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lmao i used to agonize and be so scared to block someone, but now, i'm just:
it's so freeing to just wave goodbye and forget them
#who knew it was okay to have my own boundaries?#and also assert them!#fyi i have a life-changing discovery!#lmao but seriously#feels so much healthier#i realize making this post seems like i'm petty or whatever#but no genuinely it feels like a revelation that i can just... do this#it doesn't take all this thought or worry or stomachaches#it's just 'oh i need a boundary here and i can take it'#and like this just feels so amazing to me#i've never been good at putting me first#i'm rambling i know#but like this is huge to me#guess i want to mark it somehow
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Husk: This is my boyfriend Angel, he's so smart and handsome and I'm so proud of him
Vaggie: This is my beautiful girlfriend Charlie, she's my angel and I love her so much
Alastor: this is Niffty she has rabies
#I’m not implying that Alastor and niffty are tigether please don’t read this like that#this is just their actual dynamic#borrowed from spreadingthenewsies#honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if niffty had rabies#if she does she should bite Val#actually#niffty should bite Val just to assert dominance#t posing niffty#husk#husker hazbin hotel#Angel dust#angel dust needs a hug#consensually#vaggie#charlie morningstar#vaggie/charlie#husk/angel#huskerdust#alastor and niffty#they’re buds#just insane#incorrect hazbin hotel#incorrect hazbin hotel quotes#Hazbin hotel#also cue Angel not believing husk when he compliments him but husk is like you’re a loser but you’re still amazing now BELIVE IT#pentious: these are my eggs I made them#they say insane shit all the time!#also I fully believe that Husk and Angel refer to one another as ‘my fella’
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KISS X KISS X KISS: Love ii Shower (2023) "Sensei, you're so mean. I only want to be happy, but... It's hurting me. I got it."
#kiss x kiss x kiss#kiss x kiss x kiss love ii shower#kissxkissxkiss#nagumo shoma#takemoto yusuke#userrlaura#uservix#userfaiza#moonlightsdream#jdramaedit#jdramasource#asiandramanet#asiandramasource#jdrama#userharu#i have a million thoughts about this scene#the way naoki gives him the order to take off his clothes but he can't help but add 'please' to it#even when he tries to be assertive he chickens out but that doesn't matter in the end because it does have the desired effect on yamashiro#and of course the contrast between them is on full display here once more#naoki with the golden skin blonde hair and lighter clothes vs yamashiro and his completely black palette!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#it's a power play and naoki of course is losing bc yamashiro naturally has the upper hand#also let's talk about the amazing acting choices here: the way naoki stands completely still#it's like he doesn't dare to make a wrong move#and even tho yamashiro is 'servicing' him here it's not naoki who's in control#mywork
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The storytelling just doesn't care. It doesn't care! It doesn't care why the venatori would have fallen in line under Elvhen gods--something that must have involved a power struggle of some sort and a complete realignment of their beliefs. Or why the Antaam would be okay with this particular brand of magic, or how they would feel about allying with the venatori. For that, they'd have to show the antaam being people at all--which they don't in an overtly racist way.
The enemies are faceless and they are bad simply because they are bad. It's easy to do that with demons or the new "mechs" that now exist for no reason. But then every "bad" person just falls in line and says, sure, yeah, I'll align myself with the blight, a monstrosity that everyone in Thedas has been brought up to fear and revile.
Even Isseya, whose (terrible) storyline is that she became corrupted by her obsessive need to "protect" the griffons has a random line about how Ghilanain is good actually. This one could have made sense! She was an elf. She cares about creatures. She could have been manipulated into believing that Ghilannain would bring back the griffons. But they didn't develop it that far. They didn't do anything. Her story was just "evil woman bad" stab stab. Isseya and those wardens being alive brought up a million questions about the calling and the blight, and not a single person thought to ask them. Just, whelp, glad that's over with.
