#and everybody’s saying it’s an intersex trait?

[zebracakesarecopingmechanisms]

wait wait so does having an imperforate hymen makes me intersex??

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

Hello, this isnt really related to sex but to queerness so I figured it would still be under your expertise. Im 27 and intersex but AFAB and my journey to figuring out my gender has been all over the map my hole life. Already I had more T then other "little girls" so Ive always been androgenous but when I hit my teen years I started getting bullied for my more masculine traits like my voice, body hair and so on. My idea of gender was always just so very nonexistent and mattered so very little to me that I was always just kinda doing what other people did or wanted of me. Long story short I had a hyper fem phase to fit in and then I found out what being trans was and then had a hyper masc phase and decided to take T. I ended up stopping T at 20 (witch was honestly HARDER THEN GETTING ON IT FOR ME god the never-ending questions of "are you de-transitioning???" and my doctor outright refusing to let me make the choice for a while cause I didnt have "good enough reasons" to stop like ??? Girl what???) but I was really happy with what being on T did for me! Now tho I realize im non-binary and im fully embracing it! The issue im having now is navigating the world. I have a beard that I like, I have long curly hair, I love skirts and dresses (something I also wasnt allowed to wear as a transguy without again getting asked if I was "turning back into a girl"), I have boobs (kinda unfortunately, still working on that one but top surgery is hard to get when you have a bigger body :( ) but the looks I get from people in public are very hard to ignore. I have autism so its a bit hard for me to even notice or know why people are giving me dirty looks all the time but recently a friend of my said it might be my appearance and that I have a beard and boobs and am in a dress. I want to just ignore people and live my best life but I do wonder if I should just "pick one" ya know? My hole identity down to my anatomy fucks the binary but being a target is scary. Do you or your fallowers maybe have any advice?

hi anon,

listen. I say this sincerely from the bottom of my heart:

you should do whatever you want, forever. present literally however makes you comfortable. you don't exist to please other people or make them happy with your appearance, and your current look sounds honestly incredibly slay. your presentation is for you and you alone, truly fuck everybody else.

[luci-luck]

Earth “ponies” go first! MASSIVE autism dump comin’ atcha live

TW: ableism , grief , parental death (just in case the tags failed)

This is more so for me but I still wanted to share 🫶

Sandstone (Pinkie):

- b i g puppy energy

- Built for work but prefers to play

- Has crystal pony genes but depression makes them subdued. Can only go full crystal mode in a moment of pure and raw jubilation.

- after constantly being told who she’s supposed to be, they rejected the idea of labels entirely

- no labels for gender or sexuality means loving Pinkie does not impact your sexuality score!

- (intersex is not about gender but biological sex. That being said many intersex people use intergender as their gender as it relates to their experience as an intersex person.)

- deals with internalized ableism due to conservative fillyhood environment. Feels bad when they need to ask for help/support. Got herself an unofficial certificate in psychology so he can be his own therapist (it doesn’t work out)

- Parents would totally support the pony version of Autism Speaks just saying. Pinkie’s dad thinks neurodivergency is curable with hard work and the right attitude whilst her mom mourns the loss of her son after the diagnosis.

- ADHD makes xeir rejection sensitivity off the charts

- Internal battery runs on the company of others so can’t ever live alone.

- Had problems with food insecurity

- Relies on sugar as a steady supply of dopamine

- Can have moments of poor motor control. Clumsy

- Eyesight is bad but doesn’t wear glasses. Afraid that ponies will start thinking he is smart and they will expect even more from him. (In human world she wears contacts)

- Feels embarrassed being high support needs and just wants to be treated like everybody else. Hates when xer parents call her “special”

- Also hates being infantilized but is not confident in their decision making

- Xe is a sensory seeker unlike the rest of their family who are all sensory avoiders. Sisters compromise and try to meet his needs. Pinkie in turn tries to be mindful of their touch aversion but finds it hard sometimes. “Everypony’s just so scoop-able!”

- Trained Gummy to “stay”. Is very proud of his emotional support gator

Applejack:

- Is incredibly strong for her size

- feels like she has to constantly prove herself worthy of taking over the farm. Has gotten into arguments with Big Mac about overexerting herself

- Is a hinny (donkey mom and stallion dad) (ofc hinnies are supposed to have tails more like horse but I love the lion tail on AJ so 💁‍♀️) (I said mule in ALT text because most people don’t know what a hinny is)

- Because of this, she is more calm under pressure and thinks more logically

- has major depression from grief and ptsd (duh)

- Isn’t used to being in a stress free environment so she creates the stress

- Likes running the apple stand but certain families trigger her

- Obsessed with anything from the past generation. A time when her parents were young and happy

- Can be a bit insensitive to other’s problems and wants them to “put on their big girl pants” like she had to.

- Feels like she has to fill in the roles her parents used to do. Especially so Applebloom and Granny don’t have to stress over as many things.

- Was in the process of cutting her mane when she remembered that AB liked to braid it so she stopped half way.

- Is the mom of the friend group. Makes sure everyone’s needs are met before tending to her own. (Which is bad btw)

- Has problems with insomnia but getting better.

- Struggles with OCD and will repeat unnecessary tasks if she believes it will help protect her family

- Has an emotional support dog named Winona who also reminds AJ to take breaks 🐕‍🦺

- Sees no point in getting her chronic pain checked out. Will hopefully change her mind in the future. Wears leg braces to ease the soreness.

- Got diagnosed later on. Grief masked her autistic traits.

- Also has a hard time asking for help but has gotten better after she found out that Applebloom has been internalizing that mindset. She must lead by example

- Stick around long enough and she’ll happily invite you over with a hot cup of cider 🍺

- (Other people tend to fall in love while getting to know someone. Demiromantics however need to get to know the person first and then develop romantic feelings later)

- Thought she wasn’t capable of developing crushes until she got to know Coloratura.

[thedawnofcrime]

To the gender criticals out there, know that when we say “let trans people in sports”, we are not suggesting that we should end the conversation at that. We are suggesting that with the topic of trans people in sports, y’all are not going in the right direction.

You cannot identify womanhood by any given trait or feature, besides the fact that somebody feels like a woman. That is what makes them feel comfortable in society and their bodies.

Not all cis women have uteruses. Not all cis women produce estrogen. Not all cis women have breasts. Not all cis women even have XX chromosomes.

These women are biologically female, and their womanhood should not be defined by arbitrary traits that you assign them. Besides, to imply that they are worthy of womanhood, and trans women are not, is hypocritical.

Gender isn’t just a social construct, it’s the way our brains perceive ourselves and our role in society from birth. You cannot be critical of things that are not subjective concepts. That is called ignorance.

