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klugpuuo · 3 years

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almost every puyo~tet single-character headcanon wie have

every character we've put more than three minutes of thought into are gonna be in this post. this *does* leave out a lot of characters, but still includes so many that hopefully that'll make up for it. ^also i forgot about this entirely while writing and tried to add a few characters i literally never think about everat all so you get extra funny commentary i guess

welp! enjoy the ride. and dont forget to like, comment, and subscribe (/lh)

warnings: mentions food, implied self-harm, delusions (not inherently triggering but still), general violence, some madou-era content, death. (more to be added + ask to tag) none of the things mentioned are in much detail.

Madou Monogatari / OG Puyo~Puyo characters:

Arle – 16 (chronologically 20 due to the Madou time stop but doesn’t realize it), has PTSD and ADHD + nonbinary transfem + sex-repulsed and questioning (she/he/they)

Assorted headcanons:

-Her armor was made into a sort of magical puberty blocker by her grandmother, who knew Arle was trans and wanted her to live her life to the fullest. -Although she has never been in an (official) romantic relationship, she’s usually the first person her friends go to for relationship advice. -She stims a lot, usually by twirling her hair around or jumping.

Relationship headcanons:

Partners: She’s in a vaguely romantic relationship with Serilly. “Vaguely” as in they go on dates frequently, kiss a lot, and would live together if they could, but neither is sure if they are actually dating. Friends: She adores Ringo and Amitie and wants to protect both of them – not in the super creepy and sorta patronizing way, but in the “she really cares about them and their well-being” way. Despite thinking that Schezo is an absolute fool at times, she still cares about him quite a bit. She’s come to regret what she did all those years ago, and is determined to make sure that Schezo never remembers it.

Schezo – ~200, has ADHD and PTSD + transmasc + homosexual (he/it/gore)

Assorted headcanons:

-Although he can be away from his sword, it’s bonded to his body so strongly that if he is too far away from it for too long he becomes incredibly weak. -He borrowed a thesaurus from Aya and Klug and is not planning on ever giving it back. -He doesn’t remember a single thing that happened before Puyo~7, and can hardly remember anything from then until Puyo~Tetris 2. -After learning about tone indicators, he begins to put “/nx” at the end of *all* of his messages online. Although a few people make fun of him for it, many people find it either endearing or some form of cool, and he’s affectionately known as “the /nx anon” in a few social circles. -His main special interests are forging and dark magic (good for him <3)

Relationship headcanons:

Crushes: He has a slight crush on Lemres, and thinks that Incubus is.. interesting. He also thinks Witch is cute but can’t tell if that’s a crush or what. (Good) friends: He considers Arle to be his best friend, and she’s usually the first person he’d go to for anything. The two actually lived together for a while. Although he thinks Rulue is a fool at times, he still cares about her and thinks she’s pretty impressive. Enemies...?: He once was always looking to pick a fight with Satan, but after (rather awkwardly) remembering that he once saw the prince as a father, he mostly stopped doing that.

Rulue – ~40-ish?, experiences delusions + cis lass + questioning (she/her and a few neopronouns)

Assorted headcanons:

-She’s not sure why there are so many people who are like her and at this point she’s wondering if it really is just a coincidence. -She secretly wishes that she could join Arle, Schezo and Witch’s arm-wrestling sessions, but as they’ve been going on for so long without her she feels almost awkward asking. -Although she still experiences delusions sometimes, she’s gotten a lot better at telling what’s true and what’s false.

Relationship headcanons:

Partner… sorta?: She’s sort of in a QPR with Raffina, and they go on platonic dates a lot. (Good) friends: She’s quite good friends with Arle, especially since she’s no longer chasing after Satan. Speaking of Satan, as she’s no longer absolutely obsessed with him she’s actually beginning to get along well with him, and the two regularly have friendly battles.

Witch – >16, might be NT + cis lass + omni (she/it)

Assorted headcanons:

-The only thing she can transform people or things into without help of a potion is mushrooms. -She’s surprisingly strong and quite good at arm wrestling. -She’s not sure if she had any sort of neurodiversities, but she doesn’t really care either way.

Relationship headcanons:

Crushes…?: She might have feelings for Arle, but even she doesn’t have any clue. She’s also.. interested in Feli, as she sees Feli as quite the interesting person. Family: She’s an orphan, although she doesn’t mind it. (Good) friends: She’s okay-ish friends with Schezo, and the two usually do arm wrestling matches with Arle in their free time.

Satan – ~3000<, only god knows + cis trans man (somehow less than a joke) + pansexual (he/it)

Assorted headcanons:

-As he’s so old and has changed his physical appearance so many times, he’s completely forgotten his original sex, if he even had one. -After getting very literally schooled by Raffina, he realized that his plans to acquire Arle were just never going to work, and after a while of self-reflection he decided that he’d rather spend the rest of eternity doing other things he liked than chasing around an underage lass. -Due to having completely remade the world himself, he feels almost completely disconnected from it. All the people he used to know.. aren’t the same, and it’s destroying him.

Relationship headcanons:

Partners: Misses his dead wife a lot, but is now happily dating (nd half-joke married to) Ex (Chosen) family: After Satan had a good long think about everything, he realized that he did actually care about Lidelle a lot, and now properly sees her as a little sister. Friends: He’s on good terms with Rulue and actually properly hangs out with her sometimes. -

Serilly – >16, has anxiety and experiences delusions + trans lass + questioning (she/her)

Assorted headcanons:

-hgnggng operea

Relationship headcanons:

Partners: She may or may not be dating Arle. (Chosen) family: Although she’s presumably an orphan, she has Suketoudara, who she sees as an older brother figure. Best friend: She platonically loves Harpy a lot, and the two of them spend a lot of time together. - Suketoudara – ~30, NT + about as cis guy as a fish can get + polysexual (he/him)

Assorted headcanons:

-I literally do not think about this guy

Relationship headcanons:

Sibling serilly

Puyo Fever (2) characters:

Amitie – 14 and a half, autistic + binary transfem + fem-leaning panromantic (she/fae/flare)

Assorted headcanons:

-She found out that she was trans when she was 7 years old, and managed to convince her parents to let her transition when she was 12. -She taught herself how to bake, and Arle taught her how to cook more salty things. She regularly makes lunches for her friends, even if they already have their own. -She cares a lot about Sig’s ladybug friend and usually “babysits” them when Sig has to leave to wherever. -Raffina and her are the only two with two parents who haven’t divorced and/or died, but as Amitie's parents are almost always at work she doesn't get to talk to them very much. -She stims by twirling her hair when it’s long, or squishing a puyo-shaped stress ball when it’s short.

Relationship headcanons:

Partners: She’s in a QPR with Sig and Klug, and says she wouldn’t give it up for the world. Crushes: She has a huge crush on Ringo, and a squish on Ess, but she doesn’t think either of them feel the same way. (Chosen) family: She feels rather lucky having contact with both her mother and father, as most of her friends don’t have contact with their own parents. Also, she looks up to Arle a lot, and sees them as an older sibling. Friends(?): Nobody can tell what exactly her relationship with Raffina is, but the most common theory is that they’ve kissed at least twice. Even during Lidelle’s fight with Sig, Amitie supported her, knowing she truly did regret her actions and it was mostly just a big misunderstanding.

Klug – 14 and three quarts, autistic and has ADHD + transmasc nonbinary + ace/aroflux (he/they/wir)

Assorted headcanons:

-Although he had initially asked to be called by neopronouns just as a joke, he found he actually liked the wir/worm set a lot, and now tends to go by that exclusively on some days. -On one night he doesn’t remember, all of his cosmetic glasses were mysteriously destroyed, along with all his contact lenses. After that, he stuck to just one pair of functional glasses -He was gifted an “EiPod” by Ringo and Amitie, although only the latter took credit for it. -He stims by humming, writing, and aggressively cleaning his glasses.

Relationship headcanons:

Partners: He’s in a QPR with Sig and Amitie, and secretly wants to leave Primp and travel the world with them both. Chosen family: He sees Feli as both a rival and a sister, and now has come to see Lemres as an older-sibling figure of sorts. Friend: He’s on good terms with Lidelle, and she’s one of the only people who’s younger than he is that he still treats with respect. Rivals(?): He thinks Raffina is pretty rude, and he never lets her go without remembering that he’s better friends with Amitie than she is for more than a month.

Sig – 15, autistic and has ADHD + transmasc demilad + biromantic (he/bug/they/it)

Assorted headcanons:

-Doesn’t consider any sort of bug to be his “favorite”, but has a soft spot for ladybeetles, stag beetles and fireflies. -After a failed attempt at acquiring Sig’s power, Aya accidentally gave Sig half of its own power, causing Sig to become slightly more than just a half-demon. -After he scratched himself one too many times, Amitie and Lidelle worked together to make a glove for Sig’s claw hand. -His main special interests are both bugs and history, and he usually stims by repeating words he likes.

Relationship headcanons:

Partners: He’s mostly queerplatonic, partially romantic partners with both Amitie and Klug. During the first half week of their relationship, he was the only one the two felt comfortable cuddling with, which he was completely fine with. Family: Although initially Sig and Aya were almost enemies, they managed to reach an agreement after being left alone together and now see each other as both family and friends. Friends: He’s pretty good friends with Lidelle, and he helps her with bug-related problems whenever she has any. He’s also pretty good friends with Raffina even if they don’t hang out much and he still has trouble with her name. Enemies: Schezo.

Raffina – 16, has (canonical) imposter syndrome + transfem + pansexual demiromantic (she/her)

Assorted headcanons:

-As her family is very upper middle class, she was able to medically transition almost immediately after coming out. -She once tried to start a Primp Town Fight Club. It did not go well. -She’s the only person aside from Amitie that has two parents that did not abandon her and are not divorced. Unlike Amitie, however, only her mother works, so she gets to talk to her father frequently.

