#and the sex-positive to -negative and sex-

[novy2sirius]

numerology notes .ᐟ

— part seven

✢ your day number is what shows your main karma/karmic lessons. similar to saturn energy a bit. example: if you’re born on a 6 day your karma could be your family (this is only one interpretation though). i will make a post going in more depth soon! also because of this, on 8 days karma is more likely to come back to you (can be positive or negative depending on your actions in life)

✢ the number that is most likely to home wreck or cheat is 5’s. this could also apply to astrology when it comes to leo’s being the 5th sign and also their letterology equaling 5. this is why i don’t agree with the people that claim leo’s are “one of the most loyal signs”. although i don’t think they’re all cheaters of course because the whole chart matters

✢ if you’re trying to have a baby and are struggling with fertility issues, try having sex on a 5 day! 5 is the number of fertility. if that doesn’t work you should likely see a fertility specialist or adopt

✢ you’ll notice a lot of mothers or parents in general of 33 life paths are 9 life paths. this is why 33’s tend to have hard lives also. a lot of them have toxic parents (9’s can be very toxic when low vibrational). the 33’s still remain family oriented and loyal through this usually though because they will do anything for the people close to them

✢ the 2nd day of every month is often the most peaceful. this is because 2 is the number of peace in numerology. the opposite of conflictual energy

✢ if you’re lacking creative energy you should wait for a day with lots of 3/23 energy to create or come up with ideas for projects. 3 is the number of creativity

✢ life path 44’s are the most psychopathic life path. even more than 7 the most psychopathic reduced number. this doesn’t mean ALL 44’s will be psychopaths though. 44 is just the most psychopathic since 4 is most voided of emotion and 8 (the reduced version 4+4) is the most power hungry. this doesn’t mean it’s the most common number for psychopaths in general though, that would be 7’s. it just means the most evil ones have it

✢ dragons are one of the most good looking vietnamese signs since dragon in letterology is 5, the number of beauty

✢ people with 7 energy are good at figuring things out. this also applies to goats in vietnamese astrology since goat in letterology equals 7. goats are one of the smartest sign

✢ if you want to schedule a doctors appointment or any kind of medical appointment like a dentist appointment, etc then you should schedule it on a 5/14/23 day if you can

comment your day number !

[santoschristos]

Light From Darkness

art by Philippe Druillet for heavy metal january 1983

Sex has an 84 year cycle and is governed by the planet Uranus.

In a cyclical manner, the north and south poles of the planet Uranus alternately point towards the Sun. Those poles are the determining factors of the wonderful 84 year cycle in the human species.

If the masculine, positive pole of Uranus is pointed towards the Sun, then the masculine sexual impulse predominates on the Earth; yet, if the feminine, negative pole of Uranus is pointed towards the Sun, then the feminine sexual impulse predominates on the Earth.

For 42 years the masculine sex predominates. For 42 years the feminine sex reigns sovereign.

Light from Darkness/Chapter: The Sexual Energy Written by: Samael Aun Weor

In a molecular, superior level, the sexual energy contains within itself the universal seal or cosmic design of the true human; by means of Sexual Magic we can make this design crystallize in each one of us.

[goshdangronpa]

Where to begin in sharing my thoughts on Class of '09: The Flip Side ...

Well, how about the positives? Everything I've seen is so negative, and trust me, I have thoughts. But I enjoyed quite a lot of it, and I wanna do my part to balance out the discourse. So, here's a list.

Jecka makes for an interesting protagonist compared to Nicole. She's far more emotional - I swear, she breaks down crying in every route, which is genuinely disconcerting. She's also way less savvy. I'm not fond of how overwhelmingly negative these endings are (more on that in another post), but it at least makes sense. Nicole gets the upper hand in several endings from the previous two games because she's usually cunning enough to avoid potential problems, manipulate her way out of them, and/or get people in serious trouble. Jecka may be a bit of a bitch (and I love her for it!), but as she says in one ending, she kinda needs Nicole. Putting her in the protag role isn't just subbing her in for Nicole. Flip Side explores how things would go for someone with slightly more conscience and way less guile.