A compelling villain makes a compelling story. It's not the only way to make a compelling story, but it is one of the dozens of strategies they didn't use in this game because it would have required in engaging with their own setting in a way they absolutely refused to do.
#you're telling me that after corypheus died there wasn't a dozen power struggles in the venatori#fifteen splinter groups who all hate each other#and dorian didn't manage to stop any of them#I mean you are also telling me that dorian is less equipped to fight a dragon than rook which is an insane assertion#might as well have killed him off along with everyone else if he's just fucked around for 10 years doing precisely nothing#veilguard critical#veilguard spoilers#dragon age veilguard spoilers#da: the veilguard#datv spoilers#dav spoilers#davg spoilers
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What if you were my boss and mentor and lowkey nemesis and we're both girls?
#happy pride month#fem howard hamlin#howard hamlin#kim wexler#i dont really ship them but im never gonna pass up on drawing Howard as a sub.#because lets be real. Howard is so submissive. her/his knees would buckle at the first sign of assertiveness#also Kim Wexler in gay situation>>>#better call saul
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claudia’s birth allows louis to believe that he and lestat have become The Parents (equal status) and so the teacher-student power dynamic has gone away, but really it’s just been repressed and it comes up again like wack-a-mole
#clearly he wanted kids and he adored her but also the introduction of a literal child#makes him no longer occupy the position of ‘child’ in the house#in a way that is a relief to him#all that language like fledgling pupil student baby bird is dropped#he’s daddy! they're daddy and uncle :)#and then once claudia is an adult and trying to assert her own equal status#it becomes clear how much that original power dynamic had at best just become latent. bc now there's nobody to transfer it to anymore#'blame the teacher not the student'#addressing louis and claudia as a unit to tell them to clean up the corpse he left#and claudia is obv really aware of this#but like. ‘could the children murder the father’ is something present-day louis says#i think at the time he was still unable or unwilling to look that idea in the eye#anyway. hell hell hell#iwtv#vampire posting
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Casual ableist language is absolutely an issue worth addressing but maybe instead of focusing on people saying 'stupid' and 'idiot' we could look at how (non-psychotic) people throw around 'delulu' and then are shocked when people who have delusions talk about them, and people on YouTube and tiktok and really just in real life consistently using 'psychopath' and 'narcissist' as shorthand for 'evil person'
#spitblaze says things#i am not talking about narcissism in the classical 'self obsessed/self infatuated' sense#i am talking about it in the NPD way that people think turns you into an unremorseful gaslighting abuser#not to say people cannot suffer abuse at the hands of ppl with npd. just the assertion that ppl with that are inherently abusive is bullshi#also psychopqthy hasnt even been a valid dx since at least the latest edition of the dsm#its almost like ppl are realizing that saying 'this guy has Evil Remorseless Killer Disorder' is a fucked up thing to do and maybe has#more nuance than 'their brain makes them ontologically evil'#shocker. i know#ableism
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some low quality doodles for party talks i found interesting :D
also if anyone wants to send in some termina requests u can! >B)
#fear and hunger#fear and hunger termina#fear and hunger 2: termina#fear and hunger daan#fear and hunger karin#fear and hunger levi#fear and hunger olivia#my own art#these are pretty low quality cause i wanted to finish them quickly arhghgh#anyway#love the karin and daan interactions theyre amazing#also levi being an arsonist for a min there#AND#olivia i luv u#u arent a burden D:#ALSO#sry but when i went in the train and daan sat directly across from karin i cried#whole ass empty train and hes DIRECTLY across from her#asserting dominance#she deserves it for being so mean to him lol#do they have a ship name?#idk but i find theyre dynamic hilarious#their*#there?#man idk#obsessed with this game u dont understand#shitpost
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the real tragedy of the Amis chapters is that Marius is clearly terrified of asking questions about any of the genuinely baffling multitiered punbased conversations the Amis are having, when they would all VERY DEFINITELY be beyond delighted to get a new audience to infodump on
