#all sides of syscourse can interact just don’t be an asshole

[manyminded]

listen I just think the fact that ODD, which generally just boils down to “bratty kid/bad guy disorder” being in the DSM should really keep us all at least a little skeptical of the medical industry.

so sure, endos don’t exist. selfdx is bad. go ahead. blindly trust the people who have abused and mistreated us for so many years. see how far that gets you.

[yourpeepysucksdotorg]

Looking back on my syscourse days with the wisdom of age, I feel as if I can pinpoint a single psychological concept that explains why syscourse is so prevalent to begin with, and why it’s so toxic and inescapable; group polarization. Basically, people are more likely to come to extreme conclusions or make risky decisions when in a group with those sharing the same ideologies, even though most members of the group will have the same core beliefs that aren’t nearly as radical.

In syscourse, this most often occurs when people debate the validity of endogenic systems. It also makes it impossible to have a good-faith discussion on the matter.

I’m not endo-neutral, and while my thoughts on the matter can be found elsewhere on my blog, I’ll remain neutral for the sake of this post making it to as many people as possible, because I genuinely believe so much fighting could be stopped if we just recognized the unhealthy patterns we’ve fallen into. Disordered systems who are anti-endo seem to blame endogenic systems for a lot of things, and while I’m not endogenic, I can pretty accurately guess that having a bunch of strangers tell you that you make their lives worse by expressing your identity makes you feel shitty. This keeps the two communities separated outside of verbal spats, and of course, after these spats, members of both communities will want support. Once again, I can’t speak from the endogenic perspective. But I know that anti-endos will continue to perpetuate that endos are bad, that you didn’t do anything wrong, that they’re just dumb and stupid. Which, I can assume this keeps endogenic systems in constant defense mode, as they constantly have to check which system blogs or servers are or aren’t okay to interact with, out of fear of being attacked by other systems, or worse, becoming some kind of lolcow for singlets.

When both sides feel like they’re being attacked, no productive discussion can be had. Once again, I do have my own opinions on the matter, but right now, I’m really just advocating for all systems to treat each other like living beings. If someone is being terrible to you, there’s no pressure to fight back. Just block them. While that one person might be an asshole, there are so many more people who care about you, support you, and want you to exist more than you even know. This is a saying as old as time, but don’t feed the trolls. Don’t aggressively retaliate, because you’re just giving them more material to bend to their will. And if you’re the one perpetuating assholery, just stop.

Maybe I’m just being an optimist, but I believe that so much syscourse could become irrelevant if we realized that the world isn’t black and white, and there aren’t good and evil systems. We’re all in this together, singlets are still gonna treat us like we’re nuts. We need to stand united rather than push each other further and further away.

[rebornnebulasystem]

THE RNS DNI LIST

Last updated 31/10/24 (dd/mm/yy)

General DNI

- Radical Pro/Anti endos that push their beliefs onto us, you have your opinion, and thats fine, but dont like- push those ideals onto us, otherwise youre going to our blocklist

- Anyone interacting with us that is under 15 or over 21, This is for our own personal comfort, and exceptions apply to our current friends, moderating purposes, or if we interact first, which we likely will

- Anyone, and I mean ANYONE who is pro harassment, you are an asshole if you think that harassment is ok

- Adding on from the previous, Endo Harassers, Just because a system didnt “form” or “fully form” from trauma doesnt make them magically immune from it, just tell them to leave you alone and go on with your day

- Paras / Para Supporters, even if you are Anti Contact, most Paras will be triggering to us so please don’t interact if you are ok with these things

- Israel / IDF Supporters, I dont have to say anything

- Blatant Misinfo spreaders, this involves anything, and yes, I wont skimp out on either sides of syscourse if youre just saying straight bullshit

- Anyone glorifying and/or posting about their ED or SH, both are HEAVILY triggering to us and you will be blocked on sight if you do this

- Proship, or anything involving shipping, this makes us uncomfortable VERY quickly, Selfship is excused in most circumstances

- Radqueers, and this only because we don’t know much about them + others not liking them

- TransIDs, get a grip, you are not “TransAsian” or “TransAutism”, and if I hear anyone saying Endos are just like TransIDs one more time-

- Transmeds, please for the love of god, don’t interact, these people probably piss us off the most

- NSFW blogs, WE ARE BODILY A MINOR (17) even if we sometimes make nsfw jokes, that isn’t an invitation for you to interact (We do check accounts FYI)

- Supporters of Lolicon / Shotacon / Similar things

- White Supremacists, Nazis/Neo-Nazis, Zionists, etc. Yall are icky as shit

Specific DNI

- Active Wilbur / Shelby participants, it’s very stressful for us when talked about, and this more for Shelby fans due to bad experiences (see next)

- People who refuse to see introjects for who they are, and not just their source, this goes with the previous one as we have had targeted harassment for having Wilbur introjects

- Supporters of “we-do-not-owe-you-misery”, for more info, check this post ⬇️

- Overly political blogs, yes America is fucked, yes fuck Trump, that’s all you’ll get in terms of politics from here

