#and individual therapy too

[teafiend]

[youremyonlyhope]

Living with Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors

Me: *Is super stressed over life.*

Trichotillomania: Time to pull some hair! C'mon. You won't even notice you're doing it. It'll make you feel better.

Me: NO. *Spends 4 days putting hair in a mini twist protective style* There.

Dermatillomania: Hey. Your hands are free. And restless. And dry... Pick your skin. Bleed. Bleed.

Me: Stop! *Starts up a new crochet project to keep hands busy.* Ok cool.

Onychophagia: Hi hi. Your nails are.... perfect biting length... you should do that.

Me: Noooooooooooo *Paints nails.*

Dermatillomania: Oh look, you got some nail polish on your skin. Pick it off... now pick some more...

Me: SDJAKFDSJFKLDKAFDJKLAFJDKSAKLFDASL

[cent-scratchnsniff]

messy doodles plus with some picked ramblings with them as i process, learn, and progress. yes only some out of many. i talk far too much. i missed so much too im just too tired to talk abt those aspects rifht now

[legogender]

dr s2 is really great so far

[sludgeguzzler]

Btw things will work out in the end and you don't have to address them all at once and on this exact moment. Sometimes things have to simmer a little bit

[autisticsonic]

Mar-Mar post! A little sad one though.

While Shadow did go to therapy before her birth to make sure he can handle her sharing a name with her aunt, as she grew up, Mar-Mar began to remind him more of Maria. While she has a lot more spunk and energy, she was also kind and loving, and inadvertently, Shadow had a period where he started... enforcing the similarities a bit.

He'd buy her blue clothes. Started with some shirts, but it moved to dresses, always in that baby and sky blue, and Mar-Mar started getting uncomfortable... There are pictures of Maria in the house, and she realized that's why Shadow's been doing it, so she was scared to go talk to him, but she, well, hated those shades of blue. So she spoke with Sonic.

And Sonic needed to have a talk with Shadow.

[yardsards]

therapists will be like "what do you think we could do in here that would help you with these struggles?" like bestie if i knew how to fix my problems i wouldn't be in here rn

[magnoliamyrrh]

self proclaimed empaths who actually manage to b cold selfish and egotistical vs a very significant portion of self proclaimed spiritualist teachers service offerers today

[umbra-borealis]

The amount of hatred towards men in general in this posts notes is genuinely fucking vile. First of all it was a dude who set the right example here in the response so no, not all hope is lost, second I'm BAFFLED that tumblr, the site that claimed to lead this 'sjw movement' years ago still hasn't grown up and realized that toxic masculinity is similar to a cycle of abuse. Parent influences child in the same way his parent influenced him and the cycle goes round and round, farthers, men in general, benefit from breaking the cycle and as anyone with a history of hard to realize things such as being abused or gaslit/manipulated, they need help from the outside sometimes! And there's nothing wrong with that! We need to stop acting as if these men should just magically see the light, sit around and spit on them when that doesn't happen, we should set an example for them, try to help where possible, within reason of our own limits, etc. That could be recommending a therapist or just a really could article. And don't you DARE reply to me with some man hating bullcrap, I'm trans masc you dumb fuck, I was born with a uterus and raised by my mom and older sister, I know the struggles of the female world EXTREMELY well because I grew up trying to do everything in my power to be accepted by other teenage girls who bullied me for being 'fat' and boys thought I was disgusting. I still feel it every. month. when I'm nauseous and in pain, hormonal to the point that looking at me wrong can send me in a spiral of self conscious paranoia. I still get misgendered daily because I can't bind all the way and I've just accepted that for the time being, to customers at my job, I'm addressed as 'ma'am' and believe me I have met some toxic jerks in my days (shout out to billy who got me drunk at 16 before I came out as trans but was too drunk to get anywhere LMAO loser) I've been in the trenches, show some compassion or don't say anything at all, clowns.

"My son pulled a prank on teen girls now I'm stuck with him at home while the girls get to go on the next trip"

[rin-rin-kururin]

an orphan who doesn't remember a family's warmth so they find it in their friends. they love them, they see light in them, and they cherish their time together the most. they care so much it hurts to let go. their friends ARE their family, but what are THEY without them? they're nothing. empty. aimless. and desperately searching for a way to be with them anyway. until they overcome themselves and realize their dependency and lack of self. and-

[magic-astro-fae]

Aspects to the Moon

Depending on whether the Moons aspects are harmonious or challenging will determine one’s relationship w the themes found below

Moon/ ASC: Large eyes, too much crying or not enough, emotional expression, creature comforts, comfortable home/ bed, paranoia, vivid dreams, emphasis on the mother, family oriented

