#and even if you *only* care about trans women

[aidensinternetdiary]

"Trans men, you being happy that you don't have to conform to attractiveness anymore is you benefitting from male privilege." As if trans men aren't expected to look like the most masculine handsomest guys ever to even be considered a "real" man and that they can easily pass as cis men to begin with. Being happy you chose not to conform to attractiveness anymore isn't a sign of privilege, it just means you don't give a fuck anymore about what people think because you know it's not working, they won't be convinced and they'll always see you as a certain way (aka a "woman") no matter what. This is like saying choosing to go to therapy in a family full of truama means you don't have truama anymore. It's stupid and I'm getting so tired of these fake woke progressives acting like trans men have any sense of "male privilege." Seriously, I'm acting getting fucking sick of it. It's a lazy way for you to get brownie points and does nothing to dismantle the patriarchy because let's be real with ourselves - the patriarchy is a cis man's paradise only. Their empire. Their way of ruling. No trans men is gonna get that power because in cis men's eyes, they'll always be so called "women." They don't get any benefits at all. Even if they pass as cis men, it is conditional. As soon as your trans, they'll only see what the doctor assigned you as. Nothing else. They get nothing out of this. They are victims of this. But none of you care. You know why? Because you wanna get brownie points on the internet. You don't actually care about misogyny or patriarchy or hell, even feminism. You only care about the aesthetic of a woke person without actually being a woke person. It's so obvious and it's so pathetic everytime. So keep trans men out of your fucking mouth and fuck off.

[plaidos]

So you spent about two weeks blabbing that stealing from poor creators, LGBTQ+ creators and creators of color is morally right and then you have the audacity to shill out money to rich daddy Nintendo on a Switch 2, Mario Kart World and possibly even online.

You can just go fuck yourself sideways and stop acting like you care about the struggles of trans women because it is clear you only care when you can get popular off of them.

im literally a trans woman you stupid twat 😭😭😭😭😭

[our-queer-experience]

im very deeply tired of people using anything queer-related as an insult. calling people gay or whatever as a way to insult them is genuinely disgusting. i don't care if you're queer or not because it's just repeating queerphobic history. i feel like a lot of people refuse to realize they're queerphobic in some way shape or form, even people who are queer, and it's extremely uncomfortable because it feels like im the only one who ever calls it out. no it's not ok to use faggot or dyke or tranny as an insult even if you CAN reclaim them, that's not reclaiming. that's just using them as the slurs they are. no it's not ok to call someone gay or trans or lesbian or whatever as an insult even if you're queer. no it's not ok to feminize a man as a way to insult them i ALSO want to say that a man being feminine does not inherently make him gay like so many people assume. "omg look at him.. hes so fruity/zesty! he must be gay!" is a very negative stereotype that should NOT be being perpetuated, same thing goes for women who are masculine and so on and so on. i hope this belongs here? my bad if not

ive noticed recently a shift within queers i know from using faggot and tranny and dyke in positive ways (we never used tiktok so zesty and fruity are never. really it) to it now fitting into “joke” sentences that just sound like someone’s about to kick my ass and. idk. it feels a lot less like reclaiming

[npdkondraki]

hi. kondraki scpverse is a trans woman. cope and seethe and read my essay about her below the cut. (it's really fucking long) (please god i put so much fucking work into this read it im begging you)

ok for starters for people who dont know what or who the hell im talking about right now (doubtful) (only adding this for the unitiated & newbies): this essay is about my awesome wife DR [REDACTED] HENRICH KONDRAKI(1) from pseudo-niche internet horror-fiction site THE SCP FOUNDATION(2/3). if you can't tell by our url i am Bonkers Crazy Insane about her and have been sporadically obsessed with her for several years. she sucks bad. anyways this post is about why i think she's a trans woman instead of being a "cishetallo man" like canon claims she is. you may be wondering; "but sawyer how is canon wrong about this if its canon" and to that i say. I know better than canon does dont worry about it. ok with that out of the way lets get into the schmeat of this thang

FIRST OFF. kondraki's entire view on masculinity is inherently tied to violence. she believes that if she isnt violent, cruel, and hiding her emotions constantly, then she isn't a 'real man'. her entire worldview, including her view of her own gender, is perceived through the lens of men, including herself, needing to be 'masculine', but she defines this masculinity through her own warped idea of what masculinity 'really is'. because she perceives men, and by extension masculinity itself, as violence, then she herself is violent. everything down to the way she speaks is designed to make her appear cruel, vindictive, and, most importantly, violent. she goes as far as claiming her favourite memory of working for the foundation is when she chased a man down and, quote, "[shot] his fucking face off"(4). however, despite all her tough-talk about being "badass"(5/6), she actually appears to be incredibly regretful about her actions(7), unlike her words imply.

