#and NB being someone else

[arvandus]

Waaaaiiiit a minute....

I'm going through the hard levels in NB, and in 8 and 9, Sol is sent to this weird place where Diavolo and Simeon are trying to make him choose a side, and in the end NB talks to him...

Does this also coincide with when Barb "teleported him away" and he came back later being like, "yeah, he dumped in a dragon's lair lol"??

[melverie]

Have you guys ever noticed that Lucifer hardly ever openly shows his brothers how much he cares for them, meanwhile Satan--who the others say was most influenced by Lucifer--has difficulty properly expressing that he loves and appreciates his brothers?

[greghatecrimes]

congratulations to Thirteen for being the first feminine character to make me feel Gender Envy in a really long time

[the-avaricious-meddler]

On the earlier topic- Maybe it's just me, but people refusing to use the correct pronouns for it/its users because it's 'dehumanizing' comes across as a bit... "You don't know what's best for you but I do"-y. And like I get that it's probably not intentional, but it's still a bit yikesey.

[rat-rosemary]

Ough vent but I'm just thinking about the friend I used to have who is a qsmp-er

Just venting under the cut

I genuinely can't belive I settled for a friendship so shitty. I'm very loud irl!! And aggressive!!! I can't belive I let them just... drag me along like that. I would accept their explanations and listen to all their rambles about the qsmp but if I even tried to take about my interests they would look at me weird.

I can't belive how much effort I put in. I have a shitty memory but I made an effort to remember their headcannons!! I drew them fanart when he was sad! God, I bended myself backwards to respect every single boundary they set (and mostly they were reasonable, but...)

It was one of the last times we talked that I fully realized they would never do any of that for me. It was at the start of the school year, after "The Truth" and before that, I had agreed I would not talk about the Dteam around them until the video dropped because the topic it was a bit of a trigger for my friend. When we talked face to face again it had dropped two months ago. But when I brought them up (after they talked about the qsmp) they looked at me weird and I realized they were never going to even attempt to match my energy. They just expected me to chance and stop liking what I liked.

(The way they hadn't even watched it or attempted to learn anything about it. It broke me a little. Just a few days their favorite CC had dropped a document talking about his abuse and I READ THAT SHIT. Even tho I didn't need to.)

Here's my advice: never put in more love then what you're being given, back out of any relationship that is hurting you and BY GOD DO NOT BEFRIEND A QSMP-ER

[byanyan]

a younger byan who's still very new to things like crushes being extra mean to a boy they have a crush on vs. them being much nicer & more friendly with a girl or genderqueer person they have a crush on

[sesshy380-rp]

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Kat stayed still during the encounter with the old man, fearing that any potential movement would redirect his attention away from Bakura. Thankfully he moved to be somewhere else.

She looked at the poor mother who seemed to be embarrassed about the fuss that had been caused just because the infant did what infants do.

She leapt down from her perch on Bakura’s shoulder to take a seat on the woman’s lap. She rubbed her head against the woman in a demand for attention while purring loudly, hoping it would help distract the woman from the old man’s ignorance.

((@nb-lesbian-tkb))

[anaalnathrakhs]

honestly i think i feel more comfortable w things like "miss" and other generally more childish ways to talk about. female people? i dunno how to de-age it. anyway what i mean is that gendered expectations & gendered everything vary quite a lot depending on people's ages, and especially (assuming no abuse is going on) there can be kind of a "free pass" for non-conformity when you're a kid, just like there can be a free pass for all sorts of polite social manners until you're too old to like, play in the mud.

if you call me miss, you're playing along, you're being jokingly overly polite to a little kid who is clearly not old enough to need an honorific before their name. it's like you're calling me a teen or an adult. if you call me ma'am you're seeing a woman. you're acknowledging what you see. the primary point has shifted from age to gender. and i don't know if i'm really comfortable being perceived as very much solidly a woman.

[2024skin]

I'll be fine as long as I never have a moment alone to think about anything

[lichensbian]

film students should be hunted for sport (except my gf she's a perfect angel. but she's also dropping out)

[afoolandathief]

Happy STS! Everybody knows at least one incident where their character didn’t do what we wanted them to do. Tell me what happened and how things turned out?

Hello K and happy belated STS!

So I've been thinking about this for a while because I *know* this has happened on multiple occasions. Definitely in Something Wicked, and at some point I'd like to list everything that changed from my original idea for Those Horrid, Horrid Things (though some of that is characters misbehaving and some is suggestions or inspiration from others).

I've been having a lot of The Friendly Visitors brainrot, though, and also a lot of Leech brainrot, so I'll talk about him, because I think this counts:

TFV goes back to a story idea I had when I was, like, 17. And Leech initially was a cis woman who just, like, happened to wear men's clothing and serve as a goon in this vampire gang and never went by a feminine name (which is, of course, totally valid). But around a decade later I pulled out the initial draft, read a section from Leech's perspective, and was just like "this is a man. This is a trans man." And that was that.

