#and literally use it to hurt trans people

[transfemme-shelterdog]

I know this is something you probably cant help me with given we're transitioning in opposite directions, but I hate hate hate having the "tranny voice." I thought I didn't have it, but then my ex (not ex at the time) went and said I have it literally right after I told him I never want it because my plan is to be cishet-stealth (area I'm in is ROUGH). He also then had the audacity to say "its okay I like it tho" like he didnt just say the most hurtful thing ever to me. But he was also obsessed with me being trans (chaser 🤮) so that's probably why he liked it

It's been almost a year since he told me this and I haven't been able to get it out of my head. And I'm tired of hearing the "oh just love yourself" bullshit every time I bring it up to other trans people to see if anyone knows how to fix it. It's a matter of safety, not love. But no one seems to get that?? The amount of times I've heard "still love yourself even if it's unsafe; you shouldnt have to change" okay cool thats great for you but I'm going to be STONED to death.

I mean, I can help at least to the extent that I've gone through male puberty. So, I hit puberty around 12? 13? My voice started cracking around that age (I had a very feminine voice, and now it's a very masc sounding voice when I don't put on my "girl voice" that I learned through training), and it didn't settle until I was around 25?

So it took at least a decade to get a masculine voice, through T alone. So I can imagine it would also take quite some time for all the voice changes to finalize on T.

My only advice if you want more changes faster, is to work on voice training. There's lots of online videos and stuff you can use, along with therapists who work with just that. Another thing that I found helped me with voice training, is singing. Working on pushing your voice to a deeper range can train your larynx to push lower, so it's easier for you to speak at a lower range naturally.

I'm sure others here have some tips, but that's just what comes to mind for me. It's not much, sorry, but it's my best.

[a-griffin-in-the-sky]

Do you view all trans-women as inheretly fetishists? Because there are still those who do have dysphoria not born out of sexual reasons

Hmmm yes and no, it's not a black and white issue. I'm not out here saying every trans woman is some cartoon villain with a panty fetish obviously not. Dysphoria is real, some folks are deeply suffering, and I’m not here to mock that.

My issue isn’t really if it’s a fetish or not. My concern is when that fetish crosses boundaries. When it's used as a cover to infiltrate, dominate, or override actual women’s needs and safety. That’s where I draw the line.

Because yeah, there is a disturbing pattern men with autogynephilia who fixate on womanhood in a way that’s all about domination and entitlement, and who then use that to cross lines, commit crimes, or guilt-trip women into silence. And those men are defended more fiercely than the women they hurt.

So no, I don’t think every trans woman is a monster. But I do think there’s a refusal to examine how fetish and identity get blurred when it comes to male socialization. And how that blurring is too often weaponized against women.

And honestly? In my day-to-day life I’m just 4b. I’ve tapped out. I don’t hang around AMABs anymore, I don’t really do friendships with them, don’t trust them, don’t feel safe around them. It doesn’t matter to me what label they pick. Girl, guy, deerkin, whatever if you were born male, I’m not handing over my energy.

It’s not personal, it’s not even political half the time it’s self-preservation. I don’t care what they’re going through. I’m not their therapist, and I’m not their rehab center for womanhood.

Like, I’m sure I’ve talked to AMABs on here. They slip through sometimes. But usually it’s just me picking them apart, watching the same pattern loop entitlement, manipulation, rage when you won’t play nice.

And let’s be real: no trans woman has ever come to my aid in sisterhood. Not when I’m getting threatened, not when the dogs get let loose on me for saying “hey maybe women deserve boundaries.”

Not one of them has stepped in and said, “Hey. That’s wrong. Don’t threaten to rape her for having an opinion.”

That silence? That’s louder than any tweet.

So forgive me if I don’t buy the sisterhood sticker just because you say “girl.” Sisterhood is action. It’s solidarity. It’s risking something. And I’ve only ever seen women-born women take those hits for each other.

