#and the romance centric thing
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About that misogyny in fandom post. I think it’s like… a complicated enough net of “what people want to see in fan creations”, “what people can relate to in fan creations”, “what kind of people make up for most of the creative side of fandom” (remember that “all men do in fandom is make power level tiers and theories” post? It’s bad but like. Shows the general sentiment), “what will give an author interactions”, and “how do people approach each other about their favourite things”. Like there are many factors, and I think sexualisation and fanservice should be counted in too, and the diversity offered to male vs female characters. I’ve said it once before but it’s generally much harder to find a female character who has the same freedom of expression as a male character. And a lot of them are not made with the same enthusiasm as the male ones. Like yeah, that is misogyny but I think it’s not like. A fandom-root problem but a source material problem too? And imo the audience will subconsciously or not react to that.
Plus, maybe this wouldn’t be so visible if fandom wasn’t mostly ship-centric… Because as it stands, even if there is a voice to explore non-romantic and sexual relationships oftentimes it just ends up being a very sad/isolating experience still. Hmm
#d0 stuff#rising my ‘can I have a over powered non-male lead in an actions series’ flag again#like even looking at sth as small as action or isekai it’s Impossible to find that thing I’ve been looking for#it’s sad and revolting#but like. this is not about the fans. it’s about the creators also (mostly?)#like idk. I can be frustrated but I wouldn’t blame the people for not being enthusiastic about sth that the creators didn’t care enough ab#eh#like I get it it was a post that probably wasn’t meant to breach containment but you know#it always irks me when people thing it’s only one factor at play#and not to mention gender#and the romance centric thing#yeah okay I will leave this dog alone#but as people said#no amount of telling people to enjoy female characters more will make them do it#the shift most probably has to come from the source material
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What’s different about Eddie, Steve realizes once’s he figures out he has feelings for him, is that they are genuinely friends first. Steve’s always thought romantically from the get go. Nancy, Hedi, and the long list of girls’ names he has tried very hard to remember (head injuries were no joke), we’re all firmly placed in the romance column in his brain when he first meets them. Hell, even Robin moved quickly from coworker to extremely misguided romantic interest. She’s his platonic soulmate, his other half (non romantic), but he still had those thoughts at first. And sure, he usually ends up friendly or even friends (looking at you Nance) with these once romantic interests, but it was always after.
With Eddie, it had been a long journey from strangers to friends (and briefly rivals). But Eddie was first and foremost his friend. It made him different, it made him special. Steve thinks it should have been the fact that Eddie is a guy to throw him off, but it isn’t. Instead, it’s the fact that if he could lose one of the best people his ever had the pleasure of calling his friend.
They learn each other slowly, without purpose without intent. They learn each other just because. Just because they can, just because they want to. They may have been pushed together by circumstance, but they stayed for the pleasure of just each others company, and nothing else.
Eddie is perhaps not his other half of his soul such as Robin is, but instead the other part of a set. Not matching, but cohesive. Strange, but fitting. A separate piece, but important to make him whole once again.
It was risky. He will be risking his comfort, his home for the slim chance that Eddie feels the same. He will be risking the first person to make him laugh, making him smile without wanting anything first. It isn’t about sex, food, a ride, or for him to “do your job dingus.” Eddie makes him laugh because he can, maybe only wanting (if anything at all) his time.
Steve will be risking the one person who never asks, and the one person Steve will give anything for anyways.
It should scare him that he is so unequivocally Eddie’s even without him asking, even when they are only friends, but it doesn’t. No, what scares him more is the risk he will be taking if he decides to push his luck. Luck he historically doesn’t have.
But hell…Steve Harrington is a known risk taker after all.