Relationship headcanons:

Crush: She secretly wants to kiss Lidelle really badly. (Good) friends: Although she was slightly distanced from them during the whole fight ordeal, she’s quite good friends with all the ASK trio. She’s pretty friendly with Ess.

Lidelle – 14, has social anxiety + cis lass + questioning (she/her)

Assorted headcanons:

-She feels genuinely sorry for what she did and said to Sig and those bugs, and she’s proud of herself for apologizing. -She likes playing with marbles and has made pretty big marble “race” courses in the past. -She doubts her self-worth a lot, and is worried that others don’t take her very seriously.

Relationship headcanons:

Chosen family: Despite not having any surviving biological family, she’s found a family in the form of Draco and Satan, who have been taking care of her for some time now. Best friend: Lidelle hangs out with Raffina almost constantly, and she considers Raf to be her very best friend. Good friends.. again: After a very large fight with Sig over the fact that her flesh-eating plants killed some of his bugs, she and Sig stopped being friends for a bit. After a lot of talking with Amitie and Raffina, she realized her mistake, and she apologized to Sig – and to her surprise, Sig apologized back. Even during the fight, she and Amitie stayed friends, and Ami gave her a lot of emotional support. She looks up to Klug, although Klug sees her as an equal and even spares a warm smile for her during some of his most jerk-y moments.

Lemres – 35, autistic, has SAD and PTSD + transmasc and nonbinary + aroflux/aceflux (they/them, he/him and any candy-related neopronouns)

Assorted headcanons:

-They are actually entirely blind due to personal reasons, and sewed their eyes shut as to not freak others out too much. They “see” by feeling the magic of their environment, and cannot “see” in low-magic areas (they also cannot read faces. At all.) -They have a sort of “vacation house” near Primp which they visit during the summer or any free time they have. The fact that it was built so close to Primp was a coincidence, but something they like very much. -Schezo occasionally “visits” the vacation house for a few months before running off on some random adventure for whatever reason. -Their broom was broken, presumably by Witch as they had fought with her not too long before that. -Su has a certain type of magic that allows sucre to read minds (or at least meaning). -His type of magic does not work on demons for a plethora of reasons. -They usually stim by twirling their staff around and messing with what remains of their broom.

Relationship headcanons:

Partners: They’re in a weird sort-of relationship with Schezo. The relationship informally started after Schezo assisted Lemres during a restless period and it doesn’t seem to be stopping any time soon. (Chosen) family: Although they want to keep their distance from their biological family, they’ve found a new family in Primp in the form of the ASK trio (Good) friends: They’re very close to Accord, having know her since Highschool (and even before she made Poipoi).

Feli – 16 and a half, experiences delusions and has disorders + transfem + bisexual (she/her evi/evil go/goth)

Assorted headcanons:

-Rather compulsory heterosexuality with her. She doesn’t actually have that much love for Lemres, mainly just lust and a feeling that she has to date or marry him. -She personally believes sharing one’s birthday with someone else is a sign of extreme trust due to Zodiac reasons. -She feels like her gender is influenced by gothic aesthetics, but can’t really describe it further.

Relationship headcanons:

Crushes: She still very obviously has a crush on Lemres, although it’s starting to lessen now that Lemres is in a closed relationship. (Chosen) family: She sees Klug as an annoying little brother, although he’s marginally more mature than she is. (Good) friends: She’s pretty good friends with Lidelle and Raffina.

Accord/Poipoi – ???? + cis lass and agender respectively + god knows (she/her for accord, he/it for poipoi)

Assorted headcanons:

-Accord secretly really likes hitting things with her hammer to the point where she’d go quite far in order to get a chance to do so. However, she would never readily admit this as she finds it to be incredibly childish. -Only Accord knows what happened to Lemres’s eyes. -During Highschool, Accord enchanted a puppet and gave it its own thoughts, personality, dreams, etc. That puppet was quite obviously Poipoi.

Relationship headcanons:

(Good) friends: Accord is close friends with Lemres, having known him since Highschool (she was his upperclassman by a few years) and never passes up a chance to talk to him. Poipoi managed to make friends with Aya in a particularly independent moment where it ran away.

Ayashii – >800, has a lot of trauma + whats a gender + (it/any neos/they/he/she)

Assorted headcanons:

-It genuinely forgot what a gender was because gender is so unimportant to it. -It somehow found a way to continue being friends with the puppy it rescued, even going so far as to teaching them the difference between it and Klug. -As it has extreme claustrophobia, it tends to take very long walks whenever it’s using Klug’s body.

Relationship headcanons:

Crushes???: Aya has some interest in Lemres and Schezo, but isn’t entirely sure what kind of interest. (Chosen) family: It’s beginning to see Klug as a son of sorts, and recognizes Sig as its descendent. huh what: It doesn’t trust Accord at all, especially knowing (and being friends with) Poipoi as an individual.

Yu and Rei - ??? + phasmaeic + (both use she/he/they gho/ghost spec/spectre and dar/dark)

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Relationship headcanons:

Puyo~7 characters:

Ringo – 16, ??? + questioning (demigirl?) + bisexual (she/they)

Assorted headcanons:

-She’s questioning pretty much every single thing about her identity and beliefs to the point where she’s actually been having frequent migraines because of it. -She’s not at all proud to admit it, but she’s not-so-secretly envious of Maguro’s “beauty beam”. -She eats a LOT of things that you’re not meant to eat, to the point where everyone except for Sig (who does the same) is worried for her.

Relationship headcanons:

Crushes: She has small crushes on both Amitie and Tee, although she likes Amitie a *bit* more. Epic friends: She’s best friends with Maguro, and he’s one of the few people she properly trusts (not for edgy reasons, just because). A lot of people assume she’s dating him, which makes her feel pretty uncomfortable, but she doesn’t feel like she can really blame them.

Maguro – 16, has ADHD and PTSD (latter from AU) + questioning + bisexual (he/they)

Assorted headcanons:

-He’s questioning the same stuff as Ringo, although he’s a lot more chill about it. -He was pretty scarred, emotionally and physically, after an unfortunate incident concerning a badly thought-out prank, a fishing net, and a timer set to one month -He remembers all of his trauma in perfect clarity, and has good memory overall.

Relationship headcanons:

Partner:He’s been in a romantic relationship with Tee for a few months, and so far it’s been really nice. Best friend: He’s best friends with Ringo, and he feels really comfortable around her. They share almost everything, and are planning on moving in together once they get the chance to have a proper house. Good friends: Although Ris moved away to study abroad a while back, they still send a lot of gifts and letters to him on a regular basis. Also, they’ve been staying in contact with Ess ever since the whole beauty pageant thing and the two go shopping when they’re both free.

Risukuma – 19, NT + trans man + male-leaning pansexual (he/him)

Assorted headcanons:

-He’s incredibly interested in all types of love -After graduating school, he decided to study abroad to learn more about other cultures (and of course, love). -He really likes music, even having written some of his own songs in the past. One of his favorite bands is IDKHOW.

Relationship headcanons:

Partner: Despite only having interacted a few times, he’s quite good “friends” with Ai. Good friends: After moving away from Suzuran, he’s not been able to hang out with Ringo or Maguro as much, but he still sends them letters and gifts on a regular basis. What: He does not want to know about Ecolo. Do not tell him about Ecolo.

Ecolo – ageless and has so many disorders (affectionate??) + gender + probably so (it/they/he/she/other in that order)

Assorted headcanons:

-If asked, it would describe its gender as “Once In A Lifetime” by Talking Heads. -It’s trying really really hard to respect Ringo’s boundaries nowadays, and not just because she refused to acknowledge its existence for a whole week after it accidentally hurt her. -It can change into its human form at will; however, if it wants to stay in that form for more than a few hours at a time, it has to actually sleep for several days straight. -In its humanoid form, it sports several scars. -It genuinely loves fidget spinners and has this really creepy one it carries everywhere.

Relationship headcanons:

Crush: You know it wants to kiss Ringo so bad. Friends: Ex-friends with Satan because Ringo hates him. Pretty alright friends with Ex and Marle, not entirely sure what to think about Squares. Uh…: After.. an accident it caused, Maguro started to be able to remember it.

Puyo~Tetris characters:

Tee – 16, + trans man + questioning (he/him)

Assorted headcanons:

-He can’t pronounce any name longer than four letters long. Somehow, the worst case of this is with Ringo and Maguro’s names. -Having transitioned at a very young age and only interacting with one lass for most of his life, he has a lot of internalized sexism. After Ringo points this out, he starts trying to work on it, but he hasn’t been doing very well so far. -He’s also trying really hard to find a balance between being too basic and too over-the-top, but..

Relationship headcanons:

Partner: He’s been in a romantic relationship with Maguro for a few months. It’s been really nice, but as this is his first relationship he tends to go all-out with everything, causing Maguro to get rather flustered. Crush: Although he’s very hesitant to admit it, he has a pretty big crush on Ringo and wants to kiss her. Chosen family: O is his parent, Ess and Ai are his siblings, and the twins are his messed up if true gay cousins. Friend: He’s pretty good friends with Sig because of their shared inability to correctly pronounce Raffina’s name.