she creates a cycle of retraumatizing herself over and over by hating everything being a man stands for, but refusing to acknowledge it. she leans into the idea that she is violent and cruel, creating a self-made cycle of self-hatred. this retraumatization makes her more violent; it causes her to lash out more, to be more vindictive, to be more outwardly cruel to people, to be more "man-like" in her eyes. she places herself into a self-made twister of hating herself enough that it rubs off on everyone else, and then positively claims its "[her] design"(8) rather than accepting how depressing it makes her life. she uses her own cruel perception of masculinity as a way to shield herself from the idea that she could ever, willingly, be a woman, because she's too violent and cruel and she'll never be a real woman, not in the same way people like rights & iris are. she fully, completely, and genuinely, believes that if she is able to "out-man" every man surrounding her then nobody is able to question what she thinks of herself.

theres an additional layer to how she views masculinity, in the sense that it makes her also view femininity as inherently docile, something that she lives by even when she is acting as a woman. in doing so she continues to perpetuate her idea that she must be violent to be masculine, because she views women (or, more specifically, the concept of being a woman) as fragile, weak, perceptible to being hurt, and she refuses to be any of these things. in refusing to view herself as a woman she, in her mind, refuses to view herself as emotional, hysterical, and, perhaps worst of all in her mind, just a woman. it's an incredibly unfortunate mix of how she was raised and the culture at her work; she is punished for being feminine (emotional, caring, nurturing, etc) and rewarded for being masculine (violent, cruel, selfish, etc) because that's just how people are in her line of work(9).

she views the entire experience and idea of being a woman as a joke. she's allowed to think about it, as a joke. she's allowed to be feminine, as a joke. she's allowed to be a girl, as a joke. she's allowed to be a pretty princess(10), as a joke. the very few brief moments where she allows herself to act on her impulses and suggest, even a bit, that she would like to be a woman is played for a joke(11/12/13/14/15). she speaks of being a woman as though it is a mystical thing, something she can only hope to achieve, less of a real option and more of a fantasy. she is acceptive of trans people(16), going so far as to say it seems that "it’s quite remarkable how productivity and morale improves once they come out and settle into living as their correct gender. [she imagines] it’s a huge relief, and it shows in everything they do." it's just that she truly doesn't view herself as being worthy of that. her entire life has been spent convincing herself that she isn't worth anything, let alone joy or comfort. she doesn't think she deserves to be allowed to transition. she believes that dr. kondraki needs to die, needs to be shot, needs to get it over with and kill herself already, and doesn't realize that the distance she puts between "[redacted] henrich kondraki" and "dr. kondraki" is a mask, a shell she can hide behind; it's a way for her to excuse any mention of her being a woman. if dr. kondraki can't be a woman, then [redacted] henrich kondraki can't be a woman either. it's nothing but a fantasy to her, something she can joke about and then discard along with the rest of her fantasies of being a good person, of being someone who deserves to be happy.

you can even bring her entire theming of butterflies into her own repression; the butterflies act as a camoflauge in the same way her mask of masculinity does. the only time she ever is truly gentle or nurturing or caring, all tasks she has deemed feminine, is with her butterflies. butterflies are specifically used in metaphors for transition, quite often appearing in trans artwork as a way to represent the death of who you once were and who you are now. the fact the butterflies also possess camoflauging abilities, which they tend to specifically use to make themselves (and kondraki) invisible, is in and of itself a metaphor for being in the closet, or, in kondraki's case, being repressed and refusing to acknowledge her transness. her transness is treated as though it's invisible, something she only looks at when it's disturbed, not unlike the way you can only see the butterflies by disturbing them. she refuses to acknowledge it, hides behind her camoflauge as a defense mechanism. coming to terms with her transness would make her have to disolve and be reborn, and she doesn't believe she deserves that. she doesn't believe she deserves to live free of the guilt, of everything she's done, so instead she stays camoflauged, stays in her bubble of masculinity where she feels her self-imposed shame and guilt.

all in all; kondraki is extremely repressed and refuses to accept that she's a woman, despite her progressive views, because she believes it would mean she is weak and fragile. she's terrified of her femininity, and uses violence and humor to deny every feminine part of herself.

