#and my bi/pan people

[codemiracle]

Hi. I just found this account and omg I smell it might be my new obsession. I'm new and I haven't had time to stalk the entire account and lore of this butttt

Are there going to be any female love interests?

Is the game finished? And where can I play it

Srry if Im lost 😭 anyways, it just looks VERY good and I'm so in love with it art style

Thank uu!! And welcome ;] The game isn't finished yet, It's mostly something I do in my free time (which is not much) and I'm the sole programmer and artist... writer.... designer... and tester... so yeah, lots and lots of work for me ;; It's okay bc it's a passion project. And no, there are no female LI's buutttt I'm planning on doing some side project focusing on female characters (not soon, ofc) bc my fellow woman lovers deserve some Yandere content too. God, I wish I had some free time to work on side projects, I would love to make something with pretty crazy girls * sob * There are some pretty girl npcs to appreciate in the game tho :3c

[maple-and-pie]

Pride Eeveelutions!

Edit: now as stickers!

[annabelle--cane]

I don't think it's quite so simple as "queer internet discourse doesn't matter/exist in real life" because in order for someone to be posting on the computer they also have to be a real life person who might sometimes exist in offline queer spaces, I think it's more. social media isn't actually for having real conversations where you learn and exchange ideas, it's for automatically picking a side on an issue and Being Right At All Costs, but if you're looking at someone face-to-face and they say something out of pocket you can usually talk to them for five minutes and then they'll say "huh yeah I guess I didn't think of it like that."

[kakagowork]

To scare a biphobic/panphobic farcille fan.

[tenderpreyy]

​I’m thinking again about Astarions sexuality and how I've seen some people (to be fair, just a few) talk about it. Mainly, people pointing out his flamboyant behavior, and that us as players are learning more about his past male lovers than female ones and basically all these things for some people pointing to him being gay or at least not interested in women in the same way he is in men. And him only being a romance option regardless of gender, because, well, all companions are and he is therefore just "playersexual", only showing interest in female player characters because he has to, because of the game mechanics.

I think what really rubs me the wrong way about this topic is that it echoes the kind of things bi/pan people (speaking as a bisexual woman myself) find themselves dealing with irl. Whether through some form of internalized biphobia or from the outside through other people's comments. Of course this is about a fictional character so it’s not like he has any feelings that could be hurt. But when i see people tallying up how often he mentions men vs. how often he mentions women it really reminds me of a way of thinking I sometimes fall into in regards to my own sexuality. This is definitely just an internalized response and not something I actually believe when I truly think about it for a second, but I know these patterns of thought very well. Of observing my own behavior. How often do I find which gender attractive? Am I attracted "enough" to women? Do I talk about men's attractiveness too often? Is it the other way around? Am I only saying this woman is attractive to prove something to myself? I literally have a girlfriend and my attitude towards mine or other's sexual orientation is generally a huge big "whatever, I don't care". And I still have a passing thought like that from time to time.

So seeing people talk about a fictional character in this way really sends home how many people (whether consciously or unconsciously) see attraction as some sort of equation, you can solve, where in the end you get a result of either gay or straight.

[kitabearuwu]

I’m sick of the “Ben Pincus can only be gay he can’t like women at all” truthers arguing with me in my comment section like lord have mercy on me for daring to say a male character might like women and might actually have a gf after it being plainly stated in the actual canon of the show

[54625]

Sometimes I'll just be going about my day and then I'll remember how drastically my brain chemistry changed when Fit said "if I had to choose between the two it'd be a dad" and how I've never been the same since

[nikatyler]

some OCs age like fine wine, Carrie Lynn is one of them <3

[lgbtqtext]

[purpurussy]

I feel like the "dan is bi" anon is trolling but just in case they're genuinely confused: yes dan said in BIG that he loved and felt attracted to his high school gf (although he also made it pretty clear that they did not have sex so idk where anon is getting the idea that he has slept with "multiple women" 💀), and he alluded to his attraction not being confined to a specific gender in the part where he talked about labels, but you're completely taking all of that wildly out of context and missing the point of the whole video by calling him bi. I feel like this is probably the part that's frying their brain:

(shoutout to the legend @goldenpinof for this transcript!)