The issue with trans people in sports (and I know there is one) is not that they’re a danger to sports, it’s that the system we compete based on is outdated, and biased towards a very stereotypical type of man and woman.

The solution is not banning a minority from something built for enjoyment, the solution is to abolish the system that they, along with many people outside of the minority, do not fit into.

There is no one-size-fits-all for sports separation, and different sports can be separated in different ways. If your system is built to regulate womanhood, it is not a system of protection, it is a system to oppression. We are all humans, and every day the excuses of “gender ideology” and “gender confusion” become more and more absurd.

Think for yourself. If you were born with something that made you different than other men or women, would you really be okay with everybody excluding you? From children’s soccer teams? From high school basketball practices? From putting in the years of effort to compete in the Olympics? All because you were born “imperfect” by their standards.

This isn’t something I’m willing debate. If you disagree with including minorities in sports, or allowing intersex people to compete, you need to do some long, individual reflection on why you care so much about how limited of a human experience a minority should have. Don’t try to reword yourself into the hero. Use some critical thinking.

[ipsogender]

PSA: "all of [species] are intersex" can reinforce misconceptions

So I'm still gathering my thoughts on The Deep by intersex author Rivers Solomon which I read for @intersexbookclub and one thing that I keep seeing in reviews for the book is "all of the wajinru are intersex" because this is a fantasy species where everybody has both male and female reproductive systems.

And while I know full well this is a work of speculative fiction, everything is a metaphor, and having biological hermaphrodites be stand-ins for intersex people is metaphor, I'm starting to worry that perisex readers don't actually know this distinction.

Intersex refers to individuals of a given species whose sexual traits do not match what is considered typical for the species.

Hermaphrodism in biology refers to species who have both male and female reproductive systems. So for example, snails have both male and female reproductive systems and when they mate they connect up both.

An individual snail with fully-functioning male and female reproductive systems that match norms about snail sexual characteristics is a perisex snail.

An individual snail with only a male reproductive system is an intersex snail.

If you see somebody saying snails/earthworms/trees/etc are ALL intersex they are conflating intersex and biological hermaphrodism, and this is a common but hurtful misconception about us intersex people.

Please note: you do not see biological hermaphrodism in humans, even as intersex variations. And the h-word is a slur when used to refer to intersex humans.

Things get a little more complicated with speculative fiction where it's clear a species is there as a stand-in/metaphor for intersex people. I know it's a little longer to say "the wajinru represent intersex people" but given how common the misconceptions there are about intersex people it matters to state it unambiguously.

[doberbutts]

I wasn't attempting to let TERFs off the hook here, their behavior within these spaces is actively dangerous and harmful. As a trans person who's been in PCOS communities for a while now, TERFs are everywhere in the community and it's incredibly dangerous that they're everywhere. I apologize if I didn't word myself as clearly as I could have but what I was trying to say was and will never, ever be a defense of TERFs and the rethoric that's so spread across the PCOS community.

I was just trying to say that this attitude is not one that's exclusive to TERFs and I feel like a better understanding of intersex identites would make this rethoric much less common along with making it more difficult for TERFs to have such a foothold within the PCOS community. Even people who are otherwise very much anti TERF have absorbed a lot of bad rethoric about the intersex identity thay really ends up hurting them in the long run.

Having a better understanding of what being intersex entails won't get rid of TERFs completly in PCOS communities, but it will help. Gender dysphoria due to a perceived loss of femininity is so rampent within PCOS communities and it allows for TERFs to easily go in and spread their rethoric to women who are particularly vulnerable to it. TERFs unfortunatly, are often some of the only people who will validate the femininity of women with PCOS (even if TERFs are doing it in bad faith). So, of course women who are struggling with their connection to femininity due to PCOS will listen to people who validate their femininity, especially if they're not aware of TERF rethoric and how it works. Not to say that TERFs always support women with PCOS (they very much don't, validating women in PCOS spaces doesn't equate to actual supporting women with PCOS, far from it, TERFs are some of the most vile people to those with PCOS for failing to achieve their very specific version of womanhood), more so that PCOS communities are such an easy target for TERFs for a variety of compounding factors.

Creating a better understanding of both intersex and trans experiences in relationship to PCOS is the best way to tackle TERF rethoric in PCOS communities, plus it allows for more experiences that often get ignored within these communities to get more of a spotlight. Including talking about how an intersex identity doesn't take away from your womanhood, or how some of the masculanizing features form PCOS + hyperandrogenism can be desirable to trans and non-binary people with PCOS.

2) A lot of trans and self described intersex people within PCOS spaces have been doing work in regards to destigmatizing traits that are considered more masculine that are common with PCOS. Currently the way they're discussed within these spaces hurts trans women and transfeminine people who have these traits, along with trans people with PCOS who like the fact that they have these traits. It's a lot of work, transphobia and intersexism run so deep within these spaces. Destigmatizing traditionally masculine features on women (whether they're cis or trans; wether they're perisex or intersex) is legitimatly just the best way to go, but there's still so much pushback. It's incredibly frustrating how deep TERF rethoric runs within PCOS spaces and how many people it actively hurts.

Once again, I apologize for coming off as defending TERFs and their rethoric. That was not the case on my end and never, ever will be. Nor was it my intention. I was just trying to dissect *why* this rethoric is so woven into PCOS spaces and why there's such a pushback on people with PCOS being considered intersex within these spaces. PCOS is a complicated and incredibly frustrating condition for so many reasons, and cis women with it (even those who don't align themselves with TERFs or radfems) will often grasp onto quite literally anybody or anything that validates their femininity in a world where quite literally everybody else tries to masculanize them.

Women with PCOS (who don't describe themselves as intersex) would benifit much more from solidarity with trans women/transfeminine people and intersex women (including women with PCOS who describe themselves as intersex) then they ever will with TERFs, who often dangle carrots in front of them pretending to care about their struggles, only to meet them with abuse if they refuse to meet their very strict definitions of womanhood (including but not limited to: embracing their body/facial hair, having deeper voices, even just being stronger than what they say women can be... I mean look at how TERFs react to cis women with higher testosterone in sports).

I'm posting this without comment because this is a really long ask and in complete honesty my brain turns off halfway through (that's ADD for you baybee!!!) but I want to clarify that I feel we agree more than we disagree on this. I just think that it is largely TERF's fault that this has occurred and even those who are not TERFs holding tight to this belief (and now are hurt by this belief) are still largely this way due to the TERF infiltration of PCOS spaces. TLDR I think we're saying the same thing in different words.