O – infinite, ??? + ???? + probably gay? ????? (any and all pronouns)

Assorted headcanons:

-I cannot reasonably take myself seriously trying to make headcanons for this godforsaken cloud cube -Squares themself made this thing (on accident?) -Anger management issues incarnate

Relationship headcanons:

Parnter: Kissed Carbuncle once eChidle: Tee is its son

Ex – ~40, has autism, minor intrusive thoughts and (canon) depression + some form of Guy + yes (he/they)

Assorted headcanons:

-He’s not sure how he identifies gender- and sexuality-wise and feels as if he’s too old to try to figure that out (which isn’t true, but still) -He genuinely misses Ess and Ai a lot and is unendingly grateful for the chance to see them both again. -His intrusive thoughts are usually fairly easy to deal with, but can sometimes get pretty bad if he’s left alone for too long.

Relationship headcanons:

Partners: I’m pretty sure he has an ex-wife somewhere and that scares me. Also he kisses Satan every day of his life (Chosen) family: He misses his children, Ess and Ai, so much. (Good) friends: He’s become reluctant friends with Ecolo, and very good friends with Marle and Squares.

Jay & Elle – 13, autistic and have separation anxiety + nonbinary + ??? (they/them)

Assorted headcanons:

-Individually they’re okay with all pronouns, but nobody can reasonably refer to them as separate entities. -After a few people asked them, they stopped bullying Ai as much, but they still “prank” him a lot. -They were separated exactly once. It was not a very good time for them.

Relationship headcanons:

Partners:They’re queerplatonic partners with Yu and Rei, since that’s just kind of what happens when you’re two sets of evil twins who like bothering others. Friends: They don’t really have many friends as their creepiness scares people off a lot, but they like hanging out with Ecolo (even if they forget about it a lot)

Ai – 20, has pretty severe anxiety + transmasc + bisexual (he/him)

Assorted headcanons:

-He found out that he was trans after he managed to get a sort of wi-fi thing going during a five-month-long stay in a densely-packed asteroid belt. He had actually medically transitioned before that, but nobody on the SS Tetra had the word for it. -He has exactly one large scar from a prank gone horribly wrong. Otherwise, he’s not been seriously injured by anything the twins have done. - Recently he’s started to become slightly braver in general thanks to a lot of therapy and emotional support from his boyfriend, this has allowed him to stand up to the twins a lot more. He is also more physically strong, and plans to drop kick them both someday.

Relationship headcanons:

Partner: He kisses Risukuma on the daily Chosen family: As he canonically sees Ex as a father, he headcanonically sees Ess as a sister. Pure hatred(/j): He’s no longer as afraid of the tetra twins, and sometimes even manages to prank them back on good days.

Ess – ~15, only ex knows. Has serious abandonment issues, apparently canon(?!?!) PTSD, and so many things + cis demilass + lesbiab (she/they/ze)

Assorted headcanons:

-She actually has a job, and on the last weekend of every month she goes shopping with Maguro (or Amitie if he’s busy) on Saturday and Raffina on Sunday with the money she gets. -She kinda wishes that she were more physically strong for a multitude of minor reasons. -Ess doesn’t actually know how to say Ringo’s name and tries really hard to hide that fact.

Relationship headcanons:

Crushes:She’s absolutely in love with Amitie, although she’s in very deep denial about it. Chosen family: She sees Ai as a brother, and the two bond over the fact that Ex totally ditched them to go patch up dimensions or whatever. Speaking of Ex, she’s very recently found it in her heart to maybe forgive him for leaving her when she was young, although she still is a long ways away from seeing him as a father again. Friends: She and Raffina hang out and talk about their insecurities a lot.

Zed – uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh (he/him)

Assorted headcanons:

-uhhhhhhhhhh -I genuinely don’t think of this guy He reminds me too much of my ex-chosen-father -…to be added.

Relationship headcanons:

Ess is his belovt daughter that’s all you need to know.

Additional headcanons:

-Most of the Madou Monogatari gang feel entirely disconnected from what’s left of their humanity, so they identify with it/its along with whichever other pronouns they use. -Sig, Dark Sig, and the evil Sig from Sig’s Secret are all different entities. -Speaking of Dark Sig, they can actually purr, although Sig himself cannot. Klug thinks this is incredibly interesting and actually conducted several half-serious experiments to try to figure out why. -All of the SS Tetra crew see each other as family, although some have more clearly defined views of that. None of them have any romantic or sexual interest in any other member.

#ALSO IF ANyone has any questions please ask pleas #beeper canon #pinned post #puyo puyo #puyo puyo tetris #madou monogatari #<again #only mentioned #headcanon #headcanons #long post #im tempted to tag the characters but thatd be too long time for me to do so #enjiy

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non-binharry · 4 years

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hi! I’m seeing talk about people dming Louis to put his pronouns in his bio and being very mad about it, and saying it’s harmful etc, or invasive, which I do understand I think to an extent because the person was dming him. But...I don’t really get why it’s such a negative thing? I know some people were being obnoxious about it in how they asked though. Also, I’ve seen people add on to posts speaking on it saying normalizing pronouns in bios forces trans people to out themselves and it’s a negative thing for cis people to normalize/do. I know of course you don’t speak for every trans person but I was wondering your thoughts on both things? Because I want to understand and I want to not do anything harmful

i find the pronouns in the bio to be a double edged sword because:

on the one hand, you normalize the prioritization of "introducing" oneself with pronouns, which makes people more comfortable when they use they/them or neopronouns because there's an assumed familiarity with the idea that not everyone is going to go by she or he.

on the other hand, pronouns ≠ gender. the only thing someone's pronouns tell you is that they go by those pronouns. but people treat pronouns with an assumption of someone's gender identity, ie if they're male presenting with he/him, they're cis male, female presenting with she/her, they're cis female, when as we know that's not how that works. i've seen people say "she/hers" as a reference to cis women when... queer/gnc/non-binary men and amabs can use she/her too?

the issue is that some people treat the visibility of pronouns as the be all, end all to trans allyship when it's not. i've seen people flat out say that they're not talking to someone because they don't have pronouns in their bio, under the assumption that they're some cis asshole who doesn't respect trans people rather than a trans person who wants privacy regarding their gender identity.

from the jump, i think there should have been a bigger focus on normalizing the use of they/them for anyone you don't know UNTIL you learn their pronouns and/or gender identity. that's always going to be way more valuable when interacting with people in the real world anyways.

#anonymous #mensaje mensaje #basically with regards to louis: feel free to make it a suggestion but don't treat it as the pinnacle of activism and allyship please 🥴

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writeanapocalae · 4 years

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A Guide for Writing Trans People

Written by a Trans Man.

I’ve seen a lot of different posts on how to write trans characters (absolutely none on how to write cis characters and I am so lost on how to do that oh my goodness) but maybe I’ve got a different perspective and maybe I’ve got something you haven’t heard before. Let’s go!

Terminology

There are a lot of different genders out there, not just male and female. Some people think Trans men and women are some outside of the binary extra gender, which is very much not true. While many trans people do fall outside the binary, there are a lot who are strictly male or female. Therefore their genders are male and female. The trans part is not part of the word, it is a definer to state that the person is transitioning, that is all. So when you write trans man or trans woman the words are separate, not transman or transwoman.

A trans man is someone who is transitioning his appearance for society to view him as male.

A trans woman is someone who is transitioning her appearance for society to view her as female.

The reason I am wording it this way is because they were already their genders. They have always been their genders. Transitioning is greatly influenced by the way we are treated by society, the same way that beauty standards influence people to contour and get surgeries and whatnot.

Demi means mostly in terms of gender so a demi boy is someone who is male most of the time and a demi girl is someone who is female most of the time.

Agender is someone who has no gender

Genderfluid is someone who shifts from gender to gender

Genderqueer is someone who’s gender is nondefined by other terms

Two Spirit is a third gender that encapsulates masculinity and femininity (according to Wikipedia) that is only used by Native Americans

Third Gender is a gender that can encapsulate or be a completely different solid gender like male or female

Nonbinary is someone who is somewhere on the spectrum between genders and their gender is defined by them

Pangender is someone who has all genders

Androgyny is not something that actually relates to gender as much as it does presentation. Presentation does not inherently tell you someone’s gender. Being androgynous just means that someone fits right in the middle of societies expectations of male and female and their AGAB cannot be guessed by onlookers.

AGAB AFAB and AMAB mean Assigned Gender At Birth, Assigned Female At Birth, and Assigned Male At Birth. At birth someone will often assign a gender to a baby based on their genitals and parents tend to show off what sort of genitals their baby has with accessories and colors. Pretty creepy if you ask me.

FTM and MTF has been deemed problematic but many still use them. They mean Female to Male and Male to Female. The terminology states that the person’s AGAB is their initial gender and they are becoming the opposite when, as stated before, it’s more that they were always their gender and now society has to catch up.

Gender Nonconformity can be practiced by anyone regardless of gender. It just means that they do things that aren’t expected of someone of their gender like men wearing skirts (for some reason?) or women growing beards or a nonbinary person not being androgynous (for some reason that’s become an expectation)

Intersex is not a part of the trans umbrella, even though it is often lumped in and people who are intersex can also be trans. It is a sex (different from gender) in which different parts of genitals and chromosomes and hormones are produced in a way that deviates from the norm. Many intersex people undergo genital reconstruction or reduction surgery when they are infants (and can’t consent) in order to fit the mold better. Intersex people can be cis.

Cis just means that someone agrees with the people who assigned them a gender when they were a baby and how society treats them.

Slurs: Don’t use them. There are a lot. If you see it in a porn category you probably should stay away from it.

Pronouns

Pronouns are highly personal and can be a myriad of things so I will not be going over all of them. They do not always match presentation (a long haired man with breasts is still a man) and many people will use multiple sets of pronouns or fluctuate between them for what they feel most comfortable with.