DISCLAIMER. my choice to use specifically she/her for kondraki in this essay was a purposeful and deliberate choice and if you choose to use he/him after i have literally solely referred to her with she/her in this entire post i hate you personally. in other words

[transfemme-shelterdog]

Ah, another artist I liked saying trans men are never the target of harassment campaigns. They said trans women are specifically being targeted by legislation and that "the focus should be on our sisters, you need to stop making these things about yourself" and called it "what about me"ism. In response to someone saying "this includes trans men" on a post about listening to trans women about transmisogyny.

There's also the fact that op said they might have actually misinterpreted what the other person meant by that, too (might have meant trans men also need to listen), but they said that in an entirely different post, whereas they reblogged the original with a screenshot to shame them. Now the majority of reblogs are just complaining about trans men and have nothing to do with the original point.

I don't get why we can't care about and listen to all trans people when all trans people are under attack. Why is everyone so determined to act like trans men have nothing to actually worry about?

I would probably think it's rude for trans men to insert themselves, like everyone always acts like they are, if it wasn't for the fact that I never see any posts about listening to, protecting, learning from trans men/acknowledging how we are affected by this shit by design that doesn't come from a specifically transmasc themed blog that everyone dismisses because they use the word transandrophobia.

I see people haven't bothered to read my post on statutory interpretation.

Any and all laws that are explicitly written to target trans women, can, and will, be used against trans men/mascs. No exception.

So yeah, even if these legislators are targeting only trans women/fems, it affects every other trans person, and often cis people as well. Every. Single. Law.

For the love of christ people, actually read writeups from people who know more and paid good money to learn this shit at an academic level.

[benveydraws]

i can't love you in this skin

[aspiringwarriorlibrarian]

I’m sorry but if there is one thing the Tumblr left needs crucially, it’s the ability to celebrate.

I remember when marriage equality was called and there were waves of rainbows and love wins posts. When we successfully defeated Donald Trump, there was lukewarm relief, a reminder that you were only allowed one or maybe two days to celebrate and then it was back to work. That is if you were even a good person for voting Biden. We never did settle if he was better than Trump. (We did.). We didn’t celebrate student loan debt relief or any of the accomplishments of the Biden administration, or any of the times Trump was blocked, or other countries succeeding in keeping fascists out of office. Who cares if we had successes? It’s not good enough. Back to work!

And this anti-celebratory attitude stretches back to the past. On the 100th anniversary of female suffrage in America, we were reminded that not all women had the vote and so we weren’t allowed to celebrate. The only post I saw about Juneteenth was reminding us that there were enslaved people who were killed instead of freed and therefore celebrating the end of chattel slavery was wrong, and besides, we have prison labor so nothing really changed or got better and there’s nothing to celebrate anyway. Trans Day of Visibility comes with Trans Day of Remembrance so that people don’t fill the tags with hate crimes and death. So on and so forth. Nothing gets better. Nothing changes. Back to work!

So of course when we have a major setback, we fall apart and have to start frantic damage control. Frantic discourse ensues over how much people are allowed to unplug before it becomes bad and selfish. Yes, maybe you can have this one day off Mr. Cratchit but you better be here and miserable early the next morning. Like abusive bosses always insisting you squeeze out more, more, more, and any achievement is just proof you were lazy the other times and impetus for more work.

If we are never allowed to acknowledge any of our victories, how are we supposed to survive our defeats?

[freezerbnuuy]

TERFs already know they’re being racist, they already know they’re being intersexist and they already know that their actions are not benefitting all cis women because they don’t give a shit about any cis woman who is ‘too masculine’ (one TERF on Twitter told a butch lesbian she deserved to be attacked in a women’s bathroom), and they don’t give a shit about cis women of colour either because their definition of womanhood is overall defined by Eurocentric standards. TERFs only stand for one very specific kind of woman, that should be obvious at this point. And in terms of ‘you realise this won’t stop at trans women right?’ I want to make it very clear that whilst it is important to see what the broader effects of these laws will be:

Even if it DID stop at only affecting trans women it would STILL matter and would still be worth pushing back against. Trans women are NOT just an afterthought, and they don’t exist solely for you to use to win arguments either, they are a crucial part of society and of the queer community, and they don’t deserve to have their rights taken away from them regardless of the broader effects of anti-trans laws and regulations.

[bitchapalooza]

If you support Harry Potter or other works created by J.K. Rowling or the fandom itself, you have no place on my page

TERF Website.