[exxentrique]

We're already aknowledging the phenomenon of people saying "afabs only", and at this point i think most of us can see how and why its transmisogynistic (and even transphobic as a whole as it impacts trans men too, but in a way thats less harmful to them than it is to trans women)

But can we talk about, and acknowledge, the new variant ive been seeing of "fems only"?

Because, to be honest, i can't even say it is transphobic as i never know what people mean by it. Like what part of somebody do you examine to classify them as fem or masc? Is it their identity? Is it their clothes? What they pass as? Their bodies?

And even if you could pin point only one of these, it would still confuse me to some extent. Like if you say you mean "fem" as in what kind of body they have, then how would you categorise different types of intersex people or different types of trans people? If you tell me you mean fem as in the clothes they wear/their presentation, then id have to ask why are you building a space that excludes butches and studs but includes cishet fem men? Whats the motive?

And i could go on with exemples of how taking each of these traits as the "examining point" is too binary to categorise everybody and how it seems to exclude in very weird and arbitrary ways. It just makes no sense. And thats without even mentionning the people who say they just "look at the person as a whole/look at all these traits", which would logically create some weird math.

What "fems only" feels like, is that any queer, trans, intersex or gnc person will be left wondering if it includes them or not and will most likely not even ask.

So to be honest, so far it kind of feels like "fems only" just means "in proximity to the norm" and feels like a "non problematic way" of pushing away anyone who challenges cisnormativity to some extent.

[sarah-michelle-gellar-field]

1) the post in question was written by an it/she femme presenting trans person talking about tme vs tma. You are correct that is not EXCLUSIVELY about trans women, but it was written about trans feminine experience, and if you reached the point of responding to multiple responses to a post you might as well do the simple research.

2) you did not in as many words dismiss trans women's suffering under transmisogyny. What you did do was call the tme/tma system for articulating the ways in which trans women experience transmisogyny, basically useless, because other people suffer from transmisogyny too. This as I said is not explicit dismissal, but is a sort of "all lives matter" response, which is a dismissal of the original point.

3) you have made your "point" abundantly clear. Yes, many people suffer from transmisogynistic attitudes. But the REASON people suffer from those attitudes is BECAUSE they are mistaken for trans women. When cis men (or cis passing NB or intersex people) are abused for feminine traits, it is because they MIGHT BE A TRANS WOMAN. When cis women (or cis passing NB or intersex people) are abused for being too masculine, it is because they MIGHT BE A TRANS WOMAN. When transmasculine people are abused for gender conformity or nonconformity, it is because they MIGHT BE A TRANS WOMAN. When a trans woman is abused because of any supposed slip, some indication that she is anything other than a sweet innocent cis woman, it is BECAUSE SHE IS A TRANS WOMAN.

Yes we all suffer under the white supremacist cisheteronormative capitalist patriarchy. As you said, the biggest challenge to it is the realization that while we all suffer under it, we are not all oppressed in the same ways and to the same extents. Some people want new language to articulate the ways and extents to which they suffer. And when you come onto a post and tell those people to stop being so divisive, men suffer under patriarchy too, as if no trans woman ever spent any time suffering as a cis man, then it is you who are being divisive. If you can't even read a post by people saying they are suffering without reminding them that everybody else is too, you aren't making anything better.

And when you "seek nuance" by telling trans women to stop complaining, you don't actually want a conversation. You just want them to be quiet.

saying that "transmisogyny exempt" is not a useful term because transmisogynistic society ends up affecting everybody by proxy is like saying that hostile architecture isn't prejudice against homeless people because everyone likes to sit on benches sometimes y'know

[ethereal-blossom]

Headcannons for Dazai, fyodor and chuuya with an intersex s/o.

Please and thank you

a/n: i was a little nervous yet very excited to work on this request! for the ones who are unfamiliar with the term:

Intersex is an umbrella term for unique variations in reproductive or sex anatomy. Variations may appear in a person’s chromosomes, genitals, or internal organs like testes or ovaries. Some intersex traits are identified at birth, while others may not be discovered until puberty or later in life.

warning(s): mentioning of sexual intercourse

there are over 30 medical terms for specific combinations of intersex traits and everybody has a different experience! what's comfortable or normal for you during sex, may not be comfortable for someone with an intersex trait. so, i also tried to focus on how our men would react to that.

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it may be a surprise for some, but dazai doesn't care how his significant other looks like. what's most important to dazai is the kind of person you are.

nevertheless, dazai would adore your body. what can he say? it's hard to resist someone as lovable and beautiful as you.

especially if you're insecure about your body, dazai makes sure to spread the message across. one of his favorite things to do is to whisper in your ear and tell you how beautiful you are and the many ways he can show it to you.

dazai finds it very important for the both of you to experience pleasure during sexual intercourse. he's very open-minded and asks you about the things that make you feel good and pleasured. he soaks every little piece of information in and he never forgets one during the deed.

before he tries something new, he asks for your permission first. if the idea doesn't excite you, he drops it. for dazai, pleasure goes both ways (as it should).

even outside of sex, dazai makes sure to do his research. he would first try to do it on his own, but then he realizes how many intersex traits there are and that everybody has different experiences. he would ask you questions and he makes sure you can feel comfortable and safe around him.

if somebody is being disrespectful towards you because you mentioned to be intersex, the person has to watch out. in terms of speaking/communication, dazai's tongue can cut as sharp as a knife. he wouldn't be straightforward rude or disrespectful, but he will give a stinging rebuke.

in general, dazai wants for you to feel happy and good about yourself. he wants for you to feel safe and comfortable around him. he wants you.

when chuuya falls in love with you as a person, he immediately falls in love with your looks and your body as well.

chuuya would make sure you feel safe and comfortable around him. he wants for you to know that you are loved by him completely.

for chuuya, he wants to know you inside and out. he wants to know your experiences as an intersex and how it shaped you to who you are. he would want to know what you feel comfortable with and how he can encourage that.

this also counts for in bed. chuuya is someone who especially enjoys pleasuring their significant other. however, it wouldn't bother chuuya if you are less into it because of medications or discomfort. the most important thing for chuuya is for you to feel safe and comfortable!

nevertheless, chuuya would listen concentrated to what you have to share about what pleasures you. he makes sure to do it right.

if he accidentally does something wrong though, he first would freak out a little, feel bad and apologize. however, once you told him it's okay to make mistakes, he becomes better and better.

if you are insecure about the way your body looks, chuuya is going to overflow you with compliments. not in a way that feels exaggerated or annoying, but in a way that will make you blush and that will make your heart flutter. it feels very sincere and adoring when he calls you gorgeous and stunning.