Jecka's so goddamn gay, oh my god. Wanting to look for a "goth work girlfriend" at Hot Topic. "I can afford holes, Imma buy me some hoes!" Kissing Ari! She says she only did the latter for attention, but girl ... girl. Someday she'll ask someone "Doesn't every girl think about sleeping with their gal pals?" and be shocked when that someone says no. (Tbh when I heard that one route would explore a previous game's route from Jecka's perspective, and when I saw the CG of the jeckari kiss on Tumblr, I created an entire plotline in my head that didn't come to fruition. Pity - it'd at least make for a good fanfic.)

"It's been seven seconds." The scenes based on this bit are some of the funniest in the whole series ("Why don't you magically gather some friends?"). Like something straight out of South Park. If the Co09 anime Kickstarter had reached the stretch goal of a full 25-minute episode, would this have been the script? I've heard people say that Flip Side doesn't feel like Class of '09, or that the dialogue isn't as good in this one, but this part, among others, works for me. "Can anyone do the math?" "... I thought this was health."

I'm a lifelong FYE patron who will drive 40-odd minutes to visit the only remaining store in my entire region. So for me especially, the entire FYE storyline was a ride. It reminded me of American Dad, where every episode turns something mundane into an elaborate conspiracy or wild adventure into its secret underbelly. It's awesome from beginning to ... well, not the end, but it's mostly awesome. And we get to hang out with Kelly! That's neat!

This is apparently my hottest take: the "foot whore" routes are not that bad. For starters, they're not presented in a way that fetishizes Jecka herself. You never see her feet, or see what she does with them. Yall can still find the suggestion of it gross if you want, but comparisons to Quentin Tarantino seem unwarranted! More importantly, the foot services enable the writers to explore topics of sex work while keeping the game light on actual sexual activity. It's rare to see such subject matter broached in a thing like this, yet we get to see how circumstances can pull desperate people into selling their bodies, and how swiftly and easily they can have their boundaries violated and their safety compromised by the customers they depend on. The increasing disruption of normal conversations by the text notifications of Jeffery's donations is a genuinely despairing plot device. Both endings are troubling for different reasons (again, that's for another post), but the game's got something to say in a way that, to me, is fairly mature yet distinctly Class of '09. (Credit to my partner for this observation, I'm so grateful I could play this with them.)

... Uh ... the music sting from the opening monologue bumps ... It sounds more Class of '17 than Class of '09, but it's still cool ...

Okay so I can't think of more, at least not right now. (EDIT: How did I forget the Hatman? That was cute!) Flip Side may be the most flawed game in the series, but it's still pretty good. At the very least, I don't think it's the shitshow other people are making it out to be ... though there is a smell. I'll go deeper on the negatives in other posts.

[clouded-void]

It always gives me whiplash when people describe oriented aroace as a “contradictory” identity. How is being an oriented aroace contradictory?

Most “contradictory” identities play with society’s expectations of X group which is honestly amazing. Aroace doesn’t mean “never feels attraction”. How is being oriented “contradicting” being aroace?

[throesofincreasingwonder]

You know what? I want a whole post for this:

Sex Repulsion is not the same thing as, or an excuse for, Sex Negativity

non-negotiable!

I am a sex-repulsed asexual. This means that I am uncomfortable and repulsed by the idea of engaging in sexual acts. This does not mean that I have an excuse to be repulsed by other people's sexual attraction or the right to police how other people engage in or express sexual acts or attraction.

Young queer people need to learn the difference between sex repulsion and sex negativity, and actively work to unlearn sex-negative attitudes. Asexuality, even sex-repulsed asexuality, is and should be fully compatible with sex positivity.

If you are uncomfortable with the idea of other people feeling sexual attraction or engaging in sexual acts that do not involve you in any way, that is not sex repulsion it is the cultural Christianity and you need to seriously work on that.

[lgbtlunaverse]

I've been wrestling with two beliefs I hold simultaneously but that I previously (incorrectly) thought were contradictory: that sexuality is inherently harmless, but also that specific kinds of sexual desire have been used to enact and justify grievous harm. The notion that men's sexuality is more important than women's consent, that white men's sexual access to white women must be protected from the "threat" of men of color, the idea that this specific kind of desire is so inherent to a proper society that if you have the wrong kind of sexuality you deserve to be shunned and harmed.

How can sexuality both be inherently harmless and measurably harmful?