[bibiana112]

I have no idea how to phrase it but being on the older end out of the students in this class and seeing a lot of the ones that just left highschool struggling with very similar stuff than I did (because no one in this course is cishet and neurotypical) and then seeing them come to me for support with all that stuff just because I'm outspoken about my experiences and somehow signaled that I'm safe enough of a person to come to all in the third week of class is so much I don't know how I got here but I'm so glad I did

[wild-at-mind]

TW abuse talk

Hey, remember that era of tumblr when it was completely acceptable and social justice-y to say: let us describe our perfect gay trans nonbinary world which we were going to build, our utopia. What would we do about rapists and abusers you ask? Well we will just kill them! Easy solution!!

[euniexenoblade]

tl;dr version: a very frequent and more recent flavor of trans exclusionism, transmisogyny, and transphobia at large has started to bubble up as an overpowering, overwhelming (and fake) acceptance of gnc cis people.

The actual long version:

Trans people, especially trans women, when they want to come out or explore their gender are often met with loved ones, family, or friends telling them "you can just be gnc, you don't know you're actually trans, men can be feminine, you should try that before scary life changes" we often talk about how this is a move by abusive, transmisogynistic people in our lives, who pretend to to care about gnc people, but in reality it's just transphobia manifesting as a false support. They often manipulate trans people into not pursuing transition and then lay on all the manipulation to convince us we were so silly to think we're trans afterwards.

Though there's a lot of people who still see it as honest support for the gnc, most of us are pretty clear that it's transphobic. But, another way this takes form is from other trans people, there are a lot of trans people with internalized transphobia who only view the existence negatively and when you talk about people potentially being trans, you activate their rapid internalized self hate: how can you say that? You can't know someone else's gender! You're forcing them to be trans! Men can be gnc! You're actually the transphobic one!

You also see it take form as things like "egg prime directive." "You can't tell the egg they might be trans!!!" Yes, you can. And you probably should. Trans people are not some mythical once in a blue moon thing. We are everywhere. There's lots of us. Being trans is not a bad thing, it's simply just a thing. Acting like you can't tell people they're trans is treating trans people like we're dirty secrets, a thing to be ashamed of, you're treating it like an insult. The truth of the matter is, telling someone they're exhibiting things associated with trans people can help speed up the process, less dysphoria to agonize over, less confusion as to what's going on, you can help kickstart a path to happiness.

But these people don't. Cuz they don't *want* people to be trans, and very specifically don't want people to be transfem. I don't need to get into the polls that showed most transmascs think telling a friend they might be a trans woman is morally wrong, you've seen it already. I don't need to tell you about how a transfem mentioned a specific person in the media seemed transfem, just for people to harass them (idk pronouns) off the site, just for people to confirm that yes - the individual in the news was likely transfem. And with that realization didn't come an apology, didnt come a new understanding, the trans and "pro trans" harassers stuck to their guns "recognizing transhood in others the way you see it in yourself is the same as transvestigation, the right wing transphobic conspiracy theory!"

This topic has been talked about a lot this past year, with the egg joke discourse, people getting harassed and ran off the site for correctly mentioning someone seems transfem, the constant harassment and blog deletion of trans women, the onslaught of harassment from the transandrodorks and terfs, etc etc. but I feel like it never gets correctly classified as a form of exclusionism. We easily recognize truscum exclusionism as what it is: "youre nb? You don't try to pass? You don't shave? Lol fake trans" it's the blue hair with pronouns schtick. It's gatekeeping the community. But, in the same respect, the "you can't just say people are trans" "it's ok to be gnc!" anti egg joke types of people are just as exclusionary. One end it's "you aren't a true transexual" and the other is "be gnc instead, being trans is a bad thing."

It's the projection of internalized transphobia into a policy. You can't tell anyone they're trans because you don't see trans people as anyone, you see them as weird monsters. That's a really depressing form of exclusion, but exclusion all the same.

[lillybean730]

writing down comic idea at 3am >:D

[unlimitedbutchworks]

if you are ever wondering if maybe this transfem blogger genuinely hates all transmascs or all other non-transfem trans ppl, im personally guaranteeing that no, she doesn’t, she just bitches about them more than others because people defend transmisogyny from other trans people like nothing else compared to every other demographic. lotta people vehemently wanna to pretend it never ever happens so of course we don’t feel heard

tell someone a cis guy was being dismissive and shitty to you, most don’t bat an eye— try to talk about one of the times a nb transmasc held that same transmisogyny over you while other lgbt people just watched, a boatload of dudes immediately take it as a personal attack rather than a sign to stay vigilant against transmisogyny in our communities