assuming either would pay well LOL

No pressure tags: @oathofoaks @inmateofthemind @rainesol @elenauaurs @simons-twsted-children

[tiktaaliker]

every time i say something positive about the veilguard i feel like i have to also complain about something so heres a bit more complaining from me.

i fucking hateeee the dialog options 99.9 percent of the time. Every once in a while theres something good but the vast majority of the time it reminds me of a complaint people threw around when fallout 4 first came out- all of your options can be boiled down to "yes" + "yes (sarcastic)" + "no (yes)". I want more chances to be a fucking asshole beyond just being a bit curt. And the fact that practically every choice has those stupid tone icons. And dont get me wrong i dont actually dislike the concept i just dislike the fact that i dont ACTUALLY get to choose what im saying, just HOW its being said. there were so many tines in just random points where i just was like. yknow if this was inquisition i wouldve been able to actually CHOOSE something here. (Specifically thinking about an interaction where davrin and lucanis asks what was rooks weirdest job and your ONLY options are just variations of "the one we're doing Right Now")

and on TOP of that there are soooo many choices that feel just. declawed compared to inquisition. This goes along with my complaint that all the companions like me way too much. Like the whole Minrathus or Treviso choice- sure it makes one of them kinda cold towards you for a bit, but they come back around WAY too easily because. wanting to help Minrathus and Teviso arent really mutually exclusive. So im partway thru the game and everyone loves me and we all have very similar goals. Meanwhile in literally every previous dragon age game i managed to completely piss off at least ONE companion. I had someone straight up LEAVE because they didnt like what i was doing in both origins and 2, and in inquisition i think i only managed to keep Vivienne as a VERY anti-circle mage was by going out of my way at a few points to make choices i thought she would like. Meanwhile in vielguard it feels like anything i do is going to be liked by my entire group.

AND THEY ALL GET ALONG WITH EACH OTHER WAY TOO WELL TOO. theres some sniping between them (ie davrin and lucanis + emmerich and taash) my fav party comps in previous games were fenris + anders or merril and dorian + sera. I thought i was gonna get something similar from Lucanis but NO. HES LITERALLY CALLED THE MAGE KILLER. AND I GET NOTHING. like there are SOME arguments between them but all rook has to do is say something like ummm actually we should all be niceys to each other and its over forever. What the fuck

[sucrows]

knock knock o/ 👉👈 i have... many madara mikejima thoughts. and im still thinking abt mutual obsession with him so uhhhhhh cw unhealthy relationship? we know why we're here... excuse me being annoyingly longwinded orz this is barely sexy. this is just me thinking abt mama im so sorry crow aaaaa

madara mikejima is the guy who would be at your service at all times— no questions just pure devotion. for as long as he is around you, you might as well say you have your own personal assistant. theres so many examples of him doing stuff for others and i will never shut up abt his fs1 where anzu was like hey what if your exclusive outfit was just a loincloth and he was on board purely bc she likes it. HE HAS 0 SHAME IN DOING EVERYTHING YOU SAY. NONE. YOU COULD ASK HIM TO BARK AND HE WILL. when that guy loves someone, he craves them with his entire being and desires nothing more than to be in their life.

he's also not above just. asking for a fwb situation. he wouldn't be so blunt about it, but it'd be a slow coercing. mama isn't above lying about his motives either. maybe he sees you're stressed and hey. let him massage your shoulders. lay down. oh your back is just tense huh? and it escalates until he's just fucking you with reckless abandon. well your stress is gone now so he offers to make this a regular thing. no strings attached and no worries. he just wants to make you relaxed.

here's where it gets messy. mama is also out of town a lot for work. he goes overseas, just touring around. but bc he spends every waking moment he is in town attached to your hip, his absence is so. prominent. and god it feels so awful not seeing him. phone calls arent enough. good morning and goodnight texts are sporadic because he's so busy. you miss having mama around to hold you while you do work.

and it's not great for him either. he's constantly worried about you. he can't get you out of his head. when he finally gets back it's like he's moved heaven and earth buying you various trinkets that reminded him of you (some even extremely rare and valuable since... he just collects those things anyway)

just. intense back and forth of hapoiness being with him every single day to devastating loneliness whenever he leaves. each time he comes back, ofc intense welcome home sex ensues. but it never goes past the fwb stage. any deeper feelings he's harboured are shoved aside and he grows distant when he feels like you want to get even closer. he always wants what he can't have. and he'd rather you not be caught up in whatever bullshit he goes through so he lies to himself saying he's content with meaningless sex and just doing things for you. even when you have consumed his entire thoughts. yet he's unaware that you are much the same. craving him more and more that you wanna get through to him. but HIS FUCKASS LONESOME WAYS MAKES YOU HESITATE. SO YALL JUST GO NOWHERE. AND ITS JUST A "what are we?" LOOP

mf.... madara just will not communicate. he can't go beyond superficial desires and acts of service because it scares him to face the fact these feelings have grown wildly out of control. it scares him because the moment he does, he fears his own self destructive tendencies will take over and he'll just ruin everything. whats more is that imo i think he would still unconsciously do things like distance himself, not speak to you for days even after coming back as like a way for you to grow to resent him. that way if things crumble he can just say oh the signs were there as if he didn't put those flags up himself.

uh yea 💚 thats all. uhm. unrelated i think youre super cool and i hope ya have/had a good day dependin on when you get to this 💚

minty i am going to become the JOKER if you do not stop apologizing for things i actively invited you to do and that is a THREAT /lh

anyways, this is soooo tasty idgaf if it's more angsty than horny i'm eating this up anyways, thank you for the meal 🙏

Madara Mikejima, King of Miscommunication. He adores you and puts you on such a high pedestal that it becomes nearly impossible to convince him to stand by your side as your equal. He believes that you deserve better so much but he's also too selfish to give you up. He's not worthy of you, but neither is anyone else.