#they're NERDS Marius#they're deep end NERDS#nothing would endear you to them more than asking about their Topics!#Source: I am also a nerd and know the experience here#instead he's gonna be Bold and Assertive and Wrong in 3 2 1 --#as with so many things. I blame Gillenormand#also like. you can tell Marius thinks these guys are Intimidatingly Cool#and they are the biggest damn dorks in Paris#every read through I am more impressed with how ridic they are#Gillenormand you have a lot to answer for
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‘omg they are so father son coded’ THEY ARE TWO YEARS APART
#you dont need to assert forced family dynamics into duos just so you can ‘not ship them’ thanks#i love the hq dumpster battle movie but if i see one more ‘tsukki is bokuto’s son’ im going to scream into my fist#this is also applicable to chuu.aku tbh. the biggest victim of this take
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snooping through rbs on canons stbh art and cackling at the one that's like "i read the sample.. it's maybe about a polycule?? these guys are all in love but they just keep calling each other friends"... nothing but normal bestie activity here lads
#the only time they'd actually consider it capital-R Romance would be in the moments of thinking 'if he was a girl we would be sweethearts'#etc. and so on. but alas they are only Very Good Buddies doing Normal Friendship Activities :'(#such a shame there is no other option. fr though it's because they have no vocabulary to describe this situation due to the society around#them. also shout out to the assertion that félix has tboy swag. idk about that#mvf
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//happy pride month to them
#//as far as im aware there are very few ships po.kemas makes blatantly obvious are more or less canon#//shoutout to the person that made this decision#//i cannot think of a more blatant way to say theyre going on a date than “we're having dinner and going to the hot springs tonight”#//also larry being more assertive bc he has Plans❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️ maybe thats why g.eeta told him to spend time w/kabu#//only mfer in 30 years thats made an actual genuine connection w/larry that made him Change. just a little bit. but change nonetheless.#//we love that for him#//im a little bit obsessed with them if you cant tell LMAO#//okay to rb//#out of character.
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Damian, still fresh to the family, but actually starting to warm up to the idea of them actually being his family, looks up online 'how to be a good little brother.'
He finds all sorts of things like, "using cuteness to get what you want from your elder siblings" (lame, no way that works) "fake extra tears when they punch you so your parents buy you icecream and whatever else you want" (why on EARTH would he want anyone think he could be so weak?) etc, but he also sees stuff about Pranks, sibling fights (in the sense of "you know they're real siblings because they'll throw hands one minute, then 5 minutes later be laughing watching tv together like nothing happened"), and concepts like Sibling Code (like, absolute secrecy between siblings toward their parents, threatening potential heartbreakers, etc).
Cue him pulling pranks, like leaving lego everywhere and waiting for his shoeless family to step on them, hiding things that the others need (like, right now), sneaking things into the batcave that shouldn't be in the batcave, throwing himself at his siblings to brawl without any reason and then promptly stopping also with no reason (and wondering why they won't spend time with him to bond afterward), planning out how to threaten a literal magic space princess (Kori, who would probably find it very cute if he actually made it that far), hiding Literally Very Important information about his siblings from Bruce and Alfred because he's not a snitch, and he is a great little brother. (he's going to get an A in Little Brother which is something totally normal to want and achieve)
He eventually gets BIG scolded for his constant misbehaviour, though. Bruce and Dick are asking why he's going off the rails so much when he doesn't even seem particularly angry anymore - in fact, sometimes he even seems fairly content! Is there an issue they're unaware of? Something he's not expressing to the family? They're not mad if there's a problem, they just want to help!
So, of course, he then has to embarrassingly explain that he was just following little brother protocol, according to.. the internet. He gets bullied about it for weeks by his elders (to different degrees), since the internet is not going to help anyone be a better sibling, but they also each try to explain (in their own ways) (their own waynes) why he was so, so very wrong about the way he approached being a good sibling, so he can hopefully improve at it (and stop terrorising the household).
