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historical drama/sitcom where two gay best friends (woman and man) get lavender married--and proceed to spend the Fancy European Honeymoon their parents paid for acting as each other's wingman
#and hijinks ensue. obviously.#BONUS POINTS if they're gender nonconforming/questioning/trans coded#back at home they'd get dressed up then switch outfits in the taxi on the way to the gay club#now that they're married/on vacation in a new country they just wear what they want#he already has a glamorous collection of silk dressing gowns but she's the one who drags him out to buy a closet full of evening gowns#he tries to throw his suits out to make closet space and she steals them for her own wardrobe#also i think they should be a fun mixture of supportive and Cattily Judgemental about each other's dating decisions#just for funsies#like when your bestie is making a mess of their love life but you're in no position to lecture them bc youre WORSE#no wait wait wait#FINAL SEASON they both realize they're trans and move abroad permanently--where they each assume the other's legal identity!!!#SERIES FINALE: a joyful double wedding--wherein they lovingly divorce each other#and (under their switched identities) legally marry their longterm partners
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An entertainer wanting to entertain in their typical garb and persona seems logical enough. It’s meant to expose children to the big personalities of an art form based in gender performance - not sex performance. Drag as a whole isn’t meant to be mocking physical, sexual traits but rather the aspects of gender that society imposes. This gendered performance can be masculine, feminine, or incorporate elements of both, the same way that a clown takes elements of their personality and heightens them to the point of hilarity.
It doesn’t seem productive to be so worried about how entertainers would like to entertain children in their free time (in a way that exposes those children to art and gender expression in a very personal way) when you could use your time to read to children as you are, or perhaps learn the history of drag rather to better understand it’s significance in society and to marginalized communities.
how come the drag story hour dudes don’t want to read stories to kids as themselves? why do they want to do it as their adult entertainment personas? why are they so hell bent on putting a degrading mockery of females in front of kids who are largely spending every waking hour with their mothers? most of these men are supposed to be homosexual men. would that not be better representation?
#drag#as someone who supports art and loves children#and has done drag#and research on the history and performance of drag#but who would rather read to children out of drag#and doesn’t consider himself a gay man beyond it being easier to explain than demisexual and wanting to contribute to queer activism#I support drag story hour#drag isn’t just impersonating women#it’s playing with gender#and fashion#and art#and performance#to reduce it to something degrading and ugly shows a personal hatred#and lack of knowledge#so please understand#this isn’t about your personal feelings#it’s about an art form used by the queer community to understand oneself#and ones gender identity#being made out to be predatory#more religious and political figures and teachers (typically men) harm children than anyone else#yet you aren’t calling their professions degrading
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“Women and non-binary people” stop. Do you mean people with marginalized genders? Do you mean gender-oppressed people? Then say that. Stop refusing to recognize the very much gendered oppression of other trans people. There’s not some chasm of difference between how our oppressors treat a very masc non-binary person and a more binary trans man. I’m also non-binary and very much oppressed for my gender but because I’m transmasculine I could never feel comfortable in a space that marketed itself like that. Tell me what the real harm is of letting gender-oppressed mascs into spaces discussing gender oppression is. Because the consequence of not doing so is denying them space for their experiences just because of their gender identity. Do better.