They can’t even laugh at Terf-chan. Like girl… how do you get mad at a deliberately cringey 2000s anime girl with jagged little cat teeth and no eyebrows going “nyaa~”?

It’s literally designed to be over-the-top, satire-core, weaponized cringe and if your identity is so fragile that a fake anime girl saying “baka” makes you spiral into threats and meltdowns, then maybe the call is coming from inside the house.

I call her Terf-chan on purpose because that’s the word you throw at any woman who says “hey, maybe I don’t want male people in my changing room.” That’s the slur you reach for when a woman sets a boundary.

So fine. Here she is Terf-chan. A parody stitched together from every insult, every anime joke, every fake argument you’ve ever made to discredit actual concern. She’s sparkly and she’s got no eyebrows.

And she doesn’t care if you cry (　・３・)

Terf-chan is also just… a pressure valve. A vent. A joke because the real conversations aren’t allowed to happen. I already know TRA types won’t listen to me seriously. They’ll twist my words, ignore my boundaries, call me a monster for daring to care about girls and women.

So why should I be serious with them?

Why waste well-crafted essays on people who call you a Nazi for saying “biological sex exists”? Why offer good faith to people who respond to trauma with “cope harder”?

Nahhhhhh I’ll send in Terf-chan instead, you should to, she is for the radfem community to use.

Use her with Twelve kamojis, glitter fonts, and a saccharine “uwu” voice that still tears there argument to shreds.

Because if you’re gonna mock me anyway, I might as well do it better :3c

That being said I have had trans men come to me, say sorry, own up when they were rude or out of line. I don’t forget that I do see that, so thank you to thoose who have had the ovaries to face me and say "my bad,im sorry"

Like, all my callout posts? They’re because someone threw the first punch. I got a saying if you throw a rock at me, don’t be surprised when I toss it through your apartment window.

I’m not the one starting fights. I’m just the one finishing them.

And I get it anger in the moment, it happens, we all snap sometimes. But the difference is… it’s always an AFAB apologizing when they do it. The ones raised like me.

I mean, I’m not some evil spiteful harpy. I mess up everyone does but I can say, “Yeah, I messed up. I want to do better going forward.” And I respect anyone who can do the same It takes guts.

Still, It’s never an AMAB. Never once had of them who steps back, reflects, says “Hey, I went too far sorry."

So long story short, I don’t care if it’s a fetish or not, I just don’t want them in my single-sex spaces.

We can meet up for coffee, chat about whatever, be cool. But I don’t want to share a bathroom with people born male, That’s just how it is.

I really do hope folks with body dysphoria get the help they need. No one should have to suffer in silence or feel trapped in their own skin.

But honestly? I don’t think just doing whatever the dysphoria demands is the right path and that’s just my opinion.

Sometimes healing looks like hard work, therapy, boundaries, and not rushing into things that change your body or identity without deep reflection.

Everyone’s journey is different and I’m just here saying let’s slow down and make sure we’re not trading one kind of pain for another.

Hope this all makes sence I need my coffee and my allergy meds to kick in.

[gibbearish]

"can bi nbs say dyke" "can trans men say tranny" "can this specific identity reclaim this slur" ENOUGH !!! ALL that matters is whats in your heart when you say it. is there love for your community or is there hate for people not like you. are you saying it to hurt someone or to give a hurtful thing new love-filled meaning. theres your answer.

terfs are finding this now so just to head this off at the pass my tranny ass will not be debating you, you are going to be instantaneously blocked so you may as well save us both the trouble of typing out whatever long rant youre planning about how im an evil transsexual betraying the community by daring to call myself a faggot or w/e. also go fuck yourself

edit 2: hey terfies do you think perhaps that the fact you had to block me before purposefully starting fights with randos in my replies says something about the kind of people you are? do you think that's the kind of thing good people do? can you look yourself in the eyes and genuinely tell me that deep down you don't know that if you constantly have to lie and infiltrate and block evade to harass people, that just means youre a shit person? can you with a straight face say that doing these kinds of things actually feels morally sound, that there's no tiny sliver of yourself in there that knows youre acting like a piece of shit all the fucking time which is why everyone leaves you when they find out about your beliefs? could you honestly tell me that a person who acts like that is good, and that behaving like this actually makes you feel like you're adding something positive to the world? or is it just the rush that comes with punching a wall in rage?

