#and someone who hates fat people
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Controversial idea but I think the idea of “the skinny girl who calls herself fat for eating food is terrified of becoming fat and therefore deserving of ridicule” is wrong and shitty and harmful and typically based on the speakers own hatred of their body and insecurity
#no they are not fearing being fat because they think you’re a disgusting monster and it’s a personal attack against you#they fear being fat because society will fucking abuse them if they don’t rigorously police themselves and stay skinny.#you should sympathize with that point.#it is VERY easy to tell the difference between someone who fears being punished by society#and someone who hates fat people#but you do have to get over yourself and your insecurity to do it and some of y’all are really fucking averse to that#just because someone desperately trying to avoid being abused by society in a way you can’t hurts your feelings#doesn’t mean they deserve abuse from you on top of that.#they are not better for succeeding at avoiding societal abuse and most don’t think they are#one of the things that made my eating disorder much worse in my teenage years#was my fat activist peers shaming me for having it because it MUST mean my worst fear was looking like them because I hate them#rather than fearing more social abuse and ostricization that I felt I could avoid
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The older I get and the more terrible takes I see the more in favour I become of gatekeeping
#text post#Normies who so so so badly want to be part of a certain crowd to be quirky while being actually disgusted by that crowd's whole thing#People going “I want that old man” but the character is 30 because they can't imagine someone REALLY thirsting after an actual older man#“He's so caked up!” about a Genshin Impact character because when people say that they can't POSSIBLY mean being attracted to fat people#“This game is ableist” because the horror game with horror themes explores extremely dark concepts#and they want to like the popular horror because it's cool to like it but they can't fathom people ACTUALLY liking REAL dark content#“This game should have an easy mode” because the super hard game known for being hard is too hard for them#and they hate not being part of the fandom about the hard game that's known for being hard#“Ok hear me out” about the most milquetoast character because when people say “hear me out”#they can't POSSIBLY be ACTUALLY attracted to the really weird shit#and if they are any of these things they are sick and twisted and problematic and -ist and -phobic and perverts and degenerates#I'm done#Stop trying to be a freak for clout when at your core you're actually happier with generic crowdpleaser media#Stop moving into spaces not for you and then demanding they cater to you#And forcing out the real audience using morality and shame as your weapons of choice#I'm so fucking done#vent
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This is such a harmful sentiment to push considering that you don’t necessarily have to be “attractive,” (beauty is subjective, yada yada) in order for men to want to harm you in the slightest… like man, what…
#the lady talks about being followed and harassed and so on as if every woman and girl in the world regardless of their age and#‘good looks’#hasn’t experienced this and will continue to#I hate when these girls especially ones who are conveniently attractive talk about stuff like this under the guise of speaking for all#women while x-ing out most women#this easily leads into the realm of ‘you’re too ugly/fat to be assaulted ANYWAY-‘#talk that I see spread by misogynists and bird brained women like it’s such a natural thing to even say it’s actually rly scary#especially when it comes to the assault shit which is usually about power and control anyway#they don’t care what you look like#you could be covered up head to toe and someone would try to hurt you just because#I hate when women like this go online thinking that they said something open their mouths I really do#rambling#tw assault#got dudes in the comments going ‘she’s not even pretty anyway she’s like a 4 out of 10’#completely missing the message (as if they care) and see#these are the kinds of people that stuff like this attracts#stuff like this coming out of a woman’s mouth especially is so dangerous#I don’t think I’m the most good looking person in the world and I’ve been followed sm times I had to run away from a guy once and luckily#my bus was right fucking there!!!#then the guy who was harassing me years ago at a bus stop and forced me to hug him and touched my butt and no one else was around to help#me…#and he kept on trying to get me to go back to his apartment around the corner like that was so#the man who followed me into the store as I was shopping and I noticed that he kept on staring at me#then tried to holla and he looked way older than me and I think he was a pastor or something too he had a nice car and tried to get me to#come with him#sm more incidents over the years like this is crazy pls don’t say stuff like this and act like it’s normal#someone in the comments said that people like the woman in the video think that being pretty will free them from the patriarchy and like…#YEAH 😭#it’s so obvious too lmfao#these be the same women calling themselves ‘girls girls’’
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Fat men that mock and degrade fat women should be hunted for sport.