Anyway, the answer is very easy, and part of why I feel like we should stop treating sex as something completely unlike other things and horniness as unlike all other emotions. Because I realized that, oh, right, this happens to other feelings too.

You know another feeling that is not inherently dangerous but is frequently used to enact and justify violence? Fear.

Fear is not inherently evil. Not even if it's irrational and your level of fear does not correspond to the level of danger you're actually in. In fact, irrational fears are such a common phenomenon we literally have a word for them: phobias. Which you are not evil for having. (Am I calling phobias the fear equivalnet of kinks? Kind of... I guess)

But fear and discomfort are used all the time to harm people. Let's say some random white woman is walking home late at night, and she notices a man is following her. This man might just be walking in the same direction by coincidence, but there's a small chance he's following her on purpose. It is quite natural for the mind to wander, and we frequently fear what we do not know. Discomfort or fear, in this situation, is neither inherently harmful nor unusual. However, if this white woman has been inundated her whole life with 'stranger danger' narratives and stories of women being brutally kidnapped, assaulted, and murdered by strangers. (Even though the vast majority of female victims are killed by someone they know, most often a romantic partner or family member) and she then, by the flash of a streetlight, spots that the man following her is black, and she has also been fed a narrative that black men are inherently violent and dangerous, that feeling of discomfort is enhanced and distorted until she believes she is in genuine danger and calls the police.

Statistically speaking, that guy really was just walking in the same direction, and is unlikely to be a threat. However she has now seriously endangered him, and justified it by the fact that she was scared.

A man justifying sexual assault because he couldn't help it, he was just so attracted to her. (And she led him on! She was barely dressed!) Is weaponizing his horniness in exactly the same way as people who call the authoroties on a disabled homeless person because they were "acting weird" are weaponizing their fear.

And all emotions can be weaponized this way. Anger is used to justify domestic violence ("you shouldn't have provoked me") Happiness and fun is used to jeoparidize safety (the last 30 years of olympic games have had a death toll among construction workers of over 116. The 2022 world cup alone has an officially admitted death count of 40, but the real cost is likely in the hundreds) disgust is used so often it's hard to restrict it to a single example (queerphobia, ableism, fatphobia, racism, misogyny, it's everywhere)

Sexual desire is just one way among many where the comfort of the powerful is valued above the safety of the opressed. It's not unique, but instead painfully common. And it's useful to keep this in mind not to devalue it or deny it's happening, but because we can borrow tactics and learn from similar situations rather than getting stuck on endless debates on whether porn is intrinsically evil or not, which will get us nowhere.

[redysetdare]

Hey if you're romance or sex repulsed just know that's is fine to be repulsed. You have the right to express your feelings. You have the right to take up space in the aro and ace communities. There's nothing wrong with you. You're not a morally bad person. You aren't spreading a stereotype or negativity by sharing your experience. You deserve to be here just as much as everyone else. You shouldn't have to silence yourself in favor of others.

You deserve support. You deserve representation. You deserve activism and protection. You deserve to be heard and seen.

[moonsporemoth]

shout out to all the ace peeps who fluctuate between sex ok or positive to sex negative randomly and are tired of hearing "But you were okay with it yesterday!"

Also, shout out to my fellow autistics who fluctuate between touch-starved and touch-aversion and have to hear the same thing if we say something.

[aro-bird]

Liking or disliking sex and/or romance should never be the litmus test that determines someone's intellect, morality, and value. Liking or disliking sex and/or romance is simply a neutral thing and should not determine what your worth is as a person.

You are allowed to like or dislike sex and/or romance as long as you don't shame others who hold a different opinion and as long as you're not forcing these things on people who had not given you consent.

The ability to pursue any romantic and/or sexual activity and relationship is inseparable to the ability to create boundaries for your own safety and vice versa.

Your actions should not trample on the rights of others and that includes forcing romantic and sexual acts on someone as well as forcing romantic and sex negative resistance against another person.

[theinsomniacindian]

Sometimes I wish that people would learn the difference between sex-repulsion and sex-negativity

[gay-at-ikea]

no but why is fuckboy simon becoming a thing in fics now, i can barely find a fic where that doesn't happen anymore and it's really driving me up the wall, like i know people can write whatever they want but this just feels like a completely different character. like sorry i want to read about simon and baz fucking each other, not other people, is that too much to ask for?