you harass trans people for the same reason parents beat their children: it feels good to hurt other people when youre mad. it feels good to take your anger out on someone else. and so you find people you can hurt and you convince yourself youre doing it because theyre stronger than you, that youre fighting back, you punch and you punch and you keep punching on and on forever. because that anger is addicting and trans people have always and WILL always exist, so we will always be available as a target.

look at the way youre behaving and ask yourself if this is what you want to be doing with your life. and google the signs of a high-control group. and if youre going to be a piece of shit in my replies then at least don't be a major fucking coward about it. unless youre literally 12 you should not be arguing like a middle schooler starting fights about steven universe. grow the fuck up and get real problems

[leoninekelter]

Idk if you want to change literally nothing about yourself, not even your pronouns, and just identify differently i still consider you trans. Literally doesn't matter to me. It hurts more trans people to exclude people who are happily identifying as trans than it benefits. You use she/her and like pink and skirts but also like being agender? Idgaf welcome to the club. I love you

[canideformed]

Can perisex trans bootlickers stop claiming that “sex is real, it’s gender that’s fake” or saying that trans people can’t change our sexes “but we’re still our genders” or arguing that your AGAB is inherently anything beyond a singular event in your past, or whatever?

These beliefs harm all sex variant people. I know some trans people may be comfortable not altering their physical sex, but that doesn’t mean the ones who do aren’t literally changing their sex.

Gender affirming surgeries and care were called “sex change” procedures for a reason. This novel re-definition of “sex” as being strictly chromosomes is a transphobic and intersexist response to the increased visibility of trans people. The line of thought was “well, I don’t want them to be able to change their sex! So I’m going to re-define sex as something we can’t (yet) change,” as well as, “well, I want to enforce the sex binary on intersex people, so I’m going to create a system to be able to force them into binary boxes based on whether or not they have a Y chromosome.”

Stop enforcing the sex binary. It is a bigoted concept and it hurts people. Stand by your intersex and transsexual siblings and don’t let us be erased.

[atomicapplebees]

Never have I seen someone's idea of misogyny so fucked as when they come at trans men to say that "men and people aligning themselves with maleness have a responsibility to understand the potential they have to hurt women." No one else has that responsibility or potential, apparently. It blossomed within you the moment you decided to call yourself a man.

It fucking bothers me how misogyny has been watered down into "individual men oppressing individual women."* It's not a societal problem that literally every one of us internalizes. It's not something weaponized against anyone perceived as a woman or even too feminine. It's the default state of people who identify as men.

If they can even admit that women can internalize misogyny, or weaponize it to empower themselves, or that men can also be targeted, it's not as bad I mean different (and barely worth mentioning).

Are we actually concerned with societal misogyny or do we want to pretend there's a singular Source so we don't have to think about it. Wait don't answer that.

*edit: I believe "every" would be more accurate than "individual", though the blame for societal misogyny is being put on individual trans men in this case

[punishedgwyndolin]

transfem: it’s kind of unfair that transmisogyny is so normalized and seen as default and okay that I can’t talk about the (trans)misogyny and harm I experience from the lgbt community and other trans people without a bunch of people coming out of the woodwork to say it’s impossible for them to hold any kind of power of me and that im evil

most well adjusted trans guy: You know what? Fuck this. Fuck you. I’m not going to fall for your manipulations you stupid bitch. As someone who was born as a female and misogynistically grew up with society’s pressures and expectations to be a woman (femalely), I’ve always had to stand up for myself. You are literally killing us by saying you’ve been hurt and wish that people would challenge and grow past their transmisogyny. Saying trans men can access some male privilege is intentional, brutal violence. You wouldn’t get this but I learned as a teenage girl to be resilient, that I don’t have to listen to hysterical cunts like you. I won’t detransition just because you think boys are gross or whatever, filth.