Common pronouns are: they/them, he/him, she/her

Less common pronouns are: xi/xir, fae/faer, it/its, e/em, per/pers, ve/vir, zie/hir

Neopronouns: People make up pronouns all the time since they are personal and these new pronouns are just as valid as any others. Someone made up his and hers after all. When making neopronouns the main thing to be aware of is consistency. You want the different forms of conjugation to make sense and you want to spell them the same way every time.

Appearance

As has already been stated, there’s no correlation between gender presentation and gender and many trans people are unable to present the way they want to due to the economy, genetics, health, or community. Still, people do what they can to pass or feel comfortable in their body and these things need to be in mind during descriptions. People tend to think of the slight things that make people not pass are unattractive and will point out a woman’s 5 o’clock shadow or a man’s high pitched voice as flaws. These things do not necessarily need to be skipped over but they can be described in a way that doesn’t distract from the characters gender.

Try to stop thinking of an hourglass shape as an intrinsically feminine trait and height as an inherently masculine one. There are cis women with full beards and cis men with round jaws. Exploring different features, combining them, and seeing how they meld will give your characters more depth and help with differentiating them from one another. A good rule of thumb is, if you mention something that people don’t immediately clock as the characters gender, describe it as gender accurate.

Misgendering

This is another one that I would say don’t do but there are characters who the writers don’t always agree with. Misgendering is extremely harmful, puts trans people’s lives in danger, and can out them without their permission. The narrator should never misgender a character unless the character does not realize they are trans until the story is underway but this should be rare. The trans character would have no reason to ever misgender themself and may talk about how they presented in the past but will, most likely, still refer to themself with the correct gender. The POV character may misgender a trans character upon meeting them but after being corrected should fix their behavior unless you want your audience to dislike the POV character. Friends of the trans character should not misgender the character unless they are in a situation in which being correctly gendered would bring them harm, otherwise they’re not good friends. Family may misgender the trans character if they are not out or if the family members are terrible people.

Dysphoria/Euphoria

Dysphoria is when there’s a painful discrepancy between mind and body, like when someone knows they are one way but they don’t look the way they feel. Misgendering can be a large cause of dysphoria, as can hearing a recording of their voice, reflections, binding and tucking not hiding what the individual may want to hide, height, muscle structure, bone structure, etc.

Euphoria is the exact opposite of this. It is an extreme sensation of peace and joy in personal gender presentation. This can be caused by hormone replacement therapy, correct gendering, presenting in a way that feels natural, and acceptance.

Dysphoria is not necessary for being transgender.

Social Groups

Look around your friend group. Notice anything eerie? Notice how most of your friends are similar to you in a lot of ways, especially IRL friends? They’re people that you trust and expect to keep you safe while having a fun time with because you share interests and experiences with. Same for trans people. This is why, if you look at my friend group there’s 2 genderfluid, 1 agender, 1 nonbinary, 2 trans women, 1 trans man, and 1 cis man (who’s a cousin). If you have just 1 trans character in a group of friends it is going to read as a need for diversity points and that character is less likely to feel safe with discussing trans issues due to no one around them being able to relate.

Outing

This is one that a lot of people have a hard time with and even trans writers mess up a lot. We all know the infamous scene of someone walking in on a trans person changing and, hopefully, we know that this is not only cliche but actually harmful as it tends to lead to the idea of “lying” when it’s really just not anyone’s business and that trans bodies must be on display. I would say that you shouldn’t have to out your character because coming out is dangerous for real trans people in a lot of situations and it normalizes the idea that trans people must doxx themselves at any moment but due to the lack of representation and the nature of novels, you pretty much have to out your characters. No amount of subtext will be as beneficial to a trans reader as cementing the fact that there’s someone they can relate to in canon. Luckily outing a trans character is a lot easier than people think.

Some of us can’t shut up. A lot of trans people will hint at it a lot and just flat out say it if they’re in similar company. If we see people who we feel confident are also queer we often drop hints that we understand we’re safe, they can come to us (especially in a retail setting), because we want a community. The amount I bring up my masculinity is very very often, to the point I’m surprised people aren’t annoyed with me. I don’t pass very well so I wear a lot of brightly colored buttons that explicitly state my pronouns. There’s also this very strong urge to correct people who use gendered language for things that don’t need gender (like sexual organs and menstrual cycles). There’s nothing wrong with just saying that a character is trans.

Resources

The best thing you can do for your story is research. The trans people you know are not google and they do not deserve to be treated like google. You can use google. Here’s some stuff I found on google:

Dummies | Transequality | EverydayFeminism | Scriptlgbt

But no matter how much research you do it’s not going to be as useful as a sensitivity reader. Once your story is complete ask people to read it as beta readers and sensitivity readers and listen to the people that fit your minority characters.

Some musicians to check out for inspiration

I have to recommend music. I wouldn’t be myself if I didn’t.

Agender: Angel Haze | Mood Killer

Androgyne: Florian- Ayala Flora |

Genderneutral: Grimes |

Pandrogyne: Genesis P-orridge

Two Spirit: Tony Enos | Cris Derksen

#writing advice #transgender writing #queer writers #trans writeblr #trans writing

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spacegaywritings · 4 years

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A Happy Little Family (Oneshot)

General

Xisuma “Dadsuma“, Keralis “Papa K“ , BdoubleO100 “Bdubs” // other characters (mentions)

Note - Xisuma uses he/they pronouns ; Keralis uses ke/kem/keir/keirs/kemself

Summary: Their server is full of supernatural beings. All the while, they are a difficult but also they are his family. They would do all for this little family to be happy and safe.

Tag: little finger injury, bdubs cries, and is a wonderful angel, everyone is non human, villagers have a braincell, Xisuma is the admin of the world but they are not in minecraft like a game, minecraft IRL Au??,ellipses, neopronouns.

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Story under the cut: (Wordcount ~2,3k)

They..

Were not a “normal“ family.

Actually, they were not even a family, not in the biological sense anyway. Still, they were attached to one another and they behaved a bit like a family.

Xisuma liked to think of them as one.

Not explicitly, of course. He simply treated them like one would treat a family, saw them like family members and acted accordingly.

But in order to regard something or someone as family, one needed to understand the concept of it and there was no telling whether Xisuma knew what families were at all.

“Ow, ow, I got an ow!!“

The admin turned around.

He was running a server, making sure all bioms were running smoothly, that all beings got along properly. He would check up on the villagers, greet new players and adjust the world a bit.

When his eyes finally caught more than the fields of the plains, he stopped his mind. The movements had caught his attention and right before his feet the movement stopped.

Someone stopped.

A little winged creature flapped in what seemed to be distress. They held up a limb, dust falling from it.

“What‘s the problem, my friend?“

The admin was calm as ever, his voice soothing. It was as soft and gentle, much like a rub over the back. It seemed to do wonders since the winged creature looked up, little sparkles rolling from these sunny-brown cheeks.

“M-My.. My finger..“

The much smaller person pushed closer what appeared to be a hand. Indeed, there was a finger and something looking like sparkly dust seemed to fall from it. It has the colour of the horizon when the sun went down. It had all shades of colours in-between reddish and pink to a warm yellow.

“I caught the ouch thing! It does ow!“

Xisuma blinked at the finger and frowned a bit.

“Huh, it appears so. I think you pricked your finger, Bdubs.“

The small one squeaked in terror.

“OH NO! WILL I FALL APART NOW?!“

He retreated his hand, hugging it to himself. The wings folded around him, kind of shielding him from the other. He did not show fear in his eyes, more like an intense kind of surprise.

Xisuma shook his head. His armoured hands reached out for the other. His body squatted down and he knelt to be more on eye-level with the other.

“Show me your finger, okay? I will see what I can do about it, my friend.“

The star looked up at the admin. His eyes were big, wide like the night-sky and just as sparkly. However, they appeared warm and Xisuma did not feel as if they could get lost inside of them. They did not feel lost when looking at the star, also referred to as „“Bdouble0100“ by certain villager scientists.

The star had fallen into a village once and soon, the admin had taken to take care of the oddity.. the oddity had chubby cheeks dusted in sparkles and several shades of red and orange. Usually, Xisuma‘s latest addition to the team was rather bright in terms of mood. It was a bit of a confusing sight to them but seeing as the star did not know anything about the world, it was their job to take care of filling in the blanks, of adjusting him to the world and.. maybe to take a bit of care of him or others.

Supernatural creatures were at home in this word. They all just needed to peacefully coexist.

“Well, well, my friend. It seems as though you pricked your finger a bit. There is nothing wrong with that, let me see. Ah, yes.“

He turned away for a bit, a little smile flashing over his calm face.

Bdubs had not known Xisuma for long but he always seemed to be calm. He was smaller than him and a bit younger, despite having been in existence as a star for so so long.. however, the other seemed to wear the facial expression of infinite patience and understanding. Not a single wrinkle disturbed him with worry, not even a mishap made him frown.

No, Xisuma took it and he took it all with sage nods and wise comments. OR, well, self-irony and some sensible chuckles.

Bdubs was calm like that.

He was not the calmest person on the world, actually. Papa K liked to call him “Bubbles“ because his emotions bubbled up and got really funky like boiling water. He swung from one feeling to another, depending on whatever new thing this rich world gave to him.

No, he was calm because Xisuma was there. And Xisuma was calm. He always was. Bdubs imagined him to be like a boat that stopped. They were that funky mechanic that made boats stay where they were in the water, on land.

Nothing moved the boat.

Nothing moved the admin.

The star flapped his wings. Curious planets were blinking as Bdubs followed Xisuma‘s movements with his eyes. He was putting down a box that was twisting and turning, revealing even more boxes inside. They held words in a new language in front of him. While Bdubs did not understand, they were there and he recognised them.

Xisuma could read so many languages, even that one.