and if somebody is being disrespectful towards you because of your intersex, chuuya has to prevent himself from swearing like a sailor. however, chuuya would give a whole lecture of what intersex is and why they came across like an ass.

chuuya wants for you to feel loved and accepted by him no matter what. you are the one he loves.

fyodor doesn't quite care about your body or your looks. he rather focuses if you mentally fit his ideals, which you do. so, even though he might sometimes act indifferent to hide that his weak spot is you, he feels possessive of you.

fyodor is very thorough and i can imagine him wanting to know everything about your intersex trait and how you feel about it. he's even open to exploring your intersex trait together - not necessarily sexually, but as a whole to see what makes you feel comfortable physically and mentally.

i imagine fyodor as a (hard?) dom, but he would soften up with you. he doesn't want to force something on you that doesn't feel good to you. he will adjust to your desires and your pleasure. that's when you know the man is whipped.

if you feel insecure about your body, fyodor is determined to change that mindset. after all, he considers you worthy to be with him -an individual who seems himself as a god. he makes sure you know that he accepts you completely for who you are.

although, i can also see him using a part of your insecurity to manipulate you to his will so you depend on him even more, but his heart still flinches when he sees you feeling insecure about your body. so, fyodor makes sure you never have to worry about your body around him.

at one point, fyodor exactly knows what to say and do to make you feel comfortable and safe around him. it's to a point that he knows your body like its his own.

if someone has the audacity to make a snarky remark about your intersex, you should fear the fire in his eyes.

fyodor would treat you and your body like a temple. he makes sure that you know that you are loved by him.

[alleycat4eva]

Hey, Firstly, thanks so much for approaching me the way you did. Again, appreciate it.

Secondly, I read over the material you presented.

Even in the video, though, there is a bisection in typically female and male traits. It also covers dsd's (or intersex characteristics) which, again, aren't what trans is. So literally, and I can't say this enough, not what I'm talking about. Also .5-1.5% of the population, so not the standard set of data. But it then says this is typically considered female and male as a base umbrella. So yeah man. That's what I'm saying.

Also in sports, you submitted articles instead of studies. The literal study quoted by the article not one compares the standard to men but comes to the conclusion that after three years transwomen likely retain advantage.

nd finally as for convictions - bro they went through the entire conviction process where their victims were likely children and women, which have one fucking hell of a time getting convictions to stick, and were found guilty. Like. I don't know each case personally but the types of crime and prevalence of the types among the population indicates a positive correlation of behavior. Now I don't go on the street and fucking interact with everybody on stereotypes, so use that to color my behavior. This is what the data is saying. The ministry of justice data itself, and criminal convictions in the US.

Please excuse my cursing, I have a foul mouth. I mean only to communicate why I believe what it is I believe, and give the sources.

And as a slightly personal request, it kinda takes a bit of time to back track these studies instead of news articles. I really do love crunchy stats and number and methodology review rather than articles.

So, hello, I'm someone from "the other side." I'm trans, and have many trans friends. I'm trying to understand what exactly you're claiming about trans people. You keep citing articles and statistics, but I don't know exactly what actual claim you're trying to support. Could you please, spell it out to me? Thank you

Oh man. Uh. Okay so like I'm all for dressing and presenting however you want? Like once you reach 18-21 (even though that feels young to me I thought like. As a society we all collectively set that as the legal age where you get to make big life choices) you get full control of taking exogenous hormones and surgeries. Though I have opinions about them I don't get to say what others do with their life.

But I don't think that sharing spaces with men in certain areas should be normalized because it increases chances that men will victimize women? Like it just increases the area they have to act, and the set of socially acceptable places for them to enact it. Which, looking at all the numbers, men and transwomen commit higher rates of violent and sexual acts. ( and i read the ucla study. I think there should be more like it.) Like. All the rates of convicted crimes and per capita convictions state that. Also I feel many women are saying they aren't comfortable with that and nobody is listening. Which is like, pretty uncool.

And, because men have greater advantage in physichal strength I think it takes all competiveness in sports out if they compete. If they compete with women in sports it presents higher possible rates of injury and tbh everything I've ever read states that because my secondary sex characteristics don't include increased muscle fiber and bone density along with increased lung and red blood cell compacity I'm statistically more likely not to succeed in a physichal contest of strength and speed against men. Flexibility and long endurance yeah but not raw strength and speed.

Tl; dr: man and woman are literally descriptors of gamete production and predicted sex characteristics to me. Behaviors, appearance, social roles, those are variable to me. All it was ever supposed to indicate was average physichal characteristics.

[curlyjoe7]

Hi. I feel the need to explain myself so here it goes: I deleted my post that included MOGAI don’t interact at the bottom and the ask I got (if you don’t know I posted a picture about a flag I made for myself and asking people if they wanted one but I included a banner at the bottom saying “MOGAI Don’t Interact” and I got an ask about it saying me stating this is a safe place but being anti MOGAI is controversial). Why? I really don’t want discourse or to invite more discourse on my blog but I realize I have no choice. I am not trying to cover shit up and in return I feel I should respond to the ask again and explain myself more clearly:

@ Anon, I am not sorry about my beliefs offending you. Though I am not completely against MOGAI I do have a lot of problems with it. It just feels like they sit there and make a fool out the LGBTQ+ community a lot of the time. Do I care if you use neopronouns? No. Go ahead! Do I care if you can’t find an identity that truly encompasses how you feel so you make one up? No. Go ahead! Do I think you always need to have dysphoria to be trans? No. You can just feel more comfortable in another gender and that’s totally okay and valid! Go ahead! But do I care when people who aren’t trans at all identify as a gender that is just their personality traits? Yes. And honestly why does the MOGAI community have to exist? The LGBTQ+ is growing everyday to add more identities for everyone. I know some people try to just call it the LGBT but it’s not just that anymore. It’s so much more than that. If you don’t see your identity under the LGBTQ you are the +! And you are valid regardless of what anyone says as long as you’re not using your “identity” to be cool. Aros are valid! Aces are valid! Mspecs are valid! Gays are valid! Enbys are valid! Transgender men and women are valid! And they all belong in the community. Intersex/intersexual people also deserve a place in the community as they experience a lot of gender identity issues themselves and should not be left out! But softgenders (a gender that feels soft and sensitive) and recugenders ([believe that is the name for it] someone who identities with the gender assigned to their sex but refuses to be cis) and everything like them are just not valid at all. I shouldn’t have to tell you this. Gender is how you feel between female, male and gender neutral/genderless. Nothing else. There can be combos but that’s it. You’re not softgender, you’re just a soft and sensitive person, that has nothing to do with your gender. Anyone can be soft and sensitive. And regardless if you like it or not “recugenders”, you’re cis. I know you want to be special but being trans doesn’t make you special. It’s who you are as a person that makes you special. You don’t need a fancy label to be a good product.

