#and nonsensical

[sammakesart]

My headcanon for Veilguard is that it was a book Varric wrote, but the Chantry got involved and made him change a bunch of stuff. Most of it didn’t happen, at least not that way. They needed some propaganda, and quick. Their precious Herald of Andraste just fucked off with the Dread Wolf himself to live in the Fade forever. Varric begrudgingly made the edits, killed himself off in the book, then washed his hands of it, and is relaxing in sunny Rivain under a fake name right now.

[irusanw4]

Still confused about why Kabru took his pauldron off for a fight in the latest episode. He got hit exactly where it sits. Why did he do that. Was he trying to look better. Being well-equipped in a fight is the best look you can have. Laios literally said eating and resting well means you're serious about something he wouldn't say taking off your armor makes you serious about combat. It wasn't a bulky pauldron. He had to be used to the weight by then. What was going on in that freak's (neutral) head

[jealizmuch]

i love malevolent podcast but it’d be great if john and arthur stopped arguing over the same thing every 2 episodes

[cloudsofbespin]

i'm going to start blocking ppl who wish for daniel to die. i'm serious lmao. i'm at my limit here

[neosatsuma]

[emeryleewho]

2 things for people who unironically think relationships like these are bad:

"emotional labor" refers to an added burden people take on *in the workplace* and "trauma dumping" refers to putting heavy emotions on other people *during inappropriate times*. Your partner coming to you and sharing their feelings and expecting you to be emotionally supportive is literally neither of these things. That is literally the basis of a normal and healthy relationship. If you don't like these things, you don't want a relationship.

Literally no relationship is going to be perfect. Literally no person is going to be perfect. When we talk about red or yellow flags, when we talk about toxic behaviors, when we talk about signs of abuse, these are not meant to be taken in isolation. Literally every person and every relationship has things in it that are bad and that, coupled with other behaviors, would read as red flags or toxic behaviors or potentially abusive, but these things are not catastrophic on their own. The whole point is that if these things are consistent or extreme or impossible to work through, than that is a SIGN that something is wrong. The point is NOT that any relationship that has any of these things is one that needs to be avoided at all costs. Severing all of your relationships after someone does an bad thing makes YOU the problem. Individual bad behaviors does not make a person an abuser or manipulator or whatever buzz word the internet is running with this week. It is unhealthy *patterns* that are a problem, and if you're only open to being around people who are always perfect and never do anything that can be seen as harmful, then you are not looking to grow with a person or understand them or love them. You want an idealized projection of a person that will never exist, and you putting those expectations on other people is the *real* toxic behavior.

I think that in real life…. Relationships r like . Your partner WILL ‘trauma dump’ on you. You will have to perform ‘emotional labor’ for your partner. Your partner will make mistakes. You will also do all of these things. The very nature of love is irrational and problematic and difficult …. To expect a relationship to be free of these things is strange to me…. The point is that your relationship to that person is ultimately worth it, and worth growing with them, helping each other, seeing the worst parts of another person and being able to love them anyway

[bumblingest-bee]

”which could mean nothing” is maybe my favorite phrase of all time. where would we be without it

[victusinveritas]

[chaotic-neutral-knitter]

I think one of the kindest things you can do for people with various mental health struggles is just... let people back into your life after they've been absent for a while.

Making friends as an adult is so fucking hard already and isolating yourself from other people is a very common symptom of depression, anxiety, burnout, ocd, trauma, grief, etc. Which means that someone will do the hard work of recovery/healing and resurface back into a world where their previous friends have written them off because they stopped showing up.

So if you know someone where you're like "yeah we could have been better friends but they fell off the map a bit" and that person suddenly reaches out, or starts showing up to events even though you kind of forgot they were still in the group chat... well they may have been Going Through It and you don't actually have to punish them for their absence you can just be glad that they're back.

[thepoisonroom]

beauty standards are so fucked up what happened to i love your body because it's you. what then.

[nando161mando]

[makahitaki]

[lastoneout]

I know this is a tiny part of the wider problems born of diet culture, fatphobia, classism, and racism but like god the idea that "healthy" food must inherently taste bad has completely ruined us as a society.

[wolkewatcher]

i killed a fly once because i slapped it with my hand. lord i worry that violence solves it all

[yellow-dress-basil]

Since the Paralympics are happening and I’m seeing all sorts of people saying “See? This person doesn’t let their disability stop them!”

I would like you to remember that Paralympions are OLYMPIC LEVEL ATHLETES.

How would it feel if I compared your output to that of a literal olympic athlete and used that to justify not helping you or giving you what you need?

Oh, well Michael Phelps and Simone Biles can do it - why can’t you?

Thats how you sound.