His black hands slipped in to pick one box in particular.

Bdubs was sure this being knew everything, knew it all. Even when the concept of getting hurt, taking physical damage at all, was new and scary to him, he knew to trust Xisuma. They were the one who could fix it all.

“Scar has given me lovely healing crystals. I am sure he can give you one, too. But for now, I will give you something to wrap up your finger, so your wound can heal. It will be safe.“

The star looked up at him.

“Will- will I be ok..?“

His face was in a slight pout.

While he was not offended, he was just a bit.. he needed more than that, maybe? Maybe there was anxiety or maybe it was a bit of disappointment that his big scare had needed nothing more than a little bit of covering up.

Xisuma got a bit of leaf, a little piece of cloth, so really really tiny, then some string to bind it all together. There it was, no more dust falling from the smaller Bdubs. He blinked in surprise.

“You will be just fine, my friend.“

The admin stashed his things away, back into the funky twirly box and then it vanished into his inventory. To Bdubs, it was nothing more but a mystery he had yet to properly understand. But then again, there was so much about this world and especially X that he could not claim to understand without obviously lying.

Then again, who really understood or knew Xisuma properly?

“Bubbles!“

The sound of wings flapping in excitement could be heard. His body betrayed him to his reaction, giving away all his feelings before he even got to throw himself against the source of that word.

“Papa!!“

The star squeaked and the person to join recently quickly hoisted the smaller one up in keir arms.

“There you go! You are right, Bubbles, it is I - Papa K! And there is our amazing Shishwammy! Are you two having fun together?“

Much like Xisuma, Keralis had a smooth and kind voice. It was neutral in gender and mood and seemed to have a soothing effect on anyone. At the very least, Bdubs could never recall having seen anyone upset around either of them, even when they liked to poke fun at some people sometimes.

However, it might also be simply because people knew that the duo - alone or together - never acted or talked in maliciousness. They would say things playfully or maybe be a bit more stern but ultimately, they were just.. there.

They were the soothing breeze stroking over the erratically moving and rather unstable surface of the sea. When the waves grew unsteady and more and more unpredictable, the ground of the sea as well as the winds above, were calm and unaffected as ever.

Bdubs felt good and fine, sandwiched between the two forces to sit out his tides and calm his rising waves.

Keralis was looking up at him. Ke held him up into the sun, a bit as if to lift him as high as he - a star - was supposed to be. The vice admin put him back into place where he belonged (or maybe used to belong to) as ke waited for an answer. However, ke refused to push the rather emotional star. When Bdubs snapped out of his thoughts, he realised that eyes were focused on him. Xisuma nodded, their eyes patiently encouraging the other to talk on his own. He grinned sheepishly.

“Oh, yeah! I caught some „“ouch“ in these bushes. I think Scar warned me about them before..“

He looked at his fingers, lips already falling back into the familiar pout. Bdubs was not sure whether he was living on this world but he knew that this pout was certainly living on his face, always ready to latch onto his lips and showing itself off! Such a naughty little pout - well, he assumed it did make him a bit more lovely.

“But Xisuwa helped me with the ow! It is all gone now! See? Poof!“

He held his finger into keir face.

Xisuma wore an amused expression on their face when Keralis could clearly not see, considering the finger was simply too close to keir eyes. It did not bother kem. The centaur nodded, stomping keir hooves ever so gently.

Even the ground was unfazed by his actions. It barely scratched its surface.

“Ah, did he do magical things to you? That was very nice of Shishwammy!“

Bdubs nodded.

His face glowed brightly. The warm red and orange-ish colours became more obvious to the eye. In addition to that, it seemed as though a golden flare sparked up on his face. The star‘s golden freckles, strewn over his body like fish in the sea, were gleaming in the sinking evening sun.

“YEs, yes!! Thank you so much, Xisuw.. Xi-...“

His lips opened and closed. He tried and tried to pronounce it right until his tongue seemed tied and confused, unable to splash around and make all the right sounds.

“Just „“X“, my friend. I know my name is a lot for some people. Everyone comes up with new nicknames for me.“

Papa K giggled.

Bdubs was getting better at the common language. He was not perfect at it but the centaur‘s big heart seemed to swell up with pride nonetheless. For a moment, ke feared keir muscles could be felt through keir skin but Bdouble0100 simply wiggled his body like a silkworm.

“It is gettin‘ niiight!“

The star pointed at the darkening horizon.

The admin nodded pointedly.

“I suppose it is time to go home and sleep, is it not?“

Bdubs, ever-pouting, curled up against Keralis‘ broad chest. He stifled a yawn and pressed his eyes close.

“...‘s so dark.“

Xisuma and Keralis locked eyes for a moment.

“Hey, hey, my friend. We are going back to Scar and the others. We have cute pumpkin lights there and diorite mini blocks for you to play with. How about that?“

Bdubs was still pouting but yet another yawn interrupted him. He tried to look at Xisuma as he took him, the little bundle of wings, from Keralis. Ke knelt down for Xisuma to settle on keir back. They easily got onto it and hugged the star close to their armour. It did not look too comfortable but Xisuma‘s armour was flexible and not as static or hard as people would suspect.

“Hm.. nigh‘s.. scawy..“

Xisuma nodded.

“There there, my friend. We are almost there. Can you feel the nice wind?“

Bdubs was silent for a moment. His warm skin was burning against Xisuma‘s touch. He was always so hot. It must be a given with stars, Xisuma assumed.

After a while, the younger one answered.

“..A bit.“

Xisuma chuckled.

Keralis‘ steady yet strained movements were rocking them back and forth. Slowly, Bdubs blabbered himself to sleep while Dadsuma watched. When they arrived, the „“sleep king“ was already fast asleep. He was the first kid to fall asleep, usually, hence the title.

They were not sure whether he needed sleep but he feared the dark too much to stay away when the world started to darken even a bit. Even thunderstorms were unsettling while rainy days usually motivated him to stay inside and build magnificent little works of art.

“There..“

Xisuma settled the bundle into a bed, red like Bdubs‘ temper.

A pair of helping hands drew the blanket over the small bean. Xisuma smiled at keir gentle fingers. Ke smiled back.

The healing crystals were forgotten for now but Xisuma was a good admin, having made a note on it for later.

“We have a few other kids to bring to bed, now.“

Ke turned to watch their little home.

They were living in a tree, rather rustic, mostly because the persistent robot friend of Grian (they had dubbed him “Npgri“) really enjoyed rustic optics more than anything. The light was warm and the smells pleasant.

Still, it was lively and the kids running around, throwing toys and wielding sticks were not too worked up about the approaching night. Well, Wels - the self-proclaimed knight - cuddled up in bed next to Bdubs. Meanwhile, Jellie (it was,, Jellie the 16th, but please, nobody tell the children) was actively jumping after the blazing Tango.

Cleo tugged at Keralis‘ leg (the same as always, despite kem having so many legs to offer) because she wanted to go to sleep, too.

Xisuma caught a loopy Mumbo and swept him up into his arms.

“We have quite a few people here, have we not, Shishwammy?“

The admin giggled at the large centaur. His arms seemed to be dipped in black ink. The name “Void“ was rather fitting for them, too.

“Our hermits“, he giggled. A little sigh gave him the time to watch Ren run from fixing up a security fence to tackling another „“symmetry issue“ around the flowers.

“They are our responsibility now. A happy little family.“

#hermitcraft #hermitcraft fanfic #Xisuma #keralis #bdoubleo100 #bdubs #joey writes

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faesystem · 4 years

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It's been a couple years but like Noah just made his video reflecting on his mistakes and apologizing for it and he's right, it's a healthy excerise to do. I don't know whether or not I directly invalidated or hurt anyone, I have memory problems and I can't remember. Regardless, I held these believes and that is more than enough to apologize for.

TW: transphobia, biphobia, aphobia, racism, cultural appropriation. I don't know what being a jerk to otherkin folk is called, but that too.

Here's some things I'm sorry for having believed in the past:

I'm sorry I believed microlabels are stupid. They're not and I use a few myself. It's just a way of turning your experience into something tangible and finding others like you, to feel less alone.

Similiar to the last one, I'm sorry I used to dislike the mogai community. I used to blame transphobia on them and that's not okay. It's never been the fault of trans people.

I'm sorry I used to make fun of neopronouns. I believed that's why I was experiencing transphobia, I blamed it on trans people just living their lives. Not only did I ignore the history of neopronouns, but I acted as though I had authority on other's experinces. I don't. It doesn't matter how arbitrary the pronouns. If it makes someone comfortable and they want to use them, then it's not up to me to ask why or find some scientific reason, it's up to me to respect them and validate their real experiences.

I'm sorry I used to call bi people transphobic. Terms change over time and most people define it as attraction to multiple genders. I had absolutely no right to deminish this identity that's been around to decades based off of the prefix bi meaning 2. Respecting people's identities are far more important than some arbitrary grammar rules. I didn't listen to people with the label saying that's how they defined it, I listened to people who didn't know what they were talking about.

I'm sorry I used to invalidate a large part of the asexual community. I believed that it was a black and white topic. Despite not even identifying as aspec at the time, I felt like I had some sort of authority to talk on a topic that has absolutely nothing to do with me. I considered anyone who has any sort of sexual attraction or even a sex drive to be allosexual and just "trying to be oppressed". Your identities are all valid and I'm sorry.

I'm sorry I used to invalidate a large part of the aromantic community. Not only did I consider asexuals and aromantics the same and judge people for being allosexual and aromantic, but I also believed that it was a black and white topic. Instead of listening to your experiences and learning, I just decided you all were "cishet white teenage girls who wanna be oppressed so badly". That was absolutely horrible of me and I'm sorry.