#‘’but 🥺 we don’t want men in our spaces 🥺’’ why. these men are oppressed for their gender identity & expression.#‘’well some people have trauma around men’’ some people have trauma around women too. should we keep them out of queer spaces#‘’their appearance might make someone uncomfortable’’ are you also keeping out cis women butches and trans women who aren’t hyper femme#because if so your space has serious problems and you are the one making gender-oppressed people uncomfortable#so many trans women are wary of these spaces because they police perceived masculinity. so how abt stop doing that#transandrophobia#intracommunity issues tag#mine
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Hunter x Hunter is like this is Alluka her incredibly abusive family that doesn’t treat her like a human refers to her as a boy but Killua, the only member of her family that loves & cares about her, explicitly refers to her as his little sister. & some fans are still like What could Togashi have possibly meant by this. We will never know
#idk the people who literally tortured & manipulated one kid & isolated and neglected another probably aren’t the most reliable source#for Alluka’s gender identity.#hxh
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ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story
#you know. the one with the pendulum#'hey. why are you as an allo person shipping this aspec character like this'#'oh aspec people can still date/have sex!'#'yeah. now can you answer the question that i actually asked you'#like goddamn just say you don't care they're aspec and you want to fulfill a sexual/romantic fantasy with them. that's Fine#it like. sucks. for sure. lotta aspec people will be unhappy with you. but everyone is entitled to their own wants and experiences.#but i'd prefer you just be honest with it rather than using our community's conversation points as retroactive justification#and ONCE AGAIN. you guys are real fucking cavalier with this shit and it shows a real fundamental lack of respect for aspecs#when most of you would NEVER ship a canonically gay character with the 'other' gender. cause again. it would suck.#you can do it. nobody's Stopping you. but it would suck.#and we understand that putting a queer character in situations that erase that queerness is shitty! until it comes to aspec characters!#and whoa... there it is again... people don't consider aspec identities to be queer... crazy how it always comes back to that#anyway. you all know what i'm talking about. have seen many posts about this lately#it is [ long sigh ] unfortunately a very hot button issue with the advent lately of alastor hazbinhotel#which. again. god i wish there were other canon aspec characters to be having this conversation about.#but we'll have to do our best with what we have#aromantic#aromanticism#arospec#aroace#talking#aspec#asexual#asexuality
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NO MORE ASSOCIATING THINGS WITH FEMMES ONLY BECAUSE THEY ARE PINK!HYPERFEM FEMMES ARE GREAT AND I LOVE YOU CAMPY FEMMES WHO EMBODY PINK BUT ALSO JESUS CHRIST CAN YOU GUYS NOT GO MORE THAN ONE DAY W/O TRYING TO SHOEHORN FEMMES INTO BEING ONLY PINK UWU BABIES. I AM FEMME AS IN GRASS AS IN DIRT AS IN TREE BARK AS IN WEEDS SPROUTING THROUGH THE SIDEWALK CEMENT. FEMME AS IN GENDER NONCONFORMITY AS IN FUCK YOU MY FEMININITY IS WHAT *I* SAY IT IS. FEMME AS IN DEPTH AND DARKNESS AND WARMTH AND TERROR. FEMME AS IN CAVES. FEMME AS IN LIGHTNING. FEMME AS IN AN AMALGAMATION OF TRAITS THAT I HAVE DECIDED ARE FEMININE REGARDLESS OF WHAT SOCIETY SAYS. FUCK IS IT THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND?!???
#personal#i am emotional yes#over the years ive had this blog I've made a few posts abt being femme#nd whether they're serious or jokey..... inevitably someone in the tags goes “ohhh yeah bc pink”#or in the case of what inspired this post: someone going ���what about the pink ones” on my praying mantis post#and im just.#sick of it. im sick of femme being equated to pink and frilly girlie behaviors.#im sick of femme being equated to skirts and heels. to makeup. to skincare. to pristine nails exactly almond shaped.#im sick of ppl acting like All femmes aspire to this shit. im sick of femms being reduced to this shit.#and i love pink! i love pink! my phone theme is quite literally just black and pink all over.#im just. so tired of any expression of Femme identity being shoehorned into being a Specific type of femininity#especially as someone who DOES get dysphoric wearing skirts. wearing dresses. embodying the femme aesthetic yall are so set on making#if u guys wanna rb this i truly dont care#i just needed to scream#and this is one small thing#but the 2nd largest category of anon hate i have gotten since making this blog is str8 up homophobia from other “queer” folks#saying i cant be femme bc of how i present. calling me slurs (and using them as such) bc they cant understand femme as anything but that#my wife and i have our users in our personal discord server set as 2 different things of anon hate ive gotten#i have had OTHER FEMMES tell me i am not femme. femmes who Know im femme who still call me butch. femmes who ive corrected and been blocked#-by bc of it. the number 1 largest demographic of queerfolk who have me blocked rn is TME femmes who embody pink also#and i dont think its a coincidence at all. (and i know this bc i go to try and follow these ppl bc they get rbed on my dash & i cant)#and ik their blogs arent deleted bc some of them don't block my wife (tall. white. butch) and it cant be politics cause her and i rb#a lot of the same political shit (fuck. i think she rbs More than i do even. this is genuinely mainly a nsft blog)#and usually i don't say anything but im having a bad day so i get to be angry about this and if anyone fucking tries me i will block u#idc if we've been mutuals 4ever. im judt so tired of feeling like i am not Enough as a femme bc i dont embody this shit#im sick of this lameass lip service to he/him gnc femmes etc when the thin white 50s housewife femme is still what is preferred and loved#im sick of this lamesss lip service when y'all feel entitled to theorizing on other femmes genders bc u cant conceptualize a femme who does#wanna be hypetfeminine. im sick of it. im sick of it. im sick of it.#celebrity bun
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It's so wild to me that as a community we're still so hostile to multigender and genderfluid people existing in gay and lesbian spaces.