#radfem safe#radfems do touch#radfems please touch#radfems please interact#there's this weird subset of people who act like fat men are uwu Chubby Soft Beans and it's so hysterically funny to me#as someone that's lived with a verbally abusive unkempt fat man with anger management issues#and as someone that's known multiple geeky fat men over my life who had a visceral hatred of fat women#or geeky women that didn't fit societal beauty standards#even if those same women were still 200% more well-groomed and better looking than they were#you can't guilt-trip me into being sympathetic towards misogynistic fat men and i'm beyond giving a shit#stop showing up for men that will gleefully throw you under the bus in a split second#just because someone made fun of him on the internet or in high school#it won't stop him from hating your guts or treating you like a stepping stone when it's convenient
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its 2024 stop drawing willow park thin or skinny already
SHE IS A CANONICALLY FAT CHARACTER
FAT. CHUBBY. PLUS SIZED.
and we LOVE HER THAT. WAY.
#willow park#toh#the worst part ? most of the artists that do that are like#PROFESSIONAL artists ya know ? if it was someone who's still learning i can let it slide but#its CLEARLY people who KNOWS how to draw pretty well and just refuse to draw fat people#hm#and the excuses are the worst part#“she works out she exercises she looks thinner as the seasons go by specially the finale”#the day yall find out that people that exercise and are healthy can ALSO BE FAT your minds will blow up#and just compare willow to other characters and TRY AGAIN to say she is thin when she's CLEARLY NOT skinnier than the others#yall just hate fat people and characters. yall have all the characters in the world to identify with. let us have this one thing#and specially for girls. its rare when we get a fat girl character that is actually awesome and isnt the joke just for being fat
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i am guilty of retweeting one or two emma d’arcy thirst traps & the rare bran stark fancam and that’s it! can i be blamed for being gay or susceptible to sad songs & neat transitions!!
#getting on my soap box#these are the people who LOVE to do the ‘my fave is skinny but yours is fat’ thing#the thing is u can’t even do this u gotta be on the algorithm’s ass or next thing you know#you’re getting rage bait threads titled ‘top 10 ways sara hess is a misogynist’ by someone w a name like daensvalyrians#and a lucrezia borgia badly edited w silver hair and purple eyes icon!#u think i’m being specific there are thousands of these people#and i fall for the rage bait every time that’s why i hate them aksjdjdjd leave me alone 😭😭😭😭#i’m not shading that anon!!! just thinking about all the crazy discourse i’ve managed to miss makes me mad akskdkd
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Every time I go to a party I'm reminded that it's not that I can't interact with people, it's just not a desire I have :(
#i always feel so guilty when ppl i just met are like wow u seem so cool! because im really not!#im good at masking and making people feel comfortable! its got nothing to do with my personality unfortunately#no version of me is as true as who i am by myself and idk i feel like a fraud for being nice?#ive had many people be disappointed when i just. dont want to hang out#im not a 1 on 1 person i hate being alone with someone#even with people i dearly cherish i just cant find myself comfortable when others are around#and its not about them either i think im just not compatible with social interactions#im not really looking for advice btw like this is just something im coming to terms with#i love people i truly do i just cannot exist properly around them#anyways fat bear supper was really nice :')#the mashed potatoes??? they were so fuckjng good like bro you dont understand#and shoutout to the ppl who made a salmon lasagna that was so good as well#friends played a beautiful beautiful song they made (if they end up putting it on spotify ill share it here its about a cow named Margot)#anyways i guess soft reminder you never know what people are struggling with regardless of how functioning they appear#(mashed potatoes recipe is as follow: unpeeled potatoes#+whole milk+butter+rosemary+thyme thats it thank u)
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Y'all gonna hate me for this one, but you can't call it a homoerotic friendship if that woman was never into you. It's called lust, limerence and delusion.