Moon/ Sun: Balance, consciousness, comfort through self expression, self awareness, understanding, communication, emphasis on the home, habitual, harmony of masc/ fem energy)

Moon/ Mercury: Communicating emotions, comfort through knowledge, comfort in travel/ movement, active mind, impulsive emotions, restless, quick thinking, diverse friendships

Moon/ Venus: Physical beauty, emphasis on beauty routines, individualized personal style, femininity, gentleness, approachable, comfort food, therapy shopping, caregiving, empathy

Moon/ Mars: Impulsive emotions, act now think later, assertiveness, comfort in appreciation/ validation, patience/ lack thereof, movement, activity, high energy, exercise, physical body

Moon/ Jupiter: Large emotions, overbearing emotional needs, spiritual, empathetic, diverse friendships, psychology, travel/ movement, emphasis on the grandmother, self expression

Moon/ Saturn: Introverted, restricted emotions, quietness, patience, reserved emotions, practical needs, thinking ahead, emphasis on grandfather, emotional maturity, restricted relationships

Moon/ Uranus: Loud inner mind, active mind, vivid dreams, comfort through knowledge, diverse friendships, comfort through self expression, impulsivity, knowledgeable,

Moon/ Neptune: Vivid dreams, spirituality, empathy, emotional sensitivity, comfort through creative pursuits, crying easily, introverted, interest in art, diversity, friendship/ community

Moon/ Pluto: Introverted, deep thinkers, active mind, paranoia, emotional awareness, impulsivity, manipulation, harsh family dynamics, death in close family, sickness, addiction, creativity

[mawce-mirari]

Sometimes when I’m having a bad day I like to wear my grippy socks to remind myself what’s going to happen if I go a little too crazy again.

[witchyfleur]

ᨦ pick a pile ּ࣪ ⋆₊꒰ your future partner's sexual energy. (🌱) ᵎᵎ.˖ꪆ𖠵꒷

DISCLAIMER: choose what your heart truly longs for, what your eyes linger upon. take what is gonna resonate with you and leave the rest.

MY SHOP, WITCHYFLUER'S SHOP!

pile i.

this person's energy is so clean, fresh and lustrate. they'll be into traditional and random sexual intercourse perhaps they wanted to appear good at what they do in the bedroom, i can't totally say perfectionist but may be near.

they're gonna give you a good time, they may want to be your bitch. control them in bed is want of their deepest desire. there's something about voices, it seems like they want to hear their partner's voice in such a begging way. they maybe attract soft and low kinds of voices.

otherwise, they have a lovely voice. it's addictive.

well they're someone who has a strong belief in faith. if it's meant for it will be back again, they understand destiny. they're into exploring too, they must search everything up and might try every position to spice everything up. the 3 of pentacles on this spread saying to me they have a high self esteem when it comes pleasuring their partner. it also speaks to me that they maybe good with hands in mating.

pile ii.

this person may be good at controlling their emotions. they are someone who i can say is so-not hungry for sex. although, they prefer gentle and warm kinds of intercourses.

they are someone who is going to ask questions to their partner for it to get comfortable while doing the actual work. i also see them as someone who doesn't prefer harsh, they want to make love to feel the many emotions to feel they wanted to feel.

as well, they're into breeding but as well they're very choosy. you can't just mess with this person around or even having situationship is not usually they don't like since this individual doesn't prefer that. they're serious and don't have time for any bullshit. they want straight to the point of love.

sometimes, people perceive them as finicky and dramatic but this mechanism of them being picky has a good reason.

they long for permanent and not for temporary partners. they want a therapy kind-like of love.

pile iii.

this is someone who enjoys the thrill. where i can say, sinful and dirty. their ecstasy is not simple. they really want that skin to skin type. they're somehow become impatient and they want their partner to struggle to breath.

they become greed and a beast when it comes to bed. they usually don't care what their partner feels about it, they didn't even bother though. they have this desire to see their partner aching after the intercourses.

they're attracted to flabby bodies.

mirroring. they're someone who is a giver yet they want their lover to do what they're acting. i must say, it's like a vibes of sharing of you need and they want their actions to be given granted. it's like a sentence of- "if i make you happy, you have to do it to me as well".

perhaps, they're someone who is private and has a very limited circle. you can't get in if they don't allow it and if they don't like you. it's hard to get in on this person's life.

[literaryvein-reblogs]

Writing Codependent Characters

Codependency

The state of being mutually reliant (e.g., a relationship between two individuals who are emotionally dependent on one another).

A dysfunctional relationship pattern in which an individual is psychologically dependent on (or controlled by) a person who has a substance use or non-substance-related disorder (e.g., alcohol use disorder, gambling disorder).