I'm sorry I made fun of otherkin folk. I'll admit, even now I'm probably not as educated or understanding of the topic as I should be. But I'm neurodivergent myself and I understand how someone would identify more with a special interest or an animal than they do as human. I should have recognised that what I was doing was exactly what others do to me. There is absolutely no excuse for the actions I had. I'm sorry.

I'm sorry I used to believe that it was okay to do things from closed practices. Before finding out Wicca was founded by a white supremisist and that most of the popular practices within the community are stolen, I used to be one. I thought that some closed practices were okay to do because "oh everyone does that". That's not how it works. Wicca itself was created by stealing the beliefs of Native Americans. This happened during a time where Native practices were being criminalised. While their cultures were being destroyed and erased, while they were being persecuted for it, Wiccans could practice their religion openly and freely with no concequences. I did not educate myself or research into any of it and what practices they might have come from. While I don't believe that during the short time I was practicing that I did anything from a closed practice, excusing it was not okay by any stretch of the word. I'm sorry.

I'm sorry I used to believe in a lot of ableist spiritualisations of things, specifically neurodivergent people. Things like starseed and indigo children. The origin of that was that they were terms created to dehumanize disabled children and treat them as less than human.

All of those were from the ages of 12-13, I'm 15 now.

For all of these, this next one especially, I have had the instinct to defend past me and justify his actions. Things like saying how young he was, how he was 12-13, how his only exposure to things were through certain circles, but that doesn't make it okay. There is absolutely no sort of excuse or justification. I don't want anyone to reblog this and accept my apologies if you're not from the community for the apology you're accepting.

I'm sorry I ever supported iDubbbz view on the n-word. I knew enough about it to know that it was a word white people shouldn't say, but I didn't know why. He said that him saying it, reclaiming a slur that does not belong to him, is taking the power away from it. He blamed people who called him out for it for giving a slur power. I knew that there must be something I was missing so I never said it, but I had access to the internet. I could have googled it. There is no sort of excuse for it, it only being something I believed for a short stretch of time and my age didn't change that that's what I thought. I'm sorry.

I understand if this makes some people want to unfollow me or if it makes people dislike me. I understand if people don't forgive me. What I did was not just made okay after I realised I was a part of those communities. I have no right to form an opinion, positive or negative, in terms of forgiving myself for what I thought about communities I was not a part of.

I have always prided myself on how understanding I am of others, how I haven't done "problematic" things, but really I just didn't have a platform to do them on. These are all things I could just leave behind me unsaid.

But I think this is important.

It's important to recognise when you fuck up so you can do better.

Ignoring that I've done some really shitty things doesn't mean they didn't happen.

This is important to do and I'd recommend you do it too. Whether it's publically or privately. Recognise that you did bad things. It doesn't make who you are now bad.

Having said that, the concept that it doesn't make now me bad and that I did shitty things that no one owes me forgiveness for co-exist.

I didn't share this to get apologies and reassurances that "it's okay". It's not okay. It wasn't okay at the time and what I did is still not okay. It might be in the past, but I still held those beliefs and may have hurt people because of them.

If you're a part of a group I'm saying sorry to you can forgive me. But we all need to learn that not only do we not need to forgive people for the things they've done in the past, but that forgiving someone doesn't make what they did okay.

If you're a part of any of the communities and have something to say, you can reblog or comment or message me or send in an ask. But you don't have to say anything if you don't want to. It's not your responsibility.

If I have said anything that sounds like justifying or excusing my actions, please tell me so I can fix it. I don't have time right now to go back and proof read, but I tried to apologize. Apologies can include context as to what you're apologizing for, but not justification of what happened.

I hope you all have a nice day.

#self call out #call out #tw #long post #apologies #racism #homophobia #transphobia #biphobia #cultural appropriation #ableism #aphobia #arophobia #acephobia

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looney-mooney · 4 years

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Hi, i saw that you reblogged a post from Zibmembrane, this person is a proshiper, you can check the "discourse" tag, for evidence

Yeah, uh... I’m kind of a “pro shipper” too??? As in, I do my best not to judge others for shipping what they do. I understand that people use fiction as a medium through which to explore complex themes and narratives. Many people use fiction to process trauma, and explore mediums such as horror or angst. Most of the world’s greatest art was (and continues to be) born from the expression of personal pain, oftentimes in bizzare and inexplicable ways. The best thing to do is to judge someone based on their actions- IE, the way they treat other people in real life - not just their art.

I also know from personal experience that shipping can be used to explore your personal understanding of relationships, good and bad - I shipped some REALLY PROBLEMATIC things during puberty, which eventually helped me understand exactly WHY those kinds of relationships are unhealthy in real life - as well as what a genuinely healthy relationship should ACTUALLY look like. Shipping is something that can be really complicated and deeply personal, and having been on both sides of many shipping wars I KNOW that it’s both pointless and harmful to hate an individual based on what they ship.

In fact, as deeply ashamed as I am for having shipped some of the things that I did as a teenager, I think it was an important experience for me to have. It’s helped me build empathy for the opinions and experiences of others, and given me the ability to understand people who I may not always agree with. I will never be an anti; I will never publicly scold or bully others for shipping what they do. It doesn’t help your cause, it only hurts people who may still be figuring themselves out.

Also, I KNOW Zibmembrane. They’re a good kid. Don’t bully them, okay? They don’t deserve it.

Edit: I just realized that I was thinking about a different Zib Membrane than you were. Zibmembrane is an 18 year old who uses he/him and some neopronouns, the one I was thinking of was a 14 year old kid who uses they/them and he/him. My point, however, still stands.

#looney mooney rants #tw discourse #shipping

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kae-karo · 4 years

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hi! over the years i've really valued your opinions on things but if you don't want to talk about this i would understand. there's a lot of talk these days about bi/pan lesbians and similar "new" identities (like he/him lesbians for example) and i was just curious what you thought about them. i've seen people say they are invalidating others or don't exist but i always thought it was our job as a community to allow each other to experience their experience even if its different than ours?

hello dear!!! first of all 🥺🥺🥺 thank u so much that’s so sweet of u to say???

okay, now onto the topic at hand - here’s the thing, i’ve honestly only heard the bi/pan lesbian label come across my radar pretty recently, and in a negative light, so i won’t claim to be an expert on either side. i also should note that i don’t id as bi or lesbian and labels have never been super important to me, which makes this conversation a less personal one and one that i can’t really give any kind of subjective "this is how it influences me personally” opinion on

all that said, here’s what i’m seeing: bi/pan lesbian is an identity that came about as a way to describe bi/pan ppl who have a preferential attraction to women, which is kind of...not great, in my opinion, and i can see pretty clearly how it harms all identities (bi/pan AND lesbian) by treating it as a separate identity

first and foremost, it’s invalidating to the actual description of bi/pan ppl by suggesting that all bi/pan ppl must have a perfectly equal attraction to all genders in order to be considered ‘truly’ bi/pan

which is wack, and usually ppl who experience differences in types of attraction based on gender may opt to describe themselves as bi, while ppl without any real difference in preferences might choose pan, though both are totally valid for any type of umbrella attraction and the distinction matters to some ppl and not others

it also implies that there’s something wrong with being attracted to men from the perspective of not ‘fully’ identifying as bi/pan

normally i’m really on the side of ‘hey choose whatever labels make you happy and comfy’, but i think there’s a difference between that and trying to misdefine existing labels to suit your feelings? like. if u have a preference for women or fem-aligned genders, etc etc, cool! but tbh it makes no sense to me to try to redefine what it means to be a lesbian or to be bi/pan in order to explain your attraction? the main reason this upsets me and a lot of bi/pan folks (and other ppl in the queer community) is that there is already a term that exists to describe that preference

even if you’re not personally affected by the negative possible aspects of that becoming a popular terminology, it can be super confusing for people outside the queer community, the new baby queers, and it can also instigate a possibly transphobic discussion about what it means to have that preference and why it requires identifying as a ‘lesbian’, etc etc. here’s a pretty good walkthrough of the ways that terms like bi/pan lesbian (and bi/pan het) affect bi/pan ppl and lesbians (x) and here’s another (briefer) breakdown (x)

**a quick caveat! i know many ppl use the two-orientation description as a way to describe romantic and sexual attraction in one statement! ie ace lesbian or something like that, where they might be asexual but id as a lesbian in terms of romantic attraction exclusively. this is not what i’m talking about above, and is totally a valid and non-detrimental way to identify!!

now, here’s the thing about he/him lesbians. pronouns =/= gender. a person can use any pronouns (including neopronouns or less conventional ones!) and still identify as a gender that has not been socially constructed to be represented by those pronouns. all pronouns are, for lack of a better description, are a secondary name. basically a nickname, if you will. someone deciding they want to be called by a traditionally masc name, like alex or trevor, doesn’t mean that they must therefore be male, right? i think we as the queer community know and agree that that’s the case - they could be nonbinary, or agender, or female or literally any other gender at all! we as a community have acknowledged that names do not define gender. we’re still getting to the general acceptance and understanding that pronouns also do not define gender, but i think the he/him lesbian discourse shows that we haven’t really gotten there yet. he/him is just a way someone wants to be referred to when his name isn’t used - that doesn’t mean he isn’t female or fem-aligned in the way that he’d want to id as a lesbian!

i think the key distinction between these two discussions (bi/pan lesbian and he/him lesbian) is the fact that one is discussing redefining existing definitions for a sexuality in a way that’s harmful to both sexualities involved while the other is discussing a person’s pronoun preference (not their actual gender, but pronoun preference) as a prerequisite for whether they’re allowed to identify as a lesbian

to your note about letting others experience their own experiences - again, this is something i wholeheartedly endorse, with the exception of times where someone ‘experiencing their own experience’ is actively harming other groups. i think it’s p clear that bi/pan lesbian as a term can have some really negative effects on people in the bi/pan and lesbian communities, but all i can see with he/him lesbians is that they’re actively working to break down the social construct of pronouns being equated with gender, which can only really benefit everyone in my opinion

anyway, i hope that gives u some insight into my thoughts dear!! thanks so much for sending this 💜

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septicemic-main · 8 years

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Just a rant.