#txt#lgbt#wlw#lgbtqia#there is nothing more dehumanizing than being on the ace spectrum and being on the receiving end of this#words cannot describe how betrayed i felt#like especially considering i had to figure it out for myself#some of them arent even gay or bi they just want someone who IS between their legs like WHAT#i was a relationship with my fiancé and reliving gay rumors about me like why would i ever use someone as a beard#people can't tell the difference between platonic and romantic attraction and when you're kind to someone they think you want them#there's a stigma of being bi or pan where people just think your body is a free for all#or that you're really gay and confused when you're with a partner who is your opposite gender#like i always stayed away from dating women after being harmed by them all my life and oooh that was my last straw LMAOOOO#like i hate that people get obsessed with the idea of me#and when i fall from their pedestal they just want to ruin my life because they didnt get sex from me#even worse when they dont like you but they want to BE you like you are not gay#like they dont have an identity in general and are just latching onto mine and using romance as the excuse for access#so sick lmao im venting in the tags#homoerotic friendship my fat ass like a real friend would NEVER
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The thing is "forced diversity" only became a real thing after people online got called out for only ever having like white ocs or just Never making women [ESPECIALLY TRANS WOMEN] and now sometimes I see a character lineup and its like Oh I can like actively see the diversity checklist you were crossing off in your head specifically to try and get tumblr woke points because you are being so fucking Weird about this. Like in an effort to be like LOOK LOOK AT HOW DIVERSE MY CAST IS I AM ADVERTISING THIS BY JUST TELLING YOU ABOUT HOW DIVERSE EVERYONE IS YOU DON'T NEED TO KNOW GENRE OR THEMES they make it so clear that making characters of color or women or disabled characters etc has to be a Conscious Choice instead of just. Something that comes naturally because that reflects our real world.
#Sorry I started thinking about that fuck ass paranormal park or whatever show#Makes a character who is a fat trans man. Makes his last name FUCKING GUTTMAN.#and again like. The complete performativeness of Woke Anachronisms#Like sorry man. If you make Sir Arthur and his knights do a pronoun circle thats stupid#The fact of the matter is a lot of the terms we use to describe things are new!#Like you don't have to have a character state every minute detail of themselves to be good rep#And frankly as someone who doesn't tend to bring things up unless its relevant like#I want more rep for people like me pleaaaaaase#There are so many of us that don't feel the need to be open with Strangers abt gender/sexuality/abled status/culture#like. It just isn't other peoples business!#I need to log off before I go on a tangent about how much I also fucking hate pronoun circles#I have to do them so much in college. Please. Please I'm so tired of how weird people are#If someone wants to know they can Ask Me stop making me choose between#Outting myself to the whole damn room or misgendering myself if the vibes aren't right#ANYWAYS. Bed time yaaaay ^w^#chittering
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listen im honestly not surprised bc
a: trumps fans are genuine fanatics at this point and the majority believe he is sent straight from god
b: america hates women (esp women of colour)
like was anyone really expecting anything different? he barely lost last time. he won against a white woman. of course hes going to win. it genuinely doesnt matter that he's a convicted felon and overall just beyond wildly incompetent and most of all a terrible fascist. america just hates women and loves a broken form "christainity."
#im WAY more mad about the senate.#esp in wisconsin.#shes had this job for how long now and she lost to someone who thinks fat people deserve to pay more for healthcare#good god i hate this country
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I am still in my feelings about that "I didn't transition to look like Elliot Page: I wanted to look like Hank Hill" thing because like?? Very fucking rude to Elliot Page first of all?? What the fuck is the subtext here? That he doesn't look enough like a "real" man and is some kind of dilettante who we shouldn't take seriously until he mans up, or something?
Also like... as far as I know Page is not attracted to men, but it feels vaguely homophobic? "I want to be a Normal Straight Man who looks like a Regular Guy not a fucking [slur redacted]" Like fuck off? And it had so many notes! How is policing the gender presentation of other transmasc people being so roundly fucking applauded, oh my god.