[genderqueerdykes]

the fact that some people genuinely believe that amab enbies don't exist literally hurts my brain because the first trans person i ever met IRL was a transfemme agender person. last summer i met an AMAB masc nonbinary person who used he/they pronouns. now that I've been going to queer spaces IRL, I've met so many different kinds of amab non binary people; masc, femme, doesn't matter. if you actually interact with the trans community at large you'll find that we are just as diverse as any other group of people. folks viewing nonbinary as a white afab person phenomenon have had their perspective tinged by their extremely closed off internet circles where they can pick and choose what narratives they adopt without any correction from an external source

[tr1ppykay]

takes like these show such an immense lack of any attempt at meaningful understanding of transmasculine perspectives and experiences that it genuinely makes my head hurt. like you do realize there is a difference between not FEELING pressured to do something, and not EXPERIENCING pressure to do something, right? of course you do, but you read a few personal posts about transmascs experiencing euphoria and made a bad faith generalization on our entire social position.

sure, transmascs may feel less pressure to be attractive as personal affirmation of our masculinity. but a misogynistic society at large still continues to pressure us to be attractive and feminine. of course it is born from misogyny, but like we have been screaming for YEARS, we are still affected by misogyny.

a huge proponent of the targeted violence towards us is demonizing the effects of physical transition- about how transitioning makes us ugly (which OOP directly contributes to in this post) and ruins our value in womanhood to the potential men who want to fuck and marry and impregnate us. trans men are correctively assaulted to feminize us, largely because our oppressors see us as "deviant women who must be fixed by forcing us back into femininity, and eventually beauty." there is a literal book titled "irreversible damage" that outlines how we are "coerced into destroying our beautiful fertile bodies."

i have heard countless stories of transmascs seeking physical transition who were equally denied, because a psychiatrist deemed them as currently attractive women in their prime, who must have their value to the patriarchy preserved at all costs.

and ultimately, if despite all of this, we continue to reject white supremacist feminine beauty standards and find joy in our transition, a misogynist society that believes we have no value outside our current or potential attractiveness thinks we would be better off dead, lest we tempt other women to abandon ship.

transmascs are not your enemies! we are not experiencing wildly different things! i promise you that trans people across the spectrum will always have far more shared experiences than unique ones!

i am reaching out my hand to you, so we can stand taller and stronger against the white supremacist patriarchal pressure placed upon us both. will you reach back and grab it, or push me to the ground in an attempt to escape and save yourself?

[anti-sexist-enban]

“Feminism isn’t for everyone! Stop coddling men!”

Honestly? The people I’ve actually been having to coddle lately are the cis women saying these things. Literally all I have been saying is that excluding men from feminism and openly hating them, openly considering them the enemy for the way they were born, hurts the feminist cause in addition to hurting men.

But over and over again I have to hold these cis women’s hands and walk them through the very very basics of feminism, all while reassuring them “it’s okay, I’m not blaming you, I’ve been hurt and traumatized by men too, you aren’t responsible for this.” Meanwhile they’re calling me a dirty evil man who sees all women as walking babymakers who need to serve and tend to men (not even exaggerating, unfortunately), when I’m not even a man in the first place.

In reality, men are not causing harm by existing, while these cis women are genuinely causing harm by openly despising them. I’ve seen how many trans guys refuse to come out, delay their transition, or detransition (as I very nearly did myself) because of man-hating sentiments and people refusing to see that we are affected by sexism. This harms cis men, and it also harms trans women and transfems who get seen as men (either by transphobes or because of how they’re perceived, including closeted trans women/fems). Additionally, it hurts the feminist cause and fight against sexism to drive away half the population from supporting us.