(I saw a meme post about Damian putting legos all over the floor + hiding Tim's shoes to harm him and it made me think of the concept)
(Also once he learns that acting extra cute really can get him what he wants, he tries to use it now and then to his advantage, but is hilariously bad at doing it, since he doesn't really have a grasp on what makes a younger sibling cute (which is.... literally just existing,, according to me, a middle child). Lucky for him the others eat up every attempt because it's so obvious what he's doing that it becomes cute to them, so he doesn't need to get real practice with it until he tries to use it on a non-bat who laughs at him for far too long about it and thusly brews fire in him to go back to the pranks he tried at the start of the little brother training montage and show them real sibling pain for making a fool of him.)
#me on this account: 'batfam time' me on the art account : 'batfam time'#you can say what you want about me but you CANNOT say I'm neurotypical#the strength it took to type neurotypical on my keyboard.... you have no idea.... for someone who literally had to attend touch type class.#I cannote type#I'd like to think Jason and Cass would hit him with the 'a good little brother would go get me a soda right now' concepts to#assert the older sibling dominance that CAUSES the sibling fights (it works)#Duke Steph and Dick are just like 'when you are just yourself that's when you're being a good little brother' and Tim#is like (throwing up noises) about it#Tim is the guy that secretly wishes he was the family baby but sadly he is not and so he's gotta act that way to hide it (poorly)#he is baby to me though sorry baby#barbara sends him memes about sibling life to prove that since he can relate to them he in fact HAS been a good little brother all along#or at least a fairly normal one#batman#batfam#damian wayne#sorry for this everyone I can't stop thinking about these bats#I wrote this in a haze forgive grammar spelling thinking everything just god please forgive me let me go I hate hyperfixating#I'm sure this concept already exists btw but I'm not sorry for also thinking about it I am simply high fiving the other believers
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Maya went on The Internet Is Dead podcast to be interviewed about her relationship with Liam and it's interesting; I recommend it for people who were curious about untangling the details in her book from real life (they talk about this in a number of different places with some detail), people who think she's making everything up, and anyone else sending hostile asks about her- we know she is following the fandom talk and responding to it but I have to say it's very satisfying to listen to her rattle through the exact arguments anons on here are sending around and answer every one of them.
some detail below the cut:
The experience was kind of grating at times; maybe it's just me but I never find it enjoyable to listen to people outside of fandom or casual 1D fans talk about us, and I cringe and bristle literally every time someone says "these people" or "they think", plus the hosts are not super useful; they refer to her tiktoks and book repeatedly without actually giving context for the discussion, like I could do with the occasional "in the book you say…" rather than just chatting about it and leaving us to figure out what they are talking about (they don't even say the name of the book), but whatever. There's interesting stuff in there so it was worth it for me and if you prefer you can just get my highlights, here ya go-
-Her making the point that the media training all of the 1D guys have done from such a young age not only impacts how they talk to the press but also how they talk to people in their lives, the tools it gives them for communicating with (and in this case, manipulating) people was fascinating to me, I hadn't thought about that but I will be in the future with regard to all of them, it's just very interesting to have in mind
-she says she had the book read by lawyers before publishing because it was about someone real and real events, and provided proof for things they asked about
-she points out that she has nothing to gain from making this up, and that as someone who works in a law office and is planning to go to legal school, that the fact that bringing false accusations against someone is illegal would be a huge deterrent to lying
-she says that one of the reasons she initially soft pedaled in terms of outright saying that the book was about Liam was that podcasts and such she went on didn't want her to say it, didn't want the liability, and that when she did say it that part would not get printed or would be edited out (hey speaking of this what are all these interviews she did about the book why am I just now hearing about it... when you guys see stuff like this let me know! I am interested and will maybe recap for you even!)
-she mentions Liam's silence on the whole thing more than once; "if someone wrote that about me and it wasn't true I would not just say nothing!"