Your personality traits are not a gender. Gender is who you are not what you choose. It’s not dress up. It’s a serious thing that needs to be respected as such. I know the MOGAI community is just trying to be more inclusive for people and that’s wonderful but it’s been taken too far. Now you are just doing more harm than good. Because of people like you I have to endure hearing those stupid “I identify as a [random object]” and “DID YOU JUST ASSUME MY GENDER?????” “jokes.” They are not in any way funny and actually just degrades a community that is already looked down upon. I know some people are just trying to have a laugh and I get that but it’s spreading the idea being trans is weird. And it’s not. And MOGAI is just contributing to the problem by spreading nonexistent genders and romantic/sexual orientations that are just personality traits, personality preferences in a partner or someone refusing to admit they’re cishet cause they want to feel special. And you’re also spreading this message to young, impressionable, naïve people that don’t know any better and that’s just plain wrong. Your personality preferences in a partner is not a romantic/sexual orientation. A romantic/sexual orientation has to do with how much romantic/sexual interest you have and/or the gender(s) you are romantically/sexually attracted to. Liking goth people is not a romantic/sexual orientation. Again, I shouldn’t have to tell you this. And just fyi people are always going to misgender you, it’s a normal human reaction to call someone who looks male a he and someone who looks female a she. They are not transphobic, they are just unaware. Everybody assumes people’s gender based on looks. Just correct them politely. They’ll never know how to refer to you if you don’t tell them and you’d be surprised the response you might get. So yes I have a problem with a good bit of the MOGAI community besides neopronouns and the actual real identities that help people. I said don’t interact with my blog if you are a terrible person and going around acting like being queer is a fashion statement rather than a legitimate thing makes you a terrible person. I’m not going to accept your toxicity and harmful behavior into my safe space. And that’s that on that.

P.S. Do I know if all the MOGAI communities are like this? No. There could very well be a chance there are some MOGAI communities that do more good than harm. And I am willing to give the community a second chance as I only know the bad people in it. I am also willing to give the community the benefit of the doubt that there are good things about it. Cause like I said earlier, there is. Having an accepting community to help you find a term that is more tailored to how you feel is a great thing. It really does help a lot of people and I’m glad it does. But regardless of the good it does, we can’t ignore the bad it does. Which is all I’m saying.

[lonelier-version-of-you]

Time for S20E15 “Tate Gallery”~

(I’m really getting to episodes that I hardly remember at all now lmao. The only Gaskell eps I’ve really rewatched often are Johnrik-heavy ones.)

Edit 1: Ah, there’s my king Henrik! Too bad he’s literally barely in this episode lmao. Plenty of John though.

Edit 2: I love John’s coat.

Edit 3: I ADORE Roxanna’s blouse. I miss this woman and her very queer fashion sense.

Edit 4: Everybody’s outfits are great in this episode, Sacha’s wearing a fantastic shirt.

Edit 5: John stimming! I really want to know if Paul McGann deliberately based his body language as John off Guy’s as Henrik or not.

Edit 6: In hindsight it’s disturbing to look back at early John episodes. You see all these mannerisms and behaviours that at the time would’ve just signified “oh, he’s mentally ill”. But you watch them again and suddenly you realise that we were supposed to be suspicious of him because of these traits. Yikes.

Edit 7: Oh yeah this is the one with the intersex patient isn’t it?

In other news, I love a good Sacha and Ric scene.

Edit 8: I love the vaguely goth aesthetic John’s patient’s daughter has going on.

Edit 9: Ric on his project idea: I’m not using stem cells. John, probably: :((

Edit 10: 2018 feels like it was the last year Holby even remotely cared about medical storylines.

Edit 11: Love a good ‘ethical dilemma regarding a patient’ ep.

Edit 12: SFSFSFSFSF. Abigail @ John: “Spare me the ‘enigma wrapped in a mystery’ schtick.”

Also, Serena saying “I am all out of ideas here!!”... you could pass this off as actual footage of the Holby writers in the show’s final years XD

Edit 13: I swear Paul McGann was working overtime to make John an actually complex character instead of the “evil sociopathic crazy person” stereotype the writing had him as.

Edit 14: John playing classical music in theatre. Henrik energy.

Edit 15: I want to pay more attention to Ric’s subplot in this episode, but my mind kind of zones out when I see Serena, and most of his scenes in this episode are with her.

Edit 16: “I am not the enemy.” Sorry, Abi, but both the writers and the fandom viewed the mere fact of someone other than Henrik in the CEO chair to be a crime, so. :(

Edit 17: John thanking the patient for having faith in him and Rox is weirdly sweet.

Him being guilt-trippy and manipulative to Rox, not so great. Honestly I am convinced Henrik learned to manipulate people from John. I don’t know if that was the writers’ intent but it explains a lot to me. Like I do think a lot of his behaviour with Sahira was re-enactment of his own trauma (the whole ‘you’re my super special protege’ thing especially) but I also think some of the techniques he used on her were learned from John (there’s one ep where he says to her “in theatre, there’s no outside world, there’s just theatre”. VERY reminiscent of John’s “nothing but the work”).

Edit 18: Aw, this little scene with Ric and his patient :’)

Edit 19: John with his hands literally behind his back. Clever.

Edit 20: John and Rox wandering around in the basement. Lmao.

Edit 21: And now chilling out in John’s lab of mysteries.

Edit 22: I love Frieda.

Edit 23: Oh hey, the intersex patient’s also nonbinary. Anyone know if they were played by a nonbinary actor or not?

Edit 24: John and Ric sharing a scene feels really weird--

Did John just say he has a colleague in Leeds?! Lmfao.

[vampish-glamour]

Asexuals who are straight and cis are straight allies. I’m not invalidating anyone’s “identity” (I hate using the word “identity” for sexuality. It’s not an identity, it’s an inherent trait. You don’t “identify” as a certain sexuality; you are that sexuality). There are aces who call themselves gay, bi, and straight, because they use the split attraction model.

Of course there’s other legal equality issues, like child care, housing, employment, etc. But I’m not sure why that’s being mentioned when you acknowledge that those issues do not affect ace people.

(I notice you’re using the “I” in LGBT. Intersex people have repeatedly asked for their medical condition to not be considered lgbt)

Societal expectations =\= oppression. It only becomes oppression when those societal expectations turn into laws that force people to partake in them. And the societal expectations you’re talking about literally apply to everybody and anybody—including straight cisgender people.