But firstly, imo it was very clear from BIG, as well as other stuff he's said over the years, that he just doesn't like labels. Which I find very valid, it took me a long time to figure out how to label myself. I still don't know what my gender is lmao but I started saying "bi" for my sexuality because it's a widely-used term that gets the point across. And I think that's the thing here: he came to the conclusion that the labels "gay" and "queer" are the best descriptors of his identity, which do the most accurate job of approximating something extremely psychologically complex and multilayered and nuanced in a simple everyday term that gets the point across to other people.

Obviously words mean things and it doesn't make sense to just pick a label at random (like for example it wouldn't make sense for me to identify as a lesbian, since I definitely feel attraction to men as well as women and everything outside the binary, and am interested in acting on that attraction at times, so I wouldn't be conveying accurate information to other people if I used the label lesbian for myself) but a label is just supposed to serve the task of conveying relevant information to other people (if a lesbian feels some kind of abstract attraction to dan and phil, that doesn't mean that the alphabet council needs to immediately revoke their lesbian card!! Since the word "lesbian" still does a perfectly good job of conveying relevant information to other people. Likewise if a straight dude has a fun little gay dalliance with his college roommate, but has absolutely 0 interest in men beyond that incident, it wouldn't be remotely necessary for him to start calling himself bi if he didn't want to, because what would be the point in that if he's only interested in women? Like if he told a gay dude who found him attractive that he's bi, only to backtrack... Do you see what I'm saying here?). It's perfectly valid for Dan to use "gay" and "queer" as umbrella terms that in his opinion do the best job of describing him, out of the language that's available. If he's like essentially a kinsey >5 and decided to just round it off to a 6 at this point, who are you to tell him he can't lmao

(shoutout to the legend @goldenpinof for this transcript!

Human sexuality is often way too complicated to boil it down to a single label in a way that doesn't erase any of its nuance, and I feel like this is something he's struggled with in the past, especially with him being a public figure. He's mentioned multiple times that feeling like he had to choose a label was a factor that prolonged his decision to come out.

And this is not even getting into the impact that his trauma from his childhood and also from spending a chunk of his formative years in the public eye probably had on the way he identifies or the way he chooses to label himself. It clearly took so much courage and strength for him to finally be able to call himself gay/queer please have some respect for our brave troops

Ultimately the point is that he uses the labels "gay" and "queer", not "bi", and it really shouldn't be difficult to respect that. It's also not biphobic for him to choose not use the label "bi" (again speaking as someone who uses that label). It's just that he feels "gay"/"queer" are better descriptors for him and nobody gets to determine that except him!! :) He wants people to know he's gay so he calls himself gay and that's that on that.

There are definitely people on here who are way smarter and more well-educated than me who would've done a much better job eloquently discussing this topic without rambling all over the place but that's my take (if anyone would like to add to this please do so, I'm always open to learn more about topics like this. And I'm also not saying that the way I see it is the only objectively correct opinion, but anon is definitely wrong so 💀). Thank you for coming to my ted talk

[tracle0]

Feast your eyes! My pride stars :)!

[hawkeinthecitadel]

Am i the only one who doesn’t like it when people try to enforce their Stardew Valley sexuality headcanons onto other players?

“Alex is gay, you shouldn’t romance him if you play a female farmer” where is this mentioned in game?

“Hayley is for the sapphics and the sapphics only” she’s literally not though…

[kwyoz]

wow, i love when the dragon age fandom is very normal about veilguard's companions being pansexual and totally not being lowkey really fucking pan and bi phobic.

[synthsays]

Guys I fell down the fiddauthor rabbit hole 😨

(Look at the tags)

[focsle]

Do I still have to see people blanket defining bisexuality in a reductive and incorrect way in 2023? Do I?

[joshbruh10x]

Gay Men.

I SAID I HAD SMTH PLANNED FOR THESE THREE BUT I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DRAW AND ENDED UP DRAWING A REMAKE FROM LAST YEAR'S PRIDE MONTH (SOBBING)

Anyways happy pride month y'all. Stay gay 💜💚🧡