He wants the emotional intimacy. He wants the domesticity. He wants everything. Hell, he probably indulges in these things pretty often in a FWB relationship, but he can't ever tie you down. The moment he gets the inclination that you're getting too attached, he runs. When you're truly in a time of need he will always be there for you but otherwise he's as fickle as the wind.

It's a horrendously painful but addicting relationship that neither of you can truly break off

[gibbearish]

saw a post being like "you cant say nonsexual kink exists, thats just a hobby" and im just imagining like. in a job interview being asked what your hobbies are and being like. oh yeah uh flogging, whipping, biting, being a dog, serving someone, being a footstool, cleaning someones boots, yknow. just normal hobbies. like no actually i dont think that would go over well, i dont agree that the rest of the world would see that as a hobby rather than a kink thing even without sex involved. also like. those things arent mutually exclusive? like. i feel like most of those ppl would consider kink to BE their hobby? saying its a hobby doesnt. stop the term from having a use. like its a subcategory. these words do not conflict with each other in the way you seem to think

[demiurgicfeline]

as someone who is very much not neurotypical i get very tired w how ppl talk abt Neurotypical People as like. some sort of weirdo freak aliens and wholly Other. and while i get that neurodivergent ppl are often talked abt like their thinking is alien, it isn’t helpful imo to do the reverse. neurotypical ppl think differently, no they arent freaks for liking small talk. and i think this way of framing things lends itself to the tiktok bullshit of “breathing is a sign of ADHD” bc every way of thinking and behaving becomes Neurotypical OR Neurodivergent, which makes ppl begin to overthink everything they do. and i fall victim to it, i become paranoid that every single thing i do is because of OCD, which makes me feel WORSE and isn’t helpful at all! 

every so often i see on here and on twitter some post decidedly saying “this is how neurotypicals function” and sure, sometimes! but like that one post about how “neurotypicals only ask about the thing you’re watching/playing because they want to join you and not because they want to hear about it” isnt a bad post, bc for some people, sure, that’s what they mean. for others they genuinely do want to hear! it varies person to person! but it’s the replies about “wow i cant believe all neurotypicals function this way” that feels very silly and unhelpful for everyone

basically neurotypical thinking isn’t something that can be hacked or that there is a guide for. neurotypical ppl can also be stressed out by social expectations and rules, they are not all thinking the exact same way just like neurodivergent ppl can think differently from each other. also sometimes ppl just are different from u. im extremely social, i genuinely LOVE small talk! i am also neurodivergent with severe anxiety! these are not mutually exclusive! also also neurodivergence is a big umbrella which includes a lot of kinds of thinking within it itself so like

[thisbrilliantsky]

i feel like this whole "likes vs reblogs" discourse is (as usual) two semi mutually exclusive sides of tumblr talking past each other. some of us are here to hang out with our friends and pass around funny pictures and sad poems etc., and to this side a like is a lil hug or a bro fist or otherwise silent acknowledgement that is appreciated as such. and some ppl are here to engage in a wider community outside their friend group; to create and share fanworks, art, original projects etc., and thus are trying to reach an audience who will hopefully engage with aforementioned art and share it so more ppl can engage with it. and here by "engage" i mean comment, and by "comment" i mean discuss, not just with the original artist, but with others as well. yes some ppl make art etc. just as a hobby and a lil hug from a friend or a mutual-in-law is more than enough reason to warrant sharing it online. but other ppl make art 1) for a living, and 2) specifically bc they want to DISCUSS that art and the creation of art in general with a wider audience, not just their friends. and if they can't do that here, they will likely try to find other places where they can.

and ofc, many, many of the ppl who were "audience members" so to speak (i.e., here primarily to find and engage with art in a community, not necessarily just to hang out with a small circle of friends) left in the great twitter migration a few years back. thus the art and fandom side of tumblr suffered a huge downswing, while the friendgroup hangout side continued mostly unchanged.

ALL THIS TO SAY! the artists who are sad or upset that ppl don't reblog their work arent just snobs who don't like hugs, theyre just craving a wider audience and deeper engagement in their work, and feel that when their "audience" only likes and doesnt reblog (which is where tumblr puts our comments/discussion!), it feels like said audience just hasnt found the artwork worthy of discussion. which naturally would make the artist a bit sad and less likely to post more art later. which is why there has been a push to revive the old art and fanworks side of tumblr which revolved around indiscriminate reblogging and essay-long tags etc. WHICH! is a completely different way of blogging! than those of us who just post stuff to talk to our friends and are NOT trying to reach ppl we don't know!

however! i'm sure we would all be sad if artists (im including gifmakers) left tumblr or stopped posting their work! it would hurt no one if we made a point to reblog more stuff for our lil friend groups! artists asking for more reblogs is not a personal attack!

and artists! pls remember that us lil friend group folks are giving u lil hugs with our likes! it means we liked it! and pls dont be discouraged by lower numbers of notes than five or six years ago, there are genuinely fewer ppl here than there used to be (tho considering the recent reddit situation idk how that may be changing) and the general vibe has changed to lean more toward private groupchat hiveminds than big groups of strangers talking to each other.

ALL THIS TO SAY! pls just. don't take all this personally. these are just two different ways of using this site overlapping. there are multiple perspectives here. more than one thing can be true at the same time. thank u that is all