Here’s an example of why societal expectations =\= oppression; there’s a societal expectation that women should wear makeup. There are women who physically cannot wear makeup for various reasons, but let’s say we’re talking about Random Woman who has severe allergies. Random Woman doesn’t wear makeup because she can’t wear makeup. And sure, she might receive some judgement because she’s not conforming to society’s expectations... but so does Random Woman 2 who can wear makeup, but chooses not to for no particular reason other than not wanting to. If there was a law put in place that forces women to wear makeup? That would be oppression. And it would be especially worse for Random Woman who is now being negatively affected because she can’t wear makeup, but has to.

So that’s the same for say, expectations of being married. Literally everyone faces that, it’s not an ace/aro specific issue. An ace/aro person may receive judgement for not getting married, but an allo person who chooses not to get married will get the same judgement. If there was a law put in place that people had to get married or else [insert punishment]? Yes, that would be oppression. But that’s not the case... and even if it was, it wouldn’t be an ace/aro specific issue. It would be an everyone issue.

Meanwhile there are literal laws that specifically target lgbt people. For example, in some places there are laws that make homosexuality a criminal offence. That is oppression. Not fitting societal norms is not. Because while those laws specifically single out and target gay people, those societal expectations don’t single anybody out and apply to everybody.

“Asexuality may be easier to hide/mask but no one should need to live like that”. But asexuality is inherently a hidden thing. Asexuals aren’t being forced to live in the shadows or something... it’s not like they’re being forced to not show how much sexual attraction they don’t experience. I don’t even know what your point here is, because there’s no needing “to live like that” here. I would hope people aren’t coming out to their parents, friends, or bosses as asexual, because nobody except for potential partners needs to know, or is interested in knowing, about one’s levels of sexual attraction. Your statement applies to lgbt people though! Because while you can stay in the closet as a gay or bi person, as soon as you get a same sex partner you’ll need to either hide the relationship, or automatically come out to those around you once they realize you’re dating somebody of the same sex. While you can stay in the closet as a trans person, and never transition... to achieve a better quality of life you have to come out so that people start seeing you and referring to you as a man instead of a woman, or vice versa. This isn’t the case for asexuals. Asexuals aren’t hiding or masking anything like an lgbt person would, because there’s nothing to hide or mask (again, unless it’s in the case of a romantic relationship. But you’re talking about social situations here). While people visibly see a same sex couple, or a trans person transitioning—which is why people might stay in the closet—, nobody visibly sees somebody not experiencing sexual attraction, Which is why asexuals aren’t masking or hiding anything in the first place.

Yes, as a Canadian I don’t experience legal discrimination and I’m not oppressed. But people like me are in other places. And if I was born in another decade, I would have been. The only reason I’m not oppressed today is because people like me fought for my rights. That’s where the difference is. Ace/aro people aren’t oppressed because they never were oppressed. There were never laws that said “being asexual and/or aromantic is a criminal offence”. There were never laws that made not having sex or not being in a romantic relationship illegal. There were never ace/aro people who had to fight for their rights so that future generations wouldn’t have to.

In countries like Canada where progress has been made, lgbt pride is about celebrating overcoming those things, and being proud of being allowed to exist without persecution. Why would an ace/aro person celebrate overcoming something they or people like them never had to overcome in the first place?

You missed my point about the sign entirely. Their sign is a pun on not experiencing sexual attraction. They are holding it at an lgbt event in a time where gay sex was illegal. Gay people acting on their sexual attraction was against the law.

So that sign is a complete punch in the gut, because it is saying “I don’t experience sexual attraction”. A gay person could look at that and say “good for you, but I do and acting on it is illegal”.

I don’t know how to explain this better than I already did, because I think you’d miss the point again. Even if the intention isn’t to flaunt not being oppressed, and I’m sure it wasn’t, it absolutely comes off as such. Because again, experiencing sexual attraction is one of the main reasons gay people are persecuted. People hate that gay people experience sexual attraction towards the same sex, and think of gay sex as perverse and immoral.

Which is why gay sex is illegal in certain places.

So why the hell would you come to an event, where one of the main groups of people there have their sexual attraction demonized and criminalized, and hold a quirky sign that in essence says “yeah I don’t deal with that lol”?

My point isn’t that I’m judging a whole group by that sign. My point isn’t to say the person’s intentions were bad. My point is to say that the sign in itself is extremely tone deaf, and somebody who is at a pride event should understand how that sort of sign might come off to people who have laws made against them and their sexuality, sexual attraction, and sexual activity.

Asexuals “don’t give a fuck”, but lgbt people do, and they experience legal persecution for it.

Delhi Queer Pride 2017 🏳️‍🌈

[diaspora9ja]

The researcher fighting to embed analysis of sex and gender into science

Londa Schiebinger chaired a report that urges researchers in all fields to think about intercourse and gender.Credit score: Linda Cicero

Recalled medication, unsafe merchandise and even environmental chaos are simply a number of the penalties of analysis that doesn’t think about intercourse and gender, says Londa Schiebinger. That’s why Schiebinger, who research gender and science at Stanford College in California, helps funders persuade researchers to analyse the impact of those components of their research.

On 25 November, the European Fee — one of many world’s largest analysis funders — stated that it goals to make intercourse and gender evaluation obligatory within the analysis it funds via its €85-billion (US$100-billion) Horizon Europe programme, which is about to start in 2021. Its coverage would apply to all disciplines, besides subjects for which the fee decides such analyses wouldn’t be related, for instance, pure arithmetic. The fee will ask researchers to think about these components at each stage of their work — from research design to information assortment and evaluation.

The transfer strengthens a coverage the fee started to implement in 2013. By 2020, it requested analysis candidates in about one-third of fields to account for intercourse (organic traits generally used to categorise folks as male, feminine or intersex) and gender (socially constructed roles, norms and identities, not essentially binary or aligned with an individual’s intercourse) of their analysis. It was one of many first funders exterior of well being analysis to take action. However fewer researchers than anticipated did the analyses.

The strengthened coverage is a results of suggestions made within the fee’s second report on Gendered Innovations, printed at this time and produced by a 25-person professional group that Schiebinger chaired. The report gives steering for the way researchers can incorporate intercourse and gender evaluation throughout the gamut of analysis subjects Horizon Europe will fund, from finance to agriculture.

Nature spoke to Schiebinger concerning the group’s work.

How do you persuade folks of the necessity for intercourse and gender evaluation in analysis?