You...are aware that people who are both men and women are allowed to be gay, right? And lesbian? Their other genders doesn't cancel their connection to womanhood, or manhood, or whatever else they id with. They are allowed to be gay despite their fem-alignment, and they are allowed to be lesbian despite their masc-alignment.
It comes from these weird online spaces that the standard to be gay or lesbian is to be a "non-woman" or a "non-man," which is inherently transmultiphobic and...extremely ahistorical. And completely misunderstands nonbinary identity. So if you're both then you just don't belong anywhere I suppose.
#they treat these people as abnormal when really shoving anyone into categories of non-women and non-men is fucking#completely out of touch with how identity works#like i saw a demiboy lesbian flag and the comments are just FILLED with teenage queers getting so mad for no reason#saying shit like im in your walls or your father left you or whatever#please this is so CHILDISH grow UP#multigender#genderfluid#gay#lesbian#lesboy#turigirl#queer#lgbtq#just a he/they transmasc nonbinary boydyke lesbian VERY tired of this nonsense#actually erasure of multigender experience and that one of our genders will cancel out the other#made me very resistant to the fact that i may still be connected to feminity and girlhood#even though i am undoubtedly am#transmultiphobia
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BALAK, PANGAGAD
uhhh conspiracy. can be a courtship dance. ritual. so to speak. & hosting one in your house is an act of service
#(vague hand waving) gender or something as well. the romans sure do love discourses on identity. moving along!#i'm working on something that leads to a scene where Trebonius says that in a different life Cassius would've#made an ideal wife for someone. and Cassius is like. lmao. sure whatever. and it'll spiral out into bickering or whatever and Trebonius#would say something about how Cassius could've been a modern Lucretia. or something.#Cassius would of course return fire with Portia being their modern Lucretia for having to put up with Brutus during All Of That#EH. we're work shopping it. the more immediate one is when Cassius says that his name can handle the weight of a shared#conspiracy (incorrect it requires a sacrifice of Brutus but for a moment they can all indulge in a fantasy)#ANYWAY. back to courtship rituals. the conspiracy can also function as a barkada and serve as the go between#drawing tag#komiks tag#roman republic tag
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@qdkdraws drew "Eve" (aka amnesiac cursed sinner Adam) from Vile and Blasphemous (featuring bisexual crisis Lute) and requested that I post since her internet connection is bad rn, so here you go!
In Keydid's words:
She dresses like a slut and it's so disgusting that Lute can't stop staring. You know, how sometimes people stare at scary insects.
Just because
no other reasons
#Hazbin Hotel#Guitarspear#Guardrock#Hazbin Hotel Adam#Hazbin Hotel Lute#Sinner Adam#Vile and Blasphemous#Giving Lute and sexuality crisis and Adam a gender identity AND normal identity crisis in one fell swoop
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Me, a child, reading A Series Of Unfortunate Events and seeing that Duncan, Isadora, and Quigley Quagmire are meant to look eerily similar to one another: "Ah. Identical triplets."
Me, a teenager, learning about how genetics work and realizing that a boy and a girl cannot be identical twins/triplets/etc: "Nevermind. Fraternal triplets who just happen to look super similar."
Me now: "They are in fact identical and Isadora is trans"
#a series of unfortunate events#asoue#normally I don't feel strongly about gender headcanons but I stand by this one 100%#Isadora Trans.#especially since the only other triplets we see in the series are identical as well (Frank + Ernest + Dewey)#and I feel like there's meant to be a pattern there
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Sorry, I typically keep my comics strictly about my own ace experience, but I've heard the dumb "exposing kids to trans people and non-gender-conforming stuff will make ALL our kids trans and it's bad for some reason" reasoning one time too many lately, so I felt like trying to be an ally
...Obviously if you were a drama kid for whom roleplaying WAS a good guide in your trans experience, even more power to you! I'm just saying I'm getting sick of bigots trying to oversimplify the reality of being trans in order to demonize it even more
#sorry if any of this was misguided just... yeah i tried#no one can know i don't like sex#trans ally#transgender#gender identity#my art#nonburger
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It is kind of funny how much I've detached myself from appearance directly correlating to gender actually. When I design a character I go. Okay. What would they wear that reflects their personality and surroundings? And I make a character who is a 30 year old divorced man who looks like this:
#He is dressing more femininely than he'd prefer because his whole thing is that he is a closeted transman who is overperforming his assigned#gender for social reasons. BUT even after he starts dressing how he wants it's still the same amount of pink and frills because now he's#doing it because he LIKES it not because he has to. Once he feels more secure in himself.#Like appearance and clothes is important to gender expression no doubt about it but also the world is so beautiful once you go:#Wait I don't have to perform in any particular way if I don't want to. I can do whatever I want forever.#Anyway welcome to my blog where I ask one question: What if a character was repressed? But then gained a support system? And they felt safe#to explore aspects of their identity they'd been ignoring in favor of conforming for safety's sake?