Signs of Codependency

Some things found to correlate with codependency include (Marks et al., 2012):

Low self-esteem

Low levels of narcissism

Familial dysfunction

Depression

Anxiety

Stress

Low emotional expressivity

Other signs of codependency (Lancer, 2016; Mental Health America, n.d.):

Having a hard time saying no

Having poor boundaries

Showing emotional reactivity

Feeling compelled to take care of people

Having a need for control, especially over others

Having trouble communicating honestly

Fixating on mistakes

Feeling a need to be liked by everyone

Feeling a need to always be in a relationship

Denying one’s own needs, thoughts, and feelings

Having intimacy issues

Confusing love and pity

Displaying fear of abandonment

Differentiate between a Healthy & a Codependent Relationship

In a healthy relationship, both individuals have a sense of autonomy and independence. Both are able to maintain their own identities while still being connected to their partner.

While in a codependent relationship, one person may sacrifice their own needs and wants in order to please their partner, or they may become overly enmeshed and lose a sense of self.

Additionally, in a codependent relationship, there is often an imbalance of power, with one person being overly controlling or dominant.

Overcoming Codependency

Research has been conducted into group, individual, and family therapy modalities for overcoming codependency, with one systematic review showing a significant reduction in symptoms when long-term post-intervention follow-ups were conducted (Abadi et al., 2015).

The main emphasis of these various treatment modalities is on altering how the codependent person views themselves and their relationships.

This can involve interventions with various (or numerous) goals:

Building Self-Esteem. Low self-esteem is a well-established symptom of codependency (Cermak, 1986; Whitfield, 1991). Building the codependent person’s self-esteem is a main focus of many counseling interventions, with evidence supporting their efficacy (Abadi et al., 2015).

Improving Boundary Setting. Weak or unclear boundaries are another reason codependent people are often willing to compromise their personal needs and happiness to satisfy a partner. Interventions aimed at building self-awareness, self-expression, and communication skills can help an individual’s ability to set and enforce healthy boundaries (Abadi et al., 2015).

Encouraging Self Care. Boundary-setting is just one form of self-care. People with codependent tendencies can also benefit from learning to prioritize their self-care, needs, and happiness before taking care of others (Beattie, 2008).

Originally, “the term ‘codependent’ described persons living with, or in a relationship with an addicted person” (Lampis et al., 2017).

A psychological construct involving an unhealthy relationship that people might share with those closest to them.

It was originally thought to involve families of substance abuse but has since grown to include other types of dysfunctional relationships.

Modern understandings of codependency: “a specific relationship addiction characterized by preoccupation and extreme dependence—emotional, social and sometimes physical—on another person” (Lampis et al., 2017).

The concept of codependency does still apply to families with substance abuse issues but is also used to refer to other situations too.

The main consequence of codependency is that “[c]odependents, busy taking care of others, forget to take care of themselves, resulting in a disturbance of identity development” (Knudson & Terrell, 2012).

To sum up, codependency is a psychological concept that refers to people who feel extreme amounts of dependence on certain loved ones in their lives, and feel responsible for the feelings and actions of those loved ones.

Codependency is not recognized as a distinct personality disorder by the DSM-5.

That said, research shows that while codependency does overlap with other personality disorders, it appears to constitute a distinct psychological construct. The best way to learn about codependency is to review some signs of codependency (examples above).

Sources: 1 2 ⚜ More: Notes & References ⚜ Writing Resources PDFs

[explorastro]

New Year Astro Observations Special Sun

Sun conjunct Venus people tends to be quite good artistically speaking, theirs arts are a soul purpose, they are the muse of so much people. The desire for justice and collective unity can leading the individual to changing his life for embracing his personal values.

Sun in aspect to Uranus will have adversities in their lives that they won't see coming or will be in situations where they'll be an unexpected adversary. This person is so unique that it can become a meme like Freud. Eccentricity is a way of standing out from the crowd.

Sun in 12H are not only a loner at some periods of their life, they can also have hospital stays but their bad luck surrounding the health, socialization, it’s compensated by their spiritual maturity and intelligence, they can products the most avant garde things by their isolation.

Water signs Sun can have the deepest, most emotionally intense look. The Sun represents eyes bc without its light we can’t see anything imo. Their possible psychological issues for communicating their feelings are a door to studying psychology.

Sun opposite Pluto in transit is a tough moment for the native, the deep transformative journeys in underworlds of subconscious are here for teaching a lesson : the calm is a power that can be used against you, obsessions for your opps aren’t the solution at your owns problems.

Sun in 10H is a main character placement, that leads to position of superiority, authority. Can breaking records or be exposed publicly, reputation highly impacted.