At this point, these folks can talk to the wall, I am not arguing anymore. I will leave that vital work to those with more energy and patience for it than I currently have after being called a misogynist so many times. I will continue to engage in feminism, but I will focus on antisexism first and foremost.

[genderkoolaid]

You don't get the right to compare people refusing to call you it/it's to actual transphobia. This take is so chronically online and divorced from actual reality it hurts to see. are you dysphoric from people not calling you it/it's? No. It hurts you in no way besides not receiving the attention and validation from an identity you created for yourself. Honestly though if you want to use it/it's with people who actually consent to using them for you then great! Just don't force it on people. This pronoun is inherently dehumanizing so it makes sense that it would make people uncomfortable (we literally only use it for objects, and me personally i dont even like using it for animals) Your experience is very different from a trans women or trans man, so have some respect and stop pretending you're oppressed for this.

[storyweavingspider]

I’m ngl there’s a lot of things that *suck* about being a visible/openly trans woman, even in one of the safest cities for trans people in the US.

But at the same time, my visible presence has done so much to make others feel safe or seen. just by existing.

Sometimes it’s as simple as another trans woman seeing me at the metro station and giving me a nod of acknowledgement, that we both exist in that moment.

Sometimes it’s queer/trans kids swarming me in a bookshop because they’re so excited to see someone older and like them; that I’m confident enough to go out wearing what I want and be loud (visibly and otherwise) and here and it gives them hope for when they’re older.

Sometimes it’s their parents seeing me and them asking me how best to support and protect their trans kid, because they see how things are going in the world and they don’t want to hurt or mess up with their kid.

Sometimes it’s an egg with her family in a store looking a little too long with a little too much longing, and seeing the realization in her eyes that one day that’ll be her.

Sometimes it’s someone who’s been out for thirteen years privately telling you that you’re the reason they decided to come fully out, that seeing you fighting and speaking up and existing gave them the courage to do it too.

Sometimes it’s someone coming out at work because they heard their coworkers using your correct pronouns even when you aren’t around; that they came out by saying “You know Anonsee? I’m like them.”

Existing in public and being visible can be terrifying or risky, but if it’s something you feel confident enough to do, your very presence can make a huge difference. Each of these stories are actual experiences I’ve had, and I’ve had literally hundreds more since coming out.

You may be someone else’s lighthouse, keeping them safe and calling them home.

[least-transmcytshowdown]

Rue:

Submitted for: Skyblock Kingdoms

Headcanons: Identity not specified, pronouns not specified

Propaganda: “Her whole character arc is a metaphor for being trans! She realized she wasn't who she was told she was and then chose her own name and made friends who saw her as HER! They're so special and wonderful and transgender!!”

“[The submitter] LITERALLY INCLUDED HER IN A PAPER [they] WROTE BECAUSE SHE IS SO TRANS.”

“Rue is not just textually trans, with she/they pronouns, she is ALSO a trans allegory! That's TWO trans aspects!”

“Rue is LITERALLY a trans allegory! They have a whole arc about realizing people are viewing them as the wrong person, creating a new identity, being hurt by that confusion, being lied to and told they need to act a certain way for people to like them.... THEYRE A CLONE OF A GUY WHO USES ALL PRONOUNS. THEY USE SHE/THEY PRONOUNS! THEY WERE TRAGICALLY KILLED BY THEIR ORIGINAL'S WIFE (possessed) AND DESERVE A WIN!!”

BigBSt4tz2:

Submitted for: Evo SMP, Third Life, Last Life, Double Life, Limited Life, Secret Life, Wild Life

Headcanons: Trans man, he/they

Propaganda:

“The vibe. They're so trans man coded. Like he would use a binder in the life series and, like, for example, Pearl would help him with it in Limited life, or Ren would help them cut their hair in Double life if he felt like being less gender ✨ He's just so trans man 😩 VOTE BIGB.”