So, let me start with this.

LGBTQIA+ (not all!):

Cishets - Referring to anyone that identifies as their sex and likes the opposing sex.

“Cishets are scum.”

“DOWN WITH CIS!”

“Cis people are such homophobes and can’t accept anything!”

“Straight people don’t understand us! They constantly misgender me!”

“HE JUST MISGENDERED ME LIKE WTF???”

“Um, did he just assume my gender???”

“Why are cishets so ignorant”

Etc.

+ Now kids, I love all of you dearly, no matter who you are...but this is very wrong! Hating on straight/cishets is very much like homophobia but backwards. Not all cishets are bad. It’s like what we have to tell people not in the LGBTQIA+ community; not all gay (umbrella term) people are bad! Using the term “cishet” is kind of concerning as it is, but using it as a derogatory term is just as bad as them calling us fags. Of course you can use it as a short way to say; “They aren’t LGBTQIA+, but support us.” But using it to 1) identify ALL people who aren’t LGBTQIA+ and 2) identify homophobes is wrong! Again, using it to identify people who are cisgender and heterosexual BUT SUPPORT LGBTQIA+ is fine! I think a better term for people of the same gender and sexuality BUT DO NOT SUPPORT US should be homophobes as usual. Also, don’t expect people to get your pronouns right on the first try! For some people, this concept is VERY new and can be hard to swallow. If they misgender you, simply tell them, “Oh, sorry to bother, but I use [insert pronouns]!” Most will understand, and if they don’t, then you can always ignore it because they’re either extremely old or just being a dick. If the problem persists, you may have a VERY in depth talk with them about why using the incorrect pronouns bothers you! And to those of you with neopronouns: while I myself don’t understand it, I’m sure other people do, so lightly bring it up in a conversation to get someone’s views on it. If they are unaccepting, you may use default pronouns to your liking! I have an internet friend who uses ze/hir pronouns and very commonly tells people that ze uses they/them pronouns. It’s not too bad to go out of your comfort zone so you can help eliminate the discrimination against us! Also, religion isn’t just Christianity, and not all religions hate us. I, for one, actually do have a religion, and one that is non-discriminatory (despite the fact I shitpost about a lot of things. I’m trying to change it, that’s just me personally tbh).

Anti-LGBT:

“All gays are SJW scum”

“Dude his pronouns aren’t even real lol”

“That gender is fake”

“It goes against the bible!”

“Science says otherwise”

“Gays are dumb, like, there aren’t more than 2 genders”

“There are only 2 genders!”

Etc.

+ So I understand the frustration, guys and gals. This is a very new concept, and those of you who are against it for religious purposes, you’re fine. But we all ask that you still respect our pronouns, gender, sexuality, etc. Even though we’re not heteronorm, we’re still just as human as you are. If you’re getting loads of shit from someone about you misgendering them on accident etc., just explain. And again, be respectful! 7/10 we’ll be respectful back, accounting that all of us are working together to help you all understand us better. Speaking of, let us get to know you! Tell us about your religion/beliefs etc., it may help you if we can debunk rumors/myths about our community! Plus we love sharing our stories about how we came out, why we’re this way, so on so forth. And it’s one step closer to getting better understandings of one another so that eventually, we can put all differences aside and work together as humans to progress as a specie. For those of you who are more tolerant and/or are willing to accept us, feel free to start by popping the question all of us love to hear; “What are your pronouns?” Don’t understand it? Ask! Don’t think you like it? That’s okay, I understand that not everyone is so accepting the first time around. Once you get used to it, you may be surprised at how natural it seems. If not, then again, it’s fine. We aren’t going to force you to love us for our differences.

Feminists (UMBRELLA TERM, NOT AT ALL MEANT FOR ALL OF YOU!):

“Men are rapists!”

“Men are disgusting pigs!”

Golly neds this hurts.

“Men are ignorant.”

“LET US FREE OUR NIPPLES!”

“This character is oversexualized! Redesign her so she’s not so fetishy!”

“FTM ARE GOING AGAINST WOMEN TO BECOME PIGS!”

“MTF ARE JUST CREEPY MEN TRYING TO GET INTO WOMEN’S RESTROOMS!”

Etc...

+ I respect your cause. I don’t respect what you say. First; not all men are rapists. If a man simply asks a woman for something, don’t assume it’s rape, don’t assume shit other than he’s asking her to get him something. If he is rude and being very chauvinist (new terminology for me, sorry if I used that wrong), then step in! Like I said, not all men are rapists, murderers, liars, pigs, etc. They’re just as human as you are, and some are even fighting for your rights! Secondly; I would LOVE to let you guys go around without your shirts, but honestly, I dunno if I could handle it. While yeah, they’re just nipples on large (or small) balls of squishy skin, they are also very sacred for some of us. For me, they are very sacred to a woman’s body; that’s how you feed our children, it’s just like the nipples on an animal's body. They use it to feed their kids, we use ours to feed our own. Not that I find them sexual, I just think that flaunting around something sacred like that is just...displeasing. I mean, I feel the same for men, I don’t like looking or thinking about men with their shirts off, their bodies are theirs to look at, not ours. Anyways. Character designs. They’re fictional? And if men seriously look at you ladies that way then...gross? That’s very unrealistic tbh and I’d hope that everyone with a brain knows that the beauty that’s flaunted in videogames is VERY rare to achieve in real life naturally. If men actually think that videogame girls are an actual representation of women then...wow. Not sure how low their IQ is, but it’s low. And no, FtM/MtF transgenders are not any different than you. I mean, a man wanting to be a woman? Shouldn’t you be happy? She’s on your side, she’s representing you. All she wants to do is be like you. And a woman wanting to be a man? I mean...some of us understand what it’s like to be a woman. To an extent. I don’t know really what it’s like, but I get these few things: periods, men constantly staring at your boobies (before I got a chestbinder this was a problem for me), guys hitting on you, guys thinking they’re better than you...etc. But honestly, most of us transguys don’t think that men override women because of...fuck, anything. I mean, sure men have done a lot in the past, but now women have the same rights as us and have been doing more lately than men. And there’s this; you ladies carry babies. You can home another human being inside of your own body, then push it out of another one of your sacred parts, your vagina. Some of you risk completely tearing your vagina to bring life into this world. and I agree, the way some men treat you is terrible. And I do agree, some of you deserve more respect from said men than what you get. But realize that not every man will torment you because he thinks you’re weaker, because he thinks that since he’s a man he has more rights, because he blablabla. There are so many reasons that I can’t come up with because...shit man. Anyways, back to transgirls/boys. Transgirls aren’t all creeps who want into the women’s restroom. They just genuinely want to be a woman, like you. And maybe that’s not the case for some, but it is for most. All you can do is say, “cool.” I mean, there’s not much to it, some guys wanna be girls and some girls wanna be guys, doesn’t mean that they’re all anti-women’s rights and/or chauvinist pigs just wanting to fuck. I know this was much longer than the other two, but I feel more strongly about this than I do the other two. But I will add more on to all of them as I go along, and anyone else can add on as well.

#terf #twerf #rant #just saying #important #anti lgbt #ftm #mtf #issues #feel free to reblog #feel free to add on #helping people out #creating peace #lgbt

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quantumgender · 4 years

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pride ask game by @.hogwartsonline!

i wanted to do this but know i don’t have enough followers here yet to get asks, so i did it myself! under the cut bc it’s long!

1 - What do you identify as and what are your pronouns?

i’m quantumgender! its a polygender identity that looks nonbinary/xenic, but is actually made up of man, woman, nonbinary, and xenic identities! i am also pearlian - it’s basically a term for being mlm wlw nblnb and everything in between! i also call myself bi, nonbinary, and trans!

i have a bunch of pronouns, but some of my favs right now are ne/neo, xe/xeno, thon/thons, foe/foes, 🧪, 📟, 🪐, and ⚡! i also use he/him, and it is also my aux if you can’t use neopronouns or emoji pronouns because of neurodivergence or incompatible tech with emojis.

2 - How did you discover your sexuality, tell your story?

my journey to discovering my sexuality is actually pretty triggering, so please don’t read if you’re uncomfortable with sexual coercion

for a very long time i knew i was attracted to guys! however, i didn’t know i was attracted to girls. i did however, exhibit a lot of signs to be attracted to girls that i didn’t realize - like refusing to go into victoria’s secret, not wanting to watch straight prn because it had women in it, etc. i always thought if i looked at a woman in a sexual sense it would “make me gay” - not realizing that most straight women don’t mind naked women and don’t think looking at them is weird. because i was pretty obviously attracted to women but didn’t know it, this led to a group of “friends” using my inability to back down from dares in order to make me do a lot of sexual things involving women that i otherwise would have been terrified to do. they were a group of wlw that made fun of me for not being “wlw” (i was unaligned nonbinary at the time and they constantly misgendered me). they would tease me until i would write sexual things about women, view sexual imagery of women, or even do sexual acts with a specific girl i (unknowingly) had a crush on.

this did help me realize that i was bi, and i came upon the label bi immediately because i did then (and still do) have a slight preference for men. even though the road to me discovering my sexuality was very uncomfortable, i am still very proud to be bi and i love my identity

3 - Have you experienced being misgendered? What happened and how did you overcome it?

i have been misgendered multiple times! i don’t have too many specific stories because as i am mostly closeted, i am misgendered every day of my life and i’m kind of numb to it. because of that, the most glaring examples of me being misgendered were in LGBT+ spaces.

i used to introduce myself saying that people could use he or she pronouns for me. (actually, even though i do not have them listed, i do use she/her pronouns. i simply do not list them online because i get she/her’d constantly in day to day life so i prefer different pronouns online). a lot of cis people would find this confusing and instead of choosing one pronoun to reference me as, they would default to “they/them” which i have never been comfortable with as a pronoun choice. sometimes i have let this slide, but the one time i did speak up, the cis person looked almost pissed off at me for doing so. to combat this i just started introducing myself as “she/her” so i wouldn’t be misgendered by people getting confused by my multiple pronoun sets and defaulting to “they/them”

the worst was the group in the previous question though. the girl who i had a crush on would always refer to me as they/them even though i told her multiple times those weren’t my pronouns. i never felt like my gender was recognized when i had my (very very short lived) “relationship” with her (it was like 2 weeks long so i don’t think it counts).