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Exploring your own sexual and gender identities through the means of old man yaoi RPF?
It's more likely than you think!
#another one of these 'would be a banger if a popular blogger had posted it' things lol#idek if it's *my* identity i'm exploring but i somehow like writing/thinking about gender etc stuff...#(in fact this was inspired about something i read about the beatles fandom lmao)
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my second gender take of the day is that nobody has the exact same gender. that isnt to say that for example trans men and cis men are not both men, but rather that ALL men are a slightly different type of man, its just useful as a way of categorizing the broad strokes of your identity. this is the same for women and ESPECIALLY genderqueer/nonbinary people because that represents everything not covered in two strict categories
#jupiter rambles#AND THATS WHY YOU SHOULDNT POLICE OTHER TRANS PEOPPE#EVEN IF THEY HAVE A DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE TO YOU#BECAUSE NO ONE EXPERIENCES GENDER IDENTICALLY
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I really want to see a more fucked up version of Charlie in canon. Like, okay, I am a die-hard for sweet bubbly girls in media. But I always see how some people make Charlie actually, oh I dunno... demonic? And it's so refreshing for her type of character. I could honestly see her having low empathy (and we kinda see this with how she handled Angel's situation or even Vaggie's nervousness about taking control on an activity). An exploration of that trait (if it was intended) would be interesting to see for a protagonist, especially when her main goal is about helping others. I would love to see her actually have a level of difficulty in understanding others' feelings from the other residents, sinners, and even her father.
But give her a fucked up side. Not a "she gets more power when she's angey uwu", but a "oh, she's a little fucked in the head". It would give so much to her character that she just doesn't have.
@/murmurmurena (don't wanna bother them so slash there we go) has some fun ideas with Charlie. I highly encourage people to check their stuff out! So many fun dark ideas with her character while also still keeping to her canon personality pretty well! Personally, I think Charlie being a bit more naive to her own messed up traits would work best but her also being aware of these traits can make for some interesting character for her.
THIS FIC, "A Game Between You and I". RIGHT HERE WITH THE FIRST CHAPTER. A bit of spoil for the fic here: but I love how they handled Charlie’s absolute ignorance as to why the idea of Russian roulette is horrifying to Angel Dust. It doesn't feel like her being intentionally malicious or aware that she's the odd man out here. This is also a pretty old fic going by only the pilot, but the point still stands that it was such a fun take for her character!
Charlie is one of my favorite characters in the show in part of the POTENTIAL she could have as being the most bubbly sweetheart character while also being the most messed up character in the show. I can't say I have strong confidence with the show's writing and fully expect them to stick with Charlie being the "nice girl but oh no, don't get her angry or she gets scarwy". Which isn't bad for a character mind you, there's just so much more potential to Charlie outside of that trope, especially when you get into the theories of her either being a doll, Roo's biological daughter, or what have you. And for the MAIN CHARACTER of the show, it would be not only interesting but also bring the spotlight back to her.