#like I've also been seeing a lot of transition timeline stuff where the subtext seems to be#'oh wow when he started out he was just a silly little girl trying to be an uwu smol bean elf prince#but thank god! now he's jacked and has a big beard! a real man!'#dude!!!!#what your body looks like shouldn't be the deciding factor in whether or not you 'deserve' to be correctly gendered????#I know guys who've been on t for years and have had top surgery and still do not pass even more than half of the time#and I know guys who passed as soon as they got a haircut and started shopping in the mens section#because of physiological factors beyond any of their fucking control!#even notwithstanding hrt and surgery!#I'm always going to be the height that I am#my hands and feet will always be small#even with body fat distribution changing my hips will always be wide#so if I still got misgendered after medically transitioning would it be because I just wasn't trying hard enough?#because that's what it fucking sounds like these people are saying#also! men don't stop being men if they don't style themselves like hank hill???#stop talking like someone who'd tell swishy gay guys that it's their fault homophobia still exists#because they keep 'rubbing it in everyone's faces'#I hate you I hate all of you
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kind of frustrating that people took "fat does not equal unhealthy" to mean "fat is not unhealthy." sometimes being obese IS unhealthy & excess fat can cause a lot of problems. ignoring health issues isn't progressive. real "oranges kill people with depression" moment
#i have a lot to say but i think it all boils down to this:#the only reason people think this way is because they experienced body shaming & bullying for their fatness#& instead of gaining a healthy relationship with their body & its needs they went full denial mode#people that aren't fat that think this way are just going with things uncritically which is also bad btw#because when you have decades of proof that being severely overweight can be detrimental to your health#(& no i don't mean fucking. supersize me. i mean medical proof that too much fat causes diseases & early death)#but you're ignoring that because a tiktok influencer that has no medical experience said so#that is a huge lack of critical thinking skills on display & people are gonna listen to that misinformation & some might die#this isn't some light shit that can be waved off as non-harmful because it IS harmful! it is actively hurting people!!#again being unhealthy isn't a moral failing & no one deserves shit for that!! but that's the whole damn point isn't it!!!#militant fat activists are so afraid of their fatness being associated with anything negative they turn right around into ableism#they don't WANT to be considered disabled! because being disabled IS a moral failing to them. disability is abnormal#& of course being morbidly obese is totally normal. because if it wasn't then they'd need to do work & handle an ED#& that's too much to grapple with mentally so. no. they're normal. super normal. don't look at the lifespan of someone over 300lb#btw i am 100% aware that a lot of this is combined with other issues like racism sexism homo/transphobia genuine fatphobia#but also sometimes they really can't operate on someone that can't recover afterwards#like i wouldn't call the vet bigoted & cat-hating for being unable to operate on my 20yo cat#Minnie would simply not survive that. because she is so damn old#unfortunately for Minnie she can't get younger but people CAN lose weight in multiple different ways#& it may seem like the world is attacking you but you really have to train yourself out of automatic bad faith reactions#''you couldn't possibly understand!!'' yeah okay i'm sooo abled & privileged you got me there (<-sarcasm. if you couldn't tell)#just because someone hasn't experienced your EXACT thing doesn't mean they can't relate & haven't gone through similar#it's so difficult to train your brain out of that shit i get that but you really really really have to. or you will die#or at least be miserable#DISCLAIMER: i'm not talking about every person who has even a little fat on their body. fat is NEEDED#but like all things too much of a good thing can cause problems & fat is not exempt#this is about morbid obesity. not someone who's like 160lb that shit is normal#& people need to stop thinking anything over 110lb is fat#because it isn't & i think most people are getting into unhealthy territory at that low of a weight#basically i view being too fat the same as being too thin. they both cause health problems & should be taken seriously
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a character's self-deprication being what keeps them from being in a relationship can be really good but mostly when the self deprication is 1. justified and 2. only no longer an issue because their significant other is Into whatever they're angsting about