[snekdood]

i dont need a cis person telling me the severity of my problems.

[sunny-haven]

With all the chaos going on with the Trump administration, I think it's very important that everyone watches this video, made by a civil rights activist and lawyer for over 20 years (as well as avid Pathfinder GM and TTRPG enjoyer). He goes over the importance that we the people need to stop Trump from enacting his facist agenda, calls out the Democratic party and liberals for letting everything so far happen, and most importantly, repeatedly showcases the power that the American population and what we can do to stop all of this.

I will note that this video only has 13K VIEWS! It is long, about an hour and a half, but it's divided up into chunks in case you don't have that much time to devote to watching a video. Please watch this, sooner rather than later, even if it's only bit by bit. I regret not watching it sooner when it came out because if I did, I might've been able to contribute to a rally by now.

It is slightly outdated because it was before Elon started gutting the government but the overall message remains the same. We need to fight back, or else America is at risk of becoming another Nazi Germany.

If you care about immigration rights, racial minority rights, women's rights, LGBTQ+ rights, trans rights, and otherwise the rights of those who are oppressed in America, please watch the video and reblog this post.

[ghostboyravenight]

”trans men are the weakest links of the trans community” my trans male friends and I have lived a lifetime of having our bodily autonomy stripped away to the point of sexual harassment. people talk about our bodies like everyone except us owns them because no one can handle the idea of precious female bodies being “mutilated” by gender affirming care. we are treated like traitors by women and as confused, silly girls by men. we have no spaces in which we belong because even the queer community tries to control our bodies. if we pass as men then we get ousted from queer-friendly spaces, and if we don’t pass as men we’re treated like cringe, theyfab trenders. everything we love is considered annoying. we’re called ugly and sad and “what a shame you guys are men haha”. We have to watch as society uses us as an excuse to ban gender affirming care for young people because our bodies belong to the government, because our bodies belong to our mothers, and because our anatomy is the only thing they see us as. And then we have to sit back as the trans community blames us for these bans. “All of these fake transtrenders are the reason they all hate us” when we’re busy having the women in our lives scrutinise our bodies to make sure we’re not being “infected” by the trans contagion. There’s no space we can belong in. No space that tries to make us feel welcome because either they treat us like women or they treat us like dangerous, cis men.

Every trans man I know has been sexually assaulted. Every trans man I know has been brought to suicide attempts, either due to their families or due to people online bullying them to death. Our struggles are constantly diminished and yet behind the scenes we’re fucking exhausted from fighting attacks from every single goddamn side. How fucking dare you call us weak. We’re going through fucking hell like every other goddamn trans person out there and our bodies are being abused and controlled and scrutinised every day of our fucking lives. Have you seen how TERFs talk about our bodies? How they lament us “mutilating” our breasts, our fertility, our anatomy, all in the name of feminism. That’s sexual fucking harassment, and it’s disgusting. But that’s all they fucking see us as. We’re not human, we’re just defected specimens. Cis women give themselves free passes to harass our bodies because they see us as “one of them”. One of them, but wrong. One of them, but need to be fixed. My mother regularly checks my chest to make sure I’m not trying to flatten it, and she can get away with it because “that’s what mothers do to their daughters.” Even when I’m not her daughter. Even when I’m screaming at the top of my lungs wanting to die because my body doesn’t belong to me. My body stopped belonging to me as soon as I came out as trans, because female empowerment doesn’t apply to me anymore. Female empowerment is now about “correcting” me, to restore my body back to its former glory, because only then was I worth something.

We are not weak. We are strong as fuck for dealing with the shit we have to deal with. And the worst part is, so much of the bullying comes from other trans men. We’ve been taught to hate ourselves so much that the only way to get ahead is to put down our own brothers and treat them in the way we’ve been treated.

There is no weak link of the community because we’re all dealing with absolute shit from all sides, but don’t you ever suggest that trans men are somehow the whiny babies who have nothing to complain about when we’re constantly holding back from screaming our guts out because there’s nothing else we can do.