Sun in aspect to the Moon : embodies the shadow/light duality, dramatic asf. Emotions and intuition are a big part of the ego, creativity boosted at home, large family placement.

Sun square Mars are possible victims of abuse from their parents or eldest close people, their individuality can be too agressive or assertive for this reason. Be gentle with them.

Sun in aspect to Chiron can also are victims of abuse for close people around them, and in consequences be hurtful, the healing come from independence, therapy and psychology. Religion and spirituality are a main subject for the native, the centaur’s myth leads to this world.

Sun in 5H can have a father who is passionate by music, is musician. Theirs childlike nature are a bless for everyone, They're good at a lot of things, genius placement.

Pisces Sun are the most empathetic person in the room, room that they can reading more easily than anyone, their empathetic nature is a bless and curse at the same time.

The Sun rejoices in 9H because a lot of religion symbolizes theirs God by the Sun like hebrews and christians.

Sun falls in Libra because people pleasing tames our soul, restrains it to socialization and relationships. But positively that’s a social justice warrior archetype, defending the rights of discriminated is a huge reason to live this placement.

Happy New Year ! 🥳🎊

[tiamathh]

DANCING ANGEL (37530)

Devotion

This asteroid was named after Ekaterina Pavlova, who was extremely talented in oriental dance and devoted her short life to the art. In my theory, wherever this asteroid is in your chart will show you where you're most devoted and talented.

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Houses

↑ 1st: Devoted to themselves, these individuals are big on self care and are really confident in their ability to complete and start new cycles at their pace. Their talents lie in being able to find their identity early on in life and also being a bit of a shape shifter, they can be whoever they want to be whenever they want to be whilst staying true to themselves and being authentic.

↑ 2nd: They're devoted to their family and may pursue careers that will provide them stability both emotional and financial, they are usually lucky with getting money through unconventional means too. Their talents lie in being able to make a safe and secure environment for the people around them as well as being extremely resourceful and helpful individuals.

↑ 3rd: Devoted to their ideas and usually their siblings if they have any, may admire them a lot and are also very devoted to learning about new topics. Their talents lie when it comes down to competing especially in regards to the mind and their communication styles are flexible, they can change their way of speech depending on the person they are talking to and are also very convincing.

↑ 4th: Devoted to their homes, especially the ones they make in the future for themselves and are extremely connected to their roots, may be close to maternal figures in their life. Their talents lie in building foundations for later generations, and are usually great in occupations such as therapy as they can help others decipher and understand their emotions.

↑ 5th: Devoted to individuality and self-expression, they are the ones who try to be as different as possible and rebel because it makes them stand out from the crowd. Their talents lie with the performing arts, people with these placements tend to have a commanding presence which makes leads to them naturally being in the spotlight, they're also great at working with children.

↑ 6th: Devoted to what they can do for others, usually workaholics because they simply like doing as much as they can and have high self discipline. Their talents lie in being able to stay in control and rational at their place of work, as well as making great leaders; due to their competence people are willing to follow them, extremely organised and healthy, they don't get sick easily.

↑ 7th: Devoted towards and in their relationships both romantic and platonic, they are big on mutual give and take but are more often givers. Their talents lie in being a mediator, they're a pretty good judge of character and have a natural ability to diffuse tense situations, they're also great at socialising with others and are quick to form lasting and important partnerships.

↑ 8th: Devoted in general, these natives never do something without complete devotion, are the kind of people to immerse themselves into all kinds of experiences. Their talents lie in being able to balance their energies and chakras easily, some may also be good at communicating with individuals from the afterlife or talented at astrology and divination as well due to their ability to sense energies around them.

↑ 9th: Devoted to understanding the depths of the world, questions like 'why?' and 'how?' come to mind, they're also devoted to their ideals and morals. Their talent lies in pursuing careers that are related to higher education as well as being able to learn languages quickly, they're also quick at picking up information about different cultures and they often bring others luck.

↑ 10th: Devoted to their vision and long term goals, they always look at the bigger picture and are often close to paternal figures in their life. Their talents lie in being authoritive and guide people through life, usually in a professional setting. They're great at being able to maintain a high reputation and can easily mask their true selves to exhibit the sort of public image they want.

↑ 11th: Devoted to the community, are also very concerned about giving back to nature and the community, usually extremely involved with social services especially volunteering at animal shelters. Their talents lie with being original, they may also be highly intuitive and be able to predict near future events, and are also great at getting people to start community service.

↑ 12th: Devoted to their subconscious and their intuition, they always listen to their gut and and usually go with the flow, believing that there is a plan even when they can't see it. Their talents lie with having psychic abilities such as bring clairvoyant, clairaudient, etc and they're also really good with shadow work, they can help bring closure to the people around them as well.

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