#random thoughts#writing ref#like 'i can't be with them because i've committed horrible atrocities and know only violence' and the SO is like 👀👀👀 please murder me#or like. one i really like is a dude who's like a hardcore submissive. can't get off any other way.#and he's just kind of assuming he'll be alone forever because yknow gender roles and whatnot#figures at best he'll have a sexless marriage#and then he meets the world's bitchiest woman <3#this is what i imagine clark kent and lois lane are like btw#idk. something about a big fat man. brick shithouse of a fella. being dominated by a very angry pixie woman#plus typically with that kind of setup the big reveal would be the woman *letting her guard down* and *submitting*#but i really like the idea of her letting her emotional walls down enough to let this man submit for her. to have someone reliant on her#like she's a business woman who's all work because she's been constantly disappointed in her dating life#because people try to ~get to know her~ and get her to ~let her guard down~ but like sorry she's just like this#she's the kind of woman who plays stardew valley with spreadsheets. runs that farm like the navy#she likes being in charge!!!#god the more i think about these two they're just becoming more and more autistic#they both like structure because the guy likes not making decisions and the gal doesn't like surprises#like the guy doesn't like making decisions on the spot and likes being guided through stuff#and he likes knowing that if he DOES do something wrong then there's a guarunteed result (safeword) which tells him to stop and change#and the gal likes being in control and hates surprises because it means she has to think up what to do on the fly with no data#she likes planning things and scenes make it so everything can go smoothly#she makes like. worldbuilding for her roleplay scenes. has a lore bible#both of them have to communicate effectively!!! NO ROOM FOR MISCOMMUNICATION#kink negotiation scene where they're both dressed in office casual. sitting at a table. they shake hands afterwards shksjakaka#i think they're like. i don't think they're dating. at least not yet#they're living together and having sex on a regular basis and would probably get married but i don't think they're dating#they don't kiss. i don't think she likes kissing on the mouth#they're like. best friends who fuck. queerplatonic. can people in queerplatonic relationships fuck?#god this got away from me
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i cannot explain well why the twink shit with tim annoys me so much but its v much 1) the fetishy vibe of it always being about characters fandom perceives as the 'woman' in a gay relationship, who they then make more incompetent ('hes a nerd hes not even good at fighting!') and 2) why are you so insistent on him being a twink. why is it so important that hes skinny. answer quickly
#im sorry to break it to you but the guy who has been punching people every night since he was 14#is not going to have the skinny twink body type you all so desperately want him to have#now someone would point out hes been drawn skinny in comics and let me tell you. i dont care. he also fights people constantly in comics#but you dont care about that do you#anyway .#txt#yall hate fat people (hes not even fat ! sad) and you cant be normal about queer people
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in the newest edition of skinny bitch audacity (fatphobia):
comparing weight gain to... being a meth addict. and that you can look at someone and be qualified to say theyre degrading their health if they arent a small enough size for you to be attracted to them/be 'acceptable'
[IF YOU SHAME ADDICTS ON THIS POST YOURE GETTING BLOCKED. IF YOU SHAME FAT PEOPLE ON THIS POST YOURE GETTING BLOCKED. I WILL NOT WARN YOU TWICE.]
#literally as someone who put a small hole in my nose from snorting pills i stole and destroyed an oven making meth#i think my eating disorder is and always will be the biggest health issue i have subjected myself too#people treated me better when i was skinnier and diluting drain killer and throwing up on myself after attempting suicide#then being fat and more gentle to my body despite my surroundings#im disabled and not the healthiest vs walking 30 miles a day before but... i was fucking destroying my organs and had no personality#that isnt healthy!!!!#this is the same mindset that encourages eating disorders! that encourages and excuses doctors dismissing fat people's problems and blaming#it on weight when that isnt a factor! the same mindset that kills thousands!! get a life get a personality and stay out of peoples business!#thats not even going into how fatphobia as a whole has racist origins and how it still upholds to this day!#educate yourself and liberate yourself instead of still upholding this bullshit that harms millions#i hate skinny bitches you owe me 500 dollars and the decency to shut the fuck up for forever#ransom note#cw fatphobia#also adding that note at the end like. this site loves being hostile to fat people AND addicts and im not entertaining your audacity either
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#incapable of seeing people and not crying after it seems!!!!!! I’m glad that I get time alone but now I’m Super Alone again which.#I am just tired. of being alone all the time! not having friends around! not seeing people! being ignored!#and just like. I’m tired of being so good at everything else in my life except for having relationships and having my shit together#but then not being able to figure out how to find friends or make anyone interested in me or whatever#like I don’t really even want to date someone except for the fact that it would make me less lonely!#and it’s also just so ridiculous bc like. idk. I just have no idea how to even like put out into the world that I would like to be seen!#and seen as someone who is attractive! and wants to have friends! just. god. they should make a being in ur 20s that doesn’t make u sad.#like I don’t hate being fat in the same way as I used to but I do know my life would be easier if I was skinny. and I would be like pretty#or whatever! just. ugh. it doesn’t help that I’m not perceived as like anything other than woman half the time either. I need. a hug.#and more friends I can talk to who aren’t dating each other. I have those but they don’t. talk to me.#so it’s. whatever#roxy talks
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