“HE CAN BE ANY GENDER YOU'D WANT DUE TO CREATIVITY. I'VE SEEN MANY MAKE BIGB TRANSFEM OR NONBINARY!!!! YOU CAN EVEN MAKE HIM XENOGENDER OR USE NEOPRONOUNS FOR FUN.“

“C!Bigb being trans is so important. His character is very ambiguous (to [the submitter]. At least.) due to the hidden secretive nature of himself, he hides the lies, he masks his weirdness sometimes [which] can be a metaphor for a trans person not wanting to come out (also autism)((proof is [they’re] trans and autistic and [they] do this stuff)). You can color pick a makeshift trans flag from his mc skin also.”

“Every (Life) series, he changes up a lot of himself for whatever he's doing. This seems like he can't decide what exactly he is and is trying to rebrand himself as a different type of person every time, which tends to be something [the submitter has] noticed in a few trans people. The lack of clarity of who they are is definitely very genderfluid coded. It could also go for his character throughout the life series being a system, with each new series being someone else. [Their] main evidence for this is Terry (from Last Life). It can also go for being transmasc on some level because of how easy it was for him to be that character!”

“BigB's username literally has t4t in it. He's not cis [the submitter’s] sorry.”

Ethoslab:

Submitted for: Hermitcraft, Third Life, Last Life, Double Life, Limited Life, Secret Life, Wild Life

Headcanons: Agender, they/them; Transfem, she/her; Nonbinary, he/they/she; Nonbinary, they/he/it; Identity not specified, ladder/ladderself

Propaganda: “[The submitter] just think[s] she deserves boobies. [They] think they would be good for her. And also it's because [they] understand the way the universe flows and the nature of all things.”

“[Quote from Etho:]‘I’m ice man also, also the ice Queen […] yep, yep both in one.’ Etho has compared himself to a pretty girl before. ‘That’s me on the inside, beautiful, but on the outside it’s just this.’ (He’s talking about Falsesymmetry’s hermit head, a female head). Bigender, genderfluid, or genderqueer Etho trust trust trust.”

“T4T cletho. They’re both nonbinary and divorced (in an active relationship) and take turns on who's the ex wife and who's the ex husband.”

“When [the submitter] first joined hermitblr, [they were] genuinely confused about Etho’s gender for a bit because of the sheer amount of people on here that she/her him. [They] love it. Live your dreams.”

“Etho (ftm) but can be feminine. [The submitter] think[s] his vest is equal to the famous oversized trans hoodie (but with style).”

[genderqueerdykes]

as an intersex trans wo/man, i've noticed that unfortunately it has become painfully obvious that not only do radfems and terfs try to abuse trans men into falling in line with their beliefs, but unfortunately, this happens to trans women and transfemmes as well. i've unfortunately seen several trans women fall down the the "men evil, women innocent, trans men have cis male privilege, trans men don't struggle, trans men aren't men or trans they're just confused butches," pipeline really quickly after transitioning or their eggs cracking, and it's not necessarily that transfem's fault, but rather an abusive person sweeping in to take advantage of someone who needs and wants validation in feeling like a woman. the person who put the terf ideals in their head during this crucial stage in development is to blame, it is not inherently the trans woman's fault.

vulnerable transfems and trans women become indoctrinated into these things. trans women and fems are not inherently bitter, shitty, hateful people. it's a select few who become groomed by radfems who push this belief, and push it hard, because that's what you do when youve been indoctrinated into a cult. it's not an issue inherent to trans women and transfeminism at all- it's vulnerable people being groomed. this is a serious issue of trans women and fems being groomed and brainwashed.

this is a huge deal and we have to stand up for each other, because the transfems getting groomed into this need support and help to get out of this cult. it is not okay for women who are just trying to find their footing to almost instantly get sucked up into a literal hate group. we have to help trans people who become indoctrinated into gender essentialism, antimasculism, and transandrophobia just as much as we help other trans people unlearn transmisogyny. these issues are both damaging our community on the whole.