-she says that her and Liam went to see After not knowing it was a 1D fanfic and then, after finding that out, he joked that she should write a book about them, and that it was where the seed of the idea came from
#maya henry#I have some complicated thought about her comments on management#some of it is yes! and useful#some of it I just... don't have that much interest in these peoples' takes on modest actually#but some of it about liam and his relationship to his management... I think there's some naivete at work#like yes he can fire them#and also you could have left at the first sign of his bad behavior. sometimes there is more complexity at play in life than that#but overall ofc I do think what she's saying is correct: they are not and cannot force him to do anything and he absolutely could fire#anyone he wanted to#and honestly knowing everything we do its not hard to picture anyone who pushed too hard on him being fired right off#but he is also a mess and I think she (but with much more reason and excuse!) falls into the same trap as fandom which is#painting everyone as either an abuser or a victim. so since he an abuser he cannot also have difficulty asserting agency#and setting boundaries for what is okay for him#when ofc that's not true#so like...some complexity imo#but whatever#liam discourse
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wrt the last post i just reblogged (Halsin cnc meta), i personally tend to imagine him as fairly aware of and comfortable with his kinks, including the ones based on his trauma
in fact i like to think that one of the reasons why he has such trouble accepting that his years of sex slavery were in fact deeply traumatic and abusive is because his response is to heavily sexualize his own trauma - not only was that part of how he discovered that he takes great pleasure in servicing others sexually, but ever since he's sought out situations where he can recreate aspects of the experience
because he's so large and strong and people tend to make assumptions about what kind of sex he wants or what kind of role he plays (or just project their own ideas of what kind of role they want him to play or think he should play onto him), he doesn't get to bottom or sub nearly as often as he likes
although his tendency towards acts of service is imo his own way of taking that control - even if someone wants him to be aggressive and fuck them, if he's doing it as an act of service, then he's still submitting himself to them and making himself their pet or toy and giving himself that satisfaction
this is something that i really like the idea of him and Astarion having in common, actually. i like to think of them both responding to their trauma by sexualizing it, but essentially in opposite directions
Astarion wants to be the one in control, the one doing rather than the one done to, and in contrast to Halsin, i think he would 100% think that makes him a bad person, basically as bad as Cazador
he doesn't really understand kink as something negotiated, as play between willing partners. his only experience is being tortured and exploited, and now that he finds himself with all of these desires to control, dominate, and hurt someone else, to force himself on someone else the way he was forced so many times, he's sure that it must mean he's irredeemably broken by his experiences
meanwhile, Halsin knows that both of their desires are normal and nothing to be ashamed of, but he's got this fun little cognitive dissonance going on where even though he would never think this of someone else, he feels like the fact that he found his experience of sex slavery powerfully erotic means it wasn't really that bad and that he can't really call himself a victim - maybe sort of a victim, but not entirely one, not the way someone like Astarion was
(even though their situations are very similar in certain respects. Astarion says most of his partners didn't even "grant me temporary bliss," but that doesn't mean he never found any of it sexually satisfying or erotically compelling, or never had any complicated feelings about Cazador that included love, a desire for attention/regard, or a sense of comforting familiarity)
i'm just very fond of the idea of Halsin being pretty comfortable in his own enjoyment of submission, including things like masochism, cnc, pet play, various types of power exchange, and just generally a lot of things that are quite specifically aspects of his own past abuse, and getting to walk Astarion through the idea that it's fine and okay to like that sort of thing whether you want to be on the giving or receiving end of it
and MEANWHILE being forced to confront his own internal double standard where he holds himself responsible for things that he would never hold someone else responsible for, due to his direct engagement with Astarion's trauma, and having to slowly come to the realization that he was a captive, he was a victim, it was abusive, and he is in fact Kind Of Fucked Up About It
#self-recognition through the other babeyyyyy#just my personal set of headcanons about halsin and his trauma and his relationship to kink because of his trauma#i like to think he doesn't struggle so much with accepting his kinks as with feeling like he has the right to be 'selfish' enough to ask fo#unless his partner says they want to do it first in which case he'll go all in#or they ASK him outright what he wants to do and he can mentally turn it into 'i'm pleasing them by being honest'#he is legitimately down for most things but he also tends to go with the flow#and struggles to be able to assert himself even in relatively minor ways if he feels like it'd be a bummer to his partner#bg3#halstarion
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AHA thank u i was mostly just. frantically pulling the "no hetero" card bc farcille is super super always endgame for me and the "marcille has two hands" thing is absolutely not for me and my personal characterization of marcille
i like. can't find it anymore for some reason but there was a farcille fic set just after the shuro confrontation where laios reaches over to hold marcille's hand and ask her if she likes him or if she's just tolerating him too and it was so. the vulnerability. the puppyness.