There's really no question that the side characters steal the show, particularly all the male characters. If I'm honest, Charlie does not feel like she gets a lot of love from the show itself when she's supposed to be the main character. She feels far more flat compared to the rest of the characters (again, the male cast in this "female-lead" show has more depth than most of the female cast currently. I wouldn't be pointing this tidbit concerning the genders of characters if it weren't for the fact Viv defended Helluva's lack of development with their female cast by saying "Hazbin is a female-lead show and Helluva is a male-lead" and Hazbin ended up with it not feeling female lead (to me) and the male cast just completely stealing the show. I don't normally care about gender stuff, especially since I do personally lean interest towards male characters. But using one show as a defense for poor development of the female characters, and then that show not really holding up with no very interesting well-developed feeling female characters irritates me. It's just very clear that these shows don't seem to care much about the female cast :/)
If you like how Charlie is written that's totally fine. PERSONALLY, I just think they're missing so much opportunity with her character by just making her the standard female character type. I honestly don't have a lot of faith they'll actually do something with Charlie's character though. She's a pretty static character in S1 being the same from start to end. Not changing or learning anything to create any development. What does the end of season Charlie do that start of season Charlie wouldn't do? Fight back? Because we see with the pilot (which is the “first episode”) that Charlie does fight people if pushed like with Katie Killjoy and even Valentino. Static characters can work in media depending on the show or their role. But Charlie is the MC of a show about “bettering one's self”. So to have her as a static with not a lot of strong dilemmas for herself (like we see with Angel Husk Al and even Vox) seems silly. Plus, considering Hazbin is telling a whole story and it's not a fun episodic thing, characters are expected to grow on some level. Or else, what was the point of their hero's journey?
#I honestly have a lot of problems with Hazbin's storytelling#That the limited time of doing plot doesn't even help it and shouldn't be used to shield the show from criticisms#Especially when you can find the same issues in Helluva Boss that has no excuse with the writing (though it's getting a bit better)#I love this show but goodness gracious it makes me have a tangent about it#Charlie's unimpactful character writing just being one of MANY issues#Hopefully the crew take all the criticisms into account for S3#S2 if possible would be nice but they probably had it all scripted by the time S1 was airing.#No shame on the female cast either they're fine. But when you compare them to the given depth of characters like Angel Husk Alastor and Vox#They're pretty lackluster. Vaggie's probably the closest to a female character with a lot of layers we've seen in the show#And she wasn't done very well with being essentially just “Charlie's GF” with not much identity outside of that explored much#Some of this may be more personal takes but it's frustrating. Again I don't normally care about gender stuff in media#It was just the excuse to Millie and Loona lacking development that bothers me#Like Hazbin is supposed to make up Helluva's poor writing of their main female leads#Loona got a bit of love with the Bee ep and Verosika and Octavia are pretty good. Particularly V with her relationship with Blitz#Whenever I start talking about aspects of Hazbin's writing I always end up ranting a bit (⁄ ⁄•⁄ω⁄•⁄ ⁄)⁄#Celtrist#cel rambles#hazbin hotel#hazbin hotel charlie#charlie morningstar#hazbin critique#hazbin criticism#hazbin critical#hazbin hotel critical#hazbin hotel criticism#hazbin hotel critique#hazbin hotel rant#You can really love something and still be critical with it#I do it out of love I swear#You're not in the Sonic fandom for like 22 yrs and don't learn to be critical of the media you enjoy lol
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actually always thinking of darth vader through a transgender lense bc i’m insane but also bc it is SO EASY to do a trans reading of his whole deal like to me, personally, in the star wars in my brain that is better than yours and doesn’t gaf about authorial intent, darth vader is in part a manifestation/personification of the horrifying feelings of loss of control that come with long-term repression/closeting or forced detransition. and this works on a purely superficial level because darth vader is hypermasculine in a way that starkly contrasts a lot of anakin’s softer/more androgynous traits but if we are to actually think beyond the superficial the themes of loss of autonomy and rejection of personal identity in favor of one given to you are veryyyy resonant from a trans perspective. constant insistent rejection of your true self. “that name no longer has any meaning to me.” even his voice is not his own. etc etc. vader is a reinvention of anakin but that reinvention is into an empty husk whose entire existence is to be another person’s pawn. vader is not so much a new identity as he is a lack of one. and i don’t want to dismiss that on a literal textual level disability is a part of the Body aspect but all this is far less about his injuries and part more about how they’re treated, specifically how his body is altered in ways that are entirely about creating a more imposing image and basically turning him into a weapon (there is no reason for him to be 6’7), and that again ties into the idea of Erosion Of Self. and i think these aspects come together in a way that is so easy to read as trans, or at least that resonates with me as a trans person, because so much of repressing as a trans person is inventing an empty version of yourself and accepting your physical state as something you are fundamentally not in control of and self-denial for others. and vader encompasses a lot of those feelings taken to body horror space opera extremes
#some of this is very specific to my transfem anakin hc but i am trying to hit on some broader themes and ideas#because i think regardless of headcanons one can do a Queer Reading of vader and his relationship to his body and identity#and The Body and The Self in general. to me anything about the malleability of either is easy to make transgender#darth vader#anakin skywalker#star wars#anakin gender tag#keat.txt
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