[hotnfreshtakes]

trans men will say something like "having access to reproductive care is something that affects me personally, even as a man. i understand that conservatives speak about it as if it's a woman-only issue, but they see trans men as women too, and losing access to these services would affect us just as much. it'd be nice to be able to add my perspective and experiences to the conversation and have them taken seriously" and people will go "oh so you're erasing women? you're speaking over women? you hate women? you're a misogynist? typical man?"

like for the love of god "this issue affects me just as much as it affects you" does not mean "i think im more important than you" and its wild how many people take it that way. no reasonable trans man is actually trying to make discussions about abortion or trans healthcare or etc exclusively about them, and if you take it as a threat whenever a trans guy opens their mouth in a discussion like this, then that's your problem to work through, not theirs

[gor3sigil]

Before starting T, when I socially transitionned, I was surrounded by radical feminists who saw masculinity as gross and inherently evil, something to avoid, something to make fun of, something to destroy. The other transmascs in my friend group, sometimes, told me that they didn’t knew if they really were non-binary or if they just were scared shitless of saying “I am a man”. Because they saw this as a betrayal to their younger self who had been SAd and abused.

I saw many of my masc friends and trans men around me hate themselves, not outing themselves as men because it would imply so so much, it was like opening the Pandora Box. Even when we were just together, talking about our masculinity was always coated with bits like “I know we’re the privileged ones but…”, “I don’t want to sound like I have it bad but…”, “Women obviously have it worse, but last time…” and we were talking about terrible traumas we experienced while taking all the precautions in the world in the case the walls were a crowd of people in disguise waiting to get us if we didn’t downplay the violence we faced, or like crying and being upset and being traumatized and afraid and scared and to say it out loud would make us throw up the needles we were forced to swallow every second of every day living in our skin.

Most of us weren’t on T yet, some of us were catcalled every day and harassed in the streets or in abusive relationships nobody seemed to care to help them get out of because they were “strong enough” to do it by themselves.

I was using the gender swap face app and cried for ours when I saw my father looking back at me through the screen. The idea of transforming, of shedding into a body that would deprive me of love, tenderness, and safety, was absolutely terrifying. I knew I couldn’t stay in this body any longer because it wasn’t mine, but I also knew that if I was going to look like my dad, my brother, my abusers, it would be so much worse.

5 years later and I’m almost 2 years on T, and almost 2 months post top surgery.

I ditched my previous group of friends. I was bullied out of my local trans community. But let me tell you how free I am.

I was scared that T would break my singing voice: it made it sound more alive than ever.

I was scared that T would make me less attractive: it made me find myself hot for the first time in my life.

I was scared that T would make me gain weight: it did. But the weight I put on is not the weight I used to put on by binging and eating my body until I forgot that it even existed. It’s the weight of my body belonging to me, little by little. The wolf hunger for life.

I won’t tell you the same story I see everywhere, the one that goes “I started going to the gym 8 times a week, I put on some muscles, I started a diet and now I look like an action film actor”, in fact if you took pictures of me from 5 years ago vs now I’d just have more acne, I’d have longer hair and still look like I don’t know what to do with myself when I take selfies.

But the sparkle in my eyes, my smile, tell the whole story way better than this long ass stream of words could ever.

I want to say some things that I wish someone told me before starting medically transitionning.

It’s okay to take your time. It’s your body, it’s your journey, if you don’t feel comfortable taking full doses and want to go slow, the only voice you need to listen to is your own. Do what feels right.

If you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a break, it’s okay to ask for support.

Trans people are holy. Everyone is. You didn’t lose your angel wings when you came out because you want to be masculine. You are not excluded from the joy of existence, from being proud of yourself, from being sad, from being scared, from being angry. The emotions and feelings you allowed yourself to feel while processing what you experienced when you grew up as a girl and was seen as a woman are still as valid as before. Nobody can take that from you. If someone tries to, don’t let them.

It’s perfectly normal to grieve some things you were and had before you started to transition, like your high soprano voice or even your chest. Hatching is painful. You can find comfort in things that don’t feel right, so making the decision to change can be incredibly scary and weird and you deserve to be heard and supported through this. Wanting top surgery doesn’t make the surgery less intense, less terrifying, less painful to recover from. When it becomes too much you have the right to take a break and take some deep breaths before going on.

You don’t have to have a radical, 180° change for your transition to be acceptable or valid or worthy of praise. Look at how far you’ve come already. It doesn’t have to show, you’re not made to be a spectacle, you’re human and it is your journey.

Oh, and last thing, you know when some people say “Oh this trans person has to grow out of the cringy phase where you think that you can write essays about being trans or transitionning or just their experience because it’s weird” ? If you ever hear this or see this online, remember all the people whose writing you read and, even if they were not professional writers, helped you more than any theorists did ? If you want to write, do it. It won’t be a waste. It can help people. Or it won’t, and even then, if it helped you, that’s enough.

Love every of my trans siblings, take care of yourselves. You deserve the world.