Thin Ice

(Harassment rule still applies)

- People who tell endos specifically to “fuck off”, it doesn’t bring a nice vibe to your blog (/gen)

- Anti Good Faith Labels (eg. Lesgays), Gender and sexuality is a broad spectrum, and there’s no written rules to what can and can’t be a gender or sexuality. Even if it doesnt make sense to you, it makes sense to the person with the label

- Anything heavy themes of cannibalism, it’s a bit iffy with us, but brief mentions are ok (HABIT has the exception to this, He’ll happily talk about it)

- Slurs, as I briefly mentioned before, we are uncomfortable with slurs being used on us, the only exceptions are if we are friends + we know you can reclaim them

- High amounts of arguing / discourse, this is VERY stressful for us, even if we are not involved, please limit this when possible

- Anyone using “Sysmed” terminology, because of its roots with Transmeds, it does not sit with us right and makes us uncomfortable when people call themselves/others “Sysmeds”

Thin Ice (ext. Fandoms)

- Stray Kids, this is a bit of a “controversial” one, but this is due to having a bit of a rough history with things related to SKZ, and specifically introjects of such (We are aware that introjects are not their source), so please be kind if we are a bit uncomfortable around you, as we are probably being reminded of some bad things that happened

- Homestuck, we personally haven’t looked too deeply into Homestuck, but we generally just get uncomfortable for whatever reason, this is only a light entry

- Harry Potter, and for 2 reasons, we don’t care about it, and J.K Rowling, so for that, be extra cautious

- ANYTHING Sanrio related, we have had extremely bad experiences related to those who are fans of Sanrio, most of which being extremely toxic people, this is a borderline DNI

- Extreme superfans of certain Animes, this includes MHA / My Hero Academia, JJK / Jujitsu Kaisen, BSD / Bungou Stray Dogs, One Piece, and Demon Slayer. We (for whatever reason, can’t explain) feel weird around these specific fandoms, and we don’t know exactly why we feel this way.

[thecirculararchive]

Bleh. I would put this on a read more or whatever but 1, mobile never cooperates with me when I try that, and 2, I just kinda wanna get this done with.

Look. I would say I don’t give a shit what people think about me on this blog, but that’s a lie. I would say I won’t interact with syscourse, but it’s never worked when I try. I always come back, and y’all drag me back so easily.

It’s not hard to scroll back a year and see how pro-endo I was. Hell, I do to this day. I scroll back and see how much of an asshole I used to be. How I used to be as aggressive and batshit as so many of the hate anons have been @ me lately. I’m glad I’ve grown. But I still believe Endogenics COULD exist.

But I’m not going to just discredit the science that got us here. And I’m not going to ignore the fact that the instant I was no longer radically inclusive - the instant I said “I would love to see sources on this topic!” the community that had loved, fostered, and cared for me while anti-endos called for my blood suddenly HATED me. Suddenly dragged me headfirst into syscourse. Suddenly, I was a disgusting sysmed.

I am so, so tired of having to be Online 24/7. If I choose not to reply to someone - for example, today, with navel - due to the lack of energy caused by syscourse and the drama and also the fact that, oh yeah, it’s been 3 months since I last fronted, and I usually go years between fronting… I thought it would be okay to say “I don’t have the energy to waste here” in the quick 4 minute class change.

Instead, I decide to check back in during lunch, to see they’ve once again twisted my words, and decided to “reality check” me during my “pity party.”

I’m so sorry I’m suicidal, traumatized, and lack energy. I’m so sorry that I can’t engage with syscourse constantly. And yes, people on both sides say that “you can just leave.” But when I do that, I get messages of “are you ever going to address this” and “I guess you’re just okay with this heinous thing.” Fuck man, I literally just went to bat today for someone who didn’t have the energy to respond to someone else’s bullshit, because they shouldn’t need to be in syscourse 24/7, and someone else was still mentioning an event ages after it happened - all because they never got a response.

Not even a few months ago, I said I would move away from syscourse and try to make memes. But I can’t anymore. I don’t have the Funny Haha bone anymore. This whole syscourse thing took it out of me. I can’t even grasp how fucked up this whole culture is.

And the worst part is, I enjoy educating others. I’m a teacher. It’s my job. I enjoy discussing what I know from my years of being pro-endo, and what I know now about OSDDID. But all I’ve been getting lately is endogenic hate, and anti-endo positivity. Of course that’s what my blog will become geared towards when all the endo community is giving me lately is hatred, harassment, and dragging me endlessly back into syscourse.

I’m even making a new blog to start over soon. Something less polarized and without bias. So. Expect this blog to become a dumping ground I guess? Ugh fuck I’m rambling, I just need these thoughts out of my head.

Tl;Dr: I’m tired of syscourse, and while I would like to step away from it, it’s hard when people constantly drag me back in. Furthermore, I work to educate, and misinformation keeps finding its way on my dash. I’m going to try and correct it when I see it. I am *actually* genuinely sorry that I can’t be better for my followers and for those who want more from me. I do try my best.

That’s all. I’m good now. Thx