that safety and security he must feel in knowing that she wears her heart on her sleeve and he will always know when she's unhappy with him because she will absolutely let it be known. the way that falin's first revival was the turning point for the way he felt about her because, for the first time in his life, protecting falin wasn't something he had to shoulder alone. there was finally someone else who cared about her as much as he did (in his eyes, resenting his parents for failing to protect her) and would stop at nothing to save her. the way it must have been proof for him that, not only was falin not alone anymore, he wasn't alone anymore.
idk why i like rather than dislike the fact that his only framework for parsing how he feels about "the first girl other than his sister that he's ever cared this much about" is a comphet romantic lens. like he would have the autism moment of fully assuming that he's in love with her for a while and just like. not? doing anything about it? because he doesn't feel the urge to, nor is he sad that he knows marcille would mostly likely never "feel the same way" about him?
like. he "figures out" that he's "in love with marcille" with all the passion of printing out a label and sticking it onto a favourite scrapbook for organizational purposes. he's equally happy to be her husband or brother-in-law so long as it means she stays close and is part of his family.
i know logically i should hate it but it's sooo crunchy to me. my comphet besties ever. designated plus one and dance partner to all fancy and formal occasions. having actual real chemistry but the "romantic" part of it is some weird shapeshifter smokescreen. augh
#asks#tunnel anon#screencapped so it doesn't show up in the l*imar tag#anyway don't read these tags if lesbian marcille is your truth. you're real for that and i would never oppose that#but i guess im in the bisexual marcille camp for a couple of reasons (first and foremost being that ryoko kui is like.#a fabulous incredibly likely bisexual and marcille is clearly her Specialest Little Guy so it feels only fair)#so technically laios and marcille “dating” is a possibility in my head but such an insanely depressing one that i don't give it much though#like yeah sure marcille is capable of being attracted to him and even having feelings for him if he pursued her intensely enough#but that's the paradox. he wouldn't.#once again. equally happy to be her husband or brother in law bc he doesn't understand being attracted to women#and dearest marcille needs more than that.#little neurotic dragoness bunny who needs to be desired and wanted with an all-consuming passion#hopeless romantic freakassishly monogamous cringe darling who needs to be “the one” for her partner in order to thrive in a relationship#because she wants to be given as good as she's giving and nothing less (and boy does she give!! she gives her everything!!)#so i vastly prefer her never developing feelings for him bc he never decides to pursue her in a way she can't ignore#over them getting together and her self-esteem taking hit after hit as he demonstrates no romantic passion for her#like yes it's toxic and ridiculous. but let's be so real. if someone blatantly flirted with her and he did nothing and felt nothing#she'd be crying herself to sleep feeling unwanted and unessential and “not even worth getting jealous abt” bc she's Like That.#while he starts to hate himself more and more for not being able to give her what she needs#kissing them on the head and tucking them safely into my personal canon. i could never do that to them.#also marcille being the first and foremost thing that laios and falin “fight” over in a way where falin is finally able to assert herself i#yknow??
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