Our iconic instance of failure while you don’t do that evaluation is that between 1997 and 2001, ten pharmaceuticals had been withdrawn from the US market, and eight of these had been extra harmful for ladies than for males. When medication fail, you’re dropping some huge cash and persons are struggling and dying. From preclinical trials in cells and animals via to human medical trials, it’s a must to gather information on men and women and analyse them individually. It’s additionally vital to have a look at age and genetic ancestry, and at drug use in pregnant ladies.

This type of evaluation shouldn’t be about ladies — it’s about getting the analysis proper, and it advantages everybody. In osteoporosis, for instance, males have been uncared for as a result of it’s principally seen as a illness of menopausal ladies.

Why have researchers been gradual to embrace these analyses?

Consciousness is rising, however by and huge, researchers don’t know find out how to do this sort of evaluation very effectively. I’m sort of shocked and happy that in my lifetime change is coming about, as once I began out within the Nineteen Eighties, nothing was occurring.

That is your second report on the subject; the primary was in 2013. What’s modified?

The most important change in our focus is on intersectionality. Which means not simply contemplating race and ethnicity and the way this intersects with intercourse and gender, but in addition what’s the impression of age, geographic location and socio-economic standing. The opposite one is to consider gender much less in binary phrases, and to consider gender-diverse folks. We’re additionally giving far more field-specific steering.

What errors do researchers make in these analyses?

The most important mistake is solely ignoring intercourse, gender and intersectionality. However one other is to not distinguish between organic intercourse and sociocultural gender. Many European languages, equivalent to German, don’t also have a phrase for gender, however use the English. You even have to appreciate that gender may be very particular to ethnicity, age group and the tradition. Researchers have to be conscious that they should get the best variables, gather their information appropriately and do the evaluation effectively.

What must be performed exterior of funding businesses?

Some peer-reviewed journals have insurance policies asking for intercourse and gender evaluation, if it’s related in that subject. However I might like to see some engineering journals get entangled. One other main drawback is that universities don’t train this kind of evaluation in core technical lessons in science and engineering, and even in drugs. In engineering, we don’t design crash-test dummies to think about the frail bones of older folks, ladies specifically.

There are some actions — for instance, Harvard College and Stanford now have a course known as Embedded EthiCS in pc science. They perceive that synthetic intelligence could cause so many issues when it leaves teams of individuals out. They’re asking college students to consider social points and outcomes after they’re studying about algorithms.

How vital is it to analyse the impact of intercourse and gender within the coronavirus pandemic?

Important. A case research on the COVID-19 pandemic in our report finds that there are intercourse variations in how folks reply to the virus, in viral replica, viral receptors and antibody manufacturing — however that gender can be essential. We see that many extra males are dying and this has to do with gender norms and behaviours — for instance, extra males smoke, and their hand-washing charges are typically decrease. And ladies make up the vast majority of health-care employees, so they are going to be uncovered extra.

Are there areas of analysis the place folks may be shocked that intercourse and gender evaluation is crucial?

It’s essential to do intercourse evaluation of some marine organisms, as a result of for some, intercourse is set by temperature. If the ratio of males to females or hermaphrodites will get out of whack, that may result in extinctions. Our report consists of a captivating research from Australia, the place they discovered that the turtles within the north of the Nice Barrier Reef had been 99% feminine, whereas within the cooler southern half, it was about 67% feminine. So it’s vital that we perceive how world warming is skewing the intercourse ratios, in order that we are able to effectively handle ecosystems.

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[boeshaneposterboy]

Headcanon - Jack and Intimacy

[[So a headcanon spurred by a discussion last night/this morning.  I know a lot of people portray Jack as liking sex.  A lot.  A lot.  But personally I think there’s more to it than that.  So a bit of a headcanon on that.  I tend to be wordy, so for the sake of everybody’s dash, I’ll continue this under a read-more.

Yes.  Jack does enjoy sex.  But he’s also perfectly content in a celibate relationship, with certain caveats.  Because here’s the thing: the reason Jack likes sex is the physical intimacy of it.  I mean, it also feels good, that’s a big part of it, but he likes the intimacy.  So as far as that affects Jack and his relationships, it’s pretty much this: Jack is perfectly happy in a relationship without sex, but non-sexual physical intimacy is something he needs to be happy.

Jack is a very touchy person, and he’s extremely physically expressive.  We see this a lot.  Basically any time he shows up in anything.  As a companion to the Doctor, he touches Rose constantly.  Now, of course, when I say that what I mean is things like a hand on her arm or shoulder, a hug, standing particularly close…  Innocent things.  He doesn’t touch Nine quite as much as he does Rose, but Nine is also just a much less physical person.  He rarely touches the Tenth Doctor, but that likely has to do with Ten’s avoidance of him as a fixed point.  

This is even more obvious in Torchwood.  Pick any member of the team, and Jack probably touches them more than any of the other members of the team touch each other.  But nowhere do we see a better example of what Jack is like in a relationship than with Ianto.  It’s not really any secret that they were having sex.  It’s discussed in the show.  But beyond that, Jack is still very physical with him.  If Jack isn’t outright holding Ianto, then he has a hand on his arm or shoulder or around his waist.  If he’s not doing that, then he’s got one shoulder pressed against Ianto’s.  And if he’s not doing that, he’s probably leaning on the back of Ianto’s chair.  Really, Jack touches him near constantly.  If they’re in the same room, there’s about an 80~90% chance that Jack is touching him or at least way close into his personal space.

This is what I’m talking about when I say that it’s not necessarily just sex Jack likes in relationships.  It’s intimacy.  Particularly physical intimacy, but not necessarily of a sexual nature.

When you really stop and examine it, Jack doesn’t talk very much.  He’ll tell stories and things, but usually, he’s pretty concise.  He says what he means to say and he doesn’t take forever to do so.  (Unlike Ten, who is an endless font of words, which can sometimes make it nearly impossible to figure out what’s actually important.)  So yes, what he actually chooses to say is important.  However, he makes up for his shortage of words with physical expressiveness.  I think he’s honestly one of the most physically expressive characters I’ve seen. 

In the same vein as non-sexual intimacy, however, is sleeping.  For as much as Jack likes touching his partners, he does not often sleep with people.  And I am not talking euphemisms here.  I mean actual sleep.  It’s not even so much that he doesn’t trust people.  First of all, he knows he can’t stay dead, and secondly, he is a trained soldier - of a number of different armies and times - with strong battle reflexes.  He does not sleep deeply enough for most people to be able to do much of anything to him.  (Which is not to say he can’t be caught unaware because he was sleeping, just that it’s harder with him than it is with most people.)