4 - Who was the first person you told, how did they react?

i don’t remember who i told first that i was nonbinary (this is the first LGBT+ identity i ever realized i was). it was a really long time ago. it might have been the person who introduced me to tumblr, and if so, they were probably really excited for me :)

5 - Describe what it was like coming out, what did you feel?

i do not consider myself “out.” although on my college campus i was able to present in a way that aligned more with how i wanted to present (in a fluid manner, switching between wearing masculine, androgynous, and feminine clothing), i still was not “out.” and i didn’t tell anyone besides my friends and a few close teachers what my identity was (bi nonbinary). my parents, many of the people i went to high school with, and in my future job, i will be completely closeted because i live in an incredibly conservative area and could easily be denied a job or rejected (probably only partially, but it would still hurt a LOT) but my parents.

6 - If you’re out, how did your parents/guardians/friends react?

i’m only out to my friends, they all took it very well. some of the teachers i’ve told seemed really shocked. this is mostly because i only outed myself to speak out on things they were teaching that were blatantly queerphobic, or to give context to a story/argument.

7 - What is one question you hate people asking about your sexuality?

i really don’t like when people assume that because i’m bi i don’t date trans or nonbinary people. like, ffs, i am trans and nonbinary! bi does not mean two, it has always been inclusive, and i really don’t like when people (mostly gatekeepers) try to rewrite history in a way that insinuates that bi is a transphobic identity.

8 - Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear.

i have two distinct wardrobes - a “grunge/vintage” wardrobe, and a “alt/punk” wardrobe. my vintage wardrobe contains a bunch of flannels, ripped jeans, and band t shirts from classic rock bands - i have van halen and the who, for example. this aesthetic involves a lot of muted colors like mustard yellow, rust red/orange, and olive green.

for my alt wardrobe, i have a lot of black. i have shirts that say things like “they came from outer space” in old-timey horror font, some band t shirts (my fav is from my friend’s metal band), a zodiac themed crop top, and one crop top with a pentagram in the back!

i like these styles because i can wear them as masculine, androgynous, or feminine. i tend to wear a lot of denim and i love my converse and my docs!

9 - Who are your favourite lgbt+ ships?

um for canon ones kaworu and shinji’s relationship really is important to me personally! it was the first LGBT+ relationship i saw in a piece of media i actually loved beyond the representation.

for other ships i really love, a lot of them are my personal ships/headcanons. i really like cable and deadpool together, and i like imagining luke, and leia both being married/partners with han!

10 - What does makeup mean to you? Do you wear any?

makeup for me is an artistic expression! i wear it sometimes when i have the time and energy. i can do a bunch of looks - i can even make myself look more masculine with makeup, which helps when i feel dysphoric about the way i look.

11 - Do you experience dysphoria? If so, how does that affect you?

yes, i do! i experience a bunch of different kinds of dysphoria, but none are sever enough that they would be classified as clinical dysphoria (i mean this that they do not cause me severe depression, dissociation, or other severe symptoms).

i experience a lot of social dysphoria when i am referred to a girl very often, or explicitly excluded from masculine related things (for example, if somebody said i was “too dainty” to lift something [which would not happen because i’m pretty muscular] i would feel dysphoric). i feel euphoric when i am included with both men and women, or referred to with attributes of both of these genders.

as for physical dysphoria, i experience a lot of genital dysphoria, especially surrounding sexual acts. in my day-to-day, i don’t really think about my genitals much, but when it comes to sexual acts, i am very dysphoric about the parts i have.

i also experience varying levels of physical dysphoria. i have a lot of height dysphoria, and i dislike how wide my hips are - i like how large my thighs are, but not how wide my hips are (they’re not even that wide, but when i bind they’re more pronounced without the stuff on top to level it out). i am also dysphoric at times due to my jawline since my chin isn’t as strong as i would like it to be. and, ofc, sometimes i bind. these physical dysphoria features fluctuate from day to day. specifically with binding, sometimes it’s more “hmm, do boobs go with this outfit?” rather than a matter of dysphoria.

12 - What is the stupidest thing you’ve heard said about the lgbt+ community?

oh god, so many things. i think the most harmful one is that the community is full of p*dophiles who abuse children... this one really harms me in particular because i’m a teacher. like no, we are not “harmful sexual deviants” we just experience gender differently and love different people than you do...

13 - What’s your favourite thing about the lgbt+ community?

i love the supportive parts. i love having a group of likeminded people who i know will respect me when i talk to them. even if i have nothing in common with them, just seeing LGBT+ people open and proud on tiktok makes me feel incredibly loved and validated.

14 - What’s your least favourite thing about the lgbt+ community?

the gatekeeping and discourse within the community itself. for the love of god, please just treat people like human beings. t*rfs and tr*scum especially make me feel incredibly unsafe and like i have to hide parts of my identity in order to even navigate spaces that are meant for LGBT+ people. i also get incredibly, irredeemably angry at people who joke “those are the weird LGBT+ people we’re the normal ones” and shit like that. like you’re not quirky, you’re just bullying people for clout.

15 - Have you ever been to your cities pride event? Why or why not?

yes, i’ve been to pride in 2 different cities! 1 i went to before i knew i was bi, and 1 after! personally i wasn’t old enough at either of them to truly enjoy the event, but it was nice being able to get some LGBT+ related stuff! i got a tiny rainbow flag!

16 - Who is your favourite lgbt+ Icon/Advocate/Celebrity?

i love keiynan lonsdale! i don’t actually keep up with too many LGBT+ celebs...oh wait! kesha’s bi! i love her...

17 - Have you been in a relationship and how did you meet?

i’ve been in one real relationship. we met on tumblr.

18 - What is your favourite lgbt+ book?

i’ve only read simon vs... i honestly don’t read things just because they’re LGBT+, and reading in general is really difficult for me to do now because i have a lot of trouble concentrating.

19 - Have you ever faced discrimination? What happened?

i haven’t faced anything too bad. i’ve heard a lot of discriminatory things said (mostly by parents who i can only sometimes argue against). one time a kid in 8th grade called me the d slur, which was horrying as a 13 yo who didn’t even know he was attracted to girls at the time. but again, i’m closeted so i haven’t experienced much

20 - Your Favorite lgbt+ movie or show?

sense8!!!! it has a mlm relationship, a wlw relationship with a trans woman... i really loved it, i’m still so upset it got cancelled :(

21 - Who are some of your favourite lgbt+ bloggers?

i’m going to skip this one, sorry! i love everyone that i follow tho!

22 - Which lgbt+ slur do you want to reclaim?

i personally don’t reclaim any slurs. i refer to myself as queer, but i don’t count it as a slur personally, as it’s an identity for me, not just a word. i do respect people who are triggered by it though.

23 - Have you ever gone to a gay bar, or a drag show, how was it?

there aren’t any gay bars where i live, so no.

24 - How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that mean to you?

i self-id as quantumgender! it’s a gender that on first glance, looks like one thing, but once you look up close, you see it actually has many small moving parts that make up the whole.

on the outside my gender looks��“nonbinary” or xenic. i love both of these terms and they’re great for describing my overall experience. however, when you look up close, my gender is actually parts man, girl, nonbinary, and xenic, and they fluctuate (like they would on a quantum level!) so it just... describes my gender very well, especially how my gender fluctuates!

25 - Are you interested in having children? Why or why not?

i don’t think so. there’s a lot of reasons and many of them are personal and i just.. i don’t think so.

26 - What identity advice would you give your younger self?

this isn’t identity advice so much as kindness advice but - don’t look down on others for their identity and don’t let anyone else convince you to treat people like they are less than human. we should support each other, not tear each other down.

27 - What do you think of gender roles in relationships?

these gender roles taste disgusting

28 - Anything else you want to share about your experience with gender?

gender go brrrrrr aeiouaioue john madden

29 - What is something you wish people know about being lgbt+?

being LGBT+ should be about lifting each other up even if their experiences don’t align with our own, and helping other communities that need our support. if you don’t love black LGBT+ ppl and other LGBT+ poc, if you don’t love disables LGBT+ ppl, if you don’t love mentally ill LGBT+, if you don’t love trans and nonbinary people... you’re not LGBT+, because you don’t support everyone that is included, supported, and loved within our community. if you don’t love all of us, you are poisoning our spaces of positivity and social change and you don’t belong with us.

30 - Why are proud to be lgbt+?

i... i don’t know. to me, my identities are just a part of me. they aren’t something to be happy or sad about, or proud or ashamed of. they just... are, and i love them as a part of me.

#personal #long post

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