#steddie#stranger things#Steve and Eddie and the slow burn they deserve#but a happy slow burn#steddie fic#ficlet#steve harrington#eddie munson#robin buckley#friends to lovers#steddie writing#writing prompt#my writing#steddie wip#steve harrington centric#romance#steve x eddie
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okay sorry for having opinions on sonic shipping but . the more popular a ship is the more likely i am to be annoyed by it so its probably for the best that my favorite ship is one of the not as popular ones . but also the way sonknux gets talked about (or not talked about) as a result of it being less popular drives me up the wall . what do you mean it doesnt make sense. hes literally not staring at the moon and thinking about him💔
#theyre literally the sun and the moon and you dont even CARE ....#okay but ive actually seen random sonknux posts get a bunch of comments from so/nadow and kn/uxouge fans#along the lines of ''umm i prefer so/nadow :/'' or ''this doesnt make any sense so/nadow is better'' or ''nooo knuckles likes rouge''#like ohhhh my godddd shut UP#anyway theres so many things that sonic and knuckles have done that if it was sonic and amy or knuckles and rouge#or sonic and shadow doing it instead it would get labelled as peak romance#i know this to be true because it literally already happens sonic and knuckles do something gay and its cricket noises#then sonic and shadow do the same thing later. sometimes in the same show/comic/whatever . and it gets reposted everywhere . what#hell none of the other pairings i mentinoed even have to do what sonic and knuckles do they just have to stand near eachother#and people start freaking out ...#also im not saying youre legally obligated to like sonknux too if you like so/nadow or that you cant prefer so/nadow#but. if you think so/nadow makes perfect sense and have convinced yourself that its basically canon and every interaction between them#is a hint from sega that theyre secretly dating or something and you make the biggest reaches imaginable to prove it#while also thinking that sonknux doesnt make any sense at all and labelling it as a crackship or whatever#i can only assume that you arent paying attention to anything that happens in knuckles centric stuff#and/or being That obsessed with so/nadow has just heavily warped your perception of things. because how#and its not even just so/nadow .. knu/xouge is constantly overshadowing sonknux too#but at least so/nadow is actually okay its only crime is being too popular and having some annoying fans as a result#knu/xouge on the other hand is too popular and has a lot of annoying fans AND sucks . which is worse#but so/nadow is one i find myself comparing it to more often because its another gay pairing#and also people are obsessed with taking stuff from sonic and knuckles' relationship/interactions and giving it to sonic and shadow instead#and acting like knuckles doesnt exist and stuff that sonic and knuckles did first is exclusive to sonic and shadow or something#whatever . runs away
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I think my main issue with fandoms that become ship centric or otherwise centured around the attraction to a particular character is that there’s just such an overwhelming abundance of it. and then you get like, nothing else. it’s just weirdly isolating when you’re into something so much but everyone else seems to only be into it in one particular way
#crow thoughts#it’s not bad or anything it’s just frustrating at times!!#especially when I come on here to genuinely talk about my interests#only to be bombarded by romance centric things#sucks ass sometimes man sorry
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finished the Covenant of the Crown. a little bit of good mckirk at the beginning and some good spones in the second half.
#the first half is very kirk-centric the second is mccoy-centric and an OC plays a big role having her own arc throughout#questionable mccoy romance but what's new with mccoy's romances#leni reads trek books#a novel catering to me because there was almost no kirk and spock interaction#feels like a thing with this author
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Hanahaki AU where pre-YT Dream used to have so much love to give but growing up he has to keep it inside so he starts growing flowers and he has had to get them clinically removed often before it grows to dangerous levels, but once he starts meeting munchymc and eventually doing YT with George and Sapnap, he learns to let out some of that love to his friends and fans, slowly... little by little... and then all at once... it's hard to do so, esp when the weight of hatred grows more upon his shoulders but by his example, everyone arounds him also learn to support and love more openly (and maybe that's what saves his heart from bursting more flowers dangerously)
#i had this as a dnf au concept before#but after reading another hanahaki tumblr post#i wanted to share this lil concept thingie#it works better as a found family dream-centric type thing instead of just romance#so here u go#munimuni
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Hmm dont get mad but
Not really into this whole everyone spilling their guts to me under the mistletoe thing
#and then u can kiss them if u want#it just feels shallow#u gotta have these moments be natural#theres actually this one scene back during the 1st asmo centric event#im telling yall right now that was the perfect moment for things to get a little “spicy” if the player wants it too#we were literally alone in a storage area#come on now...#anyways what was i trying to say...#u gotta make it feel more natural#those moments where we are sitting with one other character doing whatever#those are the times to add a little romance#we dont even have to be alone really#like asmo asking to hold mcs hand in chapter 1 of the event#shit like that is better imo#it feels less forced#obey me nightbringer
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if you dont believe romance negativity is a thing fuck you actually.
#also the dumbasses saying this are so american and western centric#where I live romance negativity is a CULTURAL thing fuck you I hate you if youre like this
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friends, i am watching movies this weekend
#I'M AT LEAST 45% SURE SOMEONE MADE THIS POST ALREADY BUT I DON'T REMEMBER#its really more of a blog entry though#I'LL ALSO TRY WATCHING GDT'S PINOCCHIO BC I'VE HEARD NOTHING BUT GOOD THINGS ABOUT IT#and of course its gonna be good i just know it#its not the same genre as the two above but its movie time#its my first time watching little women 2019 but i've watched p&p 2005 about 37384719839729 times already#way high up there in my hand picked list of romance centric m/f medias#also i will never get over how gorgeous keira knightley is she is very very pretty#c.txt
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there are downsides to being from a culture that is so puritanical and sexually repressed that the public will riot over chaste, consensual kissing in romance films (while not blinking at gratuitously shot rape scenes in blockbuster hits) but because i know that the flagship het couple is certifiably in love when they sing together with a beautiful landscape in the background what the hell else was i supposed to think was happening with jai and veeru sholay (1974)
uh huh
maybe if this were a western movie and i was being "queerbaited" because they don't kiss. but i'm literate in south asian cinema, so i know that when they sing together it means they're canonically in love. rare gay W for us.