The real issue when it comes to Jack and sleeping with people is nightmares.  Jack suffers from C-PTSD.  And really that stems from a number of different incidents in his life.  The attack when he was a child that took his father and brother, watching his best friend be tortured to death after Jack talked him into joining the army with him, Satellite Five, being buried alive for roughly 1900 years and repeatedly suffocating to death, being held captive and being hacked to death repeatedly, his experiences during WWI and WWII…  And that’s not even covering all of the other ways he’s died and things he’s lived  through.  So saying “Jack has nightmares” is maybe a little bit of an understatement.  The human psyche is not meant to deal with that.

But back to what that actually has to do with Jack sharing a bed.  He does not scream in his sleep.  Nothing that dramatic.  He’s spent too much time in and out of war zones to do that.  He may show other signs, but he isn’t loud about them.  However, if startled out of one, he can be inadvertently violent.  Not always, and it’s certainly not intentional.  It depends heavily on what he’s dreaming about.  But given the right combination of memory, provocation for waking, and available objects, he can be dangerous.  Even if he has gotten pretty good about setting things up in his own living quarters so that he won’t be a danger.  But he also lives in the Hub, which is a whole other problem.  So he just avoids that most of the time.  Certainly he does in cases of one night stands.  In relationships, he will discuss that problem, although not necessarily the full extent of the circumstances.  Jack is one of those people whose secrets have secrets.

When he does sleep with someone, though, he likes to be close to them.  He enjoys being the big spoon and holding his partner.  (Although he’s fine being little spoon - it’s the contact that’s important.)  He likes being able to feel their breathing and their heartbeat.  It’s reassuring to him.  It’s also something he finds very calming.

As to actual sex, here’s the thing with Jack.  I play him as intersex.  Visibly so, once you get past the million layers of clothes he usually has on.  That doesn’t bother him in the slightest when it comes to sex.  Or anything else, really.  He grew up in a time and place where it wasn’t a big deal.  (I would like to think that by 3,000 years from now it really won’t be.  Although hopefully we get there much sooner than that…)  So he isn’t particularly shy.  

What he is is aware of when and where he is.  So here and now - Cardiff, Wales, Earth, early 21st century - he’s going to be a bit more cautious than he would in, say, the 51st century when he’s out and about dealing with peoples of an array of species from all over the universe.  So when dealing with 21st century humans, he may make comments that sort of test the waters - not that he’s going to want to touch your muse with a ten foot pole if they’re a raging bigot, because first of all just no and secondly he does, in fact, find personality an important trait for attractiveness - but he still isn’t going to be terribly concerned or shy.  He’s pretty much of the opinion that if somebody else takes issue, that’s their problem, not his, at least insofar as they aren’t a threat to his safety.

But yes.  In short, Jack does quite like sex, but not for the reasons one might think and it’s not a necessity in his relationships.]]

[vuroguro]

it’s wild to me that fantasy writers don’t consider how queer things would be treated in their little made up worlds like

even as a DM when i write a campaign and build a world i make sure to include visible themes and explanations there-upon

why are my elves so chill with gender shit? well the majority of them have fairly similar biology and are actually predisposed to being intersex; the differences are small and ultimately insignificant. they get this distinct racial trait from the fey they come from who as ethereal beings have no real use for boxes and categories such as gender. many elves are trans and/or nonbinary. some elf cultures such as high elves and those closer to their fey origins even choose their gender as they age rather being labeled at birth... homosexuality and bisexuality and the like are as common as anything else. it’s also worth noting that many fey cultures heavily embrace asexuality and/or aromanticism due to the fey instinct of not becoming bound to others via attraction (the tale of the selkie who had their skin stolen by a human they fell for is more culturally influencing than you think) some fey races are even immune to all forms of attraction and do not experience it (i.e. think natural charm resistance)

why are my halflings so passive-aggressively homophobic? well you see their culture being that of farming and family rearing does no lend itself to families that do not produce children. anyone not married with children in adulthood is seen as strange or unusual. a halfling community would likely still be stand-offish of gay couples who can have kids, or gay couples who adopt, but more accepting. honestly though anything that disturbs the routine is looked at funny. it should be noted almost no halfling would ever be rude enough to say queerphobic things to your face; it’s just not done... imagine it’s like having a family who ask constantly when you’ll get married. then you bring home your SO and nobody seems to want to discuss it but you keep getting Looks

don’t even get me Started on my dwarves; their birth rate of 4 dmabs for every 1 dfab means that there is a high stack put upon having kids (intersex ppl are surprisingly not common since the dwarves are made by divine intervention of stone rather than ethereal similarity) not like the halflings who do it for tradition, but more an urgent survival need to continue family bloodlines and the dwarven race itself. being trans or nonbinary is no biggie to dwarves who all share surprisingly similar appearance attributes (i.e. everybody has a beard and as long as you have a beard you look like you fit in) but if you’re dfab you have a Responsibility to have kids and if you’re a trans woman you may have those same expectations placed upon you unwittingly... it’s pretty self explanatory tbh. if you’re nonbinary you May get some looks and some chortles about Adopting Silly Elf Culture but nothing so bad as true hatred unless the dwarrow in question is especially elf-damning. homosexuality and bisexuality are sort of compulsory and considered good due to building bonds and ties, with bisexuality being the more gladly accepted orientation

MY GNOMES ARE MY FAVORITE it is within gnome culture to be bi or pan as a sort of default. gnomes understand preferences just fine, but as a race have the concept that gender should not necessarily matter. poly relationships are popular, gender identities are easily accepted, the only thing you might find that escapes the understanding of a vast knowledge-hungry gnome culture is having no labels at all. if you find yourself beyond explanation and say as much to a traditionally raised gnome, they might just set about labeling you as quick as they can. it’s not a very gnomish thing to see something inexplicable and then not try to find an explanation. naturally, not all gnomes are like this... but god forbid you go to a gnome city and not have a straight answer to “what gender are you” or “what’s your orientation.” they tend to struggle greatly with nomadic dragonborns who give very few shits about labeling lol

while nomadic dragonborns have hardly any labels at all, dragonborns from devoted sects of the bahamut have extremely strict labels that leave little wiggle room; you are what you are, behave as these roles instruct, etc.

humans are a mixed bag, but most of them are explainable based on their deities and location. a human from a big city will probably run into all kinds of folk and have very little room for homophobia unless it was a belief passed down in their family. humans from a smaller town will gawk more and have assumptions built into their community due to being sheltered away from different mindsets. human with a family-centric or law-centric deity is likely to have stronger homophobic or queerphobic themes than a love-centric or joy-centric deity... note that this is similar with evil alignments, too! lawful evil and chaotic evil deities have very different opinions on what is acceptable and what is not. for example, lolth dotes twice as much on those who show an inkling of the fey within them i.e. being queer af is kind of a fey staple

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