[arenabreadandbiscuits]

Asexual issues #1

Having to explain that asexuality is a spectrum and not just "yeah I like sex" or "no I f*cking hate it" all the time.

It's a spectrum for a reason, let's try not to accidentally invalidate others.

[chuplayswithfire]

Nuance is something that can be soooo hard for online spaces to hold onto. Hell, offline spaces too, for that matter. Today I'm thinking about kink and the concept of kinkshaming, when I think about nuance: that people should be allowed to enjoy and engage with kink, especially in fictional and fandom spaces where even bad kink etiquette can't actually harm anyone should be a given. Personally, as long as someone is tagging correctly and creating with self awareness, anything goes in a fictional space, you do you, your content deserves to exist online. I have personally created a variety of kinky works, both publicly available and not, and would really not have a leg to stand on trying to declare otherwise. In a time where people are cracking down heavily on kink and trying to decry it as deviance that shouldn't exist, being kink positive can be a very important, good thing.

At the same time though, the people have squicks, and when it comes to kink and a good culture towards sex in general, people have to be allowed to have squicks. If anyone's hearing the term for the first time, a squick is essentially a concept that just grosses you right out, you do not want to see it, you do not want to learn more, maybe it even distresses you to see it, but not to the extent that you would consider ot triggering content. A couple of common tend to bodily excrement: piss and shit, alongside guro (extensive bodily mutilation combined with sexual imagery). A squick doesn't have to be extreme, it doesn't have to be unusual, it's just something that grosses an individual out, and they don't want to see it. (And because this is tumblr and it must be said: no, racism is not a squick.)

Sometimes, we lean so heavily into the negative that we refuse to allow positivity. Sometimes, we get so into positivity, that we refuse to acknowledge negatives. People are allowed to talk about their squicks. If people see something that grosses them out, they don't have to shut up about it just because it's someone else's kink. Kinkshaming, the idea that someone would go up to someone else and tell them they're gross for their kink, is something people shouldn't do in general. But expressing disgust and distaste for a kink in general isn't kinkshaming - that's just talking about your squick.

Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That's Okay is about not hating on other people or demanding their works not exist because you hate the kink, not pretending that you find every kink, fetish, or sexual concept totally wonderful and would never react with disgust towards one. This idea in fandom that if you don't like something you should never say anything publicly because what if someone does like that thing, and is upset that you publicly don't like that thing, is ridiculous, and it has been for a while. Negative emotions have a place in fandom, especially in regard to sexual content. You shouldn't harass people who share a kink (especially when their content is tagged this is why everyone should read the tags) - but you also shouldn't go around saying people aren't allowed to use their own online space to process their disgust.

I've been seeing a lot of people lately saying anyone discussing how much they dislike a kink concept is just a kinkshamer, an anti, the purity police, and it's getting beyond ridiculous. We have the right to engage in kink, to write about kink, to make kinky art, create audio for it, and to in general delight in all kinds of kinky works. We also have the responsibility to make sure we're tagging correctly. Others have the right to dislike kink, including our own kinks, and to talk about how much they dislike those kinks. They have the responsibility to make sure they're curating correctly, that they're reading the tags and warnings on a work, and that they work out their negative responses in their own space.

Multiple things can be true: kink is a great way to explore sexuality and desire and a wide range of topics. people deserve to share their interest in kink without harassment or being belittled. one person's joy can be another person's squick. people deserve to share their squick without harassment or being belittled.

[neurotypicalabusesurvivor]

One thing both sex negative feminist and misogynists have in common is that they both view sex as men controlling and dominating women.

Instead of calling misogynists out they embrace a pink washed version of purity culture with belief very similar to people who buy into purity culture.

Sex is not about dominating women and people who buy in to that are idiots. It can mean many things, it can mean mutual please, it can man love, it can mean friendship and many other things.

[normalbrothers]

peaky blinders (2014, colm mccarthy)

[elhopper1sm]

Radfems will be like "reject feminine beauty beauty standards" whenever a trans woman expresses herself femininely. Yet at the same time all their pups are of thin conventionally attractive white women. Yeah so much for reject beauty standards. I'm literally planning to get my tits chopped off. Every single trans person alive has done more for rejecting traditional beauty standards than any Radfem has in ten years. Trans is beautiful. Transphobia and purity culture are not!