#this is tongue-in-cheek#but like the point is that different cultures represent love differently on screen#so the idea that you're being queerbaited because you don't get a kiss because kisses = confirmed romance#is a pretty western-centric complaint#amongst other things#rape mention#friends are lovers
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hate how gus and hunter have scene after scene after scene together as friends & brothers and yet everything is about willow & hunter as a romantic ship
im glad for the shippers but im begging people to stop sleeping on gus in general
#its the one two combo of fandom ignoring black characters and fandom's tunnel vision on romance#hunter and gus's platonic relationship is one of my favorite things about the show and has the next highest amount of screentime#after hunter & luz (platonic)#but everyone is obsessed with willow & hunter bc its a viable ship#im happy for willow/hunter shippers but#can fandom as a whole take off the shipping goggles for FIVE MINUTES#also love how gus will have entire gus-centric episodes and everyone zooms off to the B plot#because apparently giving gus any attention is illegal in the toh fandom#i am gonna write so much gus fanfic once i finish season 3
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The Hero and the Crown by Robin Mckinley or any of the books from Tales of Inthya by Effie Calvin :3c
added to TBR | on my TBR | couldn’t finish it | did not enjoy | it was OK | liked it | loved it | favorite | not interested
ooh, interesting! neither of these were on my radar before. I’m picky about what I read in terms of YA fantasy these days but I’m tentatively putting them on my TBR for now for when I’m in the mood…
#I see women centric fantasy and dragons and queer romances and my ears perk up#they seem like the kind of thing I would have read/enjoyed in high school#which is not to say that I wouldn’t enjoy them now even if my reading tastes have shifted#but back then I was reading a lot more along the lines of tamora pierce etc#book.answers
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bitches after becoming fans of The Romance Media: but why does there have to be romance tho :/
#like don't get me wrong#i am all for things being less romance-centric in general#(im aromantic* and acespec)#*romance favorable/i want a relationship i just don't feel romantic attraction#but like. if you voluntarily become a fan of something that is almost completely romance centric because that's the type of media it is#you CANNOT be out here complaining about it being romance centric. find another thing to like then bestie idk what to tell you!#just like not EVERYTHING has to be romance centric not EVERYTHING has to be non-romance centric!#especially when it's These Teenagers Suck! Let's Watch These Pubescent Assholes Ruin Eachother's Lives And Kiss! type media#girl romance is the whole point! you wouldn't pick up a fantasy book and then complain that it's fantasy centric!#this post is about the tdi fandom btw#post
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my sister told me that she doesn't want me to play any gay movie whenever we hang out and i'm like damnnnnnnnnnn i'm running out of cishet films i can show her..........
#and it's crazeyyyy coming from her since she is fruity herself or at least i think she is....given her history#sawwwwwy like i cannot stand straight movies u know the type#she wants to watch things like anything but you and movies that have a lot of sex scenes and intimate moments#girl some of it is NOT enjoyable how can ppl watch dry ass films that have boring romances#not saying all m/f romance centric films are lame they are actually rly scrumptious though there comes a time where they are shoehorned#and it's so obvious that it has a specific audience in mind so it turns me off quickly
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2023 reads / storygraph
Bad At Love
short YA romance
a boy who’s recently moved to the US when he joined a popular band through a reality show, and has a bad-boy reputation that he wants to get rid of
and an aspiring journalist who wants to dig up dirt on him to get a scholarship
after a chance encounter, they start dating over the summer for their own goals
demisexual Brazilian and pan Brazilian-American MCs
#bad at love#gabriela martins#aroaessidhe 2023 reads#very short and fast and easy to read but is lacking a depth in the overall narrative. kinda skips over belivability for Why they're doing i#and the end is so fast and overdramatic while barely sitting in the complexities of the actual events#her lie was way worse than his goddamn. even if she didn't know what was going on with him#his demisexuality is fine; it’s mentioned a few times and I appreciate that it's something he's already figured out and identifies as#as even though he's never really had a relationship#think the thing I enjoyed most was the aspects of Daniel's experience as a Brazilian in the US#and his insecurities about joining the band who're already friends and the development there.#Plus conversations around their cultures and being white-brazillian in the US vs being seen as the US-centric id of 'PoC'#I wish there could have been a bit more of both of those things#For me; short-and-sweet YA romances work best when the stakes are lower so that things can be explored more in the short pagecount.#and obviously take this with a grain of salt i'm not the intended audience etc etc#demisexual books
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One of the really fun and interesting things about writing a polyamorous romance as someone who is ambiamorous/polyamorous is finding new ways to make sure the narrative hits the expected genre beats without just sort of... mushing it into a pre-existing monogamous romance mold, which is what I'm afraid happens a lot of the time.