radfems are aggressive and will try to indoctrinate anyone they can into antimasculism, transandrophobia, and gender essentialism. a lot of trans women in the early stages of transition really want to be validated as women and such, will become groomed by these groups of cis women who will gladly feed them toxic ideals like women can never be wrong, women are always innocent, men are always harmful and evil, it just benefits the radfems, not the trans woman. this behavior grooms yet another person into spreading radfeminism without realizing it. when one espouses these beliefs they become a spokesperson for radfeminism and terfism

i'm plain tired of seeing this argument, because it is nothing but gender essentialist binarist bullshit:

"transphobia is worse for trans women than trans men because of x, y, z."

its not worse. its different. but equal.

i understand that many folks have not lived the life a trans man leads, but whenever you try to speculate on what it's like, you will always be wrong, no matter what, because you weren't in that person's shoes. it's impossible to see the nitty gritty of how a specific group of people are treated unless you are that person or spend lots of time around large groups of those types of people. trans men face homelessness at a disproportionately high rate compared to other groups of queer folk. we also deal with forced detransition. we deal with being dehumanized by she/her pronouns. we deal with having lesbianism and butchness weaponized against us. we also deal with sexual violence. we also deal with physical, mental, and emotional abuse. we deal with gaslighting, lying, being robbed, abandoned, injured and killed. its virtually impossible to find support if you're a pregnant trans man.

trans men have a lot of unique struggles. this is not a comprehensive list, but rather to show you that ALL trans people struggle. we are united under the same banner of transphobic treatment. we are struggling, but we are struggling together, and we can uplift each other without tearing each other down. punching down on another trans person hurts us all.

belittling the trauma of other trans people is a form of queer infighting that terfs want you to do in order to fracture our community further. queer infighting doesn't help anyone whatsoever. trans men do not have it harder than trans women. trans women do not have it harder than trans men. amab and afab and intersex enbies don't have it worse than each other. these are all completely different and unique struggles that deserve to be acknowledged for what they are. you cannot use the same scale of severity for a totally different problem.

people love to completely gloss over the issues trans men face for the sake of believing that all men benefit from patriarchy. saying that trans men are not affected by specific kinds of transphobia is spreading the radfem belief that only women struggle under patriarchy. queer men, men of color, intersex men, gay men, bisexual men, trans men, polyamorous men, genderfluid men, bigender men, gender non conforming men, feminine men, men who crossdress, disabled men, neurodivergent men, mentally ill men, and other marginalized men suffer under patriarchy as well.

i'm not tolerating radfem gender essentialism being woven into queer ideals anymore. this behavior has to go. when you genuinely believe these things, we all lose.

[plaidos]

the way u are forced to prevaricate and reassure while talking abt d20 and people are still handwringing abt it. like can we not simply acknowledge when something could be better without having to bend over backwards to make sure we don't point fingers. tbh i don't like that they're doing hp pastiche full send. if i were at that table i would feel icky!

it’s really frustrating. people are so transmisogynistic that they are incapable of see a trans woman advocate for herself without assuming we’re being aggressive and “targeting” somebody — it’s the same dismissive language you see used to describe other minorities simply noticing that they’re treated differently. i like Dropout! i like the people who work at Dropout! i like these comics so much that it hurts my feelings that they would block me because i posted that a show they’re on should have a trans woman on too! i didn’t even tag anybody i literally just put it in the tags for the shows. really frustrating!!

[doberbutts]

Also it's inch resting that a TERF will swing at me and say that I'm not allowed to call myself black because I'm mixed race and thus too lightskinned to be black, and when I say "wtf are you talking about of course I'm fucking black", now there's an anon calling me "colorist" while said TERF is complaining to her TERF friends that the big mean trans man told her to fuck off.

It's almost like this site has a transphobia problem and uses literally any amount of ammo possible to hurt trans people, including ammo from clearly bad faith sources.