Trust me, it was my job in the publishing house to make them fit that mold. I hated it.
Reading other poly-centric romances, I can always somewhat tell when someone is writing polyamory from a sexual fantasy aspect (zero shade; I'm here for all the group sex) without actually considering how it functions as a relationship dynamic, which can often come off as... well.
It's lacking for me as a romance.
Erotica-wise, it's fine. But it misses the romantic beats for me that I want as a polyamorous-leaning person.
There's so much emphasis on the polycule and never the individual dyads within the larger relationship.
For example, in a triad, there are actually four relationships to handle.
The dyad between A + B. The dyad between A + C. The dyad between B + C. And the overarching relationship between A + B + C.
With monogamous-leaning authors or authors that've been pressed into conforming to the pre-existing genre beats, there's a tendency to treat the relationship as a homogenous mass where everything is fair and equal, and you treat all your partners the exact same way.
And I get it. It's easier to write everything as peachy-keen and to have external conflict be resolved with either acceptance or a brave confrontation.
But it doesn't always land for me as someone who wants to see my style of love represented in the genre.
In healthy polyamory, either closed or open, each relationship is unique in its own way. Taking the example of a triad again, the way A acts with C likely differs from how A acts with B.
And that's a good thing!
Because C might not want the same things as B, so trying to treat them both the exact same is a surefire way to make sure someone isn't getting their needs met, and that will lead to conflict.
Polyamory isn't striving for equality between partners but rather equity.
What are your individual needs, and how do I meet them, as well as meet the needs of my other partner(s)? What do you want from the larger relationship as a whole? How do we accommodate everyone without making someone feel neglected or uncomfortable? How do we show this in the narrative? How do we make sure character A isn't just treating B the same as C in every interaction? Do they ever fall into that pitfall? How do they remedy it?
It seems like common sense when you write it out like that, but it's a major pitfall I see time and time again. The characters never alternate their approach between partners, if there's any focus on the individuals at all.
The other major telltale thing I've noticed is that taking time to be with one partner is seen as a step down from the "goal" of the greater polycule.
The narrative is framed in such a way that they might start out with individual dates, but the end goal of the romance is to eventually be together 100% of the time all the time, and wanting individual time alone with any one partner is somehow "lesser."
Which is the goal of romance in monogamy, but it's not the goal of romance in polyamory.
Granted, you do need to end on a Happy Ever After or Happy For Now for it to fit the genre requirement. And a nice way of tying that up is to have everyone together at the end as a happy polycule all together all at once. I'm not disputing that as a narrative tool. I'm just pointing out that there's a tendency to present those moments as the sum total of the relationship when in actuality, there are multiple relationships that need to end happily ever after.
The joy of polyamorous love is the joy of multitudes. It's the joy of experiencing new things, both as individuals and as a polycule. If you're not taking care of the individual dyads, however, your polycule is going to crash and burn. You cannot avoid that. So why, then, is there such avoidance of it in stories meant to appeal to us?
Is it simply inexperience on behalf of the author? Or is it that they're not actually being written for us? Is it continued pressure to meet certain genre beats in a largely monogamous-centric genre? All of the above?
Either way, I'm having fun playing around with it and doing all the things we were warned against in the publishing house.
I'm having fun with Nathan and Vlad enjoying their own private dynamic that is theirs and theirs alone. I'm having fun with Ursula and Nathan being so careful and vulnerable around each other. I'm absolutely 100% here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula without a chaperone. And I'm here for the chaos of Vlad and Ursula together and Nathan's fond, loving eye roll as he trails after them, too enamored to tell either of them no because where would the fun in that be...
Anyway. Don't mind me. Just getting my thoughts out while everyone else is in bed.
#long post#rambling with joy#I see so many interesting stories just sort of... neglect the dyads in the end#and it makes